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She’s Strapped

File this under It’s Not Your Father’s Dating Scene: Brandon calls me after his first date with Kira because he wanted to know if he should be worried about something he noticed. As Kira was getting into her car, Brandon spotted a firearm in her handbag.  He wasn’t sure if she had it on her the entire evening or not but it definitely was a gun.  She didn’t notice that he saw the gun so they sort of just said goodnight and parted ways.

He asked me if I had a gun (no, not yet) and if it was normal for single women in Atlanta to take a gun on a date.   I’m all for protecting yourself as long as you do it responsibly and legally, especially women!  I didn’t think it was a red flag, per se, but I told Brandon to definitely talk to her about it. She may have strong opinions about it. Oh, and I also told him to try not to tick her off.

What do you think? Would you be bothered if someone you were dating carried a weapon for protection? If it’s not related to their occupation, would you be ok with them carrying a concealed weapon when you go out?

Have you ever been out with someone and noticed they were carrying a gun? What did you do?

If you are a gun owner, do you mention this fact to people you are dating? How do you broach the subject?

Could a pro-gun person and an anti-gun person co-exist in a relationship?

255 comments Add your comment

Raqi...Basking in Some Warm Delights

September 24th, 2009
8:30 am

I see nothing wrong with the young lady having a gun. In these days we are living in you better be cautious. I have never owned a gun but if I was dating now having a gun in my purse or in my car would not be a bad idea. People are just crazy now.

I don’t dislike guns but I am not too fond of them but I understand their purpose. I didn’t know my husband owned a gun until one night he pulled it out when we heard some disturbance downstairs. Can you imagine my shock when he went into the closet and brought that gun out? LOL Yeah totally shocked me. He has a permit and has told me that I need to get one.

A few days later we discussed him having it in the house and he has insisted on teaching me to use it. You have to protect yourself these days.

And you know as for dating if you ain’t planning on getting out of line why would it matter that a gun is within reach.

Mason and I were listening to the news when the 38 year old later went missing and we talking about how first women need to stop going places alone. If you want to go walking or jogging take someone with you. Heck take a few someones with you. Or carry protection, a gun.

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2009
8:39 am

Morning all –

Having a concealed weapon is legal so I wouldn’t necessarily be alarmed. But yeah, I’d be bothered only by the fact that I don’t like guns and don’t see them often.

I think a pro gun and anti gun person could exist. This is the south, I’d probably expect it a little. I just read an article yesterday stating how there is a shortage of ammunition, the worst ever, since Obama came into office. All the pro-gun folks are afraid he’ll take away their guns. :???:

DJ Demi

September 24th, 2009
8:55 am

Now when yuh heard about this girl, her name is Maxine
Her beauty is like a bunch of rose (But)
If I ever tell you bout Maxine
You would a say I don’t know what I know (but)

Murder she wrote (Murderation man)
Murder she wrote
Murder she wrote (Na na na)
Murder she wrote

Demi

September 24th, 2009
9:07 am

Things that p!sses me off…

My baby sister…walking out the house in a tank-top’n'bootie short’n'flip-flop…At ten o’clock at night…while I just finish doing some work on her car.

Yes she can rock the dang getup

…but I had to remind her…There are too many crazy men in Atlanta, for her to walk around late at night, wearing what I like to call her ‘youcanlookbutnottouchnorspeaktome’ getup.

Shoot…we need more women on death row…it may help keep some of these weak men in check.

NY2GA, Inc.

September 24th, 2009
9:22 am

This topic is right up my alley! lol.

What’s the problem with carrying a concealed weapon? I don’t see a problem. Women carry guns, tasers, knives, pepper spray, etc. to protect themselves. I just say that we should carry and use our weapons responsibly. Crooks are armed. Why shouldn’t you be?

Wise, I think your friends real issue is the fact that his date felt that she had to bring her weapon out on a date with HIM. She on the other hand may have thought nothing of it because it may be normal for her to carry. Men are protectors. So, her having a gun may have made him think or feel as if 1.) She may not have trusted him 2.) She was trying to ‘be the man’ and protect herself when she should’ve looked to him for protection if something just happend to jump off while they were out.

Well, the man I’m dating now is a former police officer so he has no problem with me being a ‘pistol packing momma’. He even told me what gun would be the best one for me to carry.

AmazonRed™

September 24th, 2009
9:23 am

There are too many crazy men in Atlanta, for her to walk around late at night, wearing what I like to call her ‘youcanlookbutnottouchnorspeaktome’ getup.

If she’s wearing that at 10 pm at night. She’s not going to be walking around randomly in Atlanta. She’s in the car going straight to “his” house!

Kym-likes the Geeks :-)

September 24th, 2009
9:24 am

Good Morning All,

No problem at all with a guy carrying a gun on a date. Protect me until I get my own. I don’t feel it is a needed discussion to have unless the two people are serious, or you are dating someone on probation who has no business around firearms. I actually plan to get a gun and start going to the range. I told a few of my other single friends, outings at the gun range can be our new thing.

Demi

September 24th, 2009
9:35 am

I actually plan to get a gun and start going to the range. I told a few of my other single friends, outings at the gun range can be our new thing.

Kym…can I watch? Women firing guns at the shooting range is HOT!!

NY2GA…are you packing a 9mmm or .45…with 36Ds plus?

And no you can’t use me for target practice

Demi

September 24th, 2009
9:36 am

AmazonRed…worse, she was going to her mail box…I was like WTH?!

Dream_n

September 24th, 2009
9:43 am

Good Morning All :)

I’m with the majority… I see nothing wrong with carrying a gun to protect yourself as long as it’s done legally and responsibly. Me personally I don’t own a gun and I’m really not too fond of them. Now a days.. you have to be on guard walking out of your house being a woman or a man. Times are hard and people are losing their mind….

I would like to go to a gun range and be a gun owner, but prolly when I get over my fear of the actual “gun” itself. I’ve held a gun one time, my police friend let me. It scarred me… lol.

I say protect yourself… hell most of the scum bags have one, why not us innocent citizens :)

Dream_n

September 24th, 2009
9:49 am

or you are dating someone on probation who has no business around firearms

:) LOL

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 24th, 2009
9:52 am

Tell that fool to introduce me to her.. I think its sexy.. A majorly cute chick with a pistol. Wow! Reminds me of Pam Grier.. Come on wit it Foxxy Brown..

Raqi...Basking in Some Warm Delights

September 24th, 2009
9:53 am

Brandon calls me after his first date with Kira

“first date” yeah she knew nothing about him and probably was just being careful. At least Brandon knows where she is coming from and where he better not go.

I am actually surprised he saw it as something negative rather than a smart woman being proactive when it comes to safety.

Would he be surprised also if she carried condoms in her purse or had them in her night stand? Safety first.

He could harm her a lot faster with his hands than he could by injecting her with vile fluids.

The gun is probably just the woman being safe.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 24th, 2009
9:54 am

I have no problem wit it seeing as though I stay Strapped.. Licensed and concealed in a neighborhood or bar near you..

Compelling

September 24th, 2009
9:59 am

I have a gun license and I’ve been to the range a couple times with my guy. We actually enjoy it a lot. However, we disagree about whether to have it in our home. I’m all for it, but he’s worried about having it around our kids when that time comes.

Sexsaaayyyyyy....Cool

September 24th, 2009
10:00 am

Three Words Daily – Be the best.

Sexsaaayyyyyy....Cool

September 24th, 2009
10:03 am

I’m not a gun person. At all.

I was at my sister’s house few weeks ago. She and her bf keep their 9mm on the kitchen counter during the day and at their bedside at night. She always laughs when I ask her to move it out of my sight while I’m there.

Guns don’t kill people. Stupid ass people WITH guns kill people. Yeah, I know. However, I also know some stupid ass people. (Jokes, jokes.)

I’m just not that paranoid. And I hope nothing ever happens in my life to make me that way.

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:03 am

A majorly cute chick with a pistol. Wow! Reminds me of Pam Grier.. Come on wit it Foxxy Brown…

Amen Amen Ameeeen…Demi is now doing Mr. Brown’s church dance

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 24th, 2009
10:05 am

I have a prime example of women doing to much.. Hanging out at Vino Libro with babe friends and we decided to go to the Majestic for something to eat afterwards. We all jump in our cars and get moving. I lead, two babes follow me and our other friend was following them.. Unbeknownst to us she stops to get gas at the Texaco on Memorial and Moreland at 1:00 in the morning.. Story short they robbed her. Saw her in a CLS and got her.. Took her purse with her keys and phone in it so the car wouldnt move so we had to get it towed. I just happened to be riding back by when I saw her sitting there with police crying.. The one amazing thing I noticed is chicks were running in and out of there like it was ok and we were there to 5 in the morning. Ladies when ya dude tell you dont do that please dont cause we would never forgive ourselves if something happened to you on our watch.. Oh and she had a gun in the car but they got the drop on her..

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
10:08 am

I have never, as far as I know, ever dated a woman who was packing (but admit to a hint of excitement when I got pulled over by an attractive lady cop a few years ago…gun was turnoff but the handcuffs…another subject, LOL). I would suggest that the first consideration for me would be “is she being sensible, or is she a psycho biotch”. Have seen both and I REALLY am uncomfortable around an armed “PB”.

Grace

September 24th, 2009
10:09 am

I grew up in a household with guns and rifles, my dad even carried a gun in the glove compartment of the family car and his truck, I found that out one day when I was snooping around. lol….. I don’t have a problem with my date carrying a gun when we’re out on the town, he’s thinking ahead for protection. What I do have a problem with is if my date decide to show his gun off around me being cocky and me standing/sitting in fear of it going off.

Sexsaaayyyyyy....Cool

September 24th, 2009
10:10 am

IDK – THAT was an unfortunate outcome of bad planning.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
10:11 am

Hello All from an extremely unappealing Eastern Ohio,

I have never, as far as I know, ever dated a woman who was packing (but admit to a hint of excitement when I got pulled over by an attractive lady cop a few years ago…gun was turnoff but the handcuffs…another subject, LOL).

I would suggest that the first consideration for me would be “is she being sensible, or is she a psycho biotch”? Have seen both and I REALLY am uncomfortable around an armed “PB” so would stay a safe distance away until I have completed my evaluation.

Actually if I stay much more in this place, I might seek out a woman with a gun and borrow it to shoot myself…not a fun place like DC, Europe, etc.

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:13 am

having a gun will stop most men who value their lives…it will only give you a fighting chance against boys ages 9 – 16 who have never been taught the value of a human life.

The most dangerous age group…

aggwitty

September 24th, 2009
10:13 am

In my dating life I liked crazy broads so guns are a no go.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
10:13 am

Sorry for the double entry, Internet got squirrelly.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
10:14 am

Demi…how ya doing?

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:28 am

Ladies when ya dude tell you dont do that please dont cause we would never forgive ourselves if something happened to you on our watch…

Like women know the meaning of what you are truely saying…

DK…I am a dude and I don’t stop anywhere on moreland…not even for FoxyLady

Raqi...Basking in Some Warm Delights

September 24th, 2009
10:33 am

Infamous yeah that is crazy to be by yourself at that time of the morning.

When I am out with my friends my husband wants me to call him when I am headed home. And let him know when I get there if he is asleep. Which he never is. I can appreciate that.

It’s just crazy out there.

JtJ

September 24th, 2009
10:34 am

Morning All…..
I concur with DK and others….I think the guy felt offended because she chose to bring the gun on the date with HIM. Heck, I don’t blame her one bit. Safety 1st. You never know who the crazies are until it is too late. Just make sure you have a permit to carry a concealed weapon…..so you don’t do something stupid like Plaxico Burress!!!!
I grew up in a house with guns, my step-dad used to take me to target practice in out in the country and we would shoot at anything that moved. I had my own 22” Long Rifle by the time I was 12 and shot an AK-47 when I was 13. I quickly lost my gun privileges when I was overheard threatening a boy who used to bully me. My step-dad was quick to tell me……any fool can shoot a gun, just make sure it warranted and justified.
My fiancé’s dad is an army man and has several guns, but my fiancé is not comfortable with us having one in the house….he is too afraid of the kids getting to it…..I am all for it, as long as we keep it hidden and locked away.

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:39 am

Randyt…I am doing well…it has been a rough month, but am just going to keep it move.

will admit…the storm put a hole roof…the ceiling in my kitchen, dining room and living room look a hot mess…carpet done for and my house smells like ish

Thanks God for All State!!!

LOL

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:40 am

Demi

September 24th, 2009
10:46 am

Hello All from an extremely unappealing Eastern Ohio

RandyT…it’s a good time to break out your ‘Barack Obama’ tee…I am sure you will start a few riots…I am calling FOX NEWS now.

Lioness

September 24th, 2009
10:57 am

Good Morning All
I agree w/ Sexy’s 10:03!

DK- Homegirl wasn’t thinking AT ALL!!

Sexsaaayyyyyy....Cool

September 24th, 2009
11:03 am

Speaking from Brandon’s date perspective – why would she buy a gun for protection and leave it at the house? Doesn’t she need protecting when she’s out?

And to be a smart butt – what was Brandon’s nosey behind doing looking in her purse? and why didn’t he just ask her why she carries? Brandon sounds kinda………..(um, yeah…that.)

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
11:06 am

“Ladies when ya dude tell you dont do that please dont cause we would never forgive ourselves if something happened to you on our watch..”

This is a sore spot for me…please ladies, LISTEN. When I am walking around downtown ATL or really any big city with a lady, I try as subtly as I can to tell her that if we are approached by someone, or are about to be threatened perhaps (and the important point here is BEFORE something happens) if she sees me move, I want her to run like Hellz instantly, find lights, people, cops, and don’t wait for me…I will strike first, hopefully delay/disarm, injure as quickly as possible and be right behind her eventually.

I don’t want to sound like Rambo to her or to anyone on this blog, but I was trained at Ft. Bragg many years ago and there is a method to the madness in the Army. That stuff they teach you ALWAYS remains there just under the surface about how to kill or disable. A few rules about confrontation:

1) ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS be aware of everything going on around you. Always be doing a threat assessment if you are in an area that might pose a threat. Your eyes should always be sweeping just like radar…these are dangerous times.

2) When you do notice anything even mildly discomforting ALWAYS start making a plan of action, who do you take down, how, take a knee out, knife edge of hand to Adams apple, can you slam the heel of your hand driving one’s nose up into brain (this one is for lethal situations only because if done correctly almost always kills the other)…escape route, the point is KNOW what you are going to do BEFORE you encounter trouble so you can ACT not REACT.

3) If action is inevitable don’t wait, strike first. The one who swings first ALWAYS has the advantgage.

4) One of the biggest bravest men I ever knew told me as a teenager, “a good run is better than a bad stand any day”. Use the time you have delayed them to run like a MUFR (see above “plan…escape route”).

As I said before ladies, please just LISTEN, don’t argue, sometimes even men know somethings.

Compelling

September 24th, 2009
11:14 am

I shut down in situations like that, I can’t help it. My family always say they’d hate to be in a serious situation with me because they’d have to be the person to get us out of it. I don’t know, I just get intensely afraid and I panic.

Dream_n

September 24th, 2009
11:19 am

My sister is the same way you are Compelling…. I would never want to be caught in a situation with her, b/c she would definately panic… (and she’s older)…..

terri

September 24th, 2009
11:19 am

carring a gun brings the spirit of confrontation

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 24th, 2009
11:20 am

@ Compelling … I don’t know what part of town you live in, but truthfully self defense is a lot like taking swimming lessons, you learn something that could save your life someday. I would really suggest to you and all ladies on the blog to find a self defense class for exactly the reason you just stated, to let instinct and training take over. Even if nothing happens bad to you ever, it empowers you and gives you a confidance that is always a good thing. Worst come to worst, it is good exercise.

Just do it…trust me on this one.

Dream_n

September 24th, 2009
11:24 am

carring a gun brings the spirit of confrontation

Yes I agree for some people it does …

For Real

September 24th, 2009
11:29 am

“it empowers you and gives you a confidance that is always a good thing. ” – Except when confidance meets experience!

Demi

September 24th, 2009
11:29 am

I was trained at Ft. Bragg many years ago and there is a method to the madness in the Army. That stuff they teach you ALWAYS remains there just under the surface about how to kill or disable.

And then our govament release these folks back into our society…AIN’T THAT SOME ISH!!

RandyT is now bustin his GI Joe skills on a Demi

Tazzee - under the weather

September 24th, 2009
11:32 am

Morning Folks!

I have a gun and my fiance’ took me to the range and taught me how to shoot it. We need to go back though – my aim wasn’t what I want it to be. He’s licensed to carry a concealed weapon although he only carries it when he’s working.

So, as you can see, I have no problem with guns or people that have them. Hopefully Brandon will mention it to Kira if it concerns him.

Randy your 11:06 post is H-O-T!

Demi

September 24th, 2009
11:33 am

Sexsaaayyyyyy….Cool…I just love the way your screen name rolls of my tongue, LOL

How are you sir?

Lioness…wazs the delly sonz?!

Melo

September 24th, 2009
11:33 am

Leggs

September 24th, 2009
11:34 am

@RandyT, very informative!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 24th, 2009
11:34 am

Randy – Im Ex Military also.. Air Assault and Jump School at Benning and Desert Storm 90-91..

Thats funny cause I used to tell my EX wife “If anything goes on you just make it to the car. I’ll call you later to come pick me up”..

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 24th, 2009
11:34 am

What’s up great blog people?

As the regulars know, I am currently taking martial arts classes with my SO and his children. We are halfway to black belt and SO is now an assistant instructor. Along with the regular training on the art itself, our instructor teaches self-defense techniques. What to do if someone comes up behind you and grabs you in a certain way, comes at you in a certain way, etc. One day SO’s son & daughter were playing around after class, rough-housing. The boy(9) grabbed the girl(7) arms and the next minute, boy was flat on the floor. Baby girl just had a natural reaction! Boy was stunned, but not hurt and had to give her her props. The master saw it and has not stopped talking about it and it happened back in May! I cannot tell you how empowered it makes me feel! I know if I am caught in a situation, I have some way to get out of it enough so I can RUN!

I have a good friend in law enforcement that is going to teach me how to shoot. I am very afraid of guns, but I want to know how to use one.

Compelling

September 24th, 2009
11:34 am

@Randyt- Yeah maybe I should take a few classes. I’ve always thought they were a bit impractical because it doesn’t mirror a real-life situation. I guess if anything it could help me get over the fear I have.

@Dream_n- Maybe ur sister needs to hit up the same class I do huh? :-)