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Location, Location, Location

I don’t know how to explain it but I call it the Panera Hottie Phenomenon. In the last couple of weeks, whenever I go in to a Panera Bread restaurant, I always spot a great looking guy. Not only is he great looking but he catches my eye in that “he could be my boo” kind of way.  It’s like the guy is literally in Panera bread waiting for me to walk in!

I firmly believe that where you reside, spend time, or hang out has a tremendous impact on who you meet and date.  If you find that these locations are not working for you, it’s time you shake things up! Go to a different part of your side of town, visit friends in their area, volunteer for a different organization.

Where do you spot the best potential dates? Where are the people who want a relationship congregating? Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.  She thinks that if it’s meant to be, then things will align and fall into place on it’s own.  What do you think? Is it better to leave it to chance or should we lend fate a hand?

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czBrat

October 12th, 2009
8:52 am

GM All

scoping out an ideal location to meet mr. right would be a bit too contrived for me. i subscribe to the ‘what is meant for me will be for me’ philosophy. it’ll happen where and when it’s supposed to happen.

Hopeless Romantic

October 12th, 2009
8:53 am

Finding the “one” is all about timing. The right time in your life, the right time in his/her life to have a caring and fufilling relationship. I’ve heard many times that you find a soulmate when you aren’t looking. I just do what I enjoy which is go out with friends, volunteer, exercise, go to events…and if my soulmate and I find each other than great. If not, I still am enjoying life to the fullest.

BSandwich

October 12th, 2009
9:12 am

I agree, HR. Keep doing whatever it is you do. Don’t go out of your way to seek out Mr. or Ms. Right. They will come along…eventually. They might already be in your life and you just haven’t realized it.

Wings() - (Dodging Between The Raindrops)

October 12th, 2009
9:21 am

Good Monday Morning Bloggers:

Hopeless, I tend to agree with you….love usually happens when you aren’t looking for it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTndJHdKp04

Make it A Great Day!

happy

October 12th, 2009
9:23 am

keep doing all the things you enjoy but no harm in being proactive and giving fate a helping hand. shake it up a little bit. i did a little extra work and its been totally worth it!

ImAPeach404

October 12th, 2009
9:47 am

Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

YES!!!
I live in S. Forsyth and there aren’t ANY brothas hanging around here. And if I do see one, they usually come equipped with a wedding ring and some kids.

Casual encounters are my favorite… but my chances of that around these parts are slim to none. Actually, more like none to none.

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
9:55 am

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.

Well, if all you ever did was sit around the house, the only person you could meet is the mailman.

God helps those who helps themselves. There may be a divine plan, but you have to do your part too.

I do make sure I get out, mainly because life is to be lived to the fullest. And if I meet someone in my travels, even better.

Lately, I’ve been cooking more so I’ve been meeting men in the supermarket. The ones I’ve met have kids though, so I’ll be scratching “the supermarket” off my list of places I’d recommend to meet men.

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
9:56 am

Oh, and happy Monday everyone. :-)

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
9:59 am

Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

I totally agree…

Although I like the whole approach of waiting for the guy to come to you as it should be….

It’s great to go out to different locations to broaden your horizen. If you live in the “hood” you’re probably going to find the “hood” guys. Why not go out of your comfort zone and try something new:) Like minds do think alike, but opposites attract also!!

:)

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:01 am

Yeah…geographical location has some bearing…I decided GA was not IT 23 years ago…hehehe.

But, I do subscribe to the theory that something that is meant to happen will…there is something about the unpredictable bur preordained UNIVERSE that manifest by the WILL of what will be…even if we are not immediately aware but still have some way of “knowing”…to quote Faulkner from “Light of August”…”Memory has a way of knowing before believing exist.”

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
10:05 am

Good morning everyone!

Your location is key to meeting people. Although you can meet men anywhere, the availability of available men does rests on your location. Heck, where I live there’s nothing there. Dugan’s, Dugan’s and more Dugan’s! The clientele is the same all week, month year long!

I think one can find a man quicker when she’s not actively looking for one! Everything happens in due course, but you can’t live under a rock wishing and hoping!

Diehard ATL Fan

October 12th, 2009
10:08 am

I generally try AJC blogs for single lay-deeez! :-)

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:09 am

Yes location matters a lot. Especially when you are aiming to meet a certain type of someone.

A lot of places now are known to be the trendy locales. They are places such as Panera, Two Urban Licks, fancy coffee shops where you are likely to find the bluetooth adorning, laptop carrying, blackberry thumbing, urban outfitters wearing in the “now” type of crowds. Which are doubling now as the find a date scenes.

There is nothing wrong with that, other than the frustration that I get from not being able to find a seat at my favorite local coffee shop because the are all filled the “now” crowd just hanging sipping on the same cup of java for 2 hours just because. LOL

I tell you, you will not find your average beer loving, fly-fishing auto mechanic in such places. So yeah go where you can meet the type of people you want to meet.

It is all about location.

Lorraine

October 12th, 2009
10:14 am

I think it depends on where you go, how you present yourself, and if you are open to just meeting people. I have certain places that no matter who walks in the door I am not interested in getting to know you any more than the glance we shared. Gas stations, parking lots, shopping malls and Night Clubs. I think the randomness of who could be approaching you is so overwhelming not going to be in my favor for what I look for that I just close that door. If I’m in a bookstore and we keep bumping into each other, well looky there I already know you can read, or you know someone who would appreciate a good book, either way, a good thing. I have a girlfriend who will exchange numbers with a guy in line at a port-a-potty…she also dates losers consistently. I also think there has to be some openess to meeting people in general.

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

October 12th, 2009
10:18 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

No one is saying run around town hoping to find a man, but if you’re not meeting people during your normal routine (which is home…work…home for many), it won’t hurt to do something a little different.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:21 am

And it is so obvious when a person is in an establishment looking to get met and when they are there for what the place has to offer. Other than getting met.

We were at Home Depot Saturday and there was this lady looking at tile on the same aisle I was on. One of the HD workers walked up and asked us both if we needed help. I didn’t because I knew what I was looking for. She said no, she was just looking. Well here comes Mase down the aisle and she stopped him ‘excuse me do you think these two pieces go together’. He looked at her with that I have no idea expression and said “I don’t know, ask my wife she is better at that stuff than I am’ and proceed to put some stuff in the cart. And the thing is he was not blowing her off, he really don’t care about that kind of stuff.

Now the person that could help her offered but she said she did not need help. But the first attractive guy that walks up she asked his opinion. It is becoming such a trend now to seek out possibilities at certain places.

I ain’t knocking her efforts, but you know.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
10:22 am

high school and college..

why are uall kinda late in meeting pple??

Ray’s ambiance was nice,so was the lil bar and the jazz music.Nice spot if u got a lady u wanna pull away from her friends and romance.

The food??
mqew was on point.Over rated and pricy for the quality and portions,in ma view.

Uall wet??….from the rain I mean! :lol:

Merning.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:25 am

Three Words Daily – Find your motivation.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
10:27 am

@ Fred G. Sanford, Jr

I totally agree with your post. There’s nothing wrong with putting a little extra out there if you’re looking to meet a guy. Hence… Match.com or any of those other match making websites. Those prolly wouldn’t be the typical/traditional routes to meet your mate, but hey it works(ed) for some…

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:29 am

hehehe @ARed
Lately, I’ve been cooking more so I’ve been meeting men in the supermarket. The ones I’ve met have kids though, so I’ll be scratching “the supermarket” off my list of places I’d recommend to meet men.

@Raqi

Now, I ain’t one to jump to concussions about peeps behavior…but her game was obvious…lol…and I like the way Mase handled that…got the point to her quick and emphatic like…cuz iffen ole gal really wanted some assistance then she would have accepted the HD clerks offer…truly…now, I have had people solicit my opinion about something or another in a store…fabric store, grocery store, clothing store if they believe I can offer a valuable opinion, etc…but otherwise, most peeps look for assistance with the staff on hand…well, except at Micheal’s where the store manager told me that they did not carry BEADING needles b/c he did not know where they were…lol

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:32 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

Very true!!!

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:32 am

melo – I’m glad you picked Rays on the River. I love that place! How did your weekend go (the PG version… PLEASE! :lol: ) What hotel did you wind up chosing?

i'm swiss

October 12th, 2009
10:33 am

Morning, folks. Hope everyone had a great weekend…

On topic: Location certainly helps, but the reality is you never really know where you might meet someone that rocks your world. I would say if you’re looking for a strategy, just get out & about, doing things that you really enjoy yourself, so that when you do meet someone, you’re starting off with at least 1 common interest…

Peach — You’re in S. Forsyth, too? You are right about that, you don’t see many shades darker than eggshell around those parts… :lol: Well, if you happen to see a super hot island chica with a nerdy-but-in-a-cute-way white boy, it’s probably Mrs. Swiss & I… :-) Funny thing is, I lived in Tucker & had to go all the way to S. Forsyth of all places to get my swirl on… :lol:

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:33 am

I agree that you shouldn’t HUNT for a man, but you should make yourself available to be found.

My new guy found me sitting at the bar at TGI Friday’s while I was waiting on someone who was late. I wasn’t looking for him, but I’m glad he was looking for me.

aggwitty

October 12th, 2009
10:34 am

Of course location matters. You will likely not find a church girl at a crack house. Oddly, you might find a crackhead at the church house.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:36 am

Ok I understand what WD is saying, and I have not read all the post so please forgive me if this point was made.

The Bible speaks on the man finding the woman, however if you are hiding under a rock or not active you will probably not meet anyone. I am very active and I meet guys when I am out, however I do not go out to meet guys. If I meet someone cool, if not that is cool to…I like being the pursued and not the pursuer.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:39 am

M’ yeah and I am not knocking her hustle but it is becoming such the rule now instead of the exception. If you just happen to meet someone at a certain place that’s cool, but now people are going to places outside of the single clubs, bar and lounges in hopes of meeting someone.

my list of places I’d recommend to meet men

I lot people have serious list that the purposely hit up to meet people. I think I told you all once about the guy I saw at Target on the cleaning supply aisle and he looked really lost and confused. When I tried to offer my suggestion he obviously took it as me trying to hit on him which I wasn’t and let me know he was taken. I was just trying to be nice and offer help. I wasn’t trying to get at him. But it is so common these days.

Sometimes when I make a late night Walmart run, which is the best time to shop there, you will see folks just kinda hanging around. You see them in like 3 different areas of the store and all they are carrying is a pack of batteries or something, just kind of looking up and down the aisle as the pass.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
10:40 am

The W on 14/13 and peachtree Ared…midtown

Niceeeeee! :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
10:43 am

@Raqi ~ I would have chuckled. Good game, wrong move. She felt foolish because she probably knew you heard when he asked if he could assist but said no. Now, a tall, nice looking man walks down the aisle oblivious to her she tries to put her foot out and trip him (lol)!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:43 am

Melo I am glad you had a nice time!

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:47 am

melo – The W…very trendy. Good choice. I liked the see thru mirror between the bedroom/bathroom. ;)

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:50 am

@Raqi

Yes, this has been an ever increasing viable option for meeting ppl…I have perused a few articles written about it in the last few years…offering suggestions about where to go, when to go, etc…so it is now very common to encounter ppl in various stores, etc. with the sole intention of being there to meet someone and nothing else…men popping into a womens’ department on the pretense of buying something for a mother, sister, niece, etc…women going into a hardware store, auto parts store, etc looking for a “needed item”…ppl in the grocery not knowing how to buy produce, find an item for some new recipe, etc…all of this crap is in the articles on “how to”…hehehe

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:51 am

Now the macking in HD move was too funny! I know she felt lame after that one…

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:53 am

My level of interaction is so dynamic that meeting different ppl is not so much a problem as it is that I am not often interested in general…if someone I encounter strikes my fancy…cool…but I am not looking in particular…never really have…it seems that I have always just literally walked right into randomly meeting someone who sparked my interest when I was least expecting to do so…viola!!!

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
10:54 am

I’m a single female that’s been in the “dating rut” for about two years. I am growing a bit frustrated because dating shouldn’t be this hard. I have run into some nice guys in my area, but we just didn’t click with one another. So I was talking to my male friend (who is married) and he said I need to get out more and mingle. Well since all my girl friends are married or seriously dating someone I am forced to go out alone. Well I am going to venture out next month once I get my GPS system (so I won’t get turned around so easily) and I’m going to run this town. Wish me luck people and give me some hot spots to go to around Atlanta!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

Laughing HARD at running the town with the GPS! Guess you gotta know where you’re going to be in charge.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

Location maybe important if you are not someone who gets out a lot but even when you do, you can’t have that desperate, I need a man vibe going on either like the chick in HD. Men can smell it and your judgment can be off.

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

@Prof

Uh-huh…like she was stuck on F.O.O.L….what’s that spell?? FOOL (done to the finger gestures of COOL by Morris Day and the Time)…hehehe

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
10:58 am

I don’t see a problem with people meeting potential mates outside of the norm.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:59 am

@M’ I like that one LOL now you just made that song stick in my head, but I am singing it in a remix FFFFFFFF O O LLLL what that spell…

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:00 am

@SexyCool Please don’t laugh at me. LOL Yes, a GPS system is a must for me. I am soooo bad with directions and the last time I tried to go out on my own I got lost for about an hour and gave up and went home. I need a GPS system, so I don’t end up just “joy riding” every time I plan to go out. LOL

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:01 am

I have a gf who will only go places based on man meeting potential and who judges how much fun she had based on the number of dudes that were there or that she talked to.

Needless to say, I don’t hang out with her often. I’ve been trying to convince her that she needs to just take her Fun (ala D&B’s) with her and quit tripping.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:03 am

@SSB – bless yo’ directionally challenged little heart. So, you’re not from Atlanta, huh?

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:03 am

@Dream_n

I am not opposed to it either…IMO, I think one of the best ways to meet other ppl is to do things where ppl with common interest interact…volunteer work, etc…commonly shared interest make for a more viable option of engaging in a good-fit opportunity…and engagements that are more centered on a non-social interaction tend to be less “game-ridden” like the club and bar scene is rife with like old moldy cheese…hehehe

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
11:05 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

I think you got this wrong dude, I think is a matter of different approaches, some women don’t have to work hard to find a man, they just live such a full life that they are always meeting men.

This economy has re-introduced the “house party”. Great place to meet someone who you can get a good ID on. Almost every weekend, somebody is having something and it’s good to go out of your immediate circle.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

@SexySthernBelle, I too find it hard to go out by myself, but realize this is something I have to get over. Perhaps we can go out together, but since I’m directionally challenged as well, we may find ourselves in Suwanee when we were trying to go somewhere else.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

Hey Dream I am with you on meeting potential mates outside of the norm, but my thing is do not go to the ASO and meet someone and you know you hate Mozart. Better yet you go to the park and meet someone but you hate outdoors. I see people go outside the box, yet they meet someone and really don’t care for the place they met. IMO let the person know when you meet them if it is something you do not like or normally do…just say I am here to support a friend or I wanted to try something new…be honest because you don’t want to send a representative.

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

@SexyCool

She COULD be from here and still need a GPS…know several ppl who do…hehehe.

@SSB
Chirl…get that GPS and gets to rolling…cuz LOSt ain’t where you trying to go…hehehe

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:11 am

@M’ – you have a point. I know some people that are from here that I still have to give directions to.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
11:13 am

My girlfriend met a guy on the internet who said he was a personal trainer and when she met him he looked like he had prison muscles. What a waist of a meet and greet!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:14 am

M/Proff

That’s what I believe also… I’d rather meet a guy in a pottery class (something we both enjoy).. than meet a guy in a club. Although I know alot of women/men that go to clubs to hook up/meet mates… I can’t take a guy seriously after he just got off the floor grinding with a girl (5th drink of the night in hand) talking in my ear… lol that’s just funny to me

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:14 am

LOL – What are prison muscles?

Melo

October 12th, 2009
11:16 am

I wld rather u go to clubs now than start getting excited about them at 45.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:17 am

@Leggs/ SexySthernBelle I am like you, but I have a GPS..lol! I think the biggest concern I have about going out by myself is safety …I think it is best to go with someone. I have a good friend that is a cop and you will be surprised at how much stuff goes on

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:18 am

Dream’n – I was in a spot recently. This dude approached me and we had a nice conversation. He gave me his number and over the next hour or so that I remained in the place, he went on to hit up his next two “victims”. Needless to say, I deleted his number.

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:18 am

@Dream_n

I clubbed to dance and I bar hop to socialize…never to meet someone of interest for a “relationship” of substance…not in 32 years of hanging…never made sense to me…not the nature of that jungle…it is what it is.

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:20 am

@ SexyCool I am shame to admit that I was born and raised here and I still don’t know my away around Atlanta. LOL

@ Leggs Girl you and I together is like the blind leading the blind. LOL

@ M Yes, I’m trying to get somewhere not run my gas out and go back home upset because I went no where for the night. LOL

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
11:21 am

I give ole’ girl at HomeDepot her props. She just aimed for the wrong man. She had no idea he was with me. But it was too funny and I smirked a little when she got that “oh” look on her face. LOL

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
11:22 am

Raqi’s story is a good example of what I’m talking about. I’m not saying live under a rock and Mr. Right will find you. I’m just saying I don’t advocate seeking out locations to plant yourself in the hopes of finding The One. Just live your life … do what you do. If you’re going about the things that you enjoy you will naturally meet up with like-minded people. Much better than hanging out at ‘Bucks if you’re not a coffee drinker, just because you hope to meet someone who lives that lifestyle. What are you gonna do then? Learn to like pricey java in order to keep him?

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:24 am

@Lurkerette those prison muscles scare me. I met a guy once when I was picking up my jackets and the owner told him that I was single when I left and he ran down to the parking lot to talk to me. Well when we spoke on the phone and met for a quick meeting he only talked about the last 6 months or so or 8 years back. So I told him it seems to be a gap somewhere (I guess that’s the HR in me) and he said I like you so let me be honest I did time for trafficking…you could have knocked me over with a feather.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:24 am

@ SC

I see it time and time agin.. It’s like a radar goes off for some of my friends when a good looking guy comes in the place are…

He comes and talks to our group.. the girls all swoon over him smiling and sipping their drinks all seductively (hey i may eye him a bit too lol).. but as soon as he’s done he’s over to the next group… and some of the girls are competing over who will end up with the number or give him theres first… I can’t help but laugh…

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:24 am

@ Dream_n I feel you on meeting a guy somewhere that you enjoy being and doing. I don’t do clubs too often and I don’t want to meet a guy doing the stanky leg and he wants to hit the club every weekend to learn the lastest dances.

Why can’t I meet a nice looking, employed, intelligent, financially sound guy at Publix? LOL

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:26 am

@ Professor Yes, safety is major concern for me going out alone!

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

October 12th, 2009
11:27 am

@Lurkerette,

“I think you got this wrong dude, I think is a matter of different approaches, some women don’t have to work hard to find a man, they just live such a full life that they are always meeting men.”

I agree, but you missed my point (or didn’t read the rest of my post).

I wasn’t talking about women who ARE meeting men. I’m talking about the ones who AREN’T – the ones who do the same thing everyday, yet are surprised that they aren’t meeting new people.

All I’m saying is if a woman or man (who wants to meet someone) only goes to work, back home, and the same Kroger to shop, it won’t hurt to mix things up.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:27 am

M’

me too… I usually have a rough week between working, school, and my energetic 3 yr old… The times I do get to go out, its to relax.. chat with the girls.. and laugh at people…

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:31 am

@ Fred G. Sanford, Jr. You definately made some good points. I am one of those women who stay in the same areas, but expect to run into some new guy. But I plan to make some changes and get out and mingle more. We shall see if it works for me!!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
11:31 am

So I told him it seems to be a gap somewhere (I guess that’s the HR in me)

LMAO!!!

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:33 am

@ Professor <>

That’s too funny! LMAO!!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:34 am

@Dream “He comes and talks to our group.. the girls all swoon over him smiling ” I agree this is everywhere…shoot you can see it even on blogs…car wash…dry cleaners etc.

@SexySthernBelle there are a few places I will go to alone, but some spots I will not do…the risk is too great. At the same time, I do not like rolling with a huge crowd either usually a total of three is good no more than four each person needs common sense like we all park in the same area or valet our cars in the same spot…arrive on time so we will not have to get out by ourselves etc.

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

October 12th, 2009
11:34 am

@Raqi,

“I give ole’ girl at HomeDepot her props. She just aimed for the wrong man.”

I agree. It might be a bit embarrassing, but no harm in trying. At least she attempted to get what she wanted.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:35 am

Prison Muscles : Why is that funny to me…

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:37 am

@Dream_n

Well, as a rule…I have always gone out by myself…been doing that since I was 17…I actually prefer it that way…I hit spots rolling dolo and have a blast…in fact, I am so accustomed to going out by myself that it is hard for me to go places with other ppl…unless they are social butterfly’s like myself and they are very comfortable working a room in social motion.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
11:37 am

@Professor, yes my biggest concern is safety. Although I do know my way around Atlanta fairly well, I just get confused sometimes. Personally, I’d rather travel with landmarks than street signs. Whoever invented those little green street signs should be tar and feathered.

I was determined to get out so I met some gfs @ Fletcher’s for some fun then followed one of my gfs to a new club called Faces (off Moreland n 285). The music was real good. Much like a renovated Bigelow’s. When I told this to someone who worked there they took offense. I cleaned it up by saying it was 3x better than Bigelow’s but almost the same. It’s just bigger, newer and cleaner. I had a pretty good time but since I had an early fundraising event I was ready to leave and they weren’t. Leaving the club alone had me a little nervous, but did have security walk me to my car. To be honest, even that had me a little nervous.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:38 am

@ czBrat

The HD story was a good example of picking the wrong guy to try out your skillz on lol…. but as long as she was respectful when she found out he had a wife….. Embarassing, but harmless none the less…

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:38 am

CzBrat/SSB I really thought I was missing something at first, but it was obvious everything he spoke about happened last month or 8 years ago. It was a red flag…LOL

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

October 12th, 2009
11:38 am

@SexySthernBelle,

“You definately made some good points. I am one of those women who stay in the same areas, but expect to run into some new guy. But I plan to make some changes and get out and mingle more. We shall see if it works for me!!”

Thanks, and that’s all I’m saying.

Even as a guy I have to switch up the routine, and when I do, I’m amazed and pleased at all of the attractive and friendly women I encounter.

Cemeeli

October 12th, 2009
11:38 am

Hey!

lol @ Dream_n – You’ve seen those prison arms (muscles) right?!?! You know where the dude top half is buff, and the legs are still skinny.

Cemeeli

October 12th, 2009
11:40 am

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:41 am

Hey Cee

youse jes’ red me mind…bout ready to send you a shout out…hehehe

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
11:42 am

Cemeeli

Quite scary if you ask me.. :)

Cemeeli

October 12th, 2009
11:43 am

M’ Sis, how have you been? Good reading you….

Melo

October 12th, 2009
11:44 am

SexySthernBelle

where do u live and work??

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:44 am

Well, the house manager position is going well…just found another opportunity on Craigslist yesterday for part time computer software support via telecommute…sent my resume, called the number listed and spoke with the guy who placed the ad…he really liked how I could apply my skills and experience to the desired/required ones listed in the job description…said out of 50 phones calls that he really liked what I had to say…and wants to talk to me by Wed after he returns to the ATL…now, that would be a good gig…no commuting to the plantation, no office work culture issues…uh-huh.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
11:46 am

Wish you all the luck M’.

@SSB, how old are you?

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:47 am

@Leggs I totally understand…I need to check that spot out because I have never been there.

Just thinking about this location location location topic…I realize there are certain things I really don’t do in Atlanta…I have a sense of wanderlust so I often do things in other cities.

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:49 am

@ Melo I live and work in Conyers area.
@ Leggs I’m 29.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
11:49 am

a total of three is good no more than four each person needs common sense

3 is a crowd.
Thats a sure way to scare guys off.
Solo is the best way to make sure u get a hello,some sit down convo and some digits.Unless the guy interested finds a tag partner.Then they kinda talk of strategy be4 they approach ur group.
Problem with u females is once u in a group of 3 or more,u voice same stuff even tho u may thinking differently.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
11:50 am

M i feel ya on the telecommute. i’m seriously considering going back to transcription. best of luck on the gig!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
11:53 am

off topic: anyone see “Good Hair”? a real eye-opener for me. soooooo much i didn’t know about the weave world. and chris rock was ridiculously funny, of course!

Melo

October 12th, 2009
11:53 am

SexySthernBelle

yeah girl,if u in Conyers,its hard 4 u to come to Atlanta that often..its like u restrict urself around Stne crest mall, Lithonia and stn mountain.
There are some good places in and around the mall,arabia mountain,stm mountain hiking etc and the bar scene.

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:57 am

@ Melo Its really hard when I live and work in the same area…I rarely get to meet new people. *sigh*

And I the guys I have run into in the Stonecrest Mall, Lithonia, and Stone Mountain area haven’t been up to par. Ugh!!

M'

October 12th, 2009
12:03 pm

<strong@SSB

One can almost forget how much sprawl makes up the ATL metro until one wants to venture out and about…and the flavor changes so much from one area to the next…each with its own mix and match…and the commuting to find a vibe of interest can be daunting or draining or just plain time consuming when where one lives, works and desires to socialize are spread across the metro quadrants….geesh, I just got tired writing about it…hehehe

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
12:04 pm

@SSB, your age says you have the energy that I like when I hang out. I can definitely see you getting lost coming from Conyers. I go to church in Conyers and that’s all I know. I heard Arizona’s was a fun spot and have talked myself into going there only to talk myself right out of it.

@Professor, the funiture is white inside with a nice dance floor. Drinks are good (didn’t eat anything). Toothless attendee in restroom, which I think was a small facility, and a gravel parking lot. I must admit, I concentrated on the bldg on the side where my car was cuz it was completely dark on one side (no lights). We got to my car, I smiled and thanked him for escorting me to my car and drove off.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
12:05 pm

yeah, M, you kinda wore me out reading it. :)

M'

October 12th, 2009
12:07 pm

lol @ czBrat

yo…now, I need a nap from thought traveling the ATL metro…hehehe

M'

October 12th, 2009
12:12 pm

2 Cobb schools on lockdown due to shooting in the area…geesh.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
12:20 pm

For me, I only mind the commute when it’s something I really don’t care to do. Otherwise, I’m used to it; so, it’s like…whatever.

M'

October 12th, 2009
12:21 pm

@SexyCool
That is because you do not commute…you just materialize…hehehe

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
12:21 pm

Guess what yall, the area of roof over my bathroom is leaking? sigh

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:21 pm

Atlanta falcons are really masters at beating bad teams! :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
12:21 pm

Off topic ~ ~ ~ An example of a “young” male who is very, very selfish!!

A man gropes nurse who was helping delivering his baby, Associated Press 5:49 a.m. Monday, October 12, 2009

Ogden, Utah — Ogden police have arrested a Bountiful man for allegedly groping a nurse who was helping the woman who was in labor with his child. Ogden police Lt. Loring Draper says 30-year-old Adam Jay Manning brought a pregnant woman to a hospital early Friday.

The Salt Lake Tribune reported on its Web site that Manning allegedly made a comment about how cute the nurse was who came to help the couple. Draper says he then allegedly told the nurse something looked wrong with her neck and attempted to massage it before grabbing her breast. The nurse pushed Manning away and reported the incident to police. He was arrested on suspicion of felony forcible sexual abuse and missed the birth of the child. Draper says it’s unclear whether the woman who gave birth is married to Manning or is a girlfriend.

DUMB ARSE MEN…EVEN ON A MOMENTOUS DAY AS THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILD YOU EYEING ANOTHER AND CAN’T MUSTER ENOUGH RESTRAINT TO RESPECT THE SITUATION…TRIPLE PIMP SLAP TO HIM!!!!!!

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:23 pm

Raqi,

Allstate is paying 2500 to repair one side of my roof due to a leak in the kitchen.
Jus as well,i been paying them inshereeence for the past 10 yrs,neva claimed none.

Miss Single in Metro Atlanta

October 12th, 2009
12:24 pm

I think when you begin dating or seeing someone on a consistent basis, location does have a lot do with with convenience and accessiblity to to that person and vice versa. I know from my own personal experience when I lived in Cobb County, I’d recall a couple of brothas indicating because I lived in Cobb, it would be hard for them to drive into the area because they felt they would be profiled and easily stopped by the police. In hindsight, that may have been used as excuse, if they weren’t interested, but then again, I now understand the notion of ITP(inside the perimeter) or OTP (outside the perimeter). Not saying it’s any better driving and being profile in any other county within Metro Atlanta, now that I have my own home and reside in Dekalb, basically dating still has to fit into your schedule aside from work, school, social and business activites, if applicable, and from personal experience, if he’s about 10-15 minute drive away from the house, then let the dating begin. I’d be willing to meet and greet someone in Atlatna, however, I’d just hope he lives along the I-20 corridor and close to a Wal-Mart, for a quick me up for groceries so I can cook up a meal if I’m enroute to his place or vice versa!

I admit, location, location, location is a factor for me.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
12:28 pm

Raqi – It is Melo’s fault your roof is leaking. He brought that bad karma by talking about love and leaky roofs last week. ~teasing~

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:30 pm

@SexySthernBelle I was wondering if you attend New Birth? The reason I ask is because I hear them mentioning the singles ministry but I am not sure if it is worth it…I never date at church. I was wondering if you had tried it if you attend New Birth.

@Leggs Toothless attendee in restroom, which I think was a small facility, and a gravel parking lot. <—- I am NOT going I hate the dust from the gravel parking lots and the tootless attendee scares me

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Leggs I heard AZ was cool to me and two friends were suppose to go, but that deteriorated…maybe we will plan again. If I go I will give you a report.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
12:37 pm

guess what Raqi the seal in my sunroof is worn & i have a leak in my car:( 12 straight hours of rain …NOT GOOD!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:41 pm

I never date at church

But I thought that’s where all the “good men” are…. Prof… lol

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
12:41 pm

@ Professor No I don’t attend New Birth and never tried any singles ministries at any church. Not sure if I would like that too much, but may give that a try as well one of these days.

@ Miss Single in Metro Atlanta I Understand exactly what you are saying. I dated a guy that lived about 30 to 40 minutes away from me. We were definately feeling each other, but the distance really caused an issue in our relationship. Plus I’m a single mom and it wasn’t like I could just up and go to his place during the week when I had a little one to get to school the next day. So needless to say that relationship ended quickly, but at least I’m no longer stressing over it.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:42 pm

Leggs/Proff:

the only fun in Arizona,if u call it that, is eating.I dont know of anything else happening inside der.
There is one at Stn Crest and we been there 2wice or thrice.

Uall ladies luv some food….jesus!.
No wonder these guys wld prefer jus clubin,hangin out and kicking it. :lol:

Exepenseve uall :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:42 pm

My Supervisor is a Stupidvisor SMDH!

Miss Atl – If a dude don’t wanna come to Cobb cause of the Po-Po, you might wanna check his record!

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
12:43 pm

Melo unfortunately the leak is not related to storm damage or anything therefore we are having to foot the bill.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:43 pm

czBrat??

a leaking car???

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:44 pm

@Dream – You don’t date at church, you just meet them there! lol

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
12:44 pm

I’ve gone to Arizona’s before on a Friday night and it was packed. They had live music and even people selling things. I didn’t stay because that wasn’t what I was looking for that particular night. I will go again real soon since I won’t be needing a GPS for that location. LOL

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Melo I heard Arizona’s had live jazz on Tuesdays and Fridays

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Afternoon Folks!

Sporting events are great for meeting men. Just make sure you check the ring finger.

Melo – San Francisco only looked bad because of that beating we put on them. A lot of folks picked San Fran to beat the Falcons.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Yep SexyCool it is all Melo’s fault. LOL

The thing is I just so happened to be home today and find the leak. The carpenter came and covered it until he is able to get it repaired. I am hoping we will not have to replace the entire roof. He said there are some other areas up there that needed attention.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

the leak is not related to storm damage
RAQI:
tell the inshearance pple ##$^* :evil: *&*?/*&%$# their mama! :evil:

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:47 pm

@Dream I attend church but most of my bad experiences involve church people so I have never dated church guys before. I went out with this preacher once and he turned me off completely!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:50 pm

@Raqi listen to Melo about the “inshearance” people maybe it will work

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:50 pm

I once met a guy getting off the plane from Texas, the fight was so rough when the plane finally landed we both headed to the bar at the airport. He noticed me from the plane and he asked to buy me a drink and we started talking about the horrific flight and everything that we experienced during all the turbulence. We dated for 2 years.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:55 pm

Professor- AMEN on the Preachers – hard to date them.

Whats “inshearance” ?

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:56 pm

When I was in grad school one of my friends had a singles party and one year for Valentine’s day and NYE another friend did a singles party and both were a big hit. One in particular invite mentioned we all have single friends that we look at as a “brother” or “sister” which will be a good catch for someone so bring your brothers and sisters to mingle…we ate played spades tripped out and if a connection happened cool if not you at least had fun. The hostess also had everyone to do an intro in the beginning it was real cool…I have been debating on throwing one of these get togethers but I am on the fence

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:57 pm

@ Professor

I’ve seen relationships develop in the church amongst the congregation and sometimes its just not pretty… I think I’m on the fence about that one given what I’ve seen..

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:59 pm

on the fence

You were reading my mind ..lol

That idea for a party sounds like a good idea…

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:00 pm

Dream and Professor – Especially if he already has several women in the congregation.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:00 pm

Lurkerette/Dream- I have seen good church folks scrub the ground and take the prestigious cuss-er of the year award when the relationship does not work out. I am not trying to do all of that…

“inshearance” = insurance

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

i’ve heard those parties referred to as ’swap meets’. meet someone else’s buddy & swap out the one you brought.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

What about the men who do come to you; UPS Dude, Cable Guy, Next door neighbor, Repairman, Roofer, Mailman.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

Lurkerette…YESSSS I have seen that happen too many women or ex-women in the congregation…a hot mess

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:04 pm

Kroger and Publix ;-)

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:06 pm

Next door neighbor

lol…

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:06 pm

Cz – okay on the swap tip, just hope girlfriend does not get mad when really falls for you. I would put a disclaimer on that party. “Don’t bring anybody that you have slept with”.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

Ballroom dance classes, Latin dance classes for fire ;-)

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

I do not date any man that comes to my house such as the roofer, mailman, cable guy etc. I’ve had a stalker before and I don’t want to get involve with the “crazy man,” and he already know where I stay. Plus I had my car serviced before and one of the Techs called my house leaving messages about my brakes were bad…well nothing was wrong he just wanted to take me out and used that as an excuse…so I am skeptical with those guys. It would be cool if I met one at the mall or a friends house just not mine

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:08 pm

Imma Publix type of girl – I’ve seen men that I think are single hangin around the chick that cooks those one dish meals.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:08 pm

@czBrat the parties like that I have gone to were nice…no pressure and I even met folks just to hang out with in general so that was cool. Good people…good drinks…good fun.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:09 pm

At Neyland Stadium this weekend wearing red and black and I in my orange being gracious in victory ;-)

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

you aint lying Randy. chick can scoot to Kroger or Wally-world looking a dang mess & some dude will still try to put you in his cart.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

Off topic: Does anyone know how to make some good chicken and dumplings? If so tell me what you can or give me some tips I am craving some, but I have never made them before…I have an idea, but I want to make sure.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

@ Lurkerette I’m the one coincidentally getting in line behid the hottie with no ring and asking her opinion on her food choices ;-) .

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:11 pm

@Professor, the toothless attendee could have been filling in for someone. Aww hell, I was about to say let’s give the parking lot a chance because they were directing us where to park, leaving me with the idea that the other parking lot might be full. But inside there must have been 25 people. Who builds a new establishment in 2009 and leave the parking lot undone? Nonetheless, the music was on and popping.

Why you gotta give me a report, why can’t I join you….J/K!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:11 pm

Professor – I see you point, once they know where you live you become vulnerable. But I aint gone lie I’ve seen some fine UPS men.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:13 pm

“Don’t bring anybody that you have slept with”.
LMAO…my crowd is pretty classy no one did that if they did it never came out, but you are right and that is funny! No leftovers please…LMAO I will add that to the list if I have one.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:13 pm

Lurkerette add … make sure the person you bring knows WHY you’re bringing them. don’t have them thinking you two are on a date!

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
1:14 pm

Kroger and Publix

Yeah RandyT we know most of you all are there just to thump, squeeze and check out the melons.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:17 pm

@ Raqi

You just said a mouthful ;-)

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:18 pm

@Leggs Why you gotta give me a report, why can’t I join you….J/K!

I will let you know if I go, but promise me this you are sane and do not have any motives…no playing on my phone or setting me up to get info on anyone else. If you pass that test you can roll! I heard the food there is on point…speaking of food I will be back let me dash out to lunch

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:19 pm

@Professor – you just never know
@Cz – LMAO – I can just see it now, dude thinks he is on a date, but you been trying to get rid of his tale for over a month, so you take him to a swap meet. Too Funny!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:19 pm

czBrat

Lurkerette add … make sure the person you bring knows WHY you’re bringing them. don’t have them thinking you two are on a date

Holla let them know you are bringing them to pawn off! Ya’ll are cracking me up…let me go find some lunch

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:20 pm

Seriously, what has worked well for me is going to places there are women, but men tend to avoid. Supermarkets, Wally World, laundromats in my poorer days, eHarmony early on. Men as a group leave bigger holes open than GA’s defense did Saturday…well maybe not that big.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:20 pm

Tale should have been Tail.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:23 pm

Professor could take her mechanic to the swap meet. That should help redirect his interest.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

laundromats in my poorer days

Why is that funny to me.. :)

Okay ladies what about “location”.

How far are you willing to travel to maintain a relationship with a mate that has passed every test and was able to move every mountain you put in front of them… 10 miles 20 miles 100 miles, Where is the cut off?

Just curious

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

ohhhhh, Randy. that wasn’t nice. funny as he!! though!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

Hiking groups, bike trails, airports/planes/hotel bars (hey, I spend more time in Hartsfield-Jackson as I do at my own house).

Hopeless Romantic

October 12th, 2009
1:25 pm

Agree with Randy: Dogparks. Besides, those places are a lot of fun- even if you don’t have a dog. Barnes & Noble coffee shop is another good place.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

Cz_ Okay, new guidelines – don’t bring leftovers that even you can’t stomach. I’m bringing steak and you bringing hamburger? LMAO

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

Dream_n a year ago i would have said 25 miles. but i’ve since found myself heavily involved with a man who lives in Fayetteville (i’m talking DEEP in f’ville), and i’m way the heck out in Gwinnett.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

@Professor ~ that was funny. Yes, I’m sane, no motives. Well, I do have one. To meet cool people. Why the heck would I even touch your phone. No need to get info from you on anyone, I have the scoop on everybody! Do I pass the test? Your entire post made me laugh!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:28 pm

Let me rephrase, I have the scoop on everybody I wanted the scoop on!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:28 pm

Lurkerette you KNOW someone will do it! someone will bring the 40% lean hamburger they regret picking up in the first place and be real QUICK to snatch up your sirloin!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:29 pm

@Dream – Gas prices has made local (20 miles or less) dating more feasible. Plus long distance relationships bring on other challenges.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:30 pm

30-35 miles. Not a long drive.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:33 pm

Professor … when you return … you can email me at czbrat84@yahoo.com and i’ll send you a recipe. i’m no crazy stalker either! mine is a caribbean type dumplin’.

Down Lo Bro

October 12th, 2009
1:37 pm

The bathrooms at Piedmont Park after dark are a sure bet. Hartsfield Jackson bathrooms used to be great too. Lowes and Home Depot allways have some action too…

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:37 pm

I asked b/c I have a friend that went on vacation to Florida. She met a really nice guy (from what she tells me). She’s in Illinois. They’ve been talking every day.. sending emails..pics… and all that jazz…

I just don’t want her to go fall head over heels and it doesn’t pan out. She is not going to relocate at all!! Her home is chicago and her elderly father lives with her. She is hoping if all goes well that he will consider it. I told her not to get her hopes up to high, but I think it’s too late… I want to be the understanding friend for her, but not come off as trying to put a damper on this budding relationship.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:39 pm

DLB – I know they set up sting details in that park and in those bathrooms. Be careful.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:41 pm

Eved if you are Down Low, must you be Low Down?

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:42 pm

@Dream_n, it’s a budding relationship and, as a friend, you told her concerns. As grown people, they have to make their own lot in life. You need to be there to listen to her. Sounds as though she’s adamant about not relocating and if she goes in with both ears and eyes open she won’t be too disappointed if he doesn’t relocate. If they’re honestly communicating and not blowing smoke up each other’s behind, they’re be fine w/the outcome there will be no dampering of either one of their spirits. Honesty is a b…..but it can be your friend!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:43 pm

@Dream – After you have said your piece,you gotta let her have her dream ( no pun) just be there if it does not work. That’s a friend

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:45 pm

@Lurkette, DL’s post is just a spin on the adage “misery loves company!”

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:46 pm

Randyt

when u go to the parks,do u still see male dogs entangled with their biaatches when on heat and after a romp??

we used to luv that stuff when we were kids growin up.

If humans did that,we all wld be more content than we currently are :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:47 pm

Blog ladies DLB brings up another good point, what if you suspect your girlfriend is dating a DLB, do you tell her?

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:47 pm

and not blowing smoke up each other’s behind

:lol: :lol:

Dream_n,has he blown her behind yet??

coz after that,u may not factor that much….. :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:48 pm

@Lurkette, I would!!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:49 pm

Leggs/Lurkerette

Say your piece… and keep it moving…
That about sums it up!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:49 pm

@ MELO

Most are spayed or neutered (actually I’m fixed myself, hmmm)

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:50 pm

After I have asked the question and he has said no Im not bi or gay, I personally would take them around my gay friend and let him scope him out. Not everyone has Gaydar.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:50 pm

<Dream_n ditto Leggs & Lurkerette. Under those circumstances there doesn’t seem much hope the relationship will blossom, but none of us can know that for sure. Just be supportive and honest.

Sleepless in Atlanta

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

I am looking for a female companion but do not know where to look. If you are a smart, kind, and funperson, I would like to meet you for drinks, dance and/or dinner. I am single, educated, fun, and very loyal to my friends. I would love to meet a lovely female friend. I am socially liberal, enjoy good conversations and respect people who are not like me. I am going for a drink at MudCatz in Dunwoody at 6 pm tomorrow. I enjoy sitting at the bar with a good beer and a copy of The New York Times. I am about 6′ tall, with dark hair and slim.

Cemeeli

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

Hey again…more flood warnings…

@ Leggs – What a character, this guy in the report!

@ Melo- Are you being slick talk about the Falcon’s? They did their thing yesturday.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

Lurkerette

She prolly suspects it too… lmao!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:54 pm

@Lurkerette i’ll be the first to admit i can’t spot a DL bruh even in Piedmont Park after midnight. i’m no use whatsoever to my gf’s in that area.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:55 pm

Seriously, I have never understood the fascination for a lot of men for the whole bar scene. I just do not do well in that type of an environment…to much competition. After having said that, if a guy is a good dancer, he can look like the Pilsbury Dough Boy with acne and still get all the action he wants.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:56 pm

I am looking for a female companion but do not know where to look. If you are a smart, kind, and funperson, I would like to meet you for drinks, dance and/or dinner. I am single, educated, fun, and very loyal to my friends. I would love to meet a lovely female friend. I am socially liberal, enjoy good conversations and respect people who are not like me. I am going for a drink at MudCatz in Dunwoody at 6 pm tomorrow. I enjoy sitting at the bar with a good beer and a copy of The New York Times. I am about 6′ tall, with dark hair and slim.

WD – Check on It!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:57 pm

@Drean and Cz – Yeah, but some women go right past all the signs – for what ever reasons.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:58 pm

Sleepless in Atlanta

u seriously tell me u cant get play on match.com,craig,eharmony,yahoo personals,msnbc etc???

and sleepless…

i suspect u cant use ur navigation instruments properly.

CEE..i was trying to bring out the football crazies..they didnt bite.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:59 pm

@ Lurkerette

Gal I’ve been seeing and talking to’s ex husband had “homosexual urges”. I have not explored it enough to know what she noticed or did not notice yet, but will eventually make for an interesting conversation I am sure.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:00 pm

Sleepless – Do you have a hard time meeting women?

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
2:01 pm

That reminds me of one of my sister’s co-workers… This guy is screaming DL IMO… He has a murse (man purse) uses prases like B please and he even went to the Beyonce concert with another one of his male friends..but he’s married with a child on the way… If anyone met him there would be no denying. IDK what to think.. Maybe he could be taking the metro sexual thing a little far, but it’s just a bit much!

math1003

October 12th, 2009
2:02 pm

I would like to commend Hopeless Romantic for the sage advice…as an astrologer who specializes in relationship issues I tell my clients that timing is everything.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:03 pm

Randy – “Urges” Code word for tried it out and thinking about going back for more. Was that experience difficult for her?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:04 pm

I agree with Melo’s 1:58. If a guy can’t get connected in ATL he must be “looking for love in all the wrong places”. I read in an article about 6 or 7 years ago in the AJC that there were 350,000 singles ovr the age of 35 in Metro ATL. That is just one group.

Try Match, try eHarmony…take the time to really write a compelling bio that sets you apart from the otheres, not the same old “I love to travel, I love to play ALTA, I like hiking and nice restaurants”. Make it something original. There is always SOMETHING compelling/intersting about every one of us. It is not that hard.

Now finding that soulmate IS hard…but it is a numbers game.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
2:07 pm

and he even went to the Beyonce concert with another one of his male friends..

on its own,wld that be a no no??

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:07 pm

@Dream – Atlanta is full of Married/Relationship( to women) Gay Men. I love gay men, I just would not want to be romantically involved with one. Heartbreaking – Beyonce without her?

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
2:09 pm

I agree that timing is key.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:10 pm

Math – Do you think there is a better time then others to meet the opposite sex ex; during a full moon?

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
2:10 pm

Lurkerette

Yes, without his wife. I don’t know the circumstances as to why she didnt go.. (im sure i could get the excuse from my sis), but it just kinda boggled me…

Melo, carrying a murse going into a Beyonce concert would ring alarms to me!

idk it’s just weird, the whole relationship looks weird to me

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:12 pm

@ Lurkerette

Not sure what her experience was like. We haven’t gotten that deep yet. She only revealed it when I joked about my last two major relationships ended when the lady went back to her ex-husband. She then offered that I had no worries there and told me about him. I look forward to knowing more. She lives in another city but thinking about moving back to ATL, so we haven’t gone very far yet in each other’s stories.

Does make me wonder though (really not being rude here, am serious as a heart attack)…I wonder what her sexual experience has been. Most bi or lets just say it, gay males (men are either gay or straight in denial almost always) are repulsed at the more exotic ways of pleasing a woman. We are not far enough in to the relationship for me to explore what this might have done to her. I am trying not to be too graphic here, so I hope you can read between the lines.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
2:13 pm

@Leggs well you passed the test. I will let you know when I go, but I know it will not be this weekend and I will keep the crowd at a minimum since Melo said we will not meet anyone if we are in a pack…lol

@Dream I will drive 30 mintues that is one sitcom or one episode of the Jeffersons. Usually if I am cooking the my SO will meet me. I dated one guy that lived 45 minutes from me and he always said that he did not want me driving after a certain time…if something happened to my car etc. so he would always try to get me to stay over, or he would usually end up just coming to my spot.

@czBrat LOL we are not trading hamburger meat for steak or chittlins for ham…bring someone of substance…lol

Eved if you are Down Low, must you be Low Down?

OhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhWeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee now that was funny as hell and I almost choked that was beyond LMAO
YES I WOULD TELL HER

Melo

October 12th, 2009
2:13 pm

and why wld u be reading THE New York Times at the bar if u go there to meet ladies??
get off the newspaper and talk to some pple..hw u gonna even see the ladies who walk in and make eye contact if uall acting mr. educated??

Go to the club scene..if u who u say u are,and u look decent and easy on the eye,by the time u get out,u got multiple females all over u.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:16 pm

@Randy – yeah but I think that matters if they were born that way vs if they had a homosexuals experiences and liked it (some men can screw anything) and some well lets just say that would pose as a challenge along with the repulsion factor. If they were married, he may be in the first group.

M'

October 12th, 2009
2:16 pm

Now telling a gf that her man is a DLB is a precarious sit-chu-macion…if there is a good trust worthy respect for word and bond with the sis…then straight to the point is the best way…if it is one of those “you may be hating cuz you jealous” type of things (I do not deal with these kind of women), then I would leave her to find out on her own…and if she found out that I knew after the fact…then I would tell Kate…”yeah, but you wasn’t gonna hit me for hating…and silence is a powerful tool”…so, see that is why I do not kick with that ilk…lol

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
2:17 pm

lull in the weather. gotta go wet-vac the Q :( i’ll be back.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:21 pm

LMAO @ M’ – I would also say “girl make sure you using protection with dude” – I would have to throw that in.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
2:21 pm

Lurkerette

yeah but I think that matters if they were born that way

Born Gay??

Professor

October 12th, 2009
2:22 pm

and why wld u be reading THE New York Times at the bar if u go there to meet ladies??
get off the newspaper and talk to some pple..hw u gonna even see the ladies who walk in and make eye contact if uall acting mr. educated??
Go to the club scene..if u who u say u are,and u look decent and easy on the eye,by the time u get out,u got multiple females all over u.
DAMMIT I agree, I was wondering why in the hell you are reading that paper at the bar. The day is over the dow is closed you are looking for a bull to ride or a bear to tangle with. Leave the paper in your trunk. Now what are you going to wear? Leave the bowtie, suspenders rubix cube in the car keep the cufflinks on and try not to look so eager. Are you wearing cologne? Don’t put on so much that the bees are following you and women are sneezing, but put on enough to make you dazzling…well not dazzling but you get the point.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:24 pm

@Dream – Yes it’s true there are some people born that way. I’ve heard the other stuff, If you were born that way you can be born again” or what rally matters is who gets to you first. But I know a guy that came out the womb clutchin the pearls!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:25 pm

@ Lurkerette

It is different for women. I truly believe they can be genuinely “bi”. Men are almost always already that way, just have been afraid to admit it to themselves. I suspect that in most marriages between a woman and a man “with urges” there would be very little…well lets just say I doubt he would please her as well as he could/should and leave it there.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:26 pm

@Professor – He probably said that so the person will know it’s him.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:28 pm

I was wondering why in the hell you are reading that paper at the bar. The day is over the dow is closed you are looking for a bull to ride or a bear to tangle with. Leave the paper in your trunk. Now what are you going to wear? Leave the bowtie, suspenders rubix cube in the car keep the cufflinks on and try not to look so eager. Are you wearing cologne? Don’t put on so much that the bees are following you and women are sneezing, but put on enough to make you dazzling…well not dazzling but you get the point.

ROFL

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:28 pm

@ Dream n

men can be genetically inclined that way. I know that when I was a child I knew others, even before puberty, where there were signs already there for some of the ones I knew that eventually jumped the fence. You could

Professor

October 12th, 2009
2:31 pm

Lurkette gotcha but he need to make better use of his time…leave the paper in the car so he can mack! What if the blog chick does not show up and he is looking like Urkle(sp) with that paper all night drinking a scotch

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:31 pm

@Professor – Thats right, take him to school girl. You got me ova here howling.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
2:33 pm

uh huh. looking crazy holding that paper upside down cuz it’s just a prop anyway.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:33 pm

@ Dream n

i was working over in SC a few months ago with a knockout gal with a killer body who had been with her “life partner” for eight years, after being married for eleven years and a daughter. She never had a clue until she was approached by another female student when she went back to get her Masters. It just happened.

That is possible for a woman, but a man is always one or the other, not both. He just denies it until he can no longer deny it to himself. IMHO

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:34 pm

@Professor – Ain’t nothing wrong with a lil Urkle, but he better not have on no damn floods(pants).

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:36 pm

@Randy – That’s because sexually a man or a woman can do a woman, But if you aint got no dy ke you can’t do a man.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
2:36 pm

@Randy the situation you just described can usually be chalked up to frustration or disappointment from her last relationship with a man. a woman may experiment but almost always give men another chance.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:40 pm

Regarding the guy at the bar with the WSJ, I read the WSJ…but not when I am loking.

@ Sleepless You cannot expect them to come to/approach you always, somehow you have to put it out there. The best line of all is simply, “Hi, my name is (fill in the blank), what is yours?”, while smiling slightly shyly and extending your hand for a handshake. Then ask them a question, something simple about THEM. Just start a casual conversation, don’t hit on them if for no other reason than to have them wondering if you are going to hit on them. Just talk, be friendly…take it slow. My take anyway.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
2:41 pm

I am craving some freakin’ hot wings big time. I never eat those things unless my marido has them I may eat one. But I never “want” them per se to the point of actually just buying or making some for myself. But right now I could use a few. LOL

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
2:42 pm

****Disclaimer*** ( I am not trying to start a big controversy!!)

If you believe that a man/woman is born gay. Doesn’t that make GOD out to be a liar. (which we know he isn’t/those that believe in him)

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
2:43 pm

Last pickup line that worked on me – “I don’t mean to stare, but you’re beautiful.” LOL! LOVEDed it!!!

Melo

October 12th, 2009
2:44 pm

Sme of uall might need to start on that journey home right now so u get there in time,after navigating closed roads etc.

im glad im chauffer driven

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:46 pm

Raqi

Didn’t you crave hot wings the last ime you got pregnant? ;-) Might be time for a trip to the Wally World pharmacy…(JK)

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
2:46 pm

im glad im chauffer driven

Is that code for “I take a taxi”?

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:48 pm

@Dream – God Made man and woman and they were perfect until the garden of Eden. Even in nature you find species that are different, but it does not mean that God did not create them. That’s my final answer.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
2:48 pm

Is that code for “I take a taxi”?

marta bus and train driver!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:52 pm

@Sexy – The is a cute pick up line. Must guys don’t use them too much anymore.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
2:53 pm

HaHa RandyT. Don’t play. LOL

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
2:55 pm

Dream_n not to get too technical, but i read a study many years ago that a woman can suffer certain hormonal imbalance if she experiences great stress at a certain point during pregnancy. she ends up producing too much testosterone or estrogen and this imbalance (they deduced) might affect the childs sexual inclinations. if nothing else, it was interesting reading.

and, of course, every time my hubbs pissed me off i’d yell at him “do you want a gay child?!?!” … and he’d leave me alone ;)

i'm swiss

October 12th, 2009
2:56 pm

“If you believe that a man/woman is born gay. Doesn’t that make GOD out to be a liar.”

I so want to comment on that, but I’ll abstain — except to say that there some people who, without a doubt, have had those tendencies from the day they were born. I can count at least half a dozen dudes I went to school with who dated girls, even married girls & since have come out of the closet. And in each case, my reaction was, “who didn’t see that coming???”

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
2:57 pm

I guess the blog filter did not like that word I used in my last comment. Let me rephrase.

The best pick up lines were the ones that were simple. Not too cheesy and definitely not crude in nature.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:58 pm

Cz – thanks for the scientific explanation.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:00 pm

Raqi and Sexy – like – Heaven must be missing an Angel, cause you are with me.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:02 pm

@Professor, I wasn’t worried about passing the test. Just let me know when.

@M’, you’re right. Telling your gf that her man may be on the DL may open pandora’s box. However, the medical/physical repercussions that may occur because her eyes/heart are closed and your’s are open can be deadly. I would rather lose you as a friend (a form of death) if I had to than to lose you because you died from a disease. I would tell because as your true friend, through thick and thin, we got each other’s back.

@Melo, most days, my car knows how to get me home.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
3:03 pm

I have some special thoughts on the gay from birth and God’s part in it. Why does God get blamed for er’thang?

Every baby ain’t a gift from God. He doesn’t MAKE that babies. People do.

(And that’s about as deep as I feel like going into THAT.)

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
3:07 pm

Lurkerette or like:

“You are the reason men fall in love”. Just simple.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
3:07 pm

Lurkerette/Raqi – yeah…it was just cute enough that it wasn’t too corny and since I’d just gotten my hair done and was feeling my sexy…it made me laugh…and we started talking.

I ended up telling him, “Look, I’m actually waiting to meet someone. But I’m enjoying our conversation, and would like to continue it another time. So, I’m going to give you my number so that I’m not rude when my date gets here.”

LOL!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:08 pm

Raqi/Melo/Leggs

Where do you guys stand on the subject.

I’m asking b/c its intriguing to find out what people’s opinions are….

Melo

October 12th, 2009
3:13 pm

what subject??

M'

October 12th, 2009
3:14 pm

@Leggs

You knows I jes’ messin’..lol…I would tell any sister the truth…I am more committed to the highest good of the collective than the personal ego of the one…lol…it is a truth that would manifest anyway…shyte…I would tell the sister if the ole dude was one of my runnin’ buds…wrong it wrong.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
3:17 pm

Melo have your limo to pick me up.

@Lurkerette/czBrat something about that paper did it to me…I am silly so it doesn’t take much.

@Leggs it cannot be this weekend, but anytime after…

@Dream Time magazine did an article in the 90s which stated that a certain percentage of the animal population show gay tendencies. At this time I do not remember all the details such as who funded the study or the names of the researcher…a lot of water under the bridge since that time.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
3:17 pm

this from a guy who saw me, left, and came back with his sister-in-law to have her find out my status …. “I’m not usually shy, but you left me speechless.” can i get a collective “AWWWWW”.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:18 pm

@Sexy – Playa playa!
@Raqi – I really like that one. Im gonna ask my S/O why he never used those lines on me. Then again he can be about as romantic as a ketchup bottle. Lord help me.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:19 pm

Thanks Melo. Is the topic, men being born gay or turning gay, or possibility that women can turn bi after some time or is that God did not create gays so this is self-induced….what is the topic?

@Professor, no sweat. Just keep me in mind when you do. You know how to contact me

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
3:19 pm

aaaawwwwww…..

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm

Cz – AWWWWWWWWWWW daymn

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm

Professor

I’m just asking the question… This was posed to us over the weekend during our book club meeting.. Had nothing to do with the book we were reading lol, but a girl threw it out there…

I’m curious by nature and I tend soak up alot of information.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm

@lurkette, he got you didn’t he? Had to do something romantically to catch your attention.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm

@ czBrat

That was cute :)

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:21 pm

@Leggs – all that – every topic you mentioned, just pic one.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW, did you guys date after date?

@SexyC ~ did the guy call you back after you told him you would like to talk to him after you finished with you date? Was he impressed w/your honesty and sincerity?

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm

@ Leggs:

Nether lol… I was just asking about people’s beliefs on being born gay…

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm

Leggs- ole boy is sweet and sexy, just not romantic.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:24 pm

Leggs – He’s not the come here darling let me tell you something sweet in your ear, he is more like get yo azz over here and put on those pumps. LOL

Professor

October 12th, 2009
3:25 pm

I’m curious by nature and I tend soak up alot of information.

I know! I am the same way…:-o

I mentioned the research, but I did not state my opinion….I may keep it to myself

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:26 pm

@Leggs – You got me ova here in a hurry to get home! Dude handles me well!!!!!!!!!!!!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
3:26 pm

Leggs – He sent me a text later that evening. We are dating now. It’s only been about six weeks. But so far, so good.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:27 pm

Men are born gay and some women simply walk into being bi for various reasons. Even with that statement, there may have been an underlying dormat gene that activated itself after many years of hurt and frustration that made a woman seek the comfort from a woman!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:28 pm

Raqi and Melo – we might make a blog baby tonight!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
3:29 pm

LEGGS. yup. three years. then his job transferred him out of state. said he wanted to pass up the promotion to stay but i made him go.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:32 pm

Uhm – no wonder he picks out my shoes – lol

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
3:32 pm

LOL czBrat. That was cute.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
3:34 pm

Dream_n, No comment.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:34 pm

He’s not the come here darling let me tell you something sweet in your ear, he is more like get yo azz over here and put on those pumps. LOL LOVING IT! That’s excellent. You hurry home to your man and drop it on him that will have him looking at you sideways asking “what happened” and then drop it again and shut him up!

abc

October 12th, 2009
3:36 pm

“If you believe that a man/woman is born gay. Doesn’t that make GOD out to be a liar.”

We are all born sinners, it’s not a reflection upon God’s veracity.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:38 pm

@SexyC ~ I knew it, I knew it. A statement like that, honesty and being sincere about the interest even though you’re going to keep your word and go on this date, should pique any man’s interest! Good for you girl!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
3:41 pm

Leggs – He told me this past weekend that my card had fallen out of his pocket. So, he called a friend that worked at the spot and the friend was able to go back to where he was sitting and find my card on the floor by his barstool.

I thought that was just as special as could be.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:42 pm

@Leggs – Yep I might have to drop it a 3X’s time and put him to bed. LOL

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm

@Sexy – that was sweet!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm

@SexyC ~ that’s even sweeter!

@Lurkette, you know what you need to do and how to do it. Just handle yours!

What is the topic???

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm

I thought that was just as special as could be

Yeah SexyCool. When they put in the work you really strummed their interest.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
3:46 pm

get yo azz over here and put on those pumps

Lurkerette;:

on satrday nite,i took a shower then slipped into bed to watch sme movie at the hotel.

Queen later on, came by my side,fully dressed and lay beside me. I was feeling horny… and i said”plze go take a shower coz i wanna phluckk yu tonite!”

she said “okay”,waited a minute or 2 and then burst out laughing…and said..

“u messed up big time”
:lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
3:47 pm

Melo – we might make a blog baby tonight

LOL. Imma let yall go ahead and do that.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:58 pm

Life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you never know what you’re going to get.

Or

You can’t hold melted butter

Why does those sayings confuse me..

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
3:59 pm

or You can’t have your cake and eat it too…

abc

October 12th, 2009
4:06 pm

Most boxes of chocolates have illustrations on the inside of the lid that specifies what each piece of chocolate is. You can hold melted butter in a dish. To eat cake, you have to have some.

And that’s all I have to say about that.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
4:06 pm

or You can’t have your cake and eat it too…

I know right, if I have the cake I am going to eat the cake esp if it is yellow cake with chocolate icing.

How can I eat the cake that I don’t have?

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
4:09 pm

What is the age difference between an older woman and a younger man that officially qualifies her as a ‘cougar’?

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:11 pm

Life is like a box of chocolate. Never know what you’re going to find. When you bit into the chocolate, it could be caramel inside…a smooth day, it could be nuts inside…a rocky day, it could be creamy day….a sensual day, it could be pure chocolate….a firm day where you stood by your convictions, etc.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
4:11 pm

i think they say that cuz if you eat the cake then you won’t have your cake. (???)

a personal favorit …. you’d cut off your nose to spite your face. yuk!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:12 pm

I think 15 years? But a cougar is anyone 40+.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
4:12 pm

It means if you eat your cake you will no longer have.

So can’t have it and eat it too. Either you eat it and it’s all gone or you don’t eat and still have it.

You cannot devour something and still get the benefits from having it. Once you eat your cake, you get your fill and pleasure for that moment then it comes out and it is not more.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
4:13 pm

about 15 years…and u cant be a cougar if u just under 40.

under 40 and over 33 is just a spring chicken :lol:

u know a spring chicken need a lil bit of heat to make her really delicious.Much like u ladies over 25 to 33,u need a lil more romancing to woo u.
Under 25 fermales,just buy her some ice cream and take her to the roller skate and u get the coochie :lol:

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
4:14 pm

Leggs – Just googled it – seems as if most sites agree with that…I’m working with only a 5year age difference. I’m good. LOL!

Raqi – I do believe that is the best breakdown of the cake saying I’ve ever heard. Applause!

Melo

October 12th, 2009
4:14 pm

Leggs,u and i are in sync…i see

Professor

October 12th, 2009
4:15 pm

Thanks for the cake explanation…so what happens if I have a few slices of cake…like the cake lady j/k

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
4:17 pm

Thanks SexyCool. LOL

Those are the type of little things that I know that I usually don’t let people in on.

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
4:17 pm

SCool – got yourself a tender!!! Don’t hurt him.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
4:18 pm

Don’t hurt him

:lol: :lol: :lol:

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm

Hey, Taz! Waving…me miss u!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm

Professor, then you didn’t eat your cake. you tasted your cake. no saying (that i know of) about tasting your cake. :) nice loophole!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm

40+ and on the prowl…big difference!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:21 pm

@Cz, I said something like that, but erased it. If she only ate a few slices, she’s only sampling.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
4:22 pm

Raqi

Never looked at it like that! See that’s what I’m talkin about that experience right there! lol :)

Under 25 fermales,just buy her some ice cream and take her to the roller skate and u get the coochie

Melo I so resent that statement lol

Professor : YOu so silly…

Professor

October 12th, 2009
4:23 pm

Ahh man just when I thought I was a cougar I have to wait until I am 40.

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
4:29 pm

SCool – Hey!!! I know you have some excitement planned for this weekend.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:29 pm

@Raqi, you got mail.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
4:32 pm

Melo I so resent that statement lol

not personal babey

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
4:35 pm

Taz – I’m going to keep it kinda simple.

All this week, I’m working short days and taking a Me Day on Friday.

Friday Night – Girls Movie Night or Girls Night In – we are either going to see Good Hair as a group or stay in and watch movies and get tipsy.

Saturday Night – Couples Partying – Dinner and Dancing – going to OSS.

Sunday – Church and football and a kiddie party at whick I have to make an appearance.

Let me know if you wanna hang out Friday or if you two wanna hang out Saturday.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
4:39 pm

Did anyone see Oprah with Chris Rock as a guest… There was this one girl that was offended by the movie. Although she hadn’t see it, she was really mad about giving away our “secret”.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
4:41 pm

I saw that show, but don’t remember that guest. Oh, wait. I saw the show earlier in the week. Wasn’t he back as a guest on Friday? Being mad about our ’secret’? Hilarity.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
4:43 pm

saw the ‘movie’ friday. i thought it was hilarious! sooooo much i didn’t know about the weave world. yeah. i think all the secrets are out there now. i had no idea about the “don’t touch!” rule. LOL

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
4:48 pm

SCool – I thought OSS was this past weekend. We were talking about going out this Saturday so we might have to join you guys. We’ve never gone dancing and I feel like shaking my tailfeather.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
4:48 pm

SexyCool
Yes he came back on again. It was pure comedy! I was trying to understand why she was so upset, but just couldn’t grasp it… lol

The weave world in other countries is kinda sad :(

Mo (aka Moeisha)

October 12th, 2009
4:49 pm

Afternoon All!

Hope everyone had a great weekend! AT&T is working a sistah so I will talk with you all tomorrow, hopefully! :smile:

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
4:54 pm

Dream_n – Sybil on the TJMS said she was upset that he revealed the ’secret’ too. I haven’t seen the movie but I want to.

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
4:55 pm

Hi Mo! Bye Mo! :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
4:56 pm

Good night everyone!

Speaking about chocolate, here’s what confuses me:

How does a two-pound box of chocolate and make a person gain five pounds. ~ deciated to Dream_n.

Hopefully no one will have to get out boat and oar to get home. Be safe and pay attention!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
5:00 pm

i’m just guessing, but i would assume anyone being upset about the ’secrets’ getting out are the chicks who really want onlookers to believe it’s their own natural hair. i, for one, could not BELIEVE the costs of these services!! i would never guess the average woman could find that kinda $$$$ to afford store-bought hair AND its upkeep.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
5:00 pm

Hopefully no one will have to get out boat and O to get home

:lol: :lol: :lol:

yeah,some females have big ones! :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
5:01 pm

You are so twisted!!!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
5:02 pm

Tazzee I have yet to see it either, but I would like to.. Prolly this weekend!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
5:03 pm

Leggs

I’ll get back to you on that one.. :)

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
5:04 pm

Have a great evening folks!!!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
5:10 pm

Riding around in a hoopty, broke as hell with a fiyah ass weave that she just got off layaway….

smdh….

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
5:15 pm

LOL. or she’s lookin fly on someone else’s dime. they spoke to some men who pay for the beauty but are not allowed to mess with it. chick wont go anywhere she might get wet or sweat, so dude’s just plan their lives accordingly.