Your Ex is Satan?
I was on a date recently with a guy who somehow managed to bring up his ex-girlfriend. I can’t remember how the topic even came up but I distinctly remembered his disdain. Apparently, his ex-girlfriend is Satan. An evil person with no soul, or some equally disturbing description.
I usually don’t penalize people for mentioning their exes, especially if they have children together. This time though, the fact the he mentioned her and called her Satan made me think about how we really have ghosts in our relationship past that still haunt us.
Now I won’t pretend that the mere mention of at least two of my exes can’t make be stabby on a bad day. However, I definitely don’t want to think that they are blocking me from a new relationship!
What is it about our past relationships that haunts us so much? Do you ever mention your ex when on a date?
Do you think that we hold on to our resentment and anger because we never really got closure on the situation?
Do you have someone in your past that you consider Satan? What happened that made you think of them this way? What are ways we can get rid of the relationship demons once and for all?
*Note my Halloween-themed post. Are you planning anything fun for the holiday?
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Wise Diva
October 14th, 2009
9:03 am
Good morning sunshines! Sorry for the delay this morning. Have a wonderful Wednesday!!
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
9:07 am
GM All!
Do you think that we hold on to our resentment and anger because we never really got closure on the situation?
Yes. I think that is exactly the case. If we use that experience as a growth opportunity that helps eliminate any resentment. We learn to appreciate the ex for whatever lesson the relationship tought us.
gotta commute … i’ll catch up again in a few!
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
9:09 am
oh. and no satans in my past. i’ve made my own spritual peace with the ex, and the two men i’ve dated since are both still great friends
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
9:36 am
Three Words Daily – Life equals risk.
Leggs
October 14th, 2009
9:36 am
Good morning.
All I can say is I don’t walk around w/baggage. I don’t carry resentment, anger nor regret around w/me.
Now, I don’t think one should bring up an ex unless asked. I will let one know I’m divorced and leave it at that. If he wants to find out about my reasons for divorce I will keep it at a minimum = we stopped getting along! Who really wants to talk about the past while trying to find out if there’s a future?
Leggs
October 14th, 2009
9:38 am
Liking the 3 words today!
SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....
October 14th, 2009
9:44 am
Don’t have a Satan, but I do have a Shthead. ~laughing~
It would be difficult to tell some of MY story without a word about an ex or three. However, do I have to go into ALL of the details, especially at the first mention of them? NO. Will I later? Possibly, if it relates to something else or some other part of my life experiences.
The thing about past relationships that have the potential to haunt me is how bad my choices were and how long I may have tried and how much effort I have put into making the wrong person The One.
Ah, the “C” word, CLOSURE has caused more grief than all the combined wars of the world. I, for one, am over closure from another person. My closure comes from within myself and learning to take responsibility for my part in what went wrong, do my best to learn the lesson (because I don’t always learn the first time) and keep it moving. Can’t let no grass grow under my feet trying to get something from someone who never cared enough to treat me like I should have been treated in the first place. (This is also how I exorcise my relationship demons.)
As to Halloween, I was invited to a costume party and was planning to go as Kim from RHOA, but my mind will be in Mint Condition instead.
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
9:47 am
Thanks, Leggs.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
9:51 am
I will mention my ex on a date, IF asked about him. I have been on some dates where I have been asked about my relationship with my ex since we have a child together. Outside of that, no. Not that ex and I dont get along, just not a topic I wish to discuss on a date.
“Do you think that we hold on to our resentment and anger because we never really got closure on the situation?” No. My anger or resentment is directed towards self in terms of the decisions I made in regards to the relationship (not going with my gut feelings, ignoring red flags, etc)
I am not happy that I will miss that Mint Condition concert
Professor
October 14th, 2009
9:57 am
Do you have someone in your past that you consider Satan?
Yes I have a few folks in my past that I call Satan including my 3rd grade teacher. At this point in my life those so call “Prince of Darkness” that I dated was only brief with the exception of one little demon child. I have been able to learn from my judgement and move on so I really don’t have that baggage they are just a vapor in my life. As for that one demon we did not share any mutal friends I tolerated his friends and he tolerated mine…I told him do not hangout in my spots and I will not hangout in yours…I guess you can tell I like a clean break, and I love Lord Byron he has a quote about being friends once the relationship is over, “The best way will be to avoid each other without appearing to do so.”
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
10:01 am
Satan nah but Im on some list to be Petey Wheatstraw the devils son in law..
I have expressed some sentiments about my EX but I state the facts and leave it at that all at a minimum… I dont harbour any ill feelings but there was some hurt and dissapointment but it was fault on both ends. Of course it was all my fault but hey whatever she needs to make her feel better about the divorce Im cool with it.. The thing is the longer you hold onto that nonsense the longer you block yourself from what you need and deserve.. Music helped me release all the animosity of my marriage.. One in particular.. Thank you India by Alanis Morrisette.
“how bout me not blaming you for everything
how bout me enjoying the moment for once
how bout how good it feels to finally forgive you
how bout grieving it all one at a time
thank you india
thank you terror
thank you disillusionment
thank you frailty
thank you consequence
thank you thank you silence
the moment I let go of it was the moment
I got more than I could handle
the moment I jumped off of it
was the moment I touched down
how bout no longer being masochistic
how bout remembering your divinity
how bout unabashedly bawling your eyes out
how bout not equating death with stopping
Professor
October 14th, 2009
10:02 am
No I do not talk about my past unless asked and I give the short version. I had one dude ask very detailed questions like what kind of career my ex had, where did we go out on dates to, what did he buy me for my birthday etc. I never talk about my ex and I found it creepy that this dude asked about him. I mentioned why all the questions and he said most people talk about their past and I never mentioned old boy so he just wanted to know.
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
10:17 am
Professor 10:02 sounds like that guy was trying to measure up. a hint of insecurity maybe?
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
10:22 am
DK i’m gonna have to thank that other alanis song for my healing. you know the one!
Ms. Main just getting in
October 14th, 2009
10:22 am
This time though, the fact the he mentioned her and called her Satan made me think about how we really have ghosts in our relationship past that still haunt us.
Still being haunted by the past or a past bad relationship or a past badly ended relationship could very well be indicative of not so much Satanic but moreso more lying underneath than admitted….IMO. I think the quicker you hit release, the less Satanic they’ll seem. Maybe maybe not. I can’t say I don’t habor ill feelings or carry resentment when I’ve encountered what I’d deem an Imp from hell but the more removed I am from that situation and releasing and letting go, Satan or no, the closer to nil it all becomes.
Professor
October 14th, 2009
10:24 am
@czBrat- I thought the same thing, but he was a wonderful guy so I really did not think it was necessary to measure himself against my ex. He asked me if my ex calls me and stuff, which was a turn off. For whatever reason he brought up my ex about three times with detailed questions…not cool.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:27 am
morning…
the spawn of satan is my ex?….noooo…why do we do that!? They are/were who they are and helped make you the person you are today! Shucks, I appreciate that sucka!
i do not wanna talk about my ex…it is what it is…no bad/hurt feelings…
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
10:29 am
Well, I guess I’m the only person on the blog who lets things from my past bug me. I mean, hell, they do! After so many lies and so much deception over the years… it has made me the cynic that I am today. What can I say? I’ve seen people on here say that they trust someone until they give them a reason not to. No thanks… not a theory I subscribe to.
I’m not ashamed to admit I’ve been hoodwinked and bamboozled. And because I have, my a$$ is on high alert. I don’t feel like im stupid or foolish, I just haven’t come across anybody on the up & up.
We learn to appreciate the ex for whatever lesson the relationship tought us.
Uhhh… I can appreciate the relationship for the lesson, not the ex!
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
10:30 am
GM All,
I’ll get back to you guys on this subject when I aquire an ex…lol
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
10:32 am
And of Course Gnarls Barkley “St Elsewhere” and Lynyrd Skynyrd “Free Bird”
Oh my music list could go on for miles.. I see the Linkin Park “Numb” and “Hurt” by NIN in the Beginning. Otis Redding’s “Old Man Trouble/Pain in my Heart” and Devin the DUDE’s “Shes Gone/ Anythang” in the Middle.. To Goapele’s “Closer” and U2’s “Beautiful Day in the end..
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
10:36 am
Dang Im going thru my IPOD listening to these songs and what a difference time makes.. That Devin the dude “Shes Gone and Anythang” use to kill me but now its just good music..
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
10:36 am
ImaPeach – I can relate to what you’re saying. I just decided to let it all go. It’s kinda like Leggs mentioned. Dragging baggage around – it’s not cool. The sht is heavy and it ages ya’.
Figure out a way to blow that sht out, babygirl. It weighs less mentally and emotionally.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:39 am
Dream_n – You still with your first love, is he babydaddy?
Professor
October 14th, 2009
10:40 am
Hey Dream_n are you still with your first love? If so that is cool!
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:40 am
you cain’t blog on here if you still with your first love…we all have at least one ex round here!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
10:41 am
Infamous – I LOVE the song First Love by Goapele (that Closer is hott too)!
ImAPeach404 – I agree with SCool on this one chica, dont carry all that baggage around. Free yourself and move on, you will feel so much better
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
10:43 am
Hi WD, where are you digging up these guys? One that expects/requires “spontaneity” for HIS benefit, and one that was the “Bride of Frankenstein”.
Gal, methinks you are “looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many faces…” (wait a minute, what am I saying? I’m obviously unattached too, LOL)
To the topic:
“What is it about our past relationships that haunts us so much? Do you think that we hold on to our resentment and anger because we never really got closure on the situation?”
Usually, at least for me, it was what was left unsaid. I find myself having these “imaginary” debates where the person has to sit in a chair and let me say what I need/want to say. I always win the argument in these debates too for some reason, lol.. As Rascal Flatts put it in their song, “What Hurts the Most”
What hurts the most
Was being so close
And havin’ so much to say
And watchin’ you walk away
And never knowin’
What could’ve been
And not seein’ that lovin’ you
Is what I was tryin’ to do
Do you ever mention your ex when on a date?
Too often, but not in a bad way…usually if the new lady is a teacher like my ex I note that I understand why she is so busy. Still not a good idea and I am getting better.
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
10:44 am
Professor/Cemeeli
I can’t really consider that teenage stuff as a real relationship lol… been with my current since I was 18.
lol!!!
Raqi
October 14th, 2009
10:45 am
I think it’s safe to say that we all have or have had a Satan as well as is or have been someone else’s Satan.
You just have to find a way to move on to better things and days. Thankfully I did. But at one time I was an angry woman.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:45 am
Goapele fan here too!…raising hand…we have the same birthday!
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
10:46 am
Professor
off topic: I’m watching Jamie Foxx and the episode is about that “swap party” you were considering having!! You may want to watch that episode b4 you put your plan into motion lol
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
10:47 am
Oh and I forgot about the two that would kill me without a doubt.. Al Green’s “How do you mend a broken herat” and “I’m so lonesome I could cry”..
Al Green, Otis Redding and Issac Hayes (By The Time I get to Pheonix)were mainstays at the time..
Im here to say… This to shall pass.. If you feel like you ex is Satan then maybe you should look at yourself.. You have a choice in whether or not you keep giving that person power over your life.. It takes alot of energy to stay angry with someone.. Besides dont it piss you off when somebody youre upset with aint upset with you.. Hey, thats my approach anyway. Life is.. Too $hort..
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:49 am
Dream_n – awwww you are so cute…young adult love is where it’s at girl!
Ya’ll be wearing matching outfits ‘n Jordan’s to Six Flags, hunh?!
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
10:52 am
@SexyCool – yea… I like to think I let it go. And, I think I do… but you know, when ish starts looking familiar I get a case of the “oh helllll naw! not you too!” and retreat, lol.
LOL @ Cemeeli 10:40
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
10:52 am
Cemeeli
lol… I wish!….. naw our days are nearing the end
Been through the good, the bad, and the ugly with him…..
Melo
October 14th, 2009
10:54 am
Dream_n??
so u with the current guy physically but away from him spiritually?? U still doing it with him or u got an instrument.
On topic:
neva had a Satan.
Maybe i been the Satan,dont know for sure.But why wld i be Satan to anybody??
i enjoy,u enjoy, so we keep it moving…
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
10:55 am
@ Raqi re:
“You just have to find a way to move on to better things and days. Thankfully I did. But at one time I was an angry woman.”
Been there done that. Oddly enough, it was a church service that cured me. Andy Stanley said that if one moves in to another relationship with unresolved anger, it can and will destroy that new relationship. He suggested mentally or physically writing all of the injustices down…then tearing them up and saying “debt cancelled, you don’t owe me anymore”. I did, and it was an incredible load lifted off my shoulders. It cleared the balance sheet once and for all, and I can be around my exes, my ex in-laws, most of any ex bosses that screwed me over…and feel nothing. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
10:56 am
naw our days are nearing the end!
Just downgrade to matching Air Force Ones and a movie, then!
…Keep Hope Alive!
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
10:59 am
Dang ya’ll got me going back to all these old songs I used to listen to and drown my sorrows to.. Like this one..
Nothing compares 2 U..
It’s been seven hours and fifteen days
since you took your love away..
Eventhough I intiated the divorce proceedings a dude was crushed about having to do it. Do I have regrets? Yeah but not about getting divorced.. I have regrets that I made a left when I shouldve went right in the relationship.. I regret losing my best friend behind this.. I regret not being at home with My Son everyday but all in all I know I made the right decision because everythings is lighter now with less noise around.. Peace of Mind is Priceless..
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
10:59 am
Melo
smh and laughng at a an instrumet…
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
11:02 am
Peach – well, now that just simply sounds like taking cues from past lessons learned. Which reads a bit different from what you initially posted.
Leggs
October 14th, 2009
11:04 am
@Dream_n, aren’t you about to get an ex at the end of the year?
Leggs
October 14th, 2009
11:06 am
@Infamous ~ interesting post.
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
11:06 am
Cemeeli – I’m lmao!
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
11:08 am
Okay let me ask the ladies that have loved and lost…….
I know personally for me when I’m done, Ill be hurt and an emotional wreck. I tried to put up a big front as though I don’t care or won’t care once everying is done, but I know I will. 5 yrs is a long time to be with a person. I’m used to him.. I know him,he knows me… W shared a bond together, he’s my daughter’s father! He is one of the best dad’s in the universe, but an ahole as a partner. I’s funnt /c for the past 4-5 months he’s trid to be the best boyfriend ever becaus he felt me shutting down. I was scared to let him back in because it’sso easy or him to resort back to being disrespectful and inconsiderate. I’m also scared to let him go, kinda fearing that I’m going to go through a cylce of dating, which I don’t want to do. IDK.. I’m just at a very confsed state. He’s 33 s maybe he needs tofind somene his age… could that be the problem?? I don’t know ladies…
What are some of the things I can do to keep myself sane/from not breaking down?
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
11:09 am
Randy… don’t you just LOVE Andy Stanley?!?!?!
(Did you catch the “Staying in Love” series)
SexyCool yea, thats a more accurate description of what I have going on. and maybe a carry-on…
Wise Diva
October 14th, 2009
11:10 am
Randyt, oh you know how it is when you try to be more “open” and date around. LOL You meet all kinds. I’m rarely bored, I suppose that is the silver lining or something
Ms. Main just getting in
October 14th, 2009
11:10 am
Yep….Rev Stanley
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
11:12 am
Dream – It aint nothing to rush.. You’ll know when its time.. You’ll get to a point when you’ll throw everything in the wind..
The day I bounced I left with the clothes on my back and didnt care what happened as long as I was gone.. I had the mindset that “Its gone go however it goes”, but I knew i wasnt going back.. We had did the separation the breakups while were dating but we always got back together.. I knew this time.. Something was different.. Its like a light switch was flipped on like Im Audi 5000 G..
aggwitty
October 14th, 2009
11:12 am
Halloween = Homecoming so that means me dressed up as something fun on the campus of NCa&T, aggie pride!
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:15 am
lol…I’m sorry SCool …but you know that young adult love is something else!
‘remember when all you did was date & hook up with your folk…get dressed, shine up the cars, go out, hang with friends…he showing you off, you showing off…might ride out “out of town” which was anywhere 200+ miles away… and all was well in the world.
Cause that’s all ya’ll wanted to do was “be cute” & together…
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
11:16 am
Good Late Morning Folks!
I appreciate that sucka!
@Cem – That is a loaded answer! Lol
I don’t harbor any ill feeling regarding my ex-husband. I sincerely do wish him well. I have a simple prayer that I pray…….
Thank you lord for everything you have given me
Thank you for everything that you let me keep and
Thank you for everything you’ve taken away.
That prayer keeps all things for me in perspective.
Ms. Main just getting in
October 14th, 2009
11:16 am
Imapeach404…you’re not alone. I don’t get over too much easily. Just when I’m done. I’m done.
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
11:17 am
DK
but did you have that feeling that you were doing the wrong thing.. or maybe you should at least try one ore time?
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:19 am
@ Dream_n – The same advice Infamous has posted 11:12 is sorta what i went through and i agree. I dipped cause i was comprimising waaaay too much.
I have to have my PEACE!
Each relationship is different.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:19 am
oops…
Leggs
October 14th, 2009
11:20 am
@Dream_n, first and foremost you’re being honest with yourself. Handshake to you!!! I’m an exception to the rule cuz I had no reqrets and I suffered no pain once we split. My happiness was palpable and still is. What you need to do is stay busy, and doesn’t mean necessarily start dating. Find yourself first and heal within before embarking on another relationship. The fact that your scared to let him go is normal. What’s not normal is letting that fear make you stay. Unsolicited advice – do not prevent him from seeing his daughter and never use her as a pawn when arguments arise. Never!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:21 am
ImA Peach & Ms. Main
I wandered into NPCC right after my “transition” relationhsip ended 8 yearsa ago, and I was staring at another job loss. The title of the series he was starting was, “What to do When the Fasten Seatbelt Sign Comes On”. Had to be just for me and I guess the other 3000 people there were coming to listen to the music, LOL. North Point/Andy Stanley changed my life, truly. A few years later, I hit a tough stretch of road again, and decided to email NPCC with some strong questions. A few days later I came home and had a voicemail from Andy himself. He said I had some tough questions and he wanted to do his best to try to answer them. We never connected but just to know he really does reach down to the individuals in the congregtion meant a lot. He is better than anyone at expressing the exact questions/concerns all of us have in our minds but have been afraid to voice.
Yes, I Do love Andy Stanley’s messages. They have taught me so much…a frankly brought peace to what was once a raging volcano inside me.
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
11:21 am
Dream – On more than one occasion.. It was nights that I just wanted to drive back to the house, bam on the door and beg her to take me back.. I guess so much had happened I always came back to the day I left for good…
Again Goapele “Catch 22″
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
11:22 am
What are some of the things I can do to keep myself sane/from not breaking down?
I’d say – nothing. It’s one of the stages you will go through. Plain and simple. I’m no expert, hell I’m single and have been that way for a while. But, I am older a little older (about your mans age). Go through the motions and feel whatever you’re feeling. Cry. Get wild. Hang with your girls. Blog. Laugh. Be said. Keep a journal. Bore everybody to death talking and analyzing the situation. Go on a trip. Whatever… do whatever you feel.
BUT IF you are serious… DON’T! GO! BACK! If you’re done, be done. COLD TURKEY! Straight up. Because otherwise, you will never leave him alone.
And, I’d suggest taking 6 months to a year off from dating or meeting anyone new.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
11:22 am
Infamous – Im going to post this again: PEACE OF MIND IS PRICELESS. ^^^5
Dream_n – Time, dont rush your healing chica. Also allow yourself to be upset, dont try so hard to NOT show how you really feel. Lastly, remember that the world wont stop b/c you are hurt/going thru a life changing experience. Baby girl will still want her favorite toy, your boss still expects you to work, you still need to eat/sleep/live. As for being to scared to let him go: PUH-LEEZE!! See Infamous’ 10:59
You will be fine chica….
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:23 am
@ WD
Yup (we all have some memories and some scars, don’t we).
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
11:27 am
Randy – Pastor Black of Beulah Baptist church helped me.. It was a time right after he lost his wife that I went in to see him going thru my divorce.. He preached some sermons that made the earth shake.. I been going ever since and I hadnt been to church in 20yrs..
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
11:29 am
I think the “making too compromises” theme may run pretty consistently between a lot of us. That and what Mo mentioned about ignoring signs and the decisions we made to stay in situations that we somehow thought would get better.
I used to be a big proponent of “It won’t be good all the time and sometimes it’s the bad times that makes the good time better.” And an even bigger proponent of “It’s take a forever to build a relationship that lasts forever.”
I’ve changed that outlook somewhat. First of all, I will only be applying the above sentiments to a marriage. Ain’t no use in going through a whole buncha mess for someone you’re not legally tied to. Walk away from that.
And when it comes to marriage, even then, you gotta have a line drawn in the sand and a limit on your compromises because you can’t lose all of yourself and most of your life to a bad relationship FOR ANY REASON – married or not.
Ms. Main just getting in
October 14th, 2009
11:29 am
Rev. Stanley tells it straight….that’s what I really like about him
Dream_n....Loves vacaton days :)
October 14th, 2009
11:29 am
It’s going to be hard… and I appreciate all you guyz advice (more than ya’ll may know)…..so when I start posting random depressing posts in the next month you guyz will know why lol!!
Gotta go.. lov’n vacation days even if it calls for me to take are of business!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
11:29 am
Aggwit – You’re a Aggie mayne! You mean I couldve been messing with you all this time!!
Im a Hampton Pirate! Seriously, enjoy ya homecoming.
Cemeeli – LMAO @ your 11:15!
Raqi
October 14th, 2009
11:32 am
RandyT I won’t even lie and say that it was not hard. Especially since the one that hurt me at that time I had a child with. I had to tell myself that I was not going to let him make my life miserable from afar.
I then started getting involved with other things and other people.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:33 am
Dream_n – Never stay for the finances/money. PLEAAE!..And like Ms. Leggs stated the baby should not be a pawn.
But i know you know better…
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
11:34 am
@Randyt – You are right we have memories and scars, but we our peace comes when we can forgive.
Mo – Say that! PEACE OF MIND IS PRICELESS. ^^^5
I have found even when I’m going through(whatever) If I can go through in peace….it makes all the difference.
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
11:35 am
Yeah, please stay sensible when it comes to the kid. That new song by All-4-One about the kid and knowing how some chicks can use kids against a man angers me and breaks my heart all at the same time.
aggwitty
October 14th, 2009
11:36 am
Mo, I am sorry for your circumstances hahhahaah. Look at yall having a white miss hampton, yall so progressive. Also, aggies are deep round these parts so tread lightly LOL.
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:36 am
@ Wings – I’m watching you…like that prayer.
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
11:37 am
Ag/Mo – there is a discussion going on about the new Miss Hampton at verysmartbrothas.com today.
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
11:37 am
stayed in my marriage waaaaaay too long because i kept praying he would recognize the blessings he had in his wife and kids. got over it by making a list of all the things that made me happy when i was single (reading, swimming, hiking, traveling, etc.) and promptly set about enjoying myself again
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
11:38 am
Pirate Roundup has a cool lil forum too….
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:42 am
You are absolutely right Wings, forgiveness (in all ways, including forgiving one’s self) is when peace comes. In my life, it was when I made a conscious decision to let it go and face the fact that she/they could never repay me what had been taken away even if she/they wanted to, that I realized, as Andy said, it is like a bad loan that cannot ans will not ever be repaid…write it off and move on with a clean balance sheet.
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
11:43 am
^5 @ Ms. Main
Thank you for everything you’ve taken away. What an important statement! Thanks Wings
@Randy – I would still have that vmail!!! I cannot remember the title of the series I came in on but the message was about Mistakers vs. Sinners. I went one time and haven’t looked back in 3 years. It sincerely brings me the greatest joy to attend Church on Sundays. At first I couldn’t stand the music, now… I love it! Heck, I even bought a CD and will be attending the night of worship tomorrow at Buckhead. Do you still attend?
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
11:45 am
Wings – I’m watching you…like that prayer.
@Cem – Lol-
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
11:46 am
Peach – You are welcome – All we have is what we can give…..
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
11:48 am
The whole Ms Hampton controversy is ridiculous really, she isnt white (she is Hawaiian so I’ve heard) and WHO CARES!!! LOL! I mean dang, Wake Forest had an African American queen a couple of years ago, so what! But from what I have gathered the students are upset b/c she attends a remote campus on VA Beach, not the main campus. And sad to say I never voted for a Ms Hampton anyway, its a pageant process so :shrugs: I have been getting hit up daily since it hit the media
Aggwit – I know ya’ll are deep, its cool! I spent many weekends partying with ya’ll. LOL!
But I have to brag since we beat ya’ll. 
SCool – I like that song too and I hate for people to use kids as pawns
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
11:52 am
Cz – I did the same thing….made a list of everything I wanted to do and places I wanted to go. We moved to Atlanta together and what I realized after 5 years here was, I didn’t know my way outside of 285….my focus had been home and work.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:53 am
@ Ima, I go to the main campus, but with the video stuff, it does not much matter. I first went to NPCC for all the wrong reasons. I was just out of a relationship and heard about thousands of singles. I felt guilty about just going to the singles things so one day I went to one of his sermons. It hit so close to home I started coming again and again, then started buying or downloading his old ones. One day I bought an old series on ce caleed “Transitions” and it was like my life passing in front of me…had Randyt and the t-shirts written all ovr it. Been hooked ever since. Another one that hit home was the “Jonah” series. I was a “runner” big time. So I’ve going there for 8 years now, and it is one of the few (read only) church that I look forward to going to to see if it another one of those messages placed there just for Randyt>
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:57 am
@ IMa and Ms Main
What North Point/Buckhead Church does so well is connect the disconnected, and I was about as disconnected as you can get…and had paid a big price for it.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
11:58 am
Cemeeli – whatchu doing on Pirateroundup! LOL!
ImAPeach404
October 14th, 2009
11:59 am
@Randy – I just love NPCC stories
I started out at Buckhead but moved to Alpharetta last summer and have been at NP every since. And like you said, with all the videos, it really doesn’t matter – it’s all the same. I attend 11:00 svc, maybe we can meet up sometime and oogle over how fanstastic our Church is, lol.
You can come too Ms. Main
We moved to Atlanta together and what I realized after 5 years here was, I didn’t know my way outside of 285…
Don’t feel bad Wings I’ve lived here all my life and don’t know my way around 80% of the city
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
October 14th, 2009
11:59 am
@ Dk re: your church experience
Sooner or later ALL of our numbers are drawn aren’t they. As Andy said in the Jonah series, “you can run from God, but you cannot outrun God”. I tried.
Ms. Main just getting in
October 14th, 2009
12:01 pm
RandyT Ah, the joys and pains of life….connecting the disconnecting…think we can all relate
Ima Thanks
Wings -() (Human and Divine)
October 14th, 2009
12:01 pm
@Peach – Thanks to map-quest, gps and some great friends…..I’m learning!
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
12:01 pm
I have to tell you Dream_n – I was 23 when i left my ex as well…and now i’m on this blog…maybe at around 21-24 or so a lot of women have an epiphany about what they will/will not accept from significant other?…and then, after the baby it’s like “Eureka!”
Girl, I left that house like I was Sophia from “The Color Purple”..…babyboy in one arm…and keys in the other! tellin’ that negro how he can have all of it!
Wise Diva
October 14th, 2009
12:02 pm
80% of the city, really? well, I think you guys should just go get lost in the city, that is how I learned the areas that I do know. When it’s a nice day, explore areas that you never go. I guarantee that you will find a restaurant, bar, boutique, store, or park that you will adore and come back to!
Cemeeli
October 14th, 2009
12:04 pm
Mo – Girl acting like i went there. State alumni (my folk) don’t have a “roundup” lol..we real HBCU…
czBrat
October 14th, 2009
12:06 pm
@WD LUV exploring new areas!! that’s how i’ve come to call ATL home after all these years. however, i did that once in Brooklyn & ended up in Howard Beach. NOT GOOD!
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
12:07 pm
Neilsen now rates shows that are digitally recorded and played back within 7 days.
I love you, Big Brother.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
12:08 pm
Cemeeli – LMAO!! Alright Sophia! And I have a pirateroundup profile but ask me when was the last time I was on there! Been waaaaay too long. Im sure my fellow alumni will continue to keep me posted on the Miss Hampton ruckus.
Dream_n – I remember when I knew I was done. My ex was out of town and I told a relative “if he never came back, never called just stayed gone, I wouldnt even flinch”. When you are done you will know and it will hurt but nothing like the hurt you will endure if you stay
Melo
October 14th, 2009
12:08 pm
Playing victim most of u….
nobody can make u happy but urself…the other party can only complement what u got.
Nothing in lyfe is guaranteed,esp relationships,be they marriage or otherwise.If u enter into one,with that perspective in mind,u on ur way to being happy all the time.
When a demise comes,u already know and are mentally adjusted to face the other direction in life’s many twists and turns.
THE INFAMOUS DK
October 14th, 2009
12:11 pm
The HU Homecoming queen was voted on and her school loves her.. Its prolly some bitter/ugly chick that started the protest.. She attends HU so why cant she win.. People better start finding something else to talk about.. Its way more important things be upset about rather than Miss Hampton..
Justine
October 14th, 2009
12:13 pm
First my ex is not Satan. Satan kicked him out. Yes, we hold on to the hurtful memories of our exs too long. But in many cases, including my own, it has stopped me from making the same mistake again.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
October 14th, 2009
12:13 pm
Infamous – THANK YOU! Im alumni and I said “who cares”, let it go people
SexyCool...Update - Up to Cloud 4.
October 14th, 2009
12:16 pm
If you look at the picture at VSB, I’m betting o’girl in the white dress started all this mess. LOL!