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Love, Pleasure, Duty

You guys know how fascinated I am by the research studies! CNN recently reported about a study that was conducted to find out why women have sex.  Yes, this was the actual reason for the scientific research! What are the reasons women do it? They also explored what influenced the female sex drive.

After a previous study identified the 237 reasons why women have sex, researchers polled women to see which ones were selected the most.  The responses varied from love, pleasure, and duty.  Is that really all that different from men, though?

One of the researchers, David Buss said he found it surprising how dramatically and variably sexual experience seemed to influence feelings of self-esteem. I am pretty sure Mr. Buss would have already known this if he was a woman!

What do think about the study? Do you agree that women’s motivation for sex is generally related to love and commitment?  Since women are often referred to as the more complex gender, do you think that what women want out of sex is just as complex?

Guys, does your sexual experiences impact your confidence and self-esteem?  Do you think your motivation for sex and what you get out of it differs from women?

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Deeva4Life

October 9th, 2009
3:06 pm

Dream_n – I agree with you…totally!! I can’t speak for those you’re referring to, but from where I sit, I don’t think they were trying to berate but maybe shed light from another perspective. *shrugs*

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:08 pm

Kym – Well its always breast cancer awareness for me.. 7 days a week, 365 days a year, Bay-by!!

Now come on over her and let me make sure them thangs are ok..

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:09 pm

Dream – Well the real answer is she makes him feel young again but that good is also a factor..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:12 pm

I don’t think they were trying to berate but maybe shed light from another perspective.

Thank you Deeva.

When I got to the 1st grade I had to learn on a 1st grade level and every level after that. What I learned in the kindergarten was just the start of it all. What would a first grader look like trying to tell a 4th grader how to do long division he has only mastered single division?

I said it the other day, even at my age there are things I am still learning about life. Heck I have learned some stuff from folks on here.

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:12 pm

Raqi

Never once have I mentioned that I know it all b/c I have a daughter or live with the father of my child.. You can go back and read past posts to verify that.
I gain my knowledge and understanding through my life experiences and through those that I come in contact with.

There is a big difference between disagreeing with someone’s opinion and trying to dis credit what they day based on age/status/religion.. or otherwise.

and that’s what you tend to do if someone disagrees with you… While I know bloggin is all about fun and entertainment. It gets really annoying when someone focuses on what you say and tries to go against it. I dealt with that in high school and middle school. It was old then and its old now.

You make great points and give good advice coming from your experience. I can atest to that.. SO don;t think I’m trying to e-thug on you or anything.. It just got really annoying.

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:13 pm

Dream_n or is that at 23,u jaded bout sexx.

U got it during teens,well be4 prime,then u thoght that was hallelua and mr puerto ricko slammed u real good,just like Dela Hoya,the boxxer did to his adversaries and then smwhere smehow,u lost it,and now u kinda feel like u need a break polus a dose of the female viagra to get u back on track.

Is that it???????

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

Dream_n you got the wrong one sweetie. I have never tried to discredit anyone.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:16 pm

Dream – Your not in a click yet.. Pick one and then you’ll be alright.. I tell you what.. Here hold on to my back pocket and move when I move.. Oh and wash my underwear everday out in the sink.. Welcome to CB4

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

@DK…. I am betting sexycool has some super coochie! :smile:

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Let’s agree to disagree and not beat this dead horse!

It’s friday!!!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

@ DK

Not a click kinda girl… I roll on my own :)

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

There is no on here that I have agreed with everything that they say, and I have not been shy about telling them I don’t agree.

Just because I don’t agree does not mean that I am trying to discredit, it just means I don’t agree. You know, that’s life.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

Elijah – Im willing to bet she does too..

Sexy Cool – Can I get a date?

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Infamous – You wouldn’t let me get in your car cause I might have on flip flops.

Willie Dynamite

October 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Du – whats hapn mayne. Good to see you pop in.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Just finished eating a fudge sickle and there’s no joke on the stick. I’ve been robbed!

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Infamous don’t bring up that clique mess. LOL That just start wars.

But however, I am glad you brought up that is National Breast Cancer Awareness month. Every woman over 35 needs to start getting that annual exam.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

Dream – You know Raqi and I used to bump heads worse than ARED and I do now.. Imagine that.. I think I was as scorned as she was back then.. I said stuff to her I wanted to say to my EX Wife..

I was also hated by damn near everyone on the blog at one time.. But I stayed true to who I am and people accepted that I can be an ass at times but I have a good heart.. And I tell the truth.. Good, Bad Or Ugly..

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

Afternoon you all…

Well it’s about dayum time!!!! I appreciate that 3:00, Du !!! I tell ya, folks act as if the girl…excuse me, young lady is speaking in tongues.

Dream_n Hopefully, you’re not taking too much of this “young gal” bullshyt to heart. Because if you ask me (and I know no one did) but I can gather around a shytload of “old folks” who act worse than children…and for some it can get worse as they approach those golden years. They may have experienced a lot in their lifetime(s), but the way some of them process their experiences, is a cryin’ shame. So of course, some will naturally downplay the young adults. But I truly appreciate the ones who have no problem dropping me a few gems along the way, WITHOUT attempting to downgrade my own life experiences due to a difference in age. Most of what I have read here is common sense, but you’d be surprised at some who “still don’t get” something I’ve long ago “mastered”.

So, I must say that I concur hands down with the statement that a good phuck ain’t enough. Though it may help for awhile, but there’s got to be more going for the woman (whether she’s his wife or not) in order to “convince” dude she’s worth staying down with. Because best believe, she ain’t the ONLY good phuck in the area…nor is she the only one with that fiyah dome and/or being superb with those domesticated skills. There are plenty of women who have all those qualities, HANDS OVA FIST. What I’ve come to realize it’s more about what his woman’s got, that no other woman compare….some that appreciates with value or one that depreciates over time.

But yeah, don’t sweat all that snide regarding your age. All it verifies is how long you’ve been on dis’ errfff! (this earth) ;) Heyal, by the time I was fourteen, my “workday” began at 4am sharp, while running a household, worked two jobs (while in highschool) and successfully balancing a checkbook. Of course, by then I had made a few grown up decisions, by deciding to “own up” to my responsibilities…not because I was “trying” to be grown, just taking ownership and being accountable for my decisions. Although, it was my age that most folks focused on, it was my mentality that spoke for itself.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Sexy Cool – I’ll look the other way when you get in the car.. See what a dude will do for super coochie..

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Correction: What I’ve come to realize it’s more about what his woman’s got, where no other woman can compare….something that appreciates with value over one that depreciates over time.

Eiljah

October 9th, 2009
3:28 pm

Dream_N….. Most men considered their women a prize especially when we have the one that adds to our happiness and giving the good, good when we want it and when we need it! :lol:

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:29 pm

WOW, what started out as a joke has turned itself around.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

You know Infamous as one I used to war with, it’s funny how when folks disagree with you, it’s just them having a different outlook, but you disagree with them, you are being mean and hateful and discrediting and all that BS. But when in reality you are just doing what they are doing with your statements, disagreeing.

But yeah you and I did battle for a while. Now we in a clique. LOL

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

@ Jamoca

lol… No I’m not taking it to heart :)

@DK:

I can appreciate a “great debate”!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:30 pm

Ok lets clear this up.. Im not saying its all we need but its important.. More important than ya’ll think..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

Leggs Yep.

I need to clean my contacts. I am still seeing a shade of red.

sexuallyrepressed

October 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

I was asking honest questions, i mean really; I am missing anything by not having sex… since i don’t have the “thirst” for it.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:34 pm

More important than ya’ll think.

And coming from a stranger, Mr. Infamous, that’s why we should take that statement serious when it’s coming from our mate.

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
3:34 pm

Whats the going price of Super Coochie these days?

Jamoca

October 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

Why you think a old dude gets him a young girl?

…some refer to that ^^^ as midlife crisis for men. For some, it simply proves he still got it .

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

The NY Daily News has a poll asking readers if President Obama deserved to win the Nobel Peace Prize. 33% said Yes, 61% said No, and 7% not sure!

Dream_n

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

@ Raqi

I’ll say this and I’ll leave it alone, b/c when I click that pretty lil x at the top of my screen.. Noone here really existes anymore.

Everytime a statement is made about a subject if you always disagree or pounce on it based on my age, then yes you are discrediting my statement based on my age. Theres a difference between disagreeing and discrediting.

Any who… It’s kewl..again its just your opinion/my opinin.. and its okay if we dont agree on every subject.

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

RAqi – Its her first time the blog has ganged up on her is all.. When it happened to me the first time.. I was hot as fish grease..

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

DuShawn,

A house in the Hamptons and a BMW M6. LOL

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

Don’t judge me!

wait!!
W8!

SexyCool

October 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

SexuallyRepressed – Only thing that I’ve got for you is that you haven’t been touched in the right way by the right or wrong person.

Because when you experience lovemaking that touches your soul through your body…it’s a natural high that you will crave for.

I liken it to drug addicts saying that they kept looking for the “perfect high.” If you can find someone that brings you that kind of high, you will yearn for that ass, I promise.

Leggs

October 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

@Jamoca, it’s to make him feel young, she has stamina, and her breastesses stand at attention (for the most part).

THE INFAMOUS DK

October 9th, 2009
3:39 pm

Raqi – stop it I say.. A house in the hamptons.. Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:40 pm

sexuallyrepressed??

U male,female or hermophrodite??

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:41 pm

Now Ms. Professor…. Why are you having those wings with-out me? I like that comment of 90 straight days of sex when you get married!

I am a firm believer in the bible and since Adam did not give Eve a wedding ring lets head down to the justice of the peace get married so we can get this on and poppin! :wink:

DuShawn

October 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

Raqi, Atleast you’re smart enough to attempt to attach a monetary value to it. This chick once told me her coochie was priceless. I said, If it lacks a price, it must be worthless.

Kym

October 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

Feels the need to do something totally out of character.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Oh, Infamous, he said Super Coodies? I thought he said Super Coochie.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

This is some good stuff!

I liken it to drug addicts saying that they kept looking for the “perfect high.” If you can find someone that brings you that kind of high, you will yearn for that ass, I promise.

Raqi – stop it I say.. A house in the hamptons.. Please a triple m shot.. Movies, McDonalds and Motel Parking lot..

Melodramatizulu

October 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

Raqi, i think Dream_n is kinda like u after ur whitebread.

‘member,she leaving the not so good live in lover in a few? That may have sme to do with her sexx views….

When uall women arent having it,u kinda think its poison,even to ur friends.

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

That was so backwards…

Scratch that 3:43.

Do not blog and talk on phone.

Correction: Oh, Infamous, he said Super Coochie? I thought he said Super Coodies.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman!

October 9th, 2009
3:46 pm

Sexycool has more game than any player I have ever met! I bow down to you SC bka super—coochie! :lol:

Raqi

October 9th, 2009
3:46 pm

Melo, I am seeing red. I need to clean my contacts.

BTW where are you talking your Queen? I didn’t read it. Since it’s her birthday you should have taken her away for the weekend.