Comments on: Dating Apathy Syndrome

By: promises

promises — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 01:02:27 +0000

this goes out to you tripster…living 2 lives and loving too many women at the same time for so long will destroys a person when the truth comes out. manipulation of any level is rotten but the lengths that you went to are so difficult to even accept. people with any goodness in them doesnt go to the level that you did. you are evil and you need help before you destroy others.

By: James

James — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:50:53 +0000

You have a typo in this post. Wow.

By: SS

SS — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 02:11:29 +0000

Dating apathy syndrome does sound like what I have. I took a break from dating and focused on a career and finishing college. When I was ready to return to the dating scene, there really was not many I met that I was interested in seeing. I have done the fwb, been on many dates and I think I am ready for something real. I just don’t know where to meet someone. Workplace is not an option and I am not really into the bar scene anymore.

By: Lady J

Lady J — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 00:12:33 +0000

Thanks Jay and Tazzee!!!

By: JD

JD — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 00:10:54 +0000

@ Sorka – We should meet and compare notes…

By: Sorka

Sorka — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 22:06:39 +0000

This post is right on – it is exactly what I am experiencing right now. I have been out on a rapid-fire series of online “first dates.” I am not only bored and apathetic, I am now annoyed by the thought of having to meet another guy that doesn’t interest me that much. And I am really tired, because I go out on these dates after work most nights. I need a break, physically and mentally. Yet I feel guilty because I feel like I need to constantly work and try harder to meet Mr. Right. When I go out with my friends, I am relaxed, having a great time, laughing and enjoying myself. On these dates, I am thinking – why am I wasting my time trying to impress a guy who is not interested in talking to me?

By: Tazzee - treated like royalty.

Tazzee - treated like royalty. — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:03:50 +0000

SCool muah! Back at you!!!

By: Hef

Hef — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:02:09 +0000

Deeva4Life-Today was very enlightening for me really,with all the responses. I know I never gave up,I knew I would find the right ONE,cause they’re out there. The best part is you’ll know when you do. I knew but it was my WOMAN who made sure that I admitted to myself. It was alway’s easy for me to go on to the next one,but she would’nt let it happen. So don’t be afraid to fight for it,sometimes we just need someone to open our eyes. Positive Thoughts!

By: JD

JD — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:57:03 +0000

@Deeva – I completely understand where you’re coming from. I didn’t get married too young, and so I was “sure” I was making the right decision. But you don’t really know someone until you’ve been through the ups and downs with them. When the going gets tough, thats the test. Thats when the work comes in, and you hopefully grow together, not apart. In the end, I found I was much more committed to growth and taking responsibility for my mistakes than she was. Ultimately, she wasn’t who I thought she was.

The hard thing for me is I still want to have a family, and while men don’t have a biological clock, I never wanted to be an old Dad, like my Dad was. But what the heck, 40 is the new 30, right? Or so I’ve been told. As horrible as this past year was for me, it sure has taught me that I have a lot to offer and not to ever “settle” again.

By: IWLDLIKE2DATE

IWLDLIKE2DATE — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:56:51 +0000

When I do make that step for marriage I intend to give 200%. Just trying to cultivate patience. I have come across men that I felt were qualified. Like last week the man seemed to show qualities that I had been praying for then when I asked him if he was interested he said he was not ready. Now I have learned when a male says he is not ready it can mean one or two things (sometimes both) one – he is not interested two – he really is not ready. Well I was disappointed to say the least but trying to remain optimistic.