This weekend, CSI-NY actor Hill Harper came into town for a couple of book signing events. His new book, entitled The Conversation: How Black Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships. I was unable to attend the events but our beloved Amazon Red is guest blogging for us today about the book:
Actor Hill Harper is a handsome, Ivy League educated, rich…and at 43, he’s never been married. I was driving into work one morning and listening to Hill give a radio interview regarding his book. He stated that he realized he was part of the problem — being a straight, single, eligible black man who has never married. Through his friendship with the Obamas (he went to Harvard law with the President), he’s seen them support and build each other up over the years and realized that a neither a man or a woman can reach their full potential without a good mate by their side.
So with that being said…Hill has resolved to be married in the next few years. But then the interviewer asked a good question to Hill: “Why haven’t you married after all this time?” His response: “Fear and options.” His fear kept him from going the distance and the extensive options of available women made him picky: “oh, her eyebrows are wrong” or “her front tooth is crooked.” By picking women apart, he
never had a chance to get close to one. Now after realizing that no one is perfect, he is in a better state of mind…one that will hopefully lead to marriage and a lasting relationship.
So to the blog: you’ve gotten to where you are, you have a career, maybe a marriage and some children under your belt and now you’re single in a city of Atlanta full of eligible singles. What is is keeping you from finding a productive relationship and settling down?
Great question, Amazon Red! I think it’s partly because we have our priorities in a different order than previous generations. What do you guys think? What are your priorities in your life right now? Where does a successful relationship fit in to them?