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Unpredictable

I had a date Sunday night with an interesting fellow, I’ll call him Vince.  We met through some mutual friends a few weeks ago.  The evening went pretty well for a first date. I noticed that Vince seemed to have this running theme during our conversation: spontaneity. As in, the more spontaneous a woman is the more attractive she becomes to him.

Interestingly enough, I didn’t get the spontaneous vibe from him at all when we first met. He seemed as if he was a quiet, conservative type. So here is the guy with the Conservative Uniform on, telling me that he likes a woman who can be unpredictable. He “gets bored” easily so if the woman he is dating isn’t able to be spontaneous, they probably wouldn’t get along very well.

Ladies, apparently men don’t want to be stuck with a snorefest, no matter how hot she is. Do you think that you are unpredictable and spontaneous..um, in a completely sane way?

Guys, do you really dig unpredictable women that much? Are you looking for women who can pick up and go on a whim? Do you think that women who play it too safe are too uptight?

How unpredictable are you? Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

399 comments Add your comment

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

Why are ya’ll crying and having sex.?

Because their partners didn’t pay attention to the signal for wrong hole.

Alvin

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

Hey Regulars, when are you guys coming out of lurksville???

When it stop being so catty in this place…

And Hey Leggs.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

SCool – DAYUM chica!! 1500 emails!! OMG! lol! Wel I boxed up all of my wedding stuff recently and felt like I had a weight lifted as well. I gotcha

Demi – these folks are a mess

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

@Tazzee yeah the Bungals made me cry too. Something about grown men showing emotion will get to me. I cry about stuff my son does. Like when he does something I ask him to do without me saying it 4 million times. I can get misty.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:58 pm

I am with Mo on the crying…i have to really upset to cry…reeeeeally upset!

But i don’t cry when someone i know is crying over something uncalled for…like the cat stomped his left toe or something silly…i have a gf like that…sigh..

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

SexyCool

I am notorious for keeping EVERYTHING.

Please don’t tell me that I am gonna see you on that reality show for hoarders.

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:59 pm

SCool – the FIRST thing I do after a break up is delete all the emails, text msgs, etc. I’ve never been in one for three years though (THREE YEARS!!!!)

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

Raqi you there?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

PoppaG – you wrong…2:57. :)

Jamoca

October 13th, 2009
3:00 pm

Afternoon all…

Cee – Gal, how you? …and please don’t get me started on those Wimpy Kid Diaries. Lawd! ;) Thing 1 & Thing 2 are so into those books. But I’m glad their little bookworms. Treas loves a good mystery too, she’s just a little more artsy.

LOL @ The Notebook and how much PoppaG despises it.

Hey there, Truth…what up?

On Topic

As far as spontaneity goes…or at least the way it’s being referenced, I’ll simply say although I prefer consistency (from a person of interest) in regards to the individual’s behavior, it does not mean I’m not “open” to try new things…of course, I am. But I’m no one’s beck n’ call girl. At least show a woman some good ol’ common courtesy (which is unfortunately a rare commodity these days) by giving me a heads up, is all. And you don’t necessarily have to “inform” me or give me any “leads” of “our” final destination. A few tips letting me know the “proper attire” to don, and I’m down.

And to spice things up, I’ll even let you blindfold me on the way there…(provided we’re out of the “getting to know you” phase of the initial stages).

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:01 pm

My one crying event was the first time I peaked from a lingua experience. It was the first time I felt something that overwhelming and earth shattering. My first relationship was not that experienced. I didn’t boohoo out loud but I just laid there as the tears flowed. It was a spontaneous flow of tears. Happened before I realized it.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:02 pm

Cee

I was actually good. It came from an old joke (one that I learned by in 4th grade). It was non-Political correct so I kept it short and sweet.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:02 pm

Yes Ms.Main. What’s up?

Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

I just deleted nearly 1500 emails that Shthead sent me over the course of our three year relationship.

Why he gotta be a poo poo head? Let’s just call dude…A misguided human being ———-> A.Red…add one of your emoticons here.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

Ladies??

why do most of u luv to look back at ur own tails when u dancing??

Is that like a “look at my junk” kinda of challenge to the guys??

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:03 pm

Kym – WE are NOT crying and having sex!…we are in need of both obviously…kid…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
3:04 pm

Not connected to sex… I noticed I cry more the older (45+) I get… I think it has a lot to do (for me) with appreciating family, friends and small things more. I’ve come to realize that my life is good. When I hear the song “I won’t complain” I ball like someone died.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:05 pm

The wife knows that I keeps very little.

I know in the legal world I will not be as liberal in the destruction department, though. That could get me disbarred.

However, personal world needs to be clutter free.

The wife knows to put anything that she really wants away. period or it shall land in thy herbie curbie, or be delivered to Best Buy for a tax receipt. (Best Buy takes old electronics for recycling…up to two items per day and gives you a receipt for tax purposes. It keeps electronics out of the landfills.)

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:06 pm

Don’t get me wrong. It’s rare to cry after sex, but I see nothing wrong with doing it. And yes, sex is a good sleeping pill, but it’s not always good to go right to sleep afterwards. Sometimes we want to cuddle. I kid, I kid. I know what you guys are saying.

Hey Alvin!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:07 pm

PG – Not quite a hoarder. LOL!

Although, with today’s email deletion, I do believe that I will finally trash the letters that my ex-husband and I wrote to each other while he was in Korea. I’ve been hanging onto them because we made and kept a pact to write a letter a day for a year.

Now that we’ve been divorced for 12 years and I’m NEVER going to read them again, might as well throw them away.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:08 pm

Demi – that’s just the way that I refer to him – Shthead – folks know who I’m talking about and I don’t think enough of him to give him the respect of calling him by his name.

So, it works for me.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Leggs – I’m pushin 15 minutes before a meeting…gimme a joke to open up this boring program testing meet, please.

Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Like when he does something I ask him to do without me saying it 4 million times.

Naw, Pimpin was thinking about that board you’ll break on his head…we men know when the last straw is coming up…

Dude…I can cheat on THIS chick one more before my luck is up…Imma hold off a bit…and repeat next week.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:09 pm

Sometimes we want to cuddle

Leggs, That’s the best way to fall asleep afterwards, wrapped in his arms. LOL

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

I have a question…..I was going to ask a question, seeking an objective honest nonbiased opinion. Not sure if I want to put it out there though. Think I’ll sit on it. I was just speaking with a girlfriend that’s in another state but knows both sides of the fence in this situation. Think she gave good advice. She tends to be straight forward.

Angie

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

i like things planned. i like to be told about stuff way ahead of time. being spontaneous to me is giving me about 2 to 4 hours to get ready. is that get up and go for you enough?

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

It was only a matter of time…my boss just texted me, not email me from Greece with a freaking assignment! His inbox must be full.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
3:12 pm

SCool – LMAO

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:13 pm

why do most of u luv to look back at ur own tails when u dancing??
Is that like a “look at my junk” kinda of challenge to the guys??

Maybe I’m no dancer but I tend to see that going on with chicks dropping it like it’s hot

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:14 pm

My wife’s grandfather is a hoarder. However, he makes catalogues where to find stuff, too.

It both disturbing and impressive at the same time. What we see as clutter and he sees as essential is crazy.

Then again, he is 91 years old and I guess that it keeps him busy. He worked at Madison Square Garden back in the day and there are pictures of some really famous people. Some probably are worth some dough. There was a pictures of my wife as a 5 year sitting on Sammie Davis, Jr.’s lap and Frank Sinatra was standing behind them. That was just one of many. There were pictures of my wife hanging with Gunther (Ringling Bros lion tamer) too. Another with her painted up like a clown from the Ringling Bros.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

raqicasi@gmail.com Anytime you want to hit me up Ms.Main.

Angie

October 13th, 2009
3:15 pm

if he’s going to be on the go and wants me to keep up, i will expect an schedule of events to follow.

i’m jus sayin’…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
3:17 pm

SexyCool… I need to throw the letters away too.. they were missed when I did the burn pile in the backyard.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

Ms. Main

i neva known u to be a softie,just say it

:lol:

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

SexyCool 12 years after divorce and you still have the letters. Wow.

I guess it’s because my first husband died that I can see holding to anything that we exchanged together. However that is not really much other that that money pit up in Michigan, LOL, since I have gotten married again.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:19 pm

Thanks Raqi…still might do it.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

I might be spontaneous this weekend and take her to Netherworld. She’s bugged me for a few years.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:21 pm

Melo…..you’re funny. Just like a tootsie pop….hard on the outside, soft in the middle. Ever did something sporadically and then thought about it later and in retrospect, maybe not the best decision? That’s sort of where I am. Yeah, I can be a softie….my secret is out…lol

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
3:22 pm

@Cee, you still here?????

What do whales spread on their toast?

Ans: Jellyfish!

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:23 pm

Poppa our anniversary is on the 29th and I was thinking about being spontaneous and running off leaving the marido with the baby and having myself a 3 day weekend all alone at a nice resort. LOL

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Ms. Main…it’s a turn on for me…especially if beh is bouncing a a$$ just right.

Bend over and touch ya toes, blow smoke got ya ‘oes like you blowin dro
Slide down the pole, upside down do it fast or slow
Round here we professionals, get flexible, real sexual
Make a ‘igga wanna eat it like a vegetable
When he see that a$$ rise like a buttered roll
Round here we gangstered out, this aint no bitty bar
we let it all hang out

Fellaz, youtube, Ms LaStarya…and say, Awwwwwwww..Dayum, Beh

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:24 pm

Yeah, 12 years. It just feels a little bit wierd to throw them away. I kinda feel like I’m throwing away a part of my life.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:25 pm

I dunno…think I horde stuff too. As it relates to love, for someone I was REEEEALLY digging, I’ll hold on to something like emails about a year. If the gesture, being something tangible really moved me and really spoke something to me, I’m keeping. Typically though, when I find myself moving on, I sort of just make a rash decision to get rid of it all. Tends to help internally move another step away and towards closure.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
3:26 pm

hoarde that is

DJ…not that kind of spontaneity…at least in this case

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:27 pm

Yeah SexyCool you ain’t no kids to connect you to your past.

There is always something there to remind me-eee.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
3:27 pm

Raqi

Well early happy anniversary. Congrats.

On the leaving him with Libby, it might be best to do it now. If you tried this with her being 5 or 6 years old, you’d come back to find her with some jacked up hairstyle.

My dad tried to do my sister’s hair once when my mom when to Las Vegas with some of her girlfriends. My dad tried to do my sister’s hair once…..key word: once.

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
3:31 pm

Demi – 3:24 – Aw Daaaaayuuuummm

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Poppa I am not leaving that man with my baby. He dropped her Saturday. LOL

This is our 4th. I haven’t really planned anything. We will probably just go out or something. Yeah I know predictable. But hey, God willing we got 53 more to go to do some really exciting stuff.

He may have something he wants to do. We haven’t talked about it yet.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Raqi – that’s what I think about – it’s not like I’m saving them for ‘our’ kids.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
3:32 pm

Ever did something sporadically and then thought about it later and in retrospect, maybe not the best decision?

yeah, i wld say, A blind,1st time phluck!!

no, i wasnt closing my eyes when i did it.

Yu go to the club,meet a girl, u like her,u become an item the whole time and then closing time,u already husband and wife.

:arrow: To the hotel or crib,urs or mine??….

Same difference! :lol:

Is that ur situation Ms Main??