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Blame Angelina Jolie

There has been actual research on so-called “mate poaching”.  They found out that a lot of single women aren’t exactly hunting for other singles. Sometimes, they look for the coupled up men and “poach” them away from their current relationship. It’s like the Angelina Jolie syndrome because she supposedly began a relationship with Brad Pitt while he was married.

The results of the research: “Single women were more interested in the man when he was described as attached (90% interested) than when he was described as single (59%). Men showed no difference in interest between a single and attached woman.”

The thing about these studies is that don’t leave much room for the variables. It’s interesting nonetheless, to see the “scientific” analysis about why women are attracted to men who aren’t available. What are your thoughts?

When you meet someone you are attracted to, is it more appealing when you find out a person is involved with someone already? Have you ever pursued someone who had a significant other?

Have you ever been involved with someone and met somebody else that you felt you was the person you were meant to be with? How do you tell the person you are in a relationship that you are in love with another person?

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Leggs

September 30th, 2009
11:56 am

@Professor, love each and everyone of your comebacks to that advice. See, not all elders are full of wisdom!

“If you think you’re lonely now, wait until tonight.” Trying to catch a married man will forever have the other side of your bed EMPTY!

Since this is a dating column, I have some news. I have a date tonight and will report the evening’s activities here tomorrow (that is if you’re interested in hearing them). ARed always states that no one reports on their dating experiences. It’s been a while since I’ve been on a date, so this should be extremely interesting!

Ms. Main

September 30th, 2009
11:58 am

Margaret M No I didn’t misquote. I was being facetious and reversed….but I hear you.

Good Girl in Atlanta

September 30th, 2009
11:58 am

Peace everyone! Have a great day. Don’t blame Angelina. She was working her magic and Brad fell under her spell!

Deeva4Life

September 30th, 2009
11:59 am

Have a great time Leggs!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
11:59 am

Prof – No thats not alright.. Your selfishness is showing.. You gotta you errings to go with your ring. I mean you cant breing yourself to spend that money on him instead of yourself..

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:00 pm

@Leggs thanks! BTW I would love an update on your date tonight…I hope you have fun. I need to set a reminder in my phone so that my nosey behind will pop in. Is this your first date with the lucky fella?

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

September 30th, 2009
12:00 pm

alright Leggs going out on a school night! LOL

Just asking

September 30th, 2009
12:00 pm

I though ARED was a part of the W8 cut, surely she knows something since her & Page was so called BFF, funny.

Mo (aka Moeisha )

September 30th, 2009
12:01 pm

Demi – Congrats Chocolate Baby! Eat up that free food on AT&T’s tab!! :smile:

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:01 pm

Dan

September 30th, 2009
12:02 pm

Congrats Ms. Leggs

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:02 pm

Just Asking – She is but everybody is playing dumb right now..

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:03 pm

@DK I am just saying if a ring brings all these chicken heads out…why not use that money on me? LOL! You know I am trying to keep our union drama free…I was just playing when I typed that by the way. I am not that big of a brat.

NY2GA, Inc.

September 30th, 2009
12:03 pm

You never know who you may meet and end up connected to. Sometimes things happen that we don’t expect. BUT, I’ve always been told to not open another door until the other one is closed. If you really want to be with someone and treat ‘em right why would you want to bring them into your mess? Clean it up, first. Get divorced, tell your girlfriend or boyfriend that it is time to part ways before you get all hot and bothered with someone else. That’s the mature thing to do.

Also keep in mind that ‘poaching’,'cheating’ or whateveryouwannacallit these days can be deadly. Just look at the Steve McNair story.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:03 pm

Just – Everybody is running from this thing because it stinks to high h3ll… And nobody wants to admit they were that stupid eventhough they get on a dating blog and rant about how tough and on it they are..

Just asking

September 30th, 2009
12:04 pm

@DK, I know, but why are the ones that use too post on a regular stop posting.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:04 pm

Prof – That doesnt mean spend the money on you.. You dont have to buy him a ring but you can buy him something.. ;-)

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:06 pm

It’s been a while since I’ve been on a date, so this should be extremely interesting!

ok,since u share, i ll give advice….cool?? i think so..

dont be overtly touchy touchy with him,if u so smitten,as to give it away that u are “gutting”(ohh, i luv DK’sterm there) ur nickers down there coz of the attraction!

Chilly it babeh and make it classy! Coz at the end of the day,u got the prize for killing him softly..in hiz pants!( a trbled and outa control wang is messy for a dude) :lol:

Happy hunting Leggs and congrats!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:07 pm

Just – they are embarrased.. They dont know who knows what.. Thats the beauty of it..

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:08 pm

Just asking/DK …that whole thing is a mess from what I have gathered. I guess some folks don’t want to bring in that vortex of problems. I have said it before and I will say it again if it started on the blog let it end on the blog…messy, but true! Like my mom used to do if you act up in Rich’s I am going to whip your behind in Rich’s.

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:11 pm

LOL:

at our collective attention deficit disorder.

Is the topic done?? I think today’s topic is interesting..lets get on on it folks!

Just asking

September 30th, 2009
12:12 pm

@Professor, LOL. U are so correct. Why hide,its so obvious who was a part of it. Something didnt seem right with him from the jump, Like someone said the other day a FBI blogging ALL day, yea right, & was quick to set up get togethers.

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:12 pm

@DK no I will buy him a ring…something nice!

Yep they are embarrased, and I am shame for them because any playboy or playgirl should have been able to see that coming!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:12 pm

Prof – Nah everybody got something on everybody so theyre nervous the flood gates will open..

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

September 30th, 2009
12:12 pm

@NY2 I am not saying that young girl was right but I understand. Steve McNair(and I loved me some Steve McNair) brought that drama to his own door. The loveshack in the city, hooking up with that young girl(she was 18 when they met), taking her on vacations, buying or cosigning on a car with her, bailing her out of jail. He was going around like it was nothing. Any young girl who came from nothing would go batty if some big timer flashed hope in her eyes like that. Sad Sad story all around.

@Professor were you the one who posted the I tried to warn them post on Don’t Date him? I read that drama last night. I don’t know why the folks involved feel shame for coming back to the blog..hell we all have gotten got before. Lesson learned share your story..release the shame..and move on. It started on the blog might as well finish it full circle.

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:14 pm

@Melo I say your advice to Leggs…LOL. What are you telling her to do again for the record?

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:15 pm

Proff,to keep her excitement inside,not be too obvious that she excited.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman????)

September 30th, 2009
12:16 pm

@Kym a.k.a. Dominatrix….. in regards to my married partna as far as I know he resisted the temptation to accept the panties! He is man of good character. Still married with 3 kids for 13 years and counting!

Now one of our boys who also married his college sweetheart was knocking everything that moved and he is still married! Major character flaw.

Ms. Margaret good posts! A relationship ends and another relationship begins! Take this advice to heart when your the relationships is over you need to keep it moving!

Ms. Main

September 30th, 2009
12:17 pm

I’m slow. I still don’t know what happened. Just know what I read on don’t date him. Someone post full blow by blow details so we can all be in the know, learn (to run) and move on.

Kym aka Dominque Deveraux

September 30th, 2009
12:17 pm

@DK well damn did they have a threesome with the dude? Was there an orgy? I mean other than dude spat the game and they fell for it what else is left to say?

I wonder if he is going to drop out of FFootball? I need some major help at QB and WR..the jokers I got are just hit or miss.(Wait is it to soon?) On a happy note I am winning in my pay league.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:17 pm

Melo – Leggs aint a rookie.. She has presented herself as nothing but a lady out here.. Oh and she hasnt been caught out there in the blog messiness so Im sure she’ll be OK..

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 30th, 2009
12:19 pm

Kym – Ha ha ha ha ha!!!

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:20 pm

Kym aka Dominque??

like i said yesterday, and u correct,there is nothing embarassing about giving somebody money and them not giving it back.

Nothing…

but put a man,sexx,money and more than one woman…

Theeeeeen..u get embarrassment!

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:21 pm

then not getting it back!(correction)

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:24 pm

Nah everybody got something on everybody so theyre nervous the flood gates will open..

***I know that is a bad spot to be in ****

@Kym I posted my warnings on the ajc blog I restated my quote yesterday about getting played like Madden. I pretty much know who got played because a lot of these heifers would come after me for no reason at all…which really let me know what time it was. Not to mention I called one of them out a few weeks ago for sitting on the blog popping her gums knowing she is foul…pretending to have game.

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Raqi

September 30th, 2009
12:26 pm

Ms.Main I actually thought he got with Jolie while he was still married. So I think your reversed statement was correct. I think.

Professor

September 30th, 2009
12:28 pm

Melo…you got me rolling over here when you add all of that stuff to the pot.

I would like to make a toast to all of the folks that were smart enough to avoid this, and to all of the folks that fell for it better luck next time…and a nod to the man for pulling it off and running them like triple crown race horses.

Page1908

September 30th, 2009
12:29 pm

Is this still on topic?

Mo- There was a lady who was sitting at the table across from us at your bday at Jillians with those group of guys watching the game. When I went to the restroom, she was talking with another lady about the gentleman that she was with and how she was ok with him being married because his wife was stationed somewhere in the military.

Raqi

September 30th, 2009
12:29 pm

JustSaying you are correct. I think the first day on here he (W8) was offering to meet up with some of the folks that get together.

He either lurked for awhile and then made his entrance, or he had a different moniker that we no longer read and changed it to W8 and presented himself as the new guy ready to meet folks off the jump. Either way he probably staked out his targets.

But that’s all I gotz to say about that. LOL

Page1908

September 30th, 2009
12:30 pm

That’s what I thought, too, Raqi. It seemed like it happend when they filmed the movie they were in together.

Leggs

September 30th, 2009
12:31 pm

You guys are a riot!

@Deeva, thanks.

@Professor, yes this will be our first date. Been talking on the phone where the vibes and laughter seem to mesh. We had as a topic discussion chemistry v. physical chemistry. I’ll soon find out.

@Kym, imagine that. Going out on a school night. Too funny. Thank goodness I cooked a dinner last night for this evening so when I got the call this morning, I saw a window of a couple of hours to play with.

@Melo, only you. Don’t worry, no touchy feely tonight. The only thing I’ll be giving away will be my pretty smile! You good with that???

@Infamous, thank you. That was nice!

Raqi

September 30th, 2009
12:32 pm

she was ok with him being married because his wife was stationed somewhere in the military

I bet that is happening more times than not.

Melodramatizulu

September 30th, 2009
12:32 pm

who posts that google link?? WD??

I think Ms Margaret is right tho, Raqi!

Pple have a tendency of looking at a marriage or break up from afar and then make judgements on who is right or wrong…
The truth is usually further from “their truth”
Jen played the victim by stating quiet altho i think Brad was too good for her,in the marriage..too selfish for that relationship to make it work.
Maybe im biased coz i like Brad more than i like Angeline and Jennifer combined.Brother has a good heart.
But a brother can put those Angelina lips to some naughty work tho!

Ms. Main

September 30th, 2009
12:33 pm

Page,Raqi Yep, he was foul. To think, I use to dig Brad

Raqi

September 30th, 2009
12:33 pm

Yeah Page. I thought they got together during Mr. & Mrs. Smith and he was still married.

Elijah ( Professor! What a woman????)

September 30th, 2009
12:33 pm

@Professor tell us how you really feel! :wink: I will use my money to buy you matching earrings for the ring, so when can we get this started?

:lol:

Look I say let it be, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose in the game of luv! Some folks are hurting from whatever the loss maybe so lets give me them a break!

@Kym…. How are the Steelers going to recover this year from that beatdown they received from the Bengals? :smile:

Sexy is obvious. Cool sneaks up on you.

September 30th, 2009
12:33 pm

Three Words Daily – All is well.

Ms. Main

September 30th, 2009
12:35 pm

So? Was it a threesome with money in the mix with W8? Dern, he was good. Money and the kitty(s).

Page1908

September 30th, 2009
12:35 pm

Some of my friends used to only date military guys and they would often say it comes with the territory, especially for those that are stationed somewhere very often and far away for a long period of time.

Raqi- ok, I never saw that movie, but I think it’s on tv now lol.