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Unpredictable

I had a date Sunday night with an interesting fellow, I’ll call him Vince.  We met through some mutual friends a few weeks ago.  The evening went pretty well for a first date. I noticed that Vince seemed to have this running theme during our conversation: spontaneity. As in, the more spontaneous a woman is the more attractive she becomes to him.

Interestingly enough, I didn’t get the spontaneous vibe from him at all when we first met. He seemed as if he was a quiet, conservative type. So here is the guy with the Conservative Uniform on, telling me that he likes a woman who can be unpredictable. He “gets bored” easily so if the woman he is dating isn’t able to be spontaneous, they probably wouldn’t get along very well.

Ladies, apparently men don’t want to be stuck with a snorefest, no matter how hot she is. Do you think that you are unpredictable and spontaneous..um, in a completely sane way?

Guys, do you really dig unpredictable women that much? Are you looking for women who can pick up and go on a whim? Do you think that women who play it too safe are too uptight?

How unpredictable are you? Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

399 comments Add your comment

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:34 pm

“God willing we got 53 more to go to do some really exciting stuff.”

That is so sweet!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:35 pm

I also have a box of letters from one of my bff’s that dates back about 15 years. She used to LOVE writing letters and sending cards. Thankfully, email came and she stopped. LOL! Now, I’m sitting on a box of letters that I really don’t know what to do with.

And speaking of email, since I’ve started FaceBooking, my email is almost obsolete.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:36 pm

And why is my comment usually the one that takes us to a new page?

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:37 pm

Raqi ….she is his kid too.

We did something really exciting for 4th anniversary….we went to work. We went away for 1st, 5th, and 10th all to NYC. She loves shopping and shopping in NYC darn near makes her climax on its own. I see the smoke coming from our debit and credit cards.

True story: During the last trip, I actually got a call from American Express because the activity had increased. I told them..”It is just my wife and we’re in NYC.” The man on the other end said “Wow. You are a brave soul.”

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

That’s so sweet!

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

That should have read “You should have had a kid”.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:39 pm

SexyCool yeah. You should have a kid. LOL

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

LOL I corrected a comment that didn’t even go thru.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

This machine is crazy. My comments are scrabbling.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:40 pm

Raqi – Maybe I should.

EEEK!!! Did I just type THAT?!?!? *lol*

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

SC – yes you did. thats funny!!!

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:42 pm

Leggs??

u saying its “so sweet” Poppa’s wife climaxing coz of the shopping trip?? :lol:

women? :)

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

she is his kid too You are right, but better not drop her again. LOL

Yeah that’s what I was kinda thinking. You can’t go all out for each one. I wonder if he even knows which one this is. He is always talking about we’ve been together for 10 or 12 years. LOL

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:46 pm

Melo you’re reaching man…nothing of the sorts…lol

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:48 pm

Raqi – marriage is like dog years for men. 4 yrs just seems like 10-12. I kid I kid:)

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:49 pm

Ms. Main ~ he’s always reaching!

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:51 pm

Raqi

I am just giving him the benefit of the doubt in thinking that he won’t drop her again.

No, we can’t go all out for each one. Howevever, some of my favorites have been ones that we did at home. There have been anniversaries where I gone to Whole Foods and gotten some of their grass fed aged beef and scallops and made our own surf and turf. She has gone to Piece of Cake and gotten a half of dozen of their large cupcakes (so we can get the flavors that we each like). Put on some Luther, Barry White, etc in our disc changer and made our own special evening.

Plus we do impersonations on our anniversary for each other like the Cosby Show. She was Natalie Cole this year “This will be”. I was Carl Thomas..”I wish I never met her….” Just kidding…I actually did Barry White this year “My first, My last, My everything”

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:52 pm

LOL Willie Dynamite.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:52 pm

@WillieD, you know that’s a true sentiment of some men.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

Yeah SexyCool gon’ head and do it. It’s fun. LOL

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:53 pm

That’s so sweet.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:54 pm

what is it then?? u dont wanna tell everybody else??

just me?? :lol:

okay..bring it then Ms Main,im checking…

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:55 pm

I admit it feels like I been married forever. Not in a bad way mind you but just you know long enough to know that I better stop talking now.

Poppa – how ya liking that parody in the NFL? 5 teams leading divisions that didn’t even make the playoffs last yr.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

Leggs Ms. Main ~ he’s always reaching!

I know right

Melo I don’t think it really merits that much attention. It’s just I think I sort of fell off a bit on this one cause I let someone that I pronounced as “dead” get the better of me…which is what he’s been vying (sp) for for sometime now. Woosah

Kym

October 13th, 2009
3:56 pm

@PoppaG that is so sweet and corny..I LOVE IT!!!

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:57 pm

Melo Really he didn’t get the better, I just think I resurrected him and probably shouldn’t have. I’ll live though…lol

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:58 pm

You know what imma do Poppa? Imma leave this one to him. If he doesn’t bring it up neither will I. I will have something in mind just in case he asked me what I want to do, but other than that Imma see what he does. However I will not get upset if he doesn’t.

And since we are talking about it, let me schedule that day off so I can stay home and do nothing. Even if by myself. Elizabeth and I can go shopping.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
4:01 pm

I think once you get past the 5th one, just an acknowledgement of the day and maybe some flowers or card is appreciation enough for a wife. LOL

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

someone is eating lunch at their desk. entire floor is smelling like stanky feet for the past 20 minutes. trying not to hurl!

question: would you be hesitant to get serious with someone who’s been married more than twice? does this present a pattern to you?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

@ SexyCool – Are you off of cloud 3 yet?

@ Leggs – Thanks…i pulled you up while i was waiting on the testing environment in E1 and Oracle tried to shut down on me…so the joke worked…no erry quiet moments.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:03 pm

Who mentioned droppng babies? I remember dropping my little one when she was about 2 or 3 months old. I was sooo sleepy and fell asleep rocking her. Next thing I know, there was a bump on the floor. I felt guilty for days after that. Good thing I had carpet at the time to break the fall.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
4:04 pm

Professor

October 13th, 2009
4:05 pm

CzBrat

I would be scared of someone that has been married more than twice, and I don’t care which yard did it (courtyard or graveyard)…something spooky is going on.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:07 pm

question: would you be hesitant to get serious with someone who’s been married more than twice? does this present a pattern to you?

for me? absolutely

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:08 pm

I admit it feels like I been married forever 4 = 10-12 years…no no!!

Dang WillieD…imma teeeeell Mrs. Dynamite you in here blaspheming!!

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:08 pm

You are truly funny, Ms. Cee!

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

He was telling her to stop crying like she understood what he was saying, not to mention she was maybe hurt or startled.

I’m sure it wasn’t funny at the time and I can just picture it now….but that comment was funny. That’s something a man do…as if she understood….

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

Cemeeli – For the weekend that I’ve just had, I could have been on Cloud 9 already. (We were able to be spontaneous – spent the whole day lounging, watching football and stuff.) However, the routine of everyday life gets in the way of all the high cloud stuff. ~lol~

Besides, being just about 7 weeks into it, I’m trying not to move too far too fast emotionally.

But I swear, he got me thinking that I wouldn’t mind cooking for him a couple of times a week. And for someone that has cooked a whole dinner exactly three times since December 8, 2008, that’s kinda big. ~more lol~

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
4:09 pm

thank goodness. someone just got the afternoon munchies. i’ve never been so grateful for the smell of popcorn.

LOL @ courtyard or graveyard

AmazonRed™ is sexy legs...

October 13th, 2009
4:11 pm

I’m actually agreeing with Willie D I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks

I agree too. Now we’re knocking folks for knowing what they want out of a person and stating it up front? Geez. :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:12 pm

Raqi and little libby….simply divine. She’s an angel….awwwww

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:14 pm

SexyCool – I like that “go with the wave of it all”…if it slows down…you slow down..if it coast…coast…yup, that’s the fun of it all.

Oh yeah, wear the blonde wig for him…btw – i love your “Kim” idea…

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Raqi ~ haven’t you heard that all good parents drop their babies? :lol:
Much like all good cooks get burned!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

Ms. Main – Isn’t Mase and Raqi baby sweet?!!? I commented 2 her, that she is adorable!

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

Yep…that’s it…Going with the waves.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
4:16 pm

does this present a pattern to you?

yep,kinda of…..

he gets married for a living,proly..
date,marry,divorce,gets alimony etc

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
4:18 pm

Cemeeli Yes!!! Got me thinking, wouldn’t mind giving it a go again. I was feeling content with my daugther being the beauty she grown to be and coming into her own. Heck, we have to be careful, it’s those little beauties that gets you to thinking hmmmm, what if….

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:18 pm

Leggs – How many times had i burned my momma’s cornbread and dinner rolls before i got it right?!? I’on know…but after i stopped tryna watch t.v. and cook it i stopped burning it!

SexyCool...Update - Maintaining at 3....

October 13th, 2009
4:21 pm

Now that Mint Condition is in concert on Halloween, I’m not sure if I’m going to the costume party to which I’ve been invited.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
4:21 pm

Heck, we have to be careful, it’s those little beauties that gets you to thinking hmmmm, what if….

Got dranit Ms. Main !!! ^^^^ youknow this!