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Unpredictable

I had a date Sunday night with an interesting fellow, I’ll call him Vince.  We met through some mutual friends a few weeks ago.  The evening went pretty well for a first date. I noticed that Vince seemed to have this running theme during our conversation: spontaneity. As in, the more spontaneous a woman is the more attractive she becomes to him.

Interestingly enough, I didn’t get the spontaneous vibe from him at all when we first met. He seemed as if he was a quiet, conservative type. So here is the guy with the Conservative Uniform on, telling me that he likes a woman who can be unpredictable. He “gets bored” easily so if the woman he is dating isn’t able to be spontaneous, they probably wouldn’t get along very well.

Ladies, apparently men don’t want to be stuck with a snorefest, no matter how hot she is. Do you think that you are unpredictable and spontaneous..um, in a completely sane way?

Guys, do you really dig unpredictable women that much? Are you looking for women who can pick up and go on a whim? Do you think that women who play it too safe are too uptight?

How unpredictable are you? Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

399 comments Add your comment

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:05 pm

Naw. I’m pretty sure the Jerry Maguire line was “quan.”

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:05 pm

Kym

Also, if you watch the movie, you will learn that the “human head weighs 8lbs”

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:08 pm

Poppa I love that movie because it was a lesson in love. He taught Jerry how to love his job (clients), love his woman and love his life.

That was some awesome chemistry between Cuba’s and Regina’s characters.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

Was it “quan”? now i’m confuuuzed.

Let’s find out…

PoppaG Which is it?

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

“human head weighs 8lbs”

which one?? :lol:

u gotta be specific Poppa on this dating site.

If we were on humananatomy.com,that wld be obvious.. here on MIA? think again! :lol:

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:09 pm

I’m actually agreeing with Willie D I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks.

Sort of like if you want to keep it moving or growing, let’s see what you got.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Cee well that’s alright then. Thank you. So did you go to the Fair this past weekend or are you heading down there this week? I see a corndog and turkey leg in my future. Had to give up on the steak dream. sigh..

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:11 pm

Wikipedia says “quan”.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:12 pm

So Raqi,its me,czBrat and MsM???(the cry babies)

do uall cry becoz of the hormones or u cry becoz the 8lbs scare the heck outa ya???

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:13 pm

You tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0fizqifumk

for “quan”. Several male naked butts so since I am not interested in jumping the fence, I did not watch all of it, but the ladies might.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:14 pm

(Copied and pasted)

Rod Tidwell: Maybe you don’t. Because it’s not just the money I deserve. It’s not just the “coin.” It’s the… – “the kwan”.

Jerry Maguire: That’s your word?

Rod Tidwell: Yeah, man, it means love, respect, community… and the dollars too. The package. The kwan.

Jerry Maguire: But how did you get “kwan?”

Rod Tidwell: I got there from “coin,” dude. Coin, coin… kwaaaan.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:14 pm

I will see if its on demand and check it out.

@Poppa G, I know a female has all of the eggs she will ever produce in her life time with her at birth. I know our eyes stay the same size from birth and I know the average male has 15 erections per day.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:15 pm

Melo I don’t cry after sex. It only happen once like 15 years ago and it can be associated with a first experience.

MsM

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

Melo… It wasn’t just the sex, but the whole package just came together. We knew before the sex we had something… it was confirmation.

Leggs… You understand, it was the icing on the cake.

P.S. There’s been a time or two in the last three years he’s been moved to tears too (before, during and after) :)

Demi (age 22)

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

For me,then,it was about my own jacking off and how well my calculator was adding up the women.

YEAAAAAAAAAHHHH!!!

3,6,9 standing real fine move it to you sing it to me one mo time
Get low, Get low [6x]
To the window, to the wall, (to dat wall)
To the sweat drip down my balls (MY BALLS)
To all these bishes crawl (crawl)
To all skit skit m/f (m/f!) all skit skit got daym (Got daym)
To all skit skit m/f (m/f!) all skit skit got dam (Got daym)

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:16 pm

@ Kym – I’m going this weekend.

Hey Ms. Main!

Observation: When you finishing a transaction at the register of stores/restaurants and the cashier says “Would you like to donate $1 to the blah, blah..foundation?”…and they say it all slurred…I usually say a firm – Why yes, thank you!! to help them out ’cause some of them can sound like they are asking you for some bus money to get home…

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:18 pm

(Also copied and pasted from IMDB, so the hell if I know)

Rod Tidwell: Quit using that word. “Quan”, that’s my word!

Rod Tidwell: You’re my ambassador of quawn, man

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
2:21 pm

OMG!

Taking a 3 day vacation starting tomorrow and everybody is act’n all krazy!! lmao!!

What about the movie “The Notebook”. After a year of having the DVD, I finally watched it and thought the movie was beautiful… I didn’t cry, but I was close to it!

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:23 pm

I am a VERY boring person…I will put you to sleep…in 5 seconds!!

SHHHHHH…WATCH THIS!!

Youngbloodz, back on mo’ time
Wanna get yo Billy Dee, ya know I got mine
Gettin the club crunk, damn near drunk
Roll wit 45, 12 Peeves in my trunk
Give ya what ya want shawty, got what ya need
First some Billy Dee, second drank Hennessee
Center of attention, all eyes are on me
Oh, that’s Sean Paul a.k.a. Sean Grease
Oh, nevermind him ’cause he always on that soft
And roll wit a group of felons that’ll rip you off
He slum as hell, seven golds in his mouth
He slizzard as hell, always hollin ’bout the south
And every week at the club he always get kicked out
I really think they hatin, tell me what is this about
But everything good, ’cause we gon’ keep it crunk
And Colt 45 gon’ forever get drunk

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:26 pm

Heeeeeey Party People!

Demi – Im like you this week, ‘cept Im conducting training remotely! BOR-ING!! :smile: Get ya jam on Chocolate Baby

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:27 pm

Melo

They weren’t specific in the movie either.

However, If the other head weighs 8 pounds, I guess that person is gonna spend a lot of money on underwear or just go commando.

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
2:30 pm

I dont cry after sex but I do have a ritual to show I’m quite happy. I go to sleep.

I’ve had a woman cry on me but she did it as she cussed and pushed on my chest screaming “get off”. She must have been real happy, huh? Thats what I thought too.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:31 pm

Melo, it was little 4 year old boy that made the statement about the 8 lbs. head so let that be your guide.

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

From the depths of the sea, back to the block
Snoop Doggy Dogg, funky as the, the, The D.O.C
Went solo on that a$$, but it’s still the same
Long Beach is the spot where I served my cane
Follow me, follow me, follow me, follow me, but don’t lose your grip
Nine-trizzay’s the yizzear for me to f’ up shyt
So I ain’t holdin nuttin back
And m/fer I got five on the twenty sack
It’s like that and as a matter of fact [rat-tat-tat-tat]
Cuz I never hesitate to put a ‘igga on his back
[Yeah, so peep out the manuscript
You see that it’s a must we drop gangsta shyt}
What’s my m/fin name?

Chorus:

Snoop Doggy, Do-owww-ohhhh-oggg (yeah yeah yeah)
Snoop Doggy, Do-owww-ohhhh-oggg (the bomb)
Da-duh-da-da-dah
Do-do-do-do, doo-doo-doo-da-dahhh! (Dog)

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:36 pm

If someone makes dinner for you and you don’t stay for dessert, it that being rude/impolite?

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:37 pm

Heeeey Cemeeli!!

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:38 pm

Afternoon Folks!

I am not spontaneous at all. I’m a planner and spontaneity only comes when I plan to go to one place for dinner and change my mind, LOL.

I’m also a cryer – told my fiance’ that early on in our relationship so the first time I cried he didn’t freak out. I think it happened a little over a month after we started dating…wait – that’s a lie it was before then. He still doesn’t like to see me cry but I think he handles it better. Like when I cried when they showed the Bengals locker room after that win…

Kym mail call.

SCool Philippia (sp?) and the Teddy White band are performing at Taboo Saturday night. I think they also have DJ sets and you know they have food. Just a suggestion.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:38 pm

Cemeeli I think it would be polite to let them know upon your arrival that you will not be staying for dessert.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
2:39 pm

I dont cry after sex but I do have a ritual to show I’m quite happy. I go to sleep.

ditto. i’ve not yet been moved to tears in the bedroom. although, i do miss one lover in particular enough to cry for him right now :’(

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:41 pm

The Truth Hey Man!!!

Wise Diva

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

wow, thank you Angie :)

Dream_n

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Cemeeli

lol! Why don’t you want dessert?

Tazzee - Predictable Cryer

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Kym – you haven’t seen Jerry Maguire? Good movie – you should check it out.

Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:42 pm

Mo..them folk have shut our training class down…I am back on the floor p!ss!!

I am ’bout to pull some N.W.A or (early 90’s) Ice Cube outta da woodworks

TODAY…IS NOT A Gah’OOD DAY!!!

I am playing Deep Cover now…187 on a…I will leave it at that.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
2:43 pm

someone makes dinner for you and you don’t stay for dessert, it that being rude/impolite?

who aint staying for desert,u on the guy?? :lol:

if its u,i aint gon say nothing.. :lol:

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:44 pm

okay thx Raqi -

I am a stickler about making sure i show courtesy to people…especially that kind of stuff.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:47 pm

@ Dream_n – I just know this visit is going to be a long (conversing) visit…that’s all. I need my bed after staying out so long.

I can pass on dessert…

Hush Melo!

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Hey Truth!

Demi – they need to shut this one down, a waste of time I tell ya!

Im an inclusive cryer, which means when you cry I cry, period. Outside of that I have to be really pissed or sad to cry

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

@MsM ~ I certainly do understand and I see nothing wrong w/crying after sex. I’d rather cry than fart, belch, scratch or fall asleep.

I saw the entire scene reading that script (Maquire).

I cry at the drop of a coin. Wish I didn’t but it’s the only permanent change to my makeup since giving birth. It’s just crazy to tear up over a commercial.

Hey Regulars, when are you guys coming out of lurksville???

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Tazzee

Like when I cried when they showed the Bengals locker room after that win…

That was touching. Coach Zimmer is a good guy. That team loves him and his family. It is sad that he and his kids have to go through such a tough time.

He was here in Atlanta as the Defensive Coordinator during the short but tumultuous Bobby Petrino era.

Billy Joe Bookworm

October 13th, 2009
2:48 pm

Owdy yall Billy Joe here, just call me “Books” fer short. Ima book reading SOB who is the Phantom behind the phone call. I wuz sittin by the tamaters the other day I saw the darn thing runnin by, I hollerd up to Ethel and said Don’t look Ethel, it wuz too late she allready been booked! So I ran in side grabbed my chaw and put that dip in my lip an spit. At wuz darn depressin I tell ya.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:50 pm

I don’t cry easily….unless I’m EXTREMELY touched or EXTREMELY angry (death in the family..things like that a given). Either ends of the spectrum, usually though, not in between.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:52 pm

Am I missing something?

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:52 pm

I’d rather cry than….fall asleep

Leggs really? Do you mean fall asleep out of boredom or just fall asleep? Falling asleep afterwards can be a good thing. In fact those little rumpahs have been what I needed to help me sleep a time or two. You know kinda helps me relax and exhaust some of that bottle energy.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
2:53 pm

@Tazzee email coming your way.

Why are ya’ll crying and having sex..did I miss something?

DJ Demi

October 13th, 2009
2:53 pm

Mo…don’t cry to me…I’ll just give you my .45 and tell you to go and take care of the problem.

In my city ain’t no games, we learn your name
And where you went to school at and where you used to hang
And when I run across ya is where I’m going to drop ya
Breaking your punk a$$ off something proper

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
2:54 pm

I am notorious for keeping EVERYTHING.

I just deleted nearly 1500 emails that Shthead sent me over the course of our three year relationship.

I feel lighter.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 13th, 2009
2:55 pm

Oh, good sex? I usually grin like a cheshire cat no tears though. Guess I’m emotional like that. I can be emotional though.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:57 pm

SexyCool 1500 and 3 years. LOL

The only emails I have that are over 6 months are some for work that are mandatory to keep and those in an account that I don’t use that often. Other than that once I read and respond I delete them.