Tattoos, Cigarettes, & Shoes
I recently had dinner with a group of friends when the topic of dating came up. One of the men mentioned how he was finding it hard to meet lady-like women. I challenged him on this because I know plenty of lady-like women who are sophisticated and classy. How is it that he manages to not to meet them in Atlanta?
He tells me that a lot of women have an image of sophistication but when you get a closer look, they have tattoos and they smoke, which apparently isn’t lady-like behavior at all. I’m sure we all have our preferences in dating, but do you think judging a person by their tattoos and smoking habits is fair?
I think it goes deeper then judging a book by its cover. One of the women at the table said that she actually checks out a man’s shoes. When I asked her what a person’s shoes says about them, she said that it lets you know how much they care about appearance. Now, what does that have to do with character? She never truly correlated the two, in my opinion.
I have said it before, but we have ridiculous reasons for ruling out a potential mate. Are tattoos, smoking, and shoes legitimate reasons to pass on someone? What is the most superficial, ridiculous reason you dumped someone? Have you changed your ways since then? Do you still rule people out because of something somewhat trivial?
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Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
Leggs~ the first sample was a bit much. Lets see if the next verse will be better. Shall we request more?
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
@ Sexy – that was a line from a poem that I wrote.
@ Leggs – I consider my poetry deep.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
For Real – not the Hangover! LOL!
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
Tigers love pepper. They hate cinnamon
SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
I wrote that 4p cause Prof asked me to.
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
czBrat
okay! It’s raining here too… I have a b-day party to go to, don’t think I’m going to make it.
czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
4:07 pm
OH…and…it sounded more like a Square of Friends.
can’t take no more! ciao!
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:08 pm
Whose baby is that?”
“Check its collar or something
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:08 pm
Shall we request more?
Professor… are you really asking that??
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:09 pm
SCool…I read it again and again trying to make it deep, but I laughed until I cried. I am in time out too, so I will be quite for the next few minutes.
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:09 pm
We’re getting married in five hours.”
“Yeah … that’s not gonna happen
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:09 pm
Is this hotel beeper friendly? I’m not getting a signal. Where is your bank of pay phones?”
SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.
October 23rd, 2009
4:10 pm
“That’s not our Doug. Our Doug’s a white.”
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:10 pm
“I shouldn’t be here. I’m not supposed to be within 200 feet of a school. Or a Chuck E. Cheese.”
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:11 pm
Professor
Stop!! Yes you are in time out… You have my co-worker asking what’s so funny!!!
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:11 pm
“I’ve found a baby before”
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:13 pm
“Next week’s no good for me. The Jonas Brothers are in town.”
For Real
October 23rd, 2009
4:13 pm
“Not at the table Carlos”
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:13 pm
Ok, I am out of timeout
SCool thanks for the poem I needed that…you know I am trying to get my circle right, so that poem was right on time.
Dream, hell naw I don’t want Emily Freakerson writing no more poems, but I could use another laugh though, so you ask Maya Loser-lo
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
4:15 pm
@ Professor = Hater
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:17 pm
Professor=hating your poems and yo’ fake azz picasso
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
4:17 pm
@ Profess your comments were funny really they were
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
4:17 pm
@IWL2D ~ I’m pretty sure you do because that’s what you should think.
Would you care to give us some more. Perhaps something with a little more bite to it? Which one of you just stepped on my toe???
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:18 pm
Melo any hits on that email yet?
IWLDLIKE2DATE
October 23rd, 2009
4:18 pm
I am always open to opinions – they are like azzholes – everybody has one =)
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
4:19 pm
OMG, I am crying over here.
Blue_Kolla
October 23rd, 2009
4:19 pm
At a 200 member event, if there are 100 women and 85% of them want a dude 6′4″, but at the same venue there are only 5 of 100 6′4 dudes, are 50 chicks sharing the same 5 d!cks?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
4:20 pm
For Real – please stop!!! LMAO!!!
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:22 pm
hating your poems and yo’ fake azz picasso
I’M DONE!!!! Why you have to through in the print Professor!!!!!
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:23 pm
hating your poems and yo’ fake azz picasso
I’M DONE!!!! Why you have to throw in the print Professor!!!!!
Melo
October 23rd, 2009
4:24 pm
Proff…none,yet
but a vulture is a patient bird
(thats a james hardley chase classic)
czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
4:24 pm
back and catching up. my side is hurting again already. dang Prof had no idea your gift for one-liners!
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:24 pm
Sometimes you meet people that have an azzhole for a brain…
Blue Kolla are you a man or woman?
i'm swiss
October 23rd, 2009
4:25 pm
Did somebody order some vanilla?
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
4:25 pm
OMG ya’ll are off da dayum chain!! Too freakin funny
Bruce
October 23rd, 2009
4:26 pm
I feel some reasons that people have listed are valid reason like bad breath or whatever. But looking at a man’s shoes tell nothing. He could have just brought those and be just as nasty as anybody else. Or he can just be a hard working guy that doesn’t car about shoes. I am a dad and my wardobe and shoe game lacks cause I spend extra money on her. But I am not sure if that has turned off some women. But its probably best that it didn’t work out.
czBrat
October 23rd, 2009
4:26 pm
welcome Swiss i believe IWLD has been having blue-eyed visions today.
Professor is.....
October 23rd, 2009
4:27 pm
Dream/czBrat every now and again I like to add a little humor to the blog. Just a little fun.
Melo, my man I like that line
SexyCool - Walking on sunshine. Dancing on air.
October 23rd, 2009
4:27 pm
Friends
A nod to IWL2D
Those closest to me know me best.
They know that I’ve been tried
Yet continue to face life’s test.
They held my head
while I’ve cried my tears
Been with me through thick and thin.
They know where the bodies are buried.
I’ve confessed to them my greatest sin.
Closer than family. Thicker than blood.
We’ll never tell all that we’ve been through
My circle of friends,
I hold dear to me for
This bond is tried and true.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 23rd, 2009
4:27 pm
Im Swiss – more like white chocolate!
Poppa Grande
October 23rd, 2009
4:27 pm
For Real
Now remember, what happens in Vegas stays, in Vegas… Except herpes, that mess will come back with you.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
4:27 pm
@Prof ~ go back to that corner and keep SCool company!
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:29 pm
Swiss
Please explain to IWLDLIKE what it’s like to dat a “white” guy:)!!!
Poppa Grande
October 23rd, 2009
4:29 pm
Suisse,
I am going to my first KISS concert tonight (with some clients). I guess that I will see some crazy things.
Poppa Grande
October 23rd, 2009
4:30 pm
The concert is actually Monday….So I guess that I won’t go tonight.
Professor still in timeout
October 23rd, 2009
4:31 pm
Leggs~I was just trying to see what was going on plus Scool told me to read her 4:27 out loud.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2009
4:32 pm
That’s a circle of friends.
IWL2D’s circle was just spread too far apart, but it’s her circle!
Elijah ....
October 23rd, 2009
4:33 pm
Professor I am not 6ft4 but I can put it on you and you would think I was 6ft4.5000!
Age is but a number Professor it would not stop our scintillating conversations about politics,world hunger and solving all the dating problems of single folks!
By the way I am a patient man!
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:33 pm
Bruce
It’s not that hard to wipe your shoes off with a towel… or wash them.
I can see if youre attire matches your shoes for work(garbage man, condtruction worker, or anywhere that you get down and dirty).
But if you’re out with nice gear on and your shoes look line you just tap dances on a pile of dirt! I will politely look the other way
Dream_n
October 23rd, 2009
4:33 pm
Bruce
It’s not that hard to wipe your shoes off with a towel… or wash them.
I can see if youre attire matches your shoes for work(garbage man, condtruction worker, or anywhere that you get down and dirty).
But if you’re out with nice gear on and your shoes look like you just tapped danced on a pile of dirt! I will politely look the other way