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Love, Pleasure, Duty

You guys know how fascinated I am by the research studies! CNN recently reported about a study that was conducted to find out why women have sex.  Yes, this was the actual reason for the scientific research! What are the reasons women do it? They also explored what influenced the female sex drive.

After a previous study identified the 237 reasons why women have sex, researchers polled women to see which ones were selected the most.  The responses varied from love, pleasure, and duty.  Is that really all that different from men, though?

One of the researchers, David Buss said he found it surprising how dramatically and variably sexual experience seemed to influence feelings of self-esteem. I am pretty sure Mr. Buss would have already known this if he was a woman!

What do think about the study? Do you agree that women’s motivation for sex is generally related to love and commitment?  Since women are often referred to as the more complex gender, do you think that what women want out of sex is just as complex?

Guys, does your sexual experiences impact your confidence and self-esteem?  Do you think your motivation for sex and what you get out of it differs from women?

375 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Now I’m howling!!!!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

Well I am glad I can provide you good people with some much needed entertainment today..

Mo (aka Moeisha-gotta get tix to see Mint, Ledisi & Eric Benet)

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

OMG Infamous I am hollering at you!!!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

@ DK

Now you need to go redeem yourself by finding a tenderoni to let you help with their breast exam… lmao!!!

I’ve heard of helping out the fellow man, but damn!!!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:34 pm

Dream – Now even you got jokes.. This is a bad.. Michael Jackson Bad.. Real Bad Joe Lackson..

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

Stepped away for a while — trying to catch up…

Wise — Did we do something that I missed? You didn’t give me a roofie, now did you? ;-)

And why do I keep hearing the theme song from The Crying Game?

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

This is bad, real bad, Michael Jackson
Now I’m mad, real mad, Joe Jackson

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:37 pm

dead at The Crying Game…..

I.
Can’t.
Breathe.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:38 pm

Dang even Swiss Beats got jokes..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

I think I’m going to rent The Birdcage soon. LOL!

i'm swiss

October 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

LMAO… Sorry, DK — I couldn’t resist.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

Sexy – Gee thanks.. I hate you soo much right now.. AIIIIIIIIIII!!!!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

Matter of fact, I just got my copy of To Wong Fu, Thanks for everything, Julie Newmar – you can come watch it tonight with me DK if you like.

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

Leggs, yep, there was not much difference since it had been repeated what SHE had already stated…and even later – confirmed. ;)

As for that list BlogMatchMaker – Dead give away on who “created” it, cuz it’s definitely missing not only a particular name, but a real “hookup”. I’m slowly changing the channel tho…no patience staying in tuned. I can only LOL at the thought of a Demi…cool young brutha, just too young for meh’. ;)

It’s supply & demand on the price of the “Ooochie Wally”. Too many great deals, bargain prices, & BOGO’s to go around to even consider auctioning.

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

And I seriously did order that movie the day Patrick Swayze died.

~keeling over with laughter~

Tazzee

October 9th, 2009
4:42 pm

I am in TEARS over here!!! The Crying Game…. I can’t take it!!!

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

LOL @ DK finding out Repressed is actually Wayman (Low down dirty shame). now calling Ms. Peaches to come and get this rotweiler.

Good night.

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

Dam dam dam!!

Elijah

October 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

@DK see what thinking about Sexycool super coochie can do to you! :lol:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

@ DK I kid I kid :)

SC: just got my copy of To Wong Fu, Thanks for everything, Julie Newmar –

taht is a very good movie, I just might try to locate it in the archives also..

@ Jamoca : I think what I was trying to convey may have come across better when you said it… :)

czBrat

October 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

i feel so bad for you DK. even I knew he was a guy.

ciao folks!

THE INFAMOUS EMBARRASSED DK

October 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

Sexy – Yeah I’ll watch Two Wong Fu wit cha.. You’ll be the screenee and I’ll be the screener..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

adios amigos..

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
4:52 pm

A’ight den DK, Dueces with two snaps up and a Z formation!!!

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
5:16 pm

Dream_n I think you did a fine job expressing yourself, all the more reason it was so hard for me NOT to concur. And actually, I posted something quite similar in the past on here. So I already knew not only where you were coming from, but also where you were going…

Granted we don’t all agree on here. I believe most regulars have been “up to bat” several times when the masses may not have seen “eye to eye” on someone’s belief and/or perspectives. Heyal, I’ve had my share…and some more than others on here. But I’m of the belief that there is more than one way to skin a cat…and it’s not so much what is said, it’s how it’s said that makes a difference and it can be a much more effective approach if done without all the snide. So again, you were absolutely right saying some things just get old, hence throwing a negative spin on someone’s viewpoint, in an attempt to discredit not only their beliefs, but most importantly – their experiences. So having said that, IMO you carry your own just fine on here, no need for me or anyone to confirm that for you. I’m sure your life’s experience(s) is where credit is due to having thick skin = which is definitely a pre req in this piece.

But it’s the nature of the blog beast. For the most part, we must enjoy reading/contributing to discussion enough to return later on down the line…be it the next day, week, month…and so forth.

Even when we occasionally get on each other’s effin’ nerves. LOL

…again, G’nite you all.