I have always said that dating can be like getting a Ph.D in human behavior. When you are trying to find common ground with people, you will discover their views and outlook on little things, and big things. Such as cheating.
You would think that this would be a pretty simple thing to define. I have not always found that to be the case. I was on a date recently and the guy said something about an ex-girlfriend who dumped him because of dirty text messages he had been sending to a former hook-up. That led to a discussion on when someone crosses the line and steps over on to the inconsiderate jerk who cheats side.
I have had this discussion before with men whose definition of cheating vastly differs from mine. I always like to get a man’s perspective about this fairly early on. His opinion about what constitutes cheating tells me a lot about how he handles his business in a relationship.
Everybody has a different idea on what cheating is and it is easier to define when you aren’t being cheated on or are cheating on someone. What is your definition?
Do you bring up the topic of cheating when you are dating someone new? Do you ask if they have ever cheated in a relationship? If they answer yes, do you give them credit for being honest with you? Does it change your perception of them?
What if they have been in a relationship with someone who is married? Do you question their character and morals? Would it be a deal breaker?