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Keep it Between Us

A reader emailed because she wants help getting out of the doghouse with her boyfriend. This past weekend, he heard her on the phone discussing their relationship with a close friend. He was particularly upset because she was  talking about their bedroom activities as well.

His point was that you don’t give explicit details about what we do in private. He doesn’t understand her need to talk about it, especially if there are no problems.  Now he doesn’t think she is trustworthy and he thinks she’s immature.  She is in her early 20s, so it’s probably a hard lesson to learn but at least she learned her lesson.

Would it bother you if someone you were dating constantly talked about your relationship with other people? How would you handle it?

Guys, have you ever dated someone who would discuss your sex life with other people? Did it bother you? If so, why?

Ladies, do you think that it’s good practice to talk about your man’s skills to other women? Why do so many women do that? Would it bother you if your man or husband shared details about your sex life with his friends?

371 comments Add your comment

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
2:06 pm

of course there was just a single crumpled bill (and she probably put it there trying to get something started). we’re in a recession! LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
2:06 pm

Cemeeli – yep! :smile: I was conducting a training class and one of my trainees said “OMG you got engaged Mo?!?” It went from there! As a joke I didnt tell my friends that I worked with (4 at that time). Those heifers saw me all day and didnt notice til we were leaving to go home for the day! LOL! As for me being preggo, I passed out at work and thats how they found out I was preggo

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:08 pm

Oh and for all you windows users, may I suggest Ubuntu..

http://www.ubuntu.com/

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:09 pm

Everyone hs someone they can trust…

my pastor always says,”tween u and me” to every person he tells a “secret”

and u have to go there for counselling??

smdh

Cemeeli:

i dont do lunches with wrk mates either coz u get close and u bound to share stuff and emotionally tied….

how do i fire u if i have to be on ur lunch collection trips every mondy to friday,ur birfday present list and xmas present list and so on and on??

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
2:10 pm

czB – that did cross my mind as well.

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:12 pm

DK — Are you a Linux enthusiast, too? I love Ubuntu — use it on my 2 servers at home (well, Debian, actually — but it’s based on Ubuntu). Love the apt get utility — best package management tool I’ve seen for Linux by far…

Shondra

October 15th, 2009
2:13 pm

Cemeeli, Infamous lol, jus sayin’…we all been there

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:13 pm

NO Infamous. It’s just a coincidence. He is wearing tan colored slacks with a yellow shirt. I am wearing brown slacks with a yellow shirt. We both are wearing yellow socks. His are yellow and brown argyle and mine are just yellow.

I guess it’s part of the fun side of us that we share. However it was not done on purpose. LOL

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:15 pm

ubuntu=zulu

ubuntu=being human

abantu=people

abantu,bantu, ngabantu=people are people coz of other people

(now u know) :lol:

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:17 pm

“My husband and I both are wearing yellow socks today. Oh…wait…did I say too much. LOL”

Raqi — That’s not saying too much. Now, if you had continued… “…and neither one of us is wearing any drawers — well, not anymore…”that might have been a bit much… ;-)

Professor---My Christmas shopping is almost done!!!!

October 15th, 2009
2:17 pm

@Tazzee-I hate that must be nice phrase too! I noticed that I retreat and not tell positive things to those types of people.
@Raqi can I borrow your line next time…yes it is
@Wings I had a beautician that went up on me when I changed jobs (management position) and of course my wardrobe changed for the better I was in my 20s and she started making comments and talking about folks will not help others out…she wanted me to hire her sister (no job was available anyway)…needless to say I stopped going to her
@Melo I think it is a vicious habit that needs to be broken…hateration…jealousy it is not good for the soul

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:26 pm

Swiss come closer, let me whisper to you the rest…

we put them on while sitting in our bedroom. :shock:

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
2:30 pm

Raqi – can I add a line?

Just after we blew out the candles, there was a slight ribbon of smoke wafting to mix with the faint natural scent in the air.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:32 pm

Swiss – Yes Sir I’m a Linux Fan.. I used to be a windows cert guy but left all that alone when I started messing around with redhat..

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:32 pm

@Cee – not yet

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:34 pm

as our moist bodies lay exhausted in the afterglow our copulation

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:35 pm

Raqi – Can I add a line?

Next thing I know there was beef in and all around my mouth..

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:37 pm

Infamous what did I do to you?

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:38 pm

:lol: @ Raqi — No need for words — a video will suffice… ;-) :lol:

In all seriousness, Raqi, I always enjoy your posts — it’s great to know that marriage can still have that spark even after the honeymoon is over… :-D

Speaking of which, since I don’t know anyone here personally, I’ll spill a little dirt: This weekend Mrs. Swiss & I went house hunting & as I was following her up the stairs at one place (with the real estate agent in front, leading the way), she hiked up her skirt so I could see she weren’t wearin’ no draws… :lol: Needless to say, when we got home, it was ON:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:38 pm

Raqi – That was my superbad reference for the day..

Willie Dynamite

October 15th, 2009
2:39 pm

DK – you wrong for that. lol!! but you ever notice as much as they tell they wont tell that part. Its always some romance SexyCool type poem with candles and afterglow and all that.

Devils advocate anyone!!!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:40 pm

IDK – you act like the Black James Bond – 007

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
2:41 pm

ok Swiss. thanx for pointing out that the RE agent was in the lead.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:41 pm

Devils advocate anyone!!!

@Willie D – Satan had his turn yesterday. lol

Melo

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

Ur woman is hot Swiss….wow!

thats what a dark skin will do to u. :lol:

have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women or they know already?

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

Swiss what your wife did is the fun stuff that keeps that spark flickering. LOL

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:42 pm

LMAO @ DK — Dang, dude… Diet Coke straight through the nose, all over the keyboard on that one….

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
2:47 pm

Wings – James Bond is a nice comparison.. I’ll take that.. I do have a love affair goin on with a DB9..

i'm swiss

October 15th, 2009
2:48 pm

“have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women…?”

Melo — They ask, but I give no details. They can tell all they need to know from the big ‘ole grin on my face…. :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
2:52 pm

popping before my meeting and wow…ya’ll are hawt today

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
2:53 pm

two chicks and manager going at it (arguing) in the conference room we’re suppose to have our meeting..in 5 minutes. hope no ones is snatched ball by the time we get there. this is corporate america

Professor

October 15th, 2009
2:55 pm

****have ur swiss buddies been asking u for the inside on black women or they know already?***

Dayum Melo you will ask anything…lol

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
2:58 pm

Ms.Main now they gonna to have to try and compose themselves for the meeting like nothing ever happened. LOL

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
2:59 pm

IDK _ I love The Aston Martin……..but then again, I like exotic cars.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
3:01 pm

Too funny, I can hear and someone walked in…ready for the meeting and my manager shooed them out quickly, all while trying to compose herself. She’s got two firecrackers going at it in there and she’s scary as heck…I’d wonder what she’s thinking. Not being nosey but I can hear it very well. There’s a thin wall between them and my cabinet.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 15th, 2009
3:02 pm

Raqi and it’s over

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:04 pm

two chicks and manager going at it (arguing) in the conference room we’re suppose to have our meeting..in 5 minutes. hope no ones is snatched ball by the time we get there. this is corporate america

Unless you are the bosses kid, you got one thing to figure out on a corporate job……How to Make The Boss Happy. Otherwise, they’ll be reading the book, “Who Move My Cheese”

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:05 pm

Ms.Main you should find a way to bring up the issue that they were fighting about without being obvious and see which one snaps the quickest. LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 15th, 2009
3:10 pm

Wings – I like exotics too..

Melo

October 15th, 2009
3:11 pm

U see that kids helium balloon about to crash on CNN?

Angie aka Beautiful

October 15th, 2009
3:12 pm

@DK
yesterday you stated that i don’t take responsibility for my actions. i would like to let you know how WRONG your behind is! for one, you don’t know me. for two, i take responbility when due:

1. got a fix it ticket for not having a front license plate in CA. my badd!

2. got a late fee of $30 for not paying my car note on time. my badd!

3. son was mad at me cause i was chattin’ away on phone and not paying him any mind. my badd!

no woman is at fault for when her man chooses to step out. i don’t care if she didn’t give him some for a month, that is no excuse to get puddy elsewhere.

communication. communication. communication.

next time when you decide to put me on blast, ask me a couple of questions first. i’m not mad atchu, but you got nerve homie!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:12 pm

Should be – Who Moved My Cheese

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:13 pm

They ask, but I give no details.

Oh Swiss so some men DO ask all about it? hmmm…was it motor mouf?

SexyCool - Status - Cloud4

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

Can’t help but laugh.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

@ Wings – You seen the lastest Mazarati?

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:15 pm

U see that kids helium balloon about to crash on CNN?

Who would do that ………leave a kid alone on a hand made balloon? The things people do to children…. they’re goin to hell on a scholarship.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:16 pm

Wings, it’s Nacho cheese.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
3:16 pm

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
3:17 pm

@ Wings – You seen the lastest Mazarati?

Cem – No, but I was at an event last week and they had the new Lambo’s parked out front…….sweet!

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
3:18 pm

Where in the Atlanta Metro area can one find a car show?