accessAtlanta

City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

President Obama may be dismantling the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy for the military, but on the dating battlefield scene, it’s pretty much status quo. Trying to decipher the true “single status” of a guy is like changing a flat tire in stilettos.  Uncomfortable and unnecessary.  I don’t recommend it and there are better ways to get the results you want.

A lot of times, single people operate on the “need to know” basis.  If we aren’t exclusive, you don’t need to know the details of who else is competing for quality face time.  I generally believe that most attractive and worthwhile dating candidates will have plenty of dating options. This means there will always be some sort of competition in the beginning.  It kind of sucks to think about it in that way but only when you dwell on it.

Why would you worry about the others? You have to realize that either the person you are seeing will think you stand out from the rest or they won’t.  No amount of sex, manipulation, game playing, or coercion is going to change that. Perhaps it makes me a lazy dater but I just don’t put effort in to finding out if a guy I just started dating is seeing someone else.

How do you handle the “seeing other people” conundrum? Do you disclose that you have a gaggle of admirers? Do you tell the person that you are running your all-stars and bench warmers?

When you are dating multiple people, what is the proper etiquette? I think we all have a different code of ethics when it comes to this, but how do you manage it with minimal drama?

If it bothered you that someone you are seeing is being vague about their dating activity, would you bring it up or let it ride? Is it really their business? If not, at what point does it become their business?

441 comments Add your comment

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
8:34 am

This looks like a good day to do more listening than talking.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
8:42 am

Happy Monday,

Ok, today is one of those days that I need a coke and a smile.

As for the topic, I have said it here before I am not the one to do multiple dates. If I meet someone and I would like to get to know him better I will date him, but I do run a bench. I know what who I want at all times so anything else is just a ploy to stay busy.

Do you disclose that you have a gaggle of admirers? No, not at all because that is not important.

BTW, I have had men to ask about an outing I went on and make reference that I was with someone else…in those cases I just do not respond, because it was none of their business.

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
8:47 am

Perhaps it makes me a lazy dater but I just don’t put effort in to finding out if a guy I just started dating is seeing someone else.

No that doesn’t mean you are a “lazy date” it means you have at least one brain cell. It is highly, highly, highly unlikely that a man… a black man… in Atlanta… is not “dating” at least ONE female. If you are attracted to him it’s probable that someone else is/was too. So…

When you are dating multiple people, what is the proper etiquette?

If they ask – be honest. If they don’t – know that they will and just be honest.

Good morning all

Tazzee - Need a weekend do-over

October 26th, 2009
8:53 am

Morning Folks!!!

Never been able to date multiple people but I always believe that a guy has someone – no guy is completely single.

Because I’ve always been fairly monogamous, I don’t have to worry about telling a guy that I had a gaggle of admirers. However, if a guy were to ask about my activities when I’m not with him, it was none of his business until we reached the point when it was.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
9:09 am

@Peach/Tazzee I agree with you two totally. I have always found it interesting when a guy claims to be totally single.

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
9:16 am

@ Prof & Tazzee… While I agree that there are things that may be “none of his business”, if someone asks me a question that I feel teeters that line – before I answer I say this: “I have a policy – do not ask a question that you don’t truly want to know the answer to. Because I will tell you the truth.”

If after giving that disclaimer they still want an answer… why not?

MsM

October 26th, 2009
9:20 am

I’ve never been able to multi-date. If you’re not the one I’m really interested in its noticeable, it’s a waste of both of our time.

abc

October 26th, 2009
9:30 am

I’ll believe Obama about “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” when something actually happens in that regard. So far, it’s just talk. Strong resistance by the military can be expected — maybe the President lacks full awareness of the importance of the issue, having never been in the military.

If I were dating someone and discovered they were dating other people without having disclosed that to me, I’d stop dating them. If I wanted to date someone but I knew that they were dating someone else, I’d not pursue them, unless the circumstances were extremely compelling somehow. I don’t think very highly of multiple daters, especially as a recreational activity.

But certainly, some chick playing “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” with me would find my pursuit discontinued.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
9:30 am

GM All!

echo what the ladies have already said. i’m not one for dating multiples, nor am i going to question what you’ve been up to BEFORE we coupled up.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
9:31 am

Please correct me if I am wrong, but it seems to me that men can handle the multi dating better than women on a whole. I know women that will go out for the hell of it, but when push comes to shove they are really using the others as time passers just waiting to hang out with the guys they really like. And, the other women I know will not do the multi-date thingy myself included.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
9:33 am

@czBrat I agree with the statement listed below, but it seems like a lot of folks are concerned with the number of partners, how long did your last relationship last, why did it end, where did you all go, did you meet the family etc.

nor am i going to question what you’ve been up to BEFORE we coupled up.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
9:37 am

Professor what i mean is, if you were juggling women before me, and we now have an understanding that we are dating exclusively, i’m not going to question whether or not you’re still seeing other people. at this point, if i get that impression … i’m out. simple. but, yes, once our relationship takes that step forward we’ll get into more detail about each others past relationships.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
9:40 am

Good Morning,

Um….wow, just wow.

@WD, Peach, Prof, and Brat

So now it’s okay for “a man, a Black man in Atlanta” to be guilty of a transgression, or of not telling the truth, without proof? Really?

On topic:

I don’t ask about if she’s dating someone else until I care if she is. Conversely, if she asks me about my single “status”, I’ll tell her the truth (why lie?), and allow her to make a decision to continue.

As for “dating” multiple people, as with anything in life – as long as it’s communicated with honesty, everyone involved has options.

But ladies, please tell me you don’t honestly indict the man’s intergrity without some proof?

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
9:48 am

If I were dating someone and discovered they were dating other people without having disclosed that to me, I’d stop dating them.

@abc – so, when is she to disclose this information? Is there a time frame? On date number “what” should she spill the beans? If a woman is single and she meets “Tommy” on Friday and they go on a date Saturday, then meets you at the grocery store Sunday… whats she to do in that situation?

I just think there are too many variables in these situations…

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
9:49 am

Dan I trust my gut feelings. I’m not one to go on a mission to catch you with your hand in the cookie jar. If something is lacking in our communication to the point I’m not fully trusting you, then quite frankly you’re better off without me (and I without you).

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
9:51 am

So now it’s okay for “a man, a Black man in Atlanta” to be guilty of a transgression, or of not telling the truth, without proof? Really?

@Dan… what are you talking about??? I don’t think any of us said the brotha was lying but that if you are wise about it, you will go into it thinking that there could possibly… maybe… be someone else he is dating.

SexyCool - Cloud Status: 6.5

October 26th, 2009
9:52 am

Three Words Daily – Keep hope alive.

abc

October 26th, 2009
9:52 am

I would expect a woman to disclose that she was dating others on our first date. Actually, I’d expect that information to be made known before we ever went out — but I’d not be going out on dates with total strangers, anyway. If there was dating interest on my part, I’d take the trouble to get to know them for awhile before I’d ask them out.

‘Course, I understand that few people take that kind of approach these days. You can’t really get to know someone very well before dating if the way you found them was online.

abc

October 26th, 2009
9:52 am

…or if the way you found them was in a bar, or some other superficial way.

M. (pronouced M dot)

October 26th, 2009
9:54 am

Interesting topic WD. I think for guys, the rule is if you meet an attractive woman, there is SOME man in her life on some level. They may be just buddies, they may be about to close the deal, or they be just ending things and the door is not completly closed. I notice in Atlanta women like to be a little bit vague…I guess it adds to that mysterious factor…and also I have seen women with a roster also. I think you can handle the seeing other people issue with class and tactfully, but also you dont need to put all your business out there.I would just keep it real from the beginning. Guys dont have to act super single.Plus women kinda like a guy in demand I think. They may not admit it but who wants to go to an empty restaurant? Let that marinate…. :)

SexyCool - Cloud Status: 6.5

October 26th, 2009
9:58 am

With me, the expectation should be that I am still seeing or at the very least having some sort of communication with other people, especially in the beginning, and I expect that you would be as well.

Much like Dan, I won’t ask until I care. I won’t ask about who you’re seeing or what you’re doing when you’re not with me until I actually give a crap.

However, I have found that my better relationships came with an openness that I didn’t have to ask because we were both forthcoming about our whereabouts and activities.

In fact, it is my preference that a person openly share with me without me having to ask.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
9:59 am

@Peach

Inherent in your disbelief (or suspicions) is that he is not telling you the truth, i.e. lying. My question is why not take him at his word, until you find out differently [is all I'm asking]?

@Brat

Salient and wise point. And by “communication” you want all information on the bruh, or just that you feel entitled too? What level of communication would you need to feel satisfied that he’s not seeing someone else?

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
10:02 am

@Dan.

Wow…just wow!

I go with logic and gut feelings it takes a while for the heart to lead and it may never lead. With that said I go with actions and communications. I had a guy once that mentioned doing all sorts of things with me and for me and he was playing this exclusive role to the end, however something did not stack up and there were some red flags. At the end of the day I just pulled back, and guess what he was not being exclusive like he said, he was still playing the bench. Most of the time, I feel that when you meet someone (I am a female and that is where I speak from) most people are involved with someone on some level. And, once things get moving they sort of let the others fall off…WD did a topic on this a few months back so this is nothing new.

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
10:04 am

@abc… are you inquiring or do you just expect her to state this during the initial phone call? And if she is honest, is it fair to totally dismiss her for dating? If you’re single and looking for a relationship, how are you to do so without getting to know someone?

I – like a few of the other ladies – do not seriously date more than one person at a time. Unfortunately, dating opportunities sometimes overlap. I personally cannot stand “dating” and I would much rather just do life with one person. But while I’m waiting on that reality, I have to do life in current one…

Plus women kinda like a guy in demand I think.

@M. – CHILE PLEASE!

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:04 am

As for “dating” multiple people, as with anything in life – as long as it’s communicated with honesty, everyone involved has options.

You Dayum Right!!

too bad my budget call for ‘one woman at a time’…Boy I am glad my mom has affordable medical insurance…Demi was looking like a broke ‘igga for a minute…peep this: they agreed to pay back four years

Tax payer’s dollars wasted!!!

a hundred dollars per doctor visit…two or three time a week and PLUS out of pocket prescription cost!!! AwwwwwIsssssssssshBisssssh!!!! I was spenting money lika fake rockstar!!

On a positive note, I mother is doing a whole lot better…there is a God AND LIFE IS GOOD!!!

MORNING ALL…SUP BLUE!!!

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:06 am

Boy I am glad my mom has affordable medical insurance…NOW!!

SexyCool - Cloud Status: 6.5

October 26th, 2009
10:08 am

Prof – “Most of the time, I feel that when you meet someone (I am a female and that is where I speak from) most people are involved with someone on some level. And, once things get moving they sort of let the others fall off…”

^^^^THAT right there^^^^ is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
10:11 am

@Dan – I don’t think I ever said there was “disbelief” because I don’t ask men if they are dating other women. I just go into it thinking they are until I am informed otherwise. As SexyCool mentioned @ 9:58, I appreciate open communication. I’ve found that you don’t have to ask much… most things come out in conversation.

most people are involved with someone on some level. right Professor, thats all we’re saying!

abc

October 26th, 2009
10:12 am

“Initial phone call”, see, that’d be associated with online dating. I tried that out and found it to be pretty much completely unappealing. Nobody feels very motivated to veracity or disclosure, because everyone is on a people shopping spree, and keeping options open is a high priority. That’s no way to meet people of dating interest, in my opinion. I’d even go so far as to say that one can expect online dating prospects to lie to them about such things as how many others they’re dating, and you can fully expect that they’re dating others if they’re part of such a service.

Once upon a time, personal ads were the venue of the spinster lonely hearts club. Nowadays, everyone has joined the club. As if there aren’t far better and more real ways to meet people!

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:12 am

@Alvin

Good isht mayne, glad all is well.

M. (pronounced M dot)

October 26th, 2009
10:12 am

@ImAPeach404

LOL…We can agree to disagree!

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:14 am

Demi – Glad to read you and know that your mom is doing better!

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
10:15 am

@ Dan communication, as it relates to this particular topic, to me would mean we’ve agreed to be exclusive. from that point forward i no longer have to question where you are, what you’re doing or who you’re with. nor should your actions give me reason to wonder about these things. if that’s the case, that would be “evidence” enough of a problem. no?

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:15 am

Plus ((some = 80%)) women kinda like a guy in demand I think.

Not really true…but dayum close to the truth.

same can be said of (most) men as well…

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
10:16 am

Good Morning All :)

Dating… such a touchy topic for some :)

I think it would be very naive to meet someone and believe that they are not dating/comunicating with someone else. (while it may happen/there are those exceptions)…

With that being said… I say let your intentions be known up front. If you’re looking to just have fun, let that person know… If you’re looking for something more serious let that person know…. You will not waste as much time playing games if you’re just upfront and honest.

I don’t see anything wrong with dating multiple people (if you choose to).. maybe you’re not ready to be in a serious relationship. Me personaly I don’t like sharing myself with multiple people. So if I choose to engage in constant communication/going out etc, you can trust that I’m doing that with solely one person. I think you can tell if a person is worth your time by the first/second date. I think we’re all at an age where we know what we will take and what we won’t, so why waste time on someone who isn’t beneficial to you….. Then you end up complaining to your girls/guys about how much time you spent with this person and they were’nt even worth it….

If the shoe was on the other foot, I would like to know if the guy I’m talking to is seeing other people at the momment…. I prolly won’t bring it up on the first date, but if he intrigues me and I want to get to know him better, I would bring it up casually in our next encounter…. then it would be my decision to stick around or not…..

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:20 am

@Peach

If you start out thinking that he is seeing someone else (regardless of his words to the contrary), all your (in)actions flow from that thought. But thanks for answering.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
10:20 am

There’s a lot of tact and “vague” being displayed right her on this blog today. Wow…

Demi – sup Bruh. V

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:20 am

czB – I agree with your 1015p. Especially the thought that a person’s actions being evidence of a problem. I have been in a situation in the past where there was evidently and obviously something wrong in the relationship. By the time, I had proof, I was year past that relationship’s expiration date and it had started to stink.

I can now see smoke and know that there is fire without actually sticking around to be burned.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:23 am

Dan – If a guy TELLS me that he’s not seeing someone else and his actions support that, I will believe it without question.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:25 am

@Brat

Why become “exclusive” in the first place if you still have questions (like the one’s you’ve mentioned)?

I mean, as far as communication (and the subject matter goes), wouldn’t the comfort level of a person’s honesty be established before exclusivity? Isn’t each encounter about establishing that level of trust (which includes believing that he or she is single)?

ImAPeach404

October 26th, 2009
10:25 am

“Initial phone call”, see, that’d be associated with online dating.

HUH??? I don’t see how those 3 words provoked you produced a whole response based on online dating, but… no. Obviously you’ve had a bad experience meeting women this way because that post came allllll the way from left field.

@M. cool :)

waves at Demi

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:26 am

On the flip side thought…Most men do not have a problem telling a women what he is looking for and all he wants from her…

Due to increasingly lame dudes on the hunt for puddy…Standup dudes are under attack…the market can only bear so many wannabe players…the market has clash.

The time for self renewment is now.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:28 am

@Brat

Didn’t mean to answer your question with another. I’m just trying to figure out where the trust begins (in your in relationships as opposed to my own).

abc

October 26th, 2009
10:29 am

Left field, not really… I’d expect to have spent a fair amount of time conversing with them in person rather than on the phone. I’m not a phone conversation kind of person — more like, talk on the phone briefly, probably only to setup a time and place to meet for whatever and have a real conversation then. The “1st phone call” milestone is an online dating phenomenon, to me. Like blind dates with photos beforehand. Yes, I quite disliked online dating.

East Point's Own

October 26th, 2009
10:30 am

I expect that women I meet are going out/dating others until such time that we establish that she isn’t. What I find interesting is that some women folk say they are not dating others, but they act like they are meaning they cancel plans suddenly on Fri or Saturday when you are supposed to go out together, they forget about things that we have planned (when they were initaially excited about whatever the plan was), I know some folks just have bad memories but there is a point when you know the person is seeing others, but is not willing to say it.
I have no problem with a person I am seeing dating others, up until the point where we decide to be with only each other. I don’t need to know what nights you are going out with another dude, just say that you are busy if I ask about your plans and I am good.

http://hispointofview.com

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
10:30 am

This topic reminds me of one of my Favorite songs.. Feels Good Inc..

Windmill, Windmill for the land.
Love forever hand in hand
Take it all in on your stride
It is sinking, falling down
Love forever love is free
Let’s turn forever you and me
Windmill, windmill for the land
Is everybody in?

Look a cheater is a person who cant tell the other party they are seeing other people.. They choose to lie about it.. A cheater is a person who keeps secrets like people are stupid.. We are grown and dont owe anyone anything, so if you out here lying.. You aint Sh!t!.. And that goes for all you that think a half truth aint a lie.. If you telling half truths.. Again you aint Sh!t!.. And I meant that.. I feel like I dont owe nobody any lies.. It complicates things..

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
10:32 am

M Plus women kinda like a guy in demand I think.

Or was fuggin’ at least one chick as of last week.

Dream If you’re looking for something more serious let that person know…. You will not waste as much time playing games if you’re just upfront and honest.

A man/woman that states UP FRONT that they’d like a serious, monogamous relationship will more than likely be seen as one who is moving too fast, desperate, psycho, and in possession of stalker traits.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:32 am

@Alvin

Bruh, that’s a whole nuther set of worms altogether….(lame vs the “standup dudes”)

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:37 am

– If a guy TELLS me that he’s not seeing someone else and his actions support that, I will believe it without question.

SexyCool…Yes, a man actions rarely sway too far from his words…(I think you are the only one who will get what I am trying to say)

Blue…Life is good bruh, I am hoping to pick up a bike during the cold months. I want an ‘09 for the low, LOL.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
10:39 am

@ Blue_Kolla

Why is that always a sore spot for men…. I think I just went through this with For Real the other day….

I’m not saying on the first date come out and scare the guy.

But after 2 or three dates if you like this guy and you feel it could go somewhere and your intentions are to be in a serious relationship. Why is it taboo to tell the guy….?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
10:40 am

Come on most attractive women dont have dudes because cats be scared to talk to them.. I have a friend that is drop dead gorgeous and dudes be scared to approach her all the time..

I also have a friend that is not drop dead gorgeous and super stylish that never has a problem finding a date..

The difference is friend number two has game and the “Penis” mentality.. She handles dudes like dudes handle women until she meets a dude that has that balance of Corporate thuggery she likes.. That can handle her..

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:41 am

Demi – True, a MAN’s actions rarely sway too far from his words. Operative word in the statement – MAN.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
10:46 am

Why become “exclusive” in the first place if you still have questions (like the one’s you’ve mentioned)?

Ideally, we would all know exactly what we’re getting into whether we’ve known the other person for a minute or a month. I’ve not had an ideal relationship yet, so the exclusivity is a committment to focusing on getting to know each other fully without mind games. Yes, there are still questions … but we are taking a serious interest in finding the answers.

I mean, as far as communication (and the subject matter goes), wouldn’t the comfort level of a person’s honesty be established before exclusivity?

Absolutely. But sometimes things (people) change. Especially if at some point they decide they’re not quite feeling you anymore but don’t want to cut you loose. That’s where the questionable behavior (and miscommunications) may start to surface.

Isn’t each encounter about establishing that level of trust (which includes believing that he or she is single)?

As long as he/she is not sending out mixed signals as to whether or not they are into you or possibly spreading themsleves thin with others, then each encounter should indeed help establish a greater level of trust.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:46 am

Oh…and don’t know why it irks me for dudes to be beating on their chests hollering “I’m a stand-up dude. See me. Date me. Want me. Love me.”

Because much like the overdone “I’m Miss Independent” battle cry, it is lame on a level of its own.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
10:46 am

Ok heres another jewel.. from Handsome Boy Modeling School

I’ve been thinking about those things you said
I’ve been thinking about those things we did
I’ve been thinking about those things you do
I’ve been thinking about those things you made me do too

Be my boy, be my boy
Be my boy, be my boy

I was hypnotized
By your fairy eyes
Like a tiger in the dark
You were hungry from the start

Diamonds, candy pills
One million dollar bills
You can try
But you can’t buy me, buy me

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
10:47 am

luvin DK @ 10:30

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
10:49 am

“I’m a stand-up dude. See me. Date me. Want me. Love me.”

Say it again… lol

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
10:51 am

ImAPeach404…hey, I am on slave row (looking up…I can never remember my number) E-1-5-5, just clicking away on my busted keyboard. my ‘Shift’ keeps sticking…(speaking of my keyboard people). How are things on your end?

Dan…I know I know.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
10:51 am

@Brat

Thank you for the elaboration.

I’ve not been in an “ideal” situation yet either; but I like to play the games cards up.

@SC

Yeah, that’s a weee bit frustrating.

But take solace in this (if you choose to: just like ladies know whose the “gt” in the group, guys know the arseholes. And like “good women”, “good men” are only speaking about the aforementioned arsehole’s when talking like that.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
10:53 am

Morning everybody!!

so most of u ladies are saying that u decide to date, i guess after a failed relationship,you date one person at a time??

Thats so hard to believe.Sounds all good but in practice, i dont see that happening.
Most pple will date a guy or lady,if they find them interesting enough and if they decide to pursue multiple dates with one girl/guy,that suggests something is developing.Thats when most will decide to bench others and pursue a relationship exclusively,if the situation warrants it.Otherwise multiple dates with different guys/girls are the order for most pple.
Look at it this way,a chic goes on a date satrday,and by sunday morning,she has already decided that the guy is not worth it and calls him to end any further discussion.That afternoon,she meets a guy at the mall and gives him her number coz she dropped the other guy already or if thats not the case,she stills talking to the guy from saturday so she declines to give this other guy her number on sunday coz she hasnt cut off ties with the satruday guy yet.PLEEEEEEEASE,thats looks like lies to me.
Its not even practical………
Ladies,please tell the truth.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:53 am

Um…yeah…translation, please.

M. (pronounced M dot)

October 26th, 2009
10:54 am

@Blue_Kolla

I agree. They may not admit it but they want someone in demand. Notice I did not say a womanizer but its good knowing that you are with someone that other people want. Who wants someone that nobody wants?

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
10:54 am

Yeah, Melo – what you said.

abc

October 26th, 2009
10:54 am

“I’m a stand-up dude. See me. Date me. Want me. Love me.”

Ha! That’s a crackup.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
10:59 am

Demi – 09 for the low?! Mayne, GTFOH. You ain’t the thievin’ kind, so the only way that’s gon’ happen is if you’re Tomlin’s boy and you tell him that Ben’s been seen without a helmet again. LMAO

Dream So you can honestly tell me that if, at the end of date #3, dude says, “You know Dream, it’s date #3, and I’m ready for it to be you and me, ride or die,” that you’d be good with that?

Personally, I’d like a little bit slower progression, and a little bit more knowledge of you before I lock in. And I think chicks are the same way. If a dude comes to you with his “I want to be with you and only you” mantra, you’re going to think that he’s way too possessive and probably a crazy stalker.

Another question for the ladies, how many of you want a dude to lock in, so that you’ll feel comfortable having dreams about him and eventually giving up the azz?

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
10:59 am

Melo i’ve never claimed to be like ‘most’. even if i’m in the minority, i entertain one interest at a time.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
11:00 am

At one point, I would have been the first person to say that I want someone in demand. I have since gotten over that.

I will not knock that theory in that everybody like shiny sht. I’ve just learned that the shiniest sht ain’t always the best sht.

Now, I want someone who I want in the way that they want me – anybody else be damned.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:01 am

Who wants someone that nobody wants?

the extremely insecure who don’t even want to THINK about competition.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
11:04 am

czBrat??

hw often do u meet a guy that exchanges numbers with u??
hw often do u drop or dicontinue talking to a guy u meet and proly had a date with??

So to continue on those 2 above qstions,what ur date turnover like as far as dates that dont pan out that u have to dismiss??

Ur situ wld be very unique and interesting…..

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:05 am

If we aren’t exclusive, you don’t need to know the details of who else is competing for quality face time

Cosign…just not that importing, IMO. When initial dates, greets hookups, get-togethers are in tow it’s not important to reveal ANYTHING at that stage, frankly it’s not my business…neither yours. It’s only the beginning of possibilites. All I’m looking for or expecting is head and shoulders. As long as people aren’t married nor exclusive, competition IS everywhere and everyone not exclusively attached to a SO. If and as we progress, you shoul be tying all loose. I’m not, neither are you accountable to me for anything that happens, happened, popped off….prior to making it exclusive. I’m only concerned about what happens post exclusitivity. ANYTHING happening with whomever (ex, baby mamas, baby daddys, first loves, etc) after the decision to go exclusive becomes deal breaker….as you knew better at that point. No if ands or buts.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:06 am

Alright ya’ll…it’s Monday….I meant not that “important”

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
11:07 am

Operative word in the statement – MAN.

MzCool…did you just hit ‘da sista gurl head rock followed by a long teethsuck’…while typing that?

that is a turn on!!!

Ans “Standup Dudes”…are led by actions not words. Chest beaters are lames in disguise. Words be lika cool breeze on a hot day, while their actions reek of filth and decay….yeah, that ‘igga is full of ish

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 26th, 2009
11:08 am

Morning All!

SCool – “If a guy TELLS me that he’s not seeing someone else and his actions support that, I will believe it without question”….I co-sign this one a hunnet percent! And I am still a lil upset about missing that concert

Demi – glad mom is doing better! Hey Chocolate Baby!

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:08 am

Ok….just excuse my typos…as long as you get the gist of where I was going with that

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
11:09 am

Melo….

It’s funny how some group all women in the same category…

I’m sorry but for some things I don’t operate with the norm…

I don’t go around giving every guy with a nice smile my number…If I meet Melo on Saturday.. he quirks my interest and our exchange was nice…. On sunday I’m not giving Blue-Kolla my nuber b/c he flashed a perfect set of pearly whites… It just don’t work like that in my world. I don’t have it in my to be a serial dater….. That stuff complicates things… I’ve learned that I can’t/don;t want to handle choosing between two people.. while some may geta rush out of it… I get a headache

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
11:12 am

…is if you’re Tomlin’s boy and you tell him that Ben’s been seen without a helmet again. LMAO

‘BUMP U’ BLUE K!!!!! LOL hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaaaaa!!!

Too funny!!!

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:13 am

hw often do u meet a guy that exchanges numbers with u?? not even once per year.

hw often do u drop or dicontinue talking to a guy u meet and proly had a date with?? in the last 8 years – twice after the first date.

So to continue on those 2 above qstions,what ur date turnover like as far as dates that dont pan out that u have to dismiss?? see above.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:15 am

LOL @ Ms. Main!

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
11:15 am

czBrat…are you from NY?

Mo…hey you!! And thanks!! I am on my way to LaFitness…Melo, you should come too, I heard the morning classes have nice ‘things’ there, LOL.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
11:17 am

he quirks my interest and our exchange was nice…. On sunday I’m not giving Blue-Kolla my nuber b/c he flashed a perfect set of pearly whites

thats a really safe and conservative way to date altho i see how its easy to make mistakes with that modus op,unless ur standards are really high and hard to meet 4 a guy.

A sure way to get got! :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 26th, 2009
11:17 am

SCool – Mail call

abc

October 26th, 2009
11:18 am

Who wants someone that nobody wants?

It’s a paradox but still a truism that nobody wants you until somebody wants you. Ask the guy who’s been looking for a job for a year, or who women won’t give a second look. Nothing is more attractive than something or someone that someone else wants. It proves desirability.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:20 am

Alvin, if that’s your way of asking me if I’m not approachable the answer to both is “yes”. :D

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:21 am

so true abc!!

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:21 am

Main As long as people aren’t married nor exclusive, competition IS everywhere and everyone not exclusively attached to a SO. If and as we progress, you shoul be tying all loose. I’m not, neither are you accountable to me for anything that happens, happened, popped off….prior to making it exclusive. I’m only concerned about what happens post exclusitivity.

Problem is that when you decide to be exclusive, dude’s still been man about town, and dealing with some other broads that ain’t been all, “it ain’t his business ’cause we ain’t exclusive”. So you throw out the proposal, but dude ain’t signing up. Now he’s a cheater.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
11:24 am

“…that nobody wants you until somebody wants you.” That’s a crock. I understand the sentence, but you worded it wrong. Can’t say NOBODY wants a person until someone else wants them. Better to say your “worth” has increased in that particular’s eyes when someone else shows interest.

Anotha Brotha

October 26th, 2009
11:24 am

LoL folks make life so hard. This one’s easy-

Me during initial encounter: “Are you actively dating anyone?”
Her: “Yes”/ “Ummm”/”NOT REALLY”
Me: “Ok. Nice talking to you.” ..And walk away. No more attention, won’t be asking for the number etc lol.

Lots of attention h0ish people out there. Should be avoided at all costs.

“It is highly, highly, highly unlikely that a man… a black man… in Atlanta… is not “dating” at least ONE female”.

This sounds like a deflection for why one does not have a quality mate, “ie, there are no single brothas in Atlanta/U.S./The World”. There are plenty of quality, completely single quality men- They probably just don’t approach YOU! And that is a woman’s job to decipher why her options are limited to scandalous men :)

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
11:25 am

abc – You do speak the truth. People have a tendency to just fall out of the woodwork as soon as you get “boo’d up.”

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
11:26 am

Melo

Not extremely high or hard to meet….
But given my experience.. While it was hell to go through I think I wised up after it….

While it may seem conservative… It’s my style and I like it…. Every guy is not going to be the guy for me… so I’m not going to imitate “lil Wayne” and try to get with every guy that shows me attention….

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:29 am

Another Brotha Dayum bruh, and I thought I was vicious. Nice post though.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
11:31 am

I see where Dream is coming from in her post and I maybe reading her wrong, but for me and the phone number thingy it works like this:

If I am dating someone I do not hand out my number. If I am out and about and I meet someone on Saturday and we vibe I will give out my number and if I meet someone on Sunday and we vibe I will give out my number, because chances are one if not both are going to call and say something stupid and I will not be on the phone with him again.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
11:32 am

Guys – Just throw the Obligatory “Im dating” line out there it covers everything.. Women use it for the dude that they just slept with after lunch, the dude that just bought em lunch, the dude thats gonna buy dinner and the dude that cuts their grass and fixes things around their house. Oh and also the dude that they know from college that can always get it when he’s in town..

Come on with the jokes..

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:33 am

Blue – Problem is that when you decide to be exclusive, dude’s still been man about town, and dealing with some other broads that ain’t been all, “it ain’t his business ’cause we ain’t exclusive”. So you throw out the proposal, but dude ain’t signing up. Now he’s a cheater.

I’d say not really a problem because for me, progression does not mean we met today and next week we’re exclusive. There will be ample time for him to do the needful….if he wants an exclusive relationship. Sorry but we ain’t swapping azz while progessing. We swapping azz once exclusive. If he’s been a man about town during our “progression” phase and sort of never got around to wrapping loose ends, then yeah, you’re right he’s a liar and more than likely we ain’t going exclusive. You can only take a person by their word and if the actions don’t match, it’s definitely not gonna happen.

CZBrat – girl it’s Monday

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:34 am

Professor …chances are one if not both are going to call and say something stupid and I will not be on the phone with him again.

Come on babe, you’ve got the wrong attitude off the rip, not to mention most people would welcome the choice, as it increases ones chances for success. :|

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
11:35 am

Off topic:

Have anymone tried minx, and if so did you like it and what are your thoughts?

On topic:

I am not saying other folks are not busy, but I work hard for the money so even if I wanted to juggle dates etc I do not have the time to hang on the phone, text and get all pretty for a bunch of dudes that is not happening here with my schedule. Period

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
11:36 am

chances are one if not both are going to call and say something stupid and I will not be on the phone with him again. LMAO!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
11:36 am

Heres another DK joint – Women can smell that other womans scent on you.. Her juices so to speak.. Just like dudes can see her new pearl necklace shes wearing..

Anotha Brotha

October 26th, 2009
11:38 am

Good point abc. I’m observing that many people gauge others based on “perceived value”. I think this is true because people do not have real sources of power themselves, thus they can only discern other’s power based on someone else’s opinion. It’s a follower’s mentality. This is why you’ll see women sweating some guy after other women have chosen him (with a marriage, or just her attention). You’ll also see lots of men fall into this trap too by buying STUFF to increase their stature in hopes of being chosen. It’s goofy.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
11:39 am

BK,

You call it the wrong attitude, I know the past is the best predictor of the future.

So I know my standards, what I want, and you mean to tell me that both guys are coming 100% fantasy vs. reality. Yea right! Reality is one will probably get in the phone and eventually I will see that we are not a match. Numbers increase possibilities that is why I will give my number out if the vibe is good, but I know reality.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
11:39 am

Sorry but we ain’t swapping azz while progessing

lol… I luv it!!!

@ DK

smh @ ur 11:42

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
11:40 am

Also cream rises to the top.. The best of the dating mix will rise to the top and get rid of everybody else by default..

I always know that if Im for a person I will move those other cats out they way, cause her choosin shoes will have DK on em..

We know how this thing goes… We making this way harder than it needs to be..

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:43 am

DK I don’t even play the “dating” word game with females. Dating in my book ain’t got nothing to do with sexin’. That’s just some sh it that somebody came up with to keep that fact on the low. Either you’re fu kk in, or you aint.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:43 am

Dream_n No ma’am…that’s how things get convoluted

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:44 am

Also cream rises to the top.. The best of the dating mix will rise to the top and get rid of everybody else by default..

That’s why I said head and shoulders. You ain’t gon make a man or woman lay down their options unless you’re bringing something worth laying them down for.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
11:46 am

Proff/Dream_n??

Ladies??

If u went on a date once with a guy and it was nice and u possibly consdering going on 2nd date,if he so calls,wld u give another dude ur number,in case u actually smbody else who was interested??

Wld u consider that one guy u went on a 1st date with, as smebody u dating?? If not,at what point(after hw many dates) wld u consider ursleves as dating smebody??

Melo

October 26th, 2009
11:48 am

in case u actually meet smbody else

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
11:49 am

Blue – You and I know that but ask a female if she got a dude.. BAM! The “I dont have a man but I’m dating” comes out.. Thats why I said come on with the jokes.. Its even funnier when i hit them with it cause they know exactly what it means..

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
11:53 am

If u went on a date once with a guy and it was nice and u possibly consdering going on 2nd date,if he so calls,wld u give another dude ur number,in case u actually smbody else who was interested??

Yes, I would give another my number. Just because we went out once doesn’t mean we’re dating. No exclusivity so my dance card is still open.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:55 am

DK – True that… which is why I’m quick to hit’em with, “So what exactly is dating?” Straight comical…

Melo

October 26th, 2009
11:56 am

Yes, I would give another my number

Leggs,thanx…im sure Dream_n/czBrat’s answers will be diffrent coz they dont wanna coz confusion :lol:

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
11:56 am

Melo

I would consider after 2 or 3 dates… You would be dating a person..

Talking on the phone is just that talking…

Actually going out and engaing in an activity constitues dating to me.

If u went on a date once with a guy and it was nice and u possibly consdering going on 2nd date,if he so calls,wld u give another dude ur number,in case u actually smbody else who was interested??

I don’t understand the above paragraph :)

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
11:56 am

No exclusivity so my dance card is still open

Leggs and right on every level…cause you ain’t exclusive

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
11:58 am

Leggs You left some questions unanswered on the MSAT. At least mark C.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
12:01 pm

Dream_n, qstion is:wld u give another guy(2nd) ur number if u have gone on a date with a dude(1st) once and u liked him(1st guy)

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
12:03 pm

Actually, Melo, my answer is that i don’t give out my number. but i will take a number if i’m interested. if i’ve been on a date with someone and am looking forward to another, i’m not taking numbers from anyone else.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
12:05 pm

Melo

Then the answer would have to be no…

If I went on a date with guy#1… We vibed, I like him,and everything went well… then I see guy #2 the following day and he looks nice.. and meets my physical qualities… am I going to take/give the number…

No I wouldn’t…

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
12:06 pm

@BK, sorry if I left some questions unmarked. One date doesn’t mean we’re dating. A possible phone “if he should call” placed somewhere on the horizon doesn’t mean we’re dating. Therefore, my answer remains “A” (not exclusive sitting around waiting on something that may or may not happen)!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
12:06 pm

czBrat/Dream_n:

That sounds really honorable. I commend u both.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
12:10 pm

I met this really attractive guy at a Hawks game during the playoffs. I gave him my number. He called the next couple of days or so. He lived in Lawrenceville to my Greenbriar area. Claimed to always be travelling.

After that, I would get the occasional text – once every couple of weeks with a vague mention of getting together soon.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, I get a text. “Meet me for drinks tonight.” My response, “I’m not available.”

I get a text over this past weekend. “You missed your chance.” My response, “Thank God.”

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
12:11 pm

@Melo…my answer mirrors Leggs. I would chat with guy #2 on the phone…there is nothing wrong with talking.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
12:13 pm

here we go …… awwwww. thanx, Melo. :)

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
12:13 pm

Melo

Uh no commending necessary… it’s just my dating style….

I won’t date tom/dick/harry/larry/ all at the same time.. That’s too complicated.. You start catching feelings for each one… 1 does something that the other one doesn’t do, but that other ones does something that the other one won’t do either… that is straight drama at its finest!

Then when things are going left you could care less cause you have guy# 3 on speed dial.. not something I want to deal with.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
12:17 pm

I would chat with guy #2 on the phone…there is nothing wrong with talking.

Proff,hw about him taking u out, and u scoping him to see what he made of..wldnt or wld that not be an option u wanna explore,notwithstanding that guy#1 is also interesting??

(i aint putting u chics under some test,i just wanna know) :lol:

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
12:18 pm

LOL @ SC You’re better than me. A female coming at me after that type of time miiiight’ve gotten a text back reading, “WhoTF is this?” But that was funny though. Too bad you couldn’t get a visual.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
12:20 pm

Melo (i aint putting u chics under some test,i just wanna know) :lol:

Quit flopping around over there. I think those are some pretty good questions.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
12:26 pm

Okay… let me put out a question to the fellas

Let’s say you met Lisa… (you’re not dating/nor talking to anyone at the moment).

Lisa is your prototype… You guys go out, she meets your physical standards, she engages in stimulating conversation…. You guys talk over the phone and go out on about 2 or 3 dates and everything is going well…..

So you’re riding down the street thinking about Lisa and all her goodness.. YOu get out the car to put a letter in the mail… and BAM there goes “Tina”.. tina lookin good walking your way smiling and says hi…. Are we taking Tina’s number today???

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
12:30 pm

@Dream

If Tina offers her number, I am a gentleman, I would not refuse it;

However, if I’m digging Lisa, I wouldn’t ask for it.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
12:31 pm

Depends on how Lis’a actin’. If she’s acting vague and throwing off the “we’re not exclusive vibe”, then you’re damned right, we’ll be chattin’ up Tina, tonight.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
12:31 pm

so gentleman Dan, are you taking the number and tossing it, holding on to it, or using it?

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
12:32 pm

Hey Melo!

There are a lot of variables to consider.

Scenario #1

I meet dude Uno and we talk on the phone and text for a week. We go out on the 1st date and we have a good time Uno, but I still do not know a lot about Uno just the basic info. I will talk to Dos on the phone.

Scenario #2

I meet Uno and we talk on the phone for a month, and I feel like I know him the conversations are sincere and Uno has shared his goals and I know we are on the same page on the things that matter. Well I am not going to talk to Dos.

Does this help?

Alvin

October 26th, 2009
12:33 pm

czBrat…you read “Lioness”…gurrl, do that be you? LOL

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
12:33 pm

HAAAAAA, EXCELLENT RESPONSE, SCOOL!

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
12:34 pm

@Brat

Holding on to it, “in case of emergency break glass”

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
12:35 pm

Blue_Kolla

And what if she’s not… are you taking the number then?

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
12:36 pm

Dan, how good does Lisa have to be (and for how long) before that number is tossed?

Melo

October 26th, 2009
12:38 pm

Proff,yeah it helps but all im getting by reading ‘tween lines is that its complicated,see BK 12.31 PM and melo below! :lol:

Dream_n:

Are we taking Tina’s number today???

possibly,unless Lisa has slammed the door shut by expressing her desire to take this ish there and not giving me a conflicting vibe
The deal aint done for me unless I also taped it and the whole experience is making me craaaaawzy so much so I wanna be with Lisa the whole daaaamn time!

For me anyway(and not other dudes) if a chic was getting my vibe,she opened the pearl gates pretty quick! :lol:

Anotha Brotha

October 26th, 2009
12:40 pm

Dream_n

If Lisa is the prototype and we are compatible and vibe well, then why would I consider another option? This is the greed that messes men and women up :)

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
12:41 pm

If I’m dating someone casually (meaning not sexing) and I meet someone else, then I’m going to give him my number. If I’m dating someone that I’m having sex with, well, that’s not all that casual. So, I’m not taking/giving out number.

That’s kind of simple to me.

If you’re just a cut buddy/FWB, well, different rules apply altogether. And yes, in my life, those situations have existed.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
12:43 pm

@Dream-N ~ Good question (12:26). How many will honestly say, they will take her number.

@BlueK ~ see you threw a neckbone in the gravy. Dream_n already said everything was well in your camp when you spot Tina! Don’t try n change the dynamics to justify getting the number!

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
12:43 pm

I agree Melo!

I think if you are vibing than you do not date…no vibe you date, and drop Uno…1/2 of a vibe you talk on the phone and wait until date two to decide if you drop Uno or stop talking on the phone.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
12:44 pm

@Dream

If Tina offers her number, I am a gentleman, I would not refuse it;

However, if I’m digging Lisa, I wouldn’t ask for it.

Dream – I concur with my fellow gentleman Dan..

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
12:45 pm

Thank you Anotha Brotha….yes indeed PURE D GREED and SELFISHNESS.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
12:46 pm

What if Lisa is now the girlfriend and Tina approaches?

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
12:46 pm

good, DK, then you too can answer the questions i posed to Dan.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
12:48 pm

After reading today’s posts by a few ladies…Demi is now waiting for puddy to turn into sunshine…

150 years later…

Demi is now looking like Mose and still waiting for puddy to turn into sunshine…

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
12:48 pm

Anotha Brotha

Hand clap to you :)

Thanx for your 12:43 leggs… Blue_Kolla acting like he can’t read… lol

DK/DAN

What’s the sense of taking it if you’re not going to use it…..

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
12:51 pm

If Lisa and I are vibing and all is well, Tina won’t be an issue, as she’ll be invisible. And no broad is gon’ rush a dude that has shown NO interest.

Which brings us to another point – ladies, if you’re beefing with your dude, work that out, because we don’t really need any extra temptation. Outside females can smell “trouble with my girl” all over a dude, and will go at him hard. We can put up a better fight if we’re confident that you’re at least trying to keep it lovely.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
1:00 pm

…since we’re being honest.

DreamWhat’s the sense of taking it if you’re not going to use it…..

1. We don’t want to fracture a woman’s ego and end up with yoll cussing and calling us gay for not wanting you.
2. It’s a boost to our ego.
3. Because like the President told Jack Ryan, “You’ve got a chip in the big game. But you’re not gon’ use it. You’re gon’ tuck that away.”

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
1:08 pm

Blue_Kolla

I understand the logic.. and maybe I’m by myself…. but I would consider you a gentleman if you politely declined because you were dating someone else…. but my ego would be a little bruised

Anotha Brotha

October 26th, 2009
1:09 pm

Well before folks get toooo happy, the prototype is a rarity and she can’t contain any of the below (from Friday’s entry). However, if Lisa is such, then I’m not looking anywhere else. :)

1) Attention starved dress (Heels, cleavage out, butt out)
2) LOUD, sassy, contemptuous mouth
3) Raspy, club voice
4) Over weight/ lack of discipline, accountability
4a) Weave (Usually to cover up the weight)
5) 500+ Facebook friends
6) Visible tattoos
7) Any kids out of wedlock (kids period, actually)
8-Funky attitude/arms folded/gas face
9) Rambling about lack of quality men when any of the above exist

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
1:09 pm

or it could be you’re a playa and lisa is about to find out the hard way. i’m just sayin …..

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
1:11 pm

It’s not often that I am going to offer a dude my number. IF I did and he declined based on the fact that he is already seeing someone, then, that’s no cause for my ego to be bruised. It just is what it is.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:15 pm

I get a text over this past weekend. “You missed your chance.” My response, “Thank God.”

LOL..SC, rarely loss for words huh?

Hey Legg…you’re dating?!?

…Do da stanky legg(x3)

Legg is now beating a demi to the white meat…with crab leggs

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
1:16 pm

To Whom IT May Concern – I Lisa aint my girl.. Then Tina is ok to be got at.. Now If Lisa and I have made this thang official as a referees whistle, then I would tell Tina it was nice to meet her and that I have a GF.. If Im happy im good but if Im not.. Then the track shoes get put on and i get back to runnin..

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
1:16 pm

czBrat

LOL :) @ ur 1:09….

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:18 pm

If a chic has to offer a dude her number,either these scenarios are apparent:

a) she a cougar..cougars are brazen like that.
b) she real horny and possibly cob web infested for a long time
c) she a gold digger on the hunt
d) she a pro and simply scouting for potential players

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
1:21 pm

Anotha Brotha

How could we have forgotten the list …. lol

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
1:24 pm

ummm.. btw where’s IWLD today???

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:24 pm

DK…Tina and Lisa…….former lesbians you had in your stable?

their names seem to pop up a lot in your scenarios…

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
1:26 pm

Another Brother – Man that list is like a skeleton key, it works every time. LOL

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:26 pm

former lesbians you had in your stable?

Demi??

that lesbo duo wld be a nice addition to any guy team :lol:

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
1:27 pm

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:27 pm

@Demi – no, my lil kumquat!

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
1:31 pm

Okay, AB – You listed all the things she SHOULDN’T. Now tell us which qualities the prototype SHOULD have?

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:32 pm

@Dream_n ~ “Blue_Kolla I understand the logic.. and maybe I’m by myself…. but I would consider you a gentleman if you politely declined because you were dating someone else…. but my ego would be a little bruised” Not I, I’d be smiling inwardly as well as outwardly as he declined. No need for my ego to be bruised. Just a step toward letting me witness a real man handling his business!

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
1:33 pm

@Melo (1:18)

That’s an incomplete list: 5) she could be just that confident.

@Brat

I’m taking it for the reasons DK stated earlier.

Tazzee - Need a weekend do-over

October 26th, 2009
1:34 pm

If I’m vibing with a guy, I’m not giving out my number to anyone else. The only time I’ve talked to numerous guys is when none of them reached vibing status. That was last year around this time – 3 guys, all were long distance.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:35 pm

that lesbo duo wld be a nice addition to any guy team

Melo…not always. They are a blessing far as adding more ladies to your stable…hell if one catch feelings…but that do get you into most club for free…most of those big manly looking bouncers tend to be gay…sad

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
1:35 pm

Taz – why are you re-doing the weekend? Other than the loss yesterday.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:38 pm

@Melo, if you think that lesbo combo would be a nice additional to any man’s team, read this morning’s Strawberry Letter on The Steve Harvey morning show!!!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:39 pm

Dan,u right….but if a chic is faster to that punch,that means bro was tentative at best.
Shes skilled still,and maybe over-qualified for dude.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:39 pm

That was last year around this time – 3 guys, ‘all were long distance’.

I am now attempting to read between the lines…

Hey Tazzy!!

Tazzy is now drop kicking Demi outta her Bentley coupe

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:40 pm

Leggs,i will altho i dismiss Harvey.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
1:43 pm

@Melo

That ain’t how I see it.

“faster to the punch”- it ain’t sport to me anymore.

Regardless of my status, a woman that approaches me about dating is sexy as he!!z. And if I didn’t know anything else about her, I’m keeping the number.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:45 pm

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:46 pm

wow,leggs..thats funny! :lol:

mother in law??

google ndebele tribe if u want..yeah,they span south africa and zimbabwe.If u have heard of Tshaka zulu..zulu and ndebele are like cousins.Zulus are descendents of Tshaka zulu,and ndebeles are discendents of Mzilikazi,son of Tshaka Zulu who took his pple across the limpopo river to zimbabwe to form the ndebele nation.

U hit a ndebele girl,u can hit mother in law too.They can be loose like that. :lol:

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:48 pm

About two months ago my wife asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I told her my biggest fanasty was to have a threesome. It took some persuading and she finally gave in. Lets just say the best birthday present I have had in along time until the lights came on. Too my surprise laying next to my wife was her mother. Now I got to admit I have always thought my mother-in-law was fine ass hell. But now Im feeling kind of guilty when Im around my father-in-law. Just the other day she told me she wanted the same thing for her birthday. Help!!! How do I get out this situation and do I tell my father-in-law?

That is a bless man!!! LOL

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:49 pm

a woman that approaches me about dating is sexy as he!!z.

she sexxy as he!!z to me too,as far as jus hitting! :lol:

U see,she jus didnt become sexxy as he!! on seeing me..naw,she like that evrtime to evry guy she sees and feels she can approach.
She aint gon spin me like that..only to the extend that i want to be spun.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:49 pm

I believe it was her biological mother. Her daughter wanted to give her husband a treat.

Sorry, Melo, but reading your post made my eyes cross-eyed! :wink:

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:49 pm

That is a bless man!!!

:lol: :lol:

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:50 pm

Shut up Demi, that is a tormented man! However, there’s something wrong with the daughter for not letting him know it would be her own MOTHER!!!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:51 pm

her biological mother

his mother in law?? right Leggs??

a bless all the same! :lol:

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
1:52 pm

But wait,

On the one hand she’s overmatching the “other” dude’s, and in the other, you worried about her being loose.

Come on, Son!

That don’t even add up

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:53 pm

Legg…that story was a scam…see the last line…Just the other day she told me she wanted the same thing for her birthday

She now want to sleep with her dad or his dad one…too crazy!!

Demi

October 26th, 2009
1:55 pm

Melo…Amen, LOL!!!!

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
1:55 pm

That is a bless man!!! is it natural for some men to be so foolish, or do yous do it because you think it’s amusing?

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
1:55 pm

BTW, something is gravely warped about the mother to even agree to do something like that.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

On the one hand she’s overmatching the “other” dude’s

right Dan…a guy who got it must be able to see when a chic is giving u a “come on” vibe.A lame dude wont.Ordinarily,chics lose out all the time to dudes like that who cant read the signs.They simply move on.

If she has to throw the punch,then she fits the scenarios i pointed out above.

Tazzee - Need a weekend do-over

October 26th, 2009
1:58 pm

Demi – Hey Man! umm, yeah I think I shall drop kick you shortly, :lol:

SCool – Falcons loss, FF loss and Saint win. Maybe I just need a Sunday do-over, LOL. Oh and I peeped that earlier advance on the cloud scale ;-)

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

As for that Steve Harvey letter I had to turn the station on that, so I never heard the advice that was given to the dude.

I just found that mess to be so Nasty & Trashy. I know to each its own, but how in the hell and why in the hell you would want your mama in the bed with you as y’all freak your husband? How can they eat at the same table again?

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

do yous do it because you think it’s amusing?

czBrat??
we dont think its real! That was a radio show=entertainment
I i were to request that freak show, i wld have to nominate the qualified candidate,like her phine sister/cousin/niece etc

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:01 pm

I know who wrote that letter to Steve Harvey. She has appeared on the blog as well…just a recent as Friday! If not it was probably her crazy cousin.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:02 pm

yeah, i know Melo. i heard the show. but you’re follow-up comment just poses my question again!

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:04 pm

wrong, nasty, nasty, wrong, wrong, wrong, nasty, wrong, sick, nasty

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

LMAO @ Ms. Main

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

CzBrat??

which one..on the ndebele pple or the

that is bless??

which one…??

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

That letter just goes to show why this world is about to be blowed the uckf up! Ain’t no two broads working the same scene without being at least a little lesbian; so what does that mean, moms and daughter are licking each other?

‘Ey, and if dude likes the thought of remaining lead-free, then he bet’not tell pops.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:07 pm

I i were to request that freak show, i wld have to nominate the qualified candidate,like her phine sister/cousin/niece etc

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:07 pm

Obviously the mom and daughter had been discussing. How in the heck can you and your mom discussing doing your husband. Is nothing sacred anymore. They should be stoned for that….seriously.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
2:07 pm

Professor–

LOL…

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:08 pm

To hell in a handbasket…k, done

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:08 pm

I think that letter was too nasty to read on the air. A while back there was a letter about a lady that was engaged to or married to her brother because her father had a lot of children that did not know each other or something.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
2:08 pm

wrong, nasty, nasty, wrong, wrong, wrong, nasty, wrong, sick, nasty

LOl, it’s not that serious…some grown folks get down like that, I can’t knock them…not my style, LOL

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:09 pm

Ey, and if dude likes the thought of remaining lead-free, then he bet’not tell pops.

then again, if mum-in-law gets her b-day wish, pops might make son-in-law the guest of honor. ugh!! i’m done with this one :(

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
2:09 pm

Blue_Kolla

I’m with you on your 2:05…

and even if it was for entertainment purposes… How sick are you to incorporate your mother into that nasty fantasy…

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:09 pm

You can’t knock’ em but I can….nasty nasty nasty. Momma and daughter? Yeah, I’m knocking ‘em

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:09 pm

Dream

I see your LOL I bet we are thinking the same nut.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Ms. Main ~ I wouldn’t go far and say Mom and daughter have been discussing doing hubby, but they’ve have done and discussed this type of behavior. Daughter was comfortable enough with mom to bring it up probably knowing that it’s her hubby may make her say no. Other than that, Mom was game! What are they going to do for Thanksgiving Dinner?

Demi

October 26th, 2009
2:10 pm

I am like…just do you.

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Ms. Main I agree that is why I popped in a CD when I heard it was her mother I did not want that mess in my car or head, because it took a demon :evil: to send that letter.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Okay, I just read the letter…I think a hoax. Somebody responded and said they felt he may have done the MIL but not both…that I can see…and still nasty

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

Professor did you hear the letter about the dude that got his mum-in-law preggers? YIKES! k. now i’m REALLY done.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

I think I just threw up in mouth a little bit.

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

Leggs, Correction

What Who are they going to do for Thanksgiving

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

Professor….LOLOLOL at —–> that is why I popped in a CD when I heard it was her mother I did not want that mess in my car or head, because it took a demon to send that letter.

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:14 pm

@czBrat yes…too nasty.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:14 pm

Leggs – she was probably taught by moms

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:15 pm

Steve Harvey is a hater.. He is really full off himself.. I just cant listen cause his big head is in the way…

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:15 pm

@Ms. Main I was trying to find a WOW cd, but I had to settle for some Diane Reeves. I could not take that mess! Can you say Satan?

Professor--

October 26th, 2009
2:17 pm

@DK you know Good Morning America have Steve on giving advice as well. For the most part I am tired of those too big country azz suits.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:19 pm

czBrat..operative wrd is “IF”

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:20 pm

Leggs – she was probably taught by moms :lol:

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

I doubt that story is real tho…..

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

Yeah…I had typed this whole post about being a former fan of the Strawberry Letter segment and decided to stop listening to it because it was too much negativity in my life…especially first thing in the morning.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:22 pm

Ive been telling cats forever about those country a$$ suits.. I dont get it.. I buy timeless pieces.. Not something that Im gonna have to throw out next year.. I dont buy disposable suits…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:22 pm

Prof – Sorry forgot your name infront of last comment

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
2:24 pm

My mom and dad used to listen to those letters faithfully when he was coming on in the morning on WGCI in chicago….

Steve H… never really got into him..

Demi

October 26th, 2009
2:25 pm

Ain’t no two broads working the same scene without being at least a little lesbian; so what does that mean, moms and daughter are licking each other?

You mean those, “Momma Turned Me Out!!”, video are fake!!!!

I don’t think my video man shall remain lead free after tonite!! LOL

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:26 pm

I use to listen but frankly the entire show grates on my nerves. I’ll pop in every now and then..that’s about the extent of it. Can’t ever stay long though.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:27 pm

Prof – I saw the segment on GMA where he was trying to give advice to blending families. It was a trainwwreck.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:29 pm

Another thing…I didn’t take too much stock in the book either…some things I digested but heck, you’re on your dang 3rd wife. Noooow you wanna tell the secrets and get serious and look out for women. Took 3 wives and how many women to reach that point? Just my thoughts on that though…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:30 pm

Ms. Main – I can listen to 107.5 after he goes off cause I like the music.. But dude just talks about everybody and everything likes he’s the authority on everything..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:30 pm

Ms. Main – How can he tell you anything about a relationship and hes been married three times.. And his latest wife is a wh0re/golddigger..

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
2:31 pm

DK – Steve Harvey ain’t nothing but another Michael Baysden , making they way catering to broken-hearted women by dogging out brothers. And then when they get the following, slowly conditioning their minds for acceptance of any and every thing hoish and abominable.

You women better wake up before you find yourselves with your drawz in your hand and 2 dckis in ya mouth at one of Mike’s swinger’s meet-ups.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:34 pm

I didn’t mind the book so much. There are some who need to hear some of the things that he had to say and I appreciated it for that. As for me, most of it I had heard in the past. So, I just considered it part refresher, part entertaining read, part interesting points presented and an overall decent relationship book as far as that genre goes.

Also, at the Terri Vaughn event that I went to a couple of weeks back, even Terri points out that there are some inconsistencies in things Steve says in the book.

I just don’t think the book should be used as a relationship bible, but appreciate some of its points.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:35 pm

BK – Yeah. MBaisden kinda weirds me out with all that Hedonism talk.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:36 pm

Heres DK’s advice for blended families.

1. Keep your hands of that other dudes/womans child unless he/she aint present in the childs life.
2. Remember you are a step parent and that never supercedes a Parent
3. Dont say nothing about that childs Moma no matter what new hubby told you.
4. If it all possible try to be cool with the other parties/step parent.
5. Stay out of the fray between the parents.. Unless you are a cooler head and you kinda get along with the other parent.
6. Really know your role gibroni..

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:38 pm

i station surf in search of good ol’ r&b. ALL the commentaries generally grate on my nerves. like Professor said, just pop in a CD when it gets to be too much.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:39 pm

@)Profess ~ thanks for the correction.

Also, the other lady who was about to marry her brother was a heartbreaker. She had her fiance meet her father at a park or family bbq only to find out they’re brother and sister. She fainted.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:40 pm

Ms. Main ^5 on 2.29

Hw about the Spike Lee’s bafoonery and cacoonery comment on Tyler Perry movies??

I think Spike is right tho,even tho Tyler justifies his movies by saying hes making money and pple like them.
To me,Tyle Perry is no different to Bob Johnson and BET,making money perpetuating on screen, and stereotyping the vice and ville in the black community.The more u show it,the more it becomes “popular”(for lack of a better wrd) within some sections of the black comunity.
I wish Tyler had some sense of diversity in the potrayal of his characters and the story lines.

I have watched one show, i cant watch another of his shows.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:41 pm

Thank you, thank you, thank you Professor. I was driving Friday evening and “Better Days” came on and I started singing and singing and rocking and for the life of me I couldn’t remember who sang it…Thanks, Diane Reeves. Loves, loves, loves that song and I believe every word!

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
2:41 pm

Infamous – re: #1, what if the child is in your house, you’re the only adult present (bio-parent is gone) and the child needs to be disciplined?

That rule is one reason why I can’t date men with kids still in the whipping-a age bracket.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:43 pm

@SCool ~ I saw that segment and the only sane thing he said to one of the blended families is “none of my kids are called ’stepchillin’” That’s about the smartest thing he said that morning.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:44 pm

Here we go.. Just last week.. We loved Tyler now we gonna tear him down..

I dont like his movies.. Never have.. I get sick of the throw dudes under the bus theme he has goin except daddy’s girls.. However I like the House of Payne.. I tried not to watch it and then caught myself watching it one day and found it interesting.. The topics deal with everything, it aint all kicks n giggles.

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
2:44 pm

Melo…

Personally, I feel that Spike was totally out of line…

Do I like Tyler Perry’s movies? No.

However, why talk down another black person’s success.

By doing so, Spike is perpetuating another black stereotype…..the crab mentality.

Two wrongs don’t make a right.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:45 pm

DK…he can’t. I think it’s a copout to have women all in a tizzy over your cheat sheets when it took you repeatedly doing/getting it wrong first. Heck, let me take a peep after your scored 100 the first time around. I mean I can fumble through something over and over and finally get it right.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
2:46 pm

Tyler Perry…

Don’t too much care for him either.. The show is an absolute trainwreck. The movies aren’t that bad.. and the plays are foolywang at its best…. JMO

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:48 pm

I’m not going to tear him down because I like him and his movies. However, the tv sitcoms are corny, and the father on House of Payne needs a dentist. Can’t standing looking at his mouf so I can’t watch that show.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
2:49 pm

I do like Tyler Perry though and his movies. I like a black trying to do something….heck anything. I’ll patronize if it’s on the up and up.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:49 pm

Poppa?

However, why talk down another black person’s success.

I dont know what the “crab mentality” is but i think Spike is commenting on the perpetuation of black stereotypes in Tyler movies..i dont think he is denigrating his success….

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:50 pm

married once, twice, or ten times … i always appreciate people sharing from their own learning experience. i take from it what i need (if anything) and leave the rest alone.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
2:51 pm

I have said often, I don’t knock TP’s success. It works for his targeted audience. Whereas I MAY fit into the demographic, I purposely decline to support the majority of his projects.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:51 pm

TAzzee – you better play the cool step parent role and use your reasoning skills.. A step parent shouldnt leave that responsibility on you if their child isnt cool.. I know my son wouldnt be a big deal cause all you gotta say is Im gonna call your father

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
2:51 pm

It is freezing in these offices. What’s wrong with these fairer skinned folk and never getting cold???

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
2:51 pm

Love TP! Can’t stand his shows and I support his movies. DK – all his movies have one bad guy and another guy that saves the day. If anything, they show that the only way a woman can survive a trife dude is when Prince Charming comes along.

The only beef I have with his movies is his portrayal that successful women are witches (see Daddy’s Little Girls, The Family that Preys and Madea Goes to Jail).

But I have the utmost respect for the man and will support the movies (that I can stomach, almost lost my lunch in Meet The Browns). The television shows, I figure there’s enough folks out there keeping the TV shows on. Too much bad acting for me.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:54 pm

I like a black trying to do something….heck anything

Ms Main…so u a fan of the black vixxen lady…the one who slept with jay z,jah rule,every rapper,every r &b singer,the one in the raunchy videos etc etc etc wrote a book, etc etc……………………….

SHE BLACK

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
2:55 pm

DK – gotcha, again no children still within whipping-a age range for me. Shoot, I don’t let ANYONE leave their child with me if I don’t have full authority to get in that tail if they act up. Especially if they’re in my house. And if my stepchild is living with me, I’m sure there would be plenty of times when his dad won’t be around. Ain’t none of that ‘wait till your father gets home’ – if anything I’d throw the child in the car and take them over their bio-mom’s house and let the father pick up the child on his way home…

But then again, I wouldn’t marry a man that had that rule.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
2:56 pm

Ms MAin – That dude contridicts himself on sooo many levels its pathetic.. He comes across to me as the dude hating on you to your girlfriend because he secretly likes her and cant stand to see you with him.. He acts like her friend with hopes she will run to him one day..

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
2:57 pm

Furthermore, I know that Tyler gives back to the community. Once he gave his time. However, He cannot right now, but still gives money. Spelman, Morehouse, CAU really show patronize his shows because he gives quite a bit to them.

I have no idea what Bob Johnson spent his money on other than the Charlotte Bobcats. (Which is trying to sell for a profit & the NBA won’t let him because he hasn’t owned the team long enough to sell them) So, I can’t really compare them.

My point is that there are so few black actors and directors out there why do they have to tear each other down?

On another note, I saw Black Dynamite over the weekend(which was written by Michael Jai White, who also played Black Dynamite). It was pretty funny if you remembered any blaxploitation films of the 70s) If you didn’t see any of those Fred Williamson type 70s movies, you’d think that Black Dynamite was just offensive.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
2:58 pm

I changed my mind:

I luv all the black strippers handling their daaaaamn bizniss,pay8ing their daamn mortgage/rent and riding in deir daaamn cars!

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
2:58 pm

oh no! not foolywang LOL

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Leggs 2:51 They’re built for it.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
3:00 pm

DK I know my son wouldnt be a big deal cause all you gotta say is Im gonna call your father

Mayne, me and you had this same discussion probably ’bout 5 years ago. The best advice that I can give any man is to take your seed with you. Who better to raise a man’s seed other than that man. Ladies, do every man, his son and yourself a favor and send his azz to his pop’s. ‘Cause in the end, ANY kid under my roof is gon’ tow the line or get tor’ out the frame. I ain’t got time to call no fathers. When I say move out, Eggbert better snap to.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:01 pm

This is my thing with TP, there are women out there that are JUST like Madea – shoot I’ve met some. Never met anyone like Mr. Brown though…

If we got beef with him putting that onscreen then we must also have beef with these news outlets that interview the many ignoramuses out there – at least in TP’s stuff money is going back into the community.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
3:02 pm

TAzzee- thats why I aint getting married no time soon.. I would just assume to keep that drama to a minimum.. I’ll wait till he gets older so he can understand whats going on around him and can tell if he’s being mistreated.. Also old enough where he can govern himself according to what dad has laid down for him..

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:02 pm

Poppa,thats kinda funny thinking tho..

its like excusing the most notorious drug dealer coz he supports his community and parents and hosts a community dinner every xmas and finances some community kids education.

what of all the pple who have died of the drug viloence and what it does to the younger kids who drop out of school to pursue same,let alone the puffers of drugs??

BET and Tyler perry movies are doing damage to pple brains,esp those who know no beter.

I rest my case.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:03 pm

CZBrat…I think there are always take aways from any situation where we’ve emerged but he’s just so dang “matter of fact” like “ladies listen up”….ummmm, did he not know this on wife #1, side chick, another side chick, wife #2, girlfriend, sidechick…ding ding ding finally wife #3? You’re headed into your senior years, nooow you wanna bump ya gums. I wonder if he could revert back about 25 years and be ripe in the game if he would divulge such secrets….hmmm

DK – sounds like a big ole girl sometimes…lol

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:04 pm

Melo, I believe I said I’m a fan of any black man (I forgot the word “man) doing something constructive and that I’ll patronize anything on the up and up. Black vixens don’t make the list.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:04 pm

House of Payne…just grows on you…after a while.

Blue/MzSxyCool…MBaisden, Amen for those trips to Jamaica…I can’t go any more though.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:06 pm

I’m not a fan of TP scripts (other than the family that preys) they all pretty much follow the same formula.

As for support, you kinda have to. Dude puts money back into his cities (NO and the A), is a boon for local economies, and the people that work for him (actors, grips, AD’s, etc.)

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:07 pm

Leggs – told you before chica…GET A HEATER!!! I have this thing blowing 5 days a week.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:07 pm

Disciplining someones else’s kidz… that’s always a sensitive subject…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 26th, 2009
3:07 pm

Blue – And aint nothing changed.. Like I said them years ago.. A dude put his hands on my son he better be ready to deal with me.. Aint no dude gone break him to his ways of thinking, he aint a horse..

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:07 pm

Melo…

A crab mentality is trying to pull someone down to you instead of trying to get up to their level.

Tyler has sold enough plays, shows, and movies to open his own movie studio. Spike was in the game nearly 20 years more and does have that kind of success. He has to beg for funding for his movies. Then, he gets into spats with other regularly…he and Clint Eastwood got into it a couple of years ago about Clint’s World War II movies that didn’t depict blacks in it. Clint’s response to Spike was “Shut your face!” Guess what, Spike did.

It just seems like sour grapes to me.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:09 pm

Melo – to compare TP’s movies to the destruction the drug dealers do to the community is just plain ludricrous.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:09 pm

Ms. Main

Me too… Right under my desk!!

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:11 pm

@Ms. Main, let me play devil’s advocate. You support any black man getting his craft honed and making money. Black vixens not on the list.

Do you support R.Kelly in all his glory and indiscretions. Just curious on the many positions people have on R.Kelly. He’s a black man getting his “paper.” Or should he continue to be villified like Michael Jackson, only to love and accept him after he’s gone??

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
3:11 pm

TP is a sellout that’s only getting hype because he’s gettin’ paid – ’cause most nikkas ain’t taught a thing a home that doesn’t start with “as long as you get paid”. What I can’t stand is, that there are a million real-life Big Mama Madeas out here, that he could’ve cast in that role. I have no respect for a man in women’s clothes.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:12 pm

Melo – furthermore, TV in itself can do damage to ppl’s brains. Especially some this ‘reality’ stuff, talk shows, etc.

Speaking of folks hating – I truly don’t understand the anger over Good Hair. Saw it this weekend and I don’t know why some women are mad. If it’s the truth, it’s the truth. Dern shame, but it’s the truth. Ice T’s comment that ended the movie had me rolling!

GA Girl

October 26th, 2009
3:13 pm

Single women in Atlanta are so desperate to have someone in their lives, they don’t care if the guy (or girl- remember we’re in Atlanta!) has a significant other or not.

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
3:15 pm

Ice T’s comment that ended the movie had me rolling!

likewise, Tazzee. along with Nia’s “ummm. I have a pool.” LOL

Wise Diva

October 26th, 2009
3:15 pm

highly impressed with the discussion, especially the top of the day! It is always good to see this kind of thing from different perspectives, that is why I so love the dialogue on here! Priceless

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:16 pm

The swiss folks use to do that in south africa,making Tiki movies that used to stereotype the black kaffir as ignorant and tree climbing untill black nationalists spooke out..they wont do that in most of africa anmore.
Tyler Perry has been pretty “successful” bafooning blacks and milking the ish outta igno black folk…
The swiss laugh at that cacoonery for sho.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:18 pm

Ladies, do every man, his son and yourself a favor and send his azz to his pop’s.

Naw, d’ain’t gon’ wok…them ladies benee’n them child’s support payments…to help fund them and their new man, LOL

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:18 pm

I have my heater on, but with all the empty offices and no body heat around me, it’s colder than usual…

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:18 pm

You know what damages peoples’ minds most of all?

Other people.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:18 pm

czBrat – yeah, that one cracked me up too. My friend and I went to the first showing at Parkway Pointe on Saturday. It was about 50 women in there and it was like a bunch of girlfriends chilling watching the movie together.

Especially when they showed the preview for the movie Takers. OMG!!!! I can’t go see that movie with my fiance’ – that’s a girls night out movie right there.

MsM

October 26th, 2009
3:18 pm

‘Cause in the end, ANY kid under my roof is gon’ tow the line or get tor’ out the frame. I ain’t got time to call no fathers. When I say move out, Eggbert better snap to.

Blue… tears in my eyes, LOL and AMEN!

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:19 pm

Leggs….I’ll support any black man or person for that matter getting their craft honed when it’s something constructive and can be aired worldwide for the benefit of someone…anyone. Nothing more nothing less.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:20 pm

Melo – furthermore, TV in itself can do damage to ppl’s brains. Especially some this ‘reality’ stuff, talk shows, etc.

u damn right…my Queen used to watch that Atlanta house wives with my kids.I put a stop to it.She says its PG, i say so what?? These are impressionable kids and they see what they see and think its golden.

U cant let tv rule who are or how u raise ur kids.
In my house now, Atlanta houssewives,BET and other ghetto shows are is “R” rated.
By ME..
My kids wont watch that buggashyyt!!

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:21 pm

@Demi, that was below the belt and only ghetto arse, morally corrupt women fall in such a category!

For Real

October 26th, 2009
3:22 pm

If the kid is in my house and i am taking care of them then I’m whooping their ass and whosen-ever ass that got something to say.

Spike pulled a punk move! Let that man make money. TP has given more jobs to black actor than Spike ever has. My only problem with TP is that the bad guy is always dark skinnedendd.. I don’t think people know the definition of “sellout” anymore. Blue how TP a sellout?

I’m standing up for all the Vixens in the world. Yall have a friend in For Real. Zippppppppppppppppppppp!

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:23 pm

lol @ Demi: funny but true sometimes

Tazzee: I really enjoyed that movie.. don’t understand the negative up roar either *shrugs*

For Real

October 26th, 2009
3:24 pm

You know what damages peoples’ minds most of all? – Their mouth!!!

Angie aka Beautiful

October 26th, 2009
3:24 pm

if i were dating, i would date one brutha at a time. we can’t get away with dating multiples and not hear about it. yea, it’s not fair but thats just how it goes.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:25 pm

Spike was in the game nearly 20 years more and does (not) have that kind of success. He has to beg for funding for his movies.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:25 pm

Yep, I’ve seen it too…Dream_n

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:25 pm

@Dream/Tazz

It [the uproar about CR's movie] is kinda related to the Spike/TP kerfuffle.

You know the whole “airing dirty laundry” and all. Not so much what’s being said but the depiction.

For Real

October 26th, 2009
3:26 pm

Enter your comments here

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:27 pm

Melo…

Drug dealing is illegal. Movie making isn’t. So, that analogy is a reach at best.

Next, there are messages in the movies. Cicely Tyson or some other black acting long timer gives them. For those looking for the message, it is there. For those that just want to escape reality for a couple of hours, they can enjoy, too.

Furthermore, there is a market for his movies. Its obvious. If he stops, guess what will happen? Someone else will come along and fill that void. Capitalism won’t let that not happen. Reason, because money making isn’t illegal.

If there was no market, then I guess there would never have been any movies. He gained his following by doing the plays with Madea and the Browns. So, his followers knew the characters before they were on the screen. Many of his movies are just adaptations of the plays. I know plenty of people who went to the Meet the Browns and Madea goes to Jail plays years ago when they were at the Fox. Some stayed at my house while they drove from places like Thomasville, Tifton, and Fort Valley. So they actually made plans to come to the ATL to see this stuff.

To assume that everyone that watches that is “doesn’t know any better” is a reach at best as well.

Next, are you asserting that there is a causal connection between characters on a screen and kids dropping out of school? You need to show some proof. I mean did James Gandolfini acting like mob boss (Tony Soprano) causes Italian kids (that didn’t already think about it) in New Jersey to become mob bosses? Or did Tony Montana make cubans (that didn’t already think about it) to be drug dealers? Why is it that black americans have to be so weak minded that people those who didn’t already have bad things in mind were controlled by some fiction on a screen? It is damn insulting really.

If that is all that you have and you rest your case, Yu

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
3:28 pm

Naw, d’ain’t gon’ wok…them ladies benee’n them child’s support payments…to help fund them and their new man, LOL

Demi, right about now I’m be popping a CD in on you too.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:28 pm

@Ms. Main ~ good to hear, I know many that would have flipped flopped with just the example of R. Kelly.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:29 pm

Sound analysis PG but;

it’s Melo…..

Angie aka Beautiful

October 26th, 2009
3:30 pm

like KP stated eons ago, it’s better anyways to concentrate on one mate at a time to really get to know that person.

makes since to me.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:30 pm

My only problem with TP is that the bad guy is always dark skinnedendd.. :lol: TP said that’s because the light skinneded ones can’t act well enough to play the villain :lol: Although in the last movie…umm, escapes right now (with Taraji) that geigh dude played a decent bad guy. But of course some are going to hate that the Prince Charming was Latino…Can’t win for losing…

Dan – the thing with Good Hair is, the white and Asian community already know about that dirty laundry. Shoot I was the one enlightened in that movie because I did not know ‘we’ were paying THAT much to get our hair done.

For Real

October 26th, 2009
3:31 pm

Why is it that black americans have to be so weak minded that people those who didn’t already have bad things in mind were controlled by some fiction on a screen? It is damn insulting really. – Amen and let me add aren’t you sterotyping Melo for saying Black people aren’t smart enough to know the difference between reality and the movies? Next you will be saying black people only listen to James Brown because he is black.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:33 pm

Dan

Airing dirty laundry would be… Someone coming out and saying you’ve been sleeping with your best friend’s husband for 3 months now!!

Letting the world know that black women wear weaves and get perms???? oohhhh SHOCKER!!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 26th, 2009
3:33 pm

PoppaG – well dayum, there it is then on your 3:27

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:33 pm

@Taz

The Asians in America – granted they know;

The ladies in India, them too;

But other than the nationalities involved in the process, who else knew? nooooot the “average” white woman Yeah, anything with Nia Long has my attention – good movie. A funny take on shallowness, cultural mores, and rampant consumerism – with CR telling jokes

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:35 pm

Legg…Ghetto ‘oes get welfare…bishes gets child support…and often do not do right by their children…at all….it’s not a ghetto thing…lack of morales.

Men, regardless of how it happen…if it’s your seed…you are responsible for your seed…end of question.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:35 pm

Leggs – sometimes I’m a bit blunt and probably read as a bit self righteous but I’m serious about what I say. I’m not an angel but I do not agree with ANYBODY that’s selling crap. Music, videos, writings…whatever. Consenting adults is one thing, impressionable youth is another.

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:35 pm

Enter your comments here

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
3:35 pm

Who cares about the average white woman?

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:36 pm

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Dream

Yes, Black women where weaves.

Do we own any part of the means, modes, and production of the product?

How much are we willing to devote to fit a cultural norm for beauty (no lights, but weave)?

and, why?

Chris proposed some really interesting thoughts in that piece; and like Dave Chappelle being in a limo in the ghetto, it’s going to take people a minute to get it

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:37 pm

A funny take on shallowness,

Dan please explain???

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:39 pm

Oh please here we go with this I don’t love myself b/c I wear a weave non-sense….

Fit a cultural norm for beauty???

Here we go….

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:39 pm

And for the woman that birth that child, she too is responsible for that child and not collecting child support to support her and her man. Again, ghetto and morally corrupt females do that!

I get child support and I am not a bish!

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:40 pm

White women were weaves too. They just like to call them extensions

For Real

Yes, I am stereotyping Melo. I don’t deny it all.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:40 pm

@Ms. Main, I have no problem with being blunt. If I’m not clear, I will ask. That’s why I like you and all (even BlueK and InfamousD) that speak their mind.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:41 pm

@Dream

He interviewed a number of women and when the question of “why” was posed – blank stare, no answer, or platitude.

Shallowness in the sense of doing something (despite the risks) because err’body else is doing it

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:41 pm

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:27 pm
Melo…

Drug dealing is illegal. Movie making isn’t. So, that analogy is a reach at best.
Next, there are messages in the movies

i gave u an example of legal money..BET…

why u seem to think only “illegal” stuff is bad?
It wldnt be so bad if Tyler made one such movie and stopped..thats his bread and butter,like hes short of other ideas.Every movie of his has to have some bad black characters?? no diff to a movie director showing only blacks as thugs,robbers etc..dont u see the pattern??
Thats the bafoonery tip we talking about.
U cant justify evrrything simply coz smbody made more money or more money than so and so,so they gotta be right.I dont get it.

The bankruptcy of a man’s ideas and art is exemplified by what he churns out,not the balance in his bank account.

I mean did James Gandolfini acting like mob boss (Tony Soprano) causes Italian kids (that didn’t already think about it) in New Jersey to become mob bosses? may be no(since i dont watch movies that much) but is that his staple,does he always show movies like that.If he does,then proly yes.

Tyler Perry is feeding,literaly, off bafoonery.Thats all he knows.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:41 pm

Who cares about the average white woman?

This^ made me laugh out loud. :lol: :lol:

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:42 pm

Demi, right about now I’m be popping a CD in on you too….

CZbrat…oooooh, I love when you talk dirty…I would love to pop my DVD into your DVD drive.

Demi has gon’ Digital, Digital, Digital

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:43 pm

Why I point you two out, cuz y’all like to bellow! :lol:

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:43 pm

Melo…bite your tongue. What do you suggest Tyler Perry promote/sell?

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
3:43 pm

Taz – you feel me!!! LMAO!!

Are we still meeting before the concert Saturday? MND is as excited about MC as I am. LOL!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:44 pm

it’s Melo…..

ur point??

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:45 pm

What do you suggest Tyler Perry promote/sell?

there is more than bafoonery within the black community, Ms Main.

Balance…u know the word??

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:46 pm

Awwwwwww…DAYUM!!!!

I just found a blow pop in my desk…oooooooooh, blow pop..LOL

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:46 pm

Dan please inform me of the risks of wearing a weave, b/c I have yet to come across one….

If I’m coming across as a bit rude.. I do apologize..

This subject just makes my blood boil. As if because I choose to wear extentions(does that make it better) I some how have low self esteem.. Again foolywang at its best….

So what do we call a white woman that wears extentions and goes tanning?????

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:46 pm

You said Tyler is about bafoonery. Well, if making pictures that are trying to transcend a positive message is bafoonery then what could he possible do or promote that’s not?

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
3:48 pm

“So what do we call a white woman that wears extentions and goes tanning?????”

Pretty?

i'm swiss

October 26th, 2009
3:49 pm

“It is freezing in these offices. What’s wrong with these fairer skinned folk and never getting cold???”

Leggs — C’mon now, you know my people are built for cold. :lol: Man… Mrs. Swiss & I have totally different ideas of where the thermostat should be set. Of course, I willingly suffer through through the heat ‘cos that means Mrs. Swiss wears less clothes around the house… :lol:

As for the hair discussion — it’s not like it’s just black women that spend lots of time & money on their hair and/or general appearance. White women wear extensions, get perms, color treatments… and don’t even get me started on my people and tanning beds… At least a weave won’t give you skin cancer… :lol:

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
3:49 pm

@Dream

It’s not the weave (per se) it’s the chemicals that stay in your hair, scalp, cranium, etc. Do you really believe that lye applied that many times is good for you long term?

As for white women (in general) their hair and tanning, none of that is healthy either.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
3:49 pm

Bafoonery within the black is not attributed to TP….that’s black folks in the black community causing/promoting/selling bafoonery. No?

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
3:50 pm

For Real – Sellout = one who demeans himself and/or his race/culture/religion/creed for the sake of money and favor from the preconceived higher power… in this case, the Hollywood establishment. This is evidenced by the huge amount of the crying and bytching about how few screens his movies are playing on and the lack of film award nominations.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
3:50 pm

SexyCool

apparantly so…smh

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:52 pm

Every movie of his has to have some bad black characters?? Every movie has good and bad characters. The fact that TP’s movies are 90% black means that there will be bad black characters.

But if you saw The Family That Preys – the bad dude in the movie was a white dude. The main ‘bad’ female in Madea Goes to Jail was a Latina. So as he makes more money, he’s able to branch out and make his ‘bad’ characters more diverse.

a movie director showing only blacks as thugs,robbers etc.. Tell me one movie where blacks are only shown as thugs, robbers, etc. This shows that you REALLY have not seen one of TP’s movies because in every movie there are blacks that are good AND bad, with the majority being good.

Is there some shucking and jiving? yes, but the majority of the movies are about good folks and redemption.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
3:53 pm

@DK, yes sir…timeless is key! Not some zoot suit you have to change every quarter.

@Scool yes it was a train wreck with that crazy advice. I guess he thinks he is some type of health service counselor.

@Scool the book should not be used as a relationship bible I agree, and I am so tired of hearing Steve Harvey said, as if there was no value added relationship advice/books until he jumped on the scene

@Leggs “Better Days” is my jam, mantra, and reinforcement all in one. I believe in that song to my core!

@Melo Spike Lee vs. Tyler Perry…interesting both have important, but different roles in the community there have been times that I have agreed and disagreed with both. I am not a Madea fan, but I think there is a place for Madea just not on MY tv. At the end of the day, Spike should have kept that statement to himself…it sounds like a jealousy statement more than anything.

Who cares about the average white woman?

I know right, who cares…I did my cliff notes reading so I don’t know what that statement was in reference to, but who gives a damn about the AWW

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:53 pm

Where did I say that only illegal stuff was bad. You pasted my post. Post that part smart boy!!! To assume that I think only illegal stuff was bad is a mistake on your part.

Illegal things are the only things that we have the right to protect others from.

My point is who are you to save people from themselves? Didn’t you come to our country from freedoms. Why not give folks the freedom to choose for themselves? If they don’t like it, they won’t watch it or he will say something that will get him into trouble and off of the air.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
3:54 pm

Chemicals. Chemicals. Chemicals.

Are every-freakin’-where.
I can’t recal reading/hearing about cases of skin cancers or brain tumors caused by relaxers.

There are some horror stories of relaxer burn though…but that was operator error.

~lmao~

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
3:54 pm

i am just baffled by the cost of all this haircare. most of the women profiled were average, ordinary, by-no-means middle class women (at least they didn’t appear to be). how on earth do they do it?? the ‘why’ is fairly obvious … but how?? good grief i think i would have to sell my car and move to a smaller house to afford a weave.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:55 pm

how few screens his movies are playing on and the lack of film award nominations.

screen award???
LMAO :lol:

I have an even better suggestion for him…take his movies to rural africa where pple are derived of entertainment so they can see how the blacks in america are like. :lol:

He’ll make even more money,which is good enough for him!

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:55 pm

Who cares about the average white woman?

I do, some have some nice a$$es…

Legg…pipe down…you know what I meant.

ooooooooh, my tongue is so strong…I am almost to the middle…(licking’n’sucking from the top0…

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
3:55 pm

SCool – yes we’re still meeting up. BFF and her guy, you and YND and Mr. Me and me. I’ll let you know the time when I know, but I suspect it will be between 6 and 7.

Melo – in Madea Goes To Jail, one of the main themes was black youth coming from ‘humble beginnings’ and making something of themselves. One made it, the other did not – and the one that made it ended up helping the one that did not get it together. That seems pretty positive to me.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:56 pm

When Bo Derek wore cornrolls making it widely acceptable in the white community it was called fashion. When black women wore it boo coo times before that movie most looks from those other than thos of our own skin color was a look of WTF???? Here comes Bo, inventing cornrolls. Now, that right there is still laugable 20+ years later.

@Swiss, I know, I know. It’s mind boggling!

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
3:57 pm

@Professor ~ yes ma’am to my core, TO MY CORE!

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
3:58 pm

Melo

Know what you are talking about before you speak. Period. Do some research. Even Tazzee has called you out as one who has not watch TP movies.

Therefore, you are speaking from second hand knowledge. From someone elses experiences. It makes you no better than any person that blindly follows someone like Rush Limbaugh just because it is said. Or someone that takes Obama at his word without looking at the actions that follow.

A follower….

Melo

October 26th, 2009
3:58 pm

Why not give folks the freedom to choose for themselves?

thasts beside the point.nNodbody is asking him to not screen what he wants.Hes in america and if he so desires,eh can serially screen about prositition on cleveland road all he wants.
Its about his place in black america and the value of his art.
Thats all.

Didn’t you come to our country from freedoms

i miss that?? explain!

Demi

October 26th, 2009
3:59 pm

oooooooh….the gum really does feel like a nipple

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
3:59 pm

@Dream_n ^^^^^^5 on that 3:46. The first time I got a perm I was working and paid for it, and I do not have a perm now and it has been some years since I have had one.

As for the AWW let the scientist break down the perms, color treatments and tans they use.

I don’t know why these FQQLS act like they have never heard beauty hurts or the price of beauty i.e, stilletos, stockings, nails, lashes, hair treatments, waxing, plucking eyebrows, tight jeans, wearing a cute jacket in the winter time, implants…I haven’t seen no one outside of the Amish and the Broke ones keep it 100% and not add nothing or enhance nothing

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
3:59 pm

…and then again, maybe I can’t relate to TP and the Madea movies is because NONE of the women that I grew up around acted like that. Yeah… that’s probably it.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:00 pm

Okay so let’s talk about botx, chemical peels, lip injections, breast implants, all the things that can cause harm for the price of beauty….

Compared to the above me wearing a weave or getting a perm is harmless….

Leggs don’t get me started on what was quote on quote ewww but when someone elese did it was style and beauty!!! ugh!!!!

Anotha Brotha

October 26th, 2009
4:00 pm

Okay, AB – You listed all the things she SHOULDN’T. Now tell us which qualities the prototype SHOULD have?

It’s funny. About once every other month when I cross paths with a woman who has the looks to make a man want her and the class and grace to make him marry her…I’ll get hyped up, move in closer and, without fail, she’s already married. And I mean it’s consistent enough to not be an aberration. And women won’t like this but it is my observation that a woman (who’s older than 25-26) becomes desirable only AFTER she secures a man. I could list some of the common likes that the fellas and I have discussed but frankly I don’t think the majority of women (unless she gets paid because of her appearance) have the self-discipline to not let her mouth get filled with contempt, not let herself get sloppy with the weight and to not lose her femininity. Most notable example I can think of is Oprah. Was a hot mess, then Stedman came around and she thought maybe he’d be the one and she got fine and pleasant as she wanted to be. Had her running damn marathons all over the country, got feminine, happy… Oprah turned into a DIME. http://multimedia.heraldinteractive.com/images/32af6a99cc_oprah_1210.jpg

Now it’s become clear that Sted is out and guess who’s back to talking crazy about “Black men”, weight out of control, crazy weaves etc etc. This is what happens when a woman doesn’t have the presence of a man around imo and I don’t think she can duplicate on her own the motivation he gives her.

But to answer the question as best I can, usually happily married women look the same to me:

-She’s getting the attention she craves at home, so she tones down damn near everything that she thought would get her noticed.

-Flats instead of heels
-Soft-spoken instead of loud so that every man sees her
-Modest clothing instead of showing her azz so that every man sees her
-Wants to keep her husband happy and at home so she’s slender, presentation together
-She’s pleasant socially rather than having act aloof waiting for a man to “choose” her

It’s like night and day to me..

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:00 pm

czB – I used to spend the equivalent of a car note on my hair monthly. Then I lost my job and with that came the realization that I was spending 3 to 4 hours a week in a salon to get my hair done and another 1 hour every other week getting my nails done. At that point, I rediscovered the beauty of my naturally curly hair.

These days, I have the option of wearing my hair straight or curly. Most often, I wear it curly because I work out so often and only wear it straight for more special occasions. I happen to like it better straight, however, the heat, time and money required to keep it that way are not really worth it.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:00 pm

Mandela was free and south africa was liberated when i came here Poppa

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
4:02 pm

Tazzee

Furthermore, I liked Daddy’s Little Girls best….It was about a black father fighting for his rights to his children in a judicial system that was willing to favor the mother (even though she lived with a drug dealer).

How is that tomfoolery? A father loving his kids enough to fight for custody of them? I thought that was what was right.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:03 pm

AB – Interesting point of view.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
4:03 pm

Melo…oh, you are being offensive at this point…strange.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
4:04 pm

Leggs – I’ll never forget my teacher’s telling me I was wearing my hair like Bo Derek. I was in elementary school but I vividly remember telling that woman that I’d been wearing my cornrows LONG before Bo Derek :lol:

Blue_K – none of the women I grew up around acted like that, but I have since met women that do. One friend’s grandmother is Madea to the core! I couldn’t relate to the way Gabby and her friends acted in Daddy’s Little Girls – but I’ve since met some women that act just like that.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:05 pm

Scratching my head on Anotha B’s 4:00….

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:06 pm

you are being offensive at this point…strange

hw so Demi?

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
4:06 pm

cornrows, not cornrolls….wow!

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
4:07 pm

Hmm, ain’t nobody tried to holla at me since I got boo’d up… So I say pooh on AB’s point.

J/K – I’m so up in the clouds, I probably wouldn’t even recognize if someone tried to flirt with me. SCool, I’m on Cloud 9 waiting for you to catch up ;-)

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:08 pm

White women have been spending money on beauty and all it’s entrapments since before we can remember. Black spending money to get beautified ain’t a new invention. My only thing is black women really don’t need to do as much as we spend. We have the color and features that are so now envied. The only money I spend is at the hair salon. Every other week for me and my daughter. If it’s washing only that’s about $80.00 if it’s perms that’s about $140 – $150. That’s the least I can do being the working woman I am and all I really need. I still say, with the right getup, you can work wonders void of a lot of other stuff. That’s just me though…not knocking anyone else’s regime.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

As for the weave prices on that movie…y’all do know that some of those folks were lying for the camera, right? Not to mention you have to factor in the cost of living in other areas like Hollywood.

Dan -fighting the homecoming hangover

October 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

@Dream

Why? (4:05)

He makes some great points. Although I can’t agree with his assessment of married vs. single, that list is the way a strong chick behaves (whether externally or internally motivated).

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

I’m addicted to the Creamy Crack – I admit it, not ashamed of it.

Every time I think about going natural my stylist reminds that I don’t like to take time with my hair now and with as much as I sweat in my hair working out, I’d have to do something to it daily. Since I’m not ready to cut it all off and I despise braids…I’ll stick with my addiction (and my ponytails)

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

Its about his place in black america and the value of his art.
Thats all.

It isn’t all. His place in black american flim is already big thanks to that studio. Sidney Poiter had tears in his eyes when he was honored by Tyler Perry as he named the main stage in honor of Sidney Poiter. That shows that he understands what those that came before him sacrificed so that he could have an opportunity.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:10 pm

Color and features aren’t the only things white women have secretly envied but that’s for another day…lol

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
4:11 pm

I’m just glad TP put the line in “she wasn’t like that when we were growing up” cuz I’m trying to figure out how the hell he got caught up with all that ghetto trifleness and disrespect toward her own girls.

Demi

October 26th, 2009
4:11 pm

Melo…call me around 5-6..

I am out y’all.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:12 pm

I could care less what a woman spends on making herself look/feel beautiful…

As long as nothing is suffering… ie: kidz, car note, mortgae/rent, phone bill…etc

My poo and I went and got manicures and pedicures over the weekend… I’ve been doing my own hair sense I was 16 or 17…. Spend about 100-150 dollars each month on it…

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

@Leggs ^^^ on that Bo Derek posting!

@ Dream_n, girl you are raising some good points

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

oh, i hear ya, SexyC. it takes me 3 days to straighten my hair. needless to say, those sightings are few and far between. it’s the wash & wear look for me on the daily.

-She’s getting the attention she craves at home, so she tones down damn near everything that she thought would get her noticed.

-Flats instead of heels
-Soft-spoken instead of loud so that every man sees her
-Modest clothing instead of showing her azz so that every man sees her
-Wants to keep her husband happy and at home so she’s slender, presentation together
-She’s pleasant socially rather than having act aloof waiting for a man to “choose” her

AB seems to me you’re saying a woman changes (is less attention-getting) when she’s married. but if we do that, then we’re told “you gotta keep doing what you did to get him if you want to keep him”. so which is it???

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

The chick that AB described sounds like Miss Jane Hathaway.

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Ms. Main, the other secret envied by white women hasn’t been a secret for many many years.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

Professor – did not know that. I do know that my fiance’ was sharing with me how much he pays for his daughters’ weaves and I was still :shock: But I do think the prices they were quoting were for one year because the stylist mentioned maintenance when she was talking about the price.

I only go to the salon for my relaxer every 6 to 8 weeks. I may go in between if I have a special event to attend or I don’t feel like washing and setting my own hair, so with hair care products I would venture that I spend about $750 on my hair annually, max. And I make good money. Then again, if some saw my travel and entertainment budget they would be :shock: so I guess it’s all in what you value.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

SC At that point, I rediscovered the beauty of my naturally curly hair.

On top of that I’ll bet you that your scalp and overall hair condition is in much better shape. I wish that all the sisters would throw that weave sh!t in the trash and get back to Real Black hair. Yoll ain’t doing anything except making it possible for a Korean to open a restaurant and sell you rat backs… callin’ then wings and sh!t. SMH

AB Philanthropy is a failed profession in here my man. Pick up them jewels, they don’t want them. I swear you really lay it out there real nice and neat for the ladies.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

Taz – not too far behind, trust. Above the Cloud 6 level, fa show.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:17 pm

@Dreams right on! I spend a pretty penny on my hair and tomorrow I am going to try those Minix nails. It is nobody’s business what I spend because I am the only one putting deposits in my account.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:18 pm

Leggs – the other secret envied by white women hasn’t been a secret for many many years.

I know right

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:18 pm

Sidney Poiter had tears in his eyes when he was honored by Tyler Perry as he named the main stage in honor of Sidney Poiter

going on a tangent with ur sentimentalism.

That he built himself a studio with the billions he racked is not inot qstion.

Again,u deliberately missing the point and dwelling on symbolic gestures and “sweet sentimentalisms”.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:20 pm

BK – not so much. My curl pattern is so tight that I relax so that I have a lighter Curly Sue look going on. And since I keep it short and don’t have to put a lot of heat on it, I will color it out of boredom.

So, although my hair LOOKS natural, it still has a lot of chemicals in it. It just doesn’t cost me as much because I maintain it mostly at home now and only visit the salon once every two to three months for a cut.

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
4:21 pm

It isn’t a sentimentalism.

You said that it was about TP place in black america, blah, blah, blah.

He honored the first black man to win an Oscar by giving him the main stage at the FIRST black own studio in America.

But don’t worry about it….I’m done with you.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:21 pm

I am the only one putting deposits in my account.

and that’s all that matters… so until YOU have to pay for the maintenece of my hair please silence the mouth and enjoy the scenery…

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
4:22 pm

Then again, if some saw my travel and entertainment budget they would be so I guess it’s all in what you value.

exactly! cuz what i don’t spend on hair & nails i surely spend on bags & shoes :)

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:22 pm

@Tazzee like the lady dressed in the purple that said her hair cost a 1K well those ladies were dumb because all of their weaves were wrong! They could have gotten them cheaper and just paid her to do her service.

I feel we all have our vices whether it is hair, cars, trips, gambling etc so I try my best not to count folks money or judge them

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:22 pm

Hmm, ain’t nobody tried to holla at me since I got boo’d up… So I say pooh on AB’s point.

seems to me you’re saying a woman changes (is less attention-getting) when she’s married. but if we do that, then we’re told “you gotta keep doing what you did to get him if you want to keep him”. so which is it???

The chick that AB described sounds like Miss Jane Hathaway.

AB See what I’m saying? ^^^^^

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:23 pm

Commercial Break – BLASTING RAGGEDY ASS HOME DONE WEAVES WITH TRACKS AND GLUE SHOWING – You GOTS to do better.

Now, Back to our regularly scheduled programming.

For Real

October 26th, 2009
4:24 pm

“For Real – Sellout = one who demeans himself and/or his race/culture/religion/creed for the sake of money and favor from the preconceived higher power” – Isn’t that called a job? Black people are not a collective (ie one mind, one hope, one dream, one fear) Black are a very diverse collection of people as demonstrated here on the blog. Why is it that no other race is held accountable for the actions of so few? I mean if you used Tussy that doesn’t mean every single Black person use it.

Melo: Are you saying there are no bad Black people? Life is about good vs bad and no one race has exclusivity to good or bad.

AB: You have a point in some aspects

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:25 pm

@czBrat I know right bags, shoes and clothes! I went shopping this weekend and last weekend…this is the time of year that I treat myself really big. I do it in the spring as well. Nordstrom’s got me!

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:25 pm

Professor

omg… I said the same thing!!!
lmao!!

I don’t pay nearly as much and I do my hair myself and I have women playing the guessing game of if my hair is real or not… Let me tell you when I say I perfected it.. I have perfected it!!

My mom used to braid my hair under the weave, which is a great idea b/c it grows the hair also…

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:25 pm

BK – I found nothing of value in AB’s post. It was more criticism than question answered.

If I summarize AB’s answer, it sounds like what he’s looking for is a skinny, nondescript married chick.

I’m just saying.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:26 pm

He honored the first black man to win an Oscar by giving him the main stage at the FIRST black own studio in America

and what does that have to do with bafoonery and cacoonery we talking about??

Now is that laughable or what??

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:28 pm

Had her running damn marathons all over the country, got feminine, happy… Oprah turned into a DIME.

Okay

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:28 pm

Had her running damn marathons all over the country, got feminine, happy… Oprah turned into a DIME.

Okay that was funny

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:29 pm

For Real..there are bad pple and good pple in all races.

Balance…

TP movies suggest hes bankrupt of ideas…we used to watch those “Tiki” movies in south africa.Demeaning..we banned them

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

I associated Oprah’s life/appearance changes with maturation and becoming more comfortable with her money and making her money work for her. She didn’t GET fine when she got Steadman. She got fine when she started really getting paid.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

SexyCool

Don’t forget that wears flats…. :)

*blank stare*

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

LOL @ Professor & Dream_n!

For Real

October 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

Melo: Name the TP movies you have seen.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

SC I summarize AB’s answer, it sounds like what he’s looking for is a skinny, nondescript married chick.

Not skinny, just NOT fat, with a big A stomach and two chins… and always runnin off with the mouth.

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:32 pm

To each his own. Someone pegged it right. If it’s not hair it will be something else. Whatever it is you dig, do what you feel, spend what you like.

For Real

October 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

She got fine when she started really getting paid. – Nope that’s a lie. That’s like saying JayZ was cute before Beyonce

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

Dream I hear ya! Mine is type too, but I do not have the time to do it myself and I don’t think my skills are up to par yet either!
I have heard men talking about weaves and weight, attire and hygine.

Guess what???????????

Those are the main ones that mammies and sisters show up with the messed up Milky Way 1B and overweight…dressed like they were turned down from walking the Ave…FOOTS cracked open from lack of pedicures and the fill-in was due two weeks ago while the polish is chipping and the design falling off. “I’m just saying and sharing my experiece.”

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

See what he should’ve said was that he wanted a chick in the mold of Michele Obama. She fits every part of the description that he laid out.

For Real

October 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

Not skinny, just NOT fat, with a big A stomach and two chins… and always runnin off with the mouth. – Or breast sitting on 22″

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:35 pm

Damn some flat heels…I love my heels and will continue to wear them and I don’t wear them to get a man I wear them because I love them.

I wish I would stop wearing heels because I got married=that is stupid!

Ms. Main

October 26th, 2009
4:35 pm

Gotta agree about the Stedman thing. He ain’t really been her man…in my book….maybe so, I could be wrong. I think though that after all these years, she’s found her comfort zone, made her name, made her own money and can now do what ever the heck she wants…if it means gaining weight again. I think she’s discovered to heck with what you think.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:35 pm

Melo: Name the TP movies you have seen

FOR Real? :lol:

u hitting me below the belt :lol:

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:36 pm

Okay, BKlaughing.

And For Real – JayZ is still not cute.

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
4:36 pm

Blue_K – I guess you missed my J/K after that statement.

Melo – it’s buffoonery and while ‘coonery’ is not a defined term, I’m sure that’s what you mean. And if TP’s stuff was that bad, I’m sure Mr. Poitier would have declined. Or are you saying that he falls in that category too?

I can’t name one black actor/actress that hasn’t portrayed or been in something that can be viewed as negative so from your standpoint – we wouldn’t have any black folks on the screen.

Shoot, She’s Gotta Have It was full of buffoonery if you ask me. School Daze really aired some dirty laundry but I guess it was OK since it was portrayed on a college campus.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:37 pm

Some of these men kill me always talking about weight and who is fine and who is not. When they lack muscles and a nice body…and the last time the word fine was used to describe them was when someone said he is doing ok…he is fine I saw him at Church’s by the wash house last week!

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:38 pm

Say what’chall want, I’ve never been an Oprah fan, but I’m glad that she picked that weight back up, with her thick azz. :D Who’d she think she was anyway, country big girl trying to look like Becky?!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:40 pm

I’m sure Mr. Poitier would have declined

so Mr. Poitier is….???? that his opinion has to be ur opinion and my opinion too??

Its his opinion and im sure he likes TP movies…..thats beside the point.

i wld rather take ur point that u see positive messages in the mvies etc, than the fact that Mr ?? accpeted an award from TP and hes balck so that means…..???

see my point.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:40 pm

Prof – I was just about to go there and ask – what can these prototype women expect from you men?

Because my thing is, if I am the prototype, I ain’t settling for no bllsht. So, what are YOU bringing to the table?

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:41 pm

When they lack muscles and a nice body…and the last time the word fine was used to describe them was when someone said he is doing ok…he is fine I saw him at Church’s by the wash house last week!

LMAO…

For Real

October 26th, 2009
4:42 pm

So, what are YOU bringing to the table? – Black Cafe and earmuffintechtomies.

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:43 pm

SCool I can tell you this most of them are not bringing NOTHING, but a wishlist as if we are Santa!!!

They kill me with these prototypes when they do not stack up, and the women in their families look a hot mess

Leggs

October 26th, 2009
4:43 pm

Too funny, Melo cuz you just proved his point.

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

Leggs..plantation mentality here…

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

Ms Prototype will receive That Dude, handler of all things on all fronts, her go-to guy.

SexyCool - Mint Condition Countdown - 5days...

October 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

If I am the prototype, what are you giving me?

The opportunity to lay up under you on a regular basis, birth your babies, cook, wash, clean, still get up and take my behind to work er’day in a plain blue 80’s skirt suit with shoulder pads and flats, hair in two french braids, still coke bottle shaped and not speaking much louder than a whisper?

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:47 pm

Dream I am so serious about this because they cannot take their shirts off (some of them) without me frowning and getting scared of that beer belly, stretch marks and dingy undershirt that DOES NOT MATCH those boxers, yet they say our underwear does not match our bras and toenails not matching fingers…get the F out of here with that mess!

I try not to snap, but when someone post all this crap about women you know they are not 100%….well I will bite my tongue on that one it is not worth the keystroke

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
4:47 pm

Professor, you gonna end the day in the corner again?

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
4:48 pm

Exactly what are you bringing to the table..

If you want a tight/skinny chick– I don’t want to see any fat on you… you better be ripped

If you want a soft spoken guy: I want the same… shut your azz up and don’t express any opinions that may call for debating.. andkeep your volume to a minimum

If you don’t want any heels ( ???)– Then I want no sneakers.. I need you in dress shoes 24/7.

If you don’t want 500 plus Facebook friends: I only want you to have one good buddy.. all the rest of your bb friends got to go..

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:50 pm

Prof… slim, you better drop you a Bayer aspirin – your blood pressure is sure to skyrocket. Personally, I don’t care if your bra matches your pan-teez or not, as long as they’re coming off real regular. :)

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:51 pm

cz…I am leaving before I get kicked out.

Dream_n girl you said it best in that 4:48

…I am out! Peace

Professor (sort of sleepy)

October 26th, 2009
4:52 pm

BTW,

BK I laugh on this blog it does not bother my BP…I am good

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
4:53 pm

Melo

plantation mentality here…

One thing that we do agree on

Spike v. TP is a field negro v. house negro thing

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
4:54 pm

I thought you were out?!

Melo

October 26th, 2009
4:55 pm

Spike v. TP is a field negro v. house negro thing

to be contininued………

good nite all!!

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
4:56 pm

BK

I lurk more often than you guys know.

Many times I don’t have time to really get in to the discussion because I am practicing for moot court.

Blue_Kolla

October 26th, 2009
5:00 pm

Pop – Have you been talking to me or Melo all this time, ’cause I may have to reread some of this blog?

Yoll be safe. Contrary to Atlanta’s Police Chief, there ARE thugs walking the streets of Atlanta.

Poppa Grande

October 26th, 2009
5:01 pm

Melo with the exception of 456

Tazzee - Patience is a Virtue

October 26th, 2009
5:03 pm

Melo – my point is, Poitier is one of the greatest to hit the big screen. Knows much more about the struggle in the entertainment industry than you or I.

But I’m still waiting for you to tell me which TP movies you’ve seen. Because I really don’t think you have a point until you’ve seen one. Otherwise, you are also guilty of the plantation mentality because you’re basing your comments on what someone else has said – not what you’ve experienced.

Good night all.

Dream_n

October 26th, 2009
5:06 pm

still coke bottle shaped and not speaking much louder than a whisper?

I just read that.. lmao

Night All!!

czBrat

October 26th, 2009
5:07 pm

PG u still out there?