I recently had dinner with a group of friends when the topic of dating came up. One of the men mentioned how he was finding it hard to meet lady-like women. I challenged him on this because I know plenty of lady-like women who are sophisticated and classy. How is it that he manages to not to meet them in Atlanta?
He tells me that a lot of women have an image of sophistication but when you get a closer look, they have tattoos and they smoke, which apparently isn’t lady-like behavior at all. I’m sure we all have our preferences in dating, but do you think judging a person by their tattoos and smoking habits is fair?
I think it goes deeper then judging a book by its cover. One of the women at the table said that she actually checks out a man’s shoes. When I asked her what a person’s shoes says about them, she said that it lets you know how much they care about appearance. Now, what does that have to do with character? She never truly correlated the two, in my opinion.
I have said it before, but we have ridiculous reasons for ruling out a potential mate. Are tattoos, smoking, and shoes legitimate reasons to pass on someone? What is the most superficial, ridiculous reason you dumped someone? Have you changed your ways since then? Do you still rule people out because of something somewhat trivial?