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Unpredictable

I had a date Sunday night with an interesting fellow, I’ll call him Vince.  We met through some mutual friends a few weeks ago.  The evening went pretty well for a first date. I noticed that Vince seemed to have this running theme during our conversation: spontaneity. As in, the more spontaneous a woman is the more attractive she becomes to him.

Interestingly enough, I didn’t get the spontaneous vibe from him at all when we first met. He seemed as if he was a quiet, conservative type. So here is the guy with the Conservative Uniform on, telling me that he likes a woman who can be unpredictable. He “gets bored” easily so if the woman he is dating isn’t able to be spontaneous, they probably wouldn’t get along very well.

Ladies, apparently men don’t want to be stuck with a snorefest, no matter how hot she is. Do you think that you are unpredictable and spontaneous..um, in a completely sane way?

Guys, do you really dig unpredictable women that much? Are you looking for women who can pick up and go on a whim? Do you think that women who play it too safe are too uptight?

How unpredictable are you? Do you consider yourself spontaneous?

399 comments Add your comment

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:06 pm

@Raqi, no mail.

@ARed, you are funny! You made me feel like the Godmother – I’m extending my hand, you can kiss my ring. J/K….I’m cracking myself up!

Just came back from a meeting where there was a guest speaker giving an oral presentation on memory. I was so impressed. Truth, hello. Have you or anyone here heard about “Freedom Personal Development” that can improve your memory skills 100%?

@PoppaG, I loved, loved Bell Bottoms! They hung on as long as they could!!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:07 pm

PoppaG thank you. I thought I had gotten lost along the way Saturday. Me and my friends went to go shopping, movies, dinner. I thought I was on the set of some kind of Big Butt Booties, Hips and Hoochie Part 35 video shoot. I know some of the luxury rental car places are going to have to do major detail work. No telling what was going on in those cars.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:12 pm

@ Raqi

I had to bail for awhile this morning…re your question: “Would you not be the slightest bit concerned about a woman you are dating that can just up and go when ever at the drop of a hat?”

This is not a “one size fits all” Too much in either ddirection, kind of like politics, is uncomfortable for me. If she is, as stated, always ready, then one could interpret that to mean that her life lakcs focus. On the other hand, if she is like my ex wife, who NEVER steps out of her comfort zone and willnot try anything new, then that is too restricting for me. I like a woman who can surpise me, will at least “consider” flying to NY or somewhere with a couple of days notice sometimes, who will consider meeting me in London at the London Eye on a specific date two/three weeks from now since I am already there…just someone who is not afraid to once in awhile step outside of the lines.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:13 pm

Cuban sandwhiches make you have itis…

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

My typing sucks. I do my best editing AFTER I hit send.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

Listening to Tamia’s “Sittin’ on the Job”….um, yeah…what she said.

Wise Diva

October 13th, 2009
1:14 pm

you guys make good points about Vince! Something to think about before agreeing to a second date hmm

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:15 pm

“I was on the set of some kind of Big Butt Booties, Hips and Hoochie Part 35 video shoot”

Kym – What? ha!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:16 pm

@Randy if that woman is capable of doing that then sure she can consider it. But if she is working a job, in the middle of meetings, has children, then no jumping on board a plane to come see you may not be in the picture. But if she meets you at the airport when you get home, plans a nice return, that could be just as exciting.

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:20 pm

@Cee if you could have seen what I didn’t really need to see. I didnt get pass Macy’s. No telling what fresh hell was waiting at the other end of the mall.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:21 pm

Kym…true of course. Just want to know that I will at least be considered…not necessarily do that, just consider. I am a big boy, I can handle “no”. Just want them to “think about it” before telling me that she cannot. I was married to a lady who put me down the list from everything, job, family, children. pets, the weather, headaches, hair, hellz the list was endless.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:22 pm

giving an oral presentation on memory

im gonna leave that alone! :lol:

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
1:22 pm

Leggs, I recently started a course called Mind Tek that was supposed to improve my memory. It was great, however, I forgot to finish it. To many lessons and to little interest. Plus there’s alot of things I want to forget. But no, I havent heard of that particular course. How have you been doing?

Bell Bottoms is closed?????????

So now you can either go to Magic City OR Lennox?

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:26 pm

…………………

i'm swiss

October 13th, 2009
1:26 pm

“I know some of the luxury rental car places are going to have to do major detail work.”

:lol: @ Kym — Dangit, you just made Diet Coke shoot out my nose…

Yeah, there were probably a few wet spots left on upholstery this weekend… :lol:

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:27 pm

Leggs you didn’t get it? It’s in my sent box. It was no biggie, just a response to the message you sent me.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:28 pm

practicing hard to get ready for the show (going through 2-a-days, so to speak)

is this a 1st for both of u Swiss??

Enjoy buddy :lol:

Angie

October 13th, 2009
1:28 pm

good morning!

@Wise
you do such a fabulous job on this board! kudos and thanks! i’m a changed woman because of it (regarding my relationships that is). giggle. i remember how naive i was. if i only knew what i know now. it might’ve saved my relationship with my ex.

ttyl.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

The course is $649, but company got a discount at $449 (lifetime). By the end of her presentation she knew everyone’s name in the room. She met me last and my name is easy to associate so I wasn’t impressed with that (LOL).

I’m doing well, thank you. I see you’re hanging in there with the heat, the culture, and the fat money your collecting. How much longer will you be over there? Have you made it to DuBai (sp?) yet? If so, are you in love w/the place?

!Yes, Bell Bottoms is closed. I so enjoyed dancing in those cages.

@Melo, thank you buddy for leaving that alone! Guess I worded that wrong!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
1:29 pm

Kym, I also have a leg up on most in this…most of the women I date have older children that can be relied upon to be okay away from Mom for a few days once in awhile. That was the biggest hurdle.

Also, one thing I have noticed about dating is that if someone “really” wants to see you, he/she will find a way. If a woman has too many legitimate reasons for not wanting to see me, even in invitations with relatively short notice, it usually truthfully means she is just not “feeling” it.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

@Raqi, am I safe to say you agreed with me?

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

Kym lol :lol: oh my! That why you have been my ambassador of quan when it come to this blog!

Hilarious!

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:30 pm

Bell Bottoms is closed?????????

Truth ESPN zone is closed too..altho their manure,aka,food, really suckked. :lol:

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:33 pm

@Swiss well you know those jokers don’t own those cars. I am sorry but if you are going to drive around in a 60k car how about not wearing clothes that look like they came off the rack at Wally World. There were some women folks I just know were in “the business” and yeah I am not knocking your hustle..but errr how about not having your business all out and uncovered by underwear..there were children in the mall. But i digress.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:33 pm

Leggs check now.

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:34 pm

i’m a changed woman because of it (regarding my relationships that is). giggle

so is it WISE alone u need to thank or its all of us Angie??

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Cee what is quan?

@Randy I hear ya. I just deleted someone like that from my phone. If he was serious he would have made contact beyond texting by now. Oh well. I tried.

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:39 pm

Kym

what is quan?

Have you not seen Jerry Maguire?

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:40 pm

@Poppa G..No I am sorry but the closest I have come to seeing the movie is the tag lines. “You had me at hello.” and “Show me the money.” I am just not a fan of Tom Cruise..something about his eyes…ugh.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:42 pm

Yeah, WiseDiva. IMO a person that claims to bore easily is someone that is looking for others to entertain him at whatever expense.

Why is it the other person’s duty to keep the entertainment alive? He’s a shmuck.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:43 pm

Kym, you mean you haven’t heard the famous “shoplifting the puddy”?

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

Kym-

Oh. well then you wouldn’t understand the ambassador of quan statment.

The movie is darn good. Tom Cruise is ok but Cuba Gooding earned his Oscar in that one. He acted his tail off.

I’m not a big Tom Cruise fan either. IMO he is just a level above on Keanu Reeves in regards to his acting skills.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

@ Kym – Sounds like my Class Reunion a few months ago. We had waaaay to many brand new cars parked out in the lot. Then my gf stated “don’t forget now, some of them drove ‘em right off the lot of Hertz, Luxury Atlanta, Alamo..ect”…some weren’t.

My female former classmates are still “dressing” the part(hot pants & long weaves), and a few other are still “drop & dip” like they use too…The good part is most of the stuff was expense paid. Alot of them own their “own”…whether that’s be a printing company, music industry, t’shirts company…even had a few reality shows contestants…

MsM

October 13th, 2009
1:44 pm

I cry after good sex, if it’s really really good! lol

I did this after our first time… S/O was a little taken back by it, but soon realized its not a bad thing.

3 years and going!!!

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
1:48 pm

@Cee what is quan?

Kym i just just think you are funny as all get out with most of your reponses… yet, eloquent and decent..

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:49 pm

Finally, I got it Raqi!

The Truth

October 13th, 2009
1:51 pm

Leggs, the heat is pretty much over. Its a cool 90-100 nowadays. Dudes go to Dubai for 2 reasons, the hookers and the alcohol. I have a standing rule that I dont pay for booty, at least in a straight cash and carry mode. I havent drank in 7 months so its not a big thing. I may go before I leave here but its no big thing, just more sand. I’ll prolly be here for a few years if things work out. Gotta reach my goals.

Melo, the place is coming apart. Wow

Melo

October 13th, 2009
1:51 pm

MsM

so u only cried about once?? why is that….

i had a girlfriend tho, that cried during the act,in my past.She was such a romantic,had been married and divorced.The first time it happened,i was kinda taken aback.
But she was doing it to the wrong person,at the wrong time, in my journey of sexualdom.

For me,then,it was about my own jacking off and how well my calculator was adding up the women.

Leggs

October 13th, 2009
1:52 pm

@MsM, that is too funny. Some men take crying at that time that “she must have been hardup and is now finally getting some she’s crying.” Not! Sometimes it’s that good and all the right spots have been tapped that utter thankfulness leaks from our eyes!

Kym

October 13th, 2009
1:54 pm

Okay should I be insulted by what Cee said?

@Cee you didn’t insult me on the side did you?

Now I have to go sit thru a Tom Cruise movie to find out why I am the ambassador to quan.

@Raqi is that shoplift puddy statement in there too? Who knew..

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 13th, 2009
1:55 pm

Good sex has never made me cry.
Bad sex has p!ssed me off – royally.

czBrat

October 13th, 2009
1:56 pm

@Leggs when it’s that good I do my crying when I wake up.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:56 pm

Leggs and MsM, my sister and I once talked about the crying after and/or during sex. It’s usually hormonal or guilty pleasure. Guilt being the key word.

Willie Dynamite

October 13th, 2009
1:57 pm

Afternoon All,

On Topic- After reading WD’s entry I guess I’m being naive but seems to me ol dude just put his cards out on the table. He pretty much told her what attracts him and how he likes it, nothing more nothing less. I actually think he’s putting more onus on her to show him what is she bringing to the table other than good looks. I’m willing to bet that she goes out on date #2 if for no other reason because he’s peaked her interest and wants to see his follow up.

Other Topic (its me) – I dont see anything wrong with a lil crying. Your dude did the right thing and then followed up afterwards to make sure it was no extras involved. Some Men appreciate Women showing some emotions. We dont want cry-babies but sometimes its refreshing to see Women showing that side. After 4 months you or he shouldn’t over-analyze it and take it in stride.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
1:59 pm

I just google crying after sex and found this….

“It seems that women who cry after sex share something in common with women who experience post-partum depression. Horomones are powerful chemicals in the body, and when they rise or fall drastically, it can cause emotional highs and lows after sex, during pregnancy, after birth and during menopause. The same thing happens during PMS.”

Poppa Grande

October 13th, 2009
2:00 pm

Kym

The movie is good.

The movie is really based on Leigh Steinberg, who is a real entertainment attorney.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:00 pm

@ Kym – Please go see the movie…Jerry was Rod’s (Cuba Gooding’s) “ambassador of kwam”…i said “quan” and still have been saying it.

lol…a Riot!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 13th, 2009
2:02 pm

Crying and sex…had my partners do that a time or tow, usually because they knew already they were leaving.

Now for me, I might have dropped a tear or two in my pillow about sex a few times…usually after dropping a couple of c-notes for dinner and then going home alone anyway!!! Just kidding by the way.

Raqi...Spontaneously Combusted

October 13th, 2009
2:03 pm

Yeah Kym in the movie it was associated with Jerry dating a single mother. It’s when a guy purposely zeros in on a woman’s vulnerabilities just to get the sex. Usually knowing if he gains her trust the puddy comes with it.

Cemeeli

October 13th, 2009
2:03 pm

WillieD “It’s” dipped on us. She needs to come back and state her “that’s me” stance.

It’s all good.