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Love, Pleasure, Duty

You guys know how fascinated I am by the research studies! CNN recently reported about a study that was conducted to find out why women have sex.  Yes, this was the actual reason for the scientific research! What are the reasons women do it? They also explored what influenced the female sex drive.

After a previous study identified the 237 reasons why women have sex, researchers polled women to see which ones were selected the most.  The responses varied from love, pleasure, and duty.  Is that really all that different from men, though?

One of the researchers, David Buss said he found it surprising how dramatically and variably sexual experience seemed to influence feelings of self-esteem. I am pretty sure Mr. Buss would have already known this if he was a woman!

What do think about the study? Do you agree that women’s motivation for sex is generally related to love and commitment?  Since women are often referred to as the more complex gender, do you think that what women want out of sex is just as complex?

Guys, does your sexual experiences impact your confidence and self-esteem?  Do you think your motivation for sex and what you get out of it differs from women?

375 comments Add your comment

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
8:37 am

LOL

Before reading the “study” I will list why ‘Raqi’ has sex these days.

1. Intimate and emotional bonding (a lot falls within this category)
2. Love (It’s my gift to him)
3. Pleasure
4. It’s my duty as a wife (if you feel the need to ask I will elaborate)
5. For comfort/consolation (His and mine)
6. For maintenance
7. Boredom (I will explain that one also)

Now let me read the study and why other women are doing it outside of the obvious “Reproduction”.

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
8:39 am

[In my best Butt-head voice...]

Huhuhuhuh huhuhuhuh….. Uh… She said “polled”

Dan

October 9th, 2009
8:42 am

@Raqi

Please explain the “duty” part of it? she said duty…huhhuhuh
You’re one of the few that could explain it cogently.

Thanks

Les

October 9th, 2009
8:46 am

Men are biologically driven to crave sex. For men the sex drive is like a hunger or thirst. Men want to quench that thirst for sex. Men may have other supplemental reasons for sex, but there is without a doubt that urge that can be animalistic.

Is sexual desire like a thirst to women? I don’t know.
For women, I guess it has more to do with emotional elements directed to the total life experience, and not an animalistic drive.

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
8:46 am

Ha… my favorite quote from the article:

“A study from Meston’s lab showed a strong correlation between how erect a man’s penis is and how aroused he says he is. By contrast, the link is much weaker between a woman’s physical arousal (as measured inside her vagina) and the arousal she says she feels, the researchers found.”

Where’s abc? I’m sure he could provide the explanation for that phenomenon. :lol:

I conducted a parallel survey to determine why men have sex. My findings: because they can. ;-)

Pinky

October 9th, 2009
8:49 am

Wazup All…

I’m a new Cat to the blog. I read this blog all the time but rarely post…

Damn! Raqi, We need to meet up, lol

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
8:50 am

Good Morning and Happy Sexy Friday Bloggers!

Although I don’t put much credence in studies(their samples are usually not fully representative of a real cross section) I will agree that GOOD SEX can enhance life..period! But I will go further to say that even better SEX is accompanied by LOVE and a great RELATIONSHIP!

Fortunately, my self esteem nor happiness is not tied to the lack of Sex, because if was, I would have been in serious trouble during those dry spells. lol

Yes, women are complex at times, but don’t get it twisted sometimes the only goal we have is simple…satisfaction.

Have A Great Day!

Tyree

October 9th, 2009
8:52 am

In the case of ” The Real House Wives of Atlanta”. CA$H.

Nate

October 9th, 2009
8:55 am

Les describes it as well as anyone I’ve ever read. Men have dreams where we see a hot woman and say to ourselves, “Hey, this is a dream, I can have sex with her. And, we do.”

I had one relationship with a woman who seemed to have as strong a craving for sex as I did. Our first year together, we averaged more than once a day. Hadn’t encountered that before, haven’t encountered it since. She had a highly addictive personality. Perhaps she was addicted to sex, too. Whatever the reason, it was great.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
8:59 am

Happy Friday!

I am going to lurk on this one. At this time, I think I am still hyped up by President Obama Nobel Peace Prize win.

Once I am in the MIA thinking mode I will post something.

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
9:00 am

@Tyree – Although that does not apply to them all, That would fall under SEX for SURVIVAL….again not included in the study. LOL:)

Professor

October 9th, 2009
9:00 am

@swiss LOL on the butt-head voice

Reality Bird

October 9th, 2009
9:00 am

“Women are more (emotionally)complex…”

Now, I can agree with that.

While not all women desire sex as often as I do, and while they are more passive about acquiring it, the ones I have been with all prefer to orgasm just like me – multiple times if I can hang with them.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:02 am

Can I skip the study? I have had sex for all those reason. except Duty. some how I am not feeling that word at all. Yeah pretty sure that word bugs me. Duty. Ughh!!

By the by all of us make a committment to sex. “I am committed to having the big O, I am committed to giving him the big O, I am committted to getting this over with so I can go to sleep, study, wash clothes, get away from you..etc.

Liberal Duck Walk

October 9th, 2009
9:03 am

Obama contemplates increasing troop strength in Afghanistan by adding 40,000 more U.S. militiary forces.

Obama wins Nobel Peace prize.

See a pattern?

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:04 am

I will keep my opinion on the Obama Peace Prize to myself.

Dave

October 9th, 2009
9:09 am

I think it’s a variety of reasons and it differs from woman to woman. I have dated women who only wanted to watch TV and then get naked. Many times it was multiple times a day. She didn’t need a reason, a mood or a setting…all she needed was a place and she would make the time for it. Others had to wait until both the mood and the settings were just right. Once they got going, they were a wildcat, but it took them longer to warm up. A small percentage look on it as something for men to enjoy and women to endure. It’s surprising that a male’s perspective on himself as a lover depends on how the woman responds and behaves. I have experienced feeling like I was the worst lover on the planet, but then in another relationship feel like a porn star. It takes two to tango, though. Society states that it’s up to the man to arouse and satisfy the woman, because the man will get his regardless. What’s one person’s “get wild and go porno in the sack” may be just an average run in the sheets to another. Personally, once we decide to cross the intimacy barrier, NOTHING is off limits except for a third person. I just haven’t been that into that realm. The freakier, sweaty and adventurous, the better. But we as men need to also know that every woman has her own likes, fantasies and hot buttons and we need to warm up to them or miss the boat completely. And women, if you think your man is a sex maniac with suggestions that seem too on the edge, don’t blame us. Blame the woman we dated before you that seemed to be on the same page as us and relished it.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:10 am

@Kym

I won’t.

The haters can bite me.

After 30 years (my lifetime) of America starting wars and doing it because “we can”, we finally have a President that speaks of peace and multilateral global cooperation; instead of a fake azz cowboy with one finger on ‘the button’ and other in his ear/nose.

The groundwork for nuclear disarmament, a sitting US President speaking peace in a Muslim country, and a level headed (as opposed to “whatever Isreal wants to do”) approach to a decades old battle – why shouldn’t he win?

Whether he gets any or all of the goals accomplished, dude has a least changed the tone. No longer is it America first, last and only; but a world where we are adults about our national interests and leading by example as opposed to force.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
9:13 am

Please note that a pattern is a list of events, which forms a constituent arrangement. With all do respect you did not list a pattern.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
9:14 am

Quotes from the study:

“Genetic benefits”

“When a woman is sexually attracted to a man because he smells good, she doesn’t know why she is sexually attracted to that man,”

“men have a different genetic agenda from women – they want to impregnate lots of healthy women.”

All of that there ^ is just nature taking its course. Sexual desire is an engrained part of nature from our Creator. I just truly find it hilarious when research like this is done to try to decode or dissect something that just is what it is. The true scientific reason for sex is to make babies. Period.

I am LMBO at some of the reason given like to purposely give an STD, to get revenge, etc.

Now this one here: To Mate Guard – Women regularly have sex with their mates to stop them seeking it elsewhere.

There is some underlying truth in that statement even when it is not an actual conscious thought. Sex is a natural desire and if you are not giving it to your mate, he/she just may seek it elsewhere. That’s a no-brainer.

Women also mate to get the things they think they want

There is also a bit of truth there ^. Sex should never be used to bargain or manipulate your mate. That is just cruel and childish. But we all know a happy husband is a more giving husband. That’s just the truth. I don’t think there are too many men out there buying their women “the world” and their penises are dry as the Sahara desert. I mean, you know.

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
9:19 am

GM All!

@Swiss 8:39 Thanx for starting my Friday with a good belly laugh!

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:19 am

Raqi

Please tell me you not you just admitted to using sex to “get stuff”.

Not today, Rock, not today

Bob from Accounttemps

October 9th, 2009
9:21 am

Why? Because I’m THAT good! Accountants don’t always do it by the numbers.

Mensch59

October 9th, 2009
9:21 am

Why do some women like Chinese Food? Because it tastes good, it is satisfying and they like it. Cant’ they feel the same way about sex?? It feels good, it is satisfying in many different ways, and they like it.
It seems like these types of “studies” begin with the premise that women do not really like sex but do it for reasons other than the simple enjoyment of it.

JIMBOB

October 9th, 2009
9:21 am

Dan,

You are clueless. The US has been fighting for and establishing one sharia puppet regime after anohther for 30 years. This isn’t ‘pro Israel’ policy and it’s not done because ‘Israel wants us to do it’.

Obama is a slave of the US State Department, a warmongering big-lie fascist just like his predecessors. So far he has been just another US government salesman for the genocidal nazi allied ideology of Islamic leader hajj amin al husseini, concentration camp runner that killed hundreds of thousands of Christians, Roma, and Jews during WWII.

When the Persians called out to the US and Israel to rescue them from the mullhas, Obama supported the mullahs–and Israel was powerless to intervene. He’s not pro-democracy, he’s pro ’subjugation of foreign people’ which is why he so easily gets you to hate actual democracies–like Israel, and so easily gets you to believe in Jewish conspiracy theory. Leaders like him have no problem getting gullible people to believe all kinds of lies.

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
9:22 am

@Kym – Duty may come into play if you are married or in a cohabitation relationship……there are days that you submit to his will………

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
9:22 am

I just truly find it hilarious when research like this is done to try to decode or dissect something that just is what it is.

Exactly! Could that study $$$ have gone toward something more productive?

Mr. WhatDoIKnow

October 9th, 2009
9:24 am

Dan:

The window for consideration for the Peace Prize closed two weeks after PrezBo took office. This says volumes about the Nobel nominations and awards.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:24 am

@jimbob

Like I said:

Deese!

I’m not debating. I said my peace and I’m done.

Again: Deese

mytw♥tatas WWMy2D?

October 9th, 2009
9:25 am

I may have to breakdown and click thru on this link. Cuz I think there’s a laundry list of reasons why we be doin’ it and doin’ it and doin’ it well… then there’s likely a shorter list of why we actually should be doin’ it and doin’ it and doin’ it well…

LES I think all humans crave it and have that kind of primal instinct. But out of the two, maybe (overall) women just don’t pursue every opportunity presented them… which is like #3 on my “Why We Doin’ It list: Sexin’ just to prove you can.

If the amount/frequency of sexin was a direct correlation to one’s self esteem, then I’m gonna walk on the flip side and say if anything – high frequency presents a sense of FALSE confidence. It takes a stronger sense of self to endure…yes, endure without that particular extracurricular. Ponder.

cto79

October 9th, 2009
9:25 am

I did not see where it says ” because they want it”. I do! Now ON to AFF

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
9:26 am

Dan both parties within a marriage has the right to sex. Even the bible says so. We are not to withhold sex from our partners. (From the bible it says: The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,… and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.)

That being said there are times when I do not want sex. No part of it. However, that’s my husband and I owe it to him for the fulfillment of his needs. So as his wife it is my duty to fulfill that need even when I may not want it myself. But it works both ways. He has a duty to fulfill as my husband for my sexual needs.

No, we don’t always give in when the other is wanting, but still as a married couple we owe it to each other.

Keenin

October 9th, 2009
9:29 am

“Professor” – what’s a “constituent arrangement?” (and it’s due process).

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:30 am

@Wings I have shacked up with a man before. I aint one for submitting to someone’s will.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:30 am

@Raqi

“Owe” as in a debt to be repaid? Really? “Owe”.

Usually, I’m witcha on a lot of the stuff you say (and sometime’s I play devil’s advocate), but ‘owe’? God help me if I ever find myself with a woman that feels like she ‘owes’ me sex, let ‘lone if I married her.

I just can’t fathom that…..”owe”….wooooowww

Been There Done That

October 9th, 2009
9:31 am

How do you make a woman quit having sex? Marry her.

Roscoe P. Coltrain

October 9th, 2009
9:31 am

I like Turtles!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
9:32 am

No I did not Dan. Reread my comment. I distinctly said sex should never be used as a bargaining or manipulation tool. However, I think it’s wrong when women want and expect their men to do for them and give them what they want and she is not giving him what he wants.

It can’t be one sided. We have to make each other happy. A happy man makes his woman happy. A happy woman fulfill the needs of her man.

maria

October 9th, 2009
9:33 am

I have sex for all of my own reasons: love, pleasure and because I enjoyed it with my husband. I give it to him when he wants to because I enjoy it as much as he does. I don’t think is a duty either. I love having SEX with him. I’m never too tired or never have a headache or should I just say “I never have an excuse” for him for not to.

Happy Friday!

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
9:37 am

@Kym – I felt the same way….before I fell in love and wanted to be present for him, even on days that I did not feel like it….the reciprocity came in when he understood.

Razor

October 9th, 2009
9:37 am

A friend of mine is a real bad boy. You know, sketchy, slacker, but an astute ladies man. I asked him why and how he is so popular with women. His answer….” What women like about me is…. that when I bang them, they stay banged.”

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
9:38 am

TwoLincolns I think it is a case of “boosting self-esteem” with a lot of men especially in their early years. The more notches they can get and brag about the higher their ego soar. It has nothing to do with love or any other feeling other than to feel good about themselves for their many conquest.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:38 am

@Dan

Ghandi-Said be the Change you want to see in the world. He lived those words. And freed a nation.

Martin Luther King followed his example and after countless beatings, and deaths set about change to bring dignity to generations who were shut out of a nation they help build.

Mother Teresa-Her work with the poor in the slums of Calcultta has left an impression on this earth that very few will even come close to following.

My point is that each of these people actually did something. Changing the f–ing tone? WTH does that mean? Any of us can change the tone of a room, a city, these people above changed the world, simply by acting. They actually worked. So what actual work has he performed other than getting elected President? Hell Jimmy Carter, Al Gore both have actually done something. To quote a friend this is just showing that the Kool-Aid drinkers are winning.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:40 am

Wings I loved the man I was shacked up with enough to have his son. Trust me I am not one for submitting to someone’s will.

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
9:41 am

@Kym – As a matter of fact, I remember having that same discussion with my sister when I was newly married and she sat me down and went to a bible verse in Corinthians on me….

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
9:41 am

Three Words Daily – Respect my sexy.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
9:42 am

I have sex because I like it.
And it feels good.

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
9:43 am

A freaky Friday Good Morning to everyone!

@Raqi…. I luv that comment of a married person should want to satisfy their mate! That is a excellent mental approach for a married person :smile:

Sex can stimulate your senses and emotional feelings to the fullest, but I am not sure it has anything to do with your increasing your self-esteem!

@Dan ….Excellent comments regarding our President!

@Jimbob…. Please take the negativity to the political blogs!

Kym

October 9th, 2009
9:43 am

Wings using the bible in a convo with me..yeah try Raqi. That is not going to influence, change or open me up to the idea of submiting. I am the one in this piece who believes God is Goddess.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
9:44 am

As to POTUS and the Peace Prize. (Yawn)

And getting a text about it at 610a didn’t help my morning start off on an especially positive note.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
9:44 am

Is sexual desire like a thirst to women

Les Yes, women do have a thirst for sex however it may not be of the same intensity has the man’s drive. We have a greater thirst for intimacy and that intimacy does not always require intercourse to be quenched.

mytw♥tatas WWMy2D?

October 9th, 2009
9:48 am

MENSCH59 And like Chinese Food, sometimes the act itself will only satisfy you for 20 minutes before you think you shoulda chosen to have somethingone more fulfilling… possibly #3 on my “Why We SHOULD Be Doin’ It” list. To strengthen the bond between you and someone you care about.

Maybe I won’t click thru, afterall. Hmmm. It’s a faulty premise for people to base women’s attitudes towards sex on the idea that we like it less.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:50 am

@Kym

Imagine for a second that you’re not from the US.

The only time you hear about America (admittedly through your given country’s government controlled media) is when it’s bombing someone. You grow up hearing that “America’s only concern is for America”.

Suddenly, there’s a President that says something like “hey, we haven’t always done the best things, we’ve made some mistakes, but I’m here to try and change [somma] that”. <— That's a shock. That's something you've never heard before. Maybe now you need to rethink this "death to America" thing you keep hearing about, if only for a moment.

That's changing the tone.

What does it do? It gives pause to would-be suicide bomber a brief thought that maybe "they" are wrong, maybe America isn't all that bad.

And you know what Kym, if only for those few seconds, I'm good with that; because maybe that's the first original thought that person's had. And maybe that will lead to more. And maybe make him/her less likely to do something silly.

And maybe it won't. But the possiblity exists now where it hasn't in your or my lifetime. And maybe that's worth something.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
9:53 am

To go a bit deeper on the reasons that I have sex:

1. He does it for me.
2. I want to please him in that way.
3. It brings me closer to him emotionally and mentally.
4. He took me to one of those other levels. For me, there are levels to states of arousal. Wet does not necessarily translate into aroused. (Trust, there are dudes out here who don’t know that.)

And I could go on…

sammy

October 9th, 2009
9:54 am

The only reason women need to have sex is to reproduce. Our human species depends on it! If all women got together and decided not to have sex, the human race would become extinct faster than the dinosaurs.

Warren Peace

October 9th, 2009
9:54 am

There was once a study done, and it was probably twenty years ago so the numbers are sure to have changed, that a man averaged twelve sex partners in his life and a woman five. Which sounds to me like both sides were lying. Well, at least I am above average.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
9:55 am

@Raqi

From a male perspective: it’s not “boosting self esteem” in the sense that the number of women you bag makes you feel better.

Sex with multiple partners at a young age does make a little more socialized (read: popular). It’s also a new relaxing feeling that, like any other drug, you want more of.

Wings() - I Fly Above

October 9th, 2009
9:59 am

Gotta Go………Peace and Love Blog Fam Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKaVBVikysw

Professor

October 9th, 2009
9:59 am

As a woman, at the end of the day I only care about why I am doing it and what’s in it for me (let me know if I need to elaborate before you jump to a conclusion). I am not married so I don’t “owe” anything. There is a false belief that women do not like sex, well some do and some don’t…others may have medical issues impacting the pleasure…not to mention all guys are not the headliners they think they are, hell some are not even back-up material. At the end of the day each female has her own reason(s).

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
10:00 am

I have shacked up with a man before. I aint one for submitting to someone’s will.

I think I’m with you on this on Kym… Although I understand all the quotes, verses people throw out… Some people know how to manipulate the verses/quotes to fit the scenarios in their life…

Happy Friday All!!!! :)

SEX is part of human nature, some do it to satisfy a need/become closer with a partner/get things/pro create/satisfy a person.

It’s funny how some think that woman don’t like sex (there may be some out there, but i have yet to encounter one). We enjoy sex, we crave sex, we want sex… but not necessarily with every guy we meet. Those of us who see sex as a very intimate act.. only worth giving to that someone special..may hold it in a higher regard than others. That doesn’t mean we dont want, its just that not everyone is privelaged to test!

OneFreeMan

October 9th, 2009
10:01 am

Every human crave sex until they become impotent. Men and women desire sex equally. Society has placed so many taboos on sex until Americans are totally confused about when, how and with whom to have sex.

Humans were created to have sex, if not it wouldn’t be so much fun.

Enjoy It!

Reality Bird

October 9th, 2009
10:06 am

SexyCool,

I appreciate your comments. In my experience there seem to be steps to arousing women. I’ll mention a few I’ve experienced:

1. Relaxed mentally and physically – this can be accomplished by catching them when they’re not stressed, taking them to a great “geography”, having a good meal, possibly some alcohol,
2. Humor – A great sense of humor helps everybody relax;
3. Judgement – know the right time to become physical with the individual woman

Please go on.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:06 am

SexyCool I like your reasons. In my reason I included “My gift to him” right beside Love because my love for him leads me to want to gift myself to him in a way that I know he wants and appreciates.

I have done it to have my way before. He was leaving to go meet some of his friends but I wanted him to stay home with me. I seduced him, or rather he allowed himself to be seduced, into not going.

Straight to the point

October 9th, 2009
10:09 am

WHAT A JOKE STUDY…lol
Women are in fact more so emotional than men….couple that with the fact that they too get horny, and voila…..they use it for self-expression even more so than a man…look at the women of any day…MOST urban women dress provocative…most women always want to “look good for myself” lol.(yea, right) and most women will use their sexuality to get laid, or to persuade someone to gratify their power fetishes..dont get me started sigmond freuds of atlanta..lol

bottom line is caus ethey get horny just as any person can/does.

NATURE intended men to have instilled within him the need to procreate/screw and its a behavioral instinct, but women call it being a dog: wrong. So, subliminally women compete amongst themselves to remain an attractive sexual force in the eyes of women and men. you show, i look. i look, i want.

As Smokey says: AND U KNOW THIS, MAN!!!!!

Inquistor

October 9th, 2009
10:15 am

Inquiring minds want to know. What about frequency of solo sessions for women? We all know about men. Do they have this kind of drive and how often?

Straight to the point

October 9th, 2009
10:18 am

RAQI

THANK U FOR BEING WOMAN ENOUGH TO ADMIT THOSE QUOTES….

Shaun

October 9th, 2009
10:19 am

What is intimacy but a primordial desire to be with one man so he can support you and not THE HERD.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
10:23 am

The emotionality of sex. Um yeah. I have had sex where there was no emotional bonding. But the best sex is the total package…awesome kisses, total body attention, great oral component, nice fit, rhythmic movement, staying power, after-sex cuddle.

1. Awesome kisses – Kisses that don’t taste funny and are not too wet. Tip: Lick your lips and swallowany excessive saliva in your mouth before kissing your mate. Oh and don’t try to make your person swallow your tongue (She could asphyxiate. LOL)
2. Total body attention – Breasts and cli t are not the only erogeonous zones on a woman’s body.
3. Great oral component – Licking at the kitty like a kitty licking milk is not effective. If you’re afraid to really taste me downtown, don’t get on the #7 headed that way. I’d rather you just not.
4. Nice fit. Doesn’t always mean having a ‘big ego’. Although for most, it helps.
5. Rhythmic movement – If your rhythm doesn’t match mine, Houston, we have a problem. (For instance, if I am thrusting up to meet you while you are withdrawing, that’s going to be worse than white dudes dancing.)
6. Staying power – No hump, hump, c um. If you can’t stand up in it, don’t get in it. (The other part of staying power is knowing when to say when. If you have brought your mate to pleasure of few times and her eyes are now glazed over with boredom, find your happy ending, get up and get the towel and stay the hell outta the wet spot.)
7. After sex cuddle – (Optional) Alternative – Going to sleep.

kaygeeone

October 9th, 2009
10:23 am

Dan, your views on politics are screwed up….your a moron!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
10:25 am

Oh…and #8. The emotional bonding of making love to someone that you really like, really want to please and really want to be with, as opposed to doing it just for sport.

Cemeeli

October 9th, 2009
10:27 am

First of all, we have to remember that sex is God’s invention. He is the mastermind behind it. This beautiful expression of love was created out of God’s own heart as a gift to be experienced between a husband and wife. The more beautiful and unique something is (like sexual intercourse), the more we want it and for some folks it’s the power held over their lives, either as a good or bad influence.

If God didn’t want us to enjoy sexual relations, he would not have made sex pleasurable.

Lastly, your “members” should be handled with care, and handled by a person that cares about you, and your body. Sex is an art form when two bodies become one…

Hey…

mytw♥tatas WWMy2D?

October 9th, 2009
10:27 am

ELIJAH & MELO Your favorite Pseudo Pyschoanalyst is in today. The chaise lounge is available for a spell…

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
10:27 am

SexyCool

lmao!!… i love it :)

Cemeeli

October 9th, 2009
10:29 am

…i desire it…

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
10:31 am

question: how does a man / woman acquires a thirst / hunger for sex?

sweetsay

October 9th, 2009
10:31 am

I totally agree with Mensch59. I HAVE SEX BECAUSE I LOVE HAVING SEX!!!. It is very simple. I am sure my husband might have sex with me sometimes for other reason than simply enjoying it and sometimes i may also, however 99% of the time i do it because i love it. the other 1% may be because i am either sick with the flu or tired but if my husbands gets me aroused, sick or tired doesn’t matter any more because i love having sex.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:33 am

If your rhythm doesn’t match mine

SexyCool ain’t that truff. You gotta connect. Not just physically. But you know, Mesh. In sync. Dancing to the same beat. Feeling each other the same way.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
10:33 am

@SC

Great list! (he says scribbling notes)

@kaygeeone

I take all my advice from terrific spellers, thanks!

Sarge1

October 9th, 2009
10:37 am

Raqi: You da bomb!!! I hope it was a typing error when you alluded to being married. Better stay out of Griffin or I’ll show you WHY women have sex.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
10:37 am

BTW – I’m at home today. Decided I wanted a three day weekend. So, I have nothing but time today.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:38 am

You can’t be square dancing while I Salsa.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
10:42 am

My ex-wife probably would not check any of them. Now a 200+ list of reasons why NOT to have sex, she could write that out in an evening.

Having said that, the ladies I have dated/been in relationships since have often/usually been the aggressors sexually. Sounds strange but I don’t know if it is the “cougar” mentality or what (or maybe I have just been attracted to ladies with active libidos). All I know is that most of the women I have dated this last 7 or 8 years just wanted it, plain and simple. I have found myself wondering if since they aren’t married and having to deal with/think about “obligatory” sex, maybe they are just free to do what they want and that like that empowerment.

Then again, maybe I am a lot better at “romance” than I was in my marriage.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
10:43 am

I am not feeling this topic today!

The study is like asking me why I am hungry….I am hungry,thats all.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
10:43 am

@ SexyCool

You’re lucky woman.. I wish I was home :(

Took 2 days next week.. I rarely take vacation… I have to use up the days before the year is up..

@ Dan.. lol

EllTiger

October 9th, 2009
10:44 am

There is a thread that runs through the way men and women look at sex. Check out all of the comments from women and you will see that sex is something that they “give”. Even for the liberated, sophisticate they see it as something that they own and give out when presented with the proper stimuli. Any wonder men see sex as a conquest.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:45 am

Sarge1 I appreciate the compliment and will accept it, however the reason I like it, and love it and always want more it is securely knitted to the man that wears the wedding band I placed on his finger.

But hey, get back at me in about 53 years. He says he will only live to be 95. After then I am all yours.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
10:45 am

So, I have nothing but time today.

is that just a blank statement or u hollering at smebody to come over?? :lol:

(the weather is really nice SCool,not cold,just perfect for that type of thang) :lol:

Dan

October 9th, 2009
10:46 am

@Raqi/SC

As a liberated man, lemme axe y’all a question:

So (based on readings from the blog), I supposed to chase the woman; pursue honorably and earnestly; wine and dine her; stimulate her mentally (throughout this process); wait for her to decide to be ‘intimate’ (while remaining faithful); do all I can to please her physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually during the act; cater to her every desire afterwards; be ready to date exclusively, committ, or marry her (on a timeline she deems appropriate); and spend the rest of my days catering to her happiness at the expense of my own.

Does that sum things up? Is that an accurate description of the “post modern’ (read: 2009) pursuit of a woman?

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:50 am

The perfect kiss for me is all about the lips and the right timing that he takes my bottom lip between his. It really helps that I’m a top lip kisser and he’s a bottom. Perfect. LOL

And yes SexyCool, the proper amount of moisture.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
10:50 am

For Women:

1. A moist la bia is good, River deep, river wide is better. (Use lube if you have to.)
2. Smelling fresh is important. Shower if you can. Freshen if you can’t.
3. Learn to love going to the “head” of the class.
4. Learn how to give good massages.
5. Don’t just lie there.
6. Kegel exercises work.
7. Squats help strengthen riding muscles.
8. Moan when he does something right.
9. Show him how to get you to the happy ending if he doesn’t know.

And I could go on…maybe I should teach a class….~lmao~

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
10:51 am

Raqi,u been to Rays on the River????

I wanna take the Queen there tonite,whats ur recommendation.

Shaun

October 9th, 2009
10:52 am

I gotta say, SC, that “goin’ down for dinner” bidness is best done on a clean plate.

In sex, cleanliness (with no odor) is next to godliness.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
10:52 am

@ Dan Basically yes, but only if you include marriage and she is not a nympho, lol. Definitely not a perfect system…that is why dating “mature” women is so much easier ;-)

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
10:52 am

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
10:54 am

Naw, Melo – Just explaining why I’m online with so much more sex talk than I normally talk…and yes, I know, I talk about sex a lot – but probably just a bit more today…

Dan – That sounds about right. And when you choose right and make a good match, she will be all of those things and more for you and it won’t seem like the major sacrifice of self that you seem believe that it is. To whom much is given, much is required. Sounds simple to me. But here again, we may be talking about an idealistic world. However, I still believe it exists for me.

ScopeN

October 9th, 2009
10:55 am

I like it best when it tastes like the back of your hand and doesn’t look like a roast beef sandwich. It’s interesting how women can be more beautiful “at close range” than others. Never judge a book by only it’s upper cover.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
10:56 am

@ Dan By the way, none of what you said is new…it has ALWAYS been that way. I saw a gal in a t-shirt that said (okay I may change some of the spelling) “I have the pudsy so I will make the rules”.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
10:57 am

and spend the rest of my days catering to her happiness at the expense of my own

naaaah…u gotta pull away a lil smetimes,feel desirable to her,have an air the other men dont have,in her eyes…..u know,that which they say,”there is smething about him i like,i dont know what it is”
(jenny is getting back with mark sanford,for all u know) :lol:

U seem available all the time??,she takes u for granted.

Women do like dogs,just depends on the quantity of dog in ya….
:lol:

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
10:59 am

goin’ down for dinner” bidness is best done on a clean plate

on a virgin???

thats the only guarantee of cleanliness u can have.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
11:00 am

I’m channeling a mix of Alexys K. Taylor and Dr. Ruth today. LOL!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:01 am

Melo I have never been there. My recommendation is to take her somewhere with outdoor seating. The weather is really nice these past few days. We went to Brio Tuscan for our date night last night.

The perfect pleasant atmosphere just makes it all the better.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
11:04 am

@ Randyt
it has ALWAYS been that way. I saw a gal in a t-shirt that said (okay I may change some of the spelling) “I have the pudsy so I will make the rules”.

Not necessarily, then we wouldn’t have DK quoting pimp lines from movies… and there wouldn’t be any emotionally wrecked women out there, if the power was in the “P”.

ScopeN

October 9th, 2009
11:05 am

Dan,

Unless you’re a music/athlete Superstar or you got mad physical skills, gettin’ sexed is always gonna take some work. Don’t get discouraged, it can be fun if your ego can take it.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
11:10 am

@ Dream n

Men only have the power if you women give it to them. Women have ALL the bargaining power, they just do not always know they are holding all the cards.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
11:10 am

Thanx Raqi..we never been there be4,so im sure she will like it..

She wil be like,”hw u know this place?”..thinking im all that…

All the more guarantee that i get it tonite,after all is said and done.

Its her birthday……well,i got a nible around 2.30 am. :lol:

Carry on……….

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
11:10 am

Awww, a sex study and Melo doesn’t want to participate.

@Raqi, I’m glad you put “duty” in your list because that’s exactly what it is. Sure, a lot will not like the word “DUTY,” but it is just that. It’s the wife’s responsibility to “submit” to her husband. Hold on now, not necessarily meaning total submission, but it is our role as wife to be available to our husbands and our husbands available to us. There will be times when we aren’t on the same sexual page, but it is my duty to give to him what he needs so he won’t have to go and get it elsewhere. I’ve stated this before and I’ll stand by it, much like women should’t wear panties to bed. The husband should be able to have easy access. We all have our positions to hold down in a marriage, and sexual alighnment is easy when we realize God has made both sexes to complement each other.

Welcome aboard, Pinky! Also, I’m protective of these blog women, you cannot meet up with Ms. Raqi. Her Marido will squash you like a bug!

@Dan, don’t you think it’s time to bury the word “deese?” 30 years and still saying that silly arse word!

Also, “whatever” and “swagga” has been voted as 2 of the most annoying words.

Shaun

October 9th, 2009
11:11 am

Melo, not necessarily a virgin, though that’s a rich story in itself. Just the clean (washed, waxed and detailed, please) and no odor part. If you use some body spray for that enhanced experience that’s cool, too.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
11:13 am

Leggs – I saw that about ‘whatever’ and ’swagga’. But I still love both words…LMAO!

Oh…and sidenote:
I’m watching The View.
Khloe Kardashian Odom has a freakin’ nine carat ring.
After a damn month.
I’m speechless.

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
11:16 am

morning all,
maybe i missed the response, but, how does one develop this thirst or hunger for sex? Is it just me, cuz i don’t believe that i’ve experience this.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
11:17 am

Duty….Why is that word funny when it relates to sex… yo no se :)

@ Randyt: Okay I’ll entertain this theory of yours… So Explain to me the power we have…

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:17 am

much like women should’t wear panties to bed

LOL Leggs I had jump off your bandwagon right there. Seriously though I get what you mean. I just prefer the panties on initially. And so does he.

It makes for a nice firm connection when that strong hand of his is perfectly snug between that cotton and the cashmere. Let the fingers do the walking. :wink:

But I do get what you are saying about being available.

Shaun

October 9th, 2009
11:19 am

When a woman can defend herself and her own, have children on her own, be emotionally and physically satisfied on her own, then she’s got ALL the power – ’til then, you just got SOME.

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
11:24 am

Women have the power until you stimulate them to have the ultimate O and continue to pound and stimulate the pudsy while she is exploding!
:wink: Then we have the POWER! YES WE CAN!!!

Dan

October 9th, 2009
11:26 am

Okay, then so another question (to any that wish to reply):

All that (my previous post), and her role/my reward is……

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
11:31 am

Where all these new bootys come from..

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
11:32 am

Morning Folks!

I agree with Raqi all the way on the duty part. I would suspect that it’s not that common in marriage though. At least I hope it won’t be for me. Meaning, I hope that I want it just as much as my husband the majority of the time.

‘Whatever’ – comes out of my verbal arsenal when I want to get under someone’s skin.

‘Swag/Swagger’ – I can probably count on one hand how many times I’ve used that word.

Leggs – my BFF and I still get the giggles over ‘Deez’, just had an episode this past Sunday :lol:

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:33 am

A person that views marriage and relationship always and only as what they have to give up or lose will never have a successful relationship.

Try looking at it for what you will gain rather than what you have to give up and the burden of it. It’s not a burden to those who want to do.

My marido and his brother told one of their female cousins that the only man that complains about taking care of a woman is a man that does not want to do it. And will never do it well.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
11:34 am

Frank

October 9th, 2009
11:35 am

@Dan, Very well said. And whomever hates on Obama’s win, after you bite Dan, bite me for dessert.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
11:39 am

Eiljah

Pound my dude???? really…….. pound lol
My guy cuzins say that to annoy me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
11:40 am

Dan – I want that one answered too..

Dan

October 9th, 2009
11:44 am

@Raqi

Please understand.

It’s not about “what I don’t want to lose”, it’s more about what I get in return (in the karmic/reciprocity/equal and opposite reaction kinda way).

I’ve never had a problem taking care of the women in my life, in fact I feel honour bound to do it.

But what I cannot abide, from male or female, is anything less than their all as well.

Don’t hit me with the 50% of anything, if my all is in it, I want yours too. And more lately than ever, I’m finding that the concept of “[all of] me for [all of] you” is somehow outmoded.

I can’t get into jumpin in the pool and waiting for [you] to decide.

But hey, maybe that’s something I need to pray/work on/meditate about for me.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
11:45 am

@ Dream n

Short and simple. Men’s sex drive is almost always higher than a woman’s…not always but most of the time. Men “need” it more, especially when younger. Women have the answer to that need. When anybody “needs” something, whether sex or apples, or HD tvs, then the “provider” has the upper hand. Women have 100% of what most men need (unless you are in Midtown and the numbers aren’t the same there).

Now, why things tend to be really good for me is that that “need” tends to shift in a person’s 30’s and 40’s. Then the women for whatever reason develop a stronger need, while the men are no longer as needy. There is a little bit of a power shift making things a little more even, although I don’t think men ever totally gain the upper hand, if they are still breathing at least.

Last but not least…throw everything I have just said out if the woman is butt ugly, incredibly out of shape, and doesn’t try to make herself as attractive as she can. Hellz even then women probably still have the advantage…just not as many “choices”.

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
11:46 am

Dan – SCool answered you with this post:

Dan – That sounds about right. And when you choose right and make a good match, she will be all of those things and more for you and it won’t seem like the major sacrifice of self that you seem believe that it is. To whom much is given, much is required. Sounds simple to me. But here again, we may be talking about an idealistic world. However, I still believe it exists for me.

I remember not long ago I was wondering what benefit I would get out of being married…then I met the man that I’m going to marry – I no longer ask that question.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:47 am

Dan you get a good companion, life partner and support system. You get your own lifetime cheerleader. (And if you treat her right she will wear a little cheerleader outfit including the pompoms for ya. LOL)

For those of us who are more traditional than others our husband get a housekeeper and to come home to a clean comfortable resting place. He gets clean drawers. He has a personal chef. He gets sex on demand, meaning does not have to be out there scouring the crevices and corners to get his needs fulfilled. (Disclaimer: Never mind the disclaimer. Some of yall know how to translate what I mean.)

A personal secretary.

A back scratcher.

A hair washer

A lotion applicator

A good set of eyes, ’cause you can’t ever find anything

A phone dialer

An appointment scheduler

A hang-nail clipper

A pimple analyzer

A talking GPS unit

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
11:48 am

@Dream_n….. Did that word stimulate your senses? j/k ….Relaxed youngin do not take everything so literately! :wink:

@Melo… Rays on the River is a good place to eat, the food is good and the atmosphere is relaxing!

@My2tats…. I am ready to come and lie down on your couch for therapy!
RIGHT NOW! espn…. :smile:

Shaun

October 9th, 2009
11:52 am

The disparity between men and women’s sex drive can be explained. Men should be paired up with more than one woman – it’s how almost every other animal does it. Why are we hooked on one man, one woman. Some animals just shouldn’t breed.

Here’s to polygamy.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:54 am

Dan, you tell me this. Being that over 70% of married women in the U.S. work outside of the home what would it benefit a woman to marry you? She’s got a job so she doesn’t need your financial support. What benefit would she get from marrying you?

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
11:55 am

Rays on the River is a good place to eat, the food is good and the atmosphere is relaxing!

thanx,i want a woman to endorse it tho be4 i commit…im taking a special lady out..Queen!

Dan

October 9th, 2009
11:56 am

@Raqi

How does any of that in anyway add to a zero-sum?

I appreciate your list, but really, can you not see where somma that might be a slightly overpriced in value? (And please know I’m not attacking you, I’m appreciative of it, but it don’t add up).

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
11:56 am

I like Raqi’s 1154a question.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
11:56 am

Dan – I had this conversation yesterday with a friend. I asked her if Im supposed to do xyz for you.. What am I getting in return? She said Her and I just dont agree with Im supposed to be doing all these thinigs for a woman that thinks to get her is the prize.. I disagree wholeheartedly.. Because for me its about you winning cause you got me and Im winning because i got you.. More and more Im seeing that women feel that they are the prize at the end of the rainbow and thoer dudes are by-products of their fabulosity.. I dont get it because ive never considered myself chopped liver and i think my Long Duck Dong is just as important as their snatch..

Les

October 9th, 2009
11:57 am

When men seek sex, it’s like scratching an itch.

Women seek out sex not to address an inherent biological thirst, but to fulfill something else… something that has to do with the totality of life and relationships.

That is why when the pollsters ask women, “why do you have sex” they get a huge array of answers from women. Women are not compelled to have sex as an ends-to-itself like men are. Men have sex to have sex. To men it basically comes down to one major reason. For women, it’s about fulfiilling other things about the dynamics of human interaction.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
11:58 am

Dan that list while true was meant to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek.

But answer my question.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
12:00 pm

@Raqi (11:54)

A good question.

She’d get me. My hubris aside, I’m not one for advertising, so no protracted list. cough, cough,likesomepeopleroundhurr,ehem

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
12:00 pm

Yes, Melo. Ray’s was excellent when last I went. That was about 6 yrs ago tho.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
12:01 pm

Taz – once you knew that you knew that he was The One, how did you balance wanting to press relationship fast forward to knowing that you needed to be taking your time with this decision?

(Does that question make sense?)

Dan

October 9th, 2009
12:02 pm

@DK

Exactly. I ain’t just sitting on the shelf somewhere. A dude got options.

It kills me slowly that [she's] the prize (conversely meaning that I’m not) and there’s no mention of what [she's] putting into it.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
12:02 pm

@ Randyt

Gotcha!

@ Eiljah

Simmer down! I was joking too :)

Is it okay to put the word young’n in the same place as swagga and wateva!

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
12:03 pm

@Raqi, I do understand about the pull of the cotton. It too can be an arousal in the middle of the night.

@SexyC, I usually say WTF’ever. :lol: And yes, I too like the word “swagger.”

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
12:04 pm

czBrat

thanx,altho thats kinda dated…

I like the river apsect of it,dont know if the menu is all that..smebody(woman) with a good palate plz tell me. :lol:

thanx all the same.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
12:05 pm

Hey DK and Shaun

Lots of truth in what you said at 11:56. Also at lot of truth to what Shaun has stated. The problem lies in the fact that in this world what “should be” is not always “what is”. For whatever reason the culture has evolved and placed a sticker saying “prize” on you know what. Should it be any more valuable? Probably not, but it is what it is.

Example: Some people on this blog may have run across Longaburger baskets. These things cost $40 to $100 each. They’re frikkin baskets! You can buy ones that look almost the same and have the same function at Big Lots for $3. Does it make sense, nope, but it is what it is.

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
12:06 pm

LOL Dan @ 12:00

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
12:07 pm

It kills me slowly that [she's] the prize (conversely meaning that I’m not) and there’s no mention of what [she's] putting into it

Dan,ideally,what wld u want her to put in??? Dont put in generalities or dilly dallying..list a,b,c…..what exaclty u desire in ur coupled up woman.

U may be able to get one chic here today, with a good pic to match……
:lol:
U turn……..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
12:08 pm

Melo – dernit, everybody that said something about Ray’s said something positive.

The fact that 6years later, czBrat can tell you that it was excellent should be enough. Either go or don’t, enjoy it or not. Hell, it’s ONE dinner. If you’re that concerned about her liking it, take her out more often, you’ll increasing your odds of having great experiences.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:09 pm

And Dan it is not overpriced in value for the man that wants it. Even for some that have stay at home wives the cost of taking care of that woman for the comforts that she brings is worth it.

Take my list seriously and add putting up with you not helping out as much as you could around the house, being your bedside nurse when you have a Man-Cold, being your freak of the week, every week (yeah I put sex in there), and then contributing to the finances, do you think we get our time, heart, money’s worth?

And please tell me for all that you feel you have to give up or to a woman, what is it that you feel you should get in return? Can you name it? Does it exist?

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
12:11 pm

Cause I promise, I can’t tell you one spot that I ate at six years ago…

Professor

October 9th, 2009
12:12 pm

@Raqi I love the list on what the guys get. Can you give us one on what the ladies will gain? I need to look at my options.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 9th, 2009
12:12 pm

@ Melo

Ray’s has always been great. Just make sure you have some (read “a lot”) of credit on your AMEX, Visa, Mastercard…because unless it has instituted a “value menu” since I was there last ((and I am betting it hasn’t), it used to really “proud” of it’s food, lol.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

My hubris aside, I’m not one for advertising, so no protracted list.

So in other words she gets nothing but a bunch damn complaining an pouting. You can’t name anything because you don’t know yourself. All you know is you are losing something, when infact you will actually be gaining.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

If you’re that concerned about her liking it, take her out more often,

to that place??? even if i did,i aint goijng to the same often places i normally do,hence the need to be concerned about how the place is..

6 years ago?? u kidding me..we got a recession going on,restaurants are closing and the ones staying are cutting costs,so 6 yrs ago and now is not necessarily the same.
Reseaurant bizz is dammn tough.

Besides,she my Queen, i gotta ne king with the prep!

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
12:14 pm

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
12:17 pm

Question!!

Randyt/Dk/Dan

Why wouldn’t you want your woman to feel as though she is a prize? Women that have worth about themselves generally respect themselves, has higher self steem, takes care of themselves, are emotionally and spritually content. For as long as the world turned… women were taught (in a moral based home) that we are a prize. I feel as though whomever I choose to spend the rest of my life with will have hit the jack pot!

Now that doesn’t mean that the man who picked the lucky numbers will not be a prize to me…. It has to be recipricated.. it shouldn’t be one-sided.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
12:19 pm

Is that the problem with the saying???
You guys feel as though we don’t see YOU as a prize?

Dan

October 9th, 2009
12:19 pm

@Melo

How many ways can I say the isht?

I do not want a selfish broad (to borrow aggwit’s term) in any way, shape, fashion or form. The second the scales feel unbalanced, I make mention of it, and she needs to correct it; and if not….

Same token, I don’t like passive women (in or out of the bedroom). Lukewarm anything sickens me, I don’t like gray, I try to live in black/white, is/ain’t, etc.

I want an equal, not a cheerleader (I got my own drive), not “helpmeet” (cufk is that anyway?), an adult female that’s got her issue recognizes it in me when she sees it and act accordingly.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
12:24 pm

Naw Ms. Raqi

That ain’t it at all. I know me: what I’m capable of, what my qualities are, and my limitations.

Just because I don’t have “a list” don’t mean I don’t know, it means I choose not to spend the time or energy listing my qualities – I’m not insecure like that.

But dig where I’m coming from, the D ain’t complaining, it is what it is (and what I make it) – I’m stating facts.

Maybe it my time of the month, but I’ve had it up to here with this fantasy that I keep hearing.

You’ve said it yourself – love is a 2way street. But I rarely see you make the case on here when people (male and female) start expressing otherwise.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:26 pm

Professor The gain for women? Let’s see…
A headache
A grown baby
Just kidding…LOL
Men are good for a lot. The right man gives the right woman that emotional security that we yearn. When he is contributing without a fuss and you know things are being taken care of for the house, you can relax and be at ease.

Strong arms

Their logical way of thinking

A best friend

A protector

A maintenance man (literally. Even though it sometimes takes them days to get around to it between watching tv and tinkering with their hobbies)

That love muscle :wink:

A store runner

An influential voice to speak for you when needed

Professor

October 9th, 2009
12:28 pm

@Melo I know you will have a wonderful time at dinner tonight…just remember the resturant is only part of the experience…add some nice conversation…give her some flowers, and if you haven’t found a nice card yet…write her a note.

BTW did you buy her a ring?

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
12:28 pm

Melo – I love Ray’s in the City, never been to Ray’s on the River but I’ve heard the atmosphere makes it better than the City. I was also told that they are celebrating their 25th anniversary and therefore they have a $25 price fixed (not even going to attempt the foreign spelling) menu. A co-worker took her husband there the other night for his birthday.

SCool – He knew I was The One before I knew he was. I was so scared of his revelation that I immediately went into ’slow’ mode. Then when I realized he was The One, I was questioning myself. In other words, slowing down was NOT a problem LOL. Then when he popped the question it was like I could exhale and rest in what I already knew.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
12:30 pm

Thanks! Excellent list can we add taking out the trash and mopping. If so I might marry somebody’s son one day

Jake a.k.a Sweet Peeda Jeeda

October 9th, 2009
12:31 pm

@Melo

I cosign Ray’s…nice intimate spot…for something different, try the 57 Fighter Group Restaurant, way down Clairmont, the food is great, one of Atlanta’s best kept secrets….I highly reccomend for a nice intimate, and new experience.

Dan

October 9th, 2009
12:31 pm

Raqi

Thanks for at least trying to help me understand…..to be continued.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
12:32 pm

Taz – I’m feeling that. The questioning and all; coupled with resisting the need to look for signs of something ‘not quite right’.

But um, yeah…you read what I wrote the other day…

Waiting to Exhale…

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:33 pm

Dan whatever dude. You rolled the whole list of complaints about you have to pursue the woman, keep her interested, stimulate her mind, be faithful, please her and commit, but you can’t give not even three things on a list that she will benefit from in marrying you?

Okay. Whatever. I’m done.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

I heard “That love muscle” ;-) gets better once you get married.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:45 pm

Tazzee you know I didn’t fully exhale until about a month after the nuptials. And had not realized before then that I hadn’t. Before he even asked me to marry him I thought my life with him was just perfect. Even if not marrying I knew I at least wanted him in my life and to be in his life for many, many years to come. He gave (gives) me comfort.

But it was one day we were standing in the line at the store, he wrapped his arm around my arm and I laid my head on his upper arm and “exhaled”. The feeling of peace. I knew it was right at that moment because we were not talking, we were not engaging in any type of sexual activity, but just standing there existing. I knew I made the right choice.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
12:48 pm

Jake/Tazzee..thanx..thats what im talking about!!

Now i got options,Raqi’s place and this one..

Been to Fighter group Jake,waaay way back..may deserve a another trip there…
Professor, thanx as well..no ring,she know she mine and im hers..a ring dont change nor make whats in my heart.U dont even know how many cows/goats and $$ i had to deliver to her pple 4 lobola.Uall dont do that.

Appreciate it ladies.

Dan,buddy,u got lots of overly sexxed women everywhere,thats not a problem,i tell ya.
A woman that luvs u will do anything that u ask,thats the bottom line.As long as u not asking her to poke a hot rod up her nana be4 u do the do…

U want an equal?? there is nothing like that in marriage,maybe dating??
Either u the leader or she is when u married.

Last time i checked,most of these females want a strong dude..dont be fooled by the im msindependent talk.

MusingLee

October 9th, 2009
12:49 pm

Hey Er’body,

I don’t know about the rest of you but I only use sex as it was intended…For the procreation of the human species. Each time I fail I am compelled to try again for mankind’s survival.

Musing now staring into the distance with a gleam in his eye….and thinking of the punanni

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
12:54 pm

Professor I have never thought of it in a way of getting “better” since we are now married. It’s more frequent therefore giving us more time to experiment and grow. We have less time constraints now living under one roof. Sleeping together every night makes you more common with that person and freer to be.

If that’s the better you speak of then yeah.

And despite popular belief singles do not have more sex than married couples. That is a myth.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
12:58 pm

Melo I did not realize you paid a dowery. Was that you for real in the pic yesterday? The reason I ask is because the pic looks fairly new

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
1:01 pm

@Raqi ~ you’re damn skippy that’s a myth.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
1:02 pm

The reason I ask is because the pic looks fairly new

:lol: :lol:
Proff

no,just a website i picked,nothing more,none less…

Professor

October 9th, 2009
1:03 pm

@Leggs/Raqi I thought that was a myth…because if I get married I am going to do it every night for the first 90 days…a few more times on the weekend

Professor

October 9th, 2009
1:05 pm

Melo…I knew you was up to no good, but I enjoyed reading the website.

Jake a.k.a Sweet Peeda Jeeda

October 9th, 2009
1:05 pm

No prob Melo…my queen loves it there.

What up Musing…Long time no read, I think you had just got anchored when I headed for my extended stay in Lurksville…what it do.

@Raqi
Much respect for the 12:45, the picture was vivid….*wondering when my baby had that moment, not gonna ask her though…lol.*

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
1:06 pm

Hey Musing! How are you? I just knew you were gonna end that post by telling us that your wife was expecting.

Raqi – I’ve exhaled with being in a relationship, but I’m still holding my breath somewhat. Sometimes I wanna take him up on his offer to go to the courthouse ‘tomorrow’

Poppa Grande

October 9th, 2009
1:08 pm

Melo

I co-sign Rays on The River. The wife and I ate there for our 10th anniversary this year. If you use opentable to book the reservation, you can order flowers that the staff will put on the table before you guys sit that she gets to take them home.

There is live jazz on the weekends.

Like RandyT said, it isn’t cheap. The menu is mostly seafood that they claim claim is flown in daily.

We also had our rehearsal dinner there prior to our wedding day.

Blog Match.com

October 9th, 2009
1:09 pm

Lurking

October 9th, 2009
1:13 pm

@SexyCool – I’ve been reading you for a while. You seem like you date a LOT.

Blog Match.com

October 9th, 2009
1:14 pm

These are the Blog Matches for 2009:

Leggs & Truth

Tazzee & Willie

Poppa & Brite Eyez

AmazonRed & W8

Page1908 & W8

Staceye & W8

Professor & W8

Lioness & W8

Angie & 2CPTG

DK & Mo

Jamoca & Demi

Wise & Swiss

Melo & Attention Wh0ore

Rell & SexyCool

Lurker & Lurkerette

Dan & Raqi

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
1:20 pm

Leggs one afternoon one of my married co-workers and I had lunch with 3 of our single co-workers and that the tell of that myth worked its way somehow into the conversations. We went back and forth like we women do debating issues but to sum it up the fellow married and I betted those that the number of time she and I have had sex with our husbands in one month put together, was more than the three of them with their boyfriends or whatever put together over the span of three months. Guess who had the most sex.

And yeah they were shocked. LOL I put this to the one who just could not believe it, because she and he guy had sex nearly every time they went out. Which would seem like you are having a lot sex, if you are doing it every time you see each other. I asked her how many times a week did they go out. She said once maybe twice. The other two women even less than her. Well guess what my husband and I sleep in the same bed every night. Number of hits a week? At least two, three being the norm, four at the most. But at least two.

She had to understand doing it every time you are together only seems like a lot when you are not seeing each other every day. If she and her guy moved in and had to see each other every day, that one time a week will not seem like much at all.

I think that is why a lot of men feel like the sex decreases after marriage. They are seeing that woman every single day. Sex is in their face every single day but they are not getting it every day. When before it was maybe once or twice or three times a week but most aren’t seeing each other every day. And unlike my co-worker most people are not doing it every time they see each.

(I hope that all makes sense, I stopped to talk a phone three times while typing)

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
1:21 pm

Afternoon All,

Dan – If you are looking for equality on paper then just forget it. It is stacked way against us on paper. As a man will understand this at some point. It really isn’t worth debating. Just know as a Man that the One will recognize and bring more to the table than yourself. From what I read you do need a cheerleader. You seem to want one that gonna verbally acknowledge from the roof tops what a great catch the D is.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
1:22 pm

thanx Poppa..thats where we going..im going to Raqi’s place another time.

I called both places to get a feel.

Boy,u dont know how it feels when u got money in ur pocket,a sexxy woman in ur sights,u feeling mighty good and ur dyckk is poking every 5/10 minutes and whispering,”is it time to go yet?”

:lol:

mqew

October 9th, 2009
1:23 pm

Duty…. Got a prolem with that… Just because of the word and what it means. I oblige, because as a WIFE it’s my DUTY. But yeah, don’t like it much. AND, it’s been almost 12 years.

RAQI’S 11:33 IS ON POINT!

The thing is as RAQI stated, he doesn’t have issue at all with his DUTIES, so I’m a work in forever progress. I seriously strive to be like him when I grow up.

TAKE IT LIKE A MAN got nothing on him! His pic is next to that slogan LOL

Melo- I found Ray’s on the River overated. But, that’s because I got nothing but excellent reviews… It’s just okay.

Poppa Grande

October 9th, 2009
1:25 pm

Tazzee

Speaking of anniversary prices at restaurants, Agave had all of their entrees $9.00 this week in celebration of their 9th anniversary.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
1:26 pm

Lurking – Actually, yes, I do. And enjoy it. A LOT!

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
1:29 pm

@BlogM ~ Truth and I had our blog divorce a year or so ago. I see you gave W8 a harem.

@Raqi ~ it makes perfect sense to me. ^5! Seeing your boyfriend once a week and having sex after, during or before the date makes sense. However, once you’ve moved in and you have that visual in front of you and you’re not getting it like you use to can also be the breeding ground for affairs to crop up. WOMEN, you have to make love / have sex with your partner often and creatively if you really want to keep him.

abc

October 9th, 2009
1:30 pm

Different people will have different sexual motivations based on their individuality, I don’t think one can assign such traits strictly on the basis of gender. I’ve known women that have sex to feel loved, and women that just want to get laid, and men can feel either way, too.

If you think a chick doesn’t look at a prime male specimen and just want to have some of that, just the same as you might generalize that a man might do, think again.

Regarding Afghanistan: we went in the chase down Bin Laden and oust a government that gave support and refuge to the very terrorist organizations that carried out 9/11. Some early success and failure has given way to nobody even remembering why we went. We should pull out of Afghanistan post haste; we have nothing to accomplish there. Instead, the Nobel Peace Prize recipient is quoted in the press as saying he wants to send 40,000 more troops to a war zone that’s been active twice as long as W.W. 2 lasted. Craziness, WTF!

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
1:32 pm

Blog Match.com:

everybody is phluckking smebody except urself…who u??

Pope Benedict or Mother Theresa?

Wise Diva

October 9th, 2009
1:37 pm

what a strange and random post. I don’t do married men, though. I’m sure i’m swiss is a nice fellow :)

Listening ears

October 9th, 2009
1:39 pm

Raqi, SexyCool, Leggs & Prof: Keep preaching! This man thanks you because some of these younger guys will learn a LOT from your lesson today.

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
1:40 pm

PoppaG – NOW you tell me :lol: Actually, I’m glad I didn’t know.

Concert Announcement

Eric Benet, Mint Condition and Ledisi in concert on October 31 at the Fox. Tickets go on sale tomorrow at 10am.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
1:41 pm

WOMEN, you have to make love / have sex with your partner often and creatively if you really want to keep him.

Although I’m usually with you on your posts chica… I just can’t get with this mindset in women… as if SEX is the end all.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
1:41 pm

Willie Dynamite, imma whatever you too. LOL

If he is man enough to ask what will it benefit him to be with her, he should at least be man enough to state what it will benefit her to be with him.

Sucka. :lol:

Jake a.k.a Sweet Peeda Jeeda

October 9th, 2009
1:43 pm

@abc…i take it that you feel Obama winning the NPP is b.s. I concur to the fullest!! I support the President all the way, stood in line those hours to cast my vote for him, but him winning that prize is ridiculous…memo to the committee, we are currently at war, he has the power to pull the troops out, has not done so, i woke up and said the same, WTF!!!

Dayum….I missed the Agave special.

Since we off topic, for a casual meal, hit Marlow’s, in front up the dubtree at Northlake, good ish.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
1:46 pm

Although I’m usually with you on your posts chica… I just can’t get with this mindset in women… as if SEX is the end all.

Leggs, kids just say the darndest things don’t they. LOL

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
1:53 pm

Ha Ha HA once again RAqi did a funny..

Of course at your age anyone under 40 would be a kid…..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Why do men have sex other than the fact that they are men and they can?
One:

Me: Mason do we have to watch this tonight?

Mason: Do you want to have sex?

Me: No.

Mason: Then yes, we do.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Two:

Me: Mason do you have to keep banging on that thing trying to fix it?

Mason: Do you want to have sex?

Me: No.

Mason: Then yes, I do.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:06 pm

Three:

Me: Mason can you come up and help me make the bed?

Mason: Are we going to have sex?

Me: No.

Mason: Then nope, I’m busy.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

Four:

Me: Do you know what will really be fun to do tomorrow afternoon.

Mason: Have sex?

Me: NO! !

Mason: But you said fun.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

@Dream_n, I know you’re kidding me, RIGHT? Not once did I say, nor did I imply that sex is the end all. However, when you are in a relationship, sex is a major ingredient that’s helping to glue the relationship together. It’s not to be used as a bargaining chip. Sex with your man, a good F____ with your man, or simply a game of cat and mouse are stimulants that will help YOUR man keep his eyes on YOU!

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:08 pm

@Dream_n, at 23 you are a kid. Albeit a smart one with a good head on her shoulders, you still a kid!

That was funny, Raqi!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:09 pm

Five:

Me: Baby It’s kind of chilly tonight, I was thinking about lighting the fireplace.

Mason: I’ve got some wood.

Me: LMBO

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:10 pm

Now, five was funny.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
2:16 pm

@Dream I talked to an male brother of mine(I have adopted two) because frankly if I want advise about a man I ask a man..I am a woman I can’t think like a man, or interpret the actions of men..so I am getting to the point I don’t try. So I asked Baby Bro about sex..He said men want sex. They like it, they crave it. It provides them with physical as well as mental relief after getting beat down, or the high they need when they are feeling like a champ. Anyhoo he explain that men will take the path of least resistance to get to sex. That means if they are in a relationship that is draining them of all the energy they had left from the last beat down..then they are perfectly willing to go across the path where the grass may not be greener but there are no thornbushes sticking him in the azz every five mins.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:20 pm

Leggs,

The funniest thing he ever said to me in that nature was:
(Sunday morning getting ready for church, sipping on my cup tea)

Me: Hey babe it’s time to get up.

Mason: I am up, see.

I spit my tea out all over the rug. That one floored me.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:23 pm

Good read, Kym!

Raqi, gotta love those quick comebacks!

Professor

October 9th, 2009
2:24 pm

…stepping back in.

What are we talking about? The wings were on point today!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

Raqi – Well you tell them ladies they can get in my rotation and they can do it at least once a week but nobody gets laid on humpday.. Thats when me and the dude get haircuts..

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

Kym – In a nutshell thats about 80% true. The last 20% depends on the man and circumstances.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

“an male brother of mine…”, sorry Kym but aren’t all brothers “male?” :wink:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
2:26 pm

@ Leggs

While I understand that SEX plays a role in sustaining a healthy relationship SEX is not a tactic of keeping a man… YOu may be the type to do back flips off of the dresser onto his manhood, or even put your legs over your head like a gymnist. If a man wants to cheat he will cheat regardless of what you are doing in the bedroom. Good SEX is not key to keeping a man locked in. While I do belive that having sex and being creative will keeps things interesting it will not keep a man tied down to you. If you believe once your SEX becomes tired and overrated your man will leave you then, maybe that’s not the man for you. The guy didn’t marry your VAGINA.. well at least one would hope he didn’t. When we get old and grey and can no longer “go at it”. I would like to think that he’s content with just me..

As far as the “KID” mambo jumbo one would like me to adhere to, NO I’m not a kid.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
2:26 pm

@Leggs, I cant take credit for that. Like I said I asked a man.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:29 pm

SEX is not a tactic of keeping a man

You are right, Dream_n it isn’t, but the lack there of will definitely contribute to running him away.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
2:30 pm

SEX is not a tactic of keeping a man

Dream_n:

its one of the tactics.

whats up with u and getting phluckked??
U dont like it??

Kym

October 9th, 2009
2:31 pm

True Leggs. They are.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:33 pm

Dream – Never under estimate some good good.. See you reading too much into it.. Youre trying to think like a dude.. thats where ya’ll get it wrong.. Dont try and understand it just know that you need to keep that thang hot, fresh and ready to be flogged at anytime or your guy will be floggin someone else.. Period

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:34 pm

“You are right, Dream_n it isn’t, but the lack there of will definitely contribute to running him away.

And that is all my post was saying. Not all men cheat. That sweet, that wet, that gushy stuff at home is enuf for some. But you best believe, sexual tension at home is a breeding ground for bigger problems.

Ok, ok, I take it back, you aren’t a kid in the sense of being a kid. I do consider you a very smart young woman!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:35 pm

Youre trying to think like a dude…thats where ya’ll get it wrong

I just felt like repeating Infamous.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
2:36 pm

Willie D I didn’t say all men cheat and neither did Baby Bro. But he did say women don’t realize that men are not our best good girlfriend. We tend to want something from them they can’t give because it is not as he put it dude’s nature.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:40 pm

Youre trying to think like a dude…thats where ya’ll get it wrong YEP YEP!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:41 pm

Life is a teacher by experience, Speculation is the entertainment of fools.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:41 pm

Ok, Raqi, I see you said the same thing.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
2:42 pm

Not all men cheat,as long as theyre getting it.

i thoght i had to add that Leggs.
neva use sexx as weapon,talk it over and even if u dont agree,just make sure u do ur chores :lol: :lol: Its a chore to him too,but less heavy chore.

If u aint giving it to him,hes getting it smewehere else.

Better believe that!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
2:42 pm

@ Leggs

Then yes I agree with what you’re alluding to… It may contribute to him longing for more or something, but the “good good” as DK so eloquently put it, no matter how good it is, is not the nail in the coffin.

@Dk: I’m not trying to think like a dude, hell mose of the time I can’t really understand their actions or words. This is just my way of thinking.. is it wrong NO, is it right NO. Just my opinion.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:44 pm

Kym – I been saying just that..

Ex: If a woman goes on vacation she plans months in advance getting the best hotel with a view and best price. She has an Itinerary.. Her clothes are for every possible event. Her activities are included in her budget along with a map to get to said activities..

If a dude goes on vacation.. He packs a bag the night before finds a hotel maybe a week before, if he even has a hotel when he gets off the plane.. Has a the minimal amount of clothes to carry with him.. Plays it how it goes when he gets there..

See we dont even think like ya’ll period..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
2:45 pm

but the “good good” as DK so eloquently put it, no matter how good it is, is not the nail in the coffin.

She told you, Infamous. Now take your behind somewhere and sit it down. What makes you think you know what a man wants and needs to stay grounded?

Kym

October 9th, 2009
2:47 pm

Okay I have decided to go with the Sony ereader instead of the Kindle. While it is not wireless, and has less capacity than Kindle, it comes in pink to support breast cancer(I lost two former coworkers this month), and there is no way I would ever store 1,500 books on a Kindle, so the capacity of the E-reader will be fine. Oh yeah and its priced less than the Kindle. That is my techincal update for today.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
2:47 pm

I’unno…I’d turn cartwheels naked down the middle of Peachtree in a snowstorm for the good-good WITH the soundtrack….

LAWD GEEZUS!!!!! CLAP, CLAP FOR THE GOOD GOOD!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:48 pm

Dream – Again u are under estimating the good good.. Tons of men marry wh0res just for that reason.. The coochie was just soooo good they cant even think without it.. Tons of dudes are in jail about that good good.. Even more are six feet deep about that good good.. Hence it is the nail in the coffin and sooo much more..

Deeva4Life

October 9th, 2009
2:52 pm

Dream_n – Your post speak from where you are now (at 23)…and that’s really the only place you can speak from because we can’t predict the future…LOL But as you grow older and experience more things, you may look at things a little different. In my experience, the way I thought at 23 is TOTALLY different from the way I think at 32.

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
2:53 pm

random thought …. i’m tired of working out and watching what i eat. i’ve decided to become a thick chic. :/

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:53 pm

Raqi – I dont know what it takes to keep a man grounded.. I dont know what we need more than you women..

Let me say this.. If you have some “Outstanding”, “Dynomite” or “SC” then we are more willing to deal with your mess than if you dont.. SC will make a dude forget he has prblems for a little while.. Its like your favorite drug of choice..

And for all you blog rookies.. “SC” does not stand for Sexy Cool.. It stands for Super Coochie..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
2:54 pm

czBrat – Sentence #1 – Yes. I agree. Sentence #2 – I’ll pass.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
2:54 pm

@ Raqi

The beauty of blogging is that we get to express our opinions… and people want to put me in the KID category… pls

@ DK: I get where you’re going….

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
2:57 pm

Infamous – ” SC will make a dude forget he has prblems for a little while.. Its like your favorite drug of choice..”

Yeah…I can do that too…LOL!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
2:57 pm

Oh I almost forgot my contribution to breast cancer week.. I am giving free breast screening.. I will caress, I mean feel for lumps. I will examine them very closely.. I see if they are so firm and so fully packed.. And if not perform the proper exercises to get them that way..

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
2:58 pm

You need to play 323 or 324?

I promise you this, I looked at the cell phone number of a friend last week. Those numbers were speaking to me cuz there were so many 3 7’s, 3 6’s and 3 8’s. I couldn’t get the right combination in my head. The number that evening was 868. I could have kicked myself because I felt it but couldn’t see it!!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
2:59 pm

@ Deeva4Life

I agree with what you’re saying :)

I can’t speak about what a 32 yr old is going through or what a 40 yr old is going through. I would imagine as I grow older views may change, but it’s impossible for me to speak from your (older crowd) standpoint.. I can only speak from mines.

It’s silly and childish to berrate what I say just b/c you don’t agree. Whether you agree or you don’t. Not everyone is going to agree on the same topic even when being in the same age group.

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
3:00 pm

Show me the finest chick in the world, and I’ll show you a dude that’s tired of Phuckin her. I don’t care how good is.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:01 pm

That should have read there were 3 7’s, 3 6’s and 3 8’s.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:01 pm

Dream – riddle me this.. Why you think a old dude gets him a young girl? For her stability, her fore thought, her cooking or her good good?

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:02 pm

DuShawn – Not if she don’t keep the same dude.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:02 pm

Du – what it Du?

But you know dudes will sell they soul for some good coochie.. im not saying all but most will..

Kym

October 9th, 2009
3:03 pm

@DK its breast cancer month not week. By the By..Shout out to the NFL for their support this month. The pink gloves, shoes, armbands is hot.

Professor

October 9th, 2009
3:04 pm

@czBrat I always wonder what is considered thick.

@Dream keep on sharing your opinion…you make some good points and ask great questions.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:05 pm

Dream – Its gonna happen.. People argue on here sometimes.. Dont take it personal.. People are gonna say that you sound crazy but you know who and what you are so it doesnt matter..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:05 pm

Dream_n I never said you do not have a right to express your opinion. We all have that right. But you are only 23 and have a long way to go and lot to experience.

Just because you have been cut and had birth a baby and played house does not give you the experience of those of us who are 20 years ahead of you and have experienced a lot more. Some of us had to learn the hard way what we know now, and I am not shy to say that you have a lot to learn judging by some of the statements I read from you on here.

I’ve been your age. And at your age my son was 2, nearly three years old. So yeah, I do know a little something amount thinking I knew it all at 23 and not wanting to listen to those who really knew tell me different.

I am not trying to take anything away from your life experiences but when a person, a man, tells you how men think and what men want and what a man will do, for you to tell him he is wrong in so many words, says a lot.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:06 pm

@ DK

I’m going to go with the obvious… given your view thus far.. :)

Deeva4Life

October 9th, 2009
3:06 pm

Dream_n – I agree with you…totally!! I can’t speak for those you’re referring to, but from where I sit, I don’t think they were trying to berate but maybe shed light from another perspective. *shrugs*

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:08 pm

Kym – Well its always breast cancer awareness for me.. 7 days a week, 365 days a year, Bay-by!!

Now come on over her and let me make sure them thangs are ok..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:09 pm

Dream – Well the real answer is she makes him feel young again but that good is also a factor..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:12 pm

I don’t think they were trying to berate but maybe shed light from another perspective.

Thank you Deeva.

When I got to the 1st grade I had to learn on a 1st grade level and every level after that. What I learned in the kindergarten was just the start of it all. What would a first grader look like trying to tell a 4th grader how to do long division he has only mastered single division?

I said it the other day, even at my age there are things I am still learning about life. Heck I have learned some stuff from folks on here.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:12 pm

Raqi

Never once have I mentioned that I know it all b/c I have a daughter or live with the father of my child.. You can go back and read past posts to verify that.
I gain my knowledge and understanding through my life experiences and through those that I come in contact with.

There is a big difference between disagreeing with someone’s opinion and trying to dis credit what they day based on age/status/religion.. or otherwise.

and that’s what you tend to do if someone disagrees with you… While I know bloggin is all about fun and entertainment. It gets really annoying when someone focuses on what you say and tries to go against it. I dealt with that in high school and middle school. It was old then and its old now.

You make great points and give good advice coming from your experience. I can atest to that.. SO don;t think I’m trying to e-thug on you or anything.. It just got really annoying.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:13 pm

Dream_n or is that at 23,u jaded bout sexx.

U got it during teens,well be4 prime,then u thoght that was hallelua and mr puerto ricko slammed u real good,just like Dela Hoya,the boxxer did to his adversaries and then smwhere smehow,u lost it,and now u kinda feel like u need a break polus a dose of the female viagra to get u back on track.

Is that it???????

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

Dream_n you got the wrong one sweetie. I have never tried to discredit anyone.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:16 pm

Dream – Your not in a click yet.. Pick one and then you’ll be alright.. I tell you what.. Here hold on to my back pocket and move when I move.. Oh and wash my underwear everday out in the sink.. Welcome to CB4

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

@DK…. I am betting sexycool has some super coochie! :smile:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Let’s agree to disagree and not beat this dead horse!

It’s friday!!!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

@ DK

Not a click kinda girl… I roll on my own :)

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

There is no on here that I have agreed with everything that they say, and I have not been shy about telling them I don’t agree.

Just because I don’t agree does not mean that I am trying to discredit, it just means I don’t agree. You know, that’s life.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

Elijah – Im willing to bet she does too..

Sexy Cool – Can I get a date?

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Infamous – You wouldn’t let me get in your car cause I might have on flip flops.

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Du – whats hapn mayne. Good to see you pop in.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Just finished eating a fudge sickle and there’s no joke on the stick. I’ve been robbed!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Infamous don’t bring up that clique mess. LOL That just start wars.

But however, I am glad you brought up that is National Breast Cancer Awareness month. Every woman over 35 needs to start getting that annual exam.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

Dream – You know Raqi and I used to bump heads worse than ARED and I do now.. Imagine that.. I think I was as scorned as she was back then.. I said stuff to her I wanted to say to my EX Wife..

I was also hated by damn near everyone on the blog at one time.. But I stayed true to who I am and people accepted that I can be an ass at times but I have a good heart.. And I tell the truth.. Good, Bad Or Ugly..

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

Afternoon you all…

Well it’s about dayum time!!!! I appreciate that 3:00, Du !!! I tell ya, folks act as if the girl…excuse me, young lady is speaking in tongues.

Dream_n Hopefully, you’re not taking too much of this “young gal” bullshyt to heart. Because if you ask me (and I know no one did) but I can gather around a shytload of “old folks” who act worse than children…and for some it can get worse as they approach those golden years. They may have experienced a lot in their lifetime(s), but the way some of them process their experiences, is a cryin’ shame. So of course, some will naturally downplay the young adults. But I truly appreciate the ones who have no problem dropping me a few gems along the way, WITHOUT attempting to downgrade my own life experiences due to a difference in age. Most of what I have read here is common sense, but you’d be surprised at some who “still don’t get” something I’ve long ago “mastered”.

So, I must say that I concur hands down with the statement that a good phuck ain’t enough. Though it may help for awhile, but there’s got to be more going for the woman (whether she’s his wife or not) in order to “convince” dude she’s worth staying down with. Because best believe, she ain’t the ONLY good phuck in the area…nor is she the only one with that fiyah dome and/or being superb with those domesticated skills. There are plenty of women who have all those qualities, HANDS OVA FIST. What I’ve come to realize it’s more about what his woman’s got, that no other woman compare….some that appreciates with value or one that depreciates over time.

But yeah, don’t sweat all that snide regarding your age. All it verifies is how long you’ve been on dis’ errfff! (this earth) ;) Heyal, by the time I was fourteen, my “workday” began at 4am sharp, while running a household, worked two jobs (while in highschool) and successfully balancing a checkbook. Of course, by then I had made a few grown up decisions, by deciding to “own up” to my responsibilities…not because I was “trying” to be grown, just taking ownership and being accountable for my decisions. Although, it was my age that most folks focused on, it was my mentality that spoke for itself.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Sexy Cool – I’ll look the other way when you get in the car.. See what a dude will do for super coochie..

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Correction: What I’ve come to realize it’s more about what his woman’s got, where no other woman can compare….something that appreciates with value over one that depreciates over time.

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
3:28 pm

Dream_N….. Most men considered their women a prize especially when we have the one that adds to our happiness and giving the good, good when we want it and when we need it! :lol:

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:29 pm

WOW, what started out as a joke has turned itself around.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

You know Infamous as one I used to war with, it’s funny how when folks disagree with you, it’s just them having a different outlook, but you disagree with them, you are being mean and hateful and discrediting and all that BS. But when in reality you are just doing what they are doing with your statements, disagreeing.

But yeah you and I did battle for a while. Now we in a clique. LOL

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

@ Jamoca

lol… No I’m not taking it to heart :)

@DK:

I can appreciate a “great debate”!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

Ok lets clear this up.. Im not saying its all we need but its important.. More important than ya’ll think..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

Leggs Yep.

I need to clean my contacts. I am still seeing a shade of red.

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

I was asking honest questions, i mean really; I am missing anything by not having sex… since i don’t have the “thirst” for it.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:34 pm

More important than ya’ll think.

And coming from a stranger, Mr. Infamous, that’s why we should take that statement serious when it’s coming from our mate.

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
3:34 pm

Whats the going price of Super Coochie these days?

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

Why you think a old dude gets him a young girl?

…some refer to that ^^^ as midlife crisis for men. For some, it simply proves he still got it .

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

The NY Daily News has a poll asking readers if President Obama deserved to win the Nobel Peace Prize. 33% said Yes, 61% said No, and 7% not sure!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

@ Raqi

I’ll say this and I’ll leave it alone, b/c when I click that pretty lil x at the top of my screen.. Noone here really existes anymore.

Everytime a statement is made about a subject if you always disagree or pounce on it based on my age, then yes you are discrediting my statement based on my age. Theres a difference between disagreeing and discrediting.

Any who… It’s kewl..again its just your opinion/my opinin.. and its okay if we dont agree on every subject.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

RAqi – Its her first time the blog has ganged up on her is all.. When it happened to me the first time.. I was hot as fish grease..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

DuShawn,

A house in the Hamptons and a BMW M6. LOL

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

Don’t judge me!

wait!!
W8!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

SexuallyRepressed – Only thing that I’ve got for you is that you haven’t been touched in the right way by the right or wrong person.

Because when you experience lovemaking that touches your soul through your body…it’s a natural high that you will crave for.

I liken it to drug addicts saying that they kept looking for the “perfect high.” If you can find someone that brings you that kind of high, you will yearn for that ass, I promise.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

@Jamoca, it’s to make him feel young, she has stamina, and her breastesses stand at attention (for the most part).

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:39 pm

Raqi – stop it I say.. A house in the hamptons.. Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:40 pm

sexuallyrepressed??

U male,female or hermophrodite??

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:41 pm

Now Ms. Professor…. Why are you having those wings with-out me? I like that comment of 90 straight days of sex when you get married!

I am a firm believer in the bible and since Adam did not give Eve a wedding ring lets head down to the justice of the peace get married so we can get this on and poppin! :wink:

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

Raqi, Atleast you’re smart enough to attempt to attach a monetary value to it. This chick once told me her coochie was priceless. I said, If it lacks a price, it must be worthless.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

Feels the need to do something totally out of character.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Oh, Infamous, he said Super Coodies? I thought he said Super Coochie.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

This is some good stuff!

I liken it to drug addicts saying that they kept looking for the “perfect high.” If you can find someone that brings you that kind of high, you will yearn for that ass, I promise.

Raqi – stop it I say.. A house in the hamptons.. Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

Raqi, i think Dream_n is kinda like u after ur whitebread.

‘member,she leaving the not so good live in lover in a few? That may have sme to do with her sexx views….

When uall women arent having it,u kinda think its poison,even to ur friends.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

That was so backwards…

Scratch that 3:43.

Do not blog and talk on phone.

Correction: Oh, Infamous, he said Super Coochie? I thought he said Super Coodies.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:46 pm

Sexycool has more game than any player I have ever met! I bow down to you SC bka super—coochie! :lol:

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:46 pm

Melo, I am seeing red. I need to clean my contacts.

BTW where are you talking your Queen? I didn’t read it. Since it’s her birthday you should have taken her away for the weekend.

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:48 pm

Leggs – And it can still be taken as a joke, but I wasn’t even gon’ ack as if I did not see her point. I read exactly what she posted. Her point being, there are no guarantees in life…but one. And it ain’t good pu$$y. As important as it is (and I don’t see where she disregarded folks’ point), but com’ oaannn. The blog has many discussions of some men cheating on their wives and some women cheating on their husbands. He may have good pu$$y at home, but SOME still salivating for something greater, better…or just “different”. He could very well be getting served regularly at home, but for some the entree ain’t as good without somethin’ on the side.

It just seems to me, from reading (here)and talking to other married folks…there was more to “the one” when the man decided to make a woman his wife, besides having good pu$$Y. That’s all. Heck, I remember a regular on here stating his wife came with her “A” game. Now to me, it would definitely seem that she came with a whole lot mo than just good “P”.

Good pu$$y and the magic stick are incentives…a bonus. But a man/woman better bring a lot more than that to seal the deal…and keep it. But then, that just brings up back to how the discussion got started. Even after all that, ain’t no guarantees…but one (in life).

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:49 pm

Karrine Stephens in SuperHead….
I am SuperCoochie….

now THAT is funny….

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:50 pm

DuShawn it must be worth something because I think it was Eddie Murphy that had in his pre-nup that if they divorced his wife got $5mil per child that she birth for him.

Now the only way those babies got up in there is he had to put them there.

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:50 pm

Correction: That just brings us back…

Mo (aka Moeisha-gotta get tix to see Mint, Ledisi & Eric Benet)

October 9th, 2009
3:51 pm

TGIF Errbody!

okay sooooo we are talking about Super coochies?? Freaky Friday it is I see! Dayum….LOL

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
3:51 pm

Way the DJ at today? Can we get some music in this piece?

SexyCool – hit us up with summa that good good. Something Extra grown and sexy for the mental.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:52 pm

Willie Dynamite, she can’t, she’s boarded up in the corner. Didn’t you read her say she was locked up in her house?

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

Kym – Whatchugondo? You gonna let me examine your mammary glands.. Happy happy joy joy!!

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

male, i never really developed a strong desire (thirst) for sex… so i don’t feel strongly about it, nor do I think about it all the time like other guys do; so i don’t go chasing after it. but i can help think that I’m missing out on life, missing out on something very important. This is why I’d asked how does one develop that thirst…

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:54 pm

@Jamoca, we all read what she posted. The bottom line is no one is saying that good sex will keep your man. That are a slew of other factors necessary for the equation to equal 100%. Good sex vs lack of sex. Which man you think will stay in the relationship the longest and not dip to the other side.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:58 pm

Willie…all I got today is this soundtrack playing in my head,
Yearning and longing for the next time he takes me to his bed.
Searching and wishing and fishing for that perfect high.
Counting down the minutes until the meeting at the Y.
Now on Fridays, I keep it extra sexy cause I’m fully grown.
I have told you Victoria’s secrets but that ish you should have already known.
I laid out some Pleasure Principles and for ladies a few tips,
Like don’t just lay there and make sure you wet your ‘lipps.’
It has been said that the good good will make you act just like a fool.
But they don’t call me SuperCoochie, they call me SexyCool.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:59 pm

Elijah – Naw dogg A woman cant be called SC she has to have verifyably excellent Super Coochie. She cant be BKA Super Coochie.. She can be labled as having Super Coochie but not Super Coochie because that would lead one to believe she is the SSC.. Supreme Super Coochie.. And that just cant be determined.. There are too many variables..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:59 pm

Repressed you may never get it. Some people are asexual mentally. However for you to be asking the question there must be something there.

I really don’t know what to tell you other than hopefully you will get with the right woman the will help you release the beast within…if it’s there at all.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
4:00 pm

sexuallyrepressed,get urself checked by the doc.
They can do a testestorone lab wrk to see the levels u have..Thats the scientific,medical way of doing it…then they figure out if ur levels are okay,low or what for ur age.

The quickest way tho wld be u to just pay for a lady to come by ur house and do a paid for perfomance..let her strip evething then let her go ahead and moon u…

u can be sitting on chair as she performs.

If there is no tension in ur pants…dude,they are looking for those types at the Vatican.
good luck

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

Raqi – My bad, I thought that meant she didn’t have all the filters on today and could be extra wit it.

Repressed – Fight the urge to be different. Go out and get you a piece, heyal get ya a few pieces and report back.

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

LEGGS what do you think those numbers would look like in an AJC poll?

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

Raqi – Don’t get me to talking about the beast….ooo lawd…said like JPE…

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
4:04 pm

SC – that right there will get yo azz ……

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

BTW where are you talking your Queen?

she said she wants to go dance…..im go feed her first at that spot…

then ill let her drink whatever she likes…and waste herself….

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

Yeah…I know. ~chuckling~

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

@czB, hard call. He’s getting bad press every time he turns around. Here in GA, it could go 60% Yes, 31% No, 9% unsure (cuz there’s a lot of punks here in GA who are afraid to stand in the light). And saying that is in no way calling Georgian’s punkish. This is now a melting pot.

Mo (aka Moeisha-gotta get tix to see Mint, Ledisi & Eric Benet)

October 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

Alright SCool! Go on and shut it down for the weekend chica!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:07 pm

My mind is telling me no but my body my body’s telling me yes
I (baby) don’t want to hurt nobody
But there is something that I must confess……….. (chill)

I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind
I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

based on the stuff i see daily in the Vent, i would have said AJC would be about 90% NO. sickening!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

There’s a gentle autumn breeze
That blows whenever we be lyin’
Lyin’ in my bed
The moon appears and disappears
U look at me, my clothes I quickly
I quickly shed

The curtains dance a minuet
Autumn plays the music baby
Come on hold my hand
Leaves are fallin’ velvet splash
Only u and I can under
Only u can understand

The sunlight draws a picture
Through the silky lace that hangs above your
Hangs above your door
A picture that is waving
That is seems to be with every thrust
U make me beg for more

A robin sings a masterpiece
That lives and dies unheard
For screams of passion

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

Good sex may not keep your man, but it will make him put up with more bullshyt. Me and my ole lady done got it down at least a few thousand times. After all these years she still got that fiya. There have been times when I couldn’t stand her muffuggin azz. I’ll sit there thinking to myself, this bytch make me sick, I should leave her azz. Then she’ll walk by in a thong, I see those thighs and that azz. Then I think, damn! that girl know she could phuck and suck like a champ. Maybe she deserves another chance. I think we could work it out.

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

Good SEX is not key to keeping a man locked in. While I do belive that having sex and being creative will keeps things interesting it will not keep a man tied down to you. no matter how good it is, is not the nail in the coffin.

More hoopla. And then comes (full circle) what the woman already stated, (Leggs) with this here —> The bottom line is no one is saying that good sex will keep your man.

Soooo, between that lil bit there and the hoopla in between, what was so different from what she stated (initially) from what folks have pretty much stated in the end??? Not much difference, IMO.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:11 pm

Come. Closer.
Feel what U’ve been dyin’ 4
Don’t be afraid, baby
Touch it and explode
Understand, understand that I love U
But more than that – I want U
Everybody always told me
“Good things come 2 those who wait”
But I’ve got so much on the menu
I just can’t wait, I just can’t, I can’t wait baby
I can’t wait baby
I can wrap my legs around U girl
Cuz sugar, U know U’re just the kind of lover
That I’ve been looking 4
2 night why don’t we skip all the 4 play, mamma
And just get down here on the floor

Scandalous
I’m talkin’ about U and me
Marvelous – baby, baby, can’t U see
Anything U’ve ever dreamed of
I’m willing 2 be
2 night it’s gonna be scandalous
Cuz 2 night I’m gonna be your fantasy

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
4:11 pm

u did that to Bush,dont complain.

Barack is a rock star tho…and its pissing them off big tyme.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:11 pm

DK – For THAT, I would wear heels 24/7.

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
4:13 pm

ROFL @ DuShawn!!

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:14 pm

@Jamoca, no difference, since she repeated what I had already stated.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:16 pm

Turn off the lights and light a candle
Tonight I’m in a romantic mood, yeah

Let’s take a shower, shower together, yeah
I’ll wash your body and you’ll wash mine, yeah
Rub me down in some hot oils, baby, yeah
And I’ll do the same thing to you

Just turn off the lights, come to me
Girl, I wanna give you a special treat, you’re so sweet
Turn off the lights and let’s get cozy
See, you’re the only one in the world that I need

I wanna love you, love you all over, yeah
Over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again
Whisper sweet words of love in your ear
Show you I much I missed you, missed you, my dear

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

thanks guys, i just might go to the doctors, maybe even a sex therapist, which i was hoping to avoid.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:20 pm

There is only one for me
You have made that a possibility
We could take that step to see, ohh
If this is really gonna be
All you gotta do is say yes

All you gotta do is say yes
Don’t deny what you feel let me undress you baby
Open up your mind and just rest
I’m about to let you know you make me so
All you gotta do is say yes
Don’t deny what you feel let me undress you baby
Open up your mind and just rest
I’m about to let you know you make me so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so,
You make me so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:20 pm

DK

lmao!!! We can tell what kind of mood you’re in.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:20 pm

SexuallyRepressed – Im available for free consultations..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

DK – You know he’s a dude, right?

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

Isn’t SexuallyR a dude???

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

Dream – Somebody said to Dj so you wanna here it here it goes.. Oh yeah and its Freaky Friday so I gotta kick this thang off right..

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:22 pm

LOL @ Du.

Good sex may not keep your man, but it will make him put up with more bullshyt. …for awhile, but not forever (for some).

But then…you’ve got a little extra going on in your camp too. Your wife doesn’t mind you straying…as long as you don’t stray without her. So there probably are little to no complaints in that “area”. She allowing you to have your cake and not only eat it, but share it is probably a quality you don’t find everyday. Again, somebody for everybody out there.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

He’s in such a mood, blood flow has his vision blurred!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

Sexually Repressed – If you are a dude scratch what I just said.. Yuck Man.. Yuck.. Post a pic and stop talking like a girl..

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

I’m hollering….

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

ROTFLMAO!!! TIMES THREE!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

Sexy – Its your dang fault.. That dang gone poem did it..

And how the heyal can you be sexually repressed as a dude.. Where they do that at?

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

If you are a dude scratch what I just said.. Yuck Man.. Yuck.. Post a pic and stop talking like a girl..

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

LMAO!!! OMG!!!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:27 pm

Yeah dude go see a doc quick..

I feel like I just reached in some panties and found out she had a thang.. I could strangle somebody right now..

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Good night everyone!

Your attitude towards life defines not only who you are, but the quality of life you are after.

I sure hope someone winked at someone yesterday. There’s still time.

Stay safe!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Now I’m howling!!!!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

Well I am glad I can provide you good people with some much needed entertainment today..

Mo (aka Moeisha-gotta get tix to see Mint, Ledisi & Eric Benet)

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

OMG Infamous I am hollering at you!!!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

@ DK

Now you need to go redeem yourself by finding a tenderoni to let you help with their breast exam… lmao!!!

I’ve heard of helping out the fellow man, but damn!!!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:34 pm

Dream – Now even you got jokes.. This is a bad.. Michael Jackson Bad.. Real Bad Joe Lackson..

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

Stepped away for a while — trying to catch up…

Wise — Did we do something that I missed? You didn’t give me a roofie, now did you? ;-)

And why do I keep hearing the theme song from The Crying Game?

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

This is bad, real bad, Michael Jackson
Now I’m mad, real mad, Joe Jackson

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:37 pm

dead at The Crying Game…..

I.
Can’t.
Breathe.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:38 pm

Dang even Swiss Beats got jokes..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

I think I’m going to rent The Birdcage soon. LOL!

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

LMAO… Sorry, DK — I couldn’t resist.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

Sexy – Gee thanks.. I hate you soo much right now.. AIIIIIIIIIII!!!!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

Matter of fact, I just got my copy of To Wong Fu, Thanks for everything, Julie Newmar – you can come watch it tonight with me DK if you like.

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

Leggs, yep, there was not much difference since it had been repeated what SHE had already stated…and even later – confirmed. ;)

As for that list BlogMatchMaker – Dead give away on who “created” it, cuz it’s definitely missing not only a particular name, but a real “hookup”. I’m slowly changing the channel tho…no patience staying in tuned. I can only LOL at the thought of a Demi…cool young brutha, just too young for meh’. ;)

It’s supply & demand on the price of the “Ooochie Wally”. Too many great deals, bargain prices, & BOGO’s to go around to even consider auctioning.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

And I seriously did order that movie the day Patrick Swayze died.

~keeling over with laughter~

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
4:42 pm

I am in TEARS over here!!! The Crying Game…. I can’t take it!!!

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

LOL @ DK finding out Repressed is actually Wayman (Low down dirty shame). now calling Ms. Peaches to come and get this rotweiler.

Good night.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

Dam dam dam!!

Elijah

October 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

@DK see what thinking about Sexycool super coochie can do to you! :lol:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

@ DK I kid I kid :)

SC: just got my copy of To Wong Fu, Thanks for everything, Julie Newmar –

taht is a very good movie, I just might try to locate it in the archives also..

@ Jamoca : I think what I was trying to convey may have come across better when you said it… :)

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

i feel so bad for you DK. even I knew he was a guy.

ciao folks!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

Sexy – Yeah I’ll watch Two Wong Fu wit cha.. You’ll be the screenee and I’ll be the screener..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

adios amigos..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:52 pm

A’ight den DK, Dueces with two snaps up and a Z formation!!!

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
5:16 pm

Dream_n I think you did a fine job expressing yourself, all the more reason it was so hard for me NOT to concur. And actually, I posted something quite similar in the past on here. So I already knew not only where you were coming from, but also where you were going…

Granted we don’t all agree on here. I believe most regulars have been “up to bat” several times when the masses may not have seen “eye to eye” on someone’s belief and/or perspectives. Heyal, I’ve had my share…and some more than others on here. But I’m of the belief that there is more than one way to skin a cat…and it’s not so much what is said, it’s how it’s said that makes a difference and it can be a much more effective approach if done without all the snide. So again, you were absolutely right saying some things just get old, hence throwing a negative spin on someone’s viewpoint, in an attempt to discredit not only their beliefs, but most importantly – their experiences. So having said that, IMO you carry your own just fine on here, no need for me or anyone to confirm that for you. I’m sure your life’s experience(s) is where credit is due to having thick skin = which is definitely a pre req in this piece.

But it’s the nature of the blog beast. For the most part, we must enjoy reading/contributing to discussion enough to return later on down the line…be it the next day, week, month…and so forth.

Even when we occasionally get on each other’s effin’ nerves. LOL

…again, G’nite you all.