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Location, Location, Location

I don’t know how to explain it but I call it the Panera Hottie Phenomenon. In the last couple of weeks, whenever I go in to a Panera Bread restaurant, I always spot a great looking guy. Not only is he great looking but he catches my eye in that “he could be my boo” kind of way.  It’s like the guy is literally in Panera bread waiting for me to walk in!

I firmly believe that where you reside, spend time, or hang out has a tremendous impact on who you meet and date.  If you find that these locations are not working for you, it’s time you shake things up! Go to a different part of your side of town, visit friends in their area, volunteer for a different organization.

Where do you spot the best potential dates? Where are the people who want a relationship congregating? Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.  She thinks that if it’s meant to be, then things will align and fall into place on it’s own.  What do you think? Is it better to leave it to chance or should we lend fate a hand?

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Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:19 pm

@Professor – you just never know
@Cz – LMAO – I can just see it now, dude thinks he is on a date, but you been trying to get rid of his tale for over a month, so you take him to a swap meet. Too Funny!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:19 pm

czBrat

Lurkerette add … make sure the person you bring knows WHY you’re bringing them. don’t have them thinking you two are on a date

Holla let them know you are bringing them to pawn off! Ya’ll are cracking me up…let me go find some lunch

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:20 pm

Seriously, what has worked well for me is going to places there are women, but men tend to avoid. Supermarkets, Wally World, laundromats in my poorer days, eHarmony early on. Men as a group leave bigger holes open than GA’s defense did Saturday…well maybe not that big.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:20 pm

Tale should have been Tail.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:23 pm

Professor could take her mechanic to the swap meet. That should help redirect his interest.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

laundromats in my poorer days

Why is that funny to me.. :)

Okay ladies what about “location”.

How far are you willing to travel to maintain a relationship with a mate that has passed every test and was able to move every mountain you put in front of them… 10 miles 20 miles 100 miles, Where is the cut off?

Just curious

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

ohhhhh, Randy. that wasn’t nice. funny as he!! though!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:24 pm

Hiking groups, bike trails, airports/planes/hotel bars (hey, I spend more time in Hartsfield-Jackson as I do at my own house).

Hopeless Romantic

October 12th, 2009
1:25 pm

Agree with Randy: Dogparks. Besides, those places are a lot of fun- even if you don’t have a dog. Barnes & Noble coffee shop is another good place.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

Cz_ Okay, new guidelines – don’t bring leftovers that even you can’t stomach. I’m bringing steak and you bringing hamburger? LMAO

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

Dream_n a year ago i would have said 25 miles. but i’ve since found myself heavily involved with a man who lives in Fayetteville (i’m talking DEEP in f’ville), and i’m way the heck out in Gwinnett.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:26 pm

@Professor ~ that was funny. Yes, I’m sane, no motives. Well, I do have one. To meet cool people. Why the heck would I even touch your phone. No need to get info from you on anyone, I have the scoop on everybody! Do I pass the test? Your entire post made me laugh!

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:28 pm

Let me rephrase, I have the scoop on everybody I wanted the scoop on!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:28 pm

Lurkerette you KNOW someone will do it! someone will bring the 40% lean hamburger they regret picking up in the first place and be real QUICK to snatch up your sirloin!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:29 pm

@Dream – Gas prices has made local (20 miles or less) dating more feasible. Plus long distance relationships bring on other challenges.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:30 pm

30-35 miles. Not a long drive.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:33 pm

Professor … when you return … you can email me at czbrat84@yahoo.com and i’ll send you a recipe. i’m no crazy stalker either! mine is a caribbean type dumplin’.

Down Lo Bro

October 12th, 2009
1:37 pm

The bathrooms at Piedmont Park after dark are a sure bet. Hartsfield Jackson bathrooms used to be great too. Lowes and Home Depot allways have some action too…

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:37 pm

I asked b/c I have a friend that went on vacation to Florida. She met a really nice guy (from what she tells me). She’s in Illinois. They’ve been talking every day.. sending emails..pics… and all that jazz…

I just don’t want her to go fall head over heels and it doesn’t pan out. She is not going to relocate at all!! Her home is chicago and her elderly father lives with her. She is hoping if all goes well that he will consider it. I told her not to get her hopes up to high, but I think it’s too late… I want to be the understanding friend for her, but not come off as trying to put a damper on this budding relationship.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:39 pm

DLB – I know they set up sting details in that park and in those bathrooms. Be careful.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:41 pm

Eved if you are Down Low, must you be Low Down?

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:42 pm

@Dream_n, it’s a budding relationship and, as a friend, you told her concerns. As grown people, they have to make their own lot in life. You need to be there to listen to her. Sounds as though she’s adamant about not relocating and if she goes in with both ears and eyes open she won’t be too disappointed if he doesn’t relocate. If they’re honestly communicating and not blowing smoke up each other’s behind, they’re be fine w/the outcome there will be no dampering of either one of their spirits. Honesty is a b…..but it can be your friend!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:43 pm

@Dream – After you have said your piece,you gotta let her have her dream ( no pun) just be there if it does not work. That’s a friend

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:45 pm

@Lurkette, DL’s post is just a spin on the adage “misery loves company!”

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:46 pm

Randyt

when u go to the parks,do u still see male dogs entangled with their biaatches when on heat and after a romp??

we used to luv that stuff when we were kids growin up.

If humans did that,we all wld be more content than we currently are :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:47 pm

Blog ladies DLB brings up another good point, what if you suspect your girlfriend is dating a DLB, do you tell her?

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:47 pm

and not blowing smoke up each other’s behind

:lol: :lol:

Dream_n,has he blown her behind yet??

coz after that,u may not factor that much….. :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:48 pm

@Lurkette, I would!!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:49 pm

Leggs/Lurkerette

Say your piece… and keep it moving…
That about sums it up!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:49 pm

@ MELO

Most are spayed or neutered (actually I’m fixed myself, hmmm)

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:50 pm

After I have asked the question and he has said no Im not bi or gay, I personally would take them around my gay friend and let him scope him out. Not everyone has Gaydar.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:50 pm

<Dream_n ditto Leggs & Lurkerette. Under those circumstances there doesn’t seem much hope the relationship will blossom, but none of us can know that for sure. Just be supportive and honest.

Sleepless in Atlanta

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

I am looking for a female companion but do not know where to look. If you are a smart, kind, and funperson, I would like to meet you for drinks, dance and/or dinner. I am single, educated, fun, and very loyal to my friends. I would love to meet a lovely female friend. I am socially liberal, enjoy good conversations and respect people who are not like me. I am going for a drink at MudCatz in Dunwoody at 6 pm tomorrow. I enjoy sitting at the bar with a good beer and a copy of The New York Times. I am about 6′ tall, with dark hair and slim.

Cemeeli

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

Hey again…more flood warnings…

@ Leggs – What a character, this guy in the report!

@ Melo- Are you being slick talk about the Falcon’s? They did their thing yesturday.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:52 pm

Lurkerette

She prolly suspects it too… lmao!

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:54 pm

@Lurkerette i’ll be the first to admit i can’t spot a DL bruh even in Piedmont Park after midnight. i’m no use whatsoever to my gf’s in that area.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:55 pm

Seriously, I have never understood the fascination for a lot of men for the whole bar scene. I just do not do well in that type of an environment…to much competition. After having said that, if a guy is a good dancer, he can look like the Pilsbury Dough Boy with acne and still get all the action he wants.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:56 pm

I am looking for a female companion but do not know where to look. If you are a smart, kind, and funperson, I would like to meet you for drinks, dance and/or dinner. I am single, educated, fun, and very loyal to my friends. I would love to meet a lovely female friend. I am socially liberal, enjoy good conversations and respect people who are not like me. I am going for a drink at MudCatz in Dunwoody at 6 pm tomorrow. I enjoy sitting at the bar with a good beer and a copy of The New York Times. I am about 6′ tall, with dark hair and slim.

WD – Check on It!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:57 pm

@Drean and Cz – Yeah, but some women go right past all the signs – for what ever reasons.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
1:58 pm

Sleepless in Atlanta

u seriously tell me u cant get play on match.com,craig,eharmony,yahoo personals,msnbc etc???

and sleepless…

i suspect u cant use ur navigation instruments properly.

CEE..i was trying to bring out the football crazies..they didnt bite.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:59 pm

@ Lurkerette

Gal I’ve been seeing and talking to’s ex husband had “homosexual urges”. I have not explored it enough to know what she noticed or did not notice yet, but will eventually make for an interesting conversation I am sure.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:00 pm

Sleepless – Do you have a hard time meeting women?

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
2:01 pm

That reminds me of one of my sister’s co-workers… This guy is screaming DL IMO… He has a murse (man purse) uses prases like B please and he even went to the Beyonce concert with another one of his male friends..but he’s married with a child on the way… If anyone met him there would be no denying. IDK what to think.. Maybe he could be taking the metro sexual thing a little far, but it’s just a bit much!

math1003

October 12th, 2009
2:02 pm

I would like to commend Hopeless Romantic for the sage advice…as an astrologer who specializes in relationship issues I tell my clients that timing is everything.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:03 pm

Randy – “Urges” Code word for tried it out and thinking about going back for more. Was that experience difficult for her?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
2:04 pm

I agree with Melo’s 1:58. If a guy can’t get connected in ATL he must be “looking for love in all the wrong places”. I read in an article about 6 or 7 years ago in the AJC that there were 350,000 singles ovr the age of 35 in Metro ATL. That is just one group.

Try Match, try eHarmony…take the time to really write a compelling bio that sets you apart from the otheres, not the same old “I love to travel, I love to play ALTA, I like hiking and nice restaurants”. Make it something original. There is always SOMETHING compelling/intersting about every one of us. It is not that hard.

Now finding that soulmate IS hard…but it is a numbers game.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
2:07 pm

and he even went to the Beyonce concert with another one of his male friends..

on its own,wld that be a no no??

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:07 pm

@Dream – Atlanta is full of Married/Relationship( to women) Gay Men. I love gay men, I just would not want to be romantically involved with one. Heartbreaking – Beyonce without her?

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
2:09 pm

I agree that timing is key.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
2:10 pm

Math – Do you think there is a better time then others to meet the opposite sex ex; during a full moon?