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Unpredictable

I had a date Sunday night with an interesting fellow, I’ll call him Vince.  We met through some mutual friends a few weeks ago.  The evening went pretty well for a first date. I noticed that Vince seemed to have this running theme during our conversation: spontaneity. As in, the more spontaneous a woman is the more attractive she becomes to him.

Interestingly enough, I didn’t get the spontaneous vibe from him at all when we first met. He seemed as if he was a quiet, conservative type. So here is the guy with the Conservative Uniform on, telling me that he likes a woman who can be unpredictable. He “gets bored” easily so if the woman he is dating isn’t able to be spontaneous, they probably wouldn’t get along very well.

Ladies, apparently men don’t want to be stuck with a snorefest, no matter how hot she is. Do you think that you are unpredictable and spontaneous..um, in a completely sane way?

Guys, do you really dig unpredictable women that much? Are you looking for women who can pick up and go on a whim? Do you think that women who play it too safe are too uptight?

How unpredictable are you? Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

399 comments Add your comment

ImAPeach404

October 13th, 2009
8:48 am

I think “gets bored easily” is code for “this will be my excuse when i’m ready to move on”.
AKA – Loophole

Morning all…

Kym

October 13th, 2009
8:51 am

Good Morning All,

I am upredictable and spontaneous… but predictable. That means I am open to trying new things but there have to boundaries and planning. In other words I am all for a weekend getaway..however, not at 5:02pm on a Friday, given that I have to make arrangements for the care of my son and our pet. So while it is nice to go against the grain..plan it out first. For example, I decided I want to learn to ski. I saw something offered thru a program at school and said shoot why not? However, the time frame for the outing does not match up with my life, so rather than chuck the idea. I went to a ski expo..sponsored by Atlanta’s own African-American ski(nicest people you ever want to meet) So now I am planning my new adventure for next year. Can’t wait!! Oh yeah and I am dragging friends along with me.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
8:54 am

WiseDiva your guy sounds like a loser. Seriously. But that’s just moi opinion.

What part is he playing in all of this? Is “he gets bored easily” to be translated as he is looking for a woman to entertain him while he sits back and enjoy the show? Who is he King Lear and women his jesters?

LOL

Now seriously, yes there should be some spontaneity there. But you know the more responsibilities you take on the harder it is to live on a whim. With responsibilities comes the need for planning and pre-preparation.

I think this is one of the things that so many, men especially, have trouble with in the transitioning of relationships. You meet the perfect person and you do all this “fun” stuff at the spur of the moment then as the days roll by life sets in and requires more planning to do the things you used to do.

Now I ask which is most important? Having a partner that is still open and willing to do those “fun” things, however planned, or a person that can drop whatever they are doing and run off to “Vegas” when the mode strikes their partner?

In the world that I live, we have to plan around our responsibilities. We have jobs, we have kids, we have duties. But we still have fun.

Like today, he asked me if I wanted to have lunch with him. Yes. Therefore I must plan my day accordingly.

It doesn’t make you a bore because you can’t just up and go. What’s make you a bore is when you don’t want to go or do at all.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
8:55 am

ImaPeach, I agree.

Kym, you are correct. We are adults with responsibilites. We have to plan our fun.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
9:06 am

Hi WD and all.

My take is the same as Raqi’s. For some Bozo to spend a first date talking about what “he wants” in a relationship is not good form and suggests that he may be more than a little self absorbed.

Personally I am attracted to unpredictibility, but have found (painfully a few times) that it is a double edges sword…exciting, but often destructive. One can be scratching one’s head with a big “shyte eating grin” when the lady surprises you in a nice way, and 24 hours later totally blindsides you and jerks the rug out from under you. you are left there sitting on the curb you’ve just been kicked to trying to figure out how you misread the tea leaves.

No one ever said this game is easy (at least no one who knew anything about it).

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:07 am

..good morning…

as an explorer, I have a tendency to do thing that are unfamiliar, ‘cause some stuff just needs taken care of immediately!

to have a spontaneous side you have to know how to do things with complete abandonment!…sometimes there is nothing better than just doin’ it…no planning…no overthinking….just go for broke!

And if both individuals are just completely off the Richter scale in the relationship, you might end up with an interesting patent…

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:10 am

..i agree with what most have stated…Mr. Vince sounds like he’s looking for a crutch to hang his spontaneous side…it’s broken.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
9:10 am

Wise — The dude was just saying what he thought you wanted to hear. He’s probably as dull as a butter knife in a psych ward — and knows it — but wants you to think that he’s spontaneous and adventurous so that you will find him more appealing.

As for the topic in general — spontaneity is overrated IMO; just another word for flakey. Sure, it’s fun to shake things up & try new things every now & then, but the operative phrase there is “every now & then.” If I’m going to be with someone long-term, I absolutely want the predictable chic. Call me dull, but I kinda like knowing what to expect of my mate…

ImAPeach404

October 13th, 2009
9:11 am

Lol @ Raqi calling ole boy a loser!

It doesn’t make you a bore because you can’t just up and go. What’s make you a bore is when you don’t want to go or do at all. Well stated

I think Kym and Raqi have pointed out the reason why women sometimes get labeled as “not spontaneous” and “boring”… we tend to be a bit more responsible. If I hit that Mega Millions tonight my spontaneity will shoot the the MF’in roof! But if not… we have to plan our spontaneous moments.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
9:15 am

@ i’m swiss

“spontaneity is…just another word for flakey” You got that 100% right on, I can show you the t-shirts (but they are DAYUM CUTE and I must have a compulsive need to be abused, lol).

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
9:15 am

WiseDiva what does your new possibility do for a living?

If he has a job that calls for any fair amount of responsibility would you say that he is looking for a woman that will live her life around his? Spontaneous, when convenient for him?

Am I being too deep this morning? If so, blame on the lack of sleep. LOL

Any man with a level head that makes even a half way decent living is not going to do just up and risk it putting it all on the line for a day or even a few hours of fun. He will plan accordingly.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:16 am

I absolutely want the predictable chic.

Swiss a.k.a. Mr. Dull…is that what marriage do to you?…

yea sometimes I do things on a whim…also though, i do not ‘fly off the cuff’ irresponsibly. But If he’s the type that’ll kidnap me ‘just cause’…ummm yeah, I’ve already packed the “just in case”…

Kym

October 13th, 2009
9:18 am

@Peach if I won the money I may change my methods but not my motor. I am not going all out buying stuff I don’t need. I hate doing that now. I have a Palm Pilot right now that I never really used, that I should be selling on ebay because of my “addiction” to gadgets. But I digress. If my opinion above makes me boring then so be it. Like I said I am open to new stuff but even given large amounts of cash to do what I wanted, when I wanted, I would have still have to be sensible.

NY2GA, Inc.

October 13th, 2009
9:18 am

@Wise

‘Gets bored easily’

(translation)’I like a woman with a little ‘crazy in her’to keep it interesting because watching paint dry is more exciting than being with me’

So, Wise if that’s you. Have a great time on your next date. If not, I’m with the rest of the ladies. Find another man! LOL!

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
9:20 am

GM All,

I think I’m with the majority so far…. I like predictable. As for most of us, we have responsibilities to adhere to, so the chances of us becoming unpredictable and spontaneous is slim to none. Now I’m all for “spare of the moment” I may be able to work something out with about 6 hours of notice. lol… The days of getting up and dong things on a whim has since gone!

Now if you’re single with no attachments then maybe “Vince” may be the person for you. lol… With him saying he ges bored easily, that kinda confuses me. Does he want you to be some sort of entertainment for him while he watches, if that’s the case then I don’t know what woman would be right for him, maybe a juggler, or flame shooter, someone with some theatrics.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
9:25 am

You know maybe Vince was talking about in bed. Some men folks use the term relationship to refer to one that is purely sexual. Maybe he was hinting that he like a woman that would be unpredictable in bed.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
9:26 am

“Swiss a.k.a. Mr. Dull…is that what marriage do to you?…”

Cee — You know Mrs. Swiss already had me house-broken a looooooong time ago… :lol:

“But If he’s the type that’ll kidnap me ‘just cause’…ummm yeah, I’ve already packed the “just in case”…”

See, I’m all for this kind of thing, but to me, that’s not spontaneous. It might seem spontaneous to her, because to her it’s a surprise. But I’ve been planning it for weeks.

Professor

October 13th, 2009
9:29 am

Hola,

My thought on this whole unpredictable spontaneous thing is this…most folks read about it, heard about it, and now they are trying to be about it because it’s the new buzzword. I agree with the other postings most “grown” folk have to many balls in the air to STOP and run somewhere. Give me a break, hell even in college you don’t have all of that flexibility. Not to mention in this economy people are doing more planning because of the almighty dollar.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:32 am

Swiss okay…okay…you’re reading me correctly. Yea, i thought maybe i was going a little to far left! :)

I just think there is something incredibly sexy about unpredictabality that’s straight from your significant other!

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
9:34 am

I am not saying spontaneity is a bad thing. I like it, I love it…
However responsibilities come first. As we get older that is just how it is.

Right now, honestly speaking, for me and mine, being spontaneous would be during the time slot that have planned to do something together, we abandon those plans and do something that is much more exciting. One Saturday we were headed out to Douglasville to an associate’s event and were passing, get this yall, SixFlags on I-20. The both of us had not been in a very long time, so we abandoned our plans and got off the freeway and went into SixFlags. LOL

Or, getting our love on at a friend’s house in an upstairs room. Or on the dark side of the house outside against a car.

Or calling in sick from work to go watch an afternoon flick instead and make out like teenagers. (if you don’t of have the days stored to make the call, losing that job to get your feel on is just not worth it)

But when you have responsibilities there is a limit to all that you can do that is truly spontaneous. You may have to makes a few calls to get a sitter, or someone to sit in for you at your job so you call pull off that 3 day weekend at Chateau Elan or Hilton Head.

The fun is in what you do and who you do it with. Planned or Not.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:34 am

Dang Swiss you housetrained too?!?! hehehe

I guess when it’s my turn you can “shine” on me too :) .

Professor

October 13th, 2009
9:36 am

I will say this as for being unpredictable if every Saturday night is dinner and a movie mix things up a bit. Or if you always lay across the couch and fart watching football together on Sundays, well maybe you should go fart at a sports bar or something. I hate being in a routine when I am dating, which becomes predictable.

I remember one Saturday morning my ex and I were laying in the bed talking about what we could do that would be fun that day. Out of nowhere he said well lets drive to Chattanooga and go to the aquarium so we did that and had a blast…ate breakfast on the way up…saw the sea creatures…had a nice dinner. I like stuff like that, but that is not an every week thingy.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
9:38 am

Cemeeli

I with you, when it comes to your significant other, the person that knows your schedule, and would prolly do something spontaneous to fit around you accordingly! Like swiss said, that would be spontaneous for you, but not for him since he’s been planning it.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
9:38 am

Cemeeli in the instances you are talking, for me spontaneity would be him showing up at my office unexpectedly and taking me away for a romantic lunch picnic in the park. But even then I don’t just abandon my work. It’s his surprise appearance that would be spontaneous.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:41 am

Dreamn & Raqi I would hope we are all responsible adults…but being “unpredictable” as in what Swiss and i were getting at, is a MUST for me.

I get what you two are saying as well.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 13th, 2009
9:42 am

if every Saturday night is dinner and a movie mix things up a bit

I agree Professor. If we are talking predictable in that sense, then yeah I don’t like predictable.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
9:42 am

I hate being in a routine when I am dating, which becomes predictable.

I agree Professor,
or even when you have been with someone for soooo loonnggg.. You have to switch it up add some spice.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
9:48 am

Don’t you guys remember when you were younger (Im going to get stoned for that statement lmao!)

The years when you didnt have a care in the world! No bills, No responsibility, just living! Sometimes I think back and I miss that stage in my life, and other times I love the stage that I’m at right now.. growing..being shaped..it’s exciting!

How easy was it for us to just change plans at the last minute or just get up and go.. (but be back before the street lights came on)!

Hopeless Romantic

October 13th, 2009
9:49 am

Puhleeease. When he comes out of the gate setting expecations that spontaneity is the primary driver for the relationship means that there is no commitment, no kids, be available at a moment’s notice when and if he is ready but don’t expect him to be available because he is just too darn busy having fun flitting around trying to figure out what he wants.

Where is the: I am seeking a fun but mutually respectful relationship where we have shared goals, values and communicate easily with each other.
That’s what I am all about.

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
9:49 am

RandyT and Swiss let me ask you guys a question.

Would you not be the slightest bit concerned about a woman you are dating that can just up and go when ever at the drop of a hat?

Would you not wander if she has any real responsibilities or sense of stability?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
9:51 am

yea…yea…yea Dream_n monicker fits her SO well. :)

luv it!

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
9:55 am

“Would you not be the slightest bit concerned about a woman you are dating that can just up and go when ever at the drop of a hat?”

Absolutely, Raqi. I would be very concerned, in fact. Like I said, I want the predictable chic — I want to know what to expect of my mate. Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t do new/fun things from time to time, but in general, predictable is good. It means I can count on you.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
9:55 am

You know maybe Vince was talking about in bed.

u damn right!
Being the preacher’s daughter that she is,Wise didnt catch that.

Sivhukile madhoda!!

Professor

October 13th, 2009
9:57 am

Dream_n

You have me wishing that I was 17 again, ohhh I miss those days, however the only way I would go back if I could take the mind and knowledge I have right now. I don’t want to make the same mistakes again living carefree

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
10:01 am

@ Raqi – So is 9:49 insinuating/saying that an adult that can do whatever whenever is issresponsible?

Instability?

still trying to follow this…

SexyCool

October 13th, 2009
10:05 am

Three Words Daily – Know your worth.

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:07 am

Cemeeli No. Not at all.

It’s like you’ve got lil Cee, your house and your job. I don’t think you will just up and fly to Jamaica at an hour’s or even day’s notice without making sure those things are taken care of first.

Hold one sec…I need to step out of office….

Professor

October 13th, 2009
10:10 am

Melo I thought about Vince referring to the bedroom, but I did hate it when guys introduce sex on the first date or convo. It is a huge did I say HUGE turnoff and I know they will never get it from me.

SexyCool

October 13th, 2009
10:10 am

Hopeless – ” I am seeking a fun but mutually respectful relationship where we have shared goals, values and communicate easily with each other.”

^That, combined with consistency and good chemistry is what does it for me.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
10:11 am

fyi

All kids under 12 in costumes receive free admission to Ga. Aquarium on Oct. 30 from 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. and Oct. 31 from 9 a.m. – 6 p.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
10:12 am

@Raqi, I remember when I was carefree and got that phone call to go to Jamaica and be ready in 2 hours. No problem. If I got that phone call now, I would have to turn it down. I need to plan lodging for lil leggs, food, pick up from practice, just to name a few. Jamaica just went down the drain…(forehead pluck to responsibilities).

Kym

October 13th, 2009
10:13 am

Heck I am sitting here now planning my Turkey Day. I think I may fly to VA to visit family and spend Xmas at the house. Because I can’t do the cabin thang at Xmas and Turkey Day in VA. Trying to balance.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
10:13 am

No one should mention sex on the first date. It’s insulting!!!

SexyCool

October 13th, 2009
10:13 am

As to the spontaneity of it all, I can be spontaneous around my responsibilities – which are admittedly few, but responsibilities nonetheless.

Hopeless Romantic

October 13th, 2009
10:15 am

Sexy Cool: Amen to the chemistry and consistency.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
10:16 am

but I did hate it when guys introduce sex on the first date or convo

Hey Prof,hey gang,hey W8!

I hope Wise tells us what she was wearing on the day coz if a woman were to wear smething bordering along those sexual lines,trust me,any man will talk about sex and bring in the innuendos.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
10:18 am

Professor

I’m with you.. SEX on the first date, even mentioning it is a big NO NO!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
10:19 am

I don’t think you will just up and fly to Jamaica at an hour’s or even day’s notice without making sure those things are taken care of first.

@ Raqi – Yea, of course not…

But i was “this” type, before and i’ve tweaked and carve my life to be responsible as i gain each reward…(kid, hubby, care of my mother)…AND keep my _____ side ( underline is inserted since the word seems to have it’s adverse affect today)…and as well we all have things that we will be more ______ than the next person.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:20 am

Morning all –

Wise Diva, nice to hear a dating story and glad there are other options other than that young guy. Do you happen to know if Vince is a Sagittarius? That sign is known to thrive off spontenatity.

In any case, I can be predictable, the key word is responsible. I get up and have a general idea of what my day should encompass. However, I can be spontaneous, especially when it comes to last minute trips and stuff. I love ending up in new places. I can definitely get with a guy who is the same way, as long as he handles his obligations too.

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
10:21 am

OT – Guys… I cried in front of my friend this weekend. I’m concerned I freaked him out! When he asked why I was crying I said it was because he is so nice to me. Because he is!!! I don’t even recall what we were talking about but he was being so sweet and thoughtful and nice. We had a rough week and then when we finally got around each other and talked it out… he was really really nice about everything. I just go overwhelmed and became emotional.

We’ve been dating for almost 4 months. Did I open the flood gates too soon? Would this have scared you? Is there anything I can say to ensure him that I’m not a nutty crybaby?

Professor

October 13th, 2009
10:25 am

Hey Melo!

You can be in a Nun habit and some of these jerks will still bring up sex.

Guy: I see you hiding behind all of that cloth
Girl: I believe in keeping myself covered
Guy: I can look at your eyes and tell you are sexy
Girl: Really?
Guy: So what position do you like I like it unpredictable
Girl: (Silently) I will never…ever…be caught laying up with this clown

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:25 am

Am I being too deep this morning? If so, blame on the lack of sleep. LOL

Raqi – I would say so, only because I don’t think he was trying to tell WD he was irresponsible or flaky. You can go to your 9-5 everyday and pay all your bills then wake up on Saturday and decide to go skydiving too.

I guess I’m just giving this guy the benefit of the doubt. One of my best guy friends and I had plenty of weekend adventures on a whim (white water rafting, roller blading in Golden Gate park, skiing in Tahoe) and he never skimped on his obligations. He just logged a lot of miles in his old hatchback!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
10:26 am

@It’s me was this like a cry of relief. Or was this out and out slobbering followed by gasp for air and dry heaves. I think if after 4 months you can’t open up and show all sides of you including your”Save me Superman” side then something is wrong. Now if you are prone to cry all the damn time and whine constantly yeah the crying spell might be a bit much for anyone. But a cry and sigh of relief for the compassion of another. Nawww. your good.

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:27 am

The short answer…

Cemeeli all I am saying is you would need to at least make sure the goldfish gets fed before you takeoff on a whim.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
10:32 am

@It’s me, how did he respond? Did he put his arm around you and assure you, you’re ok. I don’t think you opened the floodgates too soon. If that’s what you felt then that’s what you felt. Pretty sure he was glad you were comfortable enough to be yourself and not hold back an emotion you needed to release.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
10:36 am

I see nothing wrong with a single woman/man without any kids, that doesn’t have to work, b/c she/he is set for life being spontaneous. Her/His actions of getting up and leaving will only affect her/him.

We very well have those people living amongst us today. It doesn’t make them negligent or irresponsible. They have the means to do so.

Now on the other hand those that have responsibilities, jobs, kids, mates,school, or any other responsibility just can’t do that.. and maybe dont’t really want to.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:36 am

We’ve been dating for almost 4 months. Did I open the flood gates too soon?

Yes.

Would this have scared you?

Yes.

Is there anything I can say to ensure him that I’m not a nutty crybaby?

No. Keep bringing it up will make it worse. Just move on from it and don’t bring it up again. And start by working on your self-esteem and knowing the guys you date should be nice to you.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
10:37 am

Melo – something to peak your interest/sub topic.

Spontaneous in someone’s world would be gettin a bit right before a PTA meeting, right?

hey bruh…lol

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:45 am

It’sMe I think your response was all good. Especially since it was a happy cry.

And most men know that woman are cryers. LOL Emotional crying is what we do.

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
10:46 am

Kym – it was a simple cry. Tears flowed and a sniffle or two. It lasted about 2-3 minutes. And when he realized I was crying he immediately took me in for a hug and just held onto me. He did ask me why I was crying and I told him the truth. He just said “Awwww. Don’t cry babe” and then got me a towel. Lol. But the next day he asked in a more serious tone why I cried. Thats when I thought maybe he got a weird vibe.

But you’re right. It’s been long enough and I should feel comfortable opening up.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:50 am

Well, I guess I’ll be the voice of dissention. If a guy told you he was overwhelmed because “you were so nice” to him, you’d probably look at him sideways and wonder what kind of losers or crazy drama he’s put up with in the past.

Can you rebound from it, of course. But him asking again in a serious tone shows that he was freaked.

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:51 am

If a guy told you he was overwhelmed because “you were so nice” to him

That wouldn’t work coming from a guy because it’s a girl thing.

SexyCool - Holding my breath.

October 13th, 2009
10:51 am

I hate being an emotional creature sometimes. Oh, and the overthinking doesn’t help any either.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
10:52 am

On point, It’sMe. Now forget about it and enjoy the person and your relationship.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:52 am

it’s a girl thing.

No, crying over someone being nice to you is a basketcase thing. Come on now. Let’s have higher standards for ourselves….

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
10:52 am

Leggs – Yes, he did put his arms around me and was very sweet (because he’s SO nice, lol). I didn’t become concerned until the next day when he asked me about it again.

AmazonRed – I don’t have self-esteem issues. I was just overwhelmed by the conversation and the way he chose to handle the weeks activities.

Did I mention I had 2 glasses of wine???

Raqi – Thank you for the kind words. It was a very very happy cry.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
10:53 am

AmazonRed

I can see where you’re coming from. Some people react differently to others.
Some men I know would have been a little freaked and some men I know would’ve fallen in love.. It depends on how the person received it… i guess

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:53 am

Notice how none of the guys are speaking up on this one…. :lol:

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:54 am

I don’t have self-esteem issues

Uh huh…

Melo

October 13th, 2009
10:55 am

It’s me – surprise

whats making u cry tho?? Something in ur past……

Cemeeli???

is that how it went down this morning??? U been to the PTA….yet or is it tonite???
Im sure the teachers can/will tell coz u be the happy,with ear to ear,smiling chic/mum,asking all the important qstions :lol:

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:55 am

Leggs I agree to she needs to forget about it. She doesn’t need to ruin things trying to read too much into him asking her why she was crying.

I’m telling you It’sMe, guys know that we cry. Even when they don’t understand why.

Now crying about every darn thing or to have your way could be a problem. But to be overcome by an emotion during a conversation or a movie or a newsflash is all good.

Professor

October 13th, 2009
10:56 am

It’sMe,

I agree with ARed post 10:36

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:56 am

Leggs, you got mail.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
10:56 am

I didn’t become concerned until the next day when he asked me about it again.

I’m just saying don’t discount that. But yes, move on from it. You explained it, that’s what it will have to be now.

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
10:58 am

AmazonRed if a man told me that he was overwhelmed because I was so nice to him I would wonder what he’s had to deal with in the past but it wouldn’t make me look at him sideways.

SexyCool – I overthink too. Obviously!

Leggs – thank you!

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
10:59 am

Well then call me the basketcase because I have been known to get emotional from kind acts that give me comfort after enduring an overwhelming situation or situations.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:00 am

Raqi – Will do. ;)

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
11:00 am

Sometimes crying is just the body’s way of release.

Been Thru It All

October 13th, 2009
11:01 am

nter your comments here
probably would haved freaked me out after 4 weeks…im good with you after 4 months…

East Point's Own

October 13th, 2009
11:01 am

With the exception of women with a child, I have to say that I don’t get very far with women who need to plan everything in advance. Today is Tuesday, I won’t know what I want to do this weekend until Fri or Sat… so stop asking…
If you need a week or more to plan before you can go do anything with me, then I think you are doing too much, or you think you are doing too much, or you are dating too many people. Most folks I have met who have to plan everything weeks in advance are some of the most no-life havingest people ever. I have dated women with a child who are more flexible than some single unattached women who just for whatever reason could not function unless they had every minute of their life planned out for the next 7 days.

http://hispointofview.com

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
11:02 am

Melo – I think it was the wine :)

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:03 am

Im sure the teachers can/will tell coz u be the happy,with ear to ear,smiling chic/mum,asking all the important qstions

lol @ Melo 1st Question: Why aren’t there MORE college interns co-assisting the homeroom teachers? And how can we incorporate the partnership?!!

the students be wispering…Ms. Cee is the most participant parent in the classroom…taking cupcakes to the kids for no reason…jus cause!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
11:05 am

@Its Me..ok then no biggie. What you can do or note for the future. Is that next day when he asked why did you cry? Say..”Well it was a very stressful week, and sometimes when things are coming at you all at once and you are pulled into so many directions it is really comforting to be around someone who has such a strong and comforting demeanor(<<<<<ego stroke) to just remind you that this too will pass. Done. No weird vibe.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
11:06 am

It’s Me — I don’t know if “freaked out” is the proper description, but I would definitely be curious as to what you had experienced previously that led you to get so emotional over me showing kindness. Wouldn’t think you were a nutcase, per se, but it would definitely throw me a bit. Having said that, I wouldn’t make a big deal of it — just forget it & proceed as normal. The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger deal it will be to him.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:08 am

@ Kym – Is your son reading the “Diary of Wimpy Kid” series?

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
11:10 am

Cemeeli

High Five…. Though I don’t bake (yet)…

When I pick up my girlie.. It’s so cute b/c the kids are all like. Hi Ayahna’s mom.. or look at my shoes Ayahna’s mom… or can you buy me that dress Ayahna wore lol… it cracks me up. I love interactin with the kids… hell i have to know who my princess is around 8 hrs out of a day! Though I’m prolly the youngest mom.. I’m definately the most hands on!

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:11 am

Say..”Well it was a very stressful week, and sometimes when things are coming at you all at once and you are pulled into so many directions it is really comforting to be around someone who has such a strong and comforting demeanor(<<<<<ego stroke) to just remind you that this too will pass.

This one is good. I think the follow up with the “because you were nice to me” response made it seem like there is something in the past there. Men are logical, to need relief after a trying week makes sense.

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
11:11 am

Raqi – I think you’ve hit on something I couldn’t think to communicate… I was emotional due to a kind act!

Kym, great advice. Hopefully I will never have to use it.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:12 am

but I would definitely be curious as to what you had experienced previously that led you to get so emotional over me showing kindness. Wouldn’t think you were a nutcase, per se, but it would definitely throw me a bit. Having said that, I wouldn’t make a big deal of it — just forget it & proceed as normal. The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger deal it will be to him

swiss – Now watch how well received this will be coming from a guy, rather than mean ole AmazonRed. ;) :lol:

Kym

October 13th, 2009
11:12 am

@Cee–No he is into Artemis Fowl and anything Sci-Fi. I just introduced him to the Maximumn Ride Series by James Patterson-his first book was confiscated at school..for reading in class. Also, Stan Lee has developed some new comicbook for Disney that is only on I-Tunes called Time Jumpers…if Stan Lee makes it he is hooked.

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
11:13 am

Good evening folks.

On topic: Ol boy was probing to see if you were a freak. Since most women conform to a guys wants he was trying to guide you in that direction. You should have simply asked him what was the last spontaneous thing he did and then listen for the silence. Reminds me of chicks that would say they’re into plays and concert and then when you asked them when they last went, silence.

As for dudes bringing up sex sometimes if theres no connection shooting for the azz is the only hope. It’s no different than a chick telling a guy to take her out when she’s not interested. You throw out your ace a spade and I throw out mine.

Its me, you prolly freaked him out. I have a rule that I refuse to talk with a chick thats crying, unless its a major event such as death or such. I guess if I was him i’d be wondering what the hellz the other guys you’ve been dating have done to you where just being nice brings you to tears. I’d think youve been putting yourself through the ringer, but thats just me.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
11:15 am

“swiss – Now watch how well received this will be coming from a guy, rather than mean ole AmazonRed.”

That’s just because I said it nicely, ARed. So nicely, in fact, that… [sniff]… I’m … [sniff]… getting a little misty… [sniff]… over here… ;-) :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit...there can be only one :-)

October 13th, 2009
11:15 am

Wouldn’t think you were a nutcase, per se, but it would definitely throw me a bit. Having said that, I wouldn’t make a big deal of it — just forget it & proceed as normal. The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger deal it will be to him.

Couldn’t agree more Swiss.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
11:17 am

“As for dudes bringing up sex sometimes if theres no connection shooting for the azz is the only hope. It’s no different than a chick telling a guy to take her out when she’s not interested. You throw out your ace a spade and I throw out mine.”

Ah, Truth… I missed you, bruh. :lol: Hope you’re doing well, man…

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
11:18 am

So Swiss a woman expressing her appreciation thru tears from something nice that you did for her makes her kinda, sorta a nutcase? Really?

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:18 am

LOL @ swiss and Truth.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:19 am

Dream_n – I like your baby’s name. And at that age it’s so cute and sweet. They luuuuv hugs!!!

I love kids! Always have…now my brother is dfferent story…this pass Sunday he asked me why i hadn’t allowed my son to rejoin the children’s choir cause they need more boys (he has 3)…and i chuckled because he’s now playing the drums for the music dept. whereas a year or two ago he wouldn’t be inclined to play even though he’s musically gifted.

….then after he tried to “shine” on me and my son…he says…”Sis you know i don’t like kids like that!” lol

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
11:19 am

The Truth

You have to shoot for something… that’s just wrong and funny at the same time..

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:20 am

Raqi – There is a difference…doing someTHING nice is one thing. A guy wants to see you react because you brought her flowers or a ring. Because you are nice TO me is something different. Getting emotional because he hugged you after a long day can definitely be seen as unnerving!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
11:20 am

@ It’s me..I do agree move passed it. Keep Moving Forward.(Disney has truly invaded my life).

Waving and laughing at Truth..what up big bro?

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:21 am

You should have simply asked him what was the last spontaneous thing he did and then listen for the silence.

Truth – You know I love it. :lol:

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:23 am

Maximumn Ride Series by James Patterson

@ Kym – I need to look that up.

We attended a Dairy party yesturday while we were off that’s what made me ask you.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:23 am

I guess if I was him i’d be wondering what the hellz the other guys you’ve been dating have done to you where just being nice brings you to tears. I’d think youve been putting yourself through the ringer, but thats just me

That’s why we are meant for each other boo. ;)

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
11:25 am

So only materials acts of kindness warrant happy tears? Really?

Heck I can think of several kind acts extended to me that were not of the material nature that really touched my heart. I guess I am “different” like that.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
11:28 am

After dating only 4 months and he did a particular “kind act” that truly helped you out and alleviated some stress, cry if that’s what you want. Not many would do something like that after only 4 months. Yeah, I’m reading between the lines!

@ARed, I am the original SexyLeggs! Thanks for spelling yours with one “g”. Haaaaa!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
11:28 am

@Cee–Yeah I got emails from Borders about those parties. My kid is waiting on the last Artemis book.

Raqi...Wearing a Shadow on a Cloudy Day

October 13th, 2009
11:30 am

Leggs I guess you and I are two of the exceptions that can be deeply touched by kindness that does not come in a little blue box.

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:31 am

So only materials acts of kindness warrant happy tears? Really?

Raqi – You’re over reading again. No one said that. But we are saying that someone crying over someone being NICE to them (which WAS the reason stated), sounds a little crazy. Disagree if you want, but that’s how some of us feel and that’s okay.

My mom cried once when I was 15 because I was making Jiffy Muffins and she remembers when I was so small I couldn’t reach the counter. Was it sweet? Sure. Was it a little nutty? Sure. :lol:

Did I disown her as a mom? No. But it’s definitely a story I still remember and love to tell! :lol:

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
11:31 am

Cemeeli

Thank you,

Ohhh I like the idea of introducing her to an instrument. I didn’t want to bombard her with alot of things with her only being 3. I am still considering the martial arts that Kym was talking about. I may get to that when she’s done with the dance class I signed her up for.
They’re like sponges.. even at your boys age of 10. I’m sure he’s well rounded..

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
11:32 am

@ARed, I am the original SexyLeggs! Thanks for spelling yours with one “g”. Haaaaa

Leggs – Yes, you are the OG. Just following in your footsteps. ;)

Johnny DangerDawg

October 13th, 2009
11:35 am

I think Eddie Murphy explains it well when he talks about Salad B*****s in his classic “Raw” routine.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
11:41 am

“So Swiss a woman expressing her appreciation thru tears from something nice that you did for her makes her kinda, sorta a nutcase? Really?”

Raqi — I wouldn’t immediately assume she was a nutcase, no — but only 4 months in, not knowing her that well, I would definitely have questions. Did I do something that she’s not telling me? Did something happen in her past? Is she this emotional about everything? I wouldn’t dwell on it & as long as she didn’t prove to be unstable going forward, I wouldn’t think anything of it.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:46 am

Dream_n – Yes you are correct, we can not overwhelm them with extra activities…I remember doing a too much with the bitty one myself…we both had to scale back on some activities…

When i was working catering weddings…he was playing soccer, baseball and basketball..and with my main job…all of it became a bit too much!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:47 am

i want some spaghetti.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
11:47 am

crying coz smebody has been kind tells a story.Really!

its either i want to be there to hear the stories adnauseaum or I dont.

and believe me,those past stories are not necessarily happy ones.

It's me - surprise

October 13th, 2009
11:47 am

I appreciate all of the advice and comments. Thank you!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
11:51 am

I appreciate all of the advice and comments. Thank you!

It’s probably thinking…Umm, why i gotta be the case study!?!

she dipped! lol :)

Professor

October 13th, 2009
11:52 am

****and believe me,those past stories are not necessarily happy ones.****

I don’t do past stories…that is a no no for me

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
11:53 am

Hey Dream, Ared, Melo, Swiss. Glad I wasnt the only one that read that sideways.

Swiss, I’m good over here, just saoking up the sand. Hows the Mrs Swiss doing? Any little Swisses in the works?

Melo, lmao.

Director

October 13th, 2009
11:53 am

Guys who request spontaneity are usually the ones who lack social skills. They’re looking for direction. Someone to plan the outings so they wouldn’t have to. More than likely, the suggestions they would make would be either too boring or redundant.

A dude

October 13th, 2009
11:58 am

Guys absolutely LOVE spontaneous women! There is nothing more sexy in the world than a women who is spontaneous…in a sane way, that is.

Lurkerette

October 13th, 2009
12:01 pm

Spontaneity is not talking about it, its being about it, if dude talked about it more than likely he really wasn’t spontaneous.

I cry after good sex, if it’s really really good! lol

Oh Hey everybody!

Professor

October 13th, 2009
12:01 pm

Whatever happened to Gerald? I think that was his moniker the one who wanted to date his ex best friend or something.

Lurkerette

October 13th, 2009
12:03 pm

JDD – Do tell the story of “Raw” – not familiar with it.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
12:05 pm

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
12:07 pm

sorry i hit enter to fast lol…

No past stories? Why not lol

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
12:07 pm

Truth — Glad to hear it. The Mrs. & I are living the dream — busy house hunting & phlucking like bunnies… :lol: No mini-swisses in the works yet, but we’re practicing hard to get ready for the show (going through 2-a-days, so to speak).

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
12:10 pm

Director – I agree…

Lunchtime…yay!

Professor

October 13th, 2009
12:15 pm

Hey Dream

Let me school you right quick…lol. I just feel that if you meet someone and you are marching forward…why tell all of these war stories (sometimes it is a turnoff and it is one-sided). Many people believe that you attract what you are, or you have bad judgment so to me it shows bad judgment to bring on the war stories early in the relationship. Plus I have a rule, which applies to all components of my life…”keep moving forward and don’t dwell in the past.” Live…learn…move on.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
12:19 pm

All that I have to say about Spontaneity, is be careful what you ask for.

I like a surprise here and there.

However, those who place a major value on spontaneity are more prone to infidelity. There are studies that prove it. Most men that I know that cheated on the wives loved the unpredictability. You can’t always be unpredictable in married life, especially if you have responsibilities.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
12:29 pm

Good Noon All!

Just getting out of meetings and surely everyone is gone to lunch. Anywho: I don’t consider myself spontaneous, and I certainly don’t think I’m unpredictable, mostly because I pretty much know what I’m gonna do next. :)

Having said that, I will share this recent exchange:
me: raving about how good the food is when we went out for breakfast.
him: good. so we’ll eat here again?
me: NO!
him: ???????
me: this is good, but you can make it for me at home anytime.
him: see, that’s why you’re so unpredictable. had i not asked that follow-up question i would have assumed you’d like to eat here again.
me: good thing you’re learing to follow-up.

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
12:29 pm

Poppa, I can believe it. It’s like folks saying they get bored easily. Something isnt quite right. Thing is when they’re left alone they dont do jack but sit around bored.

Swiss, glad you’re keeping up a good training program. Just remember, she has to finish her sets before you. LOL

Folks, was that a good Monday Night game or what? I stayed up til 3am but it was worth it. The Sanchise is the ish, though I could have sworn he threw for more yardage then he did.

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
12:30 pm

Professor

lol…

See I agree with you! Early on I would never go on and on about the negative aspects of my past. That’s a turn off for me and I’m sure most men don’t want to hear that! But gradually moving on later down the road… I think its healthy and funny to have that sort of conversation. When my current and I sat down and talked abuot his past and my past.. There was some very embarrassing and funny stuff I learned as I’m sure he learned about me also. (didnt tell everything though! ya know some stuff you just gotta keep secret lmao!)

lovelyliz

October 13th, 2009
12:32 pm

Be weary of the guy with the Conservative Uniform. A few are real, but in my expereience they only like predictable women who put out and shut up. Yoou know, an angel on the street but a freak……………….

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
12:33 pm

Taz – Apparently you were right about OSS being last Saturday. My sis gave me bad information. Dernit.

Professor

October 13th, 2009
12:33 pm

Dream I agree…leave some bones in the closet!!!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
12:35 pm

Now…good people…tell me a good place for a few mid thirties couples to go dancing – preferably somewhere with decent food, plenty of seating and a live band.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
12:39 pm

I’m very emotional. I mist up at roller derby and wrestling matches even. If the ATT commercial comes on with the little girl looking for her dog, I’m liable to bawl for an hour ;-)

Kym

October 13th, 2009
12:41 pm

@Truth it was a great game. I an glad Miami pulled it out in the end. I like their coach. I am not a fan of Rex(My daddy was….) Ryan. So it was good to see him get kicked in the teeth. RickyW and RonnieB Williams were awesome last night!!!

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
12:41 pm

SexyCooll, is Sambucas still open? Then again I cant remember if they have a dance floor.

Dood

October 13th, 2009
12:44 pm

I would not want unpredictable, ability to be spontaneous yet responsible yes. Unless you’re looking for a few nights of fun.

Sounds like this guy set a trap for you. He comes off boring so there is little natural interest. Yet he says that he likes someone unpredictable. It sets up a challenge in your mind. Are you boring? Of course not, nobody likes boring. So you have to earn his attention and thus puts the chase in your mind. Well played by him.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
12:46 pm

Thought about Sambuca’s – can’t remember there being a dance floor from the last time I was there.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
12:52 pm

SexyCool /strong>

The wife and I love Loca Luna for dancing. Of course, it is latin based so there is plenty of salsa.

But then again, the wife and I have enjoyed everything from Bell Bottoms to Johnny’s Hideaway

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
12:52 pm

“Yoou know, an angel on the street but a freak………”

lovelyliz — Have we met? :lol:

Kym

October 13th, 2009
12:57 pm

Ohh yeah..Can someone please tell me when Lenox Square turned into hooker central? Now maybe I picked the wrong day or time or something to go over that way..but err. Saturday was too much. I know the BET awards were in town but still. It was wayyyy over the top Saturday.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:01 pm

Kym

Saturdays are pretty crazy at Lenox. I learned my lesson long ago. I try to only go during the week, now.

However, some of the things that we saw this weekend were way over the top. There were outfits that would have been indecent exposure on South Beach. We met a friend that was in town and staying the the Marriott Marquis downtown.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:02 pm

@ PG

I’ve heard a lot of good things about LocA Luna. Where is it exactly. Re Johnny’s…it and I already have too much of a history ;-)

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:03 pm

Loca Luna is in Amsterdam Walk area near Piedmont Park.

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
1:04 pm

“Just remember, she has to finish her sets before you. LOL”

Very true. And since I’m a seasoned veteran (man-wh*re), and she’s the young up-and-coming franchise baller (all puns fully intended), I make sure she gets as many reps as possible. :lol:

Professor

October 13th, 2009
1:05 pm

Kym Saturday was WAY TOO much at Lenox! Lucky for me I had already done my shopping at Nordstrom (Phipps) and the few things I wanted to look at in Lenox was not major.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:06 pm

@Raqi, no mail.

@ARed, you are funny! You made me feel like the Godmother – I’m extending my hand, you can kiss my ring. J/K….I’m cracking myself up!

Just came back from a meeting where there was a guest speaker giving an oral presentation on memory. I was so impressed. Truth, hello. Have you or anyone here heard about “Freedom Personal Development” that can improve your memory skills 100%?

@PoppaG, I loved, loved Bell Bottoms! They hung on as long as they could!!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:07 pm

PoppaG thank you. I thought I had gotten lost along the way Saturday. Me and my friends went to go shopping, movies, dinner. I thought I was on the set of some kind of Big Butt Booties, Hips and Hoochie Part 35 video shoot. I know some of the luxury rental car places are going to have to do major detail work. No telling what was going on in those cars.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:12 pm

@ Raqi

I had to bail for awhile this morning…re your question: “Would you not be the slightest bit concerned about a woman you are dating that can just up and go when ever at the drop of a hat?”

This is not a “one size fits all” Too much in either ddirection, kind of like politics, is uncomfortable for me. If she is, as stated, always ready, then one could interpret that to mean that her life lakcs focus. On the other hand, if she is like my ex wife, who NEVER steps out of her comfort zone and willnot try anything new, then that is too restricting for me. I like a woman who can surpise me, will at least “consider” flying to NY or somewhere with a couple of days notice sometimes, who will consider meeting me in London at the London Eye on a specific date two/three weeks from now since I am already there…just someone who is not afraid to once in awhile step outside of the lines.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:13 pm

Cuban sandwhiches make you have itis…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

My typing sucks. I do my best editing AFTER I hit send.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

Listening to Tamia’s “Sittin’ on the Job”….um, yeah…what she said.

Wise Diva

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

you guys make good points about Vince! Something to think about before agreeing to a second date hmm

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:15 pm

“I was on the set of some kind of Big Butt Booties, Hips and Hoochie Part 35 video shoot”

Kym – What? ha!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:16 pm

@Randy if that woman is capable of doing that then sure she can consider it. But if she is working a job, in the middle of meetings, has children, then no jumping on board a plane to come see you may not be in the picture. But if she meets you at the airport when you get home, plans a nice return, that could be just as exciting.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:20 pm

@Cee if you could have seen what I didn’t really need to see. I didnt get pass Macy’s. No telling what fresh hell was waiting at the other end of the mall.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:21 pm

Kym…true of course. Just want to know that I will at least be considered…not necessarily do that, just consider. I am a big boy, I can handle “no”. Just want them to “think about it” before telling me that she cannot. I was married to a lady who put me down the list from everything, job, family, children. pets, the weather, headaches, hair, hellz the list was endless.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:22 pm

giving an oral presentation on memory

im gonna leave that alone! :lol:

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
1:22 pm

Leggs, I recently started a course called Mind Tek that was supposed to improve my memory. It was great, however, I forgot to finish it. To many lessons and to little interest. Plus there’s alot of things I want to forget. But no, I havent heard of that particular course. How have you been doing?

Bell Bottoms is closed?????????

So now you can either go to Magic City OR Lennox?

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:26 pm

…………………

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
1:26 pm

“I know some of the luxury rental car places are going to have to do major detail work.”

:lol: @ Kym — Dangit, you just made Diet Coke shoot out my nose…

Yeah, there were probably a few wet spots left on upholstery this weekend… :lol:

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:27 pm

Leggs you didn’t get it? It’s in my sent box. It was no biggie, just a response to the message you sent me.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:28 pm

practicing hard to get ready for the show (going through 2-a-days, so to speak)

is this a 1st for both of u Swiss??

Enjoy buddy :lol:

Angie

October 13th, 2009
1:28 pm

good morning!

@Wise
you do such a fabulous job on this board! kudos and thanks! i’m a changed woman because of it (regarding my relationships that is). giggle. i remember how naive i was. if i only knew what i know now. it might’ve saved my relationship with my ex.

ttyl.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

The course is $649, but company got a discount at $449 (lifetime). By the end of her presentation she knew everyone’s name in the room. She met me last and my name is easy to associate so I wasn’t impressed with that (LOL).

I’m doing well, thank you. I see you’re hanging in there with the heat, the culture, and the fat money your collecting. How much longer will you be over there? Have you made it to DuBai (sp?) yet? If so, are you in love w/the place?

!Yes, Bell Bottoms is closed. I so enjoyed dancing in those cages.

@Melo, thank you buddy for leaving that alone! Guess I worded that wrong!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

Kym, I also have a leg up on most in this…most of the women I date have older children that can be relied upon to be okay away from Mom for a few days once in awhile. That was the biggest hurdle.

Also, one thing I have noticed about dating is that if someone “really” wants to see you, he/she will find a way. If a woman has too many legitimate reasons for not wanting to see me, even in invitations with relatively short notice, it usually truthfully means she is just not “feeling” it.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

@Raqi, am I safe to say you agreed with me?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

Kym lol :lol: oh my! That why you have been my ambassador of quan when it come to this blog!

Hilarious!

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

Bell Bottoms is closed?????????

Truth ESPN zone is closed too..altho their manure,aka,food, really suckked. :lol:

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:33 pm

@Swiss well you know those jokers don’t own those cars. I am sorry but if you are going to drive around in a 60k car how about not wearing clothes that look like they came off the rack at Wally World. There were some women folks I just know were in “the business” and yeah I am not knocking your hustle..but errr how about not having your business all out and uncovered by underwear..there were children in the mall. But i digress.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:33 pm

Leggs check now.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:34 pm

i’m a changed woman because of it (regarding my relationships that is). giggle

so is it WISE alone u need to thank or its all of us Angie??

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Cee what is quan?

@Randy I hear ya. I just deleted someone like that from my phone. If he was serious he would have made contact beyond texting by now. Oh well. I tried.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:39 pm

Kym

what is quan?

Have you not seen Jerry Maguire?

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:40 pm

@Poppa G..No I am sorry but the closest I have come to seeing the movie is the tag lines. “You had me at hello.” and “Show me the money.” I am just not a fan of Tom Cruise..something about his eyes…ugh.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:42 pm

Yeah, WiseDiva. IMO a person that claims to bore easily is someone that is looking for others to entertain him at whatever expense.

Why is it the other person’s duty to keep the entertainment alive? He’s a shmuck.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:43 pm

Kym, you mean you haven’t heard the famous “shoplifting the puddy”?

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

Kym-

Oh. well then you wouldn’t understand the ambassador of quan statment.

The movie is darn good. Tom Cruise is ok but Cuba Gooding earned his Oscar in that one. He acted his tail off.

I’m not a big Tom Cruise fan either. IMO he is just a level above on Keanu Reeves in regards to his acting skills.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

@ Kym – Sounds like my Class Reunion a few months ago. We had waaaay to many brand new cars parked out in the lot. Then my gf stated “don’t forget now, some of them drove ‘em right off the lot of Hertz, Luxury Atlanta, Alamo..ect”…some weren’t.

My female former classmates are still “dressing” the part(hot pants & long weaves), and a few other are still “drop & dip” like they use too…The good part is most of the stuff was expense paid. Alot of them own their “own”…whether that’s be a printing company, music industry, t’shirts company…even had a few reality shows contestants…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

I cry after good sex, if it’s really really good! lol

I did this after our first time… S/O was a little taken back by it, but soon realized its not a bad thing.

3 years and going!!!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:48 pm

@Cee what is quan?

Kym i just just think you are funny as all get out with most of your reponses… yet, eloquent and decent..

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:49 pm

Finally, I got it Raqi!

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
1:51 pm

Leggs, the heat is pretty much over. Its a cool 90-100 nowadays. Dudes go to Dubai for 2 reasons, the hookers and the alcohol. I have a standing rule that I dont pay for booty, at least in a straight cash and carry mode. I havent drank in 7 months so its not a big thing. I may go before I leave here but its no big thing, just more sand. I’ll prolly be here for a few years if things work out. Gotta reach my goals.

Melo, the place is coming apart. Wow

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:51 pm

MsM

so u only cried about once?? why is that….

i had a girlfriend tho, that cried during the act,in my past.She was such a romantic,had been married and divorced.The first time it happened,i was kinda taken aback.
But she was doing it to the wrong person,at the wrong time, in my journey of sexualdom.

For me,then,it was about my own jacking off and how well my calculator was adding up the women.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:52 pm

@MsM, that is too funny. Some men take crying at that time that “she must have been hardup and is now finally getting some she’s crying.” Not! Sometimes it’s that good and all the right spots have been tapped that utter thankfulness leaks from our eyes!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:54 pm

Okay should I be insulted by what Cee said?

@Cee you didn’t insult me on the side did you?

Now I have to go sit thru a Tom Cruise movie to find out why I am the ambassador to quan.

@Raqi is that shoplift puddy statement in there too? Who knew..

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
1:55 pm

Good sex has never made me cry.
Bad sex has p!ssed me off – royally.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
1:56 pm

@Leggs when it’s that good I do my crying when I wake up.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:56 pm

Leggs and MsM, my sister and I once talked about the crying after and/or during sex. It’s usually hormonal or guilty pleasure. Guilt being the key word.

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
1:57 pm

Afternoon All,

On Topic- After reading WD’s entry I guess I’m being naive but seems to me ol dude just put his cards out on the table. He pretty much told her what attracts him and how he likes it, nothing more nothing less. I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks. I’m willing to bet that she goes out on date #2 if for no other reason because he’s peaked her interest and wants to see his follow up.

Other Topic (its me) – I dont see anything wrong with a lil crying. Your dude did the right thing and then followed up afterwards to make sure it was no extras involved. Some Men appreciate Women showing some emotions. We dont want cry-babies but sometimes its refreshing to see Women showing that side. After 4 months you or he shouldn’t over-analyze it and take it in stride.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:59 pm

I just google crying after sex and found this….

“It seems that women who cry after sex share something in common with women who experience post-partum depression. Horomones are powerful chemicals in the body, and when they rise or fall drastically, it can cause emotional highs and lows after sex, during pregnancy, after birth and during menopause. The same thing happens during PMS.”

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:00 pm

Kym

The movie is good.

The movie is really based on Leigh Steinberg, who is a real entertainment attorney.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:00 pm

@ Kym – Please go see the movie…Jerry was Rod’s (Cuba Gooding’s) “ambassador of kwam”…i said “quan” and still have been saying it.

lol…a Riot!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:02 pm

Crying and sex…had my partners do that a time or tow, usually because they knew already they were leaving.

Now for me, I might have dropped a tear or two in my pillow about sex a few times…usually after dropping a couple of c-notes for dinner and then going home alone anyway!!! Just kidding by the way.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:03 pm

Yeah Kym in the movie it was associated with Jerry dating a single mother. It’s when a guy purposely zeros in on a woman’s vulnerabilities just to get the sex. Usually knowing if he gains her trust the puddy comes with it.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:03 pm

WillieD “It’s” dipped on us. She needs to come back and state her “that’s me” stance.

It’s all good.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:05 pm

Naw. I’m pretty sure the Jerry Maguire line was “quan.”

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:05 pm

Kym

Also, if you watch the movie, you will learn that the “human head weighs 8lbs”

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:08 pm

Poppa I love that movie because it was a lesson in love. He taught Jerry how to love his job (clients), love his woman and love his life.

That was some awesome chemistry between Cuba’s and Regina’s characters.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

Was it “quan”? now i’m confuuuzed.

Let’s find out…

PoppaG Which is it?

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

“human head weighs 8lbs”

which one?? :lol:

u gotta be specific Poppa on this dating site.

If we were on humananatomy.com,that wld be obvious.. here on MIA? think again! :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

I’m actually agreeing with Willie D I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks.

Sort of like if you want to keep it moving or growing, let’s see what you got.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Cee well that’s alright then. Thank you. So did you go to the Fair this past weekend or are you heading down there this week? I see a corndog and turkey leg in my future. Had to give up on the steak dream. sigh..

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:11 pm

Wikipedia says “quan”.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:12 pm

So Raqi,its me,czBrat and MsM???(the cry babies)

do uall cry becoz of the hormones or u cry becoz the 8lbs scare the heck outa ya???

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:13 pm

You tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0fizqifumk

for “quan”. Several male naked butts so since I am not interested in jumping the fence, I did not watch all of it, but the ladies might.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:14 pm

(Copied and pasted)

Rod Tidwell: Maybe you don’t. Because it’s not just the money I deserve. It’s not just the “coin.” It’s the… – “the kwan”.

Jerry Maguire: That’s your word?

Rod Tidwell: Yeah, man, it means love, respect, community… and the dollars too. The package. The kwan.

Jerry Maguire: But how did you get “kwan?”

Rod Tidwell: I got there from “coin,” dude. Coin, coin… kwaaaan.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:14 pm

I will see if its on demand and check it out.

@Poppa G, I know a female has all of the eggs she will ever produce in her life time with her at birth. I know our eyes stay the same size from birth and I know the average male has 15 erections per day.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:15 pm

Melo I don’t cry after sex. It only happen once like 15 years ago and it can be associated with a first experience.

MsM

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

Melo… It wasn’t just the sex, but the whole package just came together. We knew before the sex we had something… it was confirmation.

Leggs… You understand, it was the icing on the cake.

P.S. There’s been a time or two in the last three years he’s been moved to tears too (before, during and after) :)

Demi (age 22)

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

For me,then,it was about my own jacking off and how well my calculator was adding up the women.

YEAAAAAAAAAHHHH!!!

3,6,9 standing real fine move it to you sing it to me one mo time
Get low, Get low [6x]
To the window, to the wall, (to dat wall)
To the sweat drip down my balls (MY BALLS)
To all these bishes crawl (crawl)
To all skit skit m/f (m/f!) all skit skit got daym (Got daym)
To all skit skit m/f (m/f!) all skit skit got dam (Got daym)

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

@ Kym – I’m going this weekend.

Hey Ms. Main!

Observation: When you finishing a transaction at the register of stores/restaurants and the cashier says “Would you like to donate $1 to the blah, blah..foundation?”…and they say it all slurred…I usually say a firm – Why yes, thank you!! to help them out ’cause some of them can sound like they are asking you for some bus money to get home…

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:18 pm

(Also copied and pasted from IMDB, so the hell if I know)

Rod Tidwell: Quit using that word. “Quan”, that’s my word!

Rod Tidwell: You’re my ambassador of quawn, man

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
2:21 pm

OMG!

Taking a 3 day vacation starting tomorrow and everybody is act’n all krazy!! lmao!!

What about the movie “The Notebook”. After a year of having the DVD, I finally watched it and thought the movie was beautiful… I didn’t cry, but I was close to it!

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:23 pm

I am a VERY boring person…I will put you to sleep…in 5 seconds!!

SHHHHHH…WATCH THIS!!

Youngbloodz, back on mo’ time
Wanna get yo Billy Dee, ya know I got mine
Gettin the club crunk, damn near drunk
Roll wit 45, 12 Peeves in my trunk
Give ya what ya want shawty, got what ya need
First some Billy Dee, second drank Hennessee
Center of attention, all eyes are on me
Oh, that’s Sean Paul a.k.a. Sean Grease
Oh, nevermind him ’cause he always on that soft
And roll wit a group of felons that’ll rip you off
He slum as hell, seven golds in his mouth
He slizzard as hell, always hollin ’bout the south
And every week at the club he always get kicked out
I really think they hatin, tell me what is this about
But everything good, ’cause we gon’ keep it crunk
And Colt 45 gon’ forever get drunk

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:26 pm

Heeeeeey Party People!

Demi – Im like you this week, ‘cept Im conducting training remotely! BOR-ING!! :smile: Get ya jam on Chocolate Baby

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:27 pm

Melo

They weren’t specific in the movie either.

However, If the other head weighs 8 pounds, I guess that person is gonna spend a lot of money on underwear or just go commando.

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
2:30 pm

I dont cry after sex but I do have a ritual to show I’m quite happy. I go to sleep.

I’ve had a woman cry on me but she did it as she cussed and pushed on my chest screaming “get off”. She must have been real happy, huh? Thats what I thought too.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:31 pm

Melo, it was little 4 year old boy that made the statement about the 8 lbs. head so let that be your guide.

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

From the depths of the sea, back to the block
Snoop Doggy Dogg, funky as the, the, The D.O.C
Went solo on that a$$, but it’s still the same
Long Beach is the spot where I served my cane
Follow me, follow me, follow me, follow me, but don’t lose your grip
Nine-trizzay’s the yizzear for me to f’ up shyt
So I ain’t holdin nuttin back
And m/fer I got five on the twenty sack
It’s like that and as a matter of fact [rat-tat-tat-tat]
Cuz I never hesitate to put a ‘igga on his back
[Yeah, so peep out the manuscript
You see that it’s a must we drop gangsta shyt}
What’s my m/fin name?

Chorus:

Snoop Doggy, Do-owww-ohhhh-oggg (yeah yeah yeah)
Snoop Doggy, Do-owww-ohhhh-oggg (the bomb)
Da-duh-da-da-dah
Do-do-do-do, doo-doo-doo-da-dahhh! (Dog)

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

If someone makes dinner for you and you don’t stay for dessert, it that being rude/impolite?

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:37 pm

Heeeey Cemeeli!!

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:38 pm

Afternoon Folks!

I am not spontaneous at all. I’m a planner and spontaneity only comes when I plan to go to one place for dinner and change my mind, LOL.

I’m also a cryer – told my fiance’ that early on in our relationship so the first time I cried he didn’t freak out. I think it happened a little over a month after we started dating…wait – that’s a lie it was before then. He still doesn’t like to see me cry but I think he handles it better. Like when I cried when they showed the Bengals locker room after that win…

Kym mail call.

SCool Philippia (sp?) and the Teddy White band are performing at Taboo Saturday night. I think they also have DJ sets and you know they have food. Just a suggestion.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:38 pm

Cemeeli I think it would be polite to let them know upon your arrival that you will not be staying for dessert.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
2:39 pm

I dont cry after sex but I do have a ritual to show I’m quite happy. I go to sleep.

ditto. i’ve not yet been moved to tears in the bedroom. although, i do miss one lover in particular enough to cry for him right now :’(

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:41 pm

The Truth Hey Man!!!

Wise Diva

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

wow, thank you Angie :)

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Cemeeli

lol! Why don’t you want dessert?

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Kym – you haven’t seen Jerry Maguire? Good movie – you should check it out.

Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Mo..them folk have shut our training class down…I am back on the floor p!ss!!

I am ’bout to pull some N.W.A or (early 90’s) Ice Cube outta da woodworks

TODAY…IS NOT A Gah’OOD DAY!!!

I am playing Deep Cover now…187 on a…I will leave it at that.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:43 pm

someone makes dinner for you and you don’t stay for dessert, it that being rude/impolite?

who aint staying for desert,u on the guy?? :lol:

if its u,i aint gon say nothing.. :lol:

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:44 pm

okay thx Raqi -

I am a stickler about making sure i show courtesy to people…especially that kind of stuff.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:47 pm

@ Dream_n – I just know this visit is going to be a long (conversing) visit…that’s all. I need my bed after staying out so long.

I can pass on dessert…

Hush Melo!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Hey Truth!

Demi – they need to shut this one down, a waste of time I tell ya!

Im an inclusive cryer, which means when you cry I cry, period. Outside of that I have to be really pissed or sad to cry

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

@MsM ~ I certainly do understand and I see nothing wrong w/crying after sex. I’d rather cry than fart, belch, scratch or fall asleep.

I saw the entire scene reading that script (Maquire).

I cry at the drop of a coin. Wish I didn’t but it’s the only permanent change to my makeup since giving birth. It’s just crazy to tear up over a commercial.

Hey Regulars, when are you guys coming out of lurksville???

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Tazzee

Like when I cried when they showed the Bengals locker room after that win…

That was touching. Coach Zimmer is a good guy. That team loves him and his family. It is sad that he and his kids have to go through such a tough time.

He was here in Atlanta as the Defensive Coordinator during the short but tumultuous Bobby Petrino era.

Billy Joe Bookworm

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Owdy yall Billy Joe here, just call me “Books” fer short. Ima book reading SOB who is the Phantom behind the phone call. I wuz sittin by the tamaters the other day I saw the darn thing runnin by, I hollerd up to Ethel and said Don’t look Ethel, it wuz too late she allready been booked! So I ran in side grabbed my chaw and put that dip in my lip an spit. At wuz darn depressin I tell ya.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:50 pm

I don’t cry easily….unless I’m EXTREMELY touched or EXTREMELY angry (death in the family..things like that a given). Either ends of the spectrum, usually though, not in between.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:52 pm

Am I missing something?

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:52 pm

I’d rather cry than….fall asleep

Leggs really? Do you mean fall asleep out of boredom or just fall asleep? Falling asleep afterwards can be a good thing. In fact those little rumpahs have been what I needed to help me sleep a time or two. You know kinda helps me relax and exhaust some of that bottle energy.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:53 pm

@Tazzee email coming your way.

Why are ya’ll crying and having sex..did I miss something?

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:53 pm

Mo…don’t cry to me…I’ll just give you my .45 and tell you to go and take care of the problem.

In my city ain’t no games, we learn your name
And where you went to school at and where you used to hang
And when I run across ya is where I’m going to drop ya
Breaking your punk a$$ off something proper

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:54 pm

I am notorious for keeping EVERYTHING.

I just deleted nearly 1500 emails that Shthead sent me over the course of our three year relationship.

I feel lighter.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:55 pm

Oh, good sex? I usually grin like a cheshire cat no tears though. Guess I’m emotional like that. I can be emotional though.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

SexyCool 1500 and 3 years. LOL

The only emails I have that are over 6 months are some for work that are mandatory to keep and those in an account that I don’t use that often. Other than that once I read and respond I delete them.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

Why are ya’ll crying and having sex.?

Because their partners didn’t pay attention to the signal for wrong hole.

Alvin

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

Hey Regulars, when are you guys coming out of lurksville???

When it stop being so catty in this place…

And Hey Leggs.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

SCool – DAYUM chica!! 1500 emails!! OMG! lol! Wel I boxed up all of my wedding stuff recently and felt like I had a weight lifted as well. I gotcha

Demi – these folks are a mess

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

@Tazzee yeah the Bungals made me cry too. Something about grown men showing emotion will get to me. I cry about stuff my son does. Like when he does something I ask him to do without me saying it 4 million times. I can get misty.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:58 pm

I am with Mo on the crying…i have to really upset to cry…reeeeeally upset!

But i don’t cry when someone i know is crying over something uncalled for…like the cat stomped his left toe or something silly…i have a gf like that…sigh..

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

SexyCool

I am notorious for keeping EVERYTHING.

Please don’t tell me that I am gonna see you on that reality show for hoarders.

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

SCool – the FIRST thing I do after a break up is delete all the emails, text msgs, etc. I’ve never been in one for three years though (THREE YEARS!!!!)

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

Raqi you there?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

PoppaG – you wrong…2:57. :)

Jamoca

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

Afternoon all…

Cee – Gal, how you? …and please don’t get me started on those Wimpy Kid Diaries. Lawd! ;) Thing 1 & Thing 2 are so into those books. But I’m glad their little bookworms. Treas loves a good mystery too, she’s just a little more artsy.

LOL @ The Notebook and how much PoppaG despises it.

Hey there, Truth…what up?

On Topic

As far as spontaneity goes…or at least the way it’s being referenced, I’ll simply say although I prefer consistency (from a person of interest) in regards to the individual’s behavior, it does not mean I’m not “open” to try new things…of course, I am. But I’m no one’s beck n’ call girl. At least show a woman some good ol’ common courtesy (which is unfortunately a rare commodity these days) by giving me a heads up, is all. And you don’t necessarily have to “inform” me or give me any “leads” of “our” final destination. A few tips letting me know the “proper attire” to don, and I’m down.

And to spice things up, I’ll even let you blindfold me on the way there…(provided we’re out of the “getting to know you” phase of the initial stages).

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:01 pm

My one crying event was the first time I peaked from a lingua experience. It was the first time I felt something that overwhelming and earth shattering. My first relationship was not that experienced. I didn’t boohoo out loud but I just laid there as the tears flowed. It was a spontaneous flow of tears. Happened before I realized it.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:02 pm

Cee

I was actually good. It came from an old joke (one that I learned by in 4th grade). It was non-Political correct so I kept it short and sweet.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:02 pm

Yes Ms.Main. What’s up?

Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

I just deleted nearly 1500 emails that Shthead sent me over the course of our three year relationship.

Why he gotta be a poo poo head? Let’s just call dude…A misguided human being ———-> A.Red…add one of your emoticons here.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

Ladies??

why do most of u luv to look back at ur own tails when u dancing??

Is that like a “look at my junk” kinda of challenge to the guys??

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

Kym – WE are NOT crying and having sex!…we are in need of both obviously…kid…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
3:04 pm

Not connected to sex… I noticed I cry more the older (45+) I get… I think it has a lot to do (for me) with appreciating family, friends and small things more. I’ve come to realize that my life is good. When I hear the song “I won’t complain” I ball like someone died.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:05 pm

The wife knows that I keeps very little.

I know in the legal world I will not be as liberal in the destruction department, though. That could get me disbarred.

However, personal world needs to be clutter free.

The wife knows to put anything that she really wants away. period or it shall land in thy herbie curbie, or be delivered to Best Buy for a tax receipt. (Best Buy takes old electronics for recycling…up to two items per day and gives you a receipt for tax purposes. It keeps electronics out of the landfills.)

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:06 pm

Don’t get me wrong. It’s rare to cry after sex, but I see nothing wrong with doing it. And yes, sex is a good sleeping pill, but it’s not always good to go right to sleep afterwards. Sometimes we want to cuddle. I kid, I kid. I know what you guys are saying.

Hey Alvin!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:07 pm

PG – Not quite a hoarder. LOL!

Although, with today’s email deletion, I do believe that I will finally trash the letters that my ex-husband and I wrote to each other while he was in Korea. I’ve been hanging onto them because we made and kept a pact to write a letter a day for a year.

Now that we’ve been divorced for 12 years and I’m NEVER going to read them again, might as well throw them away.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:08 pm

Demi – that’s just the way that I refer to him – Shthead – folks know who I’m talking about and I don’t think enough of him to give him the respect of calling him by his name.

So, it works for me.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Leggs – I’m pushin 15 minutes before a meeting…gimme a joke to open up this boring program testing meet, please.

Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Like when he does something I ask him to do without me saying it 4 million times.

Naw, Pimpin was thinking about that board you’ll break on his head…we men know when the last straw is coming up…

Dude…I can cheat on THIS chick one more before my luck is up…Imma hold off a bit…and repeat next week.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Sometimes we want to cuddle

Leggs, That’s the best way to fall asleep afterwards, wrapped in his arms. LOL

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

I have a question…..I was going to ask a question, seeking an objective honest nonbiased opinion. Not sure if I want to put it out there though. Think I’ll sit on it. I was just speaking with a girlfriend that’s in another state but knows both sides of the fence in this situation. Think she gave good advice. She tends to be straight forward.

Angie

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

i like things planned. i like to be told about stuff way ahead of time. being spontaneous to me is giving me about 2 to 4 hours to get ready. is that get up and go for you enough?

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

It was only a matter of time…my boss just texted me, not email me from Greece with a freaking assignment! His inbox must be full.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

SCool – LMAO

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:13 pm

why do most of u luv to look back at ur own tails when u dancing??
Is that like a “look at my junk” kinda of challenge to the guys??

Maybe I’m no dancer but I tend to see that going on with chicks dropping it like it’s hot

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:14 pm

My wife’s grandfather is a hoarder. However, he makes catalogues where to find stuff, too.

It both disturbing and impressive at the same time. What we see as clutter and he sees as essential is crazy.

Then again, he is 91 years old and I guess that it keeps him busy. He worked at Madison Square Garden back in the day and there are pictures of some really famous people. Some probably are worth some dough. There was a pictures of my wife as a 5 year sitting on Sammie Davis, Jr.’s lap and Frank Sinatra was standing behind them. That was just one of many. There were pictures of my wife hanging with Gunther (Ringling Bros lion tamer) too. Another with her painted up like a clown from the Ringling Bros.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

raqicasi@gmail.com Anytime you want to hit me up Ms.Main.

Angie

October 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

if he’s going to be on the go and wants me to keep up, i will expect an schedule of events to follow.

i’m jus sayin’…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
3:17 pm

SexyCool… I need to throw the letters away too.. they were missed when I did the burn pile in the backyard.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

Ms. Main

i neva known u to be a softie,just say it

:lol:

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

SexyCool 12 years after divorce and you still have the letters. Wow.

I guess it’s because my first husband died that I can see holding to anything that we exchanged together. However that is not really much other that that money pit up in Michigan, LOL, since I have gotten married again.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

Thanks Raqi…still might do it.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

I might be spontaneous this weekend and take her to Netherworld. She’s bugged me for a few years.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

Melo…..you’re funny. Just like a tootsie pop….hard on the outside, soft in the middle. Ever did something sporadically and then thought about it later and in retrospect, maybe not the best decision? That’s sort of where I am. Yeah, I can be a softie….my secret is out…lol

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:22 pm

@Cee, you still here?????

What do whales spread on their toast?

Ans: Jellyfish!

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:23 pm

Poppa our anniversary is on the 29th and I was thinking about being spontaneous and running off leaving the marido with the baby and having myself a 3 day weekend all alone at a nice resort. LOL

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Ms. Main…it’s a turn on for me…especially if beh is bouncing a a$$ just right.

Bend over and touch ya toes, blow smoke got ya ‘oes like you blowin dro
Slide down the pole, upside down do it fast or slow
Round here we professionals, get flexible, real sexual
Make a ‘igga wanna eat it like a vegetable
When he see that a$$ rise like a buttered roll
Round here we gangstered out, this aint no bitty bar
we let it all hang out

Fellaz, youtube, Ms LaStarya…and say, Awwwwwwww..Dayum, Beh

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Yeah, 12 years. It just feels a little bit wierd to throw them away. I kinda feel like I’m throwing away a part of my life.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:25 pm

I dunno…think I horde stuff too. As it relates to love, for someone I was REEEEALLY digging, I’ll hold on to something like emails about a year. If the gesture, being something tangible really moved me and really spoke something to me, I’m keeping. Typically though, when I find myself moving on, I sort of just make a rash decision to get rid of it all. Tends to help internally move another step away and towards closure.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:26 pm

hoarde that is

DJ…not that kind of spontaneity…at least in this case

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:27 pm

Yeah SexyCool you ain’t no kids to connect you to your past.

There is always something there to remind me-eee.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:27 pm

Raqi

Well early happy anniversary. Congrats.

On the leaving him with Libby, it might be best to do it now. If you tried this with her being 5 or 6 years old, you’d come back to find her with some jacked up hairstyle.

My dad tried to do my sister’s hair once when my mom when to Las Vegas with some of her girlfriends. My dad tried to do my sister’s hair once…..key word: once.

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:31 pm

Demi – 3:24 – Aw Daaaaayuuuummm

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Poppa I am not leaving that man with my baby. He dropped her Saturday. LOL

This is our 4th. I haven’t really planned anything. We will probably just go out or something. Yeah I know predictable. But hey, God willing we got 53 more to go to do some really exciting stuff.

He may have something he wants to do. We haven’t talked about it yet.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Raqi – that’s what I think about – it’s not like I’m saving them for ‘our’ kids.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Ever did something sporadically and then thought about it later and in retrospect, maybe not the best decision?

yeah, i wld say, A blind,1st time phluck!!

no, i wasnt closing my eyes when i did it.

Yu go to the club,meet a girl, u like her,u become an item the whole time and then closing time,u already husband and wife.

:arrow: To the hotel or crib,urs or mine??….

Same difference! :lol:

Is that ur situation Ms Main??

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:34 pm

“God willing we got 53 more to go to do some really exciting stuff.”

That is so sweet!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:35 pm

I also have a box of letters from one of my bff’s that dates back about 15 years. She used to LOVE writing letters and sending cards. Thankfully, email came and she stopped. LOL! Now, I’m sitting on a box of letters that I really don’t know what to do with.

And speaking of email, since I’ve started FaceBooking, my email is almost obsolete.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:36 pm

And why is my comment usually the one that takes us to a new page?

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:37 pm

Raqi ….she is his kid too.

We did something really exciting for 4th anniversary….we went to work. We went away for 1st, 5th, and 10th all to NYC. She loves shopping and shopping in NYC darn near makes her climax on its own. I see the smoke coming from our debit and credit cards.

True story: During the last trip, I actually got a call from American Express because the activity had increased. I told them..”It is just my wife and we’re in NYC.” The man on the other end said “Wow. You are a brave soul.”

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

That’s so sweet!

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

That should have read “You should have had a kid”.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

SexyCool yeah. You should have a kid. LOL

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

LOL I corrected a comment that didn’t even go thru.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

This machine is crazy. My comments are scrabbling.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

Raqi – Maybe I should.

EEEK!!! Did I just type THAT?!?!? *lol*

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

SC – yes you did. thats funny!!!

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

Leggs??

u saying its “so sweet” Poppa’s wife climaxing coz of the shopping trip?? :lol:

women? :)

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

she is his kid too You are right, but better not drop her again. LOL

Yeah that’s what I was kinda thinking. You can’t go all out for each one. I wonder if he even knows which one this is. He is always talking about we’ve been together for 10 or 12 years. LOL

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

Melo you’re reaching man…nothing of the sorts…lol

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

Raqi – marriage is like dog years for men. 4 yrs just seems like 10-12. I kid I kid:)

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:49 pm

Ms. Main ~ he’s always reaching!

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

Raqi

I am just giving him the benefit of the doubt in thinking that he won’t drop her again.

No, we can’t go all out for each one. Howevever, some of my favorites have been ones that we did at home. There have been anniversaries where I gone to Whole Foods and gotten some of their grass fed aged beef and scallops and made our own surf and turf. She has gone to Piece of Cake and gotten a half of dozen of their large cupcakes (so we can get the flavors that we each like). Put on some Luther, Barry White, etc in our disc changer and made our own special evening.

Plus we do impersonations on our anniversary for each other like the Cosby Show. She was Natalie Cole this year “This will be”. I was Carl Thomas..”I wish I never met her….” Just kidding…I actually did Barry White this year “My first, My last, My everything”

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:52 pm

LOL Willie Dynamite.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:52 pm

@WillieD, you know that’s a true sentiment of some men.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

Yeah SexyCool gon’ head and do it. It’s fun. LOL

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

That’s so sweet.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:54 pm

what is it then?? u dont wanna tell everybody else??

just me?? :lol:

okay..bring it then Ms Main,im checking…

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:55 pm

I admit it feels like I been married forever. Not in a bad way mind you but just you know long enough to know that I better stop talking now.

Poppa – how ya liking that parody in the NFL? 5 teams leading divisions that didn’t even make the playoffs last yr.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

Leggs Ms. Main ~ he’s always reaching!

I know right

Melo I don’t think it really merits that much attention. It’s just I think I sort of fell off a bit on this one cause I let someone that I pronounced as “dead” get the better of me…which is what he’s been vying (sp) for for sometime now. Woosah

Kym

October 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

@PoppaG that is so sweet and corny..I LOVE IT!!!

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:57 pm

Melo Really he didn’t get the better, I just think I resurrected him and probably shouldn’t have. I’ll live though…lol

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:58 pm

You know what imma do Poppa? Imma leave this one to him. If he doesn’t bring it up neither will I. I will have something in mind just in case he asked me what I want to do, but other than that Imma see what he does. However I will not get upset if he doesn’t.

And since we are talking about it, let me schedule that day off so I can stay home and do nothing. Even if by myself. Elizabeth and I can go shopping.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
4:01 pm

I think once you get past the 5th one, just an acknowledgement of the day and maybe some flowers or card is appreciation enough for a wife. LOL

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

someone is eating lunch at their desk. entire floor is smelling like stanky feet for the past 20 minutes. trying not to hurl!

question: would you be hesitant to get serious with someone who’s been married more than twice? does this present a pattern to you?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

@ SexyCool – Are you off of cloud 3 yet?

@ Leggs – Thanks…i pulled you up while i was waiting on the testing environment in E1 and Oracle tried to shut down on me…so the joke worked…no erry quiet moments.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

Who mentioned droppng babies? I remember dropping my little one when she was about 2 or 3 months old. I was sooo sleepy and fell asleep rocking her. Next thing I know, there was a bump on the floor. I felt guilty for days after that. Good thing I had carpet at the time to break the fall.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
4:04 pm

Professor

October 13th, 2009
4:05 pm

CzBrat

I would be scared of someone that has been married more than twice, and I don’t care which yard did it (courtyard or graveyard)…something spooky is going on.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:07 pm

question: would you be hesitant to get serious with someone who’s been married more than twice? does this present a pattern to you?

for me? absolutely

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:08 pm

I admit it feels like I been married forever 4 = 10-12 years…no no!!

Dang WillieD…imma teeeeell Mrs. Dynamite you in here blaspheming!!

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:08 pm

You are truly funny, Ms. Cee!

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

He was telling her to stop crying like she understood what he was saying, not to mention she was maybe hurt or startled.

I’m sure it wasn’t funny at the time and I can just picture it now….but that comment was funny. That’s something a man do…as if she understood….

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

Cemeeli – For the weekend that I’ve just had, I could have been on Cloud 9 already. (We were able to be spontaneous – spent the whole day lounging, watching football and stuff.) However, the routine of everyday life gets in the way of all the high cloud stuff. ~lol~

Besides, being just about 7 weeks into it, I’m trying not to move too far too fast emotionally.

But I swear, he got me thinking that I wouldn’t mind cooking for him a couple of times a week. And for someone that has cooked a whole dinner exactly three times since December 8, 2008, that’s kinda big. ~more lol~

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

thank goodness. someone just got the afternoon munchies. i’ve never been so grateful for the smell of popcorn.

LOL @ courtyard or graveyard

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
4:11 pm

I’m actually agreeing with Willie D I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks

I agree too. Now we’re knocking folks for knowing what they want out of a person and stating it up front? Geez. :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:12 pm

Raqi and little libby….simply divine. She’s an angel….awwwww

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:14 pm

SexyCool – I like that “go with the wave of it all”…if it slows down…you slow down..if it coast…coast…yup, that’s the fun of it all.

Oh yeah, wear the blonde wig for him…btw – i love your “Kim” idea…

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Raqi ~ haven’t you heard that all good parents drop their babies? :lol:
Much like all good cooks get burned!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

Ms. Main – Isn’t Mase and Raqi baby sweet?!!? I commented 2 her, that she is adorable!

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

Yep…that’s it…Going with the waves.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

does this present a pattern to you?

yep,kinda of…..

he gets married for a living,proly..
date,marry,divorce,gets alimony etc

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:18 pm

Cemeeli Yes!!! Got me thinking, wouldn’t mind giving it a go again. I was feeling content with my daugther being the beauty she grown to be and coming into her own. Heck, we have to be careful, it’s those little beauties that gets you to thinking hmmmm, what if….

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:18 pm

Leggs – How many times had i burned my momma’s cornbread and dinner rolls before i got it right?!? I’on know…but after i stopped tryna watch t.v. and cook it i stopped burning it!

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:21 pm

Now that Mint Condition is in concert on Halloween, I’m not sure if I’m going to the costume party to which I’ve been invited.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:21 pm

Heck, we have to be careful, it’s those little beauties that gets you to thinking hmmmm, what if….

Got dranit Ms. Main !!! ^^^^ youknow this!

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:22 pm

Not burning the food :lol: burning yourself! :lol:

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:23 pm

Pretty brown eyes…you know…

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:23 pm

And Raqi – Stop that baby talk. Because I rarely meet a man that makes me even think about reconsidering my indifferent stance on birthing a baby.

But I tell ya what…………..

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:23 pm

Melo actually, it’s more of a move to keep the relationship. seems when things get rocky he springs the ring. definitely not a financial move on his part because he ends up paying.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:24 pm

I burnt crescent rolls the other night. I felt so bad cuz lil leggs had a friend over and I made them so they can have with their eggs in the morning. I put them in the oven and never thought about them again until the smell of burnt bread reached me in the living room glued to Extreme Makeover Home Edition!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:24 pm

@ Leggs – 12-13 years old do burn food! I’ve only burned myself 2-3 times then…yea…let the hot pan fall on anything but me!

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:24 pm

Oh, dang…all you peoples, stop with the baby talk…………

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
4:26 pm

SCool – you know Mint Condition is my favorite and I made plans to go out of town that weekend…..so not a happy camper right now. :mad:

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:27 pm

He asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I’m thinking I’m going to tell him Mint Condition tickets.

Demi

October 13th, 2009
4:28 pm

Willie Dynamite…you should see her girl friend, LOL

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:29 pm

I do not leave the kitchen when making bread…just sit and read or something.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:29 pm

Professor, Ms. Main, Melo, thanx for your input. have a wonderful evening!

ciao

Melo

October 13th, 2009
4:30 pm

czBrat:

rather than get with a recycled man,i suggest u get urself a younger man.That may mean learning to do the stanky leg dance and hanging in those young clubs but once yu snag a young dude,they have no wish to be under/over a young tenderoni lady coz of ur(cougar) ways.

Cougars can handle their bizz and young fellas,once they sample,no going back.

Raqi

October 13th, 2009
4:30 pm

Thanks ladies.

Heck, we have to be careful, it’s those little beauties that gets you to thinking hmmmm, what if….

One of my best friends has a 3 and 2 year old that I got see and hold at least once a week, then before I knew it I was pushing one out. Now my other best friend is due to deliver in December. Our oldest friend who is 43 with 2 teens told all of us “yall better take that shyt some where else away from me”.

I blew the last of my baby dust over at Mrs. PoppaGrande.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:31 pm

@ Leggs – gotta 5:15…need another joke…nah for real if they don’t get my training lingo this time…i’m doing it virtual Microsoft Media…this is ridiculous.

Raqi

October 13th, 2009
4:32 pm

But I tell ya what…………I think I have met him.

I finished your sentence for you SexyCool.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
4:33 pm

Cemeeli – LMAO @ your 4:29 but I do the same thing!

SCool – go for it chica, should be a great concert

Anyone going to see Erykah Badu on the 25th?

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:33 pm

Get
out
of
my
head,
Raqi.

Professor

October 13th, 2009
4:34 pm

@ Mo check online you maybe able to check out Mint Condition in another city if they are on tour…I love doing that…like a weekend getaway and do some shopping and watch the show in another city.

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:34 pm

Mo – are you coming out for GNO – Martinis and a Movie on Friday?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:35 pm

Mo – Erykah will be at Civic Center of aaaaaall places…ugh!

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:37 pm

Perhaps I’ll start doing that, Cee because baking rolls takes no time at all. I can’t remember the last time I burnt something before burning those rolls. I looked at them like they were a foreign object wondering how I let that happen.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
4:39 pm

so,is head more emotional for a women than vagee sexx…??

is it : head 1st
then vagee sexx

or its reverse for u ladies??

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
4:41 pm

My Myers Briggs tells me that I’m ESTJ. Folks in that type are “pilers” I like to keep mail and stuff. That’s what I hoard til the piles get to big and then I file them or throw em out.

My sentamental side keeps just about every sweet letter I’ve gotten. I still have them all from my HS sweetheart.

Yahoo Mail says I never have to delete another email…so I don’t. :lol:

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

PG – I was flying back into Atlanta yesterday and was all settled in my exit row seat. The flight attendant asked if any of us would be willing to switch with a man upfront. He was 7 feet tall. I remembered a past convo we had about that.

Everyone declined tho. Poor guy.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

4:39 is where Zuluan has gotten on SCool’s nerve.

:lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

I blew the last of my baby dust over at Mrs. PoppaGrande.

I think you should have blown over all the blog ladies…lol Heck, I’m feeling ready after see Little Libby

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

ARed – that sounds a lot like me.

I had dumped Shthead’s emails in a folder and had just gotten sick of seeing the folder everytime I opened my email. Hence, the deletion.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

I’m singing at the top of my lungs in this big ole empty space thinking I might be discovered by someone walking down the halls wondering where that melodic voice is coming from. Isn’t that how a lot of folk are discovered? NOT!!!!

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
4:43 pm

@SexyCool…I am in the mood to climb trees…

Half on a baby
All I need is your body next to me
Singing ooh, na, na, na, na, na, na, na
Give me your body, your body, na, na, na, na

Half on a baby
All I need is your body next to me
I’m singing ooh, na, na, na, na, na, na
Give me your body, your body, na, na, na, na

Now tell me what the deal is
Are you ready to bump
It’s gonna take a lifetime
To give you all of this love
So baby, open up
And get ready to receive
A miracle of love
Gettin’ down wit me

Like a baseball field
Wanna hit a home run
Me and you get together babe
And raise a little one

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
4:44 pm

SexyCool is now beating DJ Demi to the white meat…with his DJ Booth

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:46 pm

Thanks to Ms. Main…now mytwo has someone else to pick on.

You like babyshowers Main?

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:46 pm

Cemeeli – I was like….when did we start talking about that?

Even though, we know I don’t mind talking about head/sex whatever. LOL…

Melo – My answer to that question is that it depends on the person/situation/mood, so on.

Professor

October 13th, 2009
4:46 pm

…stepping out.

Have a good evening gang!

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
4:48 pm

I had dumped Shthead’s emails in a folder and had just gotten sick of seeing the folder everytime I opened my email. Hence, the deletion.

SexyCool – :lol: @ you calling him Shthead.

Yeah, some of my exes and I emailed so much that I just gave him a folder so everytime a message came in it would automatically go there. It was nice to see X number of messages in the “sweetie” folder.

The relationships didn’t end badly so I keep em. Sometimes I can go read back on how silly in love I was which lead to silly in love decisions. :lol:

Don’t blame you for deleting yours tho. Shtheads must be eliminated! :)

Melo

October 13th, 2009
4:49 pm

Leggs/Proff

good nite u 2..

when u get home,go head and head st8 to the bathroom,since u been holding it all day..

take it aaaaaaaall off and toast to me afterwards.

Then dump!

:lol:
good nite uall

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:50 pm

Cemeeli yep, when they’re hosted like a cookout…lol The last one I went to was laced with frat brothers, a deep fryer, music and drinks. I was preggos too at that one and didn’t even know it.

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
4:50 pm

SCool – we got 5th row center tix for the Eric Benet, Mint Condition, Ledisi concert. I can’t wait!!!

BFF and I are double dating that one and then the next morning BFF and I (sans the men) are hopping on a plane to NO for the game.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:50 pm

Cemeeli I kid I kid…I’ve since grown. I like princess type baby showers now.

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:53 pm

Taz – that is going to be a night for LOVE!!!

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:54 pm

Good night ALL!

Q: How did the exterminator get fired?

A: he bugged his boss… (dedicated to Ms. Cee)

Don’t hog the road, let someone get in front of you. Be nice!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:55 pm

The last one I went to was laced with frat brothers, a deep fryer, music and drinks.

Ms. Main

Uh…and where was my invite!? That’s my kind of shindig! The debutante friend of mine have started incorporate more simple pleasures to their Waterford W. ParTies lately…i like i like…you can be classy with your “grown and sexy”…

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
4:56 pm

On the phone with the resort making plans for my weddingmoon.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:58 pm

Go Tazzee!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
5:00 pm

Professor – tried other cities for the concert, no go for me!! :sad:

SCool – I plan on it chica!! Getting a sitter now! :wink:

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
5:07 pm

SCool – And you know it!!! My guy isn’t into concerts but I told him he would be into this one. If you guys go – we should all meet for dinner before. Harlem Bar has a pre concert special, $5 appetizers and $5 drink specials.

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
5:08 pm

I’m so excited for you, Tazzie Mae.

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
5:09 pm

Taz – You are reading my mind. Way cool. It’s a plan.

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