Romantic connections fail all the time. It’s a part of the whole dating process. You don’t always know what brings on the sudden change in the interest and intensity, and that can be frustrating. From my own experiences, it seems that a lot of us have a very small margin of error for people we are just starting to date.
It’s like we have some sort of weird expectation that the “probationary” period of a new relationship should be all blissful and happy. When it’s not, then that person is just not be for you! Well, I am more of a practical gal. I prefer we not be all guarded and sugarcoat things in the beginning because once I really get to know you, I don’t want to have to discover a totally new personality. One that looks a lot like a raging jerk and nothing like the prince I met and dated in the beginning.
From what I’ve observed, during the dating phase a lot of us refuse to talk about something that bothers us. We don’t want to rock the boat or have awkward conversations. Then when we are fed up, we just check out on the person without any chance of resolving conflict.
Here’s the thing, there will always be something that bothers you about the person you are dating. It’s supposed to happen, so why not say something about it? I think a lot of times, this is when people pull the disappearing acts on someone they are seeing.
What do you do when you are newly involved with someone and there is something they have done or said that bothers you? How do you handle it? If you aren’t that invested in the romance, do you tend to not make efforts to resolve it?
Have you ever dated someone that sort of just checked out and you wondered why they didn’t just say something to you? Do you think it would have made a difference?
If somebody you are dating presents a major character flaw that you don’t like, is your first reaction to say something or let it go? Do you try to get a better understanding of who they are?