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Location, Location, Location

I don’t know how to explain it but I call it the Panera Hottie Phenomenon. In the last couple of weeks, whenever I go in to a Panera Bread restaurant, I always spot a great looking guy. Not only is he great looking but he catches my eye in that “he could be my boo” kind of way.  It’s like the guy is literally in Panera bread waiting for me to walk in!

I firmly believe that where you reside, spend time, or hang out has a tremendous impact on who you meet and date.  If you find that these locations are not working for you, it’s time you shake things up! Go to a different part of your side of town, visit friends in their area, volunteer for a different organization.

Where do you spot the best potential dates? Where are the people who want a relationship congregating? Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.  She thinks that if it’s meant to be, then things will align and fall into place on it’s own.  What do you think? Is it better to leave it to chance or should we lend fate a hand?

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Leggs

October 12th, 2009
12:21 pm

Off topic ~ ~ ~ An example of a “young” male who is very, very selfish!!

A man gropes nurse who was helping delivering his baby, Associated Press 5:49 a.m. Monday, October 12, 2009

Ogden, Utah — Ogden police have arrested a Bountiful man for allegedly groping a nurse who was helping the woman who was in labor with his child. Ogden police Lt. Loring Draper says 30-year-old Adam Jay Manning brought a pregnant woman to a hospital early Friday.

The Salt Lake Tribune reported on its Web site that Manning allegedly made a comment about how cute the nurse was who came to help the couple. Draper says he then allegedly told the nurse something looked wrong with her neck and attempted to massage it before grabbing her breast. The nurse pushed Manning away and reported the incident to police. He was arrested on suspicion of felony forcible sexual abuse and missed the birth of the child. Draper says it’s unclear whether the woman who gave birth is married to Manning or is a girlfriend.

DUMB ARSE MEN…EVEN ON A MOMENTOUS DAY AS THE BIRTH OF YOUR CHILD YOU EYEING ANOTHER AND CAN’T MUSTER ENOUGH RESTRAINT TO RESPECT THE SITUATION…TRIPLE PIMP SLAP TO HIM!!!!!!

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:23 pm

Raqi,

Allstate is paying 2500 to repair one side of my roof due to a leak in the kitchen.
Jus as well,i been paying them inshereeence for the past 10 yrs,neva claimed none.

Miss Single in Metro Atlanta

October 12th, 2009
12:24 pm

I think when you begin dating or seeing someone on a consistent basis, location does have a lot do with with convenience and accessiblity to to that person and vice versa. I know from my own personal experience when I lived in Cobb County, I’d recall a couple of brothas indicating because I lived in Cobb, it would be hard for them to drive into the area because they felt they would be profiled and easily stopped by the police. In hindsight, that may have been used as excuse, if they weren’t interested, but then again, I now understand the notion of ITP(inside the perimeter) or OTP (outside the perimeter). Not saying it’s any better driving and being profile in any other county within Metro Atlanta, now that I have my own home and reside in Dekalb, basically dating still has to fit into your schedule aside from work, school, social and business activites, if applicable, and from personal experience, if he’s about 10-15 minute drive away from the house, then let the dating begin. I’d be willing to meet and greet someone in Atlatna, however, I’d just hope he lives along the I-20 corridor and close to a Wal-Mart, for a quick me up for groceries so I can cook up a meal if I’m enroute to his place or vice versa!

I admit, location, location, location is a factor for me.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
12:28 pm

Raqi – It is Melo’s fault your roof is leaking. He brought that bad karma by talking about love and leaky roofs last week. ~teasing~

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:30 pm

@SexySthernBelle I was wondering if you attend New Birth? The reason I ask is because I hear them mentioning the singles ministry but I am not sure if it is worth it…I never date at church. I was wondering if you had tried it if you attend New Birth.

@Leggs Toothless attendee in restroom, which I think was a small facility, and a gravel parking lot. <—- I am NOT going I hate the dust from the gravel parking lots and the tootless attendee scares me

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Leggs I heard AZ was cool to me and two friends were suppose to go, but that deteriorated…maybe we will plan again. If I go I will give you a report.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
12:37 pm

guess what Raqi the seal in my sunroof is worn & i have a leak in my car:( 12 straight hours of rain …NOT GOOD!

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:41 pm

I never date at church

But I thought that’s where all the “good men” are…. Prof… lol

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
12:41 pm

@ Professor No I don’t attend New Birth and never tried any singles ministries at any church. Not sure if I would like that too much, but may give that a try as well one of these days.

@ Miss Single in Metro Atlanta I Understand exactly what you are saying. I dated a guy that lived about 30 to 40 minutes away from me. We were definately feeling each other, but the distance really caused an issue in our relationship. Plus I’m a single mom and it wasn’t like I could just up and go to his place during the week when I had a little one to get to school the next day. So needless to say that relationship ended quickly, but at least I’m no longer stressing over it.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:42 pm

Leggs/Proff:

the only fun in Arizona,if u call it that, is eating.I dont know of anything else happening inside der.
There is one at Stn Crest and we been there 2wice or thrice.

Uall ladies luv some food….jesus!.
No wonder these guys wld prefer jus clubin,hangin out and kicking it. :lol:

Exepenseve uall :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:42 pm

My Supervisor is a Stupidvisor SMDH!

Miss Atl – If a dude don’t wanna come to Cobb cause of the Po-Po, you might wanna check his record!

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
12:43 pm

Melo unfortunately the leak is not related to storm damage or anything therefore we are having to foot the bill.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:43 pm

czBrat??

a leaking car???

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:44 pm

@Dream – You don’t date at church, you just meet them there! lol

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
12:44 pm

I’ve gone to Arizona’s before on a Friday night and it was packed. They had live music and even people selling things. I didn’t stay because that wasn’t what I was looking for that particular night. I will go again real soon since I won’t be needing a GPS for that location. LOL

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Melo I heard Arizona’s had live jazz on Tuesdays and Fridays

Tazzee - Nice win Falcons!

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Afternoon Folks!

Sporting events are great for meeting men. Just make sure you check the ring finger.

Melo – San Francisco only looked bad because of that beating we put on them. A lot of folks picked San Fran to beat the Falcons.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

Yep SexyCool it is all Melo’s fault. LOL

The thing is I just so happened to be home today and find the leak. The carpenter came and covered it until he is able to get it repaired. I am hoping we will not have to replace the entire roof. He said there are some other areas up there that needed attention.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
12:45 pm

the leak is not related to storm damage
RAQI:
tell the inshearance pple ##$^* :evil: *&*?/*&%$# their mama! :evil:

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:47 pm

@Dream I attend church but most of my bad experiences involve church people so I have never dated church guys before. I went out with this preacher once and he turned me off completely!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:50 pm

@Raqi listen to Melo about the “inshearance” people maybe it will work

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:50 pm

I once met a guy getting off the plane from Texas, the fight was so rough when the plane finally landed we both headed to the bar at the airport. He noticed me from the plane and he asked to buy me a drink and we started talking about the horrific flight and everything that we experienced during all the turbulence. We dated for 2 years.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
12:55 pm

Professor- AMEN on the Preachers – hard to date them.

Whats “inshearance” ?

Professor

October 12th, 2009
12:56 pm

When I was in grad school one of my friends had a singles party and one year for Valentine’s day and NYE another friend did a singles party and both were a big hit. One in particular invite mentioned we all have single friends that we look at as a “brother” or “sister” which will be a good catch for someone so bring your brothers and sisters to mingle…we ate played spades tripped out and if a connection happened cool if not you at least had fun. The hostess also had everyone to do an intro in the beginning it was real cool…I have been debating on throwing one of these get togethers but I am on the fence

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:57 pm

@ Professor

I’ve seen relationships develop in the church amongst the congregation and sometimes its just not pretty… I think I’m on the fence about that one given what I’ve seen..

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
12:59 pm

on the fence

You were reading my mind ..lol

That idea for a party sounds like a good idea…

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:00 pm

Dream and Professor – Especially if he already has several women in the congregation.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:00 pm

Lurkerette/Dream- I have seen good church folks scrub the ground and take the prestigious cuss-er of the year award when the relationship does not work out. I am not trying to do all of that…

“inshearance” = insurance

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

i’ve heard those parties referred to as ’swap meets’. meet someone else’s buddy & swap out the one you brought.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

What about the men who do come to you; UPS Dude, Cable Guy, Next door neighbor, Repairman, Roofer, Mailman.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:03 pm

Lurkerette…YESSSS I have seen that happen too many women or ex-women in the congregation…a hot mess

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:04 pm

Kroger and Publix ;-)

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
1:06 pm

Next door neighbor

lol…

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:06 pm

Cz – okay on the swap tip, just hope girlfriend does not get mad when really falls for you. I would put a disclaimer on that party. “Don’t bring anybody that you have slept with”.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

Ballroom dance classes, Latin dance classes for fire ;-)

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

I do not date any man that comes to my house such as the roofer, mailman, cable guy etc. I’ve had a stalker before and I don’t want to get involve with the “crazy man,” and he already know where I stay. Plus I had my car serviced before and one of the Techs called my house leaving messages about my brakes were bad…well nothing was wrong he just wanted to take me out and used that as an excuse…so I am skeptical with those guys. It would be cool if I met one at the mall or a friends house just not mine

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:07 pm

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:08 pm

Imma Publix type of girl – I’ve seen men that I think are single hangin around the chick that cooks those one dish meals.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:08 pm

@czBrat the parties like that I have gone to were nice…no pressure and I even met folks just to hang out with in general so that was cool. Good people…good drinks…good fun.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:09 pm

At Neyland Stadium this weekend wearing red and black and I in my orange being gracious in victory ;-)

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

you aint lying Randy. chick can scoot to Kroger or Wally-world looking a dang mess & some dude will still try to put you in his cart.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

Off topic: Does anyone know how to make some good chicken and dumplings? If so tell me what you can or give me some tips I am craving some, but I have never made them before…I have an idea, but I want to make sure.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:10 pm

@ Lurkerette I’m the one coincidentally getting in line behid the hottie with no ring and asking her opinion on her food choices ;-) .

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
1:11 pm

@Professor, the toothless attendee could have been filling in for someone. Aww hell, I was about to say let’s give the parking lot a chance because they were directing us where to park, leaving me with the idea that the other parking lot might be full. But inside there must have been 25 people. Who builds a new establishment in 2009 and leave the parking lot undone? Nonetheless, the music was on and popping.

Why you gotta give me a report, why can’t I join you….J/K!

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
1:11 pm

Professor – I see you point, once they know where you live you become vulnerable. But I aint gone lie I’ve seen some fine UPS men.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:13 pm

“Don’t bring anybody that you have slept with”.
LMAO…my crowd is pretty classy no one did that if they did it never came out, but you are right and that is funny! No leftovers please…LMAO I will add that to the list if I have one.

czBrat

October 12th, 2009
1:13 pm

Lurkerette add … make sure the person you bring knows WHY you’re bringing them. don’t have them thinking you two are on a date!

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
1:14 pm

Kroger and Publix

Yeah RandyT we know most of you all are there just to thump, squeeze and check out the melons.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 12th, 2009
1:17 pm

@ Raqi

You just said a mouthful ;-)

Professor

October 12th, 2009
1:18 pm

@Leggs Why you gotta give me a report, why can’t I join you….J/K!

I will let you know if I go, but promise me this you are sane and do not have any motives…no playing on my phone or setting me up to get info on anyone else. If you pass that test you can roll! I heard the food there is on point…speaking of food I will be back let me dash out to lunch