Single Parents Rock
It’s always a different experience when you are child-free and date someone who isn’t. You have to adjust to a few things, just as you would any other relationship. I admire people with children who find the time to mingle and date. I can’t imagine juggling the demands of parenthood and squeezing in the energy and time to devote to dating!
For all the single parents, what advice would you give someone who is just starting to date as a single parent? How do you manage it? What have you found to be the most challenging part of dating?
If you are child-free, do you prefer to date other people who are too? Have you ever dated a person who had children before? What do you think is the best advice to someone who is dating someone with children?
There is something about a man who is handling his responsibilities as a father that is so attractive to me. When you see the nurturing and supportive side of a man, it’s very appealing. Men, do you ever talk about your children to the women you date?
When do you bring up the fact that you are a parent?
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AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:00 pm
seems as if I remember fixing both plates in the kitchen and delivering to the table at the same time
SexyCool – But you still had to fix one over the other first…so who was it, the man or the chids?
(yes, I know I’m being extra, it’s slow right now
)
Dream_n
September 21st, 2009
1:00 pm
There are so many kids today that have not respect for authority meaning an adult that is not their immediate parent. And it is the parents fault.
You can bronze everything else but this statement… Why do so many people blame the child’s action on the parents (this may be the case for some). My sis, bro, and I all grew up in the same house hold under the same rules, was given the same love, and the same time
… but you would think my bro was raised from a pack of wolves.. that dude is the total opposite from my sis and I. Look at the “preachers” kid…. how many times have you heard this scenario.. They grew up w/a church background… singing in the choir… mom and dad were devout christians..but daughter turned out to be a walking “headache” for the parents… I believe that you can raise a kid with good morals, values, and beliefs, but in the end when they become adults or teenagers… it’s up to the individual to make the right decisions…. So do we blame all murder’s actions on their parents??? I’m sure not all murderers come from a “bad” lifestyle. Just my opinion…
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:01 pm
Well Lioness you just a lil rebel hunh?
Lol…lemme get my Lemon Torte/dessert…my blood sugar low..brb.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:04 pm
Why do so many people blame the child’s action on the parents
DreamN…so who is to blame then?
Dream_n
September 21st, 2009
1:06 pm
Is this a serious question or ar you just being extra again lmbo!!!
I kid I kid…
It’s up to the individual to apply what has been taught to them into their everyday life…..
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:07 pm
@Dream I agree not all people in jail are from broken homes, mistreated by family members. I think I read last week a young man stabbed his mother in the back after a disagreement about going out or something. He went to hug her and then stabbed her. All because mom said no to something he wanted. Sometimes little Bobo is just bad as hell.
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:09 pm
@Dreams you beat me to it. “Sometimes life little screw ups are all on you.”
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
1:09 pm
Cee- Couldn’t help it chica
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:10 pm
It was a serious question cuz you said the “childs” actions. A child is still in your care, which means you shouldn’t allow for bad behavior. So when a CHILD acts up…who is to blame? Serious question.
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
1:11 pm
Why does Publix brand yogurt have so much sugar in it??
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:16 pm
@ Lioness – I know you couldn’t sis.
I have too much time today…all the workers are leaving…more schools are closing and …my boss was not expecting me, so imma act accordingly.
Dream_n
September 21st, 2009
1:17 pm
A child is still in your care, which means you shouldn’t allow for bad behavior. So when a CHILD acts up…who is to blame?
If you decipline your child and teach them what to do and what not to do, then it’s the child.. as Kym said: Sometimes little Bobo is just bad as hell.
Question to you:
What if you took all the necessary precautions to instill morals into your child as they are growing up.. you taught them right from wrong, disciplined when necessary, gave all the speeched until you turned blue in the face to them….. Their 18.. commit a crime where they have to go to jail… Are you going to jump in and say “NO!! Take me instead I must have not did something right…. please… little Bobo has to learn that HIS actons has consequences.
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:17 pm
You talk’n ’bout my Publix Harpo?
Yogurt is high in sugar anyway…just gon’ and have your double scoop of ice-cream.
SexyCool was wet all weekend.
September 21st, 2009
1:19 pm
ARed, your 1p. Too funny.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:20 pm
Are you going to jump in and say “NO!! Take me instead I must have not did something right…. please
No, but I will acknowledge that I had a role in his upbringing and that there is quite possibly some fault in me.
In turn, I’m more than happy to give my parents the credit for raising me to be an excellent human being. I’m just their living example.
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:21 pm
@Amazon I may begin to sound like my grandmother here because I am pretty sure President Obama was talking like his grandmother/mother too when he gave his speech last week.
If your parents are providing you with all the essentials to go to school, the teachers are providing you with the lessons, then at some point if you don’t get the lesson, if you fail to do your work, then that fail is on you. That is a life lesson, and you must suffer the price of not heeding the advice, wisdom of those who tried to teach you. For some reason people think parenting is about making your kid do something. Nope, the trick is getting the child to do it because they want to.
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
1:25 pm
You can’t enstill character/morals into a person if they don’t want it. While growing up you’ll see remmnants of it. When an adult, and wind up on the wrong side of the law, it’s not that you necessarily did something wrong….Some children actually have 666 branded somewhere on their person!
Blow Me
September 21st, 2009
1:25 pm
Dream n- 90% of murders come from broken homes. fyi
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:27 pm
lol…jst read WiseDiva response to Melo wanting to share his and Queens w/e juants.
Hayo no!
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
1:30 pm
This is going to HILARIOUS too
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:30 pm
If your parents are providing you with all the essentials to go to school, the teachers are providing you with the lessons, then at some point if you don’t get the lesson, if you fail to do your work, then that fail is on you.
And lets not act like all these parents are providing that. And it’s clear some parents are ENABLERS!
Those crazy stories you read on the news are not always cuz the parents did everything right. You can give your kid too much too, which is the rope they use to come and hang you with.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:31 pm
Some children actually have 666 branded somewhere on their person!
I’d say that was the exception rather than the rule tho.
JtJ
September 21st, 2009
1:32 pm
@ Leggs…Mark of the beast..My food at Zaxby’s Friday totalled $6.66…my heart skipped a beat…I had to say an extra blessing over my food.
But, yeah, I agree you can train up a child in the way they should go, but that does not mean they will not stray away from what they were taught.
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:32 pm
not laughing for real..
But for real when does Mary J’s new one come out?
Mo
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
1:35 pm
@JtJ ~ Proverbs (22:6)
Melo
September 21st, 2009
1:35 pm
If it rains again like it did last nite, i think even some solid homes are gon wash away!
So far,only some mobile homes are reported to be in some trble and pple are hanging onto trees etc and some toddlers missing.
Just dont seem real in America.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:36 pm
Come on now…you know most of the little piece of shyt kids you know have piece of shyt parents. Come on now.
We have this one kid that was breaking in houses in his own damn subdivision. He got caught and neighbors went to his house to confront his mother…who got all ignorant insisting that is wasn’t her son. Too bad the fingerprints said otherwise.
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
1:37 pm
Ok, here’s a clue…if you guys should see 666 one more time today before 6:45, play it!
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:37 pm
@Amazon you can give more or less. Little or alot. But you can not control the outcome of your child’s life. I know we all love to think we are the wonderful darlings that have made our parents proud. But newsflash at some point in your short existence you have disappointed your parent. You did not show up and show out the way they hoped. Matter of fact if your parent(s) knew half of the things you have done, will do, or are thinking about doing, I am pretty sure they would not approved and be damn if they are going to take blame for your personal screw ups.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
1:37 pm
JtJ upon hearing the total I would have order something else just to change the amount. LOL
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
1:38 pm
Come on now…you know most of the little piece of shyt kids you know have piece of shyt parents<– I knew it was only a matter of time before I was
Lioness
September 21st, 2009
1:39 pm
Raqi- I would have too! Some zax sauce or something
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:40 pm
Matter of fact if your parent(s) knew half of the things you have done, will do, or are thinking about doing, I am pretty sure they would not approved
Kym – You’d be wrong about that one. Cuz even as an adult I make decisions with my parents lessons in mind.
Not like I don’t get your point, but my take is simply different.
Blow Me
September 21st, 2009
1:40 pm
**And lets not act like all these parents are providing that. And it’s clear some parents are ENABLERS!
Those crazy stories you read on the news are not always cuz the parents did everything right. You can give your kid too much too, which is the rope they use to come and hang you with**
HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLO PREACH! Don’t talk about it! Please dont go there girl. Don’t!
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:41 pm
Grace
September 21st, 2009
1:42 pm
Spare the rod, spoil the child – Some children are deemed to be bad no matter what parenting skills you have. My son’s teacher called me up one day and said “I don’t know what you’re doing but whatever you’re doing please continue, your child is so respectable, I’ve never had a child say Yes/no ma’am to me and Yes/no sir to the male teachers” the following w/e my daughter had a sleep over when I called for her she said as she usually does ma’am? her gf giggled and says “why do you say ma’am to your mom? my daughter goes because it’s much more respectful than saying what or huh?” I just smiled! with respect comes obedient.
Raqi...Out of Order
September 21st, 2009
1:43 pm
Kym you are correct. I know I have done somethings that disappointed my parents.
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:43 pm
Melo – My co-worker left after lunch because her “secure system” called and told her and her hubby that the basment alarm was triggered…she thinks there maybe water dmg…THEN, both her kids school closed, but before she could go get them she has to find them….the school forwarded a calling post that the kids will be transported to “dry” schools in the area…so she has to check the website or call the school.
wow
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:43 pm
AmazonR..I know a mega church pastor with a son with a felony record. He robbed everybody including his parents. I know a guy with a felony record who’s parents are two of the most upstanding citizens you would ever want to meet. Married 30 plus years, but their son was not worth two quarters rubbed together. Heck look at the children of Martin Luther King, they are in court now..acting brand new. How about Buzzy Jackson..I remember one year Buzzy stayed on the front page of the local newspaper. The list goes on and on.
Mo (aka Moeisha )
September 21st, 2009
1:46 pm
Cemeeli – I dont know about Mary’s new cd yet but Im working on it
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:46 pm
Heck look at the children of Martin Luther King, they are in court now…
That’s not a good example to me. And again, you’re posting acceptions, not rules and we hardly know the full story with any of them.
Let’s agree to disagree.
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:47 pm
Grrr… “exceptions.”
Dream_n
September 21st, 2009
1:49 pm
I don’t care how you put it… You can be the best parent you can be… or even the worst parent you can be… Ai the end of the day, there is that all to familiar word that we like to call “choice”. You have a choice. You have a choice to be an upstanding citizen or you have to choice to take the other route…. I am not going to take nor would I want my parents to take responsibility over the actions that I choose to take. But again that’s the beauty of blogs.. You get to voice your opinion and hear others even if they conflict…. at the end of the day.. I respect everyone’s opinion
Leggs
September 21st, 2009
1:51 pm
Do you think OJ’s mother raised him to be the conceited, self righteous man he is today…yep. Do you think is mother enabled him….yep. Do you think his mother raised him to turn into a killer cuz he couldn’t control is anger/jealously…nope! Grown folk can’t control the actions of grown folk!
Blow Me
September 21st, 2009
1:51 pm
ARED- I must admit you are on point today!
We don’t know how those kids were raised…
I AM GETTIN THE FEELING THE BLOG FAMILY HAS SOME BAD A$$ KIDS!!!
You can always tell who doesn’t have control over their child. They the first ones defending why they are sooooo bad.
They are bad because its YOUR fault!!
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:51 pm
Shawty by Nature a.k.a. Mo That’s what’s up….you been cool?
Melo
September 21st, 2009
1:53 pm
Cemeeli,what county do the kids school in?
Kym-has angered the sky sprirts and the football gods.
September 21st, 2009
1:53 pm
Raqi of course we all have. None of us are perfect. Our parents didnt expect perfect children. I know the mini me at my house is far from it. But I love the little doof just the same. Some stuff real life is going to have to kick him in the teeth with. Hopefully when he leaves my care he will know enough to get his tail back up.
Amazon alright lets get real unless I miss my guess you are not a virgin. Pretty sure you have been around the mulberry bush with more than one guy. But were you not one of the ones who’s parents told her wait until you get married? If not, do you think if you went in and sat down with your dad and told him how many times you have been around the mulberry bush and with how many guys he approved? So does that make your dad a bad father? or your mother a bad mother? Is it their fault you went in the bushes in the first place?
AmazonRed™
September 21st, 2009
1:53 pm
Do you think his mother raised him to turn into a killer cuz he couldn’t control is anger/jealously…
Looks like someone missed the point. *sigh*
Cemeeli
September 21st, 2009
1:56 pm
@ Melo – in Cobb/Vinings.
I’m leaving in a few as well….echem…Boss’s orders
..but since my kid is not in co. school i’m leaving him at school, then i’ll pick up after study hall time.