Tattoos, Cigarettes, & Shoes
I recently had dinner with a group of friends when the topic of dating came up. One of the men mentioned how he was finding it hard to meet lady-like women. I challenged him on this because I know plenty of lady-like women who are sophisticated and classy. How is it that he manages to not to meet them in Atlanta?
He tells me that a lot of women have an image of sophistication but when you get a closer look, they have tattoos and they smoke, which apparently isn’t lady-like behavior at all. I’m sure we all have our preferences in dating, but do you think judging a person by their tattoos and smoking habits is fair?
I think it goes deeper then judging a book by its cover. One of the women at the table said that she actually checks out a man’s shoes. When I asked her what a person’s shoes says about them, she said that it lets you know how much they care about appearance. Now, what does that have to do with character? She never truly correlated the two, in my opinion.
I have said it before, but we have ridiculous reasons for ruling out a potential mate. Are tattoos, smoking, and shoes legitimate reasons to pass on someone? What is the most superficial, ridiculous reason you dumped someone? Have you changed your ways since then? Do you still rule people out because of something somewhat trivial?
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czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
11:30 am
aggwitty i feel your irritation with the diction thing. i will admit i cannot seem to break the Brooklyn accent on the work ‘garbage’, so i just stopped saying it about 25 years ago. now i just say ‘trash’. i’m still working on ‘door’, cuz i think switching to ‘entry’ would be even more ridiculous.
Grad student
October 23rd, 2009
11:31 am
I am rocking my pink slacks right now…
I always have on the cleanest meanest shoes…. (women do look and comment)
Why is everyone so judgemental.. eww I can see why nuff woman do not have a man and why some men are so lame.
I do not like cigarette smoke. I am not into the tat thing but It has not been a deal breaker in the past.
Women love me for my Hygiene.
MEN Vs Women – Women should take MORE BATHs than men because your internal and exposed to air / yeast. We are external.. do not let me get third grade on you.
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
11:32 am
IWLDLIKE2DATE
I like em older!!!!
I guess my cut off would be 40-45…
I’ve seen some very nice looking gentlemen of the older crowd… !
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
11:32 am
Date I want a guy that dresses prep aka Brook Brothers dress. spiritual, smart and over 25. That is all my requirements.
You better do a lot more reading of this blog, as opposed to actual dating, because if that’s all that you require of a man, then you’re a prime candidate to become the next get-ran-through broad of Atlanta. You’ll get your 50-dyck patch inside of 3 years.
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
11:32 am
Brook Brothers…I don’t know too many 25 year olds shopping at Brooks Brothers…whatchu know bout that anyway? LOL
Ahhh gotcha….Blue That’s funny
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 23rd, 2009
11:34 am
ABC – Youre putting too much on it.. I got tattoos cause I like em.. Plain and simple.. And I dont get into what people think of me.. You havent figured that out yet..
aggwitty
October 23rd, 2009
11:35 am
Brooks brothers isnt considered prep, its considered conservative. J crew/Gap and Polo is considered prep
Melo
October 23rd, 2009
11:37 am
I want a guy that dresses prep aka Brook Brothers dress. spiritual, smart
For ur age range IWLDLIKE2, a brother who dresses like that and shops at Brooks Br wld have to be a young pastor with his own church.
They got ample money in the coffers to steal from,at the expense of some sorry, failed-relationship whimpish women.
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 23rd, 2009
11:40 am
Ya’ll missed it.. Iwouldlike is used to that style.. Those trust fund babies..
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
11:41 am
DATE I want a guy that dresses prep aka Brook Brothers dress. spiritual, smart and over 25. That is all my requirements.
You better keep reading this blog as oppose to actual dating, because if that’s your only requirement of a man, then you’re a prime candidate to be the next ran-through-broad of Atlanta. You’ll have your 50-d!ck patch inside of five years.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
11:41 am
Infamous – I had to go ahead and put this back out there again cause I sooo agree:
“I got tattoos cause I like em.. Plain and simple..”
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
October 23rd, 2009
11:42 am
I got tattoos cause I like em.. Plain and simple.. And I dont get into what people think of me..
That’s what’s up DK. That’s why I got my tats as well…I got them at different points/stages in my life and each has a unique signifigance that’s very personal.
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
11:44 am
They got ample money in the coffers to steal from,at the expense of some sorry, failed-relationship whimpish women.
Melo’s rendition of Pimps In The Pulpit
LMAO
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
11:44 am
@BK – No one is getting inside here unless they qualify. So I will have the cobwebs until that day.
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
11:46 am
For ur age range IWLDLIKE2, a brother who dresses like that and shops at Brooks Br wld have to be a young pastor with his own church.
They got ample money in the coffers to steal from,at the expense of some sorry, failed-relationship whimpish women.</strong?
Melo,
I agree someone 25 always dressing in Brook Brothers outside of work, hell he probably is not wearing it to work is either is a mortician, at his own funeral I am not being funny or a young Madoff…I like a man that knows what works for him. Do not I repeat DO NOT show up to take me to the movies with an ascot on, my dear I am not impressed.
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
11:47 am
You’re right aggwitt….Brook Brothers is straight conservative…price and all…no preppys up in there. I went to get my dad a pair of slippers from there before he passed….they went for the low low $169.00. Want to say that was the sale price.
IWLDLIKE2DATE – you’ve found some young dude that can roll with Brooks Brothers? Heck I go to their sale racks….mostly Better yet, I’m more at home with the location up at North Georgia Mall…where stuff is marked down…LOL Shoot they had (last year’s)boots going for $600…75% off back in August. I can swing that.
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
11:47 am
@Melo – I meet christian men that dress as I would like that are my age. The brook brothers, gap, polo/ralph lauren. Now if I could just get a guy my age to wear Brute they would have me for life. Something about Brute just reminds me of my favorite old uncle.
aggwitty
October 23rd, 2009
11:50 am
Brute? what the hell. Iwldlike, you want an old man for real.
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
11:50 am
People dress like brook brothers!!! I know that store is expensive but I like the style. I consider it prep its in the same category with Polo.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
11:51 am
@IWL2D ~ glad to hear it. You knew what you needed to do all along. Guess you needed some “outsiders” to confirm what you already knew.
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
11:52 am
I remember that Brute since I was a kid. I have fond memories of being with my uncle while he was wearing brute I was like seven or eight.
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
11:53 am
IWLDLIKE2DATE…RL carries a range of styles…not all is prep
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
11:54 am
Do not I repeat DO NOT show up to take me to the movies with an ascot on, my dear I am not impressed.
Professor you’r a fool!! but i do agree
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
11:54 am
IWLD,
You are really funny and bring great laughs to the blog, and for that I raise my glass to you. However please kindly note, that Old Spice is the winner over Brute by a large margin.
Also I don’t like seeing some young-cheese cutting-wrinkled suit wearing-Old Spice-Brute wearing-25 year old with a McDonalds hairline looking 60 years old.</strong<
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
11:54 am
IWLDLIKE2DATE – not Brute!?!? For Real?? WOW….:shock: Im with AggWit on that one….lol! I think the furthest I can go back is Farenheit
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
11:55 am
@Mo, I like that Cool Water still…LOL
czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
11:55 am
IWL2D ~ honey, you sound like a completely different woman today.
Leggs, you wanna re-think that post?
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
11:57 am
Main Now was that $600 before or after the 75% markdown?
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
11:58 am
@CzBrat – I just like what I like. Some of the posts on here have been crazy as far as preferences. You are not exempt.
Melo
October 23rd, 2009
11:59 am
IWLDLIKE2DATE u will probably find dudes in ur range who dress that way at the church…conservative,nice and brooks bros,maybe or close to it.
If u christian and go to church often,then u good.
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 23rd, 2009
11:59 am
Brute.. Where they do that at??
Melo
October 23rd, 2009
12:01 pm
I wear Old spice,brute,cool waters and Usher!
They all on my dresser.
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
12:01 pm
What the heck is Brute???
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 23rd, 2009
12:01 pm
You might as well get some of that Faberge Musk.. Or some Stetson..
You put any of the forementioned colongnes on Brooks Bros clothing and it will burn holes in it..
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
12:02 pm
Before…original price. I don’t believe because it was the weekend prior to school opening that such drastic markdowns were done because quite a few pieces (i.e. skirts/dresses) fell in the range of 40.00 – 80.00…after all the reductions taken. Yep, that was at BBs
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
12:02 pm
Did you not read my earlier posts I said my favorite “old” uncle.
Brute is a cologne I just liked b/c of my uncle. If I guy I dated wore it I would love it! It smells good to me.
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
12:02 pm
Sorry….that should have been….”I believe since being the weekend prior to school opening…”
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
12:03 pm
Ding Dong….
Prof: Heyyyy…. What hell?!?!
Grad: You ready?
Prof: Ready fo what?
Grad: Our date and I hear the movie is off the chain
Prof: WTF!! Looka here sucka, I don’t date dude that wear ascots!
Grad: Why not?
Prof: Why not?!?! First of all ascots are worn around the neck!
Grad: Oh!
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
12:03 pm
@The Infamous – I am really LOL LOL
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 23rd, 2009
12:04 pm
IWLD – Well I am not mad.. At least you like what you like but I think you want an older dude..
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
12:04 pm
I feel comedy hour on here
So, once this 25 year old put on his jacked up suit with the split in the back of the jacket! What’s next? Communion. Those are the biggest losers because they know they want to put on those jeans and talk to the ladies at Atlantic Station, instead they are sweating off that old spice and shouting in the pulpit.
czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
12:05 pm
or my daddy’s fave … Jovan Musk!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
October 23rd, 2009
12:05 pm
I think the furthest I can go back is Farenheit
For me it’s Obsession….and actually I don’t even know if I can do that cause ERRBODY and they grandaddy was wearing that at one point. One year for Christmas an older friend of mine got a Brute gift set..that’s right a gift set,anyhoo, he kekpt it and “re-gifted” to one of his old friends and they LOVED it. I’m laughing at it now.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
12:05 pm
@czB – Possibly???
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
12:05 pm
Cool, nothing like getting quality merchandise for the low.
Ms. Main
October 23rd, 2009
12:07 pm
Blue – I was going bananas in there…lol
I think Karl Lagafeld is what I can remember and considered the “smell good”
Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)
October 23rd, 2009
12:07 pm
Brute.. Where they do that at??
OKAAY???!!!
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
12:07 pm
Or that lady killer – Lagerfeld.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
12:08 pm
Professor – okay I did like Cool Water as well! LOL!
Sassy – I remember my boyfriend in high school wearing Obsession!
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
12:09 pm
Main, I see that you and I are running parallel in the fragrance arena.