Too Good to be True
One of the tricky things about dating is figuring out who is authentic and who is not. It’s hard not to become a cynic after meeting the phonies and the crazies. When we actually the meet the totally normal, completely sane individual, we aren’t always prepared!
Have you ever met someone that seems like the ideal match for you? You are attracted to them and vice versa, you have wonderful chemistry together, and they even seem to have everything you’ve been looking for. Then doubt creeps in. The uninvited thing that makes you question if the person is too good to be true.
Why do you think we do this so often? Is there really such a thing as too good to be true? I have even been in a situation where I started to expect “the other shoe to drop” so to speak. You know when you start looking for signs that the person isn’t as great as they seem? Most of the time, it’s not the other person that has the issue, it’s you! (ok, it’s me as well but I’m not alone, right?)
What is a good way to combat the cynicism in dating and relationships? Has anyone ever told you that you were too good to be true?
Happy Friday!
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JtJ
September 18th, 2009
2:50 pm
@ Raqi…..”Power of a Praying Wife”….by Stormie O’Martin….bought that book years ago….very good book. Ilearned alot on how to pray and what/whom to pray for. There is also “Power of a Praying Husband”.
Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!
September 18th, 2009
2:51 pm
Melo – do you need to dance? You can get a pretty decent meal, with a live band at KC Pit BBQ on Roswell Road.
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2009
2:53 pm
Melo — You are right about that (tattoos in/around the nether regions = somebody phlucked a tattoo artist). In the chic’s case, that would be more likely to happen of the tattoo artist was a chic, but that’s another story…
abc
September 18th, 2009
2:54 pm
Kanye crashed Patrick Swayze’s funeral. He jumped onto the stage, grabbed the mic and said “This funeral ain’t for crap, Michael Jackson had the best funeral of all time!”
Melo
September 18th, 2009
2:57 pm
I can guarante what? I was virgin Dream_n,when i was taken
Not that kinda of ambiance Tazzee..not food,maybe band but more liquor,mixx of pple,music..just a a hangout.
Food not in the equation altho we can nible bar food..
Im talking of a “corrupt” joint with fertile but grown men and women,some with 2-party horizontal intentions….
i be with Queen or solo……
Fan
September 18th, 2009
2:57 pm
LMAO@abc. You are SO wrong fo dat!
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:03 pm
Melo if you are looking for a really nice place to take your Queen try Sambuca. That or either Havana. Somebody likes to have his cigar every so often so Havana is okay.
Leggs
September 18th, 2009
3:04 pm
KC Pit BBQ is an excellent choice if you don’t want to dance.
Grace
September 18th, 2009
3:04 pm
Melo are you hinting at a swinger’s club?
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:05 pm
The was this one place we went with some friends that looked like a little hole in the wall but it really, really nice on the inside. It swing dancing. I don’t remember the name of the place. It’s been a few years.
Fan
September 18th, 2009
3:06 pm
lol@Grace… are we thinking Trapeze???
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
not food,maybe band but more liquor,mixx of pple,music..just a a hangout.
Melo I don’t know of any place like that because…I just don’t. LOL The places we go are usually for eating, lounging, drinking and the whole nine. No meat markets.
The place mentioned earlier, Joey D’s is great for food and jazz listening.
Fan
September 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
Melo, if you can hang with Salsa/Caribbean music you should check out Eclipse. Good music and it’s a tapas bar so you don’t really do the whole “meal” thing.
Leggs
September 18th, 2009
3:08 pm
Never mind, you don’t want to eat either!
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:10 pm
Dancing would be a good idea for tomorrow evening. We haven’t been in a while and I still have some baby weight I need to be getting rid of.
M'...celebrant of her 5th decade!!!!
September 18th, 2009
3:11 pm
@abc
You ain’t right…hehehe…just ain’t right
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:11 pm
Melo are you hinting at a swinger’s club?
Naaaaw..i wld have told u and besides,they send me updates every week..
Me and my boy are thinking of hitting a spot smetime…
Problem is the swing clubs we like hangout in Buford/Gainsville area..
Now,that wld be dangerous wit thise rednecks.
But naaaw for now,maybe later….
Raqi,Sambuca is cool but other than the jazz u listen to while sitting,no standing room over there….thats a dine and jazzy kinda of spot…Taboo wld even beat it for what im thinking of….
I want a stand up mostly crowd,drinking,talking,nibling and a lil dancing…….with phine women all around,no 20/30sh juveniles.
cmeone black pple,where is that at!
Angie
September 18th, 2009
3:12 pm
going on my first M3!
the radio station invited me to come to their office and do a piece for the advertising. giggle. i’m scrrrd. i agreed but i told her she must save all the men in uniforms for me!
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:13 pm
Melo in these days of the internet if you are looking for swingers you know they are just a few clicks away. Why don’t you and queen get online tonight and see what you can find.
Dream_n
September 18th, 2009
3:14 pm
no 20/30sh juveniles
is resent that statement…
Angie
September 18th, 2009
3:14 pm
***Kanye crashed Patrick Swayze’s funeral. He jumped onto the stage, grabbed the mic and said “This funeral ain’t for crap, Michael Jackson had the best funeral of all time!”***
hehehe.
Grace
September 18th, 2009
3:14 pm
I want a stand up mostly crowd,drinking,talking,nibling and a lil dancing- last time I’ve been to something like that was at a holiday party
Chink
September 18th, 2009
3:15 pm
Melo ..that sounds like a club. You just have to compromise on the age range.
aggwitty
September 18th, 2009
3:16 pm
Melo I think you need to reread/fix that 3:11 reply cause this looks maaaaad suspect homey:
Me and my boy are thinking of hitting a spot smetime…
Problem is the swing clubs we like hangout in Buford/Gainsville area..
Now,that wld be dangerous wit thise rednecks
you and “your boy” hit swing clubs?
Grace
September 18th, 2009
3:17 pm
The High Museum has something close to that on 3rd Fridays, not much dancing though
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:17 pm
Chink,ok,where u thinking of where the crowd is a lil mature?
Chink
September 18th, 2009
3:18 pm
LOL@agg
Chink
September 18th, 2009
3:19 pm
I heard the lucky lounge is a pretty cool spot. Or if all else fails go to Taboo2
Page1908
September 18th, 2009
3:20 pm
Swiss- well, the camel toe part was tight and the rest of the jeans were totally baggy. i don’t know either!
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:20 pm
you and “your boy” hit swing clubs?
see..u understand what u wanna understand in ur mind:
i said and u even quoted me:
Me and my boy are thinking of hitting a spot smetime..
neva been to one,but want to go there once or 2,unQueened,just me and my other horny buddy.
now ,ask me again??
Page1908
September 18th, 2009
3:21 pm
Leggs- i know who u r talking about. i forgot they didn’t have a car! lol. yeah Ambience was nice the time i went.
Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!
September 18th, 2009
3:22 pm
So now Cobb County’s having a restaurant week. My metabolism can’t take it!!!
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2009
3:23 pm
“well, the camel toe part was tight and the rest of the jeans were totally baggy. i don’t know either!”
Page — Maybe her kitty was hungry, so it started eating the pants?
Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!
September 18th, 2009
3:24 pm
Melo – I’m sorry, but it did read like you and your boy were going to the swing club together…
Page1908
September 18th, 2009
3:24 pm
LOL Swiss, yeah that could be the reason why. I thought dudes liked those?
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
LOL Melo swinging is for couples. Not a couple of horny geezers looking to step out on their wives.
Leggs
September 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
Isn’t the W like what Melo is looking for????
Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!
September 18th, 2009
3:27 pm
Maybe her kitty was hungry, so it started eating the pants?
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2009
3:27 pm
Page — Not a big fan of the camel toe myself…
Can’t speak for other dudes…
Raqi
September 18th, 2009
3:28 pm
And Melo if you talking about Melo and mini-me/lo, I don’t think you would allowed into a swinger environment alone. Don’t you have to give something, your Queen, to get something?
Leggs
September 18th, 2009
3:28 pm
HAHAHAHAHA @ horny geezers. I immediately pictured a man with sock suspenders hunched over! That’s not Melo!
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:28 pm
your boy were going to the swing club together…
yes BUT no becoz we swing TGETHER but coz we curious?????? about the whole thang…….
he my hang buddy so if they send ume an invite for non couples,we might go and see what goes down…..
Page1908
September 18th, 2009
3:29 pm
LOL Swiss- oh ok, i thought all dudes liked them because of the visual of it.
Dream_n
September 18th, 2009
3:29 pm
Why women would wear their pants that tight is beyond me…
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:30 pm
Raqi/Tazz, i understand the concept but i we just wanna go and see 4 ourselves..they do have non-couple days where uncoupled folks,ladies and gents can go and pay more.
(based on their emails)
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:31 pm
Isn’t the W like what Melo is looking for????
yeah,one of my blog lady buddies just gave me that heads up?
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2009
3:32 pm
“oh ok, i thought all dudes liked them because of the visual of it.”
Page — Don’t get me wrong… I love the visual of a nice p-dussy staring me in the face, but not one that looks like Mayor McCheese when she’s laying on her side…
Jamoca
September 18th, 2009
3:33 pm
<I…as I come bearing drinks
On Topic – I asked the question of “Why me?” one time and was given the rebuttal of “Why not?” Shut my azz up quick. Could say no more about it.
Kimmie – I actually can understand or rather grasp the sentiment behind what your friend was attempting to convey regarding alot of Atlanta’s (overuse) of street names beginning with exact same thing —>”Peachtree”….which can hardly be compared to an entire State (as you referenced Florida). Now I can’t really speak of her neck of the woods, but I can honestly say Naw, there’s not as much overuse of the word “orange” where I’m at. There are an array of (other) citrus fruits grown here, so they tend to switch it up a bit, instead of putting so much focus on one particular fruit when it comes to street names, that’s all.
But it’s expected for states to highlight certain “products” it’s known for like GA peaches…versus FL oranges. But again, we’re known to grow (market) more than oranges, its just citrus fruits as a whole…even down to strawberries (big in Plant City).
So yeah, I can agree when I initially moved there a few years ago, it threw me for a loop and I guess also because I’m used to getting a bit of a heads up via road signs that a particular street name will change into a different (name) within a few more blocks…even if both streets begin with the name “Peachtree” but ends (read: changes) into something so trivial as “street” to “blvd”. But after a couple of months, I actually got the hang of it…but it did not hurt that my ex was born and bred there. Like a human GPS on demand to that city and all surrounding areas. Cuz it was not much use asking around for directions, too many transplants. But I must admit, if the woman’s been there for as long as 10 years, then why in da heyal is she still complaining? She betta git wit’ it!
Moving to a new city is like the internet…you just have to get out there, in order to know what’s “out there”…and a few pointers of places you may want to avoid visiting (<–that didn't stop me tho). But it's trial and error. I would purposely spend some days getting lost, in order to force myself to pay close attention to landmarks and street names, well before I met him that is. But yeah, she's a few years late with that “complainin' tip”.
Melo – It was my understanding that the male version of menopause for you all, was given the phrase of “Midlife crisis”.
Swiss – Your ex was going more for “the look” of “The Hat on the Cat.”
TP’s new movie was pretty good, hit close to home in some scenes, but still predictable in it’s outcome…and I was taunted me with the name Ms. Cleo the remainder of the evening. My friend Israel demanded I take a break from things and accompany him to Centro Ybor’s Muvico for drinks and a movie.
Abc – I almost took you seriously there…he really needs to sit down somewhere.
M'...celebrant of her 5th decade!!!!
September 18th, 2009
3:40 pm
y’all have a good and safe weekend.
I will be checking out “For Sisters Only” tomorrow…peace
Melo
September 18th, 2009
3:41 pm
a nice p-dussy staring me in the face
SWISS, all pudsies look real uggly.neva seen a nice looking puddsy..
nice! is the feeling u get when u hit it…u just thinking about tonite,thats all and dont lie!