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The Company’s Sexy Ink

I am not sure if you have all seen the news about David Letterman. In a nutshell, Ole’ Dave was dipping his pen in the company ink, repeatedly, for years.  I watched him reveal the story about a man attempting to extort money to keep the dirty secrets on the air.  It was extremely odd because the audience was laughing as he was recounting the ordeal, weaving in humor whenever he could.

I suppose it can be a cautionary tale about dating and sleeping with co-workers.  I doubt that someone with his public image will ever have true remorse about what he did.  I just wonder about the women that were involved.

When you work with people you tend to reach a level of comfort. If you don’t have boundaries, it would be easy to  cross the line and give in to the attraction you feel. It seems as if today’s society is more accepting of workplace romances. I know couples who openly date at work and it doesn’t seem to be problematic for them.

Have you ever dated a co-worker? Was it  a good experience or a nightmare?

If someone new started working in your company, would you pursue things if you were attracted to them right away?

Do you think there are ways to make dating a co-worker actually work for you? How do you avoid the drama in the office? What happens if the relationship doesn’t work out?

What do you think of Letterman’s revelation? How do you think he has handled the “scandal” of dipping his pen in the company ink?

Happy Wednesday!

282 comments Add your comment

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
11:57 am

well u mentioned stealing after sexx..i had a confession from some 20 years back.

I was the thief!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 7th, 2009
11:58 am

@ Leggs

Re: 11:55 Excellent post. I’ve seen that scenario played out line by line and Surprise…the ending is almost always the same! EXACTLY as you described it.

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
11:59 am

The only agenda item now focuses upon making each others job unbearable.

Leggs I agree. While both are consenting you just cannot determine at the beginning what your feeling and/or response will be 3 months down the line. As with any relationship. I have just always chosen to not want to deal with it in my work place. But to each his own.

Some find true love and some find the biggest disaster of their life.

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
12:00 pm

Yes RandyT I see you are in a good mood today.

Dan

October 7th, 2009
12:00 pm

@Leggs

I say!

You got me looking round the office now! That 1st paragraph sounds fantastic.

Cemeeli

October 7th, 2009
12:02 pm

Aunte Anne’s pretzel would be good for lunch…

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:03 pm

Leggs& 11.55,u spoiling all the fun,now! :lol:

Professor

October 7th, 2009
12:04 pm

I work in a different county now, but just yesterday an associate put his hands on a manager here. When the police came the associate was still here and the police told the associate to leave, but ask the manager if he wanted to press charges. I am using the title manager loosely because this guy is an officer of the company. (I have not seen too many incidents at work where the police just take charge and starts arresting folks). I have dealt with at least 5 but less than 12 workplace violence incidents in my career.

@Melo please confess!

Mrs D

October 7th, 2009
12:04 pm

I don’t see anything wrong with dating a co-worker. You can’t help who you fall in love with. I met my husband at work and we worked on the same floor. It was allowed because we were under two different departments and he was not my boss. Don’t let your job dictate your heart!! If you care about that person and see a future together, maybe one of you should maybe look for a different position with the company or find another job.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:05 pm

If females stop playing victims all the time,it wldnt end that way u describe,Leggs.

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
12:05 pm

Being that I have my own private office…TMI. Scratch that.

While the mystery of the hidden workplace fling sounds really exciting and whatnot, I’ll rather stick to my man dropping by stealing a love pat or carrying me away for an afternoon rendezvous.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:07 pm

Proffesor,its too lascivious/salacious…im thinking about it.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:09 pm

abc,Kimmie and Tazzee have not posted today…….

I wonder if they met their boos at work :lol: :lol:

Bill

October 7th, 2009
12:10 pm

Before we decide how well Dave “has done”, let us wait a few months and see what the exploitation actually costs him!

Gheeghee

October 7th, 2009
12:11 pm

agreed, @ Debdoes, good post. It is what it is.

Lurker

October 7th, 2009
12:12 pm

YAWN, Whats some other blogs thats interesting I can check out? Whats the site to that Smartguy’s blog?
Thanks

BSandwich

October 7th, 2009
12:12 pm

That’s right Mrs D! The heart wants what it wants

Melis99

October 7th, 2009
12:14 pm

Yes, I have dated a co-worker. In the beginning it was fun because we where sneaking around trying to hide the relationship and it was fun because it was a challenge. Well, this went on for about 4 months, then we moved in together which made it even more difficult because he wanted to ride to work together, so we had to walk in at different times.:-) Well, to make a long story short after living together for 6 months he broke the news to me on my Birthday!!! He handed me the door knocker from the front door (Engraved with Mr. and Mrs.X) and asked me to marry him. Ten years later we’re still happily married with a 6 year old son and a 4 year old daughter.:-)

Professor

October 7th, 2009
12:14 pm

Let me ask these questions…

Do you all place vendors in the same category? Would you date the guy/gal that works for FedEx or the person that refills your snack machines at work?

The reason I ask is because I have seen this start off great and poof the person’s route change shortly after “fluids” change and BAM another problem to deal with.

Have you ever let a coworker borrow money?

Acai

October 7th, 2009
12:15 pm

With regards to Dave Letterman, if you have to sneak and do it, it is obviously wrong. It has been reported that no one knew about his sex with the interns and other much younger women on his staff until this story broke. To me, the big issue with this story is the work place issues, not infidelity to a love one. (I don’t condone infidelity, but in this case, that part of the story is private, and between he and his girlfriend/wife). In most workplaces, a wife, husband, sibling, parent, child, etc. could not be in the same chain of command for good reasons. Therefore, if you are having sex with someone, and you have an opportunity for pillow talk, it is also a forbidden relationship in the workplace. Further, the women Dave slept with certainly were privy to information and favors that other people on the staff were not privy to, and accordingly, they had advantages for advancement that other employees did not have. Picture this, one of your co-workers is secretly having sex with your supervisor. You both are smart, diligent workers, and want to get promoted to the next higher level position. Which one of you do you think will get the next promotion in the company? Which one do you think your supervisor would give a glowing recommendation and a better performance appraisal? Which one of you would know well in advance when a promotion opportunity will be coming out? I think this scenario is all too common, and is more probable than not, happening to you without your knowledge.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:15 pm

TMI. Scratch that

so,do u keep towels and other cleaning materials at the job..as well as the aerosols, so u dont stink the office Raqi??

Professor

October 7th, 2009
12:18 pm

Proffesor,its too lascivious/salacious…im thinking about it.

Melo give us something GOOOODDD, something that will make us laugh so hard we cry! Make it juicy too

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:19 pm

Which one do you think your supervisor would give a glowing recommendation and a better performance appraisal?

the one he hasnt banged yet,it makes it easier to bang her after the promo.

:lol: :lol:

Leggs

October 7th, 2009
12:21 pm

@Melis99, very nice! Glad it worked out for you.

czBrat

October 7th, 2009
12:24 pm

no. i wouldn’t place vendors in the same pool with co-workers. and $$ among co-workers is a HUGE no-no. now if it’s a friend and co-worker that’s another story altogether.

Kym

October 7th, 2009
12:29 pm

Prof..vendors are not in the same catagory. The Crystal Springs guy is a cutie and I would date him if there was an opportunity.

Cool Shadow

October 7th, 2009
12:34 pm

In Letterman’s situation, I think the word “scandal” is a misnomer because nobody’s filed a complaint. He wasn’t married at the time nor is he a politician, so that takes the salacious edge off the situation for me, unlike Clinton, Sanford, Ensign, etc. I presume he’s handled the situation in his way to avoid embarrassment to his female co-workers.

I’ve dated a co-worker previously but it was a large office and we worked for different companies. It was discreet and fun and ended amicably, but my general view is that dating colleagues can be precarious. Quietly, I think you can date a co-worker but in only certain circumstances. The dynamics vary too much (aside from saying just don’t do it) to have the same rules to apply to every situation.

I think that if you decide to go that route, you should view your potential suitors with greater scrutiny than others outside the work environment and how you plan to handle the romance(on the low vs. out in the open) and make doubly sure everyone’s on the same page (relationship vs. FWB status, etc.), and that’s just for starters.

Leggs

October 7th, 2009
12:35 pm

@Professor, I don’t have the same opinion when dating a vendor. I dated one. This nice looking dude would deliver office furniture to downtown Atlanta. I’ve seen him numerous times and his body always made my eyes pop and my mind to racing. Since there isn’t a shy bone in my body I introduced myself and told him about a party I was giving a girlfriend and was looking for a stripper. Haaaaa, not a good way to start a relationship, but that wasn’t my intent then. I did need a stripper. Well, he declined but gave me a number of someone else. A few months later, we started dating. Just to see that body outside of his uniform was pure d delightful. Turns out he was too needy! Too needy. I was working on my degree, had my own apartment and car and he was living in the basement of his mama’s house w/no car. We dated maybe 4 months. The first time he asked me for $$ (2 weeks after we started dating) was when I knew we wouldn’t be hanging together much longer. Nonetheless, starting out with asking him to be stripper at a party was the foundation this relationship was built on. It quickly became quicksand!

Jake a.k.a. Sweet Peeda Jeeda

October 7th, 2009
12:37 pm

Enter your comments hereNothing wrong with a workplace romance, just know what it is. A trip into the taboo, they tend to last 4-6 months. One person gets to coozy, the other continues to have anxiety about the relationship itself and its possible effect on his/her career. The career focused employee will eventually pull away from the situation due its parameters. The relationship hits a point where it could be significant and he/she has to pull out because its not easy as easy to supress the relationship as it was in the first 3 months.

What up folks, been awhile

Wise Diva

October 7th, 2009
12:40 pm

Our Office Depot delivery man is a hottie too, I keep trying to look at his ring finger but I get distracted by his lips, arms, and other stuff *woo*

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
12:40 pm

Vendors are different.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:41 pm

One of my buddies is a mechanic and used to work for dekalb county motor division.

He tells me he had a fling with one afr/american lady and then it became complicated and what not.She didnt want him to look/comment about other females etc coz she was so possessive like that.She was causing so much problems for him so much that he ended up going to the superiors and told them the whole truth.It became a company public spectacle.
The other females in her division now started pining for him too,saying,”what is it that u, mandingo got,thats making her act this crawwwwzzy??”
Two other wrkmates of her went ahead and slept with him just so they cld get a taste of his magic stick.
Some Atl women for u!

JB

October 7th, 2009
12:41 pm

Enter your comments here

I am glad David Letterman came out and did not pay this FOOL A dime. Because if he had received this blackmail money he would come back for MORE!!!!

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
12:44 pm

Melo I have never had sex in my office. However we did come really, really close one time. But that was a special situation and a few years ago. The weather was iffy and half the company did not show up that day. I was lonely, LOL, and he brought me lunch being the brave man that he is risking his life and limbs driving on that barely existing ice on the roads to bring his lovely woman her nourishment.

Raqi

October 7th, 2009
12:45 pm

LOL WiseDiva. All the free paper clips you want.

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
12:46 pm

he wrked with all those ladies, i forgot to say…

Ms. Main just getting in

October 7th, 2009
12:48 pm

Yep….the stockbroker. I sort of got the vibe he was digging me but was too shy to act or even ask. He asked me to drive him to his car one night after work and confessed his feelings. After that, we started dating and did so for almost 8 months. Didn’t end well. Got my heart shattered. Won’t do that again.

Ms. Main just getting in

October 7th, 2009
12:52 pm

Speaking of sex in the office (literally an office). I was chatting with a coworker about love, life and romance and she proceeded to tell me that she used to frequest one of the underwriter’s office and they’d lock his door and go at it. Well, little did she know, I KNEW THE GUY! She’s the type that’s open to free love and all it entails….lol I didn’t say anything but I almost fell off my chair because he was such or appeared to be such a nerd. Boy oh boy…the things she said they did. I went to lunch with him and another coworker a few times but I NEVER would have imagined.

TooRisky

October 7th, 2009
12:55 pm

I think it gets too complicated when you date coworkers. There are too many feeling involved – i am a woman and i am the first to say we don’t know how to let it go. Office sex is just that hit it and quit it. Don’t involve feelings.

With that being said…how do you not fall for the other person. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE.

I say just don’t do it.

Professor

October 7th, 2009
12:56 pm

The reason I asked about vendors is because I have seen that get out of hand too. We had one lady bless her soul that was in a trance by this one vendor. He was very cordial to her and she asked him out for drinks, well he stood her up “no call no show.” Monday morning when he came in to finish up his job she made a spectacle saying why you didn’t call me and all this other ish. At the time, my manager asked this guy manager to remove him from working on the project. I really felt that was unfair. My manager told me that since this was a vendor and we were paying them he was not going to deal with it and the easiest thing to do was let them know the guy could not comeback.

Professor

October 7th, 2009
12:59 pm

..i had a confession from some 20 years back.

I was the thief!

What did you used to steal? What made you stop?

Bad Idea

October 7th, 2009
1:03 pm

It is a very bad idea. I met my stalker at work. He seemed so normal until after the relationship was over. Because we worked together he could get my schedule and started calling out sick and working his schedule around mine. Fortunantly I found a new job and he no longer has access to my schedule. :)

East Point's Own

October 7th, 2009
1:05 pm

Soooo… nobody mentioned the fact that Dave met his wife while she worked for him on the show too..????

http://hispointofview.com

Melodramatizulu

October 7th, 2009
1:05 pm

Proff,that real lyfe story wld not appeal to the ladies,only to the guys..so ima drop it.

Randy and Swiss will luv it,i know. :lol:

Leggs

October 7th, 2009
1:05 pm

He stole honey pots and emotions!

Professor

October 7th, 2009
1:09 pm

Melo/Leggs I just wanted to make sure because I thought my mind was in the gutter, well that comes with reading my zulu brother

SexyCool - Um. Yeah. What you said.

October 7th, 2009
1:14 pm

My boss just hollered out in his office, “Ha, I knew it wouldn’t last.”

I was like, “What are you talking about?”

And he proudly informed me that Usher was getting a divorce like he had the scoop of the day.

So, um, yeah…I could hardly breathe for laughing.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

October 7th, 2009
1:15 pm

When considering an office “engagement” it is a good time to ask the following question:

In light of my PAST experience, my PRESENT circumstances, and my FUTURE goals and dreams, is this the WISE thing to do?

A really wise client of mine many years ago amde an excellent observation once. I called him with a product I really thought he should buy. He listened patiently and then said this,
“this is probably a once in a lifetime opportunity…but in my life I have noticed that once in a lifetime opportunities seem to come along about once a week”.

His point is that there will always be another “opportunity” right around the corner, and I have said before “sex is easy” here in the ATL, every day. So again…is this the “wise thing to do”?

Kym

October 7th, 2009
1:17 pm

According the ajc. buzz Usher is delaying signing the papers for his divorce.

Powers Ferry Fairy

October 7th, 2009
1:18 pm

There is alot of that going on at the Big Orange Corp. I’ve seen some messy things happen from wives, husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends sending company-wide emails, calling supervisors, harrassing, etc. One of my friends is dating her boss secretly and I just think it’s a recipe for disaster!