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Tattoos, Cigarettes, & Shoes

I recently had dinner with a group of friends when the topic of dating came up.  One of the men mentioned how he was finding it hard to meet lady-like women.  I challenged him on this because I know plenty of lady-like women who are sophisticated and classy.  How is it that he manages to not to meet them in Atlanta?

He tells me that a lot of women have an image of sophistication but when you get a closer look, they have tattoos and they smoke, which apparently isn’t lady-like behavior at all.  I’m sure we all have our preferences in dating, but do you think judging a person by their tattoos and smoking habits is fair?

I think it goes deeper then judging a book by its cover.  One of the women at the table said that she actually checks out a man’s shoes. When I asked her what a person’s shoes says about them, she said that it lets you know how much they care about appearance. Now, what does that have to do with character? She never truly correlated the two, in my opinion.

I have said it before, but we have ridiculous reasons for ruling out a potential mate. Are tattoos, smoking, and shoes legitimate reasons to pass on someone? What is the most superficial, ridiculous reason you dumped someone? Have you changed your ways since then? Do you still rule people out because of something somewhat trivial?

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IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm

@Sexy – love your poetry. I am into poetry especially my own – No I am not into myself

Anotha Brotha

October 23rd, 2009
1:40 pm

Hmmm… I’ll play. Lmao at weed purple lips! Instant turn off and I probably won’t be doing any type of business with you…ever. Here’s my list and another reason I say there is no “ratio imbalance” of eligible women to men in this town.

1) Attention starved dress (Heels, cleavage out, butt out)
2) LOUD, sassy, contemptuous mouth
3) Raspy, club voice
4) Over weight/ lack of discipline, accountability
4a) Weave (Usually to cover up the weight)
5) 500+ Facebook friends
6) Visible tattoos
7) Any kids out of wedlock (kids period, actually)
8) Funky attitude/arms folded/gas face
9) Rambling about lack of quality men when any of the above exist

Sorry ladies, but that takes a strong 85% of you all out of the game (for a man seeking his wife and no headaches).

To be fair, here are the things I have to shake my head at when observing my counterparts:

1) Razor/Neck bumps
2) Thirsty male tendencies (breaking neck/buying random women drinks)
3) “Me, personally…”
4) Ghetto Steve Harvey/Kwame Kilpatrick suits
5) Escalade/Suburban/Tahoe (w/rims)
6) Cupcaking w/ women containing the above.
7) Gaming married women/Flirting when married
8) Randomly spreading that seed

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:41 pm

I got lunch from chick fil la and look at this Chick Fil la does it everytime. I love their waffle fries but can they please stop put the majority of crumbs in the box. I mean I nearly paid six dollars for a meal. Only to eat six waffle fries and the rest crumbs. (Yes I am cheap on some things food being one)

i'm swiss

October 23rd, 2009
1:43 pm

Afternoon, folks.

Catching up…

Smoking — BIG turn off. Don’t want to make out with an ash tray.

Tattoos — Eh… Not my cup of tea. IMO they either make women look slutty or lesbo — either way, not what I’m looking for.

How about the ability to properly use the English language? That’s a big must for me. Don’t have to be proper all the time — there is a time and place for colloquial speech (this blog, for example) — but must be able to speak and write coherently when appropriate. And on that note… this has been keeping me busy all day. Simple game — 4 tweets, 4 different cities. Guess which one is from Atlanta. Hilarious and sad all at once…

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 23rd, 2009
1:43 pm

Enter your comments here

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
1:44 pm

Yep CZBrat…check it out

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:46 pm

@ Swiss oh yess on the language. If you use dem instead of them or pronounce anything with a str like skr (ex: skreet=street; skrong=strong; or consincrate=concentrate) then no don’t even look my way.

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:47 pm

AB hit on something that just weirds me out – his #1, paying special attention to the cleavage out part. Why in dahell do I have to walk around seeing all of a chick’s t its with the exception of her nips looking like she’s about to have a frickin’ wardrobe malfunction at any second?

I do not want to be THAT familiar with your mammory glands. Put them WMD’s (Weapons of Mass Destruction) away. That sht is NOT sexy.

I have to often reign my sister in. But in a way, she ALMOST can’t help it. She’s got superJugs. Them joints bigger than my whole head.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
1:51 pm

Anotha Brotha – I think I’m a social misfit because I’m sooo agreeing with #5 on the chick side of his “don’t.” I feel smothered with a whole bunch of folks. Give me a good 2 or 3 really really good friends and my SO and I’m good.

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
1:51 pm

Them joints bigger than my whole head.

at least thats what God gave her,i cant fault anybody for that as long as they present/dress them up nicely.
Now,thats different to smebody who barely dresses them up so she can reel in guys with their looks..now thats hoeish.
But u know what??,if we on the crowded dance floor, i wont mind cuping them!,with ur tacit consent/approval. :lol: :lol: :lol:

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:51 pm

Anyone with an extremely country accent and poor english skills I can’t do it. It’s like meeting someone with bad breath and trying to get to know them you have a heard time just focusing on what they are saying. I just can’t.

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
1:52 pm

Over weight/ lack of discipline, accountability

Why is this funny to me?? lmao!

MsM

October 23rd, 2009
1:53 pm

@ Dream_n… I’ve seen some very nice looking gentlemen of the older crowd… !

What?, What? I’m 46 and just get floored by how aged a lot of men my age and younger look. I can tell they may have been nice looking at some point, but what the hell happened?

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
1:55 pm

extremely country accent = poor english skills

lmao!!!

Elijah ....

October 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm

Good Afternoon funny people!

I did not know we had some many comedians on the blog!

Turn-offs….

Flat booties will not work! I need something to grip! :Lol:

Cigar or cigarette smoking will not work! I dated a lady who smoked and I could not kiss her at all!

Negative personality!

I luv tattoos that are strategically place on a woman and not openly expose so everyone in the world can see them! You will be deemed (Come and get it by men!)

I used to rock lagerfled, polo, grey flannel and old spice in High School.

Hello Sexy Sassy! What’s shaken at the CDC?

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm

What?, What? I’m 46

hw u looking MsM? good,beau,pretty or cougar nad beautiful? he tall?

Professor--

October 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm

AB,

I love your list! I hate those jacked up azz suvs with rims and music blasting!

BTW I went for wings today…I will eat some seafood Sunday

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm

@MsM – I know my father looks young at 46. When we go out together people think I am his girlfriend.

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
1:58 pm

we switced Proff..

i went for that spicey chicken,but i aint liking it.

lunch is so much difficult for me!

Professor--

October 23rd, 2009
2:00 pm

For the record,

A country accents tells where you are from not your education level. Hell I am told that I do not have a southern accent and I always cringe when I hear this I want it to be known that I am a little southern belle and proud of it…I am not going to toss my education around just yet

Professor--

October 23rd, 2009
2:01 pm

Melo,

Lunch can be difficult. I love the days when I have some raw veggies and salad waiting for me. Otherwise I will eat stuff I don’t need

MsM

October 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm

Why in dahell do I have to walk around seeing all of a chick’s t its with the exception of her nips looking like she’s about to have a frickin’ wardrobe malfunction at any second?

I stopped by Pepper’s in Riverdale on my way home after working late last Friday (hadn’t been in there in at least 2 years)… Bartender small-petite build with very large boobs (implants) on full display, unmoving, blue veins and all showing. I kept thinking that looks painfull!

Elijah ....

October 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm

She’s got superJugs. Them joints bigger than my whole head.

Their is a great job for your sister Super C… I mean Sexy C…! The 24k Gold Club they now have a shortage of ballet dancers! :lol:

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
2:03 pm

I was sitting here typing – “I like it that MND doesn’t have a flashy vehicle. His paid for 98 Jeep is sexy as all get out to me.”

Then I had to laugh at myself.

I’m so open right now – that dude could hold up bellybutton lint to the light and I would think it was the greatest thing on earth.

Pay my ramblings no mind.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:04 pm

@ Profess – I agree with you. I definitely don’t associate country accent with level of knowledge. I used to have an accent but when I moved out west I tried the hardest to lose it. You would never know I a from georgia now.

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
2:04 pm

Professor lmao!!

Chill chica it was a joke :)

Oh and IWLDLIKE2

Can you refrain from posting about your uncles, daddy, grandads, or any male in your family pls… I’ts beginning to seem a little suspect if you ask me :)

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:07 pm

@Msm – too funny! I was thinking about getting butt implants. I got something back there but I would mind having something you can place a tray on like Serena Williams. I want that thing to jiggle for minutes if you slapped it.

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
2:08 pm

Melo if you were gonna head to E.Pt or C-Pk you should’ve just gone to the Mo-Joes in Riverdale. never disappoints.

Professor--

October 23rd, 2009
2:10 pm

@Dream I had to put it out there…its all good.

Now about these paw paws, uncles and cuzins…what do you suspect? I know what I think. You first, Ms. Dream.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
2:11 pm

IWLDLIKE2DATE I want that thing to jiggle for minutes if you slapped it.

Ummm,you forgot to put your “LOL” behind that, cause you’re kidding right? You’re too funny

Elijah ....

October 23rd, 2009
2:11 pm

Hello Professor! I have some roses for you! When do you want them? :wink:

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
2:11 pm

Mo-Joes in Riverdale??

whats the exact location,i may have to try them next friday when i eat out next, at lunch

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
2:12 pm

Seriously, the first mention of the uncle kind of threw me – especially in its context.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
2:12 pm

Dream_n Can you refrain from posting about your uncles, daddy, grandads, or any male in your family pls… I’ts beginning to seem a little suspect if you ask me

I didn’t want to say it because I didn’t want to seem like the blog meanie but thanks…you took care of it for me. I almost did an “ewwwww” but I refrained.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:12 pm

@ Profess – Come on don’t even go there. I am very close to the males on my father side of the family. That’s predominatly all thats there. I know it may sound like incest or something not right but it is a just a close family relationship.

Leggs

October 23rd, 2009
2:13 pm

@Anotha Brotha ~ you put sassy in your #2, so I’m eliminated. :lol:

@Professor ~ my boss just told me I’ve lost my NY accent. Impossible!

“…that dude could hold up bellybutton lint to the light” That has me laughing really out loud.

@IWL2D, are you one of the kids from “Children of the Corn” all grown up?

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
2:13 pm

hmmm. accents? the spanish accent comes out when i’m pi$$ed. the NY accent still shows up on ‘garbage’ and ‘door’. i gave up and switched to saying ‘trash’ YEARS ago, but i think switching to ‘entry’ would be ridiculous, so i’m working on that one.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:14 pm

*Predominately

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
2:14 pm

However, I think it’s cool that you can have that kind of memory and association about your uncle.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:16 pm

@ Ms. Main – I would like more in the trunk. I kinda got the white girl model shape going on. Petite with a little helpings of everything.

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
2:16 pm

Proff, a Tahoe loks nice even tho i wldnt buy one myself.

Dont want to be stereotyped as proly a rap producer or rapper or as smebody possibly with a stash of illegal stuff(stolen jeans,copyrighted illegal brands,meth,coc or borb marley)
If u live in lawrencville/clayton and u drive such,u in trble.

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
2:18 pm

I think it’s hilarious when short dudes get out of big suv’s.

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
2:20 pm

i give up! my last four posts have been gobbled up. i guess WD has heard enough outta me today.

Ciao and great weekend everyone!

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
2:21 pm

Here here….me too on this —–> Don’t have to be proper all the time — there is a time and place for colloquial speech (this blog, for example) — but must be able to speak and write coherently when appropriate

My previous manager…clear that is….would always comment on emails where I’m communicating with business partners and she’d be copied. Something always to the effect of “great email.” Did you expect otherwise? But yeah, if were sitting around doing say the company lunch and sort laid back and just enjoy a nice long break, they’d look as if we’d grown two heads (me and the other nubians) if we relax and just let the ism flow out of us.

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
2:23 pm

Leggs i’ve conquered all but garbage and door on the NY accent. now i just say trash instead, but replacing entry for door is just too ridiculous, so that one i have to live with (for now).

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
2:24 pm

@Ms. Main – That is why I try my best even in casual and business to speak correctly. – If you speak casually slang and ghetto it’s going to eventually come out in your business – especially if you speak with out thinking.

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
2:27 pm

IWL2D – “If you speak casually slang and ghetto it’s going to eventually come out in your business.”

Don’t necessarily agree with ya’ there. Especially since I do not speak without thinking when dealing professionally with my co-workers.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
2:28 pm

IWLDLIKE2DATE, hey I ain’t overflowing in the truck area either but here’s what I’ve found. Keep everything proportioned. No big guts, big backs, etc. Wear quality….cheesy is out! Here’s how I appreciate it. When you leave you’re 20s and all that extreme stuff (big butt, big chest, huge thighs) begins to give way, the “not too much” settles much nicer and gracefully. My sisters were truly the Berta Butt girls and always asked me what happened to mine. Well, they’re all over size 20 and the stuff just landed…lol I figure the sexy tight years have a shorter life span than the expanding years. So, appreciate your body and work with what you got. My daughter’s father use to ALWAYS tell me to enhance my best feature…my legs.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
2:29 pm

trunk area I meant…so not centered today