Over the Bad Boys
I remember having a discussion with the younger guy I’ve been seeing for the past few weeks. He made a comment about how I “needed a man with edge” or something.
I thought about it and realized that I feel like I am over the edgy dudes. In fact, they kind of annoy me mostly because it’s just a bunch of bad boy bravado. There usually is a super kind, generous guy underneath all the hype.
I can’t seem to meet the type that I am drawn to: square, a little corny, and not at all the bad boy type. Tattoos, piercing, earring, or whatever the bad boy uniform is doesn’t do it for me. I like them clean cut and polite. I did meet someone recently that seemed to be the type but after our first date, I got the bad boy edgy vibe!
Do you think that bad boys and “good girls gone bad” types lose their appeal as we get older? If you really think about it, this is the type you usually seek out when you aren’t looking for anything meaningful. How do we end up in relationships and pseudo-relationships with them?
Is it habit that we keep picking the wrong people or are we intentionally avoiding The One type candidates?
Has anyone ever told you that you were “too nice” or have you said that to someone you met?
If you meet someone who is a keeper but they have a little “edge” to them, do you take them seriously or just have fun with them.
Happy Friday!
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I remember long ago I tried...
October 2nd, 2009
8:53 am
…to date a “bad girl” – she told me I was too nice for her – and she was right. I think women tend to like the “bad boy” aspect much more than men and “bad girls” – women just cannot get over the hump, so to speak, with the bad boys and they continue to make the same mistake over and over since they think they can “change” them or “he will be different with me”! Dumb broads!!!!!
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
8:53 am
Who has the correct definition for what makes one edgy?
Looking back into the younger years the true bad boys weren’t anything but rebels. Rebellious. That is the main ingredient in a recipe for trouble. What woman over in her thirties wants a trouble maker? I would think and hope not a one. But we all know that is not exactly the case.
When people talk about having an edge are they referring a man that stands his ground? I would say that just being a man.
Would some say it’s a man that will not allow a woman to walk over him? Uh, again that’s just being a man.
Or is that edge really the boyish rebel in a grown man’s body? If that’s the true definition then I am glad to have just a man. A man without the “edge”. A man that speaks his mind. A man that takes control. A man that is kind. A man that is pleasant to be around. I do well without the trouble.
Oprah
October 2nd, 2009
8:58 am
Yeah, I know a few women that married the “bad boys”.
Divorced now, the “bad boys” are in and out of rehab and their kids are flunking high school.
Good luck with that.
i'm swiss
October 2nd, 2009
9:02 am
Morning, Wise…
I’ve never understood the whole bad boy attraction for some women, but whatever floats your boat. If you like azzholes, there’s plenty of them out there.
As for me, I like to think I’m a genuinely nice & respectful person and if I really like you, I’m going to treat you really well. Fortunately, I’ve had no problem finding women who were okay with that.
As for “good girls gone bad” — um… you mean ho’s?
Well, I suppose they can be useful in certain circumstances, but not relationship material IMO… 
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:06 am
…good morning…
…if “good guys” are – attaboys, henpecks, punks, wusses, wannabe turned out, top shelf castrated….Nah, that type is not my cup-a-tea.
I need indentations on my stallion…
rjcole83
October 2nd, 2009
9:18 am
From my experience women go across the board with this issue. In my opinion I am under the belief that most women like the polite gentleman with manners and values, but have an affection for a man who can be slightly antagonistic or competitive. Men have to use there judgement on when this is appreciated. Seems to me that women like to be pushed so that they can feel like they have won. There is a fine line men walk, once it has been defined, I believe it makes for a more complete relationship.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:21 am
Cemeeli that’s the thing, who has the true definitions of these terms we so often use.
One woman may say that because a man has no interest in knocking her around and beating her upside her head is too nice of guy.
But yeah all those you mentioned I think are in a total different category outside of a “good guy”. LOL
I cain’t stand no henpecked man. Just makes me sick to my stomach.
Randy
October 2nd, 2009
9:22 am
All women say that their over the bad boy. But The next time you see them guess who they’re with ? Yep, another bad boy. It’s kind of like the lottery. I’ll buy one more ticket and then quit. I think I’m a good guy and no that doesn’t mean an attaboy, henpeck, punk, wusses, wannabe turned out, top shelf castrated. To me it means a man that offers and demands respect, honesty, and decency. But is also willing to stand his ground when necessary.
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
9:23 am
It’s a chicken-egg situation. I used to be very sweet – everybody wanted to be my “friend” but usually my crushes went unrequited.
Then I went off to college, put on some muscle, came into my own & started having more success with women by being a little bit aloof. Then I found that women were attracted to guys with a slightly pr!ckish streak.
Now, 15 years later, I hardly recognize the man I am. And all these (newly divorced) women on match.com are now saying “are all the GOOD guys gone?”
And I’m like, “What? You helped create me!”
PS, I’m still a gentleman – grabbing the door, the check, etc. I just seem to do better when I’m slightly disinterested, not all up in their grill, etc.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:24 am
rjcole83, one of the biggest misconceptions is when people think just because a man is polite and possess manners and values he lack competitiveness or firmness. That is not true.
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:28 am
Raqi – Right, “bad boy” – “good boy” are NOT universal terms.
I know Cee needs ‘em “uncastrated”.
MR. Unknown
October 2nd, 2009
9:29 am
What up, Whatup, good people? I never dated the tiger paw tatto crawling up the thigh type, I have fun with them but nothing serious… They are prone to getting into fights,, starting trouble with the crazy looking dude in the corner sitting by himself, then looking at you like you are suppose to jump in. You reach a certain age and you realize that a blackeye is not going to heal like it did when you were 20 something, and also these dudes out here don’t fight no more they shoot.. Bad girls have a short life expectancy with me…
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
9:29 am
Happy Friday!!
Hmmm I will say this I think we are complex creatures at least some of us are, and we require some needs to be met. Yes I love good guys it has been my experience that respect, decency, loyalty and trust comes with the good guys. With the bad boys I have seen a dysfunctional form of loyalty and respect carried a different meaning, which often got them in trouble. So do I like a man with an edge? Hell yes because I have one myself, but to me an edge has to do with being a protector and having confidence not being a fool. Simply put I like my good guys with an edge!
Randy
October 2nd, 2009
9:29 am
Ex-Gentleman, You make a great point. Women cause us to become the “bad boy” and then wonder why they can’t find a good man thats not a wusse.
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
9:31 am
Good Morning All
Nice guys finish last..Girls don’t like me because I’m too nice… blah blah blah blah blah….
I genuinely believe that as we get older (the more mature crowd) we look for someone that completes us and treats us with respect and unconditional love. SO those that say “we” (woman) typically go for the rebel are full of b.s. It’s not that we don’t want the “nice” guy, it’s just that sometimes the nice guy is BORING!!! You can be nice, but have a lil edge to you. No real woman IMO wants a Yes man… Stand your ground be firm and aggressive…
When I was younger …. I did go for the bad guy, the one that wouldn’t call you when they said they would. The one that would tip the scale a little towards the azzhole meter. I liked that.. Plus I was young and I always went for the older guys…
i mean when you’re young, you’re not looking for a “soul mate”. You’re having fun, dating, and just living life. As you reach those mid 20’s or even 30’s you soon realize that you’re not going to live forever and you want to find someone to spend your life with…. Sorry bad boys… at about age 25, your kind should start rehabilitation b/c no woman wants to marry the “bad boy”, their good for playing with but it’s time to get put back on the shelf…. Can’t play with you forever….
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
9:34 am
are all the GOOD guys gone?”
And I’m like, “What? You helped create me!”
@Ex-gentleman, why is it that if a woman can go through the cycle a man cannot? By your statement it sounds like women made the good guys bad? Now we are looking for the good guys. It sounds to me that women have matured and come full circle, but the men are still 40 locked in a mental dorm room.
anonymousella
October 2nd, 2009
9:35 am
what do you mean by “edgy?” clean cut and polite with confidence that borders on cocky can be ridiculously sexy. if he has a quick wit and an inner dork / nerd / geek to boot? *swoon*
but if, by “edgy,” you mean “might strong-arm me or someone else in an argument,” then nah. if i have to worry about that, i can’t be with you. eventually, one of us would catch a case.
that said, i strongly prefer “nice guys” too. but, i don’t do doormats. as i get older, i have far more tolerance for when a guy makes a fuss over me. in that way, my definition of “doormat” has shifted a bit. but i need you to have a backbone.
Tazzee
October 2nd, 2009
9:36 am
Never was one that liked the bad boys.
All these guys talking about they were good but the women made them bad need to let go of that baggage or own up to the fact that you’re bad because you wanna be bad.
Fan
October 2nd, 2009
9:37 am
GM all!
I’m going to have to echo Professor on this one. A good guy (GREAT actually) with an edge is just about right. The bad boy was an adventure in my youth. But as Oprah pointed out; married hime … divorced him … don’t have a thing to do with him anymore. He has not outgrown those bad boy ways. That’s just not attractive on a 40-something.
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
9:37 am
@ Tazzee
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
9:37 am
@Dream_n I agree I think when you are younger you are getting to know yourself as well as others…just merely socializing. As time goes on and we become older and hopefully wiser some substance should come into play.
AmazonRed™ - ♥ing the drama-free life
October 2nd, 2009
9:39 am
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Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:39 am
I did go for the bad guy, the one that wouldn’t call you when they said they would. The one that would tip the scale a little towards the azzhole meter.…
Dang, i’m a dude? Lol
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:40 am
Women cause us to become the “bad boy”
That’s a lie. You were probably chasing the wrong type of women and those women liked the rough necks.
Some people just cannot accept their place in life and for some that place is in the “good” lane with the other goods.
If are the Matthew Broderick type you don’t need to be out there chasing Angelina Jolie.
TRUTH
October 2nd, 2009
9:40 am
Bad boys. I’m amazed at all the women that drifted to that “idea” of a man. If women only thought it through. Equally, men who are atrtracted to the Bad Girls, and both sexes normally equate them to not only their faux edginess, but also to their presumed prowess in the bedroom. I can say, as I’m sure many others, that it is a myth. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule, but the chance of either “BAD” being someone who can “knock it out the park!” is about as often as the someone hitting the lottery. Further, after a few conversations, you realize that they are just not that deep. The conversation normally centers around them and their continued attempts at trying to keep you impressed. (Yawn). I think people are more moving back to getting into each other and expressing their personal views (in other words having a point of view) which in and of itself CAN and IS being edgy and certainly brings much more explosive sexual exploits. Bad Boys/Roughnecks/Bad Girls are really passe.
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
9:41 am
Morning all – Sorry for the technical difficulties.
Yeah, I’m into squares too. Never had a problem meeting those.
I have a friend who is obsessed with meeting a man with “swagger” which is just code for a bad boy in a way. She turns down good guys all the time and always finds herself tangled up with a man who has some issue like a wife.
I really don’t get it.
Randy
October 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
I think the real answer is to just be who you are. If you have to pretend to be something that you’re not to get someone to like you……..well then they really don’t like YOU !!!!
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
Tazzee Mae That jacket is sweet!….i’m such a fan.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
When I was younger
LOL Dream_n, you still are. You are not old enough to use “younger” yet. The only step beneath you is “when I was a child”.
BriteEyez
October 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
Good morning and Happy Friday!!
The ladies are very much on point with there comments so far. I believe that the definition of what a “bad boy” is will vary greatly depending on who you ask. One persons “bad boy” can just be a man being a man to someone else. As Raqi so eloquently stated the kind of man I desire is “A man that speaks his mind. A man that takes control. A man that is kind. A man that is pleasant to be around. I do well without the trouble.”
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
Amazon truth be told some good guys have swagger also. Swagger which I think is a dumb word is just confidence. There are plenty of good guys that exude confidence in their walk and actions.
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
Well, if anybody wants to take a whack at rehabilitating me, holler. I used to love being the sweet, honest dork.
He’s not “gone”; I didn’t really change. He just doesn’t come out much because there doesn’t seem to be much demand for him.
PS, “bad boy” is too broad of a term – means different things to different people. You wouldn’t think I was if we met on the street – I’m tall, preppy, have a stable career, etc.
Woody Allen once said “I’d never join a club that would have ME as a member.” Seems to apply to women too.
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
You helped create me
- bullish….this topic is going to bring out the simps today i see…i was once good but now….whatever
hell i use to all that sweet ish and try to one up those bad dudes..but i thought like all simps think…that the nicer i am the more she will like me…i was only nice to get the a zz…i was just doing what my mother told me to do – i mean it works when you sincere with it..but when you trying to manipulate the female by aligning yourself with her emotions then you lose…be a man not a chick…she can cry on her girlfriends shoulder not yours…thats not going to get you the poo cee
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
@ Cemeeli lol tsk tsk tsk… at least text girl!!
@ Raqi.. I beg to differ
Tazzee
October 2nd, 2009
9:49 am
Cemeeli – thank you ma’am. It’s really cute when I wear it with jeans and some boots. Almost broke out the boots this morning, but I’ll wait another week
Raqi –
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
9:50 am
It also works in reverse, too. The best (read: passionate, crazy) relationship I’ve ever had was with a sweet, demure southern girl, a second-grade teacher… who was actually a total hellcat behind closed doors.
THAT was the most awesome pairing ever.
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
9:50 am
with an edge…some of you ladies read like you want a man to shake the sh out of you…
whats an edge…what him getting mouthy with someone to impress your booger wolf azz…lol
chicks love to project there desires on men….a square with an edge..there is no such animal…
yea brothers dont believe the hype…i am not showing out for nobody
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
9:53 am
Swagger is like sex appeal. There is no one set definition.
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
9:53 am
Rell, et. al… you might want to ease off on all the premature conclusions to which you’re jumping.
Nobody’s trying to pass blame or responsibility onto anybody else (I’m not, at least)… just trying to recognize and articulate how these situations come to pass.
Disagree if you like, but namecalling (simp, etc.) is childish.
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
9:54 am
men! – most of women thoughts and convo revolve around men..so she is what she is when you meet her…she was a hellcat when she meet you…she just needed to make sure your simp a zz could handle it – you know..not turn into a stalker or some creepy sh it….dont be surprise..
btw – tazze why my ish gray in the league…you are a funny commish..for that i am about to start channelling my inner voodoo and win this thing..sick of playing gmes
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
I HAVE found, however, that women appreciate a man who can spell, has a decent grasp of grammar, can distinguish between there / their / they’re usage, etc.
Might be worth looking into.
Leggs
October 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
LOL @ Raqi.
Looking back, I never really dated “bad boys”…street corner huggers, pants hanging low, limited conversational skills or those guys that disrespected and ignored you only to make you want them more, just to name a few. No, never went that route. However, I did date a lazy man!
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
I used to love being the sweet, honest dork.
wow…dork? & sweet? = a man, for real?…hehehehehehe
…wasn’t “swagger” buried with some other stuff?!
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
9:56 am
@Ex-gentleman I was not taking a “whack” out of you I was just trying to understand why according to your theory women continued to grow, but it read like the bad boys are still 40 years old but their growth halted.
Welcome to the blog!
If you ain't Sexy, you ain't Cool. (I slay me.)
October 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
Three Words Daily – Get busy winning.
If you’re not winning, you’re losing.
You know that, right?
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
@ex-gent…your right it is childish..but so what….again we know what it is when we were trying to be “nice”…come off it dog…all the pretty words and sh it is cute..but you know what the motive was – when really had no interest other than scoring some tail….hell half the time we got that simp ish from our mother/grandmother/aunties…..i have had several women tell me…you were too nice too fast…or you did not seem genuine -”NO ONE IS THAT NICE”…i knew you wanted something…it was not about me – it was aboute..etc etc etc…so i am calling it like it is – “SIMP ISH”…once you stop did you not get better results…and i dont think i called you ex-gent simp directly..but hell if that shoe feels right on you pimpin- GET TO STEP N!!!
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
@Mae You know what kind of day i had yesturday…You made my evening better…
…the wannabe moonwalker is doing Smooth Criminal for the make-shift concert at school today. They have Celebration Friday every week after Study Hall, and this week is MJ, again!
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
lol @ simp… smh
Leggs
October 2nd, 2009
9:59 am
Hello BriteEyez!
Melodramatizulu
October 2nd, 2009
10:00 am
Bad Boys..
Laaaawd..dont they come in different shades..u know the tatted up,chain smoker,drug pusher and liqor loving guys who talk with a swagg and want to fight everybody and anybody in the club,THEN..
u got the smoof type, the prety boys(aka 8+letter) who seem to be good but infact are undercover in their ways and have a slew of females corpses behind in their wake,a lil baby mama here and a lil baby mama there,some child support drama here,u know the rest and they are rolling stones,collecting a lot of female DNA but not settling for anybody……
They got all the girls esp in high school and the college girls and ofcourse hey do have an edge but if u want to settle down,then u need to look for a reformed bad boy or just a regular boy/girl.
Do you think that bad boys and “good girls gone bad” types lose their appeal as we get older?
Ofcourse!
When they settle down,the bad boys usually have no problem getting a good girl either.
The bad girls?? They skip town!
Morning folks!
Tazzee
October 2nd, 2009
10:01 am
Rell – your ish being gray has nothing to do with me. It appears that yahoo grays out stuff after a period of time with no activity. If I’m going to do something, I let you know before I do it AND after I’m done.
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
10:02 am
@Rell I have dated some real nice guys with an edge so they do exist. A simple man may not be able to grasp this or have the capacity to be one, however good guys with an edge are out here. Biblically speaking a man is a protector, and I date God fearing men so they are not out starting trouble, but they know their role.
Good Guys always lose
October 2nd, 2009
10:02 am
Every woman I know says: “I just wants to meet a nice guy”, however when there is a choice between a good guy or a bad boy, they always chooses the Bad Boy. And when things don’t work out, once again, they come crying about how their relationships never work out!
So while women say: “I Just want a good guy”, they always make the same mistake and choose the Bad Boy.
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:02 am
Hey BriteEyez! You feel off the map. Glad to have you back.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
However, I did date a lazy man
LOL Leggs. You know a bunch of those so called bad boys when we were growing up were just lazy. Too lazy to call. Too lazy to put the time in for a decent relationship. Too lazy go give a darn about anything and anybody.
Look at a bunch of these grown-up bad boys today, just sitting on the corner waiting for it to come to them. Lazy.
SexyCool is.....
October 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
Good girl gone bad gone good gone back. LOL and loving it.
Swagger. Sex appeal. Wears his confidence well.
ALL of that. Yeah, I like ‘bad’ boys, but I’m not talking about criminals.
Just a hint of edge mixed with some intelligence, good conversation, good grooming, good smelling and…well, sht, I could go on.
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
u got the smoof type, the prety boys(aka 8+letter)
just can’t let it go huh melo!!!!
Good Morning
@ Professor
Ex-Gentleman
October 2nd, 2009
10:04 am
Professor, I actually don’t think it’s so much a matter of progressive / regressive development; guys like me just learn to develop a new “face” (which sounds utterly fake and insincere, and might actually be) to interact with the ladies.
Rell is right – whatever we do, it’s usually just to get in their pants (or date, get serious, etc.) If the nice guy routine works, I’m on it. If she digs preppy, funny goofballs, I can work with that. If she wants a confident, aggressive man… well, just talk to a few of my coworkers. (the only place where I just can’t compete is if she wants a good ol’ country boy, redneck, tattooed, NASCAR dude, etc.)
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
Amazon truth be told some good guys have swagger also. Swagger which I think is a dumb word is just confidence. There are plenty of good guys that exude confidence in their walk and actions
Raqi – We have tried to tell her that. See…her dad is one of those guys who was a bad boy who ended up turning it all around and finding the Lord. So she’s a product of that. He’s not a total square since he still carrys some of that bravado with him still.
In any case, she’ll knock the dudes who aren’t dressed the way she likes the moment they walk through the door. Talk about judging a book by their cover.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
I have dated some real nice guys with an edge so they do exist.
Professor what is your definition of “an edge”?
Melodramatizulu
October 2nd, 2009
10:07 am
why talk in generalities Dream_n?
it fell in my lap
aggwitty
October 2nd, 2009
10:08 am
That was rell that got the beat down of the week? So much so that yahoo called it out in a sidebar! Wow, that was Bad, Boy.
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
10:08 am
Dream_n – I laugh when i see that word too.
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:09 am
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:09 am
@ Good Guys always lose
What age group are you referring to???
b/c if you’re still 30 plus falling for the okie doke, rebel with out a brain type, then hey you get what you deserve… I believe our 20- 30 yrs are a learning experience, those are the times you make your mistakes, mis haps or what have… after 30.. okay i’ll give you 35… I’m going to need you to shape up!
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
10:10 am
however when there is a choice between a good guy or a bad boy
You are chasing the wrong women dude. Get in where you fit in and leave the other alone.
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
10:11 am
@Melo I agree that there are different types of bad boys, however one component remains the same…trouble and you can spot red flags from the beginning. So whether he is drinking a 40 or asking for a handout you know it spells trouble.
@Leggs I read about your date a few minutes ago…oops I meant meet and greet. I hope a date follows so you can see him in action…
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
10:14 am
…since we got folks mentioning that they’ve had someone “turned them out” per se…Who admits they’ve turned someone out before?
Men – I’m not talking about that one/two females that would “spread ‘em” anytime you coughed <— that's a FWB…
….i mean you actually turned a "good person" to "strung out & bad"!!!
now covering my eyes
Leggs
October 2nd, 2009
10:15 am
Haaa haaa, ok, ok, Raqi.
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:15 am
Some friends and I were talking about this whole “bad boy” thing on Facebook yesterday.
I told them give me a nice “ovaltine” man. Sounds real lame and tame doesn’t it.
Yeah…I like my men like Ovaltine: rich and chocolate.
SexyCool is.....
October 2nd, 2009
10:16 am
I just want to say something about confidence.
I have met men who claimed that they were confident, but didn’t present themselves as such. Confidence shows in your walk, in the way you use words, in your mannerisms, in your attire, in the way you carry yourself period.
You may say you’re confident, but if it doesn’t show on you, you’re lying to yourself and others.
BriteEyez
October 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
Hi Leggs and Amred!!
It has been a while! I thought it was time I chime in again. How are you ladies doing?
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
More Ovaltine pls!!!!
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
10:19 am
@prof – God fearing men
could you explain how you the women can measure this – what does he do to show you he is trembling in his boots!!!
you are a fraud a fake…i hate when women say god fearing..like we have to proof something to you a mere mortal….like you need to be a specator in my time with god so you can feel good about yourself…hilarious!!!
get a grip and get some self-confidence and get your dude choosing skills up- because god fearing or not…your lacking in both depts..
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:19 am
More Ovaltine pls!!!!
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
10:20 am
@Raqi my definition of edge is a guy with a little advantage although he knows how to treat a woman he has the ability, desire and determination to make sure she is protected. Edge to me means confidence and determination because I do not like a sluggish man that is complacent. Not to mention he must be able to make a Krispy Kreme (west end location) if need be at least in the daytime…LOL.
I think whether “we” are saying edge, swag etc we all want a man that is down to earth, respectful, and has the ability to be the head of the household.
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:21 am
How are you ladies doing?
BriteEyez – I’m doing really well! 2009 has been really good to me. How are you?
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
10:24 am
@aggwitt – same thing make you laught – make you cry…dont worry i am coming back in this fantasy thing..its coming
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:24 am
@ Rell
Tell us why you’re really mad????
You do not that god-fearing… isn’t to be taken literally right???
Leggs
October 2nd, 2009
10:25 am
2009 has been good. I even got a “meet and greet” this year (LOLOLOL).
BriteEyez
October 2nd, 2009
10:26 am
Amred – I am also doing very well! Living life and loving every minute of it!
black intellect
October 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
Most BLACK women can’t judge whether they have a good man or not because they likely didn’t grow up in a household with a TRUE father figure or male role model. It’s mainly black women. Most black women are too caught up in worrying about material things instead of a person’s integrity, values, and intellect. There are plenty of good black men, you’re just too stupid or ignorant to see it. Most so-called “bad boys” are nothing more than immature thug wannabes. Black women, please judge a man on the basis of his character, not the size of his rims. IDIOTS!
Dan
October 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
GM
@Rell, it’s not about simpin it’s about truth and reciprocity.
Just like “men make women crazy”, “women create bad boys”.
Misbehavior on the part of both sexes causes damage.
Professor
October 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
@Dream_n I was trying to ignore Melo on that one! Not to mention…well nothing.
@Ared…love it! Ovaltine: rich and chocolate
@Rell, why so personal? Who pissed in your coffee? Maybe if you had more going for you, you would not have time to analyze someone you could not identify in a police line up. I hope your simple, stupid azz get a grip or at least some Prozac and a glass of water to wash it all down. Take your own advice because if you had chosen the right woman you would not be so bitter, broken and bruised.
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
10:27 am
Tell us why you’re really mad
- not mad…just some folks stink in this joint with the bull ish fantasy they post.pulease
BriteEyez
October 2nd, 2009
10:28 am
Leggs – I didn’t have time to comment yesterday but I did read about you “meet and greet”. I hope it’s the beginning of a great adventure for you!
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AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:29 am
In the words of Florida Evans: Damn, Damn, Damn @ Professor! *hollers*
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
But SexyCool what about that the man that looks like he has it going on, got the walk, and talk the talk, but when it is time to make it happen he does not have what it takes internally nor materially to make it happen.
For me confidence in a man is the man that does not spook easily. The man that is certain and acts on it. A man that can make it happen like it needs to happen. And that does not always show in his outer appearance.
There are plenty of guys out there that look just like you explained but are some of the most trifling deadbeats you ever want to meet. They are just looking for the next woman they can get to let them lay up on them and take care of them. They are swindlers. Smooth talkers. And would run at the challenge of a flea.
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:31 am
@ Professor
DDAAYYYUUUMMMM!!! lol
@black intellect
They have classes for people who think the way you do..
Reading is Fundamental… b/c not once have I seen the ladies post that there are lack of GOOD BLACK men out there…
In the words of Rell….. you simp!
Fan
October 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
GM all!
I have to agree with Professor. A good guy with an edge is just about right. The bad boy was an adventure in my youth. And, as Oprah pointed out early on in this blog, I married him … grew up … divorced him. The bad boy is just not that appealing in a 40-something-year-old man.
So gentlemen, I’m curious, do you ever lose the desire to conquer a good girl?
Rell - da rake
October 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
@prof – bi tch was that suppose to stick me low..lol..not even…but good try –
@dan – dude i am not buying that “she mad me crap”….you know like i know what it is…
@BI – that was the stoopidest post every…hey prof..here is your broke bitter man here not me..
aggwitty
October 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
intellectuals know that gross generalizations and leaps to conclusions are not the way the way to achieve any meaningful discourse. Black, I would suggest you change your surname immediately because if you are the representative for intellects who happen to be black, I fear for the future of our race.
Also,seems as if you are a bitter dude with that “Ima good man” complex. Stop whining and start being. It will get recognized.
Raqi...The Resident Euroblacspanic
October 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
So in other words Professor your definition of edge is just a grown mature man that is accountable, responsible and about taking care of business.
Melodramatizulu
October 2nd, 2009
10:33 am
Its only 10.33 and we got fist fights already!
Love me some MIA
SexyCool is.....
October 2nd, 2009
10:34 am
Raqi – you make valid points. Probably is why my ass is still single. LOL!
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
10:34 am
…wow…@ Black Intellect <— ironic moinker.
g, thanks for the morning mojo.
Cemeeli
October 2nd, 2009
10:36 am
aggw – Get out my pot!
Intellect is on to a new “awakening”…don’t bother…don’t bother…
AmazonRed™ - Go Cal! Beat USC!
October 2nd, 2009
10:39 am
Yup. All out of troll food this morning. Keeping it moving…
Dream_n
October 2nd, 2009
10:40 am
wow…@ Black Intellect <— ironic moinker.
I am cracking up over here… hehehehehe
Leggs
October 2nd, 2009
10:43 am
@black intellect ~ my ex husband use to tell me all the time that I wouldn’t know what a man looked like if he stood in front of me. All I could say is when one passes by my line of vision I’ll be sure to let you know!
@BriteEyez, we shall see!