Single Parents Rock
It’s always a different experience when you are child-free and date someone who isn’t. You have to adjust to a few things, just as you would any other relationship. I admire people with children who find the time to mingle and date. I can’t imagine juggling the demands of parenthood and squeezing in the energy and time to devote to dating!
For all the single parents, what advice would you give someone who is just starting to date as a single parent? How do you manage it? What have you found to be the most challenging part of dating?
If you are child-free, do you prefer to date other people who are too? Have you ever dated a person who had children before? What do you think is the best advice to someone who is dating someone with children?
There is something about a man who is handling his responsibilities as a father that is so attractive to me. When you see the nurturing and supportive side of a man, it’s very appealing. Men, do you ever talk about your children to the women you date?
When do you bring up the fact that you are a parent?
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BackandAtIt
September 21st, 2009
2:37 pm
AmazonRed, you miss the forest for the trees. Meaning, you miss the point because you are stuck on the minor details. Two people can have totally opposite upbringings, one the best and one the worst. The person with the worst upbringing can go on to do great things. The one with the best can end up in prison. It’s an individual’s choice to take his or her destiny in own hand. You can say these examples are extremes and exceptions to the rule, but I say we all have the capability to be exceptional in our own way. We are all created equal, but not the same.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
2:39 pm
So when you fall… Who takes fault???
Sometimes them, sometimes me, sometimes the alcohol.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
2:40 pm
Backandatit – You’re entitled to your opinion.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
2:40 pm
Correction: The problem today is things are not like they were when we were growing up……
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
2:40 pm
@ Lioness…i thought about that again, too. Dang!
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
2:41 pm
9lbs 12oz OUCH!!!!
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
2:42 pm
Hey, WillieD! @Cee, I forgot to nod your way…hey girl!
@aggwitty, stop shouting. Those that disagree may wake up throwing stones (J/K).
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
2:43 pm
~ Have a good evenin’ folks!
Be careful out there…don’t cmplty stop… yes, drive your cars…but be cautious.
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2009
2:43 pm
Similac – whats up Mitlady. Glad to read ya. Hope all is well on your end with the Lil(big) man.
Blow Me
September 21st, 2009
2:44 pm
**Raqi**
Well it was my parent’s suggestion and I did differently. You know why? What mother nature was saying sounded a whole lot better than what momz and the house was saying.
OMGOSH…That was funny but I totally feel ya?
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
2:46 pm
@WillieD – That dude is ’bout tall as me @ 10 y/o!
lol @ MitLady…I was at the BusyBee and this dude…anyway Good reading you.
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2009
2:46 pm
Hey Leggs, how you makin it?
Chink
September 21st, 2009
2:47 pm
we all have the capability to be exceptional in our own way.
^5
SexyCool was wet all weekend.
September 21st, 2009
2:51 pm
Sometimes, it’s just exceptionally crappy.
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
2:52 pm
My boss said I can leave an hour early just in case I have trouble getting home! Yay, been with him for 13 years and this is the first time he’s been this generous! It’s pitch black over here.
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2009
2:53 pm
Leggs- Be careful, I just came thru your neck of the woods and its very ugly out there.
Chink
September 21st, 2009
2:55 pm
Everyone have safe travels home …it doesnt look pretty.
2CPTG
September 21st, 2009
2:56 pm
Sexy…while you wet, I’m burnin’ the fugg up out here!!! Lawd Jeezus, and I thought Florida was hot!
somebody send me a plate…..since errbody done ate by now!!!!! too funny!
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
2:57 pm
I was just about to post that my boss scheduled a meeting for 4:30 and give him a
but the VP just told us we can leave now! *dancing jig*
2CPTG
September 21st, 2009
2:58 pm
And Diva, good parents make excellent mates……..conversely, good mates don’t always make good parents!
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
2:59 pm
2CPTG where are you located? West coast?
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
3:01 pm
The weather out west was PERFECT this weekend but I heard a heat wave was coming.
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2009
3:01 pm
I’ll co Sign that 2:58. To me thats closer to true than any other scenario.
THE INFAMOUS DK
September 21st, 2009
3:02 pm
2Can – Whats the deal Player..
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:03 pm
but I totally feel ya
BlowMe that’s what I tried to tell my knucklehead son. I may not know what it is to be a man, but I know nature and how it acts. That girl he got pregnant was almost 2 years older than him so I tried to talk to him based on what I knew was going on with her. But what did I know as far as he was concerned.
2CPTG
September 21st, 2009
3:03 pm
at the moment, yes, Raqi…….
What it do, DK….boy I see you over there!!!!
Grace
September 21st, 2009
3:05 pm
I think that if parents would not only teach their child(ren) how to love others inside the house/family but outside of the home and family as well things might be a lil bit better.
THE INFAMOUS DK
September 21st, 2009
3:06 pm
2can – cosigning your post 2:58 post because before I had the dude I had no patience.. Now I have the patience of Job..
Im just making sure my son has respect and a healthy fear of “My Daddy gone kill me” if he gets into trouble. Im just holding him accountable for his actions. My Dad did it to me but where I think he went wrong is he just worked on the fear part and never showed the love part. Whenever I punish my Son I let him know why and I dont just resprt to a beating everytime.. I gauge the situation and see whats going on..
THE INFAMOUS DK
September 21st, 2009
3:08 pm
…. And I let him know I love him is why Im punishing him and although he doesnt understand now he will later. I also let him know everytime I drop him off for school that daddy loves him because most children that do wrong dont think anyone loves them..
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2009
3:12 pm
DK – Thats the part that missing nowadays to me. Most of us were raised with a healthy dose of the Fear factor. Times have changed and that line has moved a lil bit. My 13 yr old has a healthy dose the fear in him cause he knows what I’m bout. He also knows that its not idle fear. We can sit down and talk about some things. Sometimes I’m interested in seeing why he chose one route over the other. Not saying he dont get snatched up cause more than likely he will depending on the issues. I just want to understand and hopefully him being able to explain will give him a better understanding of the situation and how it sounds on the out side looking in.
2CPTG
September 21st, 2009
3:12 pm
You already know, DK….’specially for a man that GIVES A DAMN about his; same things he practices with his young’ns he should also practice with ‘ol girl……and ‘ol girl entails wifey aspirant, not just any chic.
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
3:13 pm
Im just making sure my son has respect and a healthy fear of “My Daddy gone kill me” if he gets into trouble. Im just holding him accountable for his actions.” EXACTLY, a healthy dosage. Enuf to make them afraid of you and God and enough that they can still play around with you and not walk around on eggshells…they know they are loved and they feel they are loved.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:14 pm
Heck sometimes I wished my dad would have whipped me instead of “talking about it”. A whipping lasted a couple of minutes. Those talks seemed like the lasted for hours.
2CPTG
September 21st, 2009
3:17 pm
Actually Raqi, those talks should last a lifetime!!!
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
3:18 pm
My mom STILLS has that fear over me
Growing up, she would give me a LOOK and I KNEW to straightened my tail up ASAP!!
Angie
September 21st, 2009
3:19 pm
hi ev1! have a pleasant week.
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
3:19 pm
Company-wide notice….we are shutting down…Gd nite!
Please be careful everyone…Roll call will be done tomorrow morning! If you’re not present please have your rep state you’re ok!
SexyCool was wet all weekend.
September 21st, 2009
3:20 pm
I had a healthy dose of fear for the ass whuppin’ my grandma was going to put on me fore stepping out of line. It never occurred to me that I was respecting her.
As I have aged, one of the measures for my behaviour has become the benchmarks my parents and grandmother set. I still say that there is little that I will do that I would not do in front of my parents or tell my parents about. Fortunately, I have some cool ass parents and that gives me a wide berth. (teasing, kinda)
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:24 pm
Leggs that’s why I appreciated my father being the male in my sons lives back then. He was not just interested in the disciplining but he was active in their lives in everything. He spent time with them and taught them about life on their young levels at the time. He took them fishing and to ball games. They loved him and respected. They knew he would get them when they did something wrong but they also knew he loved them and loved doing things with them.
That’s what I also appreciate about Mason now with both of my sons. He just speaks to them both and they get in line. He is their active father especially for my oldest. He teaches them things. He is helping my youngest built a go cart. He is teaching him how to drive his car. He takes him with him when is going out to play pool at his friends house or play ball. He shows them love and respect and they love and respect him back.
SexyCool was wet all weekend.
September 21st, 2009
3:24 pm
My last post just made me think of something.
I appreciate that my parents were able to transition from parenting me as a child to being the parents of an adult fairly seemlessly.
Every now and then, they get outta hand and try to talk to me like I’m ten. But for the most part, they respect me and my opinions and choices as an adult.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:27 pm
2CPTG a lot of them have lasted and speak to me at 41. As kids we didn’t like how our parent disciplined us but when you grow up and that teaching is there you do appreciate it.
Grace
September 21st, 2009
3:28 pm
My dad used to say ‘I brought you into this world and I’ll take you out” so I alway hid the shovel when I did something bad…
Dream_n
September 21st, 2009
3:29 pm
My mom was more of the active one when it came to disciplinig in our family….We just knew not to cross our dad…
I love the way our ma and dad raised us and although my bro took a different path… I pray that he comes back…
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
3:29 pm
Grace-
My mom did TOOOO!!!
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:30 pm
SexyCool that’s what I was saying the other day on here. Although my parents taught me about life and marriage and all that good stuff, they respected me and the choices I made even when they did not agree.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:31 pm
Enter your comments here
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 21st, 2009
3:34 pm
Hey everybody be careful, its crazy out!
Cemeeli – if you are still around, Im cool chica. Hanging in here!
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
3:41 pm
Hope this storm passes over before 5pm.
Grace
September 21st, 2009
3:45 pm
Lioness if a parent was caught saying that they would be charged with terroristic threath…. go figure!
Grace
September 21st, 2009
3:45 pm
meant terroristic threat