Don’t Be Cruel!
My friend Champ came up with a “laugh out loud” list of cruel things women do to men. First of all, I was shocked he stopped at four. Second of all, I think women at some time or another have committed these romantic crimes against humanity. I could only head my head in shame….and giggle.
1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)
3. Flirting with attached men.
4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Now, this list certainly shows that women have to do better ! Guys, I’m sure you could add a lot to this list, right?
Ladies, if you could name your top “Don’t Be So Cruel” list that you’ve experienced, what would they be? Not stopping for directions? Leaving the toilet seat up? What are your pet peeves that the men you date and the men you love do to drive you nuts?
Maybe we can confess our romantic crimes and pledge to do better! What have you done that was so cruel and cold that you feel really bad about. What are you doing to make up for it?
Happy Friday!
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Wings() (Romancing the Stone)
September 25th, 2009
8:47 am
Good Morning and Happy Friday!
Okay WD Caught Red handed! (giggle, giggle)
His Crime – Trying to be a player……….
My Crime – I plead the 5th………………
Have A great Day!!
MR. Unknown
September 25th, 2009
8:54 am
Morning,, lol.. OOOOh If a man does something wrong, she will not immediately address it… Only to wait a month later and start an argument about what you did wrong, so it takes away from what she got caught doing. One of the ladies stated on this blog, That she would hold on to something only to use it as ammunition for a later event.. lol
MR. Unknown
September 25th, 2009
9:02 am
Here’s one telling me that she knew how to cook, and then she turns around calls her best friend to try an cramp a lifes time worth of cooking lessons in ten mintues.. Who puts corn in pancakes???!?? lol I was like whats that!!! lolol
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:07 am
Morning.
Major Cruelty: Looking and smelling all scrumptilicous on purpose, pretending like it’s not, when he knew I was trying to stay mad at him.
1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
That’s not really being cruel unless the woman is doing it on purpose and then laughing behind his back with her girlfriends. We should be allowed to have platonic male friends that we have no interest in being in a relationship with.
2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)
I am so guilty of this right now. LOL Yall know how we just have those days when we need a little affirmation of how beautiful we stand in the eyes of the one we love and loves us. The right answer is always the one that will make me blush.
3. Flirting with attached men.
Yeah that’s cruel when you know he is attached. If you don’t know then that’s on him.
4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Now that one is iffy because every man that is willing to hold a conversation with you is not always trying to get in your pants. You will look like a psycho if every time a man approached you say “Hi, my name is Igottaman.”
Now if we are going to eventually talk about the things the men in our lives do that drives us bananas, I got a few for ya.
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
9:14 am
Good morning.
Saying you’re a handyman and can’t change a lock on a door.
Saying your good w/cars and don’t know how to change the oil.
Saying yes you went to a particular college only to leave out the fact you dropped out.
Saying you have your own place, but its a very nice furnished place in your mother’s basement. (I say mother’s because a father probably would have forbade your grown arse staying there demanding you be a man and stand on your own two feet. Mommy would tolerate your stay more).
Putting words in my mouth!!
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
9:17 am
good day…
….if you drive my car don’t forget to bring it back with the ‘fill up’ on the gas tank!….okay…okay… I know you give me money for pockets to use for “pit stops” ,…but dag I was planning on using that bill you gave me for SOMETHING ELSE!
How rude!!!
mytw♥cents
September 25th, 2009
9:23 am
Champ nem are FOOLISH. When I first read over his list, I Reject That! But by the time I came back thru, several women had confessed so what do I know?
A condensed version of my rebuttal…
1. Men cannot accept defeat. They will allow themselves to stick around for however long waiting for that one glimmer of hope that they can hit. It’s not even about her at this point, it’s about the challenge.
2. Men should stop being dumb enough to answer dumb questions. I respond with a silent blank stare or knit brow all the time. It works.
3. Men should stop translating mere cordiality into flirtation. Say good morning and smile and some dudes are like Yeah, she wants me! If you do none of the above, they wanna stick an Angry Black Woman on ya and think you need to get some. If you’re not Black, they just think you need to get some. Either way, refer to #1, they’d probably supply it.
4. Men view most of life as a challenge and they want to conquer most women who pique their interest. If she allows him to get far without disclosure, that ain’t right. But oftentimes you can say it within the first 2 minutes and it’s disregarded and we’re told we need a friend. (Cue Biz Markie hook.)
Hmm that ain’t quite condensed. And add some in front of everytime I used the word men.
I wish Men would stop telling women what they think we want to hear and then when they don’t live up to the expectations THEY SET, point the blame to the woman. Say only what you mean… she’s grown and will have to learn to deal with life’s disappointments sooner rather than later.
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
9:25 am
….if i don’ told you “that” turns me on and you keep-on with the keepin’ on…it’s not cute and sexy anymore. While you keep teasing me, NOW i’m horny, and mad as all get out, mofo!!!
agian, RUDE!
lol…this is going to be something else!
MR. Unknown
September 25th, 2009
9:29 am
Telling a man that you are on the rag, while your on a date. Even though its no where near that time of month.
My crime before, Her girlfriend caught me doing somethng wrong.. And I would start lying on her friend before the friend had a chance to tell her anything… Plant that seed of doubt and then walk away!
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:34 am
LOL TwoLincolns Yeah it damn if you and damn if you don’t.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:35 am
Even though its no where near that time of month.
Mr. Unknown, but how would you know either way? LOL
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:37 am
LOL Cemeeli Yeah stop touching me and you know we can’t nothing at this moment or for the next 3 hours.
SexyCool - A queen. Not a pawn.
September 25th, 2009
9:45 am
Three Words Daily – Consider your move.
They say life is like a chess game and you should make ya’ next move ya’ best move. Make sure you have a sound strategy.
Checkmate!
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:46 am
One complaint I have heard a couple of men rant is about the woman that will dress some-kind-of-way and get his attention, but he soon learns that the very outfit she got his attention with is the only outfit she owns of that nature. Not to mention to stopped by the mall to get her makeup done before hitting meat markets. On any given day she is so not that woman he met at the club.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:47 am
Or even worse, she borrowed that outfit.
dw
September 25th, 2009
9:53 am
Taste This!
I hate that! If I want to taste something I will get up and take a taste, stop shoving food in my face. I’m not hungry and I don’t feel like tasting anything.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
9:54 am
Oh and men can be just as guilty. Walk in looking all lustrous and debonair and the next time you see him out and about, meaning the very next weekend, he got on that same thing. And the week after that, and the week after that. It soon becomes that same ole’ tired thing.
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
9:55 am
Ooooo that’s a bad one…borrowing the outfit. LOL!
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
9:55 am
WOW, Raqi. I’ve never heard that. But then again, I’m not a man! Only have one of that outfit. That’s funny!
mytw♥cents
September 25th, 2009
9:57 am
RAQI I ain’t one for the whole painted lady or video
hovixen get up everyday, but it’s curious to me why men get upset that women continue to dress like this. If she rocks an outfit like this more than your first couple of meetings, it’s probably her wardrobe. Luv it or leave it alone.Uh oh, PSA – MC Breed reminds us “Ain’t No Future in Yo Frontin!” Happy Friday Y’all…
CEE Sweet Tea level is 3/4 tank…
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
9:58 am
LOL!!! This is gonna be a great topic today I can already tell. I’m soooo guilty of asking loaded questions. I just tend to store stuff up and wait for the right time to pull it out, then I’ll hint at what I’m getting at. It usually has to be when he’s totally off guard like just waking up or in the middle of watching the game. Hehehe.
What really gets to me though is when I ask him a question and he doesn’t respond! Arrrgghhh. I’m like hello are you in there??? He’ll be like yeah I was just thinkin’, lol.
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
9:58 am
mytwo – mine or yours? or mine and yours?
2CPTG
September 25th, 2009
10:01 am
Good morning……
how about you not even give me your number if you’re never going to be available to talk……
or, why women hate to admit they’re over weight and outta shape…….thick? naw, more like fluffy!
and leaving the toilet seat up…what, do y’all walk into the bathroom backwards with your eyes closed? shyt, just pull it down……
and why y’all use so much toilet paper? just to go pee, damn near half the roll gone!!!!
and ummmmm, I wouldn’t really call nail school higher education…..
and why is it that most of y’all fly gals ain’t takin care of your own kids? y’all ballin doin ya thing, but ya kids live with yo relatives…..
oh, I got plenty of these….
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:03 am
LOL dw Or worst, they ask you to “taste this” after bragging about how well they can throw down in the kitchen and it taste horrible. You try not to spit it out or make a disgusted face in front of them.
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
10:03 am
hush…2C your happy self probably is one of the ones with ’seat down’ practice…it’s a courtesy, just do it.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:07 am
Leggs this one guy would complain about women presenting a false sexy. That night he spotted her is her only sexy. Everything else is mom-jeans and baggy shirts. We all know guys are visual creatures and it’s not even about being trampy. But if you get his attention on looking right, but cannot come up right another day after that, then it was false “sexy”.
MR. Unknown
September 25th, 2009
10:10 am
If Im walking out the door on my way to the store,, If I ask you do you want something from the store or while Im out, they say no.. But when you get back they are eating half your plate of Jerk chicken, or your candy bar disappear… I didn’t want to share, thats why I asked you did you want something!!?!
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
10:15 am
Mr. Uknown- I do that, I just wanna share. What’s wrong with that? Lol.
Alvin
September 25th, 2009
10:16 am
worse…
Hang around some no good friend…asks for dating advice from ‘ain’tcan’tkeepaman’…in her 30’s still wearing fake ‘lashesnail’n'contacts’…tell OUR business to her ‘ain’tgotnolifefriends’…AND TOO MUCH FAKE HAIR!!!
To be fair…menain’tish.
Karma
September 25th, 2009
10:17 am
I heard that DontDateHimGirl.com has some recent updates that you don’t want to wait to read.
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
10:18 am
“False Sexy!” Interesting term. I concur. If you’re rocking a particular type outfit while clubbing and catch a date due to your personality, visual enticement, good convo, you need to keep all 3 going. To knock out the “visual” is certainly a quick death to the newly budding relationship. Does one really expect to wear the same outfit/shoes to different clubs? That’s hilarious!
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:19 am
2CPTG why you pee the seat? Turn on the damn light and aim straight.
Why can’t you close the door when on your throne?
Are you allergic to wiping off the counter after trimming your whiskers? No you didn’t. Go back and look.
Do you sit your bundles of dirties next to the hamper instead of in it just to watch me bend over?
What happened to your eyesight? The jar of mustard is right there beside your hand?
Is your dialing finger broken?
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
10:21 am
false “sexy : that’s funny
Good Morning all
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:22 am
Oh come on Mr. Unknown. LOL When I tell you I am going downstairs and ask if you need anything back, don’t say ‘no i’m good’ but the minute I come back and get ready to sit down you ask if I mind getting you a glass of water. Yeah, I do mind.
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
10:22 am
Getting ice and not filling up the tray..AHHHHH
Alvin
September 25th, 2009
10:24 am
MR. Unknown…worst…rough day at work…she has been home all day…call and ask where you are…she knows your schedule to the key…I say 5mins from the house…by now, I’ve pass fifty million Walmarts…She says:
CAN YOU PICK UP SOMETHING FOR DINER?!?
I showed up from KFC with just enough for me…you dayum right I made each bite seems like it was my best meal…though the food tasted like ish
I was young’n'dumb folks.
Ms.Sunshine
September 25th, 2009
10:25 am
1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
We can’t have friends now?LOL
2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)
I don’t ask these.
3. Flirting with attached men.
Certainly don’t do this, unless he didn’t tell me he was attached, which some do.
4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Not sure how to handle this one because a man can say hello and you say “I have a man.” and all he wanted was the ketchup on you and your girl’s table.LOL But I always let them know when they get that little flirty going on, so as to not lead them on.
Mase...(not a Demi)
September 25th, 2009
10:28 am
Do you sit your bundles of dirties next to the hamper instead of in it just to watch me bend over?
YES…Now wazyougonnadoaboutitWOMAN?!?
Mase is now being beatin to the white meat, over some ish Demi has posted on AJC
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
10:31 am
@Dream_n, when I got my first fridge with icemaker I was so happy. Not re-filling the ice tray would have me seeing red. I saw no reason for this!
Ok, men and children seem to do this…put your dirty plates on the kitchen counter by the sink but not in the sink. Would that extra step cause you a migraine? I never understood this.
Again, liking “false sexy!”
Alvin
September 25th, 2009
10:31 am
1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
We can’t have friends now?LOL
Not if you keep bringing dudes name up…every 5 min…I had so many dudes just wanting to kill my a$$…I just simply STOP being ‘just’ friend with women for a long time….a very loooooooong time.
Lioness
September 25th, 2009
10:35 am
Good Morning all
Getting ice and not filling up the tray..AHHHHH<– WTH?? Your fridge doesn't have an ice maker??
Kym-likes the Geeks :-)
September 25th, 2009
10:36 am
Good Morning All,
I guess my biggie for the list. Picking a fight and then turning around and blame him for starting it. <<<Classic for me.
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
10:37 am
Leggs I’m with you girl
Getting yourself ready in the morninig.. then sitting on the couch rocking back and forth cause you ready to go….
Do you not see the extra human I have to get ready also… Would it have killed you to get her up… help her wash her face and brush her teeth while i do the same…. No you just sit ther eand watch me multi- task as if I’m a damn robot… Next time offer so assistance jackAZZ…
whew… sorry ya’ll
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:37 am
Leggs you know what gets me but I can’t let it be known? When he offers to load the dishwasher but puts the dishes in wrong and do not wash them off before putting them in. If I don’t rearrange them they will not get clean.
I have asked him to wash them off first before but he says that’s what the dish washer is for.
I appreciate the gesture but you know…
Ms.Sunshine
September 25th, 2009
10:39 am
@ Alvin- Ok, those were some strange women, because I never talk about my guy friends with my man. LOL
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:40 am
Do people still use ice trays? LOL
What I hate Dream_n is the empty juice bottles or milk containers. Or any other empty container. I don’t know which irks me more, finding them empty in the fridge or on the counter right above the trash can.
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
10:40 am
LOL @ Raqi. Right, it’s like you want the help but they’re doing it all wrong! Haha.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:41 am
LOL Demi.
Ms.Sunshine
September 25th, 2009
10:41 am
Not because I’m afraid to, just aint nothing to be said about them.LOL
Chink
September 25th, 2009
10:41 am
1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
I usually drop them when I am in a relationship causes too many problems
2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)
Dont ask that but sometimes I do ask do these colors match?
3. Flirting with attached men.
Dont do that either …but needless to say they do flirt with me.
4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Huh? I always state my position.
His Crime – Insecurity
My Crime – No Patience
Lioness
September 25th, 2009
10:44 am
Diva has my comments in the hostage bin
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
10:44 am
@ Raqi
Yes they do (as in me) you’re in the u.s please don’t act you to high for ice trays lol….
I do hate that though… or drinking out of the carton and putting that small lil sip back in the fridge..You might as well have drunk it.. tryna save it… works my nerves that boy!
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:45 am
Mad Mad Cruelness: Letting one go under the sheets and then throwing the covers back. That crap ain’t funny. That’s terrifying.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:48 am
Oh damn I forget sometimes…
Raqi always remember to add the LOL or
or 
or 
or J/K.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 25th, 2009
10:49 am
Happy Friday Gang!
To Raqi about dudes complaining cause a lady only has one club outfit – SO? Are we expected to dress like you met us in the club every day? I mean, I know I’m exaggerating, but if lady only has one or 2 club outfits, chances are she does not hang out in the club all the time, and that should be a good thing, right?LOL!! Now if you met him looking stylish, neat and well put together and after the first date you turn into a slob, that’s different. Other than that, unless he’s taking you shopping, he doesn’t have the right to criticize your clothes. Just my opinion, mind you, cause I briefly dated a guy I met at a club many years ago. I only had so much “club” attire anyway, being fresh out of college and all.
Dudes differ, I really don’t have a list of pet peeves that applys to all. Just please don’t tell me how I should or shouldn’t dress or wear my hair. Get another woman if you can’t accept my style.
Lioness
September 25th, 2009
10:50 am
Kimmie- Get another woman if you can’t accept my style.<– AMEN!!!
MR. Unknown
September 25th, 2009
10:51 am
Raqi @ your 10:37 am post,, lol,,, Im guilty of purposely Doing a horrible job so that you don’t ask me again.
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
10:53 am
Just please don’t tell me how I should or shouldn’t dress or wear my hair. Get another woman if you can’t accept my style.— OKAY!!!!
MR. Unknown: tsk tsk tsk….
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
10:56 am
Sassette ok maam. Dont give away too much.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
10:57 am
kimmie that’s not what I am saying. I am saying that the one guy that I have heard say it the most, although he is quite superficial, says he would rather meet a woman in her natural state if that is who she really is, than for her to step out that one night like she is super videovixensexy and she isn’t.
Now if you met him looking stylish, neat and well put together and after the first date you turn into a slob, that’s different.
That ^ is exactly what I am saying.
If your closet looks like the Mother Theresa Outlet, don’t borrow your girlfriends “pladow” get up just to wear one time and you that’s not you.
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
10:58 am
@Raqi, seems that’s a problem in a lot of households. I was told there’s no right way to load a dishwasher, no right way to put the utensils in just as long as the dishes get clean…are you kidding me! He asked that I stopped rearranging the dishes after he loaded it. I couldn’t stop cuz they were in there WRONG!
Why do women pick fights and then blame it on the dude. I have watched this countless times scratching my head. What a futile waste of emotion.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
11:01 am
kimmie That is no different than a guy borrowing his mom’s nice car to go out but his crap is raggedy. Drive you raggedy whip and catch a woman that is down with you based on the you. She’s out there. Just like he is out there.
SexyCool - A queen. Not a pawn.
September 25th, 2009
11:03 am
I said plenty on this when I originally blogged with the VSB on this yesterday. The guys in that forum swear that they prefer the sting of honesty as opposed to the balm of kindness when it comes to Friend Zone Matters.
For instance, a blogger who goes by Stuff Ghetto People Like said:
“And back on that friend zone thing for a second: He’s not in no damn friend zone, he’s in the associate zone, the ninja to take money from zone, when he should be in the he’s thru with money zone. Because you’re not gonna be real friends with this guy, he ain’t gonna be part of the close knit crew, you ain’t tossing him a beer out the fridge and watching the game with him, you ain’t sliding him one of your season tickets, you ain’t helping him out with a ride to work when the Ac is in the shop…you probably won’t even rap with him in the frank manner of a real friend that a man can appreciate. He’s not at arm’s length, he’s at leg’s length….unless you’re a midget, then it’s probably the same thing. You guys have no mutual use for each other, so he’s not a friend…you really want nothing to do with his *ss and won’t woman up and say that sh*t. And dudes are the lame ones…FOH.”
He was co-signed by several other guys when I debated that to do that would be CRUEL. It would also be rude, tactless and liable to get a chick cursed out.
Melo
September 25th, 2009
11:06 am
Happy Friday!!
I hate it when:
1. u smelling real nice an’ fresh in bed,u pantyless BUT u dont wanna gimme some.
2.U on a period BUT my hormones are raging that week.
3 eve time we go out together,the singles are looking at me like DAAAMN!
4 i go out to the bar to buy a drink,i chat u up and then u have to say”wont u buy a lady a drink”..i was gon to,if i think u deserve it.
5 u leave the bathroom sink tainted brown with ur make up stuff..
6 ur pee-wiping tissue aint flushed BUT is floating in the toilet bowl
7 u look in the mirror and then ask me,”am i geting fat?” Yes u are,then what?
8 dont be giving me no blow jay from my side…..comeon now!!!,come over me,ur butt to the back,kneel down over me and pay homage the lil god!
9.Dont gimme ur number unless u gon answer ur phone
10 If its almost ovulatation time,dont initiate no sexx coz I aint putting no damn condom..either I come inside ur cootie or in ur mouf!
Alvin
September 25th, 2009
11:08 am
Chink…Hey!
Ms.Sun…I don’t have that problem no mo…I keep my ladies to a few.
Just please don’t tell me how I should or shouldn’t dress or wear my hair. Get another woman if you can’t accept my style
Kimmie…I agree!!
Men, please stop trying to change O’es into housewives…A REAL woman knows how to keep it sexy/classy in the street and be a straight freak in the sheets…but now and then, I do want my beh to swaggitout and show the world what she is working with…I got confidents in the way I handle my house.
Fugg Wit It
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
11:09 am
kimmie – You own a new club outfit sis? Thought that get-up from the 112 days was timeless…:)
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
11:11 am
@Melo, what is wrong with you!?! Your alter ego needs to be medicated!
Demi
September 25th, 2009
11:11 am
dont be giving me no blow jay from my side…..comeon now!!!,come over me,ur butt to the back,kneel down over me and pay homage the lil god!
SEXUAL CHOCOLATE
and Demi drops the mic
Rell - In a mackish mood
September 25th, 2009
11:12 am
i dont like women that wants to taste “some” of my dish…they dont want to share it or take half of it…just “some” for some reason that irks the hell out of me
i have to concur with 2c on this one – why give me your number if you have no interest at all
one of the most cruel things – man- babe whats on your mind….women – NOTHING….that sh it irks me to nooooooooooo end
another one that irks me is – i am not good at giving “head”…really you must think i went to some school of higher education on “eating poo cee”…how about you practice and give it the old college try
2CPTG
September 25th, 2009
11:14 am
don’t call me late at night, and ask me what I’m doin’…….if I say, “nothin,’”…..don’t trip then if I ask can I come over…..shyt, you started it!
If you see a phone number with a chics name on it, don’t ask me, “who is this bytch?”……ummm, don’t you see her name?
If I told you I like Couvoisier, then don’t ask me why I don’t like Hennessy…..just told you what I like!
If I told you from the jump, that I’m uninhibited in the bedroom, then don’t trip when I say, “turn around,” or, “let’s go to Inserrection”…
Just because it’s cold out doesn’t mean your bedroom attire needs to change; I don’t need you coming to bed lookin’ like something outta the WNBA, with the sweats and headrags…..
You know I like college football; please stop making plans for “us” on Saturday afternoons!
Just because I cut your son’s hair a few times does not mean you can go round up all your nephews, cousins, and neighbors to come get a free cut!
………
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
11:15 am
When I was single I used to give a fake number out to guys just because I wanted them to leave me alone. I stopped doing that when one of the crazies attempted to call me while he was standing right in front of me. Since then…I just say no and keept it movin’ lol.
Chink
September 25th, 2009
11:16 am
Hey Alvin
Why insecure men always seeking me out??? I need a man who is stronger than me not the other way around!!!!!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 25th, 2009
11:17 am
TGIF ya’ll!!
Kimmie – co-signing this one chica “Just please don’t tell me how I should or shouldn’t dress or wear my hair. Get another woman if you can’t accept my style”. Aint that the dayum truth!!
Raqi – “What happened to your eyesight? The jar of mustard is right there beside your hand?” I cannot tell you how that used to drive me insane when I was married!! Do I have to tell you where EVERYTHING is?!?!
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
11:18 am
I don’t need you coming to bed lookin’ like something outta the WNBA, with the sweats and headrags
LOL
Dream_n
September 25th, 2009
11:18 am
i dont like women that wants to taste “some” of my dish…they dont want to share it or take half of it…just “some” for some reason that irks the hell out of me
LOL: That’s so cute…
have to concur with 2c on this one – why give me your number if you have no interest at all
b/c some women don’t want to seem rude… See below:
Guy: Man you look real nice today
Woman: Thank You
Guy: So how about you let me get your number so I can call you sometime and get to knw you?
Woman: I’m sorry.. no thank you
Guy: Stuck up azz!! You need to get some shime for your dull azz hair…
DAAAYYUUUMMMM!!!
Just take my number it’s easier
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
11:20 am
You are hilarious, 2C!!
@Melo, I found the right dosage for you…open up…now swallow, ALL OF IT!
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 25th, 2009
11:22 am
Raqi – I totally get what you’re saying, that’s why I said I know I’m exaggerating. I agree one should not try to be something they are not. But back in my leaner days, I really only did have one or two sexy outfits because I was trying to build a professional wardrobe. And I was not going to the club dressed like a nun. I wanted to express the fun, sexy SIDE of me when I went out. I actually had a guy to complain that I did not prance around dressed like a vixen all the time. I have that SIDE to me, but if you want that full-time, I’m not your girl. I admit I have a chip on my shoulder about this subject, because you just don’t have the right to criticize the way I dress unless we are committed and you are taking me shopping.
I can also see a guy borrowing his buddy’s nice car to take me out for a special evening, as long as he does not try to fake like it’s his regular car. I knew a guy that drove an old work truck that got him from point A to B, but a few times when we went somewhere nice, he would borrow his brother’s Corvette. He had a house, a good job and a side business. I had no problem with him.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
11:22 am
My guilty: Promising him a night he will never forget and telling him how hot it is going to be. Then picking him up and taking him to Saturday night prayer meeting in the church with no A/C when Rev. Talkbythemile was guest speaking.
Yeah I did it on purpose. He was an arsewipe. I think the Lord punished me after that by allowing me to meet whitebread.
Angie
September 25th, 2009
11:25 am
*wanted to share . . . *
the single person should be abiding in, not wrestling with singleness. enjoy it. rather than spend all your effort trying to change your marital state, you need to learn to develop in the position where He has placed you. the greatest visitation of the holy ghost in history happened to an UNMARRIED WOMAN named mary. before joseph had the right, the holy ghost came upon her.
the same life-giving anointing wants to come upon you now. stop murmuring and complaining. His presence is in the room. worship Him. He is waiting for you.
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
11:25 am
if i’m doing what I do…my thang per se…don’t trip cause the last Kanshavia was just “getting her’s” outta ya…
I’m not her…
Lioness
September 25th, 2009
11:27 am
Demi- SEXUAL CHOCOLATE
and Demi drops the mic
Where does that sexual chocolate come from?? HIlarious!!
Compelling
September 25th, 2009
11:28 am
LOL @ Dream_n! Man, they can get mad can’t they? Ignoring them doesn’t work, turning them down doesn’t work, what are we women supposed to do? I’m convinced that it’s the immature men that can’t take no for an answer.
Sybil
September 25th, 2009
11:28 am
Here I am to enter the fray when it comes to the w8 situation.
I know, without a doubt, that at least two females on this blog have been scammed. (And no, I will not name names.)
If there are any others who have been issued bad checks or conned in any way by this individual, please contact me ASAP at
januejohnson@yahoo.com
Due to my law enforcement background, I am urging that a collective effort be organized to see justice prevail. Your silence on this issue will aid this con artist in continuing to wreak havoc in people’s lives.
This will be the only post that I submit regarding this matter. I am not posting this as fodder for blog gossip and will not enter into any further discussion about it.
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 25th, 2009
11:29 am
Sister Cee – Kanshavia – THAT’S HILLARIOUS!!!!
Angie
September 25th, 2009
11:32 am
wtf is going on??? **W8** are you phuckin’ kiddin’ me? lmmfao.
Angie
September 25th, 2009
11:33 am
blog gossip my mf azz! this will go down in blog history. lol.
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
11:36 am
kimmie – sis, guys tend to be on “defense” when they’ve had a few Kanshavias or two done ran through ‘em. I’m usually like “dang shawty, you shoulda got out of the “game” long time ago…”.
Raqi
September 25th, 2009
11:38 am
I know Mo, especially when it’s HIS keys, HIS wallet, HIS whatever he forgot where it placed it. LOL
W8©
September 25th, 2009
11:38 am
WTH? Email sent.
2CPTG
September 25th, 2009
11:38 am
Angie you wouldn’t be one of the women scammed, would you?
“a hit dog will holla!”
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 25th, 2009
11:40 am
Raqi – when its HIS stuff its even worse! LOL! Or they ask you where something is in the bedroom and you’re in the living room. Dude just look for it, GEESH!!
Leggs
September 25th, 2009
11:41 am
Oh shyt! Messy, I tell ya, MESSY!
Lioness
September 25th, 2009
11:41 am
DAYUM!!!
Cemeeli
September 25th, 2009
11:42 am
…what in the Sam Cook is going on here?
Angie
September 25th, 2009
11:42 am
@2C
no poppi! how r u 2day? you get my message on the blog yesterday? giggle.
*why i feel all tingly inside?*
Wise Diva
September 25th, 2009
11:43 am
Oh dear, I’m staying out of this one
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 25th, 2009
11:43 am
Cee- You got that right, and I’m not the one to clean up Kanshavia’s droppings!LOL!!!
Rell - In a mackish mood
September 25th, 2009
11:43 am
I Have no problem with a “thanks, but no thanks” answer to anything i might ask some random women i want to meet in the streets…too funny..i dont walk away mad…i just walk away…i am sure somewhere or somehow she has/is/was running a man crazy with her antics..lol..she might have just done me a favor
i just had this happen to me…chick gave me her number – i called she does not answer..period
2CPTG
September 25th, 2009
11:45 am
naw, Angie, what did you say?
For Real
September 25th, 2009
11:46 am
1. How many times do I have to ask what’s wrong before you tell me. I mean damn how many licks to the center?
2. Why do you have to tell me the WHOLE ENTIRE story? Just get to the part that causing you problems. I mean damn take me off 285!
3. If your feet are cold to you then they will feel like ice to me.
4. Rice is not I repeat Rice is not suppose to be crunchy
5. Getting into bed and mashing your ass on the Black Cake is asking for sex.
6. When did you forget how to take the trash out!
7. Gas is in my car because I put it in there! Gas is not in your car because you didn’t put it in there.
8. If you don’t want to solve your problem then don’t keep talking to me about it. That’s what girlfriends are fo!
9. When did you forget how to clean the bathroom?
10. 97 pair of black shoes????
11. CAUSE I LIKE IT DAMIT!!!!
12. I ain’t yo daddy and you ain’t my daughter!!
13. BABY WEIGHT????? YO BABY IS 17!!!
14. Every chick ain’t blessed with cute feet. Get them away from me and go finish kicking that stump!
15. Why you sexing me if you don’t want to sweat your hair out?
16. A positive attitude and high self-esteem can do alot of things but the one thing it can’t do is make you look better or make you lose weight.
17. Ain’t no such thing as BIG BONE!!!
18. Hair, makeup, nails and toes!!! Okay, but you left out all of that in the middle.
19. 80k car, 12k purse, $500 shoes and a 1/4 tank of gas ain’t cute.