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Too Good to be True

One of the tricky things about dating is figuring out who is authentic and who is not. It’s hard not to become a cynic after meeting the phonies and the crazies. When we actually the meet the totally normal, completely sane individual, we aren’t always prepared!

Have you ever met someone that seems like the ideal match for you? You are attracted to them and vice versa, you have wonderful chemistry together, and they even seem to have everything you’ve been looking for. Then doubt creeps in. The uninvited thing that makes you question if the person is too good to be true.

Why do you think we do this so often? Is there really such a thing as too good to be true? I have even been in a situation where I started to expect “the other shoe to drop” so to speak.  You know when you start looking for signs that the person isn’t as great as they seem? Most of the time, it’s not the other person that has the issue, it’s you! (ok, it’s me as well but I’m not alone, right?)

What is a good way to combat the cynicism in dating and relationships? Has anyone ever told you that you were too good to be true?

Happy Friday!

315 comments Add your comment

Grace

September 18th, 2009
1:29 pm

LOL @Page having a blonde moment!

Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!

September 18th, 2009
1:30 pm

Page – don’t feel bad, I’ve never heard that song either. Or I didn’t understand what they were saying when I heard it.

Like I didn’t know that ‘Low’ song said ‘boots with the fur’ until AmRed posted it yesterday :lol:

Page1908

September 18th, 2009
1:31 pm

LOL Tazzee! ok, i am not alone.

lol Grace.

Tazzee - GO FALCONS!!!

September 18th, 2009
1:32 pm

My online Stews feed keeps cutting off – messing up my afternoon!!!

Compelling

September 18th, 2009
1:32 pm

I know I could save lots of money if I brought my own snacks in. I’m a scary person though. I always think someone’s gonna catch me and then I’ll be booted outta my movie. :-(

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
1:34 pm

Since the weather is supposed to be about like it is now on tomorrow we could probably go to JoeyDs or ESPN Zone. Any place where we will not have to leave to go do something else after dinner. We can get it all in at one place.

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
1:36 pm

I prefer watching boxing over wrestling any day.

Mo (aka Moeisha - New Auntie for the 3rd time! )

September 18th, 2009
1:40 pm

Page1908 – I’ll steal one of my sister’s dimples! LOL! Thanx chica (and no Im not retiring that word)

I havent been to Starlight in YEARS!! wow!

Fan

September 18th, 2009
1:43 pm

LOL@aggwitty. I know! I’ve been saying that for 15 years but so far no incidents. Keepin fingers AND toes crossed!

Chink

September 18th, 2009
1:48 pm

The money you save on going to starlight and bringing your own snacks you lose when you get jacked leaving.

LOL

Melo

September 18th, 2009
1:50 pm

Compelling/Raqi, i dont have an idea on what to do..kinda conflicted and not really excited…is there menopause for men?? what is it called,i think im in that mood!

(female ??pause shld have been called femopause or sme like that..meno shld have been for men) :lol:

the weather is messing me up like totally
get a boo sweetheart..this cool weather is the best,ask Compelling..She be snugging with her boo this weekend..keeping all the good good inside( inside as in the house..watchuall thinking..corrupt pple)

Other than accompnaying them to For sister Only,i might just be home this weekend unless the A chics come out & are looking real pretty satrday afternoon,then i might be tempted to go out that nite!

Melo

September 18th, 2009
1:52 pm

Starlight is one of those places u take a chic to if u wanna do her in the car!

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
1:53 pm

I am thinking I could sleep til 8am tomorrow morning undisturbed. LOL That is most def too good to be true.

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
1:53 pm

@Page ~ I bought these “shower caps: about 5 years ago. That’s how one wound up in the junk drawer, just old!

@Raqi ~ I wondered about the press and seal. Thanks for the endorsement. You’re right, anything is better than high priced Tupperware.

@Compelling ~ I enjoyed the movie. Not as “movieish” as The Family That Preys, but it’s a good movies.

@Dream-N ~ girl you don’t know whatcha missing. A good boxing match will turn you into one of the boys screaming, hollering and punching the air!

@aggwitty ~ good comeback (1:29).

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
1:55 pm

Got to get that Boom Boom Pow is a song from the Black Eyed Peas. I thought it was another rally for sex!

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
1:58 pm

LOL melo one of the men here is always on the rag.

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:00 pm

@aggwitty ~ good come!

Leggs,u and @aggwitty are tgether?? enjoy :lol:

Now ladies,unless the tattoos read,”Come in and welcome”, what bizzness do u have putting a tattoo on the inside of ur thighs?? Gross

i'm swiss

September 18th, 2009
2:03 pm

“i just saw a lady with some baggy skinny jeans on but the weird and gross thing was that she had a camel toe!”

Page — I’m confused… camel toe w/ baggy jeans? How is that possible? Was she using her chooch to hold her pants up or something? :?: :lol:

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:06 pm

@Melo ~ good come and good comeback are not the same thing!

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:06 pm

Other than the grown and crawling folks who go to the joints on Old national,is there another bar scene for the grown,sexxy and mature folks not nearing social security yet(not Harristons either)….i mean like 40s scene..Buckhead preferably?

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:09 pm

I’ve only been once, but Ambiance off Memorial seems nice. Only drawback is the dance floor is so tiny (much like a square on a checkerboard) considering the size of the establishment.

i'm swiss

September 18th, 2009
2:11 pm

“Now ladies,unless the tattoos read,”Come in and welcome”, what bizzness do u have putting a tattoo on the inside of ur thighs?? Gross”

Melo — One of my ex’s got a tattoo of the Dr. Seuss Cat In the Hat’s Hat — just the hat — right on top of her p-dussy. Totally killed it for me. I could not believe that sh!t…. :lol:

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
2:13 pm

Melo are you talking “finding someone to hook up with” bar scene or just somewhere with drinks that you and Queen can have a nice night out?

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:13 pm

To each its own… but a tatto anywhere close to “the goods” is a no no…

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:14 pm

One of my ex’s got a tattoo of the Dr. Seuss Cat In the Hat’s Hat — just the hat — right on top of her p-dussy. Totally killed it for me. I could not believe that sh!t….

SO you didn’t bed her???? lol

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:15 pm

Ambiance off Memorial???

i been to Memorial joints in the past..the only drawback..any establishment like that is popular with folks who use marta buses,crawling outta stn mountain apartments,thats a No no 4 me! :lol:

Is Jermine Dupri’s hoochie club still open…it attracted same demographics in the past??

aggwitty

September 18th, 2009
2:16 pm

Melo, you can always hit up bigelow’s on gresham road player. hahahahah

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:17 pm

This day is dragging…makes me want to be under the covers with a nice hot cup of tea watching an old black and white movie (preferrably, a Bette Davis movie).

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:19 pm

@Melo, I swear to you I am hollering over here cuz a gf of mine went last week w/her bf and they rode the bus. Neither one has a car. Man you have me slinging snot over here, I’m crying.

i'm swiss

September 18th, 2009
2:19 pm

“SO you didn’t bed her???? lol”

Dream_n — Oh, we were already together when she went off & got that tattoo… but we weren’t together for long after that. I could never look at her cooch w/ a straight face after that…. :lol:

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
2:20 pm

LOL Leggs you got me jotting down a list of 10 things I would rather be doing than sitting in this office.

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:22 pm

are you talking “finding someone to hook up with” bar scene

weelllllll, Raqi..i didnt say that..unless u got sme mischief i might like. :lol:

got a tattoo of the Dr. Seuss Cat In the Hat’s Hat — just the hat

u know tattoo artists gotta be freaks..so if she has one in a compromising position,the artist 9/10 got some major get off favors,other than the touchy feel….

if i were a tatto artist myself,i just say to the lady..

u know baby,i can really do a good one there,but to steady my hand i gotta get some,otherwise i get HBP,leading to uncontrollable shaking by just tching and looking and might end up pricking u in the wrong spot…

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:24 pm

What’s your top 3?

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:24 pm

always hit up bigelow’s on gresham road

thats in da hood road, right?

no,thanx..didnt i say pref buckhead?

Fan

September 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

ok. I’m slow. I just got the “kitty in the hat” image she was going for. That’s pure insanity.

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:26 pm

Why is it that when i start talking about grown stuff,Page1908 goes ghost??

Page,u dont know how much i like to play wit u,on and off blog… :lol:

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:27 pm

I could never look at her cooch w/ a straight face after that

lmao!!!

It does seem like this day is going by soooo sloowww.. :(

I’ll start the list.. please feel free to add on

1. Sleeping
2. Watching “Swan Princess” with my little one
3. Putting my candles holders my ma just bought for the apt on the wall….

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:27 pm

a gf of mine went last week w/her bf and they rode the bus. Neither one has a car

Told u…………..

Fan

September 18th, 2009
2:28 pm

I usually read but don’t comment on this blog. As you can all see, I am absolutely NOT motivated to do any work at all today! Thanx for keeping me company :)

Fan

September 18th, 2009
2:29 pm

4. Checking my crops on Farmville.

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:31 pm

Yes, yes you did (sniff, sniff)! You are crazy. I knew you wouldn’t step foot into Bigelow’s. You can have a real good time @Bigelow’s, but it’s too “hood” for you.

Leggs

September 18th, 2009
2:31 pm

5. Spooning
6. Sleeping
7. Spooning

JtJ

September 18th, 2009
2:34 pm

Wow….the topic is all over the place. Hey Everybody!!!!!!

Too good to be true….waiting on the “true reveal”….almost got to me in my relationship……My fiance had to straight up tell me…”Look, I am NOT him…..Don’t keep looking for me to hurt you”….I just sat there like a lil’ bitty girl being fussed at and said…”Ok”.
Men and women have to consider the experiences that each have had and talk about them so they know what to expect.

@ Melo…….try Taboo 2 on Roswell Rd. It’s really nice and a good mixture of people….Went there twice on Sat and stayed til almost 3 am.

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:35 pm

Raqi(since most of these other blogger are corrupt)

where do u go wit ur hubby if u feeling like drinking,talking and a lil dancing…….(not dancing in da sheets)

in case u wondering:
single and not a virgin=CORRUPTION

Melo

September 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

JtJ,thats what im talking ’bout..thanx,had forgotten about Taboo..

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

single and not a virgin=CORRUPTION (foolishness)

You may not be there now… but you once were.. I can guarante :)

Raqi

September 18th, 2009
2:38 pm

10 things I wish I was doing instead sitting behind this desk:

1. Home rearranging the pantry.

2. Holding my daughter.

3. Running some errands.

4. Baking a batch of caramel brownies.

5. Taking a nap with the windows open.

6. Reading a book alone while the house is calm and quiet. I just bought The Power of A Praying Wife. I look forward to diving into those pages.

7. Painting the downstairs bathroom.

8. Scrubbing that stain out of the carpet in our closet.

9. Watching “Lady for a Day”.

10. Shopping.

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:39 pm

Dream_n

September 18th, 2009
2:44 pm

Hey ladies…

What would you guys do if you had just decided to become intimate with a guy and he had a tatoo by his “woo hoo”… Does it depend on what the tatoo is of… could you continue… What if it was of cherries…

Where’s Lioness today… she always cracks me up with her 1 liners lol

i'm swiss

September 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

“What would you guys do if you had just decided to become intimate with a guy and he had a tatoo by his “woo hoo”…”

Dream_n — I have the unabridged text of War and Peace tattooed on my wang. Please don’t hold it against me. :lol: