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Tattoos, Cigarettes, & Shoes

I recently had dinner with a group of friends when the topic of dating came up.  One of the men mentioned how he was finding it hard to meet lady-like women.  I challenged him on this because I know plenty of lady-like women who are sophisticated and classy.  How is it that he manages to not to meet them in Atlanta?

He tells me that a lot of women have an image of sophistication but when you get a closer look, they have tattoos and they smoke, which apparently isn’t lady-like behavior at all.  I’m sure we all have our preferences in dating, but do you think judging a person by their tattoos and smoking habits is fair?

I think it goes deeper then judging a book by its cover.  One of the women at the table said that she actually checks out a man’s shoes. When I asked her what a person’s shoes says about them, she said that it lets you know how much they care about appearance. Now, what does that have to do with character? She never truly correlated the two, in my opinion.

I have said it before, but we have ridiculous reasons for ruling out a potential mate. Are tattoos, smoking, and shoes legitimate reasons to pass on someone? What is the most superficial, ridiculous reason you dumped someone? Have you changed your ways since then? Do you still rule people out because of something somewhat trivial?

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SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
12:47 pm

DON’TCH’ALL GET ME TO TALKING ABOUT A GOOD SMELLING MAN!!!

Lawd geezus! I just got to the office. Y’all gone make me hit MND up on the 95.5 The Beat Booty Call!!!

Me: Hey, Babe. Whatchu doing?
MND: Trying to finish up this report.
Me: Why don’t you meet me at home for lunch and we can have some of that Lagerfeld?
MND: Huh?
ME: You know. Come on over and get some of that Brute going on.
MND: Whatdahell?
ME: I’m just trying to get some of that Old Spice.
MND: Babe, are you okay?
ME: Just come and splash me with some of that Cool Water.
MND: Be there in 15 minutes.

Professor is.....

October 23rd, 2009
12:47 pm

@ Melo – Wow you lived the closest to me. I am quite sure we may have seen each other.

Run Melo Run

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
12:48 pm

It was the IT guy and he was under my desk. He came up and said “girl whatchu wearing”….

Main I had to stop myself b/c my mind instantly went into the gutter….but I digress. And it’s raining,too…..

IWLD when it comes to approaching a man like that it’s all about tact. What I like is when I catch them off guard….

Dream life is too short to be serious All of the time…ya know…gotta brake up the monotomy.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
12:49 pm

That shoulda been “break”…my bad y’all.

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
12:49 pm

Leggs/Professor

Not even right.. lol

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
12:50 pm

Blue – LOL – That would be My New Dude. More LOL!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
12:50 pm

Obsession on a man makes me want to close my eyes and rest my head on his shoulders.

Me toooooo!!

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
12:51 pm

Proff,

I like wings on a friday but there arent good ones over here..and i dont know of a place i can get some….wings ofcourse!

I like them dry and crisp,lemon paper or mild hot and not steroid azz big.
I may have to drive to Brake Pad in E pont/colli prk.

Hws the weather outside..any hooked up garbage collector/trucker/mail man/popo(not bfi) in here?? :lol:

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
12:52 pm

where u live now?

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
12:52 pm

Blue I almost got you on that one…..uh huh…I bet. You too Sassy lol

K…allow me to rephrase. The IT guy was working on my computer and needed me to move out of the way because he needed to get to the outlet underneath my desk. I was sitting on top of the desk, waaaaay over to the side and he came from underneath my desk and asked me, while sitting waaaaay over to the side “girl whatchu wearing?” I hope that clears things up a bit. LOL

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
12:54 pm

@Melo – Hello in Atlanta!!

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
12:54 pm

Not in Lithonia (where they put it on ya) anymore

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
12:55 pm

Dream_nI didn’t know there was an art to putting those things on.. my BF is a master! but if not done right, it can look very odd.

We had a lady to come into the hair salon on her “off” week all panicked because she needed to ger her lashes dones…seriously. My stylist and a few others recommended some place across from SDM, and get this, said they can do them permanently. Permanently? Seriously. I kid you not.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
12:56 pm

Decatur and Lithonia = hot ghetto mess

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
12:57 pm

(where they put it on ya)

??? who?

Professor is.....

October 23rd, 2009
12:57 pm

I am with you Melo I don’t want no church’s chicken azz hot wings either.

I want some wings again, but three times in one week (I will probably eat some on Sunday) is too much.

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
12:58 pm

Ms. Main – a friend of a friend ended up at the ER a month or so ago trying to get some lashes. She has some sort of allergic reaction and her eyes swelled shut.

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
12:59 pm

I just heard the woman say that. Just like Decatur is where its greater ~ Lil Wayne no what his name that said that? He had a song with Ashanti called the South side

Melo

October 23rd, 2009
1:00 pm

“girl whatchu wearing?”

Ms Main,he slide to the side the moment he got a drop speck on his nose,whislt under u….or dang,she clean down there!

where u thinking of ur loved one then…

Its nice smetimes for a woman not to wear nikkas but dammn,u neva know when u need the IT guy under there! :lol:

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:00 pm

He had a song called get it shawty. His name is at the tip of my tongue. Lil Scrappy no it lil something I think

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23rd, 2009
1:00 pm

IWLD – I live in Decatur in a Nice spacious Brick Home on a acre, 10 mins from downtown.. And it aint nothing around me ghetto.. Just old folks with nice lawns..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
1:00 pm

Now, if they say yes, you are not to put your arms around them and hold them in a bear hug.

Funny as he!!…but true :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 23rd, 2009
1:01 pm

IWLD – LLoyd..

Professor is.....

October 23rd, 2009
1:01 pm

I like lashes myself, but mink or human lashes are the best especially if you are going somewhere special…go for the mink no one will never know

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
1:02 pm

IWLD you talking bout Lloyd?

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:03 pm

@TIOK – Thank you I just looked it up too – It was going to bug me til i found out.

Professor is.....

October 23rd, 2009
1:03 pm

His name is Lloyd

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
1:04 pm

Ms. Main

Permanently?? really…

I just went to go see “Good Hair” last night with my two girls… and thought it was quite comical.. not offensive at all. Although I was a little sad to learn about the indian women sacraficing their hair to their “GOD”.. then knowing it may be on my head… I felt some kinda way about that.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 23rd, 2009
1:04 pm

IWLD – Lloyd is who you are talking about

Professor – now I want some wings!! Im trying to decide what to eat too, stomach is scratching my back

Back to the good smelling men – LAWD GEE-ZUS!! Thats a great thing right there

Professor is.....

October 23rd, 2009
1:06 pm

…stepping out

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
1:07 pm

Mo/Professor

Go with a chicken ceaser salad pita with extra ceaser sauce!!! delicious :)

IWLDLIKE2DATE

October 23rd, 2009
1:08 pm

My stomach is starting to touch my back. I am going for lunch brb…

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:08 pm

All the good smelling man – I just sent MND a text telling him that I want to feel on him. ~lol~

East Point's Own

October 23rd, 2009
1:09 pm

Let me see back in high school for me it was it was
1. Cool Water
2. Polo Sport
3. Lagerfield
4. Curve

Then in college I got a hold of some Issey Miyake and it was a wrap…

Now its
Sean Jean Unforgivable
still down with the old school Issey Miyake
Carlos Santana
and all the “Black” colognes… Kenneth Cole Black, Polo Black, Armani Black… all the Blacks are good.. LoL (does that make me racist???)

But that’s just http://hispointofview.com

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:11 pm

I have also dated guys that weren’t into colognes and/or wearing scents – briefly.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
1:12 pm

SexyCool a friend of a friend ended up at the ER a month or so ago trying to get some lashes. She has some sort of allergic reaction and her eyes swelled shut.

Oh my…that’s serious. I don’t think I’m digging lashes that much. Another one of my coworkers (not the one I mentioned) goes to the Mac counter and her always look hawt.

Now Dream_n I don’t know but I was just sitting there listening and they said permanent. I don’t think I want things like that altered. You know?

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
1:12 pm

and all the “Black” colognes… Kenneth Cole Black, Polo Black, Armani Black… all the Blacks are good.. LoL (does that make me racist???)

Ditto EPO

how the heck did i miss out on Lagerfeld??? i’ve never known anyone to wear that.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
1:13 pm

Melo I ain’t even got words for your 1:00. You’re bad.

Ms. Main

October 23rd, 2009
1:14 pm

CZBrat how the heck did i miss out on Lagerfeld??? i’ve never known anyone to wear that.

Girrrrl…yeah you missed that one

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 23rd, 2009
1:14 pm

My stomach is starting to touch my back. I am going for lunch brb…

Ditto…..

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:20 pm

I bury my face in his neck
And he holds me.
I am filled by the essence of him
And touched by the way that he knows me.
He cups my face in his hands
And he kisses me.
And when I’m not with him
He tells me he misses me.
I see forever deep in his eyes
And feel the love from his heart.
And it is my prayer to the Creator
That he and I will never part.

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
1:23 pm

Ms.Main guess i’ll just have to have the little one bring mama a sample :)

MsM

October 23rd, 2009
1:23 pm

Ladies, your thoughts on men who shave their body hair?

Real Men Do Not Shave Their Body Hair!

Dream_n

October 23rd, 2009
1:24 pm

Ms. Main : I’m with you

I’m not against it.. I just don’t think I would do permanant beauty features.

ie: make up/eyelashes/eyebrows/moles/ lipstick..

For Real

October 23rd, 2009
1:24 pm

For Real now slapping the hell out of SexyCool for copyrighting purposes!

czBrat

October 23rd, 2009
1:25 pm

SexyCool sounds like you’re up to at least Cloud 7 today.

Angie aka Beautiful

October 23rd, 2009
1:25 pm

morning bloggers!

@LEGGS
i have a great attitude when it comes to dating. i love to date! i’m excited about meeting my future pooh bear. but i refuse to go into a date thinking everything will be roses, nothing will go wrong, he will be a gentleman and be what i’ve been looking for. that is unrealistic. if i went in thinking this will be the best date ever i would be one depressed puppy. i simply chalk it up to *he’s not the one*. moving on . . .

get it?

i’m a realist, not a dreamer! this is why my posts read the way they do.

did you guys see THE OFFICE’s wedding? it was a tear jerker for me.

MsM

October 23rd, 2009
1:32 pm

I broke up with a guy who was a mouth open, sloppy, wet, all over your face kisser… I’m sitting here actually scrunching up my face and pulling back from the screen while I type this LOL :)

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:34 pm

Okay…in addition to zzziiipppp…..For Real has now added sssllllaaappppp!!!

SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.

October 23rd, 2009
1:35 pm

czB – at about 6.2 and holding.