Location, Location, Location
I don’t know how to explain it but I call it the Panera Hottie Phenomenon. In the last couple of weeks, whenever I go in to a Panera Bread restaurant, I always spot a great looking guy. Not only is he great looking but he catches my eye in that “he could be my boo” kind of way. It’s like the guy is literally in Panera bread waiting for me to walk in!
I firmly believe that where you reside, spend time, or hang out has a tremendous impact on who you meet and date. If you find that these locations are not working for you, it’s time you shake things up! Go to a different part of your side of town, visit friends in their area, volunteer for a different organization.
Where do you spot the best potential dates? Where are the people who want a relationship congregating? Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?
When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone. She thinks that if it’s meant to be, then things will align and fall into place on it’s own. What do you think? Is it better to leave it to chance or should we lend fate a hand?
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321 comments Add your comment
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm
Cz – AWWWWWWWWWWW daymn
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm
Professor
I’m just asking the question… This was posed to us over the weekend during our book club meeting.. Had nothing to do with the book we were reading lol, but a girl threw it out there…
I’m curious by nature and I tend soak up alot of information.
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm
@lurkette, he got you didn’t he? Had to do something romantically to catch your attention.
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
3:20 pm
@ czBrat
That was cute
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:21 pm
@Leggs – all that – every topic you mentioned, just pic one.
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW, did you guys date after date?
@SexyC ~ did the guy call you back after you told him you would like to talk to him after you finished with you date? Was he impressed w/your honesty and sincerity?
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm
@ Leggs:
Nether lol… I was just asking about people’s beliefs on being born gay…
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:22 pm
Leggs- ole boy is sweet and sexy, just not romantic.
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:24 pm
Leggs – He’s not the come here darling let me tell you something sweet in your ear, he is more like get yo azz over here and put on those pumps. LOL
Professor
October 12th, 2009
3:25 pm
I’m curious by nature and I tend soak up alot of information.
I know! I am the same way…:-o
I mentioned the research, but I did not state my opinion….I may keep it to myself
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:26 pm
@Leggs – You got me ova here in a hurry to get home! Dude handles me well!!!!!!!!!!!!
SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising
October 12th, 2009
3:26 pm
Leggs – He sent me a text later that evening. We are dating now. It’s only been about six weeks. But so far, so good.
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:27 pm
Men are born gay and some women simply walk into being bi for various reasons. Even with that statement, there may have been an underlying dormat gene that activated itself after many years of hurt and frustration that made a woman seek the comfort from a woman!
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:28 pm
Raqi and Melo – we might make a blog baby tonight!
czBrat
October 12th, 2009
3:29 pm
LEGGS. yup. three years. then his job transferred him out of state. said he wanted to pass up the promotion to stay but i made him go.
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:32 pm
Uhm – no wonder he picks out my shoes – lol
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
3:32 pm
LOL czBrat. That was cute.
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
3:34 pm
Dream_n, No comment.
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:34 pm
He’s not the come here darling let me tell you something sweet in your ear, he is more like get yo azz over here and put on those pumps. LOL LOVING IT! That’s excellent. You hurry home to your man and drop it on him that will have him looking at you sideways asking “what happened” and then drop it again and shut him up!
abc
October 12th, 2009
3:36 pm
“If you believe that a man/woman is born gay. Doesn’t that make GOD out to be a liar.”
We are all born sinners, it’s not a reflection upon God’s veracity.
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:38 pm
@SexyC ~ I knew it, I knew it. A statement like that, honesty and being sincere about the interest even though you’re going to keep your word and go on this date, should pique any man’s interest! Good for you girl!
SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising
October 12th, 2009
3:41 pm
Leggs – He told me this past weekend that my card had fallen out of his pocket. So, he called a friend that worked at the spot and the friend was able to go back to where he was sitting and find my card on the floor by his barstool.
I thought that was just as special as could be.
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:42 pm
@Leggs – Yep I might have to drop it a 3X’s time and put him to bed. LOL
Lurkerette
October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm
@Sexy – that was sweet!
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm
@SexyC ~ that’s even sweeter!
@Lurkette, you know what you need to do and how to do it. Just handle yours!
What is the topic???
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
3:44 pm
I thought that was just as special as could be
Yeah SexyCool. When they put in the work you really strummed their interest.
Melo
October 12th, 2009
3:46 pm
get yo azz over here and put on those pumps
Lurkerette;:
on satrday nite,i took a shower then slipped into bed to watch sme movie at the hotel.
Queen later on, came by my side,fully dressed and lay beside me. I was feeling horny… and i said”plze go take a shower coz i wanna phluckk yu tonite!”
she said “okay”,waited a minute or 2 and then burst out laughing…and said..
“u messed up big time”
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
3:47 pm
Melo – we might make a blog baby tonight
LOL. Imma let yall go ahead and do that.
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
3:58 pm
Life is like a box of chocolates you never know what you never know what you’re going to get.
Or
You can’t hold melted butter
Why does those sayings confuse me..
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
3:59 pm
or You can’t have your cake and eat it too…
abc
October 12th, 2009
4:06 pm
Most boxes of chocolates have illustrations on the inside of the lid that specifies what each piece of chocolate is. You can hold melted butter in a dish. To eat cake, you have to have some.
And that’s all I have to say about that.
Professor
October 12th, 2009
4:06 pm
or You can’t have your cake and eat it too…
I know right, if I have the cake I am going to eat the cake esp if it is yellow cake with chocolate icing.
How can I eat the cake that I don’t have?
SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising
October 12th, 2009
4:09 pm
What is the age difference between an older woman and a younger man that officially qualifies her as a ‘cougar’?
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
4:11 pm
Life is like a box of chocolate. Never know what you’re going to find. When you bit into the chocolate, it could be caramel inside…a smooth day, it could be nuts inside…a rocky day, it could be creamy day….a sensual day, it could be pure chocolate….a firm day where you stood by your convictions, etc.
czBrat
October 12th, 2009
4:11 pm
i think they say that cuz if you eat the cake then you won’t have your cake. (???)
a personal favorit …. you’d cut off your nose to spite your face. yuk!
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
4:12 pm
I think 15 years? But a cougar is anyone 40+.
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
4:12 pm
It means if you eat your cake you will no longer have.
So can’t have it and eat it too. Either you eat it and it’s all gone or you don’t eat and still have it.
You cannot devour something and still get the benefits from having it. Once you eat your cake, you get your fill and pleasure for that moment then it comes out and it is not more.
Melo
October 12th, 2009
4:13 pm
about 15 years…and u cant be a cougar if u just under 40.
under 40 and over 33 is just a spring chicken
u know a spring chicken need a lil bit of heat to make her really delicious.Much like u ladies over 25 to 33,u need a lil more romancing to woo u.
Under 25 fermales,just buy her some ice cream and take her to the roller skate and u get the coochie
SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising
October 12th, 2009
4:14 pm
Leggs – Just googled it – seems as if most sites agree with that…I’m working with only a 5year age difference. I’m good. LOL!
Raqi – I do believe that is the best breakdown of the cake saying I’ve ever heard. Applause!
Melo
October 12th, 2009
4:14 pm
Leggs,u and i are in sync…i see
Professor
October 12th, 2009
4:15 pm
Thanks for the cake explanation…so what happens if I have a few slices of cake…like the cake lady j/k
Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill
October 12th, 2009
4:17 pm
Thanks SexyCool. LOL
Those are the type of little things that I know that I usually don’t let people in on.
Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!
October 12th, 2009
4:17 pm
SCool – got yourself a tender!!! Don’t hurt him.
Melo
October 12th, 2009
4:18 pm
Don’t hurt him
SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising
October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm
Hey, Taz! Waving…me miss u!
czBrat
October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm
Professor, then you didn’t eat your cake. you tasted your cake. no saying (that i know of) about tasting your cake.
nice loophole!
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
4:19 pm
40+ and on the prowl…big difference!
Leggs
October 12th, 2009
4:21 pm
@Cz, I said something like that, but erased it. If she only ate a few slices, she’s only sampling.
Dream_n
October 12th, 2009
4:22 pm
Raqi
Never looked at it like that! See that’s what I’m talkin about that experience right there! lol
Under 25 fermales,just buy her some ice cream and take her to the roller skate and u get the coochie
Melo I so resent that statement lol
Professor : YOu so silly…
Professor
October 12th, 2009
4:23 pm
Ahh man just when I thought I was a cougar I have to wait until I am 40.