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A reader emailed because she wants help getting out of the doghouse with her boyfriend. This past weekend, he heard her on the phone discussing their relationship with a close friend. He was particularly upset because she was  talking about their bedroom activities as well.

His point was that you don’t give explicit details about what we do in private. He doesn’t understand her need to talk about it, especially if there are no problems.  Now he doesn’t think she is trustworthy and he thinks she’s immature.  She is in her early 20s, so it’s probably a hard lesson to learn but at least she learned her lesson.

Would it bother you if someone you were dating constantly talked about your relationship with other people? How would you handle it?

Guys, have you ever dated someone who would discuss your sex life with other people? Did it bother you? If so, why?

Ladies, do you think that it’s good practice to talk about your man’s skills to other women? Why do so many women do that? Would it bother you if your man or husband shared details about your sex life with his friends?

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Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
8:48 am

Would I tell some of my friends some of the stuff I tell you all? Uh, Nope.

Do I talk to my friends about some things? Yes, one in particular.

Would I do it in a place where my husband could hear me? Nooooo.

You have to know your partner and know what to talk about and what not to.

Stan

October 15th, 2009
8:58 am

I pretty much expect my wife to talk to her friends about our private details. To a point at least. Over time she has learned where to draw the line and not embarass me or anything. Though I am best friends with my wife, there are some things that she just can’t talk to me about.

I think dude needs to get over it, it happens.

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
9:03 am

I dwell in the “this is our dirty little secret” camp…unless we just so happen to land on the topic amidst shopping it up. I don’t understand her need to talk about it, either. And I think what he thinks about her maturity level, etcetera, although I know women much older than her who feel like the minute details are okay for public consumption. Some have yet to master the lost art of how to just be still and hush. Guess I empathize with him cuz I’ve been introduced as .02 – - you know, the one I was telling you ’bout who bleeeeeeep… That was an W:shock:W :oops: MG W:shock:W moment if ever I had one. And he was 35ish.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:04 am

Good morning!

His point was that you don’t give explicit details about what we do in private.

He said it best!!! …

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:06 am

The fact that my friends and I often see each other and get together with our spouses makes unfavorable for me to talk to them about certain things even if I wanted to. These women are breathing living beings in our lives. They can look my husband in the face. I wouldn’t do that to him.

However, he has no problem with me expressing that he makes me happy as a wife, friend and lover. I just do it more subtly with people that I know personally and that knows him personally.

I think constant complaining is the worst. I hear people that constantly complain about their partners and what their partners aren’t doing. Whether it’s around the house or in the bed. I hate constant complainers. And I know my husband would rather I speak fondly of him instead of noting everything that I feel he is not doing the way I feel is correctly.

He and I have an agreement, if he and I can’t or haven’t laughed or joked about it, it’s off the table for discussion with anyone. However I do have a confidant. But she tells me stuff that I know she would not want me to repeat in front of her husband so I can trust her with what I tell her.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:08 am

mytwocents Hey lady!

let’s see here… W :razz: W and W :shock: W…hmmmm

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
9:10 am

Chopping it up, not Shopping it up! Though I do feel a Shopportunity in the not so distant future. And what did CEMEELI do to my bulging eyes? Hmmm

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
9:12 am

CEE, I knew it was you!

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:14 am

TwoLincolns, there is always a Shopportunity. Always. LOL

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:14 am

Three Words Daily – Love without fear.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
9:16 am

Good Morning Bloggers!

Bottom line – You don’t share intimate details with your girlfriends about your man…….

Mouth almighty and Tongue Everlasting might have to find out the hard way……y’all gone make me break out my Whodini music………you know I been in a throwback mood. LOL

Have A great Day and Imma Check back in………

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:17 am

@ mytwo – “Shopportunity in the not so distant future”….Can i go?

i know it’s early…but, i some Swedish meatballs…

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:18 am

Co-signing Stan.

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
9:18 am

GM For guys, unless we are having a problem.. We don’t discuss NOTHING with our friends when it comes to wife or GF… I don’t want them knowing the way my wife or GF’s tat-tats bounce inside their head. And if we do talk its never in detail. That really Really bugs me, when a GF discloses personal info about me.
In my early 20’s, I could care less if she told the world about the stroke. But now I understand that it only breeds curiosity. Don’t women always say, there are certain secrets that they will take to the grave.. Wouldn’t having your back blowout by your bestfriends mate be considered one of those secrets… Just food for thought the next time you want to discuss your bed activities, especially to one of your friends that hasn’t had sex in awhile..

Professor

October 15th, 2009
9:19 am

GM,

Whew I think this was a sub-topic last week or something…so “gentle reader” you should have lurked better.

You just don’t tell that kind of explicit stuff period. Remember, “Loose lips sink ships.” I believe I shared this with the blog before my mom worked with a lady years ago that lost her husband to her neighbor/BFF. The wife told the neighbor/BFF everything from arguments to tongue hanging…can’t breath…calling on your savior sex moments. Well the neighbor gave it a try and took her husband, and according to the wife it was her mouth and the go over there and her neighbor/BFF with this or that you know she is single. Yes there are things you can share, but never pass up the opportunity to say nothing. If you are talking stop getting caught you know men eavesdrop too.

Hopeless Romantic

October 15th, 2009
9:25 am

WOmen talk…that’s just how we are wired. Personally I don’t share details because it’s my privacy too. I don’t ask what level of detail my partner shares because I do not want to micromanage what he can say to others. Communicate with your spouse or significant other what level of details you want him/her to share. Look at is as an opportunity to explore further how each other feels and thinks about these types of situations.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:27 am

Communicate with your spouse or significant other what level of details you want him/her to share

Exactly.

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:29 am

The other part of this – if your gf has a man and you talk to her about your stuff, I can guarantee you that her man knows some, if not all, of what you have talked about.

And that man has an opinion about it and about you.

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:30 am

As a result, I don’t share anything with my gf’s that I don’t want her man to know.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
9:32 am

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:32 am

If a guy leaves his woman for her single friend that she should not have been telling certain things to anyway, that probably means the business was not that as great for him as she was stating it was for her.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
9:36 am

I personally do not like a spouse/SO discussing our love lives. There is a point here that is being overlooked, and that is that the conversation will be one-sided, and “some of the facts” may distort the bigger picture.

For example: during the last year of my marriage, I intercepted a few emails from my eventual ex to her mother. Her mother was advising her that she could see no reason to ever stay in a relationship where there was no passion. Fair except for the fact that my ex was not revealing to her that she was using an anti-depressant she had been on for several years, Zoloft, that had been repeatedly noted to kill off 100% of desire in many of its users, and also often caused substantial weight gain. She also did not discuss with her mother how many of our sexual issues stemmed from the fact that she had been repeatedly sexually abused by her fine, upstanding father during her teen years and that sex had always been very difficult for her and had damaged our relationship from the beginning. She also conveniently failed to mention that through trial, error, and a dogged detrmination, I had learned how to bring her to an orgasm almost every single time.,,but that did not stop the ghosts of her father from invading our bedroom.

If it is great, it is no ones business. If there are issues, come to me first.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
9:39 am

What goes on in our house stays in our house..

Ladies that runninback mouth will get your team quarterbacked.. Thats right your closest girls gonna wanna ride the scream machine aka the mindbender..

See all that energy goin into telling ya friends the biz you need to be telling ya dude, cause half the time we dont even know ya’ll be on one about nothing..

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:39 am

Also, I won’t tell my SO anything of my gf’s business that may cause him to look at her in a certain way.

Because I see it like this, if my man thinks I have messed up unstable ass friends, he may start to look at me sideways and question MY judgement and/or character – you know, the whole birds of a feather thing.

So, some of the more out there, freaky, questionable stuff and/or stupid decisions get left under the table and in the closet.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:40 am

SexyCool, as for your 9:30, that is true, however there are things that my friend tells me that I just will not tell my husband. One reason being he is friends with my friend’s husband. I wouldn’t want to create an awkward moment during those times they hang out as buddies.

So far I feel I have that same level of trust in her.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
9:41 am

@ Prof re: “never pass up the opportunity to say nothing”

As a boss once told me many years ago, you don’t have to tell everything you know…he was right.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:43 am

I agree with RandyT stated here – “If it is great, it is no ones business. If there are issues, come to me first.”

By the time the one person tells a friend their side of the story, it’s distorted anyway…facts are left out…ect.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:43 am

So RandyT you are saying I should have never told you about my garter belt and thigh-highs? Now you tell me.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:45 am

lol @ Infamous…What’s with the football correlations?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
9:46 am

Raqi

In addition to beautiful fantasy/visual, you never actually shared what later happened, so this falls under “Techniques to Keep a Man Guessing…and in his Place” which is okay. ;-)

Professor

October 15th, 2009
9:48 am

What goes on in our house stays in our house..

That was always our motto growing up, but I do know men talk as well not sure how much they disclose I just feel keep your mouth close unless you are talking to the appropriate audience. Hey I live by that line everything is not for everybody. You would not tell your manager a sexual laced joke, nor would you tell your preacher that you were late to morning service because you had a big O…folks just talk to dayum much IMO and when they talk they are saying the wrong stuff to the wrong folks (usually).

SexyCool - Holding at Cloud 4.

October 15th, 2009
9:48 am

Raqi – my 939a kinda speaks to your 940a. So, yeah, I feel ya’ and as most often, we are >>>here<<<.

CAZ

October 15th, 2009
9:48 am

What the Girls talk about amongst themselves is of no concern to me, same for me and the Boy’s. But I don’t want or need to hear my Woman discussing our lovemaking with anyone & vice versa, so if she does want to talk do it when with the girls. Also this should include other topics like finance as well.

SexyCool - Cloud 4 is so cool.

October 15th, 2009
9:53 am

Just heard the new Ursha – Papers – much like RKelly that negro will sing about anydamnthing – including what goes on in his relationship.

Can’t help but think that Meka feelings may be hurt that could be why she allegedly keyed his car. Lord, please forgive me for gossiping this early in the day. ~LOL~

So, it’s safe to say he ain’t got no problem talking about what goes on in his relationship with THE WHOLE FREAKIN’ WORLD. But, it does get him paid.

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
9:53 am

Morning All,

I kinda agree with everyone on this one. What I have personally learned tho is this usually is a maturity thing. As with most relationship type items some Women tend to learn these things as they get a lil bit older or have a few misadventures. Men don’t typically talk to our buddies about something like that unless ol girl was a jump-off. But, We aint telling nobody nothing bout the Mrs.

Professor

October 15th, 2009
9:53 am

My hairdresser was talking once about she hope I find somebody and all that crap. I told her what makes you think I am single. She looked shocked, I was in a serious relationship at that time, but most of the ladies sit in there and talk all of this crap about their man and she never heard me say anything so she ass-u-me that I was having problems finding a man. My motto “my business is my own.”

Remember: The more you disclose the greater power you give someone else. So before you go running your mouth ask is this someone I should be handing power over to?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:53 am

RandyT I think I did tell a little, but I see it like this, I avoid all blog gatherings and meetings. That is the agreement that my husband and I have.

So you reading anything that I say on here is no different than you reading a book or magazine. You don’t know the author personally.

But yeah, I am happy that you were happy. LOL

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
9:54 am

If she was just venting to her friend that is definitley different than what this story is projecting. If this guy (rightfully so) does’t want her telling the gf about the Russell Muscle and Gym Class, than she needs to respect that.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
9:55 am

I do not recall ever talking to any of my guy friends about my sexual encounters with any woman (girlfriends included) beyond noting where one has “hit it” or not…
We do talk about sex in general on ocassion but not as it relates to a particular woman… unless we are comparing notes about a particular person multiple people I know have been with… In that case yeah we may go into detail… LoL

http://hispointofview.com

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
9:59 am

I don’t even think men are as comfortable talking to each other about certain things like woman are.

And most men don’t even want to know what is going on in your girlfriend’s life.

Talking amongst each other about relationships, good, bad, or in general, is more of a woman thing.

You just better know who you are talking with.

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
9:59 am

On another note, I must admit as a young man I appreciated the good ol college girl referrals. The gleam in the eye as she says ‘I hurd bout you’, Oh yeah. Boom chica boom boom.

Mike Jones (who)

October 15th, 2009
9:59 am

What goes on in the Bedroom should be kept private between the parties involved. The way I see it is if my S.O. girl friends weren’t involved in the bedroom rumble then they don’t need details of How we do, When we do, or What we do!” Now with that being said…(I won’t go there) lol

It pretty safe to assume that if she has no problem discussing what you do in the sack, she has no problem discussing other things you may consider private or personal. Spoken from experience!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:01 am

speaking of venting…

If we get Community Coffee free…then why are we approving the budget for Starbuck’s dispensers?!?! Don’t make any sense…

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:01 am

loose lips sink ships…and relationships…and marriages
I’m just saying.

And there is (almost)nothing worse than when women go telling their view of one side of a situation to their friends/family, and then everybody looks at you funny and think you are scum, when they don’t even know half of the facts. That causes more problems in many cases than the initial issue between the man and woman having the problem. You will never solve a problem by telling a skewed persepctive of one side of a story.

And as far as discussing sex… Word of mouth advertising is the best kind.. so go tell all your girlfriends about what we do in the bedroom, and see what happens… or better yet don’t see what happens.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:02 am

Yes SexyCool >>>here<<<.

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
10:02 am

Morning everyone!

I have a lot to read, but let me say this, we all need a sounding board from time to time. That person we can talk to about most anything. However, very private and intimate details of my relationship is kept between me and mine! If there’s a problem, then we sit down and discuss together. Outside feedback from friends usually makes matters worse. All should know that you don’t broadcast the delights of your SO to your friends. Some get the wrong idea and believe they actually can step to your [wo]man.

@Raqi ~ you got mail!

Mike Jones (who)

October 15th, 2009
10:05 am

And as far as discussing sex… Word of mouth advertising is the best kind.. so go tell all your girlfriends about what we do in the bedroom, and see what happens… or better yet don’t see what happens.

Free advertising, eventually one of them will get curious

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
10:05 am

“Men don’t typically talk to our buddies about something like that unless ol girl was a jump-off. But, We aint telling nobody nothing bout the Mrs.”

Exactly, Willie D… This is not really an issue for guys — at least none that I personally know.

For one thing, guys just don’t have the same incessant need to talk about every detail of our lives with anyone. Not saying that’s good or bad, it’s just the way we’re wired — we just deal & keep on moving; we don’t need or want to talk about sh!t.

And as far as the intimate sexual details — if it’s a woman we really like, we’re not sharing those nuggets with any of our boys. Hell… I know how hot Mrs. Swiss is & also know how guys’ brains work. So I already know my guy friends are trying to get a mental picture — the last thing I want to do is help them get a more accurate one… :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
10:06 am

F that Im a private person and to date me means you know that so shut your mouth about us.. Imma tell you once to zip it up and then Im out.. This is the main reason my EX is just that.. Everybody knew what was going on in our house.

If you need advice go talk to a non biased source because if there are problems ya’ll wont be able to fix it you wanted to. The Fam and friends in the mix prevent healing because when ya’ll have made up they are still mad. I learned at an early age my Mom dont need to know nothing bad about my girlfriend cause to her im still baby boy and no woman better not ever do nothing but right by me.. When I told my mom we were getting divorced she cried.. Then when I told her what was going on those tears went in reverse and the Taurus the Bull came out.. I saw flame in her eyes.. She didnt say much but her eyes said it all.. Told me to go see her lawyer friend and to go hard. Her exact words were “If she thinks this is gonna be a come up she is in for a rude awakening, this ish comes to a screechin halt today”.. She wanted to represent me but that would be a conflict of interest and if she had been my divorce lawyer, it wouldve been extra ugly with cheese on top..

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:07 am

Prime example, I was talking to a woman I had been dating about how she feels about an ex- of hers dating one of her friends… She said that that would never happen because all of her female friends had a strict rule about not messing with any man any of the other women in the group have dated… and further that if she was ever seen out with a man that none of her friends would talk to that man.

Well a day or two later she tells me that one girl in the group ran into another chick from the group who was out on a date with a guy, and at some point during the night the other friend got the dude’s phone number and ended up going out with him the next weekend and the first chick saw them out and the drama began…

So that just goes to show that no matter what YOU THINK your girls won’t do you never know what will happen when they see something they want.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:09 am

@ Raqi re: 9:53

Exactly. I talk too much perhaps here but I do it in anonymity and also usually to explain a point I am trying to make. I would never share this stuff with anyone who knows me or anyone I am seeing.

CAZ

October 15th, 2009
10:09 am

Yeah,There are things guy’s don’t discuss with each other such as hygeiene.And even though my Girl will tell me things(gossip) about other girlfriends or couples and I listen,it usually goes in one ear out the other. I have enough to deal with on a daily basis, I don’t want or need other peoples issues/problems clouding what’s important to me & my family to be.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:11 am

The key is to know your Friends. And know them well.

I remember talking to my confidant about something that wasn’t really that private but I was confiding just the same. She told me that I was the one wrong and off base. That right there let me know that she would one day make an incredible friend. And she is.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:12 am

@THE INFAMOUS DK I second that motion!
After my 5 yr relationship ended I made certain to never say a bad word about her to my family.. my mother and sister loved this girl like she was a part of the family… But about a year after the break up they saw the true colors, and now I think they can’t stand her more than me. It took a while but now they have nothing good to say about that chick, and I can sleep well knowing that its not because of a word I spoke.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:13 am

CAZ Exactly.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:13 am

@ I’m swiss

Exactly. Also as I said a few days ago, men don’t talk about hteir wives because, as you said, if it is good we don’t want them getting ideas, and if it is bad, we don’t want them knowing we screwed up.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
10:13 am

GM All!

I’m not one to share details of my personal relationship with anyone. I’m just very private that way. However, I wouldn’t mind (or care to know) if my s/o discusses any aspect of our relationship with others.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
10:15 am

You just don’t tell that kind of explicit stuff period

well said….
the next time u tell ur female friend,she be pining for ur man…..

U do tell if u not serious about the person…or if ur mouth is just wack like that.

Morning!

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:16 am

OK so let’s flip the scenario…..
Why do ladies tell the man they are dating all about the one girl in the group who is promiscuous or who is the “man stealer”?

Further…why do ladies insist on bringing the guy you are dating around this chick?

If you have that one home girl who likes to run through dudes, is it supposed to be a test to see if your date will take the bait?

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:16 am

Swiss It’s funny how it’s not just females that talk males do too…there are some men that will run-a-muck about their relationship and share all deets.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:18 am

Now the folks that tell their mamas, cousins, stepbrothers, next door neighbor any and everything are just setting themselves up for trouble.

I have a saying “don’t expect me to hate them for you”. And that’s what happens a lot. You tell you mama nem all your business and disagreements and at the next family gathering every body looking at your mate like they got third head. That just ain’t right.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:18 am

Leggs You’ve got mail.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:19 am

Men might confide AFTER a relationship ends…sort of to explain what happened or did not happen, but almost never during the relationship.

Besides, as my wise uncle told me years ago, “it does not do any good to complain because statistically 85% of the people you complain to, don’t care…and the other 15% are actually glad that you are miserable”. Keeping the ‘boys’ up to date on the romantic life…NEVER.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
10:19 am

Men don’t typically talk to our buddies about something like that unless ol girl was a jump-off.

Right Willie!!

But, We aint telling nobody nothing bout the Mrs

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:19 am

Why do ladies tell the man they are dating all about the one girl in the group who is promiscuous or who is the “man stealer”?

EastPoint, why would anyone do that?

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:20 am

Why do ladies tell the man they are dating all about the one girl in the group who is promiscuous or who is the “man stealer”?

Who does this for real? If she is YOUR friend and she’s promiscuous..auh….what does that say about you?!

why do ladies insist on bringing the guy you are dating around this chick?

Yea, right!

If you have that one home girl who likes to run through dudes, is it supposed to be a test to see if your date will take the bait?

Wow…still playing games?!

Thanks East Point that was interesting..and funny.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:22 am

@ Cemeeli The fact is that yes, some men somewhere do run their mouths like women do… but the vast, vast majority of men do not share intimate details of their lives with anyone outher than their mate. I would dare to say that most women talk to at least 1 person other than their mate about the details of their life… Form what I know, experience, and see most men do not.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
10:23 am

Also, you gotta watch the Dedicated Haters who wanna have something to say about the man/woman that they may have once had a thing for………..that is so suspect.

Like my Moma use to say say, “If you don’t got nothing good to say about someone, don’t say anything at all”.

Bravo – to the Men/Women who did not bash their ex’s to the family…the truth always shows up.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:23 am

“Why do ladies tell the man they are dating all about the one girl in the group who is promiscuous or who is the “man stealer”?”

They do!!! I think to get a feel for what the man’s reaction is going to be…not knowing that the dude is thinking to himself, “write that down, quick, in the rolodex for future reference”…while telling the lady that that is awful and he is seriously disappointed. LOL.

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
10:24 am

“loose lips sink ships…and relationships…and marriages”

^5 That’s the bottom line!!!

@EastP ~ loving your 10:12!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
10:28 am

EPO – We are in the dating range of anything goes and standards and morals are low.. Dude I see it all the time.. Best friends cutting eyes.. I have been sexually harrassed by two of my EX’s supposedly best friends.. It funny.. One of em said well at least I know you will commit..

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:28 am

@ EastPoint – Call me coy, introvert, secretive…whatever…i have some girlfriends I only deal with on a short leash, and then I’m out! They call me just to make sure I’m aight…then ask about work …or the child…but the man <— is my territory, and I protect my pride…

but…that's just me…Ask Kym about how we do that.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:32 am

LOL @ DK

“The times they are a changin” In my pre-marital days, my lady’s friends would be all flirty and “available” while we were dating and I was committed, but the minute we broke up, they would read me the riot act if I even thought about asking them out. No way they would betray their BFF. I do not understand women, I really don’t, they do not hink like men, that is for sure!!!

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
10:33 am

“It’s funny how it’s not just females that talk males do too”

Cee — From my experience if I guy is telling all his business to other guys, he’s not really that into the girl anymore. And if he’s telling his business to other girls, he’s looking for a sympathy phluck. :lol:

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:34 am

@ EastPoint – Call me coy, introvert, secretive…whatever…i have some girlfriends I only deal with on a short leash, and then I’m out! They call me just to make sure I’m aight…then ask about work …or the child…but the man  my territory, and I protect my pride…

..but that’s me…

CAZ

October 15th, 2009
10:34 am

When I was out there on the open market so to speak,when trying to get to know a Lady and the conversation went to previous relationships. Regardless of how they may have ended I always said positive things,it’s a mental thing. First it sends out the vibe that I dated classy ladies and that I was’nt looking for drama. Secondly I never knew who knew who,that womens club is wide & far reaching. Third to much negativity is never a good thing when trying to impress.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:34 am

I have been through that probably twice in the last year. At least 2 women I have dated have brought that chick around on a date with me. Actually last night was one of those times… I went out with a chick last night who had just told me Tuesday about the chick who stole the friend’s man and guess who was at dinner with us last night… I was like Wooooowwwww are you for real??? I wanted to get her number just for the heck of it… (but I didn’t do it…this time)

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:34 am

One of em said well at least I know you will commit

But you know what Infamous most women feel that way about any married. He is married therefore at least at that time willing to commit.

But you know how I see it, I could not trust a man that cheats on his wife that he is “committed” to even if it was with me. How committed is he really if he cheats? So while women are out there thinking they are stealing other women’s husbands they are actually getting themselves a cheater.

If I cheat on my husband to be with you, I am a cheater. And you should know I just may do it again when the next guy better than you comes along.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
10:36 am

Good Call Swiss on the sympathy pluck..

Randy – Besides, as my wise uncle told me years ago, “it does not do any good to complain because statistically 85% of the people you complain to, don’t care…and the other 15% are actually glad that you are miserable”.
Thats some good ish right there..

Melo

October 15th, 2009
10:37 am

if he’s telling his business to other girls, he’s looking for a sympathy phluck

aaaaghhhh those,Swiss..u the best this merning! :lol:

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:38 am

At dinner last night I even asked her ” Is that the chick you told me stole your other friend’s man?” and she said yeah, that’s her…
I was like Woooooow…. are you for real?????

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:38 am

Swiss – Don’t get it twisted…I/we can read a “symphathy talk tryna get it”…to a…N’gro who talk to much!! type
There area some motor mouth dudes that are just ‘flyin off the cuff’…look around they are your boss, neighbor, friend, hommie, pizza delivery man…they come to sabotage the “man rule”…lol :)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:39 am

@ Raqi re cheating.

What you stated is a simple, obvious, and fairly universal truth. I have never understood how women (or men) get involved with a cheater and then seem totally shocked/surprised when he/she does the same thing to them. Well DUHHHH.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:41 am

the chick who stole the friend’s man

But EastPoint the question is, is she able to keep that man, or those men? She going around stealing but no able to keep them means nothing. Guys that chase women that are known for taking a woman’s man should know that she is probably a one time wonder.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:42 am

Just like men know when a female is vunerable…a women know when a man is trying to talk his way about the capitol B, Kanshavia into her bedroom…

that’s old game..

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
10:43 am

“There area some motor mouth dudes that are just ‘flyin off the cuff’…look around they are your boss, neighbor, friend, hommie, pizza delivery man…they come to sabotage the “man rule”…lol”

You know when I say “guys” I’m not including gay dudes, right? ;-) :lol: ‘Cos otherwise, I haven’t met that many dudes who lay everything out there like that… Maybe it’s just the circle I’m in…?

MsLady D

October 15th, 2009
10:43 am

** luker joining the convo** I agree with what others have said. I don’t tell my GF’s too much about my
relationships and certianly not about my sexual activities in detail. I also limit what I tell my SO about GFs,
I don’t need any curiosity mishaps.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
10:43 am

@Raqi I don’t know all the details… as has been stated here today, I really did not care to hear her friend’s business, and I really wasn’t paying attention when she was babbling on about her… all I caught was ” she likes to pick up dudes when we go out and have sex with them” and ” she got my other friend’s man’s number last week” other than that I was thinking about something else….

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
10:43 am

Similac – regardless of the so-called popular opinion expressed by the masses on dis here blog. Its some trifling azz women out here that have plenty of BFF’s that they are hoodwinking. It’s also some bum-azz dudes that dont care nothin bout if she is or aint your BFF. Its easy for the real folks to figure it out but for some they will forever be clueless and classless trying to figure out why they keep getting got.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
10:45 am

should know that she is probably a one time wonder

they do know,she the only one that thinks it will be different this time,maybe.
At a certain stage in their lives,guys luv that sport and scoring on that one hot one,then go to their friends to tell and do the tally.

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
10:47 am

East Pernt – tell the truth mayne, you heard what you needed to hear. Come back in 3 mos and tell us how many out that whole crew you ran through. lol!!!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:47 am

@ Swiss – stop laughing!! lol :) I am cause you have none in your circle but then in the same circle you have “the sympathy motor mouth friend”…you know the one that tells so he can get some…? remember him?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
10:49 am

Ladies if a woman ever steps to you and tell you that she took your man, let her know that she actually relieved of your problem and thank her for it. If he cheated he was nothing but a problem.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:49 am

WillieD – i’m sitting down..big brother.

dapps

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
10:50 am

Morning Folks!

I don’t share the intimate details but my girlfriends and I do talk. Back when our relationship was approaching serious – I told my guy about my blog. I asked if he had any problems with it and he said no. He doesn’t want to read it, but I discuss all my posts concerning him with him.

I would never discuss the intimate stuff – that’s just not my style and I don’t understand women that do. Although I have had some associates that care to share, I can’t do it. I’ve seen pictures of men’s, umm, ‘packages’ that have been sent to them via text and everything.

don’t understand why men do that – don’t they know that picture is going to be seen by a multitude of females?

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
10:51 am

oh…lemme clean the mic off for ya’ll folk!

lol

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
10:51 am

Its easy for the real folks to figure it out but for some they will forever be clueless and classless trying to figure out why they keep getting got.

WD – Exactly! Now that’s real……….

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:52 am

@ Cemeeli and I’m swiss

It is a man thing. If dude is bragging about all of his conquests, his “boys” automatically think it is al BS. The quite dudes that say “almost” nothing, but display quiet confidence are the ones everyone thinks are really “laying pipe”.

Man Rule…”the more you talk the less you really do!!!”

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
10:52 am

“…you have none in your circle but then in the same circle you have “the sympathy motor mouth friend”…you know the one that tells so he can get some…? remember him?”

Cee — Exactly… I’m not saying guys never talk. I’m saying we don’t talk unless there is an agenda… :lol: If we’re with someone that we love & are happy with, we’re not going to be running our mouths to anyone, as a general rule…

kinderbabe

October 15th, 2009
10:54 am

i can see talking about the relationship in general but not specific bedroom stuff. i know i wouldn’t like it if he dished about what i did in the bedroom. i do have two very close girlfriends that i can talk candidly to when i’m having a relationship challenge. it’s good to have a friend to confide in.:)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 15th, 2009
10:56 am

Although one of the funniest skits I ever heard was Jeff Foxworthy talking about single “redneck” men. He said they always had the greatest stories. One of them went something like this:

“there I was, naked, tied to the bed…30 weight motor oil spread all over my body…she walked into the room, carrying a saddle and a set of jumper cables”…

Now that appeals to me for some reason, lol, but if told something like that…BBBBBSSSSS.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
10:57 am

Ladies if a woman ever steps to you and tell you that she took your man, let her know that she actually relieved of your problem and thank her for it. If he cheated he was nothing but a problem.

@Raqi – Additionally, You might be A) breathing a sigh of relief B) Laughing uncontrollably…..because of what you (secretly)do know. or C)Feeling sorry for her.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
10:57 am

Wow….great comments. I see the general consensus is shut your mouth…I agree…whole heartedly!

Kym

October 15th, 2009
10:58 am

Good Morning All,

Why am I hearing Run-DMC’s You talk to much..and Rumors playing as the theme for this blog?

Everythang aint for everyone to know..that is why it is called your personal life. We vent to our friends ourside of the issue not because we want an objective opinion but because we want someone to take our damn side. However, respect is still owed to the SO, hubby, BF or whoever that we don’t venture to far out there with all the bedroom antics and details. Because as some have said already..don’t think everyone who calls you friend is your friend..what’s that line from Whodini.. “she shook your hand and stole your man..move so sweet it had to be a plan.. wouldn’t trust her cheese let alone your keys..friends like that you don’t need enemies.”

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
10:58 am

RAQI – This was after I got divorced and ran into two of her friends on separate occasions… One was very overt with it and the other was ohh so subtle and discrete

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
10:59 am

In details…what goes on between two consenting loving adults is private and should remain. It sort takes away the thunder when EVERYBODY knows all your business, the who what when where how and why. Just so much sweeter when it’s just between the two of you.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
11:01 am

@Tazzee, knowing that a multitude of women will see the pic is exactly the point… the problem arises when he thinks he is working with more than he really is.. LoL but if is judgement is correct a few mms pics might pay off

@ Willie Dynamite I will report back if there are any noteworthy events within the next 3 months… LoL

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
11:01 am

Raqi – And no I didnt sleep with her friends cause at that point I was on cant non of ya’ll get no good vibrations..

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:03 am

Oh okay Infamous that’s a whole different situation right there.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
11:04 am

Raqi – I do things but i do be dirty like that.. I have a code I live by no matter what hapened between us.. If I turned around and slept with her friends and it didnt work out because it wouldnt have worked that would have validated all she said.. So I passed on both of them and politely told them that “Im not that kind of guy”.. “Im not easy”.. It was funny to see their faces.. Did I flirt to the edge just to see how far they would go? yes..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
11:05 am

Raqi – I dont be dirty like that..

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
11:09 am

DK – It was good to read that you live by a code. Thats lost nowadays and its evident on both sides that some just dont.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
11:09 am

Mybye EPO’s girl is into 3somes and they’re setting him up for it. Or, maybe it’s a set-up…period. Hmmm

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
11:10 am

I only say that because I cannot fathom or imagine bringing a chick along that I know, will openly go after anybody’s man. Not that I would feel threaten but some things are just plain no-nos

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:10 am

“The quite dudes that say “almost” nothing, but display quiet confidence are the ones everyone thinks are really “laying pipe”.”

If you cain’t say Amen, say OUCH!!! Lol :)

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
11:11 am

Completely off topic, but this cracked me up.

Now, being a white boy, I like these guys, but shouldn’t that headline really have been that this band was actually still around, believe it or not:lol:

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
11:12 am

Im sorry, its really hard to beleive that every woman on this blog doesn’t share details of what happens in the bed. Ya’ll are really telling us that, when you talk to you best friend everyday, about everything under the sun.. That you leave out the reasons of why your neck is crunched up today.. or why you needed to call in to work!?!
That at some point during your many many gossip sessions, intimate details are left out… RIGHHHHT!! I can see married women holding out, but the rest of you that are know to bump your gums are not getting a pass on that one…

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:13 am

Ms. Main – sometimes i can read behind screens…sooo i will give you this… Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath

Seal it.

East Point's Own

October 15th, 2009
11:15 am

@Ms. Main All of that has been considered and then some… but if she wants a 3some either ask, or just show up with a friend… its just that simple. Or if you are shy about it just have a friend at the crib when I come over… do the ole leave the door unlocked trick and let her wander in while we are getting down.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
11:18 am

Ladies have you ever become friends with the mate of someone that you dated?

My college sweetheart and his wife are two of my dearest friends, I love them both and totally honor what they have built…….their son ( whom I adore) calls me Auntie. His parents still love me and I them. Respect…..goes a long way.

William

October 15th, 2009
11:19 am

I grew up with the attitude I want a lady in the living room and a slut in the bedroom. Hmmm I guess keeping things between the two of you is the best way. As long as the two of you are communicating the do’s and donts and the goodies and the “no ways”.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
11:21 am

Im sorry, its really hard to beleive that every woman on this blog doesn’t share details of what happens in the bed. Ya’ll are really telling us that, when you talk to you best friend everyday, about everything under the sun.. That you leave out the reasons of why your neck is crunched up today.. or why you needed to call in to work!?!

@Mr. – Why talk to the girls when I can: A) Call or text him for Re-cap of what we did B) Blog annousmly or C) If it was bad……get us some counseling.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:22 am

If I turned around and slept with her friends and it didnt work out because it wouldnt have worked that would have validated all she said

Yep. Infamous that’s about like someone bragging on their mother’s cooking but when you finally get invited over for dinner it tastes like spoiled dog food. And that’s either because she was having an off day that day or it in fact always has tasted like spoiled dog food but every body’s taste is different.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
11:24 am

Righteo – Cemeeli

EPO – Just things that make you say hmmmm. Maybe not, just a passing thought with someone being so free and open with someone knowing how they operate. Who brings a 3rd person?

Mr Unknown- You’re blogging with grown folks. Like someone said earlier, loose lips sank ships. Maybe when we were younger but uh uh, not now.

kinderbabe

October 15th, 2009
11:25 am

@Mr. Unknown. I believe you’re right that when it’s some random dude or chick folks are likely to spill the beans b/c they don’t really care. when you have a significant other (which is possible w/o being married) you don’t want everyone to know everything that goes on. there is a lot of privacy in true intimacy.

William

October 15th, 2009
11:25 am

What if it gets back to him that he is toooo small?

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:25 am

Where is our lil mama Dream_n?

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
11:25 am

EPO – well I’m not trynna look at random packages, so I just don’t understand that fad.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:26 am

LOL Mr.Unknown. I ain’t gon say nothing.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
11:27 am

EPO – maybe she’s trusting like that…who knows

Kym

October 15th, 2009
11:27 am

Mr. Unknown I have friends who share too much..I have to shut them up because I remind them that I am a visual thinker..I don’t need some images burned into my brain. Others share basic..and others are repressed. But going down the list and convo..most of my friends are the leave something to the imagination types. You had sex with so and so…you like it I love it…done. No one is asking for a blow by blow Zane version of the events. Sex(means someone was naked or partial naked..and someone did something that someone else liked..) got it good. Moving on.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:29 am

Where is our lil mama Dream_n?

I think I read that they went on vacation.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:29 am

kinderteach – Miss Lady I have given you a couple shout outs…and i’m tired nah!!…How was the trip to the islands? What have you been up too?

SexyCool - Cloud 4 is so cool.

October 15th, 2009
11:30 am

I guess I never really talked about what I do and/or don’t divulge about my relationship. To my gfs, I will discuss general stuff (where we went to dinner, what we did over the weekend) and tell him some of the wonderful things he does.

With my bffs, maybe a little more and may mention that he kept me up all night. ~giggling~ I’m mature and discerning enough to know what kinds of things are not even worth discussing and as I mention briefly earlier, I’m not telling anything that I don’t want her man or any of her other friends to know.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
11:32 am

As long as there is anonymity – the blog is the best place to share other then 1st going on your knees in prayer.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:33 am

With my bffs, maybe a little more and may mention that he kept me up all night.

Yep. SexyCool You are not sharing the number of thrusts and how low he is hanging, just the fact of that’s why youz a little sleepy today. LOL

kinderbabe

October 15th, 2009
11:34 am

@cemeeli…hey!!!! i’m so sorry i missed my shout outs. i just flash on here and flash off…lol. i posted a few times over the last couple weeks but did not follow up and read later. how have you been? how is your lil guy’s school year going?

SexyCool - Cloud 4 is so cool.

October 15th, 2009
11:34 am

And yes, I will share a juicy detail every now and then with my closest gfs and my sister. But spilling ALL my bedroom secrets on a regular? Ain’t happen’n.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
11:36 am

AARGH!! so much to say but my phone won’t stop ringing!! ditto Ms. Main’s 11:24 tho. i think most on this blog are a bit older and wiser. Mr. Unknown, if we say we’re not the kiss & tell types it’s cuz we just aren’t (now).

same thing DK said about guys applies to the ladies. those who brag are usually the one’s trying to cover something. those who complain (i’ve found) are usually chicks that just complain about LIFE anyway.

SexyCool - Cloud 4 is so cool.

October 15th, 2009
11:37 am

I might say something like, “Giiirrrrllll, he does this thing with his pinky toe and my left kneecap that drives me CRAZY!!!!!”

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
11:38 am

Yeah I can Yapp out here but in person I dont talk to people like that..

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:39 am

he does this thing with his pinky toe and my left kneecap that drives me CRAZY

ROTFLMBO

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
11:39 am

SC – I knew it, I knew it. You are a certified USDA Grade A FREAK. lol!!!

Melo

October 15th, 2009
11:40 am

maybe a little more and may mention that he kept me up all night. ~giggling~

that will get them curious coz it means he got endureeeence & stamina, he strong and he can giit it up all nite! :lol: :lol:

I think I read that they went on vacation.

even if she got a kid with this dude,how does she get excited about vacationing with a dude that she intends to ghost in a month or so??
Is that the abc thang,women being dirty lil secret keepers all the daaamn time??

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
11:43 am

When I read the topic this morn I automatically thought about Dream_n. Was I the only one?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:43 am

SexyCool I just don’t be telling the stuff like he gotz a tornado twirling tongue that sends me………

Let me stop before I have folks throwing holy water on their screens at me.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:43 am

@ SCool – Tell us ’bout that pinky toe and kneecap!?! Lol

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
11:44 am

Whats happening Party People!

okay I come on and read about SCool’s kneecap and her new dudes pinky toe……well dayum!! LOL!

Dont do the yappin to friends. First off my BF is a guy anyway so he dont want to hear all that! Now my closest female friends are family (cousin & sis) but I still dont divulge err’thang, Other than “oh he can get it!!” :smile:

SexyCool - Cloud 4 is so cool.

October 15th, 2009
11:44 am

See, Raqi – you always posting that stuff that makes folk wanna go home and ‘eat’ for lunch.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
11:45 am

SCool – LOL at the pinky toe and knee cap.

I don’t even think my friends want to know the intimate details. We just don’t talk about stuff like that – or maybe they talk about it when I’m not around, but I doubt.

After I revealed that I’d actually done the act, the only question I got was ‘was it good?’ or ‘was it worth it?’

This discussion reminds me of Kevin Hart’s stand-up – when he talks about eating a$$ :lol:

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:45 am

Me too! WillieD …hahahahaha

Dang i have blog relatives!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:48 am

@ kinderteach – Girl me and mine are eating well! Its nice to have someone on board to balance the meals…

the college prepratory is giving him a run for his money…he’s always expressing “who does this to a 10 year old?”…:)

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:49 am

SexyCool I started to send you an email telling you to let’s be the devil’s advocates and get really out there today but I changedededed my mind. LOL

But yeah gone home and back some babies.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:50 am

I mean…bake some babies.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
11:53 am

I can’t read you, Raqi
Peaking at the screen from behind my hands. LOL

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
11:54 am

My reasons for saying this, I sit around women all day at work… Grown, accomplished, women that have it together… And I hear them giving details about what goes on behind close doors,, and its not random guys… As a man Im trained to hear key words, such as sex, headboard ect… For me listening to this, its almost like she is compelled to add to the conversation, compelled to add a her personal story into the mix of girl talk…

So ya’ll women of the blog are saying, If you do something sexually with boyfriend that you neever have done before whether its a differnt position, location, or he got you in a headlock and and it was the best sex ever… Those details are going to remain with you and only you… Its not going to eat your insides out to let one of your girlfriends know..

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:54 am

Auh…Tazzee…i love your tagline.

I’m elated for you…

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:00 pm

wow. Holyfield & Tyson live on Oprah this friday. now i wish i had tivo.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:01 pm

one of my team members is spraying the office of our neighbor’s office because the person said he was sick with a bad cough, sour throat, and other ailments…then tells me…”never know where the h1n1 starts”…

omg!

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:03 pm

MR. Unknown..u damn right!

These women are more liberal with their moufs than they are revealing…..
This is called halleluah blog..they follow the lead of the first to climb the high horse.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:03 pm

Mr. Unknown, that’s a big NO. especially not at work.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:08 pm

lol…someone said High School Musical…

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Mr. Unknown – Didn’t you see what I wrote about the pinky toe and the kneecap?

But I ain’t telling this to a bunch a chicks at work. Uh. No.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Raqi – thank you for changing your mind….

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Shet it up, Melo.

@Mr.Unknown, really we don’t reveal much to our friends ANYMORE. You learn as you age. If someone ask why you’re walking funny, you merely say he gave me a run for my money! No need to give blow by blow visual of how it all went down. Since I was told I was very nonchalant and not forthcoming growing up, I never, ever gave details of my trysts. I might drop you a crumb or two, but that’s about it. I have neve rhad my man taken from me by a friend because I piqued her curiosity. I grew up pretty much smart cuz I sat in the cut and watched and listened!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:11 pm

“These women are more liberal with their moufs than they are revealing”…..

Auh…Are you the pot or the kettle?

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:19 pm

Im the kepot Cemeeli! :lol:

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
12:19 pm

@ Melo Lol, I see..

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
12:22 pm

Im now looking for the kneecap comment

OneFreeMan

October 15th, 2009
12:25 pm

The more they tell, the more of their friend we get. Keep talking ladies!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
12:28 pm

Mr Unknown – I dont tell co-workers ISH! I didnt tell them I was engaged, didnt tell them I was preggo….nothing! Luckily though I work with a bunch of old biddies anyway.

Cemeeli – we had a chick come in here coughing so hard I swear she sounded like a wounded buffalo. People immediately started spraying lysol! I guess it doesnt help to add that she stays sick anyway……

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:29 pm

No Mr.Unknown I did NOT come back to work from lunch Tuesday and tell my co-workers that I spent the last 20 minutes making out with my husband in the car and he felt me up AND down. No, I don’t have those type of friends here at work.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:31 pm

Mo – The other morning, I was on the train to work and this dude got on at the East Point station sounding like he was about to cough up a lung.

I politely got my ass off at College Park and went to the next car.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:31 pm

LOL Tazzee. You know some days I can be bad. SexyCool don’t make it any easier.

kinderbabe

October 15th, 2009
12:32 pm

@cemeeli, that’s good he is being challenged at school.:) i’m sure it makes his day go by faster…beats being bored…lol

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
12:33 pm

SexyCool – I dont get why these folks dont stay home with all that!!! Dayum!! The building I work in is already a decrepid, mildewed out tomb and here you come adding to the ickiness with your germs!! UGH!!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Mr.Unknown, really we don’t reveal much to our friends ANYMORE. You learn as you age. If someone ask why you’re walking funny, you merely say he gave me a run for my money! No need to give blow by blow visual of how it all went down.

Now that an AMEN!

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:36 pm

And yesterday, we were almost at my stop when this lady started coughing and sniffling. So, I sat there and wondered what would be worse – the H1N1 germs that she was obviously spewing all over the place or me passing out on the dirty behind floor of the MARTA from trying to hold my breath until we got to my stop.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:37 pm

MO, because people want to save their sick days to play hookie and have fun. fortunately, i get enough pto to do both … but i’m blessed. in our office we are supplied hand sanitizer and disinfectant spray. you wouldn’t believe some of the coughs and SNEEZES they let fly round here.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:38 pm

If MND ever left me walking funny, he didn’t do something right and it probably didn’t feel that good.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:39 pm

Almost forgot – Happy Birthday, Rell!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:39 pm

Mr Unknown – I dont tell co-workers ISH! I didnt tell them I was engaged, didnt tell them I was preggo….nothing! Luckily though I work with a bunch of old biddies anyway.

@Mo – Thats right when folks see the ring bling.they’ll know!

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
12:41 pm

Anything other than you’re regular way of walking is “walking funny” and we’ve all been there. A noticeable get up in your get up.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:42 pm

If MND ever left me walking funny, he didn’t do something right and it probably didn’t feel that good.

LMAO – AKA – The bow legged pony ass walk.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:43 pm

I close my eyes when im peeing….

and i close my eyes,twistin’ my mouf kinda funny, when i nut….any of ur men ever tell u,they do that too??

or is it the zulu in me?

:lol: :lol: :lol:

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:44 pm

ur right about that, Leggs. happened to me a couple years ago & folks @ work were asking ???? had to tell them it was an old back injury. see, Mr. Unknown, NO sharing of info @ work. the women you work with are either very close or (dare i say it … do i dare?) ok, very ghetto. there … i said it!

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:46 pm

Mo – when my co-workers saw my ring they were like ‘why didn’t you tell us?’ I also got a few ‘I didn’t even know you were seeing someone’ I’m thinking ‘excuse me, but are we friends?’

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:46 pm

I dont get why these folks dont stay home with all that

Mo our policy here as always been you get quarantined or sent home if you are coughing and can’t half speak because of a sore throat. But now for sure folks know to call in instead of driving all the way here to get sent back.

My boss would rather pay folks for 1/2 a day who don’t have any sick days available and let them stay home than to have them come in make 10 other people sick, that will just make 10 more other people sick and so on.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:48 pm

LOL @ Tazzee 12:46

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:48 pm

If the bedroom aerobics got me walking funny, I’m staying home any way.

A slight aching of the thigh muscles don’t count. LOL

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:50 pm

How vain am I? It’s time for me to renew my work ID and I’m going to get my hair done in the morning and going to security tomorrow afternoon so that I have a cute picture this year.

I HATED the one I’ve had this past year.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:51 pm

Tazzee you sound like my friend Doc. She’ll ask a person in a minute “do I know you like that?” LOL

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:52 pm

SCool – Nothing wrong with that. That ID picture has to be your representative for the year. I wish we re-took ours every year.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:55 pm

Mo – when my co-workers saw my ring they were like ‘why didn’t you tell us?’ I also got a few ‘I didn’t even know you were seeing someone’ I’m thinking ‘excuse me, but are we friends?’

I got a couple of friends that I’m not telling ish to cause I know they are bonified Town Criers (not necessarily in a bad way, but I like to tell my own story)

Lundy

October 15th, 2009
12:55 pm

My BF has a huge……..ego? LOL! Definitely don’t share the dirty details.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:56 pm

‘why didn’t you tell us?’

how about ur “friends”? do they all seem happy for u or u have seen some distancing coz of that haterration?
Thats the diff tween girls and boys,girls will be like:

Sahmqueezha: ohh Tazzee, ur ring is so nice,congrats girl!! lemme see,ohh niceeee!!

Tazzee: oh,thank u,thank Jesus,finally!

Sahmqueezha: so when is the wedding?

Guys:

Tazze’s man: oh man i proposed this weekend??

Friend: to who,oh lawwwdd!!

Tazze’s man: to Tazzee, maaan.

Friend: oh,she bug u like that u had to do it?

Tazze’s man: oh man,it was about time man..she deserve it!

Friend: i know man,sorry about that!

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
1:00 pm

Sahmqueezha, Melo?? OK. now i don’t feel so bad about throwing the ‘ghetto’ comment out there. LOL.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:01 pm

how about ur “friends”? do they all seem happy for u or u have seen some distancing coz of that haterration?
Thats the diff tween girls and boys,girls will be like:

@ Melo – No, they(gf) are not all going to be happy for you, especially your single friends that can’t even muster up a date. When you start seeing those hater signs, those are ones you feed very limited info to.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
1:07 pm

Melo – my closest friends knew before I did, they were helping him. I haven’t seen any hate so far, or it could be that I don’t see it because I’m too caught up in my own little blissful world.

Overall, most have been extremely happy for me (to the point of tears) because they’ve witnessed the struggle, LOL

Melo

October 15th, 2009
1:10 pm

Tazzee,thats good to hear..congrats once again!

Professor

October 15th, 2009
1:11 pm

@Melo

As for females hating…I was talking to this very accomplished and intelligent lady on Monday. We talked about sisterhood NOT between races, but just women in general we both agreed how mean some women can be as it relates to accomplishments…making each other feel guilty (I see this more with my friends that have children) the mom finally buy something for herself and someone chimes in, well it must be nice I put my money on my children they come first…making her feel guilty or as if she does not put her kids first. My personal pet peeve when I take a three day stay-cation and vist Spa Sydell, go shopping and have a nice lunch or dinner and some women say “it must be nice” in that evil tone.

Lady J

October 15th, 2009
1:14 pm

Hey Kinder, Mo, and Cee-Cee!!! It’s been forever!!!!! Great topics too Wise Diva as I silently lurk periodically!!!!

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
1:17 pm

In support of today’s topic everybody go home tonight and do something with your S/O or alone (LOL) that is so juicy you want to tell somebody but you can’t. Just wear it with a smile tomorrow.

:lol:

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
1:18 pm

Professor – I hate that phrase “must be nice”

I SO want to say “yes it is, VERY nice”…heffa.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:19 pm

My personal pet peeve when I take a three day stay-cation and vist Spa Sydell, go shopping and have a nice lunch or dinner and some women say “it must be nice” in that evil tone.

@Professor – That is so hateful……….I had a beautician that I went to when I first moved here and if she saw a new purse, ring, car…whatever…she would go up on the price (for the same services) I just got tired of it she would always ask…..is that new. Why do women do such things to each other?

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
1:19 pm

Raqi – I need to take a raincheck and do it tomorrow night ;-)

Diamond

October 15th, 2009
1:22 pm

I never post but I DO NOT share my business with anyone regarding my relationship whether its the SEX, how great he treas me and our disputes. I think somethings should be left between you and that person and my relationship is off topic when it comes to anyone.

Angie

October 15th, 2009
1:25 pm

morning DK! you in here? it’s you and i today. hehe.

i have two close bff’s. i tell them everything. after i marry . . . idk.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
1:27 pm

yes it is

Tazzee that is usually what I say when someone says “it must be nice”. My exact response is “Actually it is”, however I don’t take that statement “it must be nice” negatively because it usually isn’t.

I say it to my friends sometimes and the say it to me. There is nothing negative about it. It’s just an expression of “man I am so busy and preoccupied right now….”.

Angie

October 15th, 2009
1:28 pm

gotta run. will try and respond to you later.

Shondra

October 15th, 2009
1:32 pm

Most the time when girlfriend be talking this and that about her man I’m thinkin’ to myself that she’s mostly lyin’ about him or tryin’ to dis him and make herself look good.

Any girl that talk about such things got an ulterior motive and it’s usually to make theyselves look better to someone…

For real…

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
1:33 pm

ditto Raqi 1:27. that’s my simple response, no matter how they meant it. i just say “yeah it is!”. he!! … i deserve ‘nice’! don’t you?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:35 pm

Angie – somebody said you was looking for me.. Here I go..

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
1:36 pm

DK – when the heyal is that dude getting out?

Melo

October 15th, 2009
1:37 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:37 pm

Greetings Shondra and Diamond..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:39 pm

Willie D – I dont know but I miss ol Mysti-cal..

Hey I was shouting out yesterday about that Devin the dude “Show em”..

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:39 pm

A Friend of my posted this on Facebook….just wanted to share………

1. a foot stool elevates you 2. a foot stool allows you to reach something that was out of reach 3. a foot stool allows you to see things you could not see….ain’t God good? Thank God today for those foot stools in your life. BLESSED TO BE A BLESSING!”

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:40 pm

Willie D – My Homies out in Cali got me on this Nipsey Hustle cat.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
1:41 pm

Hey there Miss LadyJ! long time…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:42 pm

Wings – whats your Facebook page again??

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
1:42 pm

we had a chick come in here coughing so hard I swear she sounded like a wounded buffalo.

Mo You are a fool!!

wounded buffalo…dag!!!

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
1:43 pm

Raqi – My friends and I say it to one another all the time in a joking, I’m jealous of you type way. But I’m talking about when folks say it with that tone… It’s usually a ‘hmph…must be nice…’

Diamond – I am QUICK to talk about the good things. My BFF makes the gagging sign while rolling her eyes often, LOL. Then, when/if he does something that ticks me off and I chose to vent she quickly reminds of all those moments that made her gag.

Cloud 9

October 15th, 2009
1:45 pm

I jus saw this topic—interesting so to speak. My gf of year and half when we started dating she would tell her friends about our bedroom st*ff the good’n'bad. I warned her not to divulge or volunteer too much information. She told me to mind my business since it was girl talk. A few weeks later 2 of her friends started sending me facebook messages anonymously and (BTW there is a way to find out who) when she found out she cut them off. She was so upset and I was laughing. They wanted to experience what she’s been talking about…

U live you learn…

She was wrong

October 15th, 2009
1:47 pm

I understand how her boyfriend feels. I was dating a childish 37 year old man who act like he was 2! EVERYTHING he and I did together he would tell her. Even our intimate (sexual) things…When I reprimanded him from doing so he had the audacity to tell me that it is his business and they tell each other every thing…I told him that NO it was NOT her business it was MY business and he had no right to tell her jack! He ‘claimed’ that they tell each other everything…I had to point out to him that she is married and that she does not tell him EVERYTHING like he thinks! So needlessly to say I had to dump him immediately after he told MY business to his ’so called’ best friend!

So yes this girl was wrong from telling their business to her friends..NO Mature person would ever do that!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:48 pm

IDK – Wings – whats your Facebook page again??

I got mad respect for you, but I ‘d rather keep my anonymity….just in case I wanna say something slick. LOL

Truly though take no offense……I don’t know anyone on this blog personally and if they say they know me, tell them to prove it.

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
1:49 pm

In the security class that I just took, it was apparently this chick’s birthday. She had a crumpled up ONE dollar bill pinned to her chest.

I almost wished I had some cash on me ’cause that was kinda pitiful.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
1:49 pm

Melo – I blog just because of you comment earlier…just had a long lunch with all female colleagues and 2 of the 5 asked me why i don’t converse, lunchit with the “girls” more often…and it made me think of what you said in the morning post.

Why would i just “hang” when i know i’m not a “talker” or going to tell em much about anything…i ate my food and smiled,…then remembered why i am a silent socialite…

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
1:50 pm

My husband and I both are wearing yellow socks today. Oh…wait…did I say too much. LOL

It’s raining, raining, raining.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
1:53 pm

I almost wished I had some cash on me ’cause that was kinda pitiful.

LMBO SexyCool. I never got that pin the money on your chest b-day thingy, however if I was into doing that I would have gotten about 10 singles of my own and pinned them on instead of walking around with one crinklely one like that.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
1:53 pm

Swiss lookit 1:47 example’s guy.

…all i had to do was fall back and wait.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:54 pm

In the security class that I just took, it was apparently this chick’s birthday. She had a crumpled up ONE dollar bill pinned to her chest.

Sexy C – people still do that?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
1:54 pm

AWWW SHUCKS!! Is that Lady J bustin in here!! Hey Chica!! How have you been!

Cemeeli – you should have heard that chic…..wounded buffalo indeed

Tazzee – these people tried to act really upset that I wouldnt tell them I was engaged or preggo. First of all, we are CO-WORKERS!! Not friends, co-workers…you get the bare minimum. But depsite all they did throw me a nice shower for both occassions. They kept trying to get me to spill the beans on the sex of Lil Mo but I didnt know (and if I had known I still wouldntve told these nosey biddies)

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:55 pm

Wings – I know it wasnt meant to be for real.. Cause If I know yours you will know mine.. As Lightnin McQueen says “Kachow!!”

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
1:56 pm

The other thing about the Birthday Dollar is that – I thought people only did that at parties?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:57 pm

Sexy – What kind of security class?

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
1:57 pm

Shondra thanks for the post…kinda reminds me…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
1:59 pm

RAqi – My husband and I both are wearing yellow socks today.

What ya’ll got pee on your socks?

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
1:59 pm

DK – a class I have to take for my security badge here at work.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:59 pm

As Lightnin McQueen says “Kachow!!”

Who is lighting McQueen and what does that mean?

Todd - Dacula

October 15th, 2009
1:59 pm

Private intimate details should be left with the couple. My friends (only two of them) talk about what we like and dislike in relationships, but never in detail or specific about our partners, current or past. It just keep things great between us. My dad once told me ‘if its too good for you to keep secret and private, what make you think someone else would’. Everyone hs someone they can trust…

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:01 pm

Wings – Google Lightnin McQueen..

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:01 pm

SexyCool I only thought they did it in high school. However I have seen a few random ladies walking around with the money corsages on.

The first my husband saw it we were at Walmart and the lady at the customer service was sporting the b-day bucks. He looked at her like WTH, I whispered to him that it’s her b-day.

no free maketing

October 15th, 2009
2:02 pm

never tell a soul how good your Man/SO/etc. is in the bedroom…..it constitutes free advertising. The ones you have to worry about are your so-called friends that get filled with envy.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
2:02 pm

lol @ Mo Why you didn’t spill the beans?…so they just saw the ring and knew?

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
2:03 pm

SCool – your 1:56, i thought people only did that at birthday parties too. oh well….guess she was trying to start her own party

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:03 pm

He said it’s begging even if it is your b-day. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:03 pm

Sexy – I do internet security so I was like wow she must be at defcon, but she already missed that conference this year…

http://www.defcon.org/

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
2:05 pm

@ Wings…you don’t have any kids do you?

off to meet the 401k man.

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:05 pm

“Swiss lookit 1:47 example’s guy. “

Cee — Yes, and notice that it said the “best friend” was female. This one clearly falls into the “seeking sympathy phluck” category… :lol:

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
2:06 pm

of course there was just a single crumpled bill (and she probably put it there trying to get something started). we’re in a recession! LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
2:06 pm

Cemeeli – yep! :smile: I was conducting a training class and one of my trainees said “OMG you got engaged Mo?!?” It went from there! As a joke I didnt tell my friends that I worked with (4 at that time). Those heifers saw me all day and didnt notice til we were leaving to go home for the day! LOL! As for me being preggo, I passed out at work and thats how they found out I was preggo

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:08 pm

Oh and for all you windows users, may I suggest Ubuntu..

http://www.ubuntu.com/

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:09 pm

Everyone hs someone they can trust…

my pastor always says,”tween u and me” to every person he tells a “secret”

and u have to go there for counselling??

smdh

Cemeeli:

i dont do lunches with wrk mates either coz u get close and u bound to share stuff and emotionally tied….

how do i fire u if i have to be on ur lunch collection trips every mondy to friday,ur birfday present list and xmas present list and so on and on??

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
2:10 pm

czB – that did cross my mind as well.

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:12 pm

DK — Are you a Linux enthusiast, too? I love Ubuntu — use it on my 2 servers at home (well, Debian, actually — but it’s based on Ubuntu). Love the apt get utility — best package management tool I’ve seen for Linux by far…

Shondra

October 15th, 2009
2:13 pm

Cemeeli, Infamous lol, jus sayin’…we all been there

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:13 pm

NO Infamous. It’s just a coincidence. He is wearing tan colored slacks with a yellow shirt. I am wearing brown slacks with a yellow shirt. We both are wearing yellow socks. His are yellow and brown argyle and mine are just yellow.

I guess it’s part of the fun side of us that we share. However it was not done on purpose. LOL

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:15 pm

ubuntu=zulu

ubuntu=being human

abantu=people

abantu,bantu, ngabantu=people are people coz of other people

(now u know) :lol:

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:17 pm

“My husband and I both are wearing yellow socks today. Oh…wait…did I say too much. LOL”

Raqi — That’s not saying too much. Now, if you had continued… “…and neither one of us is wearing any drawers — well, not anymore…”that might have been a bit much… ;-)

Professor---My Christmas shopping is almost done!!!!

October 15th, 2009
2:17 pm

@Tazzee-I hate that must be nice phrase too! I noticed that I retreat and not tell positive things to those types of people.
@Raqi can I borrow your line next time…yes it is
@Wings I had a beautician that went up on me when I changed jobs (management position) and of course my wardrobe changed for the better I was in my 20s and she started making comments and talking about folks will not help others out…she wanted me to hire her sister (no job was available anyway)…needless to say I stopped going to her
@Melo I think it is a vicious habit that needs to be broken…hateration…jealousy it is not good for the soul

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:26 pm

Swiss come closer, let me whisper to you the rest…

we put them on while sitting in our bedroom. :shock:

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
2:30 pm

Raqi – can I add a line?

Just after we blew out the candles, there was a slight ribbon of smoke wafting to mix with the faint natural scent in the air.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:32 pm

Swiss – Yes Sir I’m a Linux Fan.. I used to be a windows cert guy but left all that alone when I started messing around with redhat..

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:32 pm

@Cee – not yet

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:34 pm

as our moist bodies lay exhausted in the afterglow our copulation

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:35 pm

Raqi – Can I add a line?

Next thing I know there was beef in and all around my mouth..

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:37 pm

Infamous what did I do to you?

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:38 pm

:lol: @ Raqi — No need for words — a video will suffice… ;-) :lol:

In all seriousness, Raqi, I always enjoy your posts — it’s great to know that marriage can still have that spark even after the honeymoon is over… :-D

Speaking of which, since I don’t know anyone here personally, I’ll spill a little dirt: This weekend Mrs. Swiss & I went house hunting & as I was following her up the stairs at one place (with the real estate agent in front, leading the way), she hiked up her skirt so I could see she weren’t wearin’ no draws… :lol: Needless to say, when we got home, it was ON:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:38 pm

Raqi – That was my superbad reference for the day..

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
2:39 pm

DK – you wrong for that. lol!! but you ever notice as much as they tell they wont tell that part. Its always some romance SexyCool type poem with candles and afterglow and all that.

Devils advocate anyone!!!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:40 pm

IDK – you act like the Black James Bond – 007

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
2:41 pm

ok Swiss. thanx for pointing out that the RE agent was in the lead.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:41 pm

Devils advocate anyone!!!

@Willie D – Satan had his turn yesterday. lol

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

Ur woman is hot Swiss….wow!

thats what a dark skin will do to u. :lol:

have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women or they know already?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

Swiss what your wife did is the fun stuff that keeps that spark flickering. LOL

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

LMAO @ DK — Dang, dude… Diet Coke straight through the nose, all over the keyboard on that one….

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:47 pm

Wings – James Bond is a nice comparison.. I’ll take that.. I do have a love affair goin on with a DB9..

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:48 pm

“have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women…?”

Melo — They ask, but I give no details. They can tell all they need to know from the big ‘ole grin on my face…. :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
2:52 pm

popping before my meeting and wow…ya’ll are hawt today

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
2:53 pm

two chicks and manager going at it (arguing) in the conference room we’re suppose to have our meeting..in 5 minutes. hope no ones is snatched ball by the time we get there. this is corporate america

Professor

October 15th, 2009
2:55 pm

****have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women or they know already?***

Dayum Melo you will ask anything…lol

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:58 pm

Ms.Main now they gonna to have to try and compose themselves for the meeting like nothing ever happened. LOL

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:59 pm

IDK _ I love The Aston Martin……..but then again, I like exotic cars.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
3:01 pm

Too funny, I can hear and someone walked in…ready for the meeting and my manager shooed them out quickly, all while trying to compose herself. She’s got two firecrackers going at it in there and she’s scary as heck…I’d wonder what she’s thinking. Not being nosey but I can hear it very well. There’s a thin wall between them and my cabinet.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
3:02 pm

Raqi and it’s over

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:04 pm

two chicks and manager going at it (arguing) in the conference room we’re suppose to have our meeting..in 5 minutes. hope no ones is snatched ball by the time we get there. this is corporate america

Unless you are the bosses kid, you got one thing to figure out on a corporate job……How to Make The Boss Happy. Otherwise, they’ll be reading the book, “Who Move My Cheese”

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:05 pm

Ms.Main you should find a way to bring up the issue that they were fighting about without being obvious and see which one snaps the quickest. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
3:10 pm

Wings – I like exotics too..

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:11 pm

U see that kids helium balloon about to crash on CNN?

Angie aka Beautiful

October 15th, 2009
3:12 pm

@DK
yesterday you stated that i don’t take responsibility for my actions. i would like to let you know how WRONG your behind is! for one, you don’t know me. for two, i take responbility when due:

1. got a fix it ticket for not having a front license plate in CA. my badd!

2. got a late fee of $30 for not paying my car note on time. my badd!

3. son was mad at me cause i was chattin’ away on phone and not paying him any mind. my badd!

no woman is at fault for when her man chooses to step out. i don’t care if she didn’t give him some for a month, that is no excuse to get puddy elsewhere.

communication. communication. communication.

next time when you decide to put me on blast, ask me a couple of questions first. i’m not mad atchu, but you got nerve homie!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:12 pm

Should be – Who Moved My Cheese

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:13 pm

They ask, but I give no details.

Oh Swiss so some men DO ask all about it? hmmm…was it motor mouf?

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

Can’t help but laugh.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

@ Wings – You seen the lastest Mazarati?

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

U see that kids helium balloon about to crash on CNN?

Who would do that ………leave a kid alone on a hand made balloon? The things people do to children…. they’re goin to hell on a scholarship.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:16 pm

Wings, it’s Nacho cheese.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:16 pm

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:17 pm

@ Wings – You seen the lastest Mazarati?

Cem – No, but I was at an event last week and they had the new Lambo’s parked out front…….sweet!

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:18 pm

Where in the Atlanta Metro area can one find a car show?

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
3:21 pm

I think I just heard they’re about to put a Black Hawk helicopter in the air to get the balloon down.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:21 pm

@Cem – Just took a gander………that machine is beautiful!

http://consumerguideauto.howstuffworks.com/2010-maserati-spyder.htm

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
3:23 pm

“Oh Swiss so some men DO ask all about it? hmmm…was it motor mouf?”

:lol: @ Cee — There’s a difference between asking & telling — and I don’t tell a thing. :lol: Besides, in this case there are mitigating circumstances — Mrs. Swiss is FINE AS HEYAL…. ;-) :-D

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
3:23 pm

Angie – Awww youre so cute.. You slept on it and came up with that.. Thats so sweet..

Now Boo Boo its time to go to school..

B Angie B – Its is your fault if you dont give your dude some Arse.. Cause you playing the holding out game guess what he was playing the I want some new coochie game.. See how that works.. Everybody loses..

Im gonna say this and everybody listen.. Your dude isnt cheating if everything is good at home.. Just like women always say when they cheat my homelife was messed up.. He pushed me to another man. Its the same for dudes.. If our homelife aint right women begin to look attractive again when they didnt for sometime.. How do I know.. I am not only a player I am the player club president.. and when I got serious with my ex another women couldnt even throw her twat at me.. I was happy and no other coochie/woman was needed..

So Ang stay in denial baby.. And I bet you keep getting the same results..

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:23 pm

@Raqi – AJC has one coming up in March 2010

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
3:23 pm

Melo – I’m half watching it, and praying. I pray that he doesn’t crash – that they can somehow stop the aircraft.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:24 pm

@ Wings – We buy the car magazines now…i think my kid is turning into one of those “fast car” fan guys…eventually. I saw several nice ones in the book…THEN we both seen one leaving the Dr.’s office…

yea…crazy sweet! uhn..hunh!

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
3:24 pm

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:26 pm

Swiss – I’m just laughing!!! hadn’t even read your reply to me yet…

just :lol: :lol: :lol: cause i’m like…”uun hun”…

k, lemme go back and read it…

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
3:27 pm

Alright folks…the show is over. The meeting was just to inform us that our manager’s manager’s manger will be in town Monday and so many words….folks, keep it clean…don’t start nothing won’t be nothing…make me look good (were the actual words). The two chicks were both looking the like the cat that ate the canary, sitting poised and straight expressions.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:29 pm

Ladies?? u know how uall like validation for who u are,what u wearing etc……

i see u in the corridors,im behind u and u ahead,looking and smelling urself,looking down and around ur bodey,checking ur shoes etc and how u all swirl around the mirror,checking ur behind,ur shoes and pants etc….

NOW!

Can u tell, U are a good lay????????? :lol:

or it comes from sexual, laying-under-somebody, experience??

when u in the act and u hollering:
are u trying to plant seeds in his mind and confuse him smewhat or u truly enjoying and hoping he is too??

I know u care how he rates u act,RIGHT??? :lol: :lol:

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:31 pm

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
3:32 pm

SCool – well DAYUM! that is crazy

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:32 pm

Can u tell, U are a good lay????????? :lol:

Melo, Melo, Melo

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:32 pm

There is no thing as no-strings relationships.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:33 pm

Well dern, Swiss – you ain’t share nothinig with ya homeboy? Mrs. Swiss must be Thelma fine!

lol…fault my brother for that ^^^ Thelma line…he got him one…let him tell it!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:33 pm

SCool – well DAYUM! that is crazy

………And she didn’t just get crazy……….

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
3:33 pm

Melo – How he RATES my ACT?

Quit with the lameness.

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
3:34 pm

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
3:36 pm

The balloon is down – is he in there?

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:36 pm

There is no thing as no-strings relationships.

@Raqi – Somebody wrote on here yesterday that there are a lot of unhealthy people out here…..no words were more true……..some folks got stuff from childhood……..today, you gotta have discernment and if you don’t have you need to be praying for it.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
3:38 pm

I shouldn’t be laughing but Ryan Stewart just said the balloon looks like Jiffy popcorn bag.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:39 pm

Quit with the lameness.

call it lame if u want,but i truly wanna know if u care how he thinks u perfom.

I have laid with women who were clueless and their pudssy was cold.

??????????

and for the record,Queen will say,”so how was it”"

u think its becoz she secure now??

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
3:39 pm

Looks like he’s not in there….

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:41 pm

God help us all…

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:41 pm

Wings folks out there thinking they are laying loosely with folks, no-strings attached, but there is always a string around somebody’s neck, or attached to the trigger of the gun that may one day be pointed to your face.

That guy and many like him had no idea that the little extra he was getting on the side was going to cost him the life of his wife and his unborn child. Now looking back I bet his heart is bleeding because it was not worth it.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:42 pm

Jiffy popcorn bag

Tazzee it does. That’s the first thing I thought about when I saw it. We use to put that tin pan on the stove and shake it.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
3:43 pm

Angie – Its me and you huh.. “So you think you can dance?”

You got me told in your post. Oh yeah baby..

They ate two posts I dont want to keep retyping..

Professor

October 15th, 2009
3:44 pm

Melo I will say this most people want to be pleased and please their partner if they care anything at all.

Does that help you out?

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:46 pm

That guy and many like him had no idea that the little extra he was getting on the side was going to cost him the life of his wife and his unborn child. Now looking back I bet his heart is bleeding because it was not worth it.

Raqi – So Sad…..The cost on indiscretion

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
3:47 pm

Angie – and dont play cause I will be in LA or SF this weekend.. I havent decided but dont talk too much trash cause I will make it LA..

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
3:47 pm

Re: SCool’s link – that dude started the affair shortly after he found out his fiancee was pregnant. That makes me sick to my stomach. Sorry Sucka!!!

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:47 pm

Proff…so wld u say,after some encounters,u know where u are at on the reecter scale,sexually?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:49 pm

Melo only when you are selfish you don’t care.

Wise Diva

October 15th, 2009
3:51 pm

it’s been a crazy day, goodness

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
3:51 pm

Melo – I call the phrasing of your your question lame because it is.

My concern is that he is sexually satisfied as am I. And IF he is sexually satisfied, AWESOME. If he has reached the level of satiety, then no question of the quality of my performance is necessary.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:51 pm

Raqi – My sister does a workshop for single women on soul ties………….when a woman gives her body she has given her soul……..a good man who understands this will say thanks, but no thanks.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:52 pm

Tazzee I am trying to figure in my mind why would he start cheating after that. Pregnancy does not prevent sex unless for medical reasons, which is rare. “Soon after” she wasn’t even at the big and uncomfortable stage yet. Unless she was threatening a miscarriage, but those conditions usually soon pass.

Professor

October 15th, 2009
3:52 pm

Proff…so wld u say,after some encounters,u know where u are at on the reecter scale,sexually?

@Melo do you know where YOU stand on the “reecter scale?” Does Queen tell u are u just know…or do you assume

Professor

October 15th, 2009
3:54 pm

That dude may have just been a pure dog…the reason I say that is because I am thinking about the link I believe Leggs posted on here a few days ago about the man who went to jail for touching the nurse while HIS child was being born. How are you going to be standing around feeling on the nurse while your whoever is giving birth to your child?

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:55 pm

Tazzee I am trying to figure in my mind why would he start cheating after that. Pregnancy does not prevent sex unless for medical reasons, which is rare. “Soon after” she wasn’t even at the big and uncomfortable stage yet. Unless she was threatening a miscarriage, but those conditions usually soon pass.

Some men don’t want to have sex with a pregnant woman….but that is still no excuse!

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:55 pm

I call the phrasing of your your question lame because it is.

in other wrds, u neva think sexual disssatisfaction can neva be attributed to u personally.
Maybe thats ur personal situation but i know, not all women are that sexually talented. :lol: thats why i had to ask that way.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:57 pm

Proff,she tells me..

we open about it..

i cant say the same when i was just dating! Then,it was just me……

thats why my “lame” qstion is relevant. :lol:

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:59 pm

This is a gumbo night…

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:59 pm

That dude may have just been a pure dog…

@ Sexy C – Women better know who you are marring and laying down to have kids with……….discernment……….and when it’s revealed to you ……don’t go past what you know.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
4:00 pm

Wings it’s not like having sex can hurt the baby unless you swinging from the ceiling and doing flips off the bed posts.

Pregnancy sex is some of the best. But I guess a guy that is not willing to go there with his wife will never know. I have heard a number of men say their pregnant wife was hot.

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
4:04 pm

Wings – Someone that I had a brief fling with right after I broke up with coach texted me yesterday and told me that something that I had said to him during that time nearly a year ago came true. That it was almost like a prophecy.

I called him to ask what he was talking about. He says that it was when I said to him that females have a more difficult time maintaining strictly sexual relationships over a LONG period of time without catching feelings and wanting more.

He also revealed that me saying that is one of the reasons that we never went past the fling for as much as he was feeling me because I was honest about it and that he was not ready for anything more than just the physical.

I told him that I appreciated him for doing that (albeit was without that explanation) because I would rather have the friendship that he and I have now as opposed to the broken relationship he now has with someone who signed on for Just The Sex.

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
4:05 pm

Do you think he fell out? Was he ever in there? How the heck did he get in there? Why would his parents think he was in there in the first place? How did the little boy get it off the ground? This is crazy!!

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
4:05 pm

I called him Coach and not Shthead and didn’t even notice. Wow. ~laughing~

Professor

October 15th, 2009
4:06 pm

@Melo I gotcha…

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
4:07 pm

MELO Even I might need to dust off my Zulu Decoder ring to understand your 3:30 ish inquiry. But based on your follow up, I’m gonna venture to say you’re kinda equating a lady’s concern with ensuring her man was well pleasured with a lack of self esteem. While I’m not a proponent of the 10 page questionaire after the deed is done, I’m sure the body language has already told her what she needs to know.

OH! And while I’m there in that place where your own query led, I’m gonna say that if you were lyin with her any parts were cold and/lifeless, you may not have quite provided the uhm inspiration she needed to really embrace the moment. But I’m sure that was way way back in Zulu land…before you ever thought to tap into her mind first, so the body would more easily follow. Right?

Professor

October 15th, 2009
4:07 pm

…stepping out.

Have a great evening gang and be safe on your drive home it is dark, misty and gloomy.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
4:08 pm

I called him Coach and not Shthead

SexyCool when I read it I thought you were talking about someone else. You have used shthead a lot recently I thought that was his name. I forgot it used to be coach. LOL

Melo

October 15th, 2009
4:12 pm

so females,u all wondering why dude cheated??

he jus wanted to hit the teacher that was friendly to him..nothing more nothing less…

she looks nice actually!

the wife’s prego had nothing to do with it,at 5 mitnhs,he clkd hit wify and side azz too.

Why uall look at this like its complicated..algebra,statistics,
“so why did he cheat on me,i didnt cook,i didnt give it to him,he dont like my dressing,why or why”"

Its jus sex…thats a mans thinking.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
4:12 pm

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
4:13 pm

I’m gonna venture to say you’re kinda equating a lady’s concern with ensuring her man was well pleasured with a lack of self esteem.

TwoLincolns I am glad you understood him because I did not get that ^ at all from his posts.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
4:16 pm

mytwo – A little birdie tol’ me you had Swedish meat for lunch…is that true?

:lol:

Melo

October 15th, 2009
4:18 pm

mytw♥cents

I’m sure the body language has already told her what she needs to know

if i vaguely remember my dating days,what u descibe there was not uncommon altho it suggests,the woman is only guessing??

no wonder my qstion…

as much as we talk ’bout communication etc in dating, sexual liberation and communication, altho proly common in most marriages is proly not that common in boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, i wld think.

I rember uall saying on this blog that u dont open the flood gates in dating,not yet. Right??

so im thinking,uall walking wounded,and not pleasing him that much..??

Right mytw♥cents???????????????

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
4:22 pm

Melo if the communication isn’t already there I don’t think you should be getting married. There is not light switch that get turned on after the vows are made. It needs to already be there.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
4:25 pm

We were sitting eating…

Why would the parents be sitting eating and their six year old child is playing outside alone?

Melo

October 15th, 2009
4:29 pm

Melo if the communication isn’t already there I don’t think you should be getting married

Raqi,i meant sexual communication and if u understood that part,ur premise on geting married is wrong.

This blog opened up my eyes about sex in a way i didnt know,so…

I thoght i enjoyed sexx,i enjoy it more coz we talk even more about it…

Our premise of geting married was not about sexx,not necessarily…

and NO,it wasnt arranged! :lol:

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
4:29 pm

RAQI It’s a Venture for that very reason! LOL. Either way, I Reject That!

CEE That lil birdie was me so, yeah, let’s go with that…

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
4:36 pm

un-uhn…this birdie didn’t have a twocents…. Lol

..i’m off to see the traffic content

~ Be easy…

mytw♥cents WWMy2D?

October 15th, 2009
4:44 pm

WRONG, MELO! That thinking is flawed because your premise is that if she ain’t serving it up often and to everybody she ain’t serving itup well. That’s foolishness… just like some like to cook, and do so often, others can also cook well but maybe only throw down a few times a year… most likely still a tasty treat. ;) People who are dating or just engaged in a physical relationship still need to communicate their desires. You can get an idea of whether or not your partner enjoyed and when if it’s reinforced, you’re likely to get a repeat performance. Now there are some dudes -and I suspect you mighta been one, who are so convinced of their skills and prowess that they ignore what her body tells them and what her mouth speaks. Either they don’t care or think they know what they don’t. Now an in tuned lover may eventually come to know your body better than their own, but that’s another topic…

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
4:44 pm

Melo – In what way did the blog open your eyes about sex?

Melo

October 15th, 2009
4:47 pm

she ain’t serving it up often and to everybody she ain’t serving itup well

NOPE, i aint thinking that

Melo

October 15th, 2009
4:50 pm

Melo – In what way did the blog open your eyes about sex?

many africans dont know that this cat can be skinned in so many gazzilion ways… :lol:

if that helps….

mytw♥cents..so that line,experience is the best teacher,does it resonate wit u??

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
4:51 pm

SexyCool is now breaking out Zulu dictionary…

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
5:03 pm

I’m going to just guess that means you’ve become more creative sexually.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
5:07 pm

i thoght everybody was gone.

U right Scool

CAZ

October 15th, 2009
5:13 pm

Just stumbled onto this site awhile back,enjoyin readin/postin,mainly readin. It’s fun/educational to see what people say/believe,tricky part is decidin fact/fiction,sort alike dating/reships. Alot brings me back to when I was out there playin or bein playd,some I miss most not. Flirty games were cool,mental ones stressfull.