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Keep it Between Us

A reader emailed because she wants help getting out of the doghouse with her boyfriend. This past weekend, he heard her on the phone discussing their relationship with a close friend. He was particularly upset because she was  talking about their bedroom activities as well.

His point was that you don’t give explicit details about what we do in private. He doesn’t understand her need to talk about it, especially if there are no problems.  Now he doesn’t think she is trustworthy and he thinks she’s immature.  She is in her early 20s, so it’s probably a hard lesson to learn but at least she learned her lesson.

Would it bother you if someone you were dating constantly talked about your relationship with other people? How would you handle it?

Guys, have you ever dated someone who would discuss your sex life with other people? Did it bother you? If so, why?

Ladies, do you think that it’s good practice to talk about your man’s skills to other women? Why do so many women do that? Would it bother you if your man or husband shared details about your sex life with his friends?

371 comments Add your comment

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:45 am

Me too! WillieD …hahahahaha

Dang i have blog relatives!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:48 am

@ kinderteach – Girl me and mine are eating well! Its nice to have someone on board to balance the meals…

the college prepratory is giving him a run for his money…he’s always expressing “who does this to a 10 year old?”…:)

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:49 am

SexyCool I started to send you an email telling you to let’s be the devil’s advocates and get really out there today but I changedededed my mind. LOL

But yeah gone home and back some babies.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
11:50 am

I mean…bake some babies.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
11:53 am

I can’t read you, Raqi
Peaking at the screen from behind my hands. LOL

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
11:54 am

My reasons for saying this, I sit around women all day at work… Grown, accomplished, women that have it together… And I hear them giving details about what goes on behind close doors,, and its not random guys… As a man Im trained to hear key words, such as sex, headboard ect… For me listening to this, its almost like she is compelled to add to the conversation, compelled to add a her personal story into the mix of girl talk…

So ya’ll women of the blog are saying, If you do something sexually with boyfriend that you neever have done before whether its a differnt position, location, or he got you in a headlock and and it was the best sex ever… Those details are going to remain with you and only you… Its not going to eat your insides out to let one of your girlfriends know..

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
11:54 am

Auh…Tazzee…i love your tagline.

I’m elated for you…

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:00 pm

wow. Holyfield & Tyson live on Oprah this friday. now i wish i had tivo.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:01 pm

one of my team members is spraying the office of our neighbor’s office because the person said he was sick with a bad cough, sour throat, and other ailments…then tells me…”never know where the h1n1 starts”…

omg!

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:03 pm

MR. Unknown..u damn right!

These women are more liberal with their moufs than they are revealing…..
This is called halleluah blog..they follow the lead of the first to climb the high horse.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:03 pm

Mr. Unknown, that’s a big NO. especially not at work.

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:08 pm

lol…someone said High School Musical…

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Mr. Unknown – Didn’t you see what I wrote about the pinky toe and the kneecap?

But I ain’t telling this to a bunch a chicks at work. Uh. No.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Raqi – thank you for changing your mind….

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
12:09 pm

Shet it up, Melo.

@Mr.Unknown, really we don’t reveal much to our friends ANYMORE. You learn as you age. If someone ask why you’re walking funny, you merely say he gave me a run for my money! No need to give blow by blow visual of how it all went down. Since I was told I was very nonchalant and not forthcoming growing up, I never, ever gave details of my trysts. I might drop you a crumb or two, but that’s about it. I have neve rhad my man taken from me by a friend because I piqued her curiosity. I grew up pretty much smart cuz I sat in the cut and watched and listened!

Cemeeli

October 15th, 2009
12:11 pm

“These women are more liberal with their moufs than they are revealing”…..

Auh…Are you the pot or the kettle?

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:19 pm

Im the kepot Cemeeli! :lol:

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
12:19 pm

@ Melo Lol, I see..

MR. Unknown

October 15th, 2009
12:22 pm

Im now looking for the kneecap comment

OneFreeMan

October 15th, 2009
12:25 pm

The more they tell, the more of their friend we get. Keep talking ladies!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
12:28 pm

Mr Unknown – I dont tell co-workers ISH! I didnt tell them I was engaged, didnt tell them I was preggo….nothing! Luckily though I work with a bunch of old biddies anyway.

Cemeeli – we had a chick come in here coughing so hard I swear she sounded like a wounded buffalo. People immediately started spraying lysol! I guess it doesnt help to add that she stays sick anyway……

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:29 pm

No Mr.Unknown I did NOT come back to work from lunch Tuesday and tell my co-workers that I spent the last 20 minutes making out with my husband in the car and he felt me up AND down. No, I don’t have those type of friends here at work.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:31 pm

Mo – The other morning, I was on the train to work and this dude got on at the East Point station sounding like he was about to cough up a lung.

I politely got my ass off at College Park and went to the next car.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:31 pm

LOL Tazzee. You know some days I can be bad. SexyCool don’t make it any easier.

kinderbabe

October 15th, 2009
12:32 pm

@cemeeli, that’s good he is being challenged at school.:) i’m sure it makes his day go by faster…beats being bored…lol

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 15th, 2009
12:33 pm

SexyCool – I dont get why these folks dont stay home with all that!!! Dayum!! The building I work in is already a decrepid, mildewed out tomb and here you come adding to the ickiness with your germs!! UGH!!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Mr.Unknown, really we don’t reveal much to our friends ANYMORE. You learn as you age. If someone ask why you’re walking funny, you merely say he gave me a run for my money! No need to give blow by blow visual of how it all went down.

Now that an AMEN!

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:36 pm

And yesterday, we were almost at my stop when this lady started coughing and sniffling. So, I sat there and wondered what would be worse – the H1N1 germs that she was obviously spewing all over the place or me passing out on the dirty behind floor of the MARTA from trying to hold my breath until we got to my stop.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:37 pm

MO, because people want to save their sick days to play hookie and have fun. fortunately, i get enough pto to do both … but i’m blessed. in our office we are supplied hand sanitizer and disinfectant spray. you wouldn’t believe some of the coughs and SNEEZES they let fly round here.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:38 pm

If MND ever left me walking funny, he didn’t do something right and it probably didn’t feel that good.

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:39 pm

Almost forgot – Happy Birthday, Rell!

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:39 pm

Mr Unknown – I dont tell co-workers ISH! I didnt tell them I was engaged, didnt tell them I was preggo….nothing! Luckily though I work with a bunch of old biddies anyway.

@Mo – Thats right when folks see the ring bling.they’ll know!

Leggs

October 15th, 2009
12:41 pm

Anything other than you’re regular way of walking is “walking funny” and we’ve all been there. A noticeable get up in your get up.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:42 pm

If MND ever left me walking funny, he didn’t do something right and it probably didn’t feel that good.

LMAO – AKA – The bow legged pony ass walk.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:43 pm

I close my eyes when im peeing….

and i close my eyes,twistin’ my mouf kinda funny, when i nut….any of ur men ever tell u,they do that too??

or is it the zulu in me?

:lol: :lol: :lol:

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:44 pm

ur right about that, Leggs. happened to me a couple years ago & folks @ work were asking ???? had to tell them it was an old back injury. see, Mr. Unknown, NO sharing of info @ work. the women you work with are either very close or (dare i say it … do i dare?) ok, very ghetto. there … i said it!

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:46 pm

Mo – when my co-workers saw my ring they were like ‘why didn’t you tell us?’ I also got a few ‘I didn’t even know you were seeing someone’ I’m thinking ‘excuse me, but are we friends?’

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:46 pm

I dont get why these folks dont stay home with all that

Mo our policy here as always been you get quarantined or sent home if you are coughing and can’t half speak because of a sore throat. But now for sure folks know to call in instead of driving all the way here to get sent back.

My boss would rather pay folks for 1/2 a day who don’t have any sick days available and let them stay home than to have them come in make 10 other people sick, that will just make 10 more other people sick and so on.

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
12:48 pm

LOL @ Tazzee 12:46

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:48 pm

If the bedroom aerobics got me walking funny, I’m staying home any way.

A slight aching of the thigh muscles don’t count. LOL

SexyCool - Look me up in the Urban Dictionary.

October 15th, 2009
12:50 pm

How vain am I? It’s time for me to renew my work ID and I’m going to get my hair done in the morning and going to security tomorrow afternoon so that I have a cute picture this year.

I HATED the one I’ve had this past year.

Raqi...The Luckiest Woman Alive

October 15th, 2009
12:51 pm

Tazzee you sound like my friend Doc. She’ll ask a person in a minute “do I know you like that?” LOL

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
12:52 pm

SCool – Nothing wrong with that. That ID picture has to be your representative for the year. I wish we re-took ours every year.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
12:55 pm

Mo – when my co-workers saw my ring they were like ‘why didn’t you tell us?’ I also got a few ‘I didn’t even know you were seeing someone’ I’m thinking ‘excuse me, but are we friends?’

I got a couple of friends that I’m not telling ish to cause I know they are bonified Town Criers (not necessarily in a bad way, but I like to tell my own story)

Lundy

October 15th, 2009
12:55 pm

My BF has a huge……..ego? LOL! Definitely don’t share the dirty details.

Melo

October 15th, 2009
12:56 pm

‘why didn’t you tell us?’

how about ur “friends”? do they all seem happy for u or u have seen some distancing coz of that haterration?
Thats the diff tween girls and boys,girls will be like:

Sahmqueezha: ohh Tazzee, ur ring is so nice,congrats girl!! lemme see,ohh niceeee!!

Tazzee: oh,thank u,thank Jesus,finally!

Sahmqueezha: so when is the wedding?

Guys:

Tazze’s man: oh man i proposed this weekend??

Friend: to who,oh lawwwdd!!

Tazze’s man: to Tazzee, maaan.

Friend: oh,she bug u like that u had to do it?

Tazze’s man: oh man,it was about time man..she deserve it!

Friend: i know man,sorry about that!

czBrat

October 15th, 2009
1:00 pm

Sahmqueezha, Melo?? OK. now i don’t feel so bad about throwing the ‘ghetto’ comment out there. LOL.

Wings -() (Human and Divine)

October 15th, 2009
1:01 pm

how about ur “friends”? do they all seem happy for u or u have seen some distancing coz of that haterration?
Thats the diff tween girls and boys,girls will be like:

@ Melo – No, they(gf) are not all going to be happy for you, especially your single friends that can’t even muster up a date. When you start seeing those hater signs, those are ones you feed very limited info to.

Tazzee - There's nothing better than love

October 15th, 2009
1:07 pm

Melo – my closest friends knew before I did, they were helping him. I haven’t seen any hate so far, or it could be that I don’t see it because I’m too caught up in my own little blissful world.

Overall, most have been extremely happy for me (to the point of tears) because they’ve witnessed the struggle, LOL

Melo

October 15th, 2009
1:10 pm

Tazzee,thats good to hear..congrats once again!