@ czBrat: I totally agree. I neither expect nor require anything of my companion that I myself am not ready, willing, and able to give.

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I find that too many live in a fantasy world created by movies and TV. My experiences seem to be all the women want to date a Richard Gere character. They set their standards to a level that is not attainable. Even Richard Gere is not Richard Gere. I’m not saying he is a bad person, but he is not the characters he portrays in movies. Neither are all the men in the world.

Get past the fantasy ladies and you will find some decent guys out there.

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Rectal Bleeding sooo true!!!! I am right now wanting to see Spider Man 3, followed by Love Jones, and Brown Sugar for particular romatic scenes to live it out in my mind!!!! LOL soooo true!!! LMAO!!!

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Good Morning All:

There is nothing wrong with HIGH STANDARDS, however the problem comes in when you have high standards for yourself and demand greatness from yourself, and try to bestow this on others. Everybody does not want to be great! You have people that make it through life doing just enough to get by, and guess what they are doing just enough in relationships too.

Well I have come to grips with this and I still have high standards and expectations for me, but I allow reasonable expectations for others. That means the past is the best indicator for the future. Example if I go out with a guy and he is late, tells me he is not really a romantic and talks about his job all the time. Well that is what I expect from him and I don’t get mad when he does not bring me roses etc. Now, I know some guys start out being one way and change on you, but red flags are usually there.

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Dude: Hey pillow sweater can you make me a sandwich like the one you made two weeks ago?

Chick: Hold on pound bunny, you trying to get the “Husband Experience”

Dude: The what?

Chick: Yeah, I can see what you doing

Dude: Huh? I like the sandwich made for me last time.

Chick: I bet you did! I ain’t falling for the okie!

Dude: WTF!

Chick: You want me to treat you like we married. I want me to cook and clean without ring. Sex and impress without the wedding dress. That ain’t happen potnah!

Dude: So, I want the “Husband Exprience” huh? Lets see I don’t date or sex unless it’s with you, I pay for everything whenever we go out, I fixed your car, I pay for the insurance on the car, I cut your grass, I listen to you when while you ramble on about how every single chick at your office building is jealous of you, I got your lazy ass sister a job, I paid for your blood pressure pills, I bought you the lastest go to have pocket-book, I paid to have your lights turned back on, and I give you gas money every week! Wait a minute…. Dayumm I’m already getting the “Husband Experience”!!! All that ish and I can’t get fuggin sandwich and sex on regular basis!!

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Good topic WD. I label myself as a progressive dater. I always have the expectation that all the other dates were good but they did not work out so to me it means failure. My issue is that I always expect the next date/woman to be better than the last and make this one a success, which is not always true. Sometimes they could end up being worse.

I think what REALLY sets us up for failure is not being honest with ourselves and expecting what we see on tv, hear from our friends, and our own interpretations of what a great dating situation/relationship is and how we are going to get there. I am personally not lowering my standards and expectations, but also not going into a situation expecting to get married that same night. I am just going in and we will see what happens. We stop having them by just relaxing and taking the pressure off ourselves! That’s what dating is, getting to know someone.

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@ M dot I totally agree with that 9:53. Expecting the Hollywood, Soap Opera affair is not being realistic, nor is expecting your man to do what a guy did for you 10 years ago. I think it all boils down to reasonable expectations.

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“That’s what dating is, getting to know someone.” – M Dot

Yeah, this ^ is soooo true.

I’d like to add, though, that in getting to know someone [else], know yourself too.

I realized early on that dating is about that “give and take” or rather: reciprocity. When I’m in something and givng of myself with no concessions returned to accomodate the kid, it’s time to be out.

Knowing and being comfortable with who I am as a person (and who I’m growing to be) gives me comfort and strength to relay that to a potential mate. At the point that I’ve stated my capacities, she has informed consent, to proceed accordingly.

I’ve said it here before folks, our expectations have nothing to do with reality. When we [each] learn to deal with life as it is, it makes people, place, situations, and things much more managable.

Oh, good morning.

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I’ve lowered my standards at a pivotal moment in my life when I shouldn’t have. I wasn’t aware that I was operating on a “short list” of expectations. Some lessons are learned the hard way.

All I can do now is expect the same as I give. czB and Nonya said it best. Done deal!

@ForReal, that was cute. Any man that does all that and his woman squeals like a pig (complain), it’s time to look for another woman.

@Tazzee ~ sorry to hear about you not being able to get in. I’ve been there once and the food, at best, is substandard. If I ever venture there again, will definitely eat first!

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All I expect is the guy to call when he says he is going to call. If you say within a few minutes it needs to be within a few minutes. I am tired of checking my phone every two minutes or wondering what your doing. I am a beautiful, successful, spiritual, independent woman doing her thing. I want someone doing the same. No half stepping allowed here.

P.S. **I am still wondering why the guy who says he is not ready for me will be married in a year. Was is it me or him?***

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Tazzee i was in the 8pm line!!! we got there kinda late and were so far in the back that we knew it wouldnt be worth hoping for seats. i”m soooooo disappointed sorry you didn’t get to enjoy the show. very glad you still had a good time with your friends.

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IWLDLIKE2DATE = A wolf pack of 1

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’sup folks……I expect alotta shyt, I ain’t gon’ lie!

I expect if we’ve planned to go out, you be ontime..

I expect if YOU ask for the date, you gon’ pay!

I expect if YOU invite me over afterhours, it’s goin’ down!

I expect if you say we’re just friends, then don’t you expect more..

I expect if you give me your number you gon’ answer the phone…

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@IWL2D, you’re a little twisted. Are you on this blog for entertainment?

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@For Real & Dan – Yes sometimes I am anxious. I have always been the type to go after what I wanted to make it happen. I tackled high school, college, first full time job, moving to another city from a small town, practically everything in my life I’m on it. So yes it spills over into my dating.

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@ Leggs – No I am not twisted. Just naturally anxious.

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**I am still wondering why the guy who says he is not ready for me will be married in a year. Was is it me or him?***

Sounds like he wasn’t ready for YOU or may’ve thought you were too much for him(not in a bad way) or mayge you were outta his league….I’m jus’sayin…

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@Sassy – He is working at Wendys part time on the grill and I am an analyst. So maybe that was it. I don’t know.

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2CPTG

Your 10:25 funny but true

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Dream: “Is it so bad to want a guy with his own apt, own car,career, education, morals, and all that other good stuff” – No it’s not too much to ask for but here where a person’s prospective come into play:

Own apt – Is Perry Homes ok?
Own car – How’s a 73 Gremlin that he has to open the passenger side from the inside
Career – Does 14 yrs as a Stamp & Envelope licker count
Education – Graduate from High School
Morals – I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bumpin & grindin

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I’ve been there once and the food, at best, is substandard.

Thats not even ur best Leggs.Food there is atrocious! The whole place inside is rotten anyway! Stinky,sticklin tables…ouwwwwww..im throwing eep(up)!

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IWLD sounds like maybe he did think you were outta his league or that he was outta his….either way you’ll find him don’t press…..it’ll soon come. That being said, don’t settle.

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Heck, I expect EVERYTHING!

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@Melo

I found comedy in that part of it as well.

@Iwld

You may need some prozac, xanxax, or a release of hormonal pressure.

That you “tackled” the events you name in life doesn’t make you “anxious” it’s made you exitable and self-congratulatory. More than anything, realize that (in the larger scheme of the world) your climb wasn’t as steep as some; or a easy as others.

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Haaaaaaaaa, I was trying to be nice. I was surprised over the setup when I got inside. It looks like a fire trap. My tickets were free and I didn’t have to stand in line. I was curious about the hype over Uptown and wanted to see. Although I’m openminded, all the jokes about a person’s “honey pot” and “dip stick” were ridiculous at best.

@HarleyGuy, please meet IWldLk2Date….

When I go out, I expect a guy to notice me and speak to me. Doesn’t always happen, but it is an expectation of mine.

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IWLDLIKE2DATE – He is working at Wendys part time on the grill and I am an analyst. So maybe that was it. I don’t know.

Some things you won’t EVA get the answers. Let it go. You’re pinpointing careers but he could very well be happy where he is and not be phased or willing to deal with shanigans. Some of the things you mentioned displays stalker tendencies. Heck he can make a buck an hour but if your ragging and bugging him, he’ll pass on your 100.00 an hour to his 1.00 an hour.

Own apt – Is Perry Homes ok?
Own car – How’s a 73 Gremlin that he has to open the passenger side from the inside
Career – Does 14 yrs as a Stamp & Envelope licker count
Education – Graduate from High School
Morals – I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bumpin & grindin

pure comedy OMG…I didn’t know folks on here knew about Perry Homes…

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czBrat – yeah, that was pretty foul how they did that. They could have at least come out when he got on stage and said they weren’t letting anyone else in. What tripped me out was dude said that they would only wait another 10 minutes for the VIP folks and then they’d start letting the other line in. We got caught up talking and it was freaking 30 minutes later when we left. They did start letting folks in because we got close to the door. Close enough to realize that Paul was already on!

M dot – If a guy told me that he wasn’t marriage-minded then I’d suggest that we just be friends. No use in falling for someone when we’re on two different paths.

HEY 2CPTG!!!

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Shenanigans….

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The thing about unmet expectations is that to change the pattern of undesirable results, one must change what the actions that brought the results. Examine your own behavior, stop choosing the same kinds of potential mates. Otherwise, you can expect to get the same results over and over.

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@Professor, something just isn’t right. Grown women acting like that and pondering what’s wrong has one of my eyebrows raised (and I don’t have any eyebrows)!!!

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Professor

Thank you to your 11:06…
I hope it’s juss being said for entertainment purposes.. cause it’s scary thinking my bro can meet a woman with those tendencies… lmao!

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If you tell a person what your expectations are, too soon you never know if they are being themselves, or if they are being who you have said you wanted in a mate. I tend to tell people straight forward, that I just want them to be themself and either we will work out or we won’t. But if you tell people what you like,want, expect… if they have reason to want to make you their own, then they have a full catalog of things to do to pull the wool over your eyes. I would rather let folks do what they do and make a decision with un biased data.

http://hispointofview.com

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@Iwld

There’s my point (your 11:10).

You don’t know the intimate details of anyone else’s life journey, so your sample for comparison is limited and thus cannot be used, as it is not representative of a large enough community.

Put simply: “I don’t believe you, you need more people.”

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@Leggs something is not right.

@IWLD how did you meet the Wendy’s guy? Will he give me the “hook up” on that spicy chicken sandwich with fries and a small chocolate frosty? Did you know his profession when you met him?

BTW I think you and Harley guy can live together happily ever after.

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I am being misunderstood here – (Shedding a tear)

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@ For Real – lol lol lol

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Sassy – I’m not sure where I’m going to watch the game. More than likely it will be in the privacy of my home with my boo.

Professor – LOL, I’m sure you can stand to have lemon pepper wings again Sunday. I can’t do them twice in one week – I’m trying to get beach fine for my honeymoon.

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@IWLD

We are progressing you at least see what everyone is saying about the calming down. Now, I want you to get your insurance card out of your coach wallet and google a licensed professional in your area, because your personality will have you in jail or harmed stalking and worrying the wrong person. Sister, you need some coping skills. We all have our flaws, but when flaws become hazardous we have to learn to manage them. You are like a hunter getting tangled up in his own trap…learn how to use your tools properly

…now I want that spicy chicken sandwich for lunch! Whew, who is going to treat me to lunch?

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For Real

I get where you’re going, but you can’t apply that to the idea of women believing there are NO Good Men out there..

Although I am a firm believer that there are good men out there… just b/c I CAN’t go for something doesn’t mean another woman won’t.

Perry Homes– Don’t know where or what goes on over there, but I’m sure it can’t be good if you’re referencing to it. (with that being said we can meet and have dinner at a restaurant)

73 Gremlin: Don’t know what that looks like, but anything with the word Gremlin in it can’t be good… although shallow… I can’t drive in a car with any doors/windows/heat/AC/ not working accordingly.

Education– Plenty of men/women didnt finish high school and they have made something of themselves and can hold an intelligent conversation…

Morals– If our morals aren’t matching, then no need to further anything

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@IWLD Dan is right use this blog, but also go in that coach wallet and do what I told you to do…girl it is a big world out here, but you have to know how to play before you can enjoy it.

If you decide not to I will try to find you a male order husband. What are you looking for so I can check the right boxes and order him for you?

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@ Profess – he lives in another city and works at a wendy not close by.

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@Tazzee I see I need to get toned up some more my little body is not as tight as it could be…I guess I will start again in the spring or something..lol

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IWLDLIKE2DATE

*If we’re being serious*

The real world doesn’t work like that unfortunately. There are those rare breeds who are willing to put everything on the table during the first meeting of someone and let the other person descide if they want to deal with it or not… Then there’s the rest of the majority that don’t. Yeah dating can be complicated, but it can also be fun…. Stop putting so much out there, you see that it’s not working.. i think someone said earlier… If what you are doing isn’t working for you, then try a different approach. But like Professor said your tendencies that you display here can get you harmed or in jail… and dating shouldn’t end that way!

Sit back evaluate what you are doing that’s constantly giving you the same outcome and come up with a different approach. You’ll be fine.. I hope

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I expect chemistry, compliments, clever conversation, consistency and over time commitment.

I offer the same.

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“Don’t waste my time talking to me everyday when you can’t decide what you want to do.” IWL2D, by talking everyday is one way for a person to decide. All jokes aside, few know upfront, THIS IS THE ONE.

How old are you???

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LMAO at Melo!

Man that is funny, a decal? WTH

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@czBrat there is a Wendy’s close by and I am going today…I have been bad these last two days, but oh well. I just hate ol’ boy works in another city…I was going to tell him to just add the sammich in my bad and only pay for the fries…lol

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Sweet jeebus, she’s a kid.

Woooowwwww, Iwld.

In my less “enlightened” days you’d be ripe for the picking. too young and inexperienced to be jaded; “exitable” enough to believe anything that would come outta my mouf….daggum maturity

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@For Real – Yes he said he was scared I would poison him. So that ended that.

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For Real Ms. Main: Born and raised in the “A”. Meet me at Gun Club I will tell you all about it

I smiled at this and got a bit nostalgic

For Real Ms. Main: “Harley Guy…sell your Mustang and Harley and get your own place. That will make your stock rise…having your own place that is…” – Are you going to be okay with picking him up for dates?

I straight out laughed…straight comedy…heck no. I only made a recommendation. He needs a plan. LOL

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@ Profess – I don’t like to drink. I want a guy to take me to the art musuem or barnes & nobles. Engage in activities that exercise my mind.

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@For Real – Yes he said he was scared I would poison him. So that ended that….I seriously laughing now. This can’t be for real (sorry ForReal).

Glenn Close, how did you find this blog????

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@Dan ~ if you think she’s ripe for the picking in your heyday, sounds like you might have wound up like Demi did with a gun to his temple and his drawers around his ankles…

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czBrat re: your 11:24 post — That’s true, but you get rid of the fakers much faster if they don’t have a framework in place to guide them…

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For Real – you have missed your calling – comedy writer.

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@ Leggs – I am serious. He said he was scared I would poison him if he did something like cheat or if something went wrong and it was his fault. I don’t know where he got that idea. I never told him I would do those things. I even look back at the relationship I never demanded he do things or else or was possessive at least I think.

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likely to have a happy ending.

Dan what kind of ending were you hoping to have?

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@Dream

Nasty.

I was talking about how esp. when starting to date, that little differences (such as liking Rembrandt’s style over Monet’s) start to add up. It’s that “if [s]he don’t like ketchup – I could never like her [him]“

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Dan

Well I never…. my mind was not in the gutter… I just needed you to elaborate a little more

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This blog has been therapeutic for me today.

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Don’t do it IWLDLIKE2DATE…the more you spill the more suspect you become. Better yet, maybe you should air because if you’re serious about some of the stuff you’re saying maybe intervention is needed

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(I’m getting off the couch) I have to take a crap now. Have a nice day everyone!!!

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sounds like you might have wound up like Demi did with a gun to his temple and his drawers around his ankles…

Please tell me that’s a joke….please…..

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@Dan, if you’re using “velro” you probably shot yourself in the foot when you dropped it.

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@Melo – that was ghey

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@Melo

I see your girl did not list any artist, masterpieces etc. Makes you wonder when people start talking all this BS and cannot name a painter or their favorite era.

Just be real and say I like going to Applebee’s and blogging all day. At night I like to watch movies and dig in my ears with q-tips

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Proff,yeah i thoght she wld go deep on art and i cld be a potential date…

Instead,she ghosts…..

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LMAO @ PROFESSOR & LEGGS!! nooooo…not bobby pins!!

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Professor – you’ve got me cracking up over here:

Girl just go to D&B and play some games have them to spike your coffee and relax…stop trying to go deep on every date…hell fart if you have too.

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Lil Wayne
He acknowledged he had a .40 caliber semi-automatic loaded gun on bus

he entered his plea to second-degree attempted weapon possession, a felony

NOW,how can having a gun in ur possession be called “attempted”??

Law = Fraud

where is Poppa??

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Why people feel the need to be nasty or rude is beyond me..

*shrugs*

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Afternoon Err’body!

Professor – I am over cracking up at you chica!

So whats good ya’ll?

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So whats good ya’ll?

waiting for IWLD to get off the can so For Real & Melo can continue the fireworks.

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I SAW PAUL MOONEY – you’re right I got nothing. However it was bad business for Uptown Comedy Corner to give out tickets and then announce to the crowd they were getting in. So guess what – they will be getting nothing from me, plain and simple.

AND I will continue to communicate my experience to anyone that will listen so that there will be a few more folks that will be paying for, and getting nothing from Uptown Comedy Corner. But I’m glad you got a chance to see him and I’m sure there will be other chances for me to see him – at a different venue.

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Tazzee, my sister did warn me that she has gone there in the past and found that they seat you in VIP if the place is empty, then ask you to move if more people show up. Also, she says the servers are real good at disappearing with your change. I thought I’d take a chance anyway cuz I really wanted to see him. I think from now on I’ll just pay more to see performances at the Fox.

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I only date strippers. As long I keep feeding them coke, I know what to expect and I always get what I expect!

I like taking them to Falcons games in skimpy clothing. All the guys are jealous of me too.

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as for the topic at hand, we all have expectations in 1 form or another. personally i’m of the mind-set that you cannot expect an individual to possess tangibles\intangibles that you do not possess yourself. i understand that we are all looking to “build” with another individual, but i think that many women get caught up in “what” a man has, rather than “who” a man is and what he stands for if anything. character\values\principles\responsibility\ambitious\etc.
these same things are what i’m attracted to in a woman. you may be attrative but that doesnt mean i’m attracted to you. a woman has to be an asset not just a$$ntit$-and just because you females have degrees MBA’s, CPA’s, and you’re highly “educated” – it does not mean that you’re highly “intelligent” – be careful not to confuse the two – dont pass on a brother simply because he does not have a piece of “sheepskin”. if he can stimulate you intellectually is the question you should ask yourself.
just a few thoughtz off the top …

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czBrat – my fiance’ didn’t tell me until AFTER my experience that he’d had a bad experience there. Apparently, folks deal with it because they keep on operating that way.

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@IWLDLIKE2DATE
don’t let ppl discourage you from posting the way you do. keep it flowin’.

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I don’t put expectations on a date. When a female fails to reach the standards that I have established within my mind, she gets the gong… followed up by the invisible SandMan; but there is never any emotional letdown, as if the sky was falling.

I really don’t get that whole “letdown” thing anyway. Trust me, half of the people that for whatever reason, don’t work out, probably some issues that you don’t want to deal with anyway, no matter how pretty, fine, or good the p!ssy was.

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So, Taz – I can’t suggest CNO at Uptown, huh?
Couples Night Out.
~laughing~

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Trust me, half of the people that for whatever reason, don’t work out, probably some issues that you don’t want to deal with anyway, no matter how pretty, fine, or good the p!ssy was.

Are we to assume “half the people” referenced above would be women ince kitty is referenced as well? Once again we caused the demise of what could have been. Sigh

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Now to follow that up, if I’ve got some time and energy invested… say over 8 months, then you doing silly sh!t just might cast a shadow of disappointment (letdown), which if you ain’t towing the line, will lead to you walkin’ the plank.

And obviously I’m not perfect, because I’ve been blown off by at least two chicks myself. LOL

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Main Are we to assume “half the people” referenced above would be women ince kitty is referenced as well? Once again we caused the demise of what could have been. Sigh

Since I’m a dude and ain’t on nobody’s down-LOW, that’s exactly right – women/men and men/women. But you’re getting caught up on the flavoring words as opposed to the message.

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All I want to know is does the Uptown still have the same sound system that they had when it was on Peachtree? Damn… that joint was LOUD!

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Melo – I had a turkey sandwich for lunch too. A ham and turkey sandwich from Honeybaked Ham…that sandwich was GHUD!

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I can’t imagine what Uptown looks like in the daytime, but it looks like a dump at night! Guess my expectations were too high!

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Leggs,i wldnt be surprised that the owner has a hook up at the City that keeps his place open.Its seedy inside,been there about 2 x with Queen and a crew of 8,on comp tickets,with nothing better to do on a friday.The tables??they stick,literally.U put ur hand on tha table,it gets stuck in dirt,15 yr old drink spill etc…
The food..ouch.eeeeewww gulp..uggh mmmew*&%$#&&^!! is atrocious.Queen has an alligator like gall bladder and snake/hyena saliva,so she eats wings in there,she eats anything!
Me?? no waaaay!

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The problem was when I expected a potential mate to have everything that I had.

I’ve made this mistake,too but I’ve realized that I can’t assume that to be true b/c people are at different stages/stations in thier lives and it my not necessarily be where I am. I used to think that at a certain point in our lives there are some things we should have but as I’ve said, that’s obviously not the status quo.

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Hello I am back!!

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@ Melo – I was leaving when your post came up so it was either use the bathroom on myself or respond. I chose the latter.

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correction **was either respond and use the bathroom on myself or go use the bathroom***

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Sassy

You and those icons…lmao

I’m doing a web/training and its soooo boring!!!

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…stepping out for a moment

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Just got a flash of the astronaut chick driving with the diaper on.

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Sassy I used to think that at a certain point in our lives there are some but as I’ve said, that’s obviously not the status quo.

And what exactly are these “things we should have” – character, respect for self and others, dignity, humility, pride… or big house, European auto, stock portfolio, and money sack under the mattress?

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Now Great!!

Queen is hollering at me on the phone.

Some bummer jus smashed the window to our expensive car,in Chamblee(of all places) as she stopped to shop at kroger,reached the trunk and got an AT@T busness laptop.
All they were looking for.
I told her to call the cops…thats lyfe!

Its the recession pple,be careful.

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The artist was meaning for the brown to be their skin and the red to be their blood. The white to be bandages that was healing their skin from being burned by things that occurred in their life. At least thats what I take.

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You beat me to the punch, SCool.

So so sorry to hear that, Melo!

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ahhh, Melo, that sucks! i hope your fam is ok.

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A real Picasso? A Picasso print? Or a Picasso poster?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

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ya’ll are killin me today. gotta take a break. not an IWLD-type break … just a break.

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czBrat/Leggs sure does.

the lap was in the trunk,she tells me.Now dont u call that brazen?? for smebody to pick a car, break in and risk being caught,not knowing what they will find??
That tells me things are really bad out there.

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Melo, that’s awful….glad she’s safe though. Folks losing their minds…gheesh

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@IWL2D ~ I have a black and white print of “Pretty Eyes” that I got from West End Mall for $10.00 20 years ago. I love that print! Don’t look as good in color.

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With that being said if you would like to meet me you may get your chance to. The High Musuem is having an event the Italian wine tasting tonight from 5-9 pm. I don’t really like to drink but I don’t mind tasting and browsing the musuem.

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@ Lord – Yes – Great book!

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Tazzee just try not to measure yourself by others’ accomplishments. be proud of who and what you are in your own right! nothing wrong with setting higher goals and having someone above you by a rung or two to keep you motivated, just don’t discount those all those ‘thangs’ your really ARE doing!

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…I am so late, but I will chime in anyway

@Melo I hate to hear Queen’s car was broken into…this is the last quarter of the year and it is officially the holiday robbing season. Folks be careful and alert out here.

@IWLD what is the name of your print? (Redemption time, because that sentence read like you had the real thang baby).

@ Leggs I know a couple people as well with a few small originals

So, what are we talking about? Art…love…relationships

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I know she certainly taught me some things and motivated me when I met her.

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I know she’s shaken up so you gotta hold her tonight (and NOT try to do the nasty)

shaken Tazzee?? shes called Queen of being shaken and angry when stuff like that happens.I was on a 3 way with her,insurance and the auto glass ppple.When she gets mad,she will eat a human alive.. i tell ya.

So iwas in there making the arrangements,claming her down so she dont bullshytt the pple who trying to help.I gues she mad too coz till now,Chamblee police havent shown up yet!??
I be mwa mwaa to her in bed,calming her down tonite.
What “lil johnson” does as a consequence of ma body being that close to hers,i cant guarantee.

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I know one thing all this typing has me needing a massage. Goodness my neck and back are so tense and tight. AHHHH

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u pple talk of karma,right?/ i neva believed it that much,welll…. untill now.

At lernnch, i went to ABC,bought some lernch,then,as the cashier walked to sort my order, i borrowed……weeeeell, i stole 1 copy of today’s $1.00 worth of USA today newspaper they sell.

So maybe its payback Karma,$185.00 worth,in restoring the window glass smashed by the bummer’s dastardly act

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I get it, IWL2D, perhaps you’re an embellisher. Does this help you moving forward?

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I don’t agree, Leggs. Melo stole something. So, someone stole something from him.

Seems like pretty strong karma to me.

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Lord V Three words daily: Ms.Main spoiled Brat

Man, you must have pulled that one out your butt crack and yes, I can be a sport…I laughed. I’m sorry if I read like a brat. I’ll try to sound more centered going forward.

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young jeezy may not be the most articulate brother at the podium, but the primary theme to thug motivation 101 is to stay on “YOUR” grind. Jay Z echoed this in his latest “why ya’ll worried about me?” – point is, stay focused on YOUR mission, YOUR objective, YOUR personal\professional goals. So long as you are Never Ignorant Getting Goalz Accomplished and living up to the standards that you have set for yourself – why waste time worrying about what someone else is doing or anyone else’s opinion. An individual with time to criticize another’s koolaid must not like what they’re sippin on -perhaps their cup is half empty or has runneth over…

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Leggs, Karma is God giving back what you did. Take stealing….thou shalt not steal…from anybody. So, payback ain’t based on a person to person basis. The wrong committed is against God, as it’s his rule. That’s why he says vengence don’t belong to me. If I’ve been wronged, I wait for God to avenge. If I get you back, I’m commiting the same faux pas. If I steal or commit adultery, it’s against God…the rule maker, the writer, the creator. It may have been taken out on you but it’s not against you..per se…it’s against the one who established not to do it. So, payback comes from him…not me. I

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I don’t mean to sound so bratty….Ms. Leggs

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Oh snap!!! I got it. I thought he stole the newspaper AFTER his car was broken into. He did say lunchtime. I got worried over the few brain cells I had left. I’m with you, SCool!

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Not bratty at all, I was just wondering what did Melo sow. As many say here, reading is fundamental. However remembering what you read is even more crucial.

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I didn’t actually think you’d take as bratty….I said that so I wouldn’t offend the most gracious Lord Velonese…lol

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Angie, have you met IWL2D. Please exchange phone numbers. Bet you two can pull each other up!

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Nonya…I agree because I don’t REALLY believe in Karma. I used though to transcend the meaning of reaping, relating to what the other two ladies were discussing. Yeah, I’m with you.

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I almost forgot, i bumbed into Andre Benjamin today!

Bro almost looked like a street kid to me..str8 up like a janitor.I almost missed him,except for the tale tale signs.
If he keeps it simple and non showy like that,he will neva be in Evander-like situation…

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I love me some Andre 3000

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Melo – Go take them a dollar and maybe dude will bring your computer back.

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LMAO @ SexyCool

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no i dont take…steal, often Proff

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Abraham and Isaac….Isaac being the sacrifice? God told him to offer up his only son….as a test…no?

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SexyCool

I believe he does test our faith.

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What about Job… Remember he was highly favored in GOD… God took away everything away from him… his kids, his cattle, his home… his wife even told him to curse him, but he didn’t…. Because he endured the test GOD blessed him with everything back… and even more!

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I don’t agree that trials and tests are a result of my own actions…I think consequences are. Tests and trials are how we increase our walk…we overcome, we get stronger, we keep going.

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God did not take from Job. He allowed satan to do so. God restored Job’s blessings when he proved himself faithful.

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oops! hehehe.

@Leggs
just being honest hun. didn’t you just experience this? i’m jus weeding out the bad ones. pipe down!

@Brat
that’s the problem. i put out too much of myself . . . going all out. that is the reason for me expecting a lot from them.

@Prof
if i invite, yep i pay!

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Yep, CZBrat…Job never did the things his friends accused him of…so yep, he was being tested. I do believe too, sometimes we make foolish or bad mistakes and we have consequences but I believe he sees us through that as well…if we want to learn better.

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My system was down.

@Leggs – Why do you think I am an embellisher?

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Main I don’t mean to sound so bratty….Ms. Leggs

Quit apologizing. You laid that out real nice and neat.

Nonya Whether the term “karma” is associated with Buddhism, Hindu, Christian, or any other ancient culture, the bottom line is that it originates from the ideology that one deeds and actions will be revisited seven-fold.

Show me any person who is out committing crude, felonious, criminal, or immoral acts, and you’ll see that this same individual is living an unpeaceful, tormented life full of strife. Why do you think that Bill Gates gives all of that money to charity? 1: His wife 2: All that cash and power did nothing for his personal peace. 3: The realization of his own mortality – who really wants to get to the gate and have to tell The Lord that they had enough to feed and cloth a country, but only managed to buy a bum a sandwich?

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@ leggs – Oh I just looked it up on Wiktionary

To make something sound or look better or more acceptable than it is in reality, to distort.
to embellish a story, the truth

Well I know to others it may sound off the wall. I assure you nothing I told you today was a lie. But hey you don’t know that. I do though =)

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Blue Kollar…I did a subsequent post to Ms. Leggs that I really wasn’t apologizing but did that for the sake of Lord Velonese…who posted a few posts prior to that one…I was a brat. That was for the sake of Lord Velonese

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Main Sh!t Stain Nevermind… LMAO

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Blue…giving you the blank stare…I’m slow and behind the street times…didn’t get that…but right nevermind

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Hey BlueK, it was laid out nicely! She wasn’t apoloizing to me per se!

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I need a deep tissue followed by a hot stone massage. Ohhhhhh yes!!!

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I wish I could pop my back without hurting myself.

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IWLDLIKE2DATE I wish I could pop my back without hurting myself.

Come back in here tomorrow (Friday) with that same login name and you’ll have at least 7 dudes talkin’ ’bout BREAKIN’ yo back.

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@ blue_Kolla – well let me get started with the kegel exercise again.

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@SexyCool – Walking on…good morning-
it was a play on words, i was being facetious and you misinterpreted the statement based on the context in which it was used. allow me to clarify the meaning.
half empty = there is still a void that has yet to be filled.
cup has runneth over = they have had enough of the mundane – same thing day in and day out…reasons why people began to worry and concern themselves with the affairs of others

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Karma can be positive or negative contingent upon one’s intentions. many people fail to realize that when karma comes around or goes around, it doesn’t always directly affect the individual who may have commited the act – it most often times rains on someone within their personal circle.

“faith is what you make it that’s the hardest $h!t since MC Ren”
-Andre 3k Benjamin
“faith is one thing but without work you ain’t got nothin, decisions from a mthafka hustlin” – Brad Scarface Jordan

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