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Don’t Be Cruel!

My friend Champ came up with a “laugh out loud” list of cruel things women do to men. First of all, I was shocked he stopped at four. Second of all, I think women at some time or another have committed these romantic crimes against humanity. I could only head my head in shame….and giggle.

1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around

2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)

3. Flirting with attached men.

4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.

Now, this list certainly shows that women have to do better ! Guys, I’m sure you could add a lot to this list, right?

Ladies, if you could name your top “Don’t Be So Cruel” list that you’ve experienced, what would they be? Not stopping for directions? Leaving the toilet seat up? What are your pet peeves that the men you date and the men you love do to drive you nuts?

Maybe we can confess our romantic crimes and pledge to do better! What have you done that was so cruel and cold that you feel really bad about. What are you doing to make up for it?

Happy Friday!

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Wings() (Romancing the Stone)

September 25th, 2009
8:47 am

Good Morning and Happy Friday!

Okay WD Caught Red handed! (giggle, giggle)

His Crime – Trying to be a player……….
My Crime – I plead the 5th………………

Have A great Day!!

MR. Unknown

September 25th, 2009
8:54 am

Morning,, lol.. OOOOh If a man does something wrong, she will not immediately address it… Only to wait a month later and start an argument about what you did wrong, so it takes away from what she got caught doing. One of the ladies stated on this blog, That she would hold on to something only to use it as ammunition for a later event.. lol

MR. Unknown

September 25th, 2009
9:02 am

Here’s one telling me that she knew how to cook, and then she turns around calls her best friend to try an cramp a lifes time worth of cooking lessons in ten mintues.. Who puts corn in pancakes???!?? lol I was like whats that!!! lolol

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:07 am

Morning.

Major Cruelty: Looking and smelling all scrumptilicous on purpose, pretending like it’s not, when he knew I was trying to stay mad at him.

1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around

That’s not really being cruel unless the woman is doing it on purpose and then laughing behind his back with her girlfriends. We should be allowed to have platonic male friends that we have no interest in being in a relationship with.

2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)

I am so guilty of this right now. LOL Yall know how we just have those days when we need a little affirmation of how beautiful we stand in the eyes of the one we love and loves us. The right answer is always the one that will make me blush.

3. Flirting with attached men.

Yeah that’s cruel when you know he is attached. If you don’t know then that’s on him.

4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.

Now that one is iffy because every man that is willing to hold a conversation with you is not always trying to get in your pants. You will look like a psycho if every time a man approached you say “Hi, my name is Igottaman.”

Now if we are going to eventually talk about the things the men in our lives do that drives us bananas, I got a few for ya. :lol:

Leggs

September 25th, 2009
9:14 am

Good morning.

Saying you’re a handyman and can’t change a lock on a door.

Saying your good w/cars and don’t know how to change the oil.

Saying yes you went to a particular college only to leave out the fact you dropped out.

Saying you have your own place, but its a very nice furnished place in your mother’s basement. (I say mother’s because a father probably would have forbade your grown arse staying there demanding you be a man and stand on your own two feet. Mommy would tolerate your stay more).

Putting words in my mouth!!

Cemeeli

September 25th, 2009
9:17 am

good day…

….if you drive my car don’t forget to bring it back with the ‘fill up’ on the gas tank!….okay…okay… I know you give me money for pockets to use for “pit stops” ,…but dag I was planning on using that bill you gave me for SOMETHING ELSE!

How rude!!!

mytw♥cents

September 25th, 2009
9:23 am

Champ nem are FOOLISH. When I first read over his list, I Reject That! But by the time I came back thru, several women had confessed so what do I know?

A condensed version of my rebuttal…

1. Men cannot accept defeat. They will allow themselves to stick around for however long waiting for that one glimmer of hope that they can hit. It’s not even about her at this point, it’s about the challenge.

2. Men should stop being dumb enough to answer dumb questions. I respond with a silent blank stare or knit brow all the time. It works.

3. Men should stop translating mere cordiality into flirtation. Say good morning and smile and some dudes are like Yeah, she wants me! If you do none of the above, they wanna stick an Angry Black Woman on ya and think you need to get some. If you’re not Black, they just think you need to get some. Either way, refer to #1, they’d probably supply it.

4. Men view most of life as a challenge and they want to conquer most women who pique their interest. If she allows him to get far without disclosure, that ain’t right. But oftentimes you can say it within the first 2 minutes and it’s disregarded and we’re told we need a friend. (Cue Biz Markie hook.)

Hmm that ain’t quite condensed. And add some in front of everytime I used the word men.

I wish Men would stop telling women what they think we want to hear and then when they don’t live up to the expectations THEY SET, point the blame to the woman. Say only what you mean… she’s grown and will have to learn to deal with life’s disappointments sooner rather than later.

Cemeeli

September 25th, 2009
9:25 am

….if i don’ told you “that” turns me on and you keep-on with the keepin’ on…it’s not cute and sexy anymore. While you keep teasing me, NOW i’m horny, and mad as all get out, mofo!!!

agian, RUDE!

lol…this is going to be something else!

MR. Unknown

September 25th, 2009
9:29 am

Telling a man that you are on the rag, while your on a date. Even though its no where near that time of month.

My crime before, Her girlfriend caught me doing somethng wrong.. And I would start lying on her friend before the friend had a chance to tell her anything… Plant that seed of doubt and then walk away!

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:34 am

LOL TwoLincolns Yeah it damn if you and damn if you don’t.

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:35 am

Even though its no where near that time of month.

Mr. Unknown, but how would you know either way? LOL

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:37 am

LOL Cemeeli Yeah stop touching me and you know we can’t nothing at this moment or for the next 3 hours.

SexyCool - A queen. Not a pawn.

September 25th, 2009
9:45 am

Three Words Daily – Consider your move.

They say life is like a chess game and you should make ya’ next move ya’ best move. Make sure you have a sound strategy.

Checkmate!

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:46 am

One complaint I have heard a couple of men rant is about the woman that will dress some-kind-of-way and get his attention, but he soon learns that the very outfit she got his attention with is the only outfit she owns of that nature. Not to mention to stopped by the mall to get her makeup done before hitting meat markets. On any given day she is so not that woman he met at the club.

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:47 am

Or even worse, she borrowed that outfit.

dw

September 25th, 2009
9:53 am

Taste This!

I hate that! If I want to taste something I will get up and take a taste, stop shoving food in my face. I’m not hungry and I don’t feel like tasting anything.

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
9:54 am

Oh and men can be just as guilty. Walk in looking all lustrous and debonair and the next time you see him out and about, meaning the very next weekend, he got on that same thing. And the week after that, and the week after that. It soon becomes that same ole’ tired thing.

Compelling

September 25th, 2009
9:55 am

Ooooo that’s a bad one…borrowing the outfit. LOL!

Leggs

September 25th, 2009
9:55 am

WOW, Raqi. I’ve never heard that. But then again, I’m not a man! Only have one of that outfit. That’s funny!

mytw♥cents

September 25th, 2009
9:57 am

RAQI I ain’t one for the whole painted lady or video ho vixen get up everyday, but it’s curious to me why men get upset that women continue to dress like this. If she rocks an outfit like this more than your first couple of meetings, it’s probably her wardrobe. Luv it or leave it alone.

Uh oh, PSA – MC Breed reminds us “Ain’t No Future in Yo Frontin!” Happy Friday Y’all…

CEE Sweet Tea level is 3/4 tank…

Compelling

September 25th, 2009
9:58 am

LOL!!! This is gonna be a great topic today I can already tell. I’m soooo guilty of asking loaded questions. I just tend to store stuff up and wait for the right time to pull it out, then I’ll hint at what I’m getting at. It usually has to be when he’s totally off guard like just waking up or in the middle of watching the game. Hehehe.

What really gets to me though is when I ask him a question and he doesn’t respond! Arrrgghhh. I’m like hello are you in there??? He’ll be like yeah I was just thinkin’, lol.

Cemeeli

September 25th, 2009
9:58 am

mytwo – mine or yours? or mine and yours?

2CPTG

September 25th, 2009
10:01 am

Good morning……

how about you not even give me your number if you’re never going to be available to talk……

or, why women hate to admit they’re over weight and outta shape…….thick? naw, more like fluffy!

and leaving the toilet seat up…what, do y’all walk into the bathroom backwards with your eyes closed? shyt, just pull it down……

and why y’all use so much toilet paper? just to go pee, damn near half the roll gone!!!!

and ummmmm, I wouldn’t really call nail school higher education…..

and why is it that most of y’all fly gals ain’t takin care of your own kids? y’all ballin doin ya thing, but ya kids live with yo relatives…..

oh, I got plenty of these….

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:03 am

LOL dw Or worst, they ask you to “taste this” after bragging about how well they can throw down in the kitchen and it taste horrible. You try not to spit it out or make a disgusted face in front of them.

Cemeeli

September 25th, 2009
10:03 am

hush…2C your happy self probably is one of the ones with ’seat down’ practice…it’s a courtesy, just do it.

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:07 am

Leggs this one guy would complain about women presenting a false sexy. That night he spotted her is her only sexy. Everything else is mom-jeans and baggy shirts. We all know guys are visual creatures and it’s not even about being trampy. But if you get his attention on looking right, but cannot come up right another day after that, then it was false “sexy”.

MR. Unknown

September 25th, 2009
10:10 am

If Im walking out the door on my way to the store,, If I ask you do you want something from the store or while Im out, they say no.. But when you get back they are eating half your plate of Jerk chicken, or your candy bar disappear… I didn’t want to share, thats why I asked you did you want something!!?!

Compelling

September 25th, 2009
10:15 am

Mr. Uknown- I do that, I just wanna share. What’s wrong with that? Lol. ;-)

Alvin

September 25th, 2009
10:16 am

worse…

Hang around some no good friend…asks for dating advice from ‘ain’tcan’tkeepaman’…in her 30’s still wearing fake ‘lashesnail’n'contacts’…tell OUR business to her ‘ain’tgotnolifefriends’…AND TOO MUCH FAKE HAIR!!!

To be fair…menain’tish.

Karma

September 25th, 2009
10:17 am

I heard that DontDateHimGirl.com has some recent updates that you don’t want to wait to read.

Leggs

September 25th, 2009
10:18 am

“False Sexy!” Interesting term. I concur. If you’re rocking a particular type outfit while clubbing and catch a date due to your personality, visual enticement, good convo, you need to keep all 3 going. To knock out the “visual” is certainly a quick death to the newly budding relationship. Does one really expect to wear the same outfit/shoes to different clubs? That’s hilarious!

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:19 am

2CPTG why you pee the seat? Turn on the damn light and aim straight.

Why can’t you close the door when on your throne?

Are you allergic to wiping off the counter after trimming your whiskers? No you didn’t. Go back and look.

Do you sit your bundles of dirties next to the hamper instead of in it just to watch me bend over?

What happened to your eyesight? The jar of mustard is right there beside your hand?

Is your dialing finger broken?

Dream_n

September 25th, 2009
10:21 am

false “sexy : that’s funny
Good Morning all :)

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:22 am

Oh come on Mr. Unknown. LOL When I tell you I am going downstairs and ask if you need anything back, don’t say ‘no i’m good’ but the minute I come back and get ready to sit down you ask if I mind getting you a glass of water. Yeah, I do mind.

Dream_n

September 25th, 2009
10:22 am

Getting ice and not filling up the tray..AHHHHH

Alvin

September 25th, 2009
10:24 am

MR. Unknown…worst…rough day at work…she has been home all day…call and ask where you are…she knows your schedule to the key…I say 5mins from the house…by now, I’ve pass fifty million Walmarts…She says:

CAN YOU PICK UP SOMETHING FOR DINER?!?

I showed up from KFC with just enough for me…you dayum right I made each bite seems like it was my best meal…though the food tasted like ish

I was young’n'dumb folks.

Ms.Sunshine

September 25th, 2009
10:25 am

1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
We can’t have friends now?LOL

2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)
I don’t ask these.

3. Flirting with attached men.
Certainly don’t do this, unless he didn’t tell me he was attached, which some do.

4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Not sure how to handle this one because a man can say hello and you say “I have a man.” and all he wanted was the ketchup on you and your girl’s table.LOL But I always let them know when they get that little flirty going on, so as to not lead them on.

Mase...(not a Demi)

September 25th, 2009
10:28 am

Do you sit your bundles of dirties next to the hamper instead of in it just to watch me bend over?

YES…Now wazyougonnadoaboutitWOMAN?!?

Mase is now being beatin to the white meat, over some ish Demi has posted on AJC

Leggs

September 25th, 2009
10:31 am

@Dream_n, when I got my first fridge with icemaker I was so happy. Not re-filling the ice tray would have me seeing red. I saw no reason for this!

Ok, men and children seem to do this…put your dirty plates on the kitchen counter by the sink but not in the sink. Would that extra step cause you a migraine? I never understood this.

Again, liking “false sexy!”

Alvin

September 25th, 2009
10:31 am

1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around
We can’t have friends now?LOL

Not if you keep bringing dudes name up…every 5 min…I had so many dudes just wanting to kill my a$$…I just simply STOP being ‘just’ friend with women for a long time….a very loooooooong time.

Lioness

September 25th, 2009
10:35 am

Good Morning all

Getting ice and not filling up the tray..AHHHHH<– WTH?? Your fridge doesn't have an ice maker??

Kym-likes the Geeks :-)

September 25th, 2009
10:36 am

Good Morning All,

I guess my biggie for the list. Picking a fight and then turning around and blame him for starting it. <<<Classic for me.

Dream_n

September 25th, 2009
10:37 am

Leggs I’m with you girl :)

Getting yourself ready in the morninig.. then sitting on the couch rocking back and forth cause you ready to go….
Do you not see the extra human I have to get ready also… Would it have killed you to get her up… help her wash her face and brush her teeth while i do the same…. No you just sit ther eand watch me multi- task as if I’m a damn robot… Next time offer so assistance jackAZZ…

whew… sorry ya’ll :)

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:37 am

Leggs you know what gets me but I can’t let it be known? When he offers to load the dishwasher but puts the dishes in wrong and do not wash them off before putting them in. If I don’t rearrange them they will not get clean.

I have asked him to wash them off first before but he says that’s what the dish washer is for. :roll:

I appreciate the gesture but you know…

Ms.Sunshine

September 25th, 2009
10:39 am

@ Alvin- Ok, those were some strange women, because I never talk about my guy friends with my man. LOL

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:40 am

Do people still use ice trays? LOL

What I hate Dream_n is the empty juice bottles or milk containers. Or any other empty container. I don’t know which irks me more, finding them empty in the fridge or on the counter right above the trash can.

Compelling

September 25th, 2009
10:40 am

LOL @ Raqi. Right, it’s like you want the help but they’re doing it all wrong! Haha.

Raqi

September 25th, 2009
10:41 am

Ms.Sunshine

September 25th, 2009
10:41 am

Not because I’m afraid to, just aint nothing to be said about them.LOL

Chink

September 25th, 2009
10:41 am

1. Keeping friend-zoned guys around

I usually drop them when I am in a relationship causes too many problems

2. Asking loaded questions with no right answers (see: Does my butt look big?)

Dont ask that but sometimes I do ask do these colors match?

3. Flirting with attached men.

Dont do that either …but needless to say they do flirt with me.

4. Mentioning the fact you have a boyfriend, after the fact.
Huh? I always state my position.

His Crime – Insecurity
My Crime – No Patience