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Location, Location, Location

I don’t know how to explain it but I call it the Panera Hottie Phenomenon. In the last couple of weeks, whenever I go in to a Panera Bread restaurant, I always spot a great looking guy. Not only is he great looking but he catches my eye in that “he could be my boo” kind of way.  It’s like the guy is literally in Panera bread waiting for me to walk in!

I firmly believe that where you reside, spend time, or hang out has a tremendous impact on who you meet and date.  If you find that these locations are not working for you, it’s time you shake things up! Go to a different part of your side of town, visit friends in their area, volunteer for a different organization.

Where do you spot the best potential dates? Where are the people who want a relationship congregating? Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.  She thinks that if it’s meant to be, then things will align and fall into place on it’s own.  What do you think? Is it better to leave it to chance or should we lend fate a hand?

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czBrat

October 12th, 2009
8:52 am

GM All

scoping out an ideal location to meet mr. right would be a bit too contrived for me. i subscribe to the ‘what is meant for me will be for me’ philosophy. it’ll happen where and when it’s supposed to happen.

Hopeless Romantic

October 12th, 2009
8:53 am

Finding the “one” is all about timing. The right time in your life, the right time in his/her life to have a caring and fufilling relationship. I’ve heard many times that you find a soulmate when you aren’t looking. I just do what I enjoy which is go out with friends, volunteer, exercise, go to events…and if my soulmate and I find each other than great. If not, I still am enjoying life to the fullest.

BSandwich

October 12th, 2009
9:12 am

I agree, HR. Keep doing whatever it is you do. Don’t go out of your way to seek out Mr. or Ms. Right. They will come along…eventually. They might already be in your life and you just haven’t realized it.

Wings() - (Dodging Between The Raindrops)

October 12th, 2009
9:21 am

Good Monday Morning Bloggers:

Hopeless, I tend to agree with you….love usually happens when you aren’t looking for it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTndJHdKp04

Make it A Great Day!

happy

October 12th, 2009
9:23 am

keep doing all the things you enjoy but no harm in being proactive and giving fate a helping hand. shake it up a little bit. i did a little extra work and its been totally worth it!

ImAPeach404

October 12th, 2009
9:47 am

Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

YES!!!
I live in S. Forsyth and there aren’t ANY brothas hanging around here. And if I do see one, they usually come equipped with a wedding ring and some kids.

Casual encounters are my favorite… but my chances of that around these parts are slim to none. Actually, more like none to none.

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
9:55 am

When I suggested this to a friend of mine, she scoffed at the idea of doing something to increase her chances of meeting someone.

Well, if all you ever did was sit around the house, the only person you could meet is the mailman.

God helps those who helps themselves. There may be a divine plan, but you have to do your part too.

I do make sure I get out, mainly because life is to be lived to the fullest. And if I meet someone in my travels, even better.

Lately, I’ve been cooking more so I’ve been meeting men in the supermarket. The ones I’ve met have kids though, so I’ll be scratching “the supermarket” off my list of places I’d recommend to meet men.

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
9:56 am

Oh, and happy Monday everyone. :-)

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
9:59 am

Do you think your location is conducive to finding a date?

I totally agree…

Although I like the whole approach of waiting for the guy to come to you as it should be….

It’s great to go out to different locations to broaden your horizen. If you live in the “hood” you’re probably going to find the “hood” guys. Why not go out of your comfort zone and try something new:) Like minds do think alike, but opposites attract also!!

:)

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:01 am

Yeah…geographical location has some bearing…I decided GA was not IT 23 years ago…hehehe.

But, I do subscribe to the theory that something that is meant to happen will…there is something about the unpredictable bur preordained UNIVERSE that manifest by the WILL of what will be…even if we are not immediately aware but still have some way of “knowing”…to quote Faulkner from “Light of August”…”Memory has a way of knowing before believing exist.”

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
10:05 am

Good morning everyone!

Your location is key to meeting people. Although you can meet men anywhere, the availability of available men does rests on your location. Heck, where I live there’s nothing there. Dugan’s, Dugan’s and more Dugan’s! The clientele is the same all week, month year long!

I think one can find a man quicker when she’s not actively looking for one! Everything happens in due course, but you can’t live under a rock wishing and hoping!

Diehard ATL Fan

October 12th, 2009
10:08 am

I generally try AJC blogs for single lay-deeez! :-)

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:09 am

Yes location matters a lot. Especially when you are aiming to meet a certain type of someone.

A lot of places now are known to be the trendy locales. They are places such as Panera, Two Urban Licks, fancy coffee shops where you are likely to find the bluetooth adorning, laptop carrying, blackberry thumbing, urban outfitters wearing in the “now” type of crowds. Which are doubling now as the find a date scenes.

There is nothing wrong with that, other than the frustration that I get from not being able to find a seat at my favorite local coffee shop because the are all filled the “now” crowd just hanging sipping on the same cup of java for 2 hours just because. LOL

I tell you, you will not find your average beer loving, fly-fishing auto mechanic in such places. So yeah go where you can meet the type of people you want to meet.

It is all about location.

Lorraine

October 12th, 2009
10:14 am

I think it depends on where you go, how you present yourself, and if you are open to just meeting people. I have certain places that no matter who walks in the door I am not interested in getting to know you any more than the glance we shared. Gas stations, parking lots, shopping malls and Night Clubs. I think the randomness of who could be approaching you is so overwhelming not going to be in my favor for what I look for that I just close that door. If I’m in a bookstore and we keep bumping into each other, well looky there I already know you can read, or you know someone who would appreciate a good book, either way, a good thing. I have a girlfriend who will exchange numbers with a guy in line at a port-a-potty…she also dates losers consistently. I also think there has to be some openess to meeting people in general.

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

October 12th, 2009
10:18 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

No one is saying run around town hoping to find a man, but if you’re not meeting people during your normal routine (which is home…work…home for many), it won’t hurt to do something a little different.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:21 am

And it is so obvious when a person is in an establishment looking to get met and when they are there for what the place has to offer. Other than getting met.

We were at Home Depot Saturday and there was this lady looking at tile on the same aisle I was on. One of the HD workers walked up and asked us both if we needed help. I didn’t because I knew what I was looking for. She said no, she was just looking. Well here comes Mase down the aisle and she stopped him ‘excuse me do you think these two pieces go together’. He looked at her with that I have no idea expression and said “I don’t know, ask my wife she is better at that stuff than I am’ and proceed to put some stuff in the cart. And the thing is he was not blowing her off, he really don’t care about that kind of stuff.

Now the person that could help her offered but she said she did not need help. But the first attractive guy that walks up she asked his opinion. It is becoming such a trend now to seek out possibilities at certain places.

I ain’t knocking her efforts, but you know.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
10:22 am

high school and college..

why are uall kinda late in meeting pple??

Ray’s ambiance was nice,so was the lil bar and the jazz music.Nice spot if u got a lady u wanna pull away from her friends and romance.

The food??
mqew was on point.Over rated and pricy for the quality and portions,in ma view.

Uall wet??….from the rain I mean! :lol:

Merning.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:25 am

Three Words Daily – Find your motivation.

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
10:27 am

@ Fred G. Sanford, Jr

I totally agree with your post. There’s nothing wrong with putting a little extra out there if you’re looking to meet a guy. Hence… Match.com or any of those other match making websites. Those prolly wouldn’t be the typical/traditional routes to meet your mate, but hey it works(ed) for some…

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:29 am

hehehe @ARed
Lately, I’ve been cooking more so I’ve been meeting men in the supermarket. The ones I’ve met have kids though, so I’ll be scratching “the supermarket” off my list of places I’d recommend to meet men.

@Raqi

Now, I ain’t one to jump to concussions about peeps behavior…but her game was obvious…lol…and I like the way Mase handled that…got the point to her quick and emphatic like…cuz iffen ole gal really wanted some assistance then she would have accepted the HD clerks offer…truly…now, I have had people solicit my opinion about something or another in a store…fabric store, grocery store, clothing store if they believe I can offer a valuable opinion, etc…but otherwise, most peeps look for assistance with the staff on hand…well, except at Micheal’s where the store manager told me that they did not carry BEADING needles b/c he did not know where they were…lol

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:32 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

Very true!!!

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:32 am

melo – I’m glad you picked Rays on the River. I love that place! How did your weekend go (the PG version… PLEASE! :lol: ) What hotel did you wind up chosing?

i'm swiss

October 12th, 2009
10:33 am

Morning, folks. Hope everyone had a great weekend…

On topic: Location certainly helps, but the reality is you never really know where you might meet someone that rocks your world. I would say if you’re looking for a strategy, just get out & about, doing things that you really enjoy yourself, so that when you do meet someone, you’re starting off with at least 1 common interest…

Peach — You’re in S. Forsyth, too? You are right about that, you don’t see many shades darker than eggshell around those parts… :lol: Well, if you happen to see a super hot island chica with a nerdy-but-in-a-cute-way white boy, it’s probably Mrs. Swiss & I… :-) Funny thing is, I lived in Tucker & had to go all the way to S. Forsyth of all places to get my swirl on… :lol:

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:33 am

I agree that you shouldn’t HUNT for a man, but you should make yourself available to be found.

My new guy found me sitting at the bar at TGI Friday’s while I was waiting on someone who was late. I wasn’t looking for him, but I’m glad he was looking for me.

aggwitty

October 12th, 2009
10:34 am

Of course location matters. You will likely not find a church girl at a crack house. Oddly, you might find a crackhead at the church house.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:36 am

Ok I understand what WD is saying, and I have not read all the post so please forgive me if this point was made.

The Bible speaks on the man finding the woman, however if you are hiding under a rock or not active you will probably not meet anyone. I am very active and I meet guys when I am out, however I do not go out to meet guys. If I meet someone cool, if not that is cool to…I like being the pursued and not the pursuer.

Raqi...Feelin' like a Million Dollar Bill

October 12th, 2009
10:39 am

M’ yeah and I am not knocking her hustle but it is becoming such the rule now instead of the exception. If you just happen to meet someone at a certain place that’s cool, but now people are going to places outside of the single clubs, bar and lounges in hopes of meeting someone.

my list of places I’d recommend to meet men

I lot people have serious list that the purposely hit up to meet people. I think I told you all once about the guy I saw at Target on the cleaning supply aisle and he looked really lost and confused. When I tried to offer my suggestion he obviously took it as me trying to hit on him which I wasn’t and let me know he was taken. I was just trying to be nice and offer help. I wasn’t trying to get at him. But it is so common these days.

Sometimes when I make a late night Walmart run, which is the best time to shop there, you will see folks just kinda hanging around. You see them in like 3 different areas of the store and all they are carrying is a pack of batteries or something, just kind of looking up and down the aisle as the pass.

Melo

October 12th, 2009
10:40 am

The W on 14/13 and peachtree Ared…midtown

Niceeeeee! :lol:

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
10:43 am

@Raqi ~ I would have chuckled. Good game, wrong move. She felt foolish because she probably knew you heard when he asked if he could assist but said no. Now, a tall, nice looking man walks down the aisle oblivious to her she tries to put her foot out and trip him (lol)!

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:43 am

Melo I am glad you had a nice time!

AmazonRed™

October 12th, 2009
10:47 am

melo – The W…very trendy. Good choice. I liked the see thru mirror between the bedroom/bathroom. ;)

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:50 am

@Raqi

Yes, this has been an ever increasing viable option for meeting ppl…I have perused a few articles written about it in the last few years…offering suggestions about where to go, when to go, etc…so it is now very common to encounter ppl in various stores, etc. with the sole intention of being there to meet someone and nothing else…men popping into a womens’ department on the pretense of buying something for a mother, sister, niece, etc…women going into a hardware store, auto parts store, etc looking for a “needed item”…ppl in the grocery not knowing how to buy produce, find an item for some new recipe, etc…all of this crap is in the articles on “how to”…hehehe

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:51 am

Now the macking in HD move was too funny! I know she felt lame after that one…

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:53 am

My level of interaction is so dynamic that meeting different ppl is not so much a problem as it is that I am not often interested in general…if someone I encounter strikes my fancy…cool…but I am not looking in particular…never really have…it seems that I have always just literally walked right into randomly meeting someone who sparked my interest when I was least expecting to do so…viola!!!

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
10:54 am

I’m a single female that’s been in the “dating rut” for about two years. I am growing a bit frustrated because dating shouldn’t be this hard. I have run into some nice guys in my area, but we just didn’t click with one another. So I was talking to my male friend (who is married) and he said I need to get out more and mingle. Well since all my girl friends are married or seriously dating someone I am forced to go out alone. Well I am going to venture out next month once I get my GPS system (so I won’t get turned around so easily) and I’m going to run this town. Wish me luck people and give me some hot spots to go to around Atlanta!

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

Laughing HARD at running the town with the GPS! Guess you gotta know where you’re going to be in charge.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

Location maybe important if you are not someone who gets out a lot but even when you do, you can’t have that desperate, I need a man vibe going on either like the chick in HD. Men can smell it and your judgment can be off.

M'

October 12th, 2009
10:57 am

@Prof

Uh-huh…like she was stuck on F.O.O.L….what’s that spell?? FOOL (done to the finger gestures of COOL by Morris Day and the Time)…hehehe

Dream_n

October 12th, 2009
10:58 am

I don’t see a problem with people meeting potential mates outside of the norm.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
10:59 am

@M’ I like that one LOL now you just made that song stick in my head, but I am singing it in a remix FFFFFFFF O O LLLL what that spell…

SexySthernBelle

October 12th, 2009
11:00 am

@SexyCool Please don’t laugh at me. LOL Yes, a GPS system is a must for me. I am soooo bad with directions and the last time I tried to go out on my own I got lost for about an hour and gave up and went home. I need a GPS system, so I don’t end up just “joy riding” every time I plan to go out. LOL

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:01 am

I have a gf who will only go places based on man meeting potential and who judges how much fun she had based on the number of dudes that were there or that she talked to.

Needless to say, I don’t hang out with her often. I’ve been trying to convince her that she needs to just take her Fun (ala D&B’s) with her and quit tripping.

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:03 am

@SSB – bless yo’ directionally challenged little heart. So, you’re not from Atlanta, huh?

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:03 am

@Dream_n

I am not opposed to it either…IMO, I think one of the best ways to meet other ppl is to do things where ppl with common interest interact…volunteer work, etc…commonly shared interest make for a more viable option of engaging in a good-fit opportunity…and engagements that are more centered on a non-social interaction tend to be less “game-ridden” like the club and bar scene is rife with like old moldy cheese…hehehe

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
11:05 am

It always cracks me up when some women act like doing something extra is a bad thing. They work hard for cars, degrees, jobs, and everything else, yet they want to sit on their backsides and do nothing when it comes to finding a mate.

I think you got this wrong dude, I think is a matter of different approaches, some women don’t have to work hard to find a man, they just live such a full life that they are always meeting men.

This economy has re-introduced the “house party”. Great place to meet someone who you can get a good ID on. Almost every weekend, somebody is having something and it’s good to go out of your immediate circle.

Leggs

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

@SexySthernBelle, I too find it hard to go out by myself, but realize this is something I have to get over. Perhaps we can go out together, but since I’m directionally challenged as well, we may find ourselves in Suwanee when we were trying to go somewhere else.

Professor

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

Hey Dream I am with you on meeting potential mates outside of the norm, but my thing is do not go to the ASO and meet someone and you know you hate Mozart. Better yet you go to the park and meet someone but you hate outdoors. I see people go outside the box, yet they meet someone and really don’t care for the place they met. IMO let the person know when you meet them if it is something you do not like or normally do…just say I am here to support a friend or I wanted to try something new…be honest because you don’t want to send a representative.

M'

October 12th, 2009
11:07 am

@SexyCool

She COULD be from here and still need a GPS…know several ppl who do…hehehe.

@SSB
Chirl…get that GPS and gets to rolling…cuz LOSt ain’t where you trying to go…hehehe

SexyCool...At about Cloud 3 and rising

October 12th, 2009
11:11 am

@M’ – you have a point. I know some people that are from here that I still have to give directions to.

Lurkerette

October 12th, 2009
11:13 am

My girlfriend met a guy on the internet who said he was a personal trainer and when she met him he looked like he had prison muscles. What a waist of a meet and greet!