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A Guy Thing?

I will never forget the crazy night I had with a guy I was seeing. We were preparing to leave his house and head to a concert together. As we were backing out the driveway an ex-fling was on the front sidewalk looking a little upset (read: crazy). She wanted to know why he hadn’t called, or returned her calls/messages/emails.

In that kind of situation, a man really has two options: be upfront and give full disclosure on who the woman was, or drive off and pretend she wasn’t really standing there yelling. Which one do you think he chose?  Well, he thought he would just avoid her until the evening was over.

Obviously this didn’t work, and of course minutes later she began calling him.  Why do most guys avoid confrontation of breaking up? Is it just a guy thing, though? Is it hard for women to be the one that calls the time of death on the relationship?

I know a couple of guys that will act like a complete blockhead so that the woman will have no choice but to end things. They would rather do this then explain that she is not the right one for him. Ladies, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation? Did you call him on it or cut your losses? Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship?

Guys, do you think that some men are like kids and think that men do what women let them do? Is that another way to let a man be a man? Do you think men push the limits to see what they can get away with when it comes to relationships? How would a woman handle a man who is doing that in a dating relationship? Should she stand her ground and let him know he crossed the line?

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ImAPeach404

September 11th, 2009
8:59 am

Guys don’t leave. Period. They just make the situation miserable so the woman will leave.

I firmly believe that it’s so easy for guys to check out of a relationship because they do it mentally way before they do it physically.

I mean, how many times have you seen a woman put her foot down in a long term relationship and dude is like “Oh, aiight. See ya – wouldn’t wanna be ya”? I used to think men had an internal switch to turn off their feelings but thats not the case… It’s that dudes decide in their head that the relationship is over but just stick around waiting for the female to dump them. That way, when all is said and done and she comes crawling back he can pull the ole “You left me, I didn’t leave you” card.

He broke up with you 3 months ago but just forgot to mention it – you know, trying to avoid confrontation….

Kym

September 11th, 2009
9:00 am

Ladies, have you ever experienced this before?

YES!!! Will shoot the enemy but run like hell when asked a simple question.

Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation?

YES!!!! See above.

Did you call him on it or cut your losses?

BOTH. Call him out and cut my losses. He’s back again. Its a sick, sad relationship. What can I say.

Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship?

Hmmm yes and no. I normally bring the issue up and then flip so he thinks he is the one that started the whole thing.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
9:04 am

Happy Friday all –

Lawd…not this topic. Okay…so you are now going to be introduced to AmazonRed’s crazy side.

One of the biggest problems between me and my ex was my desire to talk about things…and his desire to not. I’ve said before that I can deal with “let’s talk about this later.” However, I can NOT deal when later turns into NEVER. That seriously pushes “that button.”

So yes, I have gone through extreme measures to demand that we finally come to some resolution: I’ve gone by the house unannounced (hell, he was my man, sheesh). It probably happened four times. And none of them ended well, but at least it got his attention. :lol:

The only way I can save face with this foolishness is the fact that I was actively involved in the relationship. Not a jilted ex. Once we’re done, I could give a damn, I’m not going to be calling you in the first place, so he won’t have to worry about not returning calls or messages.

Anyway…just keeping it real (stupid). :lol:

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
9:19 am

Do you think that some men are like kids and think that men do what women let them do? Yep

Is that another way to let a man be a man? Ah, no. :roll:

Do you think men push the limits to see what they can get away with when it comes to relationships?Yep

How would a woman handle a man who is doing that in a dating relationship? Don’t put up with it.

Should she stand her ground and let him know he crossed the line? Yep

Random scratching of the ballz is a “guy thing”. Not being man enough to face a woman and tell her it’s not working for him is sheer punkazzery.

ImAPeach404

September 11th, 2009
9:20 am

@ Red – you’re not crazy. If that’s your man and you’re in a relationship… there is no such thing as “popping up unannounced” :)

I wouldn’t care if my man came by unannounced – it’s not like I have anything to hide. However, I wouldn’t advise it b/c there is no telling what you might see when I open the door. Head wrap… cold cream… granny panties… unmade bed… eye boogers…

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
9:21 am

Ladies I have to disagree

Some women don’t understand when a man breaks up with them. You can tell them flat out its not working for you and they don’t get it! So that puts us in awkward position. “I told her I don’t want to be with her and she heard me but she isn’t listening”

PLAN B
Get her to do the break up, by doing things she doesn’t like. You don’t want to hurt that person but something has to give…

As far as showing up at my Crib unannounced!!! No Sir!!! I don’t do uninvited guests. She would have to leave, Not now, BUT RIGHT NOW!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
9:25 am

@ Red – you’re not crazy. If that’s your man and you’re in a relationship… there is no such thing as “popping up unannounced”

Peach – That’s what I told myself at the time too. :lol:

But exactly…you never know what you will find by doing that… and I certainly didn’t sometimes!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
9:25 am

Peachy I think it is like one of the menfolk said yesterday or the day before, they stick around for the free coital sessions for as long as the woman allows them to even after they have checked out mentally.

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
9:29 am

Gooooooooooooooood Morning Folks!

Where is Ms. Sassy? :smile:

Ladies I have to agree with Mike J. Some women don’t understand when a man breaks up with them. Some women have hard time accepting this relationship is not working. Some women start with you must be seeing someone else comments.

Sometimes we make a mistake and go back and hit it now that is the biggest mistake anyone can make it gives some a reason to think you are still together!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
9:30 am

Mike Jones, why wouldn’t your girl be welcome in your home? Yes, one should always call first, but I would hope that certain people get a pass from time to time.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
9:38 am

Peachy and Amazon the “popping up unannounced” was something that I could only take in small doses. It teeters on taking advantage of me IMO. I didn’t require my guy to make an appointment, LOL, or schedule days in advance to come to see me but when he just dropped by I needed a call to say “hey I’m up the street and headed your way” or something of that nature. Don’t just show up all willy nilly as if I don’t have something more important or just as important that I am attending to. And sometimes reading the paper or just having time to myself was just as or more important.

He didn’t always call before coming but apologized once there for not calling when he didn’t. I appreciated the apology.

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
9:41 am

ARed
Come on now, you heard the Outkast song. “I’ll call before I come, I won’t just pop over out the bluueeeeee, no after you”
That verse has another meaning but thats a completely different topic. But you get the point!

My girl is definitley welcome in my home. I don’t give passes on that until she gets her own set of keys!

Kym

September 11th, 2009
9:41 am

Sorry but I agree with Mike. Don’t come by my house unannounced.

I kid you not my daddy even calls before he shows up. I am not one of surprise visits and guest. “I just wondered if you were home.” Call first I will let you know if I am home. It is not about having something to hide it is about common courtesy. That mess is rude.

I have only done it once to a guy, and lets just say that was my lesson learned. No he didn’t have a girl there but he let me know in no uncertain terms that it was rude.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
9:44 am

Good Morning All!!! (Friday!!! — finally)

Well in my short time of dating (lol). I’ve experienced this… And I have to disagree with the guys on this one also.. I don’t believe that the women don’t understand that you are breaking up with them, I think that “some” men just aren’t straight forward. If you sat a woman down and explained to her that things were not working out and you think that’s its time to end the relationship… I’m pretty sure we would understand what you are trying to convey to us, but if you start ignoring phone calls, not coming by when you say you are, or being just plain disrespectful… We think you’re being an azz…… I’m not saying all men, but some men don’t know how to breeak up b/c the also want to have their cake an eat it too…. They still want to be intimate, but yet not have a full blow relationship anymore… It can’t work that way.. you have to cut all ties..

M' (Casper)

September 11th, 2009
9:45 am

Happy Friday blog…peace!!!!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
9:45 am

Peachy and Amazon the “popping up unannounced” was something that I could only take in small doses.

Raqi – Trust me, I totally agree. I don’t want ANYONE coming by unannounced. However, it happens. And for family or my guy, I’m not going to kick them out! I will ask them to respect my home and time, but geez, I have to lighten up sometimes too.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
9:47 am

My girl is definitley welcome in my home. I don’t give passes on that until she gets her own set of keys!

now that i agree with :)

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
9:48 am

@MJones ~ “Some women don’t understand when a man breaks up with them. You can tell them flat out its not working for you and they don’t get it! So that puts us in awkward position” The script can be flipped. Some guys also refuse to hear the words “we are done!” It’s hard to let go and some simply try to make their last plea to see if the relationship can indeed be salvaged. We all know men avoid confrontation at all cost. You will never find me doing driving bys, standing on a sidewalk, blowing up your phone, hiding in bushes, etc. trying to get you to talk to me.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
9:49 am

For you guys that are saying some women don’t get it when you break it off with them, how are they not getting it if you say it’s over and then don’t see or call them again. How can someone still be dating or think they are dating someone that is not coming around or calling?

I think incidents like in the topic happens when you guys don’t let the woman know.

ImAPeach404

September 11th, 2009
9:50 am

@ Mike – yea maybe, but I don’t see that very often (a guy actually explaining why he’s leaving). I can’t recall one situation, in my experiences, where that happened. And I would venture to say that “Plan B” is more like “Plan A”….

@ Raqi – I certainly believe that to be true as well. And, I can agree that one should call prior to showing up – common courtesy. But, if my man popped up, it wouldn’t bother me. And, at this age, I don’t think I would show up unannounced, but hell, do you know how much stuff I’ve done in relationships that I didn’t think I would do. SMH.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
9:54 am

For you guys that are saying some women don’t get it when you break it off with them, how are they not getting it if you say it’s over and then don’t see or call them again.

Raqi – Apparently that’s why the chick in Diva’s story showed up at his doorstep. LOL

Kym

September 11th, 2009
9:57 am

@Dream Now lets just put on our big girl panties and be real for a second. Follow the flow of this conversation and see if this makes sense. Keep in mind men are pretty simple(mind) and they like(love) sex. Women we like to have a understanding. We want the air clear. Men act on how they are feeling. We tell how we are feeling.

George: You know April this whole thing is just not working out. You call everyday wanting to talk, you cook, we go out, you spend the night(that part is cool) but err I am just not feeling this relationship anymore. Let’s call it quits.

April: Whatcha trying to say George? You don’t want to be with me anymore?

George: I don’t want to hurt you and stuff but I mean this is just too much. Now I don’t mind if we get together for sex from time to time(you got mad skills) but err..I want to explore other options and frankly you can be annoying and clingy at times.

April: But I don’t understand. We have fun..you met my mama..we went out of town last week.

George: Yeah I know but for real you got mad skills but err..I was done with this months ago. So can we just hit it once more for the road and I call you from time to time?

April: But I just don’t understand.—

Grace

September 11th, 2009
9:57 am

Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship? Nope

Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation? not in my younger years, but recently I have

Did you call him on it or cut your losses? yeah

Most men are not straight forward letting the woman know that he’s no longer interested in pursuing her instead he dips and cut off all communication, or play the head game doing things that will make us leave. Childish.

Happy Friday!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
9:58 am

Three Words Daily – Live it up.

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
9:59 am

The script can be flipped. Some guys also refuse to hear the words “we are done!”

Leggs=Baby don’t leave me, Please PLease Please don’t leave, I can change!!! Lol
That is true no one wants to be the “Dumpee”. We have all heard stories in the news about guys that don’t want to break up. (ladies let us know if you have some crazy ex-con chasing you, its common coutesy)

For me my Pride and Ego won’t let me chase someone that has blatantly told me “MIke Jones I DON’T WANT YOU ANYMORE!!!”

Melo

September 11th, 2009
9:59 am

Ared,baby,that is the most passionate about u i have had in a long time! You are an intense luver, i can see.. :lol: :lol:

It probably happened four times

i aint mad atcha!!

On topic:
Guys are not good at communiacation generally as compared to womenw hen it concerns 2 party dating relationships..thats my opinion.In addition,Guys avoid that “talk” coz they know women gas up when they hear the truth.Women dont “gulp” and keep it moving,like men do,taking it on the chin.They get emotional.
The moment I say,”baby,its over”,shes already swelling up and crying on my lap,”baby,i thought we were ment to be” or some stupid like,”so when did u think about all this?”..asking me to explain my resignation..why???

Guys dont want all that crap.The solution……

show her the cold reception,ask for booty eve now and then as if u still together but weening urself of the booty and contact slowly..aka,”killing u softly”. That is the modus oparandi that works best for guys.
We let u figure it out for urslef and its a win win coz in times of dryness,u can always pick up the phone and call her for a movie or drink,capping it off with some nostalgic booty romp.

Happy friday yall!

(that jayzee “venus and mars” song is about puddssy romp,am i right?) i luved it on the VEE.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:02 am

One common thing I have experienced in the past is those guys that just stop calling. One thing my sister did teach me was to only call a man twice after you haven’t heard from him in 3 days. If he does not return your call after the second attempt then move on. It took me a couples goofs to learn that but that I did learn. I even took it down to one call after two days and then I let it and him be.

After a few go rounds in the dating dance it doesn’t take long to know when someone has become ghost in your life.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
10:02 am

@MJones ~ For me my Pride and Ego won’t let me chase someone that has blatantly told me “MIke Jones I DON’T WANT YOU ANYMORE!!!”…..here’s $50 for the collection plate!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:04 am

Some guys are man enough to just leave. I’ve experienced that personally, so I can vouch for those guys.

Then there are some that seem to not want the relationship anymore but are perhaps willing to remain in a position to receive the physical benefits of said relationship.

Finally, you have those mentioned who will make the relationship so uncomfortable for a woman that she will find her way out of it.

By the way, women have been known to do this too. (Again, speaking from personal experience.)

dw

September 11th, 2009
10:06 am

I have to agree with Melo. It’s the reaction to “the talk” that men want to avoid. We don’t like to deal with the crying and subsequent drama that follows, so we’d much rather you do the dumping so you can leave feeling empowered and not broken down.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:06 am

By the way, women have been known to do this too.

Yep, like always being too busy or preoccupied to see him. Yeah I am guilty.

Man that crap is dumb. LOL

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:07 am

Off Topic- Please make sure you check out the new T. Perry movie. It really is great!

On Topic- I am sooooo non-confrontational with everything! If I see a dude is starting to slack off like Dream_n mentioned, like not calling, not showing up, being flaky, etc, i will NOT say anything. to me, if he is doing this, then he is not interested, period. so, if he isn’t making an effort, then i certainly am not. to make it simple, i put in what the dude puts in. no more or less.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:13 am

SexyCool- that’s kinda like a dude i know who said he is looking for “companionship”. he said he is too bust with school, but wants someone for what he calls companionship, which to him means, going to each other’s homes, spending the night, SEX (of course), going on dates, talking, spending time together, traveling together, etc. i’m like, news flash: THAT’S A RELATIONSHIP! he said he wants the benefits of having a companion, but doesn’t want a committment because he is too busy and focused on school. so i said “ok, so how has that been working out for you”? he was like “ummmm it hasn’t”. I’m like DUH! exactly!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:14 am

btw SexyCool, i tried to stay online last night for your Trainwreck blow-by-blow, but i fell asleep because you took too long! lol

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:15 am

IMO (and its just that)

Men can use that cop out all day long… I refuse to believe that a man is not able to express what they are feeling..

“Men act on how they are feeling. We tell how we are feeling.”

While that may be true in instances… please. If a man was working hard at a job and believe he deserved that raise..You’re telling me he wouldn’t convey his feelings there bs…. men get away with that crap b/c we by into that whole crap (as i did in the past also)…
Sorry.. if you can openly express how you feel about sports, cars, or any other thing.. You can tell me that you “don’t want to be with me” (and be man enough to deal with the aftermath. If we can so can you…

ImAPeach404

September 11th, 2009
10:16 am

We don’t like to deal with the crying and subsequent drama that follows, so we’d much rather you do the dumping… so you can leave feeling empowered and not broken down.

@ dw – Huh??? What??? So… do you do it for yourself (like in the first part) or do you do it for “us” (ha!) like in the second part? Explain yourself! (just like if we were trying to break up with me, lol)

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:17 am

Dream_n, i agree with you to an extent.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:17 am

Dream_n that’s the truth if I never heard it before.

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
10:17 am

Leggs
Thanks for your donation!

SD

September 11th, 2009
10:18 am

ImAPeach404 said “Guys don’t leave. Period.” As one who has been the partner to end relationships (two divorces, among others), this blanket statement is untrue. There are plenty of men who cease to put up with antics/melodrama and leave.

Yes, I’ve had women end the relationship. If it’s been more than a few months into it, they’re usually upfront and say things are ending. Otherwise, they simply quit responding to your calls and/or emails, which is a pretty gutless way to end things.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:18 am

Peach! LOL @ “crying and subsequent drama”.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
10:19 am

I have a real problem with appearing weak to anyone, and therefore I’m great at hiding my emotions. I take the mantra “never let ‘em see you sweat” to heart. Although it might be killing me…I’m not gonna stay where I’m not wanted. I’m not built like that and I just don’t have it in me. So if you’re gonna start being a flake or ignoring phone calls, I’m done. No explanation needed. Like Raqi said, after the second phone call with no response I’m through.

Now….there are some chicks out there that are CRAZY! A guy can move on and be really clear about wanting to end things, and she can still feel entitled to him. People are fragile, so you gotta be careful before you end up in a Fatal Attraction situation. Not a good look…

C tha 1

September 11th, 2009
10:20 am

I gotta agree with Mike. My girl didn’t show up to my house unannounced. She had the sense enough to know that was foul. However, when I gave her the keys to my house I gave her the pass to show up whenever you like . . . but that was after I proposed to her. Hmmm…I think I’m a male chauvanist, maybe slightly doggish.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
10:20 am

I’ve never done an unannounced visit. Most of the guys I’ve dated where long distant relationship – they lived in the next county which could take an hour to get to. Can’t say I’ve never thought about it but, I was too lazy to do take the drive.

Page I’ve resorted to your solution. Get what you give. No more no less.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:21 am

Page – THAT is funny.

Really dude should have just said, “I want to date you but have the freedom to see other people because just don’t want to be committed to one person right now.”

ANOTHER NEWS FLASH – There is nothing wrong with ^^^THAT statement. You can take that and do with it what you will.

Amazing how something so simple can be made so complicated.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:23 am

Now let’s not act like men don’t flip out too. Watch the news. At least once a month we hear of some guy murdering his wife, girlfriend, ex and possibly a few of her family members because she left or tried to leave him.

Kym

September 11th, 2009
10:24 am

Here is a suggestion for the next time this whole shake down goes on. Why not just tell the guy upfront and honest that you know what he is up to? You know if the guy stops calling for months and then all of a sudden picks up and calls to see how you doing? Say. “I’m fine, so are you calling today to explain why you stopped calling ____months ago or are you just trying to see if you can get some booty because your dyck is hard?” Say it in the most matter of fact and conversational tone as possible..no bitterness or anything and listen or look for his reaction.

i'm swiss (back from honeymoon, tanned & happily married)

September 11th, 2009
10:25 am

On topic: Yeah, I’ve been guilty of this a couple of times in my younger days. Not proud of it, but it was the easier way out at the time and frankly, the girls that I did this to were never really that important to me to begin with. Bad, I know, but sadly true.

Now, I will say that men don’t have a monopoly on this tactic, however. Women can and will do the passive-aggressive check-out as well. I think just it boils down to whether you respect the other person enough to have the uncomfortable conversation.

Off topic: Uh… see, what had happened was… :lol: My favorite part of this story — the mug shots. Check out the chic to the far left. If that face doesn’t say “Yup, I super-glued that SOB’s diznick to his belly — now what?” then I don’t know what does… :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:26 am

SexyCool- exactly! I’m like dude, how are you too busy with school, but you have time to do all of these other things with a “companion”?

Grace- yeah. I don’t understand how people can put so much into dating or a relationship with someone who is doing nothing! one sided realtionships are the worst. how many times have i heard a woman say “yeah girl, so and so is my boyfriend now. i cooked for him, take him out, took him to meet mama, nem, etc.” then said dude is like “ummm yeah ShaQusihsia is cool, but we just kickin it. it ain’t all that”. c’mon!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 11th, 2009
10:27 am

“it’s so easy for guys to check out of a relationship because they do it mentally way before they do it physically”. 100% true for me. It sosmetimes takes me awhile to close it out.

I may be one of Raqi’s “punkazzery” or whatever that was. I do tend to just disappear off of the radar screen, but will tell the woman straight if she calls and certainly if she asks. I hope I am not a total dyck as it sounds so I need to clarify something here. I stop/drop a relationship before it becomes a relationship…in the first three or four dates. If I am still in after this period, I am committed inside. I do not string anything out just because the lady is satisfying some carnal need. If she isn’t touching me between the ears, then the lower extremities will not keep me in a relationship. Can I be a chicken shyte jerk, perhaps…but not months into a relationship.

Kym

September 11th, 2009
10:27 am

You know I really have to wonder about this whole ajc filter. Now I have seen post come across with all kinds of freak flaptrap but my post gets stuck in the rinse cycle.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:29 am

Swiss I read about that story Wednesday. That was just too funny.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:29 am

Totally agree Raqi… it’s always vice versa.

Just as Compelling said… you do have those crazies.. “so maybe just maybe” the silent treatment might work on those (nut) cases.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:30 am

does anyone know of a good online music station that is free? i usually use pandora but i used up all my free time for the month.

dw

September 11th, 2009
10:30 am

@Peach–Experiences following the first part lead us to go the route of the second part in situations that arise later. You ladies are having a good laugh from my comment, but you know good and well how yall act when a dude says it’s over, and if you’re one that takes it on the chin and keeps it moving then you’re a rare breed.
But, the truth is, when it comes to breaking up women are way more emotional, and tend to drag things out in an attempt to “save or salvage” the relationship.
Just like No means No. It’s over means It’s over, hit the bricks, kick rocks, vamp, bounce, adios, holla…etc. BEAT IT!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:30 am

I have NEVER done the Fatal Attraction bit. It’s not Sexy or Cool. ~giggling~

Dan

September 11th, 2009
10:32 am

Morning,

Yeah, the D don’t take kindly to unannounced visits AT ALL.

But since I travel, I don’t have to worry about that often (yahh, me!).

On topic:

There are women that will not take “no” for an answer. They (hereafter referring to the nebulous) just can’t/won’t accept it. But to be on a date and have that drama unravel is unfortunate. If dude knew that there was a possibility of this happening, he shoulda let you know up front WD (informed consent).

As for the general nuttiness of the “wont-let-go” kinda folks, I am not above restraining orders. I have no shame in walking into a precinct and asking for one.

Agreed also on the “men bug out too”, but them be some punks

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:32 am

yeah. I don’t understand how people can put so much into dating or a relationship with someone who is doing nothing! one sided realtionships are the worst. how many times have i heard a woman say “yeah girl, so and so is my boyfriend now. i cooked for him, take him out, took him to meet mama, nem, etc.” then said dude is like “ummm yeah ShaQusihsia is cool, but we just kickin it. it ain’t all that”. c’mon!

Man thats funny.. but foul… :)

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:34 am

dw – Count me among the rare breed. If you are man enough to come to me and keep it 100. I am woman enough to put my pumps on the pavement and keep it moving.

And seriously, dude, nine times outta ten, we saw that sht coming. We were just giving y’all a chance to get your sht together. Sadly, most never do.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:36 am

@ dw

If you were with a woman for a considrable amount of time, then it’s expected for the water works to happen or her to feel some kind of way, or try to salvage the relationship… but if you were only talking for about a month or 2 and she starts getting straight crazy when you want clock out, then that’s another story… get with Dan about getting the restraining order…

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
10:37 am

You are an intense luver, i can see..

:lol:

melo – Most of the drama happened after his dad died and I was trying to keep him from becoming totally withdrawn. Many people claimed to have not to have seen or heard from him in weeks. So I thought I was doing something by letting him know I really cared.

Some of it blew up in my face tho!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:38 am

lol @ “hit the bricks”.

Dream_n- lol i’m serious. if i had a dollar for each time i have heard this story i would be rich by now.

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
10:39 am

Page

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Its free all you have to do is register

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:40 am

Crazy people don’t give a flying flip about restraining orders.

C tha 1

September 11th, 2009
10:40 am

Am I a chauvanist? Some one help me out. I’ve never really asked myself this question.

Have you ever let a woman drive your car in your life (family members don’t count)? No

Do you prefer to drive rather than your wife or SO? Yes

Have you ever given the keys to your place of residence to anyone other than your spouse? Hell no. I was a little leary when I had a roomate in college and he gave his girlfriend the keys to our appartment, and half the time we were up to no good. But that’s what you get in a roommate situation.

SS

September 11th, 2009
10:41 am

I have learned through my many years of dating, that when a guy stops calling me, seeing me, I leave him one message. If he does not return my call, I walk away. There are other fish in the sea and I have better things to do than to chase a guy down and seem desperate. As the saying goes “he is just not into you :) ”. If a guy really wanted to be with me, he would be with me.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:41 am

it’s funny how dudes complain about women being emotional. let’s get real here. maybe you need to read the venus/mars books from dr. john gray. news flash for the men: WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL BY NATURE! IF YOU DON’T WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS EMOTIONAL, THEN GET WITH A DUDE! i mean, you want a woman to be feminine, sexy, blah blah blah but she can’t be emotional with certain things? GTFOH. if you don’t want to deal with a woman’s emotions, i’ll say it again, GET WITH A DUDE AND STFU!

Shawon

September 11th, 2009
10:41 am

Maybe girls are just too damned needy, and can’t take a hint. lol.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:42 am

gracias, Mike Jones. i’m going to check it out now.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:44 am

Crazy people don’t give a flying flip about restraining orders.

LOL You are correct. One of my girl friends was entangled with a crazy and the cop that came out to her house one evening told her to get a restraining order. She asked him have they started making them to stop bullets now.

I mean really. What does a restraining order do?

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:45 am

WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL BY NATURE! IF YOU DON’T WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS EMOTIONAL, THEN GET WITH A DUDE!

Hilarioue… i love it :)

note: but when you do don’t come back to women you are officially GAY! bi/sexual my azz.

okay.. back on topic lol

@ Shawon : are you serious????

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
10:46 am

WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL BY NATURE! IF YOU DON’T WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS EMOTIONAL, THEN GET WITH A DUDE!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
10:46 am

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:46 am

Ya’ll are on it today! Never understood playing private eye on a dude.. hiding in bushes, trees & popping up @ workplaces etc.. That is a sign of crazy!
DUDES, JUST TELL THE TRUTH!!!

Page- then said dude is like “ummm yeah ShaQusihsia is cool, but we just kickin it. it ain’t all that<– Dudes lie ALL THE TIME to look good in front of their friends.. VERY LAME! :neutral:
Your 10:41 is REAL TALK!!

Sexy- :lol: :lol: :lol: You ain't NEVER lied!

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:48 am

Good Morning All

Diva- What’s up with this filter? Annoying

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:48 am

ok Mike Jones, i signed up, but i don’t see how to work it. i just want something that plays the music. i dont want to have to download and add songs to the playlist.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:49 am

Page- then said dude is like “ummm yeah ShaQusihsia is cool, but we just kickin it. it ain’t all that”. <– Lame dudes lie ALL THE TIME about the status of their relationships to look like some sort of playa.. :neutral: Sha Sha may be telling the truth..
Your 10:41 is REAL TALK!!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
10:50 am

Maybe girls are just too damned needy, and can’t take a hint. lol.

Silly Rabbit…hints are for kids!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:50 am

Ctha1 I wouldn’t say that sounds like you are a chauvanist but rather very territorial or particular about your possessions?

My husband prefers to drive because he thinks that men are better drivers. That attitude is more chauvanistic than your examples.

Kym

September 11th, 2009
10:51 am

The purpose of the restraining order is to scare the person and let them no law enforcement is on alert. The po-po can’t patrol outside your house 24/7 because “Lil Darrell” is upset you left him. He has to do something to get arrested.

Kym

September 11th, 2009
10:52 am

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:52 am

Sexy- Crazy people don’t give a flying flip about restraining orders.<– :lol: :lol: :lol: They sure don't cause they don't work! :lol: :lol:

Melo

September 11th, 2009
10:52 am

i mean, you want a woman to be feminine, sexy, blah blah blah but she can’t be emotional with certain things?

nice one Page!

But we really want u ladies to be able to tune in and out….if there is evidence of no relationship,keep it moving..no need for us guys to write u ladies a thesis to explain our positions.Its over means its over, read,”I DONT WANT U NO MORE”….
Dont give me that, “But we had sex last Friday” Duuuuuh… :lol:

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:55 am

Did ya sleep on the wrong side?
Im catching a bad vibe
And if contagious
Whats the latest?
Speak your heart
Dont bite your tongue
Dont get it twisted
Dont miss-use
Whats your problem?
Lets resolve
We can solve
Whats the causes?
Its official
You got issues
I got issues
But I know I miss you
Am I suposed to change?
Are you supposed to change?(yeah)
Who should be heard?
Who should be blamed?

Am I supposed to change?
Are you supposed to change?
Who should be hurt?
Who sould be shamed?(mmh)

Am I supposed to change?
Are you supposed to change?
Who should be heard?
Will we remain oh I?

We need a resolution

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
10:55 am

lol. i get tired azz hell hearing dudes say stuff like “yeah she was cool, but she was too emotional or she caught feelings yada yada yada”. i mean, what do you expect? when a woman hits puberty, news flash, she get’s a period every month! she has hormones. women are emotional. it’s like dudes want a woman to be a woman in some aspects, but not in others. get a grip and go back to elementary science class and learn the differences between men and women. men put women down for being “too needy, emotional, clingy” or whatever but that is the way women are point blank! just like men love scratching their ballz, we women cannot stop you from being a man. it is who you are! gtfoh!
IF THE WOMAN YOU ARE DATING OR CONSIDER A JUMP OFF, BOOTY CALL, WHAT-THE-EFF-EVER IS SO CALLED CATCHING FEELINS, GETTING EMOTIONAL, TOO CLINGLY OR WHATEVER, OH WELL. GET WITH A DUDE! AS LONG AS YOU ARE DATING (AND SEXING) WOMEN, THIS COMES WITH THE TERRITORY!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
10:55 am

Kym true but I don’t think true crazies scare that easy. And not many stick around while you call the cops and wait for them to come.

If someone threatens your life getting a restraining order does nothing. Instead of a restraining order she got a gun and a permit to carry it on her person.

jw

September 11th, 2009
10:55 am

Ladies, Just walk away and DON’T LOOK BACK. When he comes calling agin and he almost always DOES at some point, remeber why it did not work and REMIND HIM OF IT. Do not let him back in, if it did not work the first time it probably will not work the next time. Once a cheater ALWAYS a Cheater, etc, etc.. . I am not one for confrontation either. I just let things go quietly, they always come back and then I have to tell them sorry NO THANK YOU SIR!

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
10:57 am

Ared- Silly Rabbit…hints are for kids!<–YOUSA a FOOL!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page- Continue Preaching!!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
10:58 am

Morning Folks!

I am NOT one to avoid confrontation – if I feel a confrontation is needed then I will get to confronting. But most times it doesn’t even get that far.

I will admit that I was guilty of calling a guy after the disappearing act. That stemmed from when one of my boyfriends got in a car accident after leaving my house. We usually talked every day and when he didn’t call one day, I just thought he was done – then I got the call that he was in the hospital. After that (and a few other events) I got in the habit of calling to make sure they were still alive. And when I got in touch with the guy I would tell him that and hang up – no need to talk after that disappearing act. But then I got older and realized that some guys are just trifling like that and if they pulled a disappearing act, I’d call once – say a prayer for them and keep it moving.

My last breakup happened when emotions were really high. After about 3 weeks I initiated the conversation to determine what REALLY caused the break-up. After that we toyed with getting back together – well he ‘toyed’ with it and one day I just decided to walk away. I am so glad I did.

Page – I’m planning to see TP’s new movie this weekend. I’m trying to strategize my location.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
10:58 am

Kym – I would agree with your 1051a point if we didn’t all know that “Lil Darrell” wasn’t functionally retarded and has a lesser regard for all things legal.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
10:59 am

@Page

It’s not about being “emotional” (that’s a misuse of the word), most guys are usually referring to the actions females take in an uncontrolled emotional state.

Emotions are natural – men and women have them; but we men (somma us) have been trained to control our responses. For example: a man can’t go punching “stuff” because he’s angry – even though he may feel like it. Women in general don’t have that cultural limitation, and the “[too] emotional” women REALLY go off.

IMO

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 11th, 2009
10:59 am

Its called turning off the oxygen, so we dont have to be the one that breaks up with you.. But hey women do it also where they wait for their “Out” and then boom a dude is left there pining for her after she has checked out and moved onto the next relationship.. Evrybody does it because no one wants to be the bad guy in the relationship orwants to hurt someones feelings. I guess my logic is if they breakup with me they will feel better about it, eventhough had I checked out emotionally sometime agao..

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
11:00 am

Correction – if we all didn’t know “Lil Darrell” IS functionally retarded.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:01 am

Raqi- I agree! Restraining orders are a JOKE and EVERYONE knows it!!!

Question : Why is it ALWAYS called a confrontation & not a conversation?

Dan

September 11th, 2009
11:02 am

@Page

Was that not you the other day imploring me to recognize that women can play men for sex as well? A: I think it was

Another question then, how are we to know that the sexual act(s) are meaningful to you, unless you tell us?

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
11:04 am

Page
You don’t have to sign up.
Just pick an artist and it will find songs that are similar and keep playing

Mike Jones (who)

September 11th, 2009
11:04 am

Correction
you have to sign up, you don’t have to create a playlist.

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
11:05 am

The kind of people that you usually need a restraining order against are usually not the kind of people who care about being issued one.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
11:06 am

LOL @ Lioness! I love that We Need a Resoluation song. Or in the words of Toni Braxton, Just Be A Man About It.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
11:07 am

Tazzee I can relate so well with your post. :wink:

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
11:08 am

Or Lauryn Hill’s Ex-Factor….man that’s my song. :-)

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
11:09 am

WOW! You guys are into pop ups! I don’t want NOBODY poppin up by my house. Its just a form of respect. I pay the bills so you need to inform me when you are on the way. I even want my mother to call me first out of courtesy to tell me she is on the way. I don’t pop up at anyone house…really. Except for GRANDMA! LOL!

Dan

September 11th, 2009
11:10 am

@Lioness

Restraining orders are jokes when people can’t decide if they want the person around or not. But when used properly, they are proper deterrents.

EX 1: Girl shows up (with RO on her) on Tuesday but guy still wants something from her and don’t call the cops. Thereafter, she figures it’s okay to stop by as she pleases.

EX 2: Guy shows up (with RO on him) on Tuesday and girl wants nothing to do with guy, she calls the cops; tells them about the RO and he’s arrested.

In the example as in real life, going down and getting booked for violating an order of protection (I think an “E” felony) is enough for most people. Continued violations and the penalties get stiffer.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:10 am

Question : Why is it ALWAYS called a confrontation & not a conversation?

I likes :)

It starts off as a conversation but ultimately ends in confrontation… idk

I have come to the conclusion that “some” men aren’t man enough to deal with certain aspects of the relationship… They can deal with you cleaning, cooking, shopping (for the house), letting them have their friends over to watch footbal games (again cooking for them), being intimate, and listening to them cry about how they would’ve won that basketball game had he not caught a “charlie horse in his leg”, but anything else involving our feelings and needs in brain surgerey… WTF…

Nate

September 11th, 2009
11:11 am

I just searched by second wife’s name on Facebook and when I saw her picture, I realized she’s still the love of my life … not my third and current wife. Oh well. Still stinks to be me.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:12 am

but anything else involving our feelings and needs IS brain surgerey… WTF…

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:14 am

seriously! omg i had a long post, but i guess it got lost

Ok, why do men act surprised when a woman “catches feelings”? why do men act surprised when a woman get’s emotional, cries or whatever? you do what you need to do, like play the game, for what? to get the panties, right? let’s be honest here. so you get the panties, then all of a sudden “oh i ain’t feeling her like that. she is too emotional or wants to be with me”. Dan are you serious? so at your agem even you don’t know yet what sex means to a woman? Ummmm ok, we talk about it 24/7 on this blog! now, all of a sudden because she doesn’t tell you, you don’t know? Yeah OK. then when she gets emotional or catches feelings, you want to put her down, like it’s her fault for just being who she is, which is a WOMAN.

men want to tell women that their nappy dugout is not gold, yet they play games just to get it. so, if you know then, why do you continue to get yourself in these type of situations TIME AND TIME AGAIN? c’mon people.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
11:15 am

Ex 3: Whomever shows up (with RO on them), shoots the sht outta of the one who got the restraining order.

Channel 2 News Lead In Story – An Atlanta resident was shot and killed by an estranged lover today in Midtown (or wherever). Police have reported that a restraining order was issued last Thursday in what had been an ongoing series of incidents between the two individuals. Film at 11.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
11:17 am

Mmkay! Nate, WOW
preach! Page tell it like it T I is!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:17 am

ok thanks Mike Jones. i’ll try it again. i also found one on live365.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
11:17 am

@Nate, unbelievable. See, some ppl just ask for trouble (even if it’s intangible). Why even look up your ex-wife’s name. Your third wife isn’t the love of your life. Just sad.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
11:18 am

@Page

I wasn’t talking about me.

I know (in part thanks to the blog and the women in my life), what sex means to a female. Which is why I’m about “informed consent”. If all I’m after is sex, it is incumbent upon me as a man to let [her] know that and make the decision pre-coitus.

Making that statement after the “song has been sung” is cowardly, wrong, deserving of scorn (and whatever else), and technically “theft by deception” (should a woman ever argue that in court – she’d win).

Nate

September 11th, 2009
11:19 am

And, that Morgan Marr in the fashion shoot on AJC.com today looks mighty nice. All y’all who throw stones … it don’t matta to me one l’il bit.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:20 am

LOL Grace, i mean c’mon. I am on a “Staceye-like” tangent today for real. lol. *note to self: stop hanging around Staceye so much*. LOLOL

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
11:23 am

LOL SexyCool. Yep.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:23 am

Taz- I am a worrier as well but I have learned just what you did that some guys are just trifling.. :???: Their loss NOT MINE!!!

Compell- That song is the TRUTH!!! No need to play mind games.. For WHAT?? Tell me what the deal is, I will respect your biyatch tail & keep it moving! Once again, it is THEIR LOSS NOT MINE :razz:

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
11:25 am

Page guys like that want the benefits of our soft and mushy without the soft and mushiness of us.

It’s a package deal.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:27 am

Dan- What I am saying is that men act so surprised when the woman becomes “emotional, catches feelings, etc”. My question is why???? Do men not know the distinct differences between men and women? Do men not know that for women sex is emotional? If men know this, and they decide to “hit it”, then why do you get so surprised that when you decide to “quit it”, the woman becomes emotional? If a woman has a period (or even if she doesn’t), then she will be emotional about certain things. What is so wrong about this? What is so wrong about being emotional?

I, for one, will never apologize for being a woman in every sense of the word. If a man cannot accept both the pluses and minuses that come with being a woman, then get with a MAN! If you want someone to handle things the same way a man does, then get with a man. Don’t act surprised when a woman is a woman. seriously.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:27 am

Dan- Restraining orders are jokes when people can’t decide if they want the person around or not. But when used properly, they are proper deterrents.<– REALLY?? I think 80% of the people killed by their SO had restraining orders.. THEY DON'T WORK!!! They are a necessity for the cops to take you seriously when you call asking them for help..

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
11:29 am

want the benefits of our soft and mushy without the soft and mushiness of us.

I like that Raqi.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:30 am

I agree Raqi.

I feel that men put women down and label them as “emotional”, “clingy”, “needy”, and “too sensitive”. So, to me, the opposite of these qualities, is what? a MAN, right?

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:31 am

Darn Page:

I think you ran the guys away… there we go again getting emotinal!!! and look again no explanation why they left.. lmao!!!

Grace

September 11th, 2009
11:31 am

Page because some men are COWARDS. PERIOD.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
11:31 am

Page – You are on some good sht today! Rock it, CaliGirl!!

Bow chicka wow wow!

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:32 am

Now, I don’t think the sex part is the issue, it is ALL THE LIES being told in order TO get the cupcake.. If you just want sex, say it! Don’t text message me telling me you miss me & can’t wait to see me if you only want SEX! KEEP IT REAL!! Give us the option to take it or LEAVE IT! If we take it, then go home we are done & you won’t have to worry about no one getting emotional

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
11:33 am

If all I’m after is sex

Dan you do know there are women out there that get paid to be that nonemotional just for sex woman some of you guys so earnestly desire.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:33 am

Dream- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Grace- I agree!

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
11:34 am

Let’s face it some women hear what they want to hear, you might state this is not working, I am done with the relationship. Then the woman would say why are you done with the relationship.

Now you need closure, that is not closure because I have given all you the reasons the relationship is not working in the past! Why do you need to hear them again?

I have been guilty in the past of not completely closing that door in a relationship because the poonany was very good! :smile:

What’s up Ms. Kym? Queen of practical common sense logic! :wink:

Kym

September 11th, 2009
11:36 am

@Sexy Cool unfortunate situation..but again the order was there to hopefully make the lover back off. Police can not sit outside your door 24/7 365 until Smokey gets the hint. Like Raqi’s friend you have to find an alternative way(that is legal). Our justice system has flaws..but the police can’t go around arresting folks(although they do quite a bit at times) with nothing to back up the arrest.

Kym

September 11th, 2009
11:39 am

What up Elijah?? Why did I just hear my granny singing that song when I typed that..Elijah Rock..Shout Shout.

leeh1

September 11th, 2009
11:40 am

I’m not sure what the problem is. The relatinship is over when the man (or woman) stops communicating. Most women won’t let go, they want to analyse everything to death, they want to throw blame around and they want to make big scenes and stage a play, preferably in front of other women.

It’s over. If he doesn’t return your phone calls, its over. Quit stalking him on his new dates and quit being needy and quit demanding his attention- that’s probably what killed the relationship in the first place.

Too many women want the last word and the last definitive answer. There isn’t a last word. It’s just over. Go look for someone else, or get a small dog.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:40 am

Thanks, ladies. I guess I just get tired of men putting women down and labeling women for qualities that we are born with. Those qualities are what make us different and men and women. I happen to like that we are both distinctly different in nature, that is the way it was meant to be when we were put on this earth. woman are made to feel like we cannot express ourselves for fear of being labeled emotional or whatever, when to me, so what?

How many times, on this blog, no less, have we heard dudes come on and talk about how they were messin with ole girl, but then she got crazy or psycho and all of a sudden they were not on the same page? the woman wanted more, but the dude “wasn’t feeling it like that”. YET, dude still wants to have sex with her, but doesn’t want to accept the consequences that come along with it? then, if that’s not bad enough, label her and put her down for catching feelings or whatever? this is dumb to me. i can’t understand and it doesn’t seem like any of the “men” are answering my questions. maybe they can’t scratch their ballz and type at the same time. *shrugs*

Melo

September 11th, 2009
11:42 am

What is so wrong about this? What is so wrong about being emotional?

Page, u dont have to apologise to be a woman. Nothing wrong with being emotional, guys know that.

That is why us GUYS, tune u out…dissappear coz uall act emotional.

We better of not getting a case!
NOW,do uall understand or u still want confrontation and explanation 4 our moves?? :lol:

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
11:42 am

“Or get a small dog.” Too funny cuz if you got a big dog you might get to thinking of doing a drive by with a bigger dog??? Still funny!

Grace

September 11th, 2009
11:43 am

Lioness I agree with all that you said – KEEP IT REAL :evil:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:44 am

Elijah, if this is happening to you time and time again, then to me, you need to check yourself. find out about these women before you bone them, dude. TALK, Communicate with these women. stop boning women that you know nothing about. stop boning women that you don’t know. stop playing games just to bust one. if you or any other man find that this happens to you repeatedly, then YOU are the common denominator.

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
11:47 am

@Lioness….. Bite your tongue! You know after you had three big face squiting, teeth nashing, body exploding O’s you will look at him differently! :lol: Since when have women been able to seperate sex from emotions?

@Kym can you answer that? :smile:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
11:47 am

Melo, do u actually think I care? if you decide to “disappear” because a woman get’s emotional, then why even bother? because u wanna have sex, right? go ahead and disappear, but when the woman says she doesn’t want to have sex with you, don’t complain. remember, women are emotional and need to have feelings and emotions to have sex with you. Guess what? if she doesn’t feel that, trust you will NOT be boning dude. you really think you are doing something by “disappearing and tuning women out”? Ok, I’ll let you think that, dude. seriously.

Chink

September 11th, 2009
11:47 am

Maybe its me but I hate when a guy asks me if I need more space? I mean isnt that some reverse psychology crap? Then I say do you need space and they act like its me??? I mean really Guys dont know how to break up properly with someone especially if they dont want to break up for the long term “just a short hiatus” Not!

You have to communicate theres no way around it. If you want to just have fun dont let the fun last for years because that sounds like a relationship…short term goals = short term results

Ms. Main

September 11th, 2009
11:50 am

Just like No means No. It’s over means It’s over, hit the bricks, kick rocks, vamp, bounce, adios, holla…etc. BEAT IT!

LOLOLOL

Page1908 you are sooo on point today, esp that 10:55 post

For me, I don’t agree with how men handle breakups but have come to understand men are fickle. When they’ve reached the end of their tryst they’ll exit by any means necessary (i.e. lie, ghost, cheat). What I don’t get though is when you start your quest to exist, why do you think you have it where you can back track? I’m VERY prideful, NO PROBLEM DUDE you want it you got it and it might hurt like heck but I’ll never look back and even if it takes me down (but not out) you’ll never know. That, I’ll NEVER understand. If you was unhappy or too confined or too smothered or whatever your reasons, what good will a do-over do?

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:51 am

A LAME dudes are going to ignore phonecalls, call the woman too emotional to his buddies & keep on living his lame life as if the world revolves around his feelings & his feelings only.

A REAL dude is going to respect the woman’s feeling, let her know what the deal is & hear her out if she has anything to say about it.

Overall, it depends on the amount of time the two have been together, how they met etc that determines how much explanation is needed…

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:51 am

I have aquick question for the guys.. well those who are left *side eyes Page* lol

Is it all women that you can’t handle emotionally or is it just the women you date…. ie: your sis, mom…. Are you able to handle them???

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
11:52 am

Chink I learned long time ago that there are certain things that you do not say to or tell a man because he will twist it to his advantage and make it seem like it was you that wanted it that way or initiated it. And Yes that goes for my husband too. He ain’t exempt because he stillz a man.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:52 am

Since when have women been able to seperate sex from emotions:

Since prostitutes came on the scene.. but i digress… :)

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
11:54 am

You guys kill me when you’re come on here acting as though women are weak, full of emotion and can’t see straight cuz they’re sniffing/pining for someone’s dyck. @Elijah – some women are just as doggish as some of you men and they too just want to bust a nut. You guys aren’t the only ones with stock in that marekt!!

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:54 am

Chink- Maybe its me but I hate when a guy asks me if I need more space?<– Never heard that before :???:

Kym

September 11th, 2009
11:55 am

@Elijah Since when have women been able to seperate sex from emotions?

When a woman fully gets pass the sexual hangups of society and has sex for nature of making the beast with two backs.

Yes, Yes, I know folks feel this is impossible. But might I direct your attention to the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Which in the last few years has had an increasing number of women to move from the couch, bed, kitchen table..etc to the boardroom. Could I also direct you to the growing erotic novel industry..where many mainstream authors have made a slight shift too. (Eric Jerome didn’t start out writing erotic thrillers and Zane broke the gate open for quite a few female writers.)

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:55 am

Eli- Since when have women been able to seperate sex from emotions?<– You can't be serious..

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
11:56 am

what good will a do-over do?

Ms.Main he hopes give him a warm cave to lay his dry head.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
11:56 am

Eric Jerome (Dickey)

He’s writing erotic novels now???

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:57 am

Eli-Since when have women been able to seperate sex from emotions?<– Are you serious?? How old are you again?

Raqi- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 11th, 2009
11:58 am

@Raqi

I do, but I am cheap.

@Page

The thing of it is this, some guys are afraid of hurting women (that whole “fairer sex” thing). And it’s not that I actively hurt anyone, I am a believer in the equality of person regarding women; that is, we are both adults, capable of making our own (informed) decisions and responsible for our actions therewith.

Guys that don’t play the game like I do have many motivations. Among them:

1) Don’t wanna hurt her feelings;

2) don’t wanna hear about it;

3) don’t care if she gets hurt;

4) etc. (insert reason(s) here).

But I can only speak for “da kid” regarding my intentions and motivations, no one else’s.

Disclaimer: the above list is indicative of conversations with other men about motivations and noted for entertainment purposes only. The writer of the this forfeits no “claim to the game” and does not revoke “playa card”.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
11:59 am

Page – Don’t let ‘em getcha dander up, chica!!1

(Not that you are. I just wanted to type “dander!”)

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
11:59 am

Eli- Since when has sex meant love???

Ms. Main

September 11th, 2009
12:00 pm

Raqi I know right…I don’t play those kinds of games though.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:00 pm

Like someone said, there are women who don’t give a crap about dudes…but, to be with them, you need to pay by the hour (or in some of you dude’s cases, the minute). I would think it would be a lot easier to deal with “women of the night”. Although, they still bleed every month, so they can be emotional too, right? Afterall, every man pays for sex in some way or another. Maybe not directly, as in leaving money on the night stand, but indirectly, as in movies, dinner or whatever other activity men feel women use them for. news flash dudes, if you feel like a woman is using you or is a gold digger and using you for a free drink, movie or $10.00 movie at atlantic station, then why do you do it?

last weekend i was at Leopard Lounge and a dude told me and Staceye: “Atlanta is the home of the $20,000 a year millionaire”. dudes need to get a grip for real. oh, my bad, a woman’s snatch ain’t nothing right? who was it on this very blog that said “women need to stop acting like their p&ssy is laced in gold”? PS- APPARENTLY IT IS!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
12:00 pm

@Elijah, you guys act like your the only one with stock on the corner market. A lot of women can have emotionless sex. Newsflash, women too just want that itch scratched and scoot you out the door when finished. It was good, thank you, bye bye!

Not only that, some folk get paid for that. Do you remember what that profession is called?

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:01 pm

Request to initiate new blog rule:

A man can’t tell a woman how to be, or what is, a REAL woman; and

A woman can’t tell a man how to be, or what is, a REAL man.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:02 pm

LOL SexyCool, my dander is flared up today. i see a few sprinkles that dropped on my humpback! lmao

Melo

September 11th, 2009
12:02 pm

Page..its not that we think we necessarily doing sme special…remimber the topic why do guys do that.

U are females,we guys and we all relate differently based on our genetic make ups…
U have expalined very well why u ladies are emotiaonal..we have known that for a long time no wonder dudes act the weay they do.
SIMPLE
U think men murdering women in Atlanta is waay too high?? it would have been much higher if we allowed ourselves to be drawn inot the BREAK UP CONFRONTATIONS…

Thank God, we dont……..we wean u ladies off slowly and softly…leaving the booty chances open and the possibility of ur pining booty friendship. :lol: :lol:

Thats a WIN for evebody!…. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:03 pm

I *heart* EJ Dickey and Zane.

Chink

September 11th, 2009
12:05 pm

Page …women need to stop acting like their p&ssy is laced in gold”?

Thats just a tactic so you can give it up…by the way its Platinum :) j/k

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:06 pm

@Lioness

Your 11:51 more accurately distiguishes “lames” from “mature”.

A “real” man is the man that person has chosen to be and behave as. It makes him no less “real” that he does dumb isht, it just makes him “real” dumb or inconsiderate or immature, etc.

“Real” men like “real” women are all around us. Creating artificial distinctions or “real” and “not real” based on ONE person’s ONE (or repeated) interactions with [us] does not define that person.

I’ve done some dumb isht in my life (as we all have I’m sure), but I would pity the person that attempts to determine my “real”-ness based solely on actions I took at that time; esp. without considering my corrective actions since.

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
12:07 pm

That humpback tagline WAS HILARIOUS!! OMGOOSH!! I WAS CRYING THAT DAY!!!

Dan- Who are you creating rules DUDE?? :lol: :lol: :lol: I forgot to type “TO ME” in my comment

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:07 pm

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:09 pm

LOL Lioness- SexyCool is crazy! She makes my dander flare up from time to time. lol

Melo- why are you always talking about men murdering or harming women? didn’t you say at one time you have “messed” with other men?

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
12:10 pm

women need to stop acting like their p&ssy is laced in gold

Sometimes it makes you wonder the way some of these menfolk be trying to get up in there.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:11 pm

Ummmm….I wanna see where this all goes….lol.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:11 pm

Aw, Page, Just don’t make your humpback angry. They need love too.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:13 pm

lmao SexyCool.

Raqi-^5. This blog varies from day to day, even minute to minute.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
12:13 pm

didn’t you say at one time you have “messed” with other men?

NOPE….i think u were on a period that week! :lol:

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
12:14 pm

Let’s all do a collective “wooooo–saaaahhhh” :)

Ms. Main

September 11th, 2009
12:15 pm

Enter your comments here

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:15 pm

Ok Melo, I’m pretty sure it was you saying something about mens buttholes or something. I’m wondering if any of the bloggers with elephant memories remember. Anyhoo, my question to you was why are you always talking about men murdering or harming women? what is your fascination with this?

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
12:16 pm

Menfolk- Ain’t NOTHING wrong with asking for the Koodie Cat! Try it one day & see what happens.. You will be surprised :mrgreen:

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:16 pm

@Page/Raqi

Single ladies should not abhor this thought process. For as long as a men are slaves to their sexual desires, we will continue to treat the object of that desire as if HER nana has gold.

@Lionness

I merely “proposed” a change. Don’t be Joe Wilson. Let the process take it’s course with civil debate. j/k

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:16 pm

Page – Zane sucks!

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
12:18 pm

Menfolk- Ain’t NOTHING wrong with asking for the Koodie Cat! Try it one day & see what happens.. You will be surprised

hahahah!!!

Wise Diva

September 11th, 2009
12:19 pm

I can hardly breathe from laughing at the comments today. I friggin love this blog, LOL!!!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
12:20 pm

we will continue to treat the object of that desire as if HER nana has gold.

Dan so why would not expect a woman to be emotionally attached to her Golden Nana?

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
12:20 pm

why would YOU not expect

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:20 pm

@Dream_n

I don’t have to deal with the emotional crazy of a woman (after sex) with my mom or my sister(s). They grant me access to the “normal” female crazy, that day-to-day isht that y’all call logic.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:23 pm

I have to agree ARed- I can’t take Zane anymore…it got old real fast.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:23 pm

ARed- go sit down! LOL I like Zane!!

Raqi- Good question to Dan!

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
12:23 pm

I think it is HILARIOUS that some men think that women go crazy/emotional etc for their sex.. PAHLEASE!! Hit the road Jack

Melo

September 11th, 2009
12:23 pm

I have no fascianation with it other than the fact that :

1. its a fact in Atlanta…waay too high

2..smbody here today,Raqi i believe has said it andf i thoght it chimed in with the discussion

3 it is lame for a guy to do it

4 break ups can be/are confronational and to avoid the emotional aspect of it and the crazies,its better to ghost from a situation…women may think its cowardice,guys think its smart!

5..i dont shy away from talking about so called touchy subjects.I aint politically correct like that!

Now,the issue u were trying to tell about me(my elephant memory) was about me going to the doc for a prostate exam and the doc putting his hand up my dudu hole with his jellied fingure to feel my prostate(thats one of the standard exam procedures, im told)… and i said it didnt feel all that bad…thats the closest to being boned by a guy i have had…if that makes me homo,i guess in ur def, i am then. :lol: :lol:

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
12:24 pm

@Ms. 90210….. Eli has no problem with the ladies, I am upfront with my intentions, the ladies know what I want! But I use to listen to a lot of sob stories from the ladies. Some men have made it very clear where they stand in the relationship still some women do not want to believe he just want the puddy!

@ Lioness I am old enough to put a big smile on your face everyday! :wink:

@Kym…. I like how you think a free spirited thinking woman who who thinks outside the box and does not conform to societal norms regarding sex! :smile:

Hello Ms. Leggs!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:25 pm

ARed – Looks like somebody’s momma. I met her and was like…..er, um, hmphf…I already thought she was tiptoing on the highest levels of skankdom…Now, that I’ve met her – her stuff totally does not work for me.

I feel like she keeps writing the same book (i.e. using the same formula) the way this One Dude keeps making the same movie. (Although, I will be going to support said same movie because he is bringing economic advantages to my neighborhood since his studio is down the street from my complex.)

Ms. Main

September 11th, 2009
12:26 pm

Single ladies should not abhor this thought process. For as long as a men are slaves to their sexual desires, we will continue to treat the object of that desire as if HER nana has gold.

WOW…..that’s rich

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:27 pm

@Raqi

It’s not that I wouldn’t expect her to.

But a “seasoned” male has sown his royal oats, and realizes, recognizes, appreciates, and controls his desires for “random” women (most of the time, cause…..let me stop). It’s the cats that haven’t had “enough”, or just haven’t thought about it; sex (the act) is really just sex. Be she tall, short, thin, big, cute, ugly, it’s pretty much the same thing.

Maturity brings with it the realization that the trouble with all that “extra” stuff just ain’t worth it. Now, some cats take this as the sign that it’s time to get married, others don’t. Regardless, this class of dude is aware that sex with the hassle of dealing with only one woman’s crazy (shout out to PG for that pearl of wisdom) is a lot easier.

Plus, it gives you more time to get other things done.

Chasing women is a job in and of itself

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
12:28 pm

I think it is HILARIOUS that some men think that women go crazy/emotional etc for their sex.. PAHLEASE!! Hit the road Jack

Please say it again…. We are attracted to intelligence, suaveness(if that’s a word), the way you treat us, and att the other attributes of a “good man”.. not the way you hold it down in the bedroom… that’s just an added plus if you can “cross our eyes & makes us wooo—weeeee!!!!” lmao

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:29 pm

Eli are you talking to me when you said Ms. 90210? Are you talking in the 3rd person?

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:29 pm

@Lioness

The same question about a woman and her belief that her sex is the best thing walking could be asked.

Men AND women overvalue their sexual prowess.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:30 pm

LMAO…I just read how THAT reads….

What I meant to say was….ZANE looks like somebody’s momma.

Did I catch that before suffering the Wrathe of the Red?

~laughing so hard I can’t breathe~

Lioness- The Glass of Merlot Called, I Answered then Went to Sleep

September 11th, 2009
12:30 pm

I knew a person who hid in my bushes before.. Scary ISH!!!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:30 pm

Lioness, I also dont think it is soley because of the sex. For me, it is the sex, but moreseo how dude treats me before and after the sex.

Ladies, if you want to read a good book, I recommend reading Why Men Marry B!tches, by Sherry Argove.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:31 pm

**I know a couple of guys that will act like a complete blockhead so that the woman will have no choice but to end things.**

lol. yep! the one i dismissed just last night stated *there are many women who want your spot!*

neeegro puleez. lol. now i know why the last one left you. he’s a trip.

morning.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:32 pm

*Side eye* @ SexyCool at “One Dude”! LOL I have heard all of the critcism. I guess I see it differently.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
12:33 pm

@ Dan

lol.. not after sex…. om my goodness!!

I’m talking about in general.. (if you’re a close family) I know they have had to come to you at some point in their lives… btw: another question: Is it only the emotional stuff after (sex)/break up that you guys can’t deal with or is it our emotions in general??

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:33 pm

LOL @ ARed looks like somebody’s mama! ARed, you have kids? lmao

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:34 pm

Dan- Now, I don’t think there is anything wrong with THINKING your stuff is the BOMB but please keep it to yourself (male or female)! If a person just starts bragging about what they can do in bed TO ME is a HUGE turnoff!!!

Sexy- Your original post was a CLASSIC!! Hilarious!!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:35 pm

I have to agree ARed- I can’t take Zane anymore…it got old real fast.

Compelling – Glad you feel me! I read the S.ex Chronicles and all I kept thinking was it was the same lame sex story just changing a character’s name and location. :lol:

Kym

September 11th, 2009
12:37 pm

@Dreams of course women go nuts for dizzle too. It is the nature of the beast. See Jerry Springer and the other half of the news. The chick in Savannah that shot her exboyfriend..she was outside his door cause the diggity made her do it. He wasn’t at her house she was at his.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:41 pm

I’ll shoot a mofo if he gave me something.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: That is when I know for a FACT I would get in my feelings!!!

My doc told me that he has seen PLENTY of married women in his office that have contracted stuff from their husband.. TIL DEATH DO US PART :evil:

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:42 pm

Did I catch that before suffering the Wrathe of the Red?

~laughing so hard I can’t breathe~

SexyCool – I understood what you meant. Cuz even had you been talking about me, I don’t look like someone’s momma unless it’s one of those hot Hollywood mamas. :lol:

But yeah, it’s been a while since I’ve gotten my dander up on here and unleashed the wrath. :lol: We’ll see how long it lasts. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:44 pm

LOL @ ARed releasing her dander for all to see.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:45 pm

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
12:45 pm

@Page-1908 I was referring to you about the Page-90210! Since you are from Cali! Page I enjoy reading your post because youstay above the fray and you are positive! Plus you can cook So,I want to get on your good side!

@Kym you are speaking le truth today! I likes me some Kymmmmmm! :wink:

Will someone give Lioness some good dizzle! :smile: She good a need!

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:46 pm

*same lame sex story*

uh huh. i have a few of her books. the short stories i didn’t enjoy, but the novels are great love stories with a little kick. one pops in my mind with the word burn in the title. i couldn’t put it down. i cried at the end. i remember sitting in the DMV in ATL waiting for my number to be called.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:47 pm

@ SexyCool- Yeah some of the movies seem to be exactly the same…but what did you think of Why Did I Get Married? I think it was one of my favorite ones.

@ ARed- Yeah, someone recently asked me if I wanted to read a novel after they finished and I politely declined. I’ll pass.

Hey has anyone read Colin Channer’s Waiting In Vain? I absolutely LOVE that book. Any other good reads or recommendations? I read two to three books at a time.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:48 pm

Thanks, Eli.

Angie- LOL @ you reading Afterburn while waiting at the DMV.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:48 pm

Maybe we can get that One Dude to cast ARed as a MILF. ~more laughing~ I am SO silly today.

Seriously, though, Page – I totally support TP from the standpoint of his impact on the industry, the fact that he is making money hand over fist and the uplifting messages in his MOVIES.

I would just like to see his projects broaden their scope just a bit. But at the same time, dude knows what works and what his CORE audience wants to see and I ain’t mad at him for giving HIS people what they want to see. I’ve just realized that perhaps I am not a part of THAT core audience, but I still support.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:52 pm

@ Angie- I think it was Afterburn???? I liked that one. It was a welcome departure from her usual fare.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

I would just like to see his projects broaden their scope just a bit

im with u there Scool even tho hes making a boatful of money!

where at Camp creek can u watch that new movie??
Im torn between a number of events today and tmrw..havent been out in a minute.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

I think Daddy’s Little Girls, Why Did I Get Married and The Family That Preys were his ‘different’ movies that could only be made with the funding of that ’same’ movie.

Lamman Rucker (definition of chocolatey goodness) made a good point at the EMF when talking about the coonery that goes on with TP’s tv shows. Similar to the movies, he’s laying the groundwork so that when he presents his drama, the studios will listen.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

@Dream_n

Personally, I don’t like dealing with the drama of the aftermath (post breakup), but as a man that’s my responsibility.

I’d rather take the “easy” way and let the female break up with me.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

The best movie T. Perry made was A Family That Preys.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

@Page
they were going to marry and she got murdered in the grocery store. member? he was so sad. i was happy that someone walked into his life to give him the feeling of hope and move on. great love story. would love to see it at the movies.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

The only Zane book I liked was the first one.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

Plus you can cook So,I want to get on your good side!

:lol: Page – I promise we love you for who you are!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

Compelling – I rank Why Did I Get Married? #2 after Diary of a Mad Black Woman.

Melo – Camp Creek is Movies ATL.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

Dan- You PUNK!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

morning Compelling! happy friday.

i’m a huge romantic and that one got me. she did a good job writing that one. that story stuck with me for awhile.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:58 pm

Maybe we can get that One Dude to cast ARed as a MILF.

SexyCool – Maybe…after watching RHOA last night I realized ANYONE could be a model in Atlanta, so I might as well get my old azz on a runway since I can actually fit the clothes as intended!

So while I’m at it, might as well play the MILF as well. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:00 pm

LOL ARed! yeah right!!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

ARed – “after watching RHOA last night I realized ANYONE could be a model in Atlanta”

I am over here HOLLERING!!!!!!

Why are the folk I know making me laugh SO HARD TODAY??!?!?!?!?

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

Speaking of Real Trainwreck, I just do not get why Sheree thinks she is the hottest designer in Atlanta. seriously? and since when is NeNe a size 10? gtfoh.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

i’ve been watchin’ ATL housewives and Sheree’ is my fav! lmao. that chick is so mf hood. i love it. i can’t stop tuning in, like its a car crash or sumtin.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

*and since when is NeNe a size 10? gtfoh.* lmfao.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

Is that show worth watching??

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

I haven’t seen all of TP’s movies. But I’ve liked the ones I’ve seen. I think Why Did I Get Married is my favorite too.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

SexyCool, you were Tardy for the Party last night on FB! Even after I warned you earlier in the evening!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:03 pm

SexyCool – Yup, even that little gnome Derek J can work a runway.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:04 pm

*you were Tardy for the Party last night* i’m cryin’ over here. lol.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

Happy Friday to you too Angie. Yeah, it ended and I was sad. Like really sad. Couldn’t believe she killed her off at the end. Hopefully nobody was planning to read the book, lol.

I just finished The Time Traveler’s Wife (I have to read the book before the movie goes and messes everything up). It was sooooo good. Now I was bawling at the end of that book. I felt like such a sap. :-)

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

Is that show worth watching??

UH NO!!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:07 pm

Dream- Thx.. I could do the NY, NJ & Cali chicks.. Wasn’t sure about these bust downs when the Kim girl said she is 31 yrs old.. :shock:

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

I’m not a big TP fan.. but i too respect what he is doing…

His sitcom needs to go in the same bin we through *broad*, *chica* (for melo) in…

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

my homie Mo from the A is something like Sheree’. she have me crackin’ up every. single. day! she’s the one i call when i’m having a bad day. she don’t play.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:10 pm

Like Ivy said, “Derek J’s shoe game is TIGHT!!!!”

And Sheree was just damn disrespectful……and sht.

The show is mindless entertainment. And every now and then, we should all lose our minds. Stop taking life so freakin’ seriously. We all know that people like them really exist. I know that before now it was our ‘dirty little secret’, but um, yeah…so what?

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:11 pm

@ Dan

tsk tsk tsk :)

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:11 pm

Sexy- I was wondering if the show is REALLY funny.. If it is then I was going to watch some the episodes when I am bored @ work on fancast.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

This is a work in progress…Oddly enough with all my silliness today…I am still feeling poetic….

Are you the Barack to my Michelle?
Writing stories that we can tell
To the generations of our tree
As we make a family.
With vision, can you lead
To a place that we can’t see
Created by our need
To leave a legacy?
With me, can you find a love
Authored in heaven up above
Meant to last through the storm and rain
And will you give me your last name?

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

*I just finished The Time Traveler’s Wife*

i must check it out! thanks for the suggestion. i enjoy any type of love story. i will be the first to stand up and say imma sap with my emotional azz. shiiiit. that’s who i am.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:14 pm

Sexy- Awwww… That is really nice!! I guess it is safe to assume you will be writing you wedding vows..

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:14 pm

I actually kinda believed Sheree about why she was late. I believed her because i don’t know why she would show up at all if that were the case.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:15 pm

Lioness – are you talking about RHOA or TP’s shows?

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:15 pm

@SexyC
disrespectful how? we don’t know if the school function is true and if it was then how was she disrespectful? they’re not even real friends. they gives a phuck about each other.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:17 pm

I actually kinda believed Sheree about why she was late. I believed her because i don’t know why she would show up at all if that were the case

Page – I believe her too. And I think that dude who was giving her static was wrong for continuing to press her. I would have told that mfer to give it a rest too. You ain’t my damn Daddy. :lol:

Now, I do think Sheree took her sweet time getting to the venue tho. :lol:

And I don’t think she should have been offended that Lisa didn’t get up and show the collection again. Get there on time heffa, I don’t work for you. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:18 pm

I agree with Angie at 1:15. For ole dude to confront SheMan like that was, to me, disrespectful. I didn’t care for his attack of SheMan one bit!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:19 pm

Uh, thanks SexyCool. I guess I can use that for free since you posted it publicly. I will have to change that last line though. But thanks any way.

Mason’s Birthday

1. Sentimental Card check

2.

Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:20 pm

*You ain’t my damn Daddy.* i know right! lol. i liked how she handled herself.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:21 pm

Sexy- RHOA

Raqi- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: You are too funny!

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

The quotes that I get from that show are FUNNY! And I agree it is mindless entertainment. “Don’t be tardy for the party cause you know that would be really bad…” Kandi’s face was priceless. On another note…why doesn’t Kandi just stop singing on that show? No offense, but I CAN’T TAKE IT!!!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

True, ARed. I mean look how SheMan was dressed? It was pretty casual, like nice enough to go to her son’s recital. You know she likes to be all dressed up, so if she was actually going to Lisa’s show, to me, i would have thought she would be all “decked out” since she is “the hottest designer in atl”. I probably would have done the same thing…like go to my son’s recital, then go to the show to show my face to let Lisa know in person why she missed it. i think that dude was just trying to get air time and cause drama.

Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

*For ole dude to confront SheMan like that was, to me, disrespectful.* yep. he took it too personal. take her to the side next time! go Sheree’!!! lol.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:25 pm

Raqi – I will email you the completed version.

Sheree wasn’t trying to be at Lisa’s event. Period. and rather than stroll her butt up in there after it was damn near over, she should have given her regrets upfront. Didn’t we just talk about jealousy this week?

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

Raqi – I was thinking the same thing. Too bad she didn’t post that yesterday and I’d have to change the last line too, LOL.

Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

@Compelling
is it me, or does Kandi have the biggest smile on earth? lol.

happy friday blog fam! muah.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

SheMan? Ain’t that Dan and nem be wanting. The face and body of a woman with the heart, mind and soul of a man.

Oh, that’s not the SheMan you all are talking is it?

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

LOL Compelling! OMG I busted like 2 guts when Kim’s daughter said “I don’t wanna look like something out of the 1990’s” when they were shopping! I took offense to that! lmao. classic! gotta love kids!!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Cool, SexyCool. Thanks.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:28 pm

Raqi- YOUSA A DAMN FOOL :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:28 pm

BWWHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA RAQI! Yeah, that’s what dudes want!

SexyCool- if sheree didn’t want to go, then why did she show up (late) at all? what was the point of that?

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:30 pm

LOL Lioness and Page. Well it is.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:31 pm

I think Kandi has a really beautiful smile. Lisa looks tore up with no make up! ugh!

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Angie yes she does! I just know that Ne-Ne and Kandi are gonna get into it really soon. I’ll be right there with my glass of wine and some cheese, HAHA.

@ Page- Yeah my 1990’s fashions were great! Those kids just don’t know…haha!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Page- Most ppl look tow up when their face isn’t painted

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Raqi LOL. Don’t say that because Dan might get his dander all up. It’s funny how the dudes avoided my questions from earlier, but it’s Friday, so ok. lol

JtJ

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

Afternoon All,

Having had only 3 major BF’s in my life…..I still feel bad about dumping my 1st BF back in middle school. He was so heart broken and I felt so bad……all because I kissed another boy over the weekend and he came back to school telling everybody. I knew then that I was not cut out for ending relationships.

With my 1st marriage, my ex claimed he TRIED to end the marriage before he started cheating, but I just kept missing what he was saying.

His words: Baby, I don’t think we are going to work anymore, I mean I love you, but …I just don’t think it’s going to work”.
Now, me being a woman, I heard “ Baby, our marriage is not going to work if we don’t fix the problems we are having”.

Instead……… what he really wanted to say and was too coward to say was: Even though you work just as hard as I do, we got 3 kids that you take excellent care of, and you are in school finishing your undergraduate degree…….I met this girl and I want to end our 6 ½ year marriage to take a chance at a relationship with her.

If he had said that to begin with, I would heard that loud -n- clear!!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

So that she could have an all eyes on me moment. Sheree knows her schtick. She know what works for her.

Hell, in the end, I ain’t mad at her. I know what works for me and I roll with it almost everytime.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

I loved it when Sheree said Lisa’s event was tacky…lol Derek J was WRONG for wearing those tight heels, his feet looked like it was screaming please release me :lol: and that black dress s/he had on at the fashion show…Unpriceless…

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

Kandi is a really nice lady!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Hello Elijah.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Lioness- I don’t. Someone once said to me, if someone notices a drastic difference when a woman is not wearing make up, then she is wearing too much make up. I agree with that!

Compelling- LOL you know those 1990’s fashions like the african medallion, cross colour and guess overalls were the bomb!

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Page

I’m skimming today, so would you mind repeating the question that I didn’t answer, as I thought I tried to answer them all.

@Raqi

That would be interesting to say the least

But dude’s have habits that I can get with like that, like that. So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
1:38 pm

Good post JtJ.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:39 pm

JtJ- He was a Punk!! Hey Lady :)

Page- True! That is why I said PAINTED! I’ve seen you & you didn’t have makeup caked on..

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:39 pm

Grace yeah dude’s toes look like vienna suasages with those heels on. I mean, what size does he wear in women’s heels?! seriously!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:41 pm

Dan- So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man<– That is BS.. Dudes don't really want that cause then they start getting in THEIR feelings.. Believe me, an emotional man is WAY WORSE than an emotional woman..

JtJ

September 11th, 2009
1:41 pm

@ Lioness. Hey Chica
….”My doc told me that he has seen PLENTY of married women in his office that have contracted stuff from their husband.. TIL DEATH DO US PART”.
I was just discussing that with my fiance after listening to a story about a woman catching Genital warts & herpes from her husband , who is now dying from cancer and she decided to stay with him cause he is sick…….those 6 mths he was given to live would’ve have been a gross miscalculation on the the Doc’s part!

……no, he didn’t suffer long….just went peacefully!!!!
Look like he just sleeping….

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:42 pm

Lisa is so gold digglish,u can tell she got no heart….

Sheree is ghetto and ingoramus..smebody give her a book and some tutorials!

Nene is str8 up and coy..plays this girl against that one,leaving herself above the fray…..she insecure tho….”so why u say Greg is broke”..weeeeell, coz he got no money girl,get a grip..!!.

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
1:43 pm

PAGE1908- Girl what that is my dating guide now. Forget Steve Harvey…I love that book. I sooooo want to meet her. Another good book is “Getting To I do” by Dr Patricia Allen. They featured that book on V103 Frank and Wanda…It’s such a good picture

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:44 pm

Page- YES!!! Everyone hada pair of those guess or tommy hilfiger(sp?) overalls. Listenin to groups like Arrested Development, PM Dawn, oh the memories…

Grace

September 11th, 2009
1:45 pm

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:47 pm

OH! Thanks Lioness. lol

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:49 pm

@ guess overalls

OMg.. i remeber those lmao!!

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:50 pm

Blow Me, why is ‘Getting to I Do” a good book?

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

check ur email

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

Dan the thing with that is you all think that’s what you want but I doubt that it really is or better yet I doubt that you all could leave with it.

Men and women were made to fit together like a puzzle. We all are able to deal with and tolerate what we do because we were given the proper mental mechanics to.

I know as a woman I sometimes wish my husband would understand and could see things more the way I do but heck he would have become emotional like me and I ain’t dealing with no whiney, pouty man. No siree.

But all in all we were both, men and women, given the capacity to truly love each other rightfully and fulfill those needs that we have for the other.

You no my girl friend, me no your potnah.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:52 pm

@ Dan

I’m fairly new.. i’m getting to be familiar with everyones e-personality…

are u with the majority married???

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:53 pm

Melo you watch that show? I have tried to watch but have never seen a full episode.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:54 pm

@Raqi

But it is possible. I’ve experienced it. I miss it.

Gotta find/train another one

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:55 pm

@Dream_n

“Not I” said the spoon

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:56 pm

Dan-So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man<– Negative! An emotional man is just as bad as an emotional woman..

abc

September 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

In the past, I have found that it’s better to tell a chick to get lost rather than suffer repeated “confrontations”. I would regard such confrontation as a propensity for conflict by a crazy beeyotch.

If I wanted to talk to you, I’d call. If I wanted to be exclusive with you, I wouldn’t be out with her. Okay then, let me spell it out for you: get lost!

Now, that’s not that hard to deal with really, is it? It’s not as if it’s behavior that exclusive to either gender.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:58 pm

Blow Me- yeah I love her books big time. I still haven’t read Steve Harvey. Someone sent it to me in an email a while back, but I didn’t feel like printing out all of those pages lol.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:00 pm

But it is possible. I’ve experienced it. = JUMPOFF

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:00 pm

@lioness

Nowhere in that post do I state anything about “emotions of a woman”. An overly emotional dude should be checked for the switch.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:03 pm

@Raqi

Not at all. We “dated” for quite some time.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
2:04 pm

I think what goes for a man should go for a woman also…
i know emotional men out there.. Hell I have a “friend” lol (really) right now who I’ve known since i was 16. He was kind alike my high school sweet heart… He’s so emotional and needy now it’s sickening… but again i digress.. continue

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:05 pm

She was not your jumpoff.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
2:09 pm

Melo you watch that show?…….no and yes,when Queen really wants to and dont wanna go upstairs.

It can be good diversion from the usual.. on wekends, u can watch the re-runs too,esp when/if there is nothing going on on tele.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:14 pm

@Raqi

Nope. In fact, that’s why we were together for that long.

She was hella cool with with my sexual desires, had some of her own and was not pressed to express them with me. There wasn’t the hang-up about “I don’t do ___” or nona that stuff.

Anytime. Any place.

Plus, she could (and did) drink me under the table, play dudes and chicks like fiddles and almost got into a fight with a Saint’s fan at the Falcon game. That chick had buck. All around great lady.

Not to romanticize her or anything…

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
2:15 pm

Dan hearts gangsta chicks..

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:17 pm

No Dan I am not asking if she was not your jumpoff, I am saying you were hers. If you don’t believe me ask the guy she was being intimate with.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
2:19 pm

Melo – my fiance’ will watch the re-runs on the weekends too. I try not to get caught up in the trainwreck but I always do.

It’s funny because I watch after reading SexyCool’s commentary on FB.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
2:19 pm

Raqi- I was ABOUT to say that :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan- You were her piece of tail.. HA!

Chink

September 11th, 2009
2:19 pm

An emotional man is just as bad as an emotional woman..

Tell me about it!!!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
2:23 pm

Raqi LOL. Of course Dan doesn’t get that he was ole girl’s jump off. That’s impossible right? Oh and Dan, if she was so great, what happened? Why weren’t you able to keep her?

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:24 pm

@Raqi and Lioness

I was and she was mine. Her dude was up North and we that conversation before anything went down. <– see what I mean about the sexual mentality of a man

And I don't like gangster chicks, she was a real smart gal

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:24 pm

Page, now you know he dumped her.

Poppa Grande

September 11th, 2009
2:25 pm

I have only had one really bad breakup and it was because she would not let go even after I spelled it for her. Sometimes, people of both genders have a hard time dealing with rejection. Hence, the whole “Its not you, Its me” BS.

Much like ABC said, if I really cared you would not have to hide in bushes while Ned the Whino tries to rob you. I sat ol’ girl down and told her that the buzzer has sounded to that attempt at a relationship, and there is no overtime. (Not exactly in those terms, though. I actually tried to be courteous, but she took that to mean that I wasn’t really serious about ending the thing.

Just because people say that they were told, doesn’t make it true. Sometimes people hear what they want to hear.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
2:28 pm

my fiance’ will watch the re-runs on the weekends too

i caught another show over the weekend,about those Kardashian sisters..cant remember the show name but based in miami, i believe….funny boy/girl humping stuff tho…
my weekends,i mostly like to watch british/italina/brazilian and bundsliga soccer,golf,msnbc or anything on discovery channel dealing with animals,ocean or nature stuff.
And current news/events ofcourse.
The reality stuff,not so much..For most ladies, i wld say Atlanta House wives aint really a bad show…its fun, tho unreal for those females acting in it.

Poppa Grande

September 11th, 2009
2:29 pm

I have only had one really bad breakup and it was because she would not let go even after I spelled it for her. Sometimes, people of both genders have a hard time dealing with rejection. Hence, the whole “Its not you, Its me” BS.

Much like ABC said, if I really cared you would not have to hide in bushes while Ned the Whino tries to rob you. I sat ol’ girl down and told her that the buzzer has sounded to that attempt at a relationship, and there is no overtime. (Not exactly in those terms, though. I actually tried to be courteous, but she took that to mean that I wasn’t really serious about ending the thing.

Just because people say that they were told, doesn’t make it true. Sometimes people hear what they want to hear.

When I restated that that thing was over, I was not nearly as nice as the first time. As a matter of fact, my last words to her were the following: “Is that plain enough for you? If not, we gotta move back to something more simple first like colors and numbers!” – Of course, then I got the “Why you gotta be so mean?” – I ignored it, and walked on out of the door.

The whole experience prepared me for something better, though.

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
2:30 pm

MELO- It’s a good book. It actually is tapping on what we are talking about now. Male and Female enegry learning to choose wisely and to know your position. AGRESSIVE-MALE PASSIVE-Femine.
Its pretty deep and on point. However you start the relationship that will be the course of it. Whoever speaks first is Male and that person will be the dominant person and responsible for initating everything in the relationship.

According to her..a feminine female will not be able to have emotionless sex. That’s for a dominant female. A feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards.

That’s what she says.

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:31 pm

Ned the Whino tries to rob you<– :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:31 pm

@Page/Lioness/Raqi

I was her jumpoff and she was mine.

Her boyfriend was up north and we discussed the parameters of “what we were doing” before anything happened, she initiated it. <– sexual mentality of a man

As to "what happened", she moved to where her boyfriend was

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
2:33 pm

feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards.

me no likey this statement :(

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
2:34 pm

I was her jumpoff and she was mine.

Rewind: Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:05 pm
She was not your jumpoff.

Dan Nope. In fact, that’s why we were together for that long.

Please explain????

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:35 pm

Dream_n

Don’t fear the truth! HAHAHAHAHAHA

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:35 pm

A feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards. <– So I am not feminine cause I don't end up confused after sex?? :neutral: HILARIOUS!!

Kym

September 11th, 2009
2:37 pm

Poppa G.

Tell Hines I am not mad. I sent him to the car last night after he fumbled the ball. But he came back and did his job. Besides he beat his self up pretty good last night. So he is back in the good book.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:37 pm

She was a jumpoff (i.e. one night stand)

She was an really good FWB

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:38 pm

Dan you just proved our point. Women don’t screw like men. She had a boyfriend that fulfilled her needs. You keep her busy until she could get to him.

And why did she move? She’s a woman with a woman’s need. Intimacy.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
2:38 pm

A feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards

i think thats true,for the most part..i know, i know..there are females out there(can u say Kym??) who bone and dispose of guys like guys do to females….. :lol: :lol:

I remeber 1st time i humped my Queen..we had been seeing each other for a minute,then one weekend I invited her to the crib,for a sleep over………

and………………

(to be continued) :lol: :lol: :lol:

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:39 pm

Blow- a feminine female will not be able to have emotionless sex. That’s for a dominant female. A feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards. <– :neutral: The author must be a man posing as a woman.. That is PURE foolishness!

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
2:39 pm

LMAO at the duplicity.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:40 pm

The only way I know a woman can sex sanes emotions and intimacy is when another is fulfilling those needs. And guess which needs will win every time.

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:41 pm

A dominant woman can’t be feminine??? WOW!!

Melo

September 11th, 2009
2:42 pm

feminine woman bonds through sex and ends up confused afterwards…..me no likey this statement

Dream_n Mental REFRESH

blog: ur boyfriend is gon murder u,leave,please leave

Dream_n,naw,he not gon do that.he loves his kid(to her mind that means he luvs her too),so i aint gon nowhere!

clear NOW???? :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:43 pm

Correction: she was NOT a jumpoff (ie one night stand)

Kym

September 11th, 2009
2:44 pm

Melo please don’t pretend to know or associated me with any of your “ideas”.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
2:44 pm

The author must be a man posing as a woman.. That is PURE foolishness!

FOOLYWANG AT ITS BEST!!!!!

Poppa Grande

September 11th, 2009
2:44 pm

Kym

I’ll send him an e-mail.

I’m sure he was hard on himself. He was due. He had not fumbled since 2006.

He’s good now for 2009. Pittsburgh didn’t impress me though. Steelers gotta be able to run the ball against defenses like the Ravens. Otherwise, that Steeler defense will get worn down by mid season.

Troy P is starting to experience the Madden curse. Larry Fitzgerald and the Cards better look out.

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
2:45 pm

Jumpoff does not equal one night stand.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
2:46 pm

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:46 pm

I like a man that is tune with his feelings.. A man that is a pure hard tail is not the move for me.. Makes them seem like they aren’t human.. Cry sometimes dude!

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:47 pm

@Raqi

That’s the thing, while she was here we did what we did; I had no problem with her going to her boyfriend. It was a mutual choice to proceed.

I’ze a grown-up, I knew what I was gittin into

Chink

September 11th, 2009
2:48 pm

The only way I know a woman can sex sanes emotions and intimacy is when another is fulfilling those needs. And guess which needs will win every time.

I AGREE!!!

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
2:49 pm

LIONESS- I believe this….I mean keep in mind sex was not meant to be a recreational funtime like it is. lol. This is the new age stuff. Sex was created to bond and create a life. So to say you can’t are you able to do as MEN do…you can’t. Genetically you can not do it.

Its takes alot to remain keeping emotions completely out of relationships. Its a constant work….and how often are we talking about jumpin off? Is there any type of a relationsihp outside of the romp fest? Is this an ex that you know there is no future with? Jumpoffs for us are usually the BOTTOM out guys. lol. Its like that fire hose in the glass case…break when emergency. lol!

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
2:49 pm

If she had a man, you were the jump off.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:50 pm

Dan you need more people.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
2:51 pm

I am under the table…..It is hysterical when people try to back pedal and forget what they originally said.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:52 pm

Sybil he ain’t getting it.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:53 pm

Dan we are only here to help.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
2:54 pm

@Sybil, thank you (both posts)!

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:54 pm

Blow- Is there any type of a relationsihp outside of the romp fest?<– Does a friendship count?

Is this an ex that you know there is no future with?<– No, just a friend..

Jumpoffs for us are usually the BOTTOM out guys<– Not necessarily.. Not everyone wants a relationship but most people enjoy having bomb sex.. :razz:

Kym

September 11th, 2009
2:55 pm

Poppa G dont you dare bring up that curse. Troy P has a sprained MCL..(big butt Crumpler fell on him) so he maybe out for 3-6 weeks. You are right about the run game. I was ready to shake Willie P. But I think the little fellow..Moore is working out well. I may have to take a road trip to Baltimore for that Ravens game.(Although Ravens fan scare me..I may have to go with some nation members.)

Melo

September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm

I had no problem with her going to her boyfriend..Sybil,i think he agrees.

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm

LEAVE DAN’S CONFUSED TAIL ALONE!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:
Dan- I got ya back SON ;)

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm

I dont’ think guys really care about being a jumpoff..lol

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm

Its takes alot to remain keeping emotions completely out of relationships.

And the only I know it works is having another on the side.

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
2:57 pm

his feet looked like it was screaming please release me

*hollers!!!*

Dan

September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm

@Raqi/Sybil

HAHAHAHAHA

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm

Kym – that was the first time I really saw Crumpler this season (I was watching from afar during the HOF game). What are they feeding him in Nashville?!?! I missed the play when Troy P got hurt – did Crumpler really fall on him?

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm

BlowMe I agree they don’t. But he or any other man needs not try to tell us that a woman was handing it out to him like a dude over time and not getting caught without having HER DUDE on the real side.

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm

Blow- I dont’ think guys really care about being a jumpoff<– Some would if they really knew they were one :lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi- And the only I know it works is having another on the side<– I agree!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Raqi, you sound like you’re forming a sexual awareness “intervention.”

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:00 pm

Sybil he ain’t getting it. Raqi,dont use the wrd JUMPOFF…use some other euphamism :lol: :lol:

i think Grace or MsMain or is it Mo who said u guys have other names u use for those lame guys,too lazy to get their own gfs, they go behind the tails of other guys…

whats the vocab ladies?? :lol: :lol:

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:01 pm

Oh, or not getting paid to do it.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:02 pm

Some would if they really knew they were one

Yeah that’s why he denied it at first.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm

@Sybil

It wasn’t my first time in that role.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm

Raqi/Sybil,usually a guy is a jump off coz the female is getting some sort of favors…..cld be financial etc and the guy is getting the sexx… or the guy is just a charmer and she greedy.

i dont think Mr Dan wants to go there but no# 1 is a possinbility.. :lol:

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm

JUMPOFF

A Temp

Extracurricular Activity

Elective

Sidepiece

Fill-In

Maintenance Man

Dan

September 11th, 2009
3:06 pm

@Raqi

I deny nothing. You asked was she my jumpoff (ie one night stand), thus to “jump off”. I admit my failure in applying the proper title (FWB).

But I deny nothing. My past (good, bad and ugly) is me.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm

casual sex=bootycall=cut buddy=jump off

prostitution=lady of the night=hooker=preforming artist

pimp=pimp

too many darn names to keep up with

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm

Scratching That Itch

Bed Warmer

Placebo

Interim Piece

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm

Dan- Do you feel used when in that position?

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm

Lioness- You are saying what I am saying. There is obviously something up with that guy.

There are few women who can do that…normally they are loose. Because if you have numerous penis in you …you CAN NOT create a bond. lol

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm

And I’m sure it won’t be your last.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm

Extracurricular Activity

i likes :)

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm

Piece of TAIL!!!

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:11 pm

Nothing like KNOWING you have a piece of tail’s house to go to after a night out when you have that sauce in you & don’t have to hear that meow meow mess about how late you were out!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:11 pm

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:12 pm

Because if you have numerous penis in you …you CAN NOT create a bond

BlowMe, now drop the mic and walk of stage George Jefferson style.

Wise Diva

September 11th, 2009
3:13 pm

I’m starting to think that Lioness is my long lost twin, LOL.
What do you guys have planned for the weekend? Anything exciting?

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:14 pm

Dan- My 3:11 comment was what your homegirl probably used to tell her friends about you.. :lol: :lol: :lol: PIMP :razz:

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:15 pm

Single Ladies/Guys:
Is it not hard for guys to date in Atlanta unless if they have a decent regular job and they carry some reasonable change in their pocket and drive a decent car?

females on the blog will say there are some date locales that dont need lots of money but is that really possible to pull it off if he broke,unless he got mad ryhme skills…

what u say ladies??

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm

Piece of meat

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm

Diva- Maaayyyybbbeeee ;) Gotta shoot you an email :razz:

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm

George Jefferson style – PERFECT!

Bwahahahahahaha!

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
3:18 pm

Raqi- LMAOOOOOOOOOO @ GEORGE JEFFERSON style…omgosh that was funny

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm

Melo- Broke dudes just need to say they are broke from the beginning! They made be surprised by the outcome :???:

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm

Dan=placebo/bed warmer

Now! thats deregatory :lol: :lol:

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm

Good block WiseDiva.

This weekend? Wash the windows, inside and out. I hope it don’t rain.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm

Melo I’ve been noticing alot of ladies are paying for dates, matter of fact I was having lunch with a male co worker yesterday and the waitress handed me the check.

Sybil

September 11th, 2009
3:21 pm

For a broke dude, ain’t no place like home.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:21 pm

@ Melo :

The younger (lol) me would prolly say no, I don’t care if a guy is broke I’ll love him no matter…. the maturing me would prolly run away as fast as I could… When I become officially single, the next guy I date has to have his things together… point blank

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:22 pm

Grace- THAT BIYATCH!! I look @ a waiter/waitress SIDEWAYS if they pass me the bill :evil: WTF you think is going on HITHER???

mytw♥cents...Good Life

September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm

Simmerdown, ladies and be mindful of .02’s lesson earlier in the week… Dan and Ambiguous respones go hand in hand! Hi DAN. ( No thanks to the Deez with pepperjack cheez, please.)

Where’s my MELO? Somewhere misbehaving?

Have a lovely weekend, all.

Oh, on the topic – Man Up.

Wise Diva

September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm

LOL @ drop the mic George Jefferson style

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm

Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll pay for a meal or two BUT that is when I want to!

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:24 pm

@ WD: I loved the topic today! I’m officially hooked lol…

Taking my mom to great america fro her b-day on Sunday…. then catering her a dinner after we return!!! taking my CHICA to the park as i promised and washing/cleaning….. ahhh :)

Kym

September 11th, 2009
3:24 pm

@Tazee Yes he did..Troy was picking up a fumble and Alge fell on him. His leg was turn at a funny angle..and big butt smash him. Thank God its only a sprain(dont say a word..PoppaG) I am hoping he recovers closer to 3 than 6 weeks.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
3:25 pm

LOL I don’t know….Lioness, I was surprised, she gave a lame excuse.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:25 pm

Grace/Lioness..i wld think it takes way more time for the guy to get the date.

if i walk outside now and want a female,in 15 minutes i may have a number or 2 and possibly sme action this weekend(movie date etc) based on the confidence emanating from my pocket….

a broke dude aint got that mula confidence….dont u think?

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:28 pm

Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll pay for a meal or two BUT that is when I want to!

Say it!!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
3:28 pm

Don’t know how “placebo” jumped in my head, but it made sense. I will never look at that word the same way.

“Piece of meat” escaped me so I said “interim piece,” but was trying to think of that phrase….brain fart!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
3:30 pm

This weekend – tonight is alone time with the man. Tomorrow we’re hanging with the girls, going to see TP’s new joint.

Sunday is church, tailgating, game, tailgating then some more football at home. Ahhh, I’ve been waiting for this weekend since December

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
3:31 pm

Grace- I would & have told a waiter/waitress, pass that to him!

Melo- Dude’s often lie about what they have to get what they want.. Movie dates are WACK!!!

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:32 pm

@ Tazzee

Oh yeah i forgot Foot Ball Season Officially starts!!! Woo Hoo!!
Bears “vs” Greenbay… Bears baby!!!!

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
3:36 pm

Ok RAQI I am gonna need you to stop finding synonyms for jumpoffs..lol

Kym

September 11th, 2009
3:38 pm

@Tazzee I have at home waiting now a lovely new Steelers t-shirt and two brand new Terrible Towels, and a decal for my car. Football !!! Football!!! Football!!!

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:38 pm

Dream_n Mental REFRESH

blog: ur boyfriend is gon murder u,leave,please leave

Dream_n,naw,he not gon do that.he loves his kid(to her mind that means he luvs her too),so i aint gon nowhere!

clear NOW????

@ MELO

LMAO!!! Now I get it… but no :)

Grace

September 11th, 2009
3:39 pm

Melo a busted dude with some pride/sense prolly won’t step to a lady for a date but a hustler will.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:40 pm

Dude’s often lie about what they have to get “what they want”

So Lioness, seems u validaing my poing that u cant date if u broke in the A,right? coz if they didnt have to lie,it means it wld be easy any way to get sma stuff “whatthey want”….

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:41 pm

Dream_n ..im glad u learning

WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol:

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
3:43 pm

@Dream_n, surprised you would even do a tiny skit over that!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:46 pm

LOL BlowMe. Let’s just call him by his name then RICHARD.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:47 pm

but a hustler will…U right Grace, i wld agree..

smetimes busters get some of the phoinest(not a typo) girls too,its crawzy….. :lol: :lol:

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:47 pm

Melo

September 11th, 2009
3:49 pm

HEY mytw♥cents…Good wife!

where u been?? :lol:

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
3:49 pm

This weekend I’ll be attending a wedding, going to a “pole dancing” class with my friends (this should be interesting after a glass or two of wine), and then chillin’ with my guy.

YES to tailgaiting. Loves it…

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
3:50 pm

Kym – My friend is making us some new Falcons t-shirts. Can’t wait to put sport mine on Sunday. I’ll get my Falcons tag for my car this Fall. But you reminded me that I need to order this cute shirt I saw in my NFL Shop catalog.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:51 pm

“pole dancing” wtf… is this the new craze for you young kids these days :)

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
3:51 pm

@ Dream_n- Leggs thought you wrote that post about your guy…she didn’t realize that Melo wrote the original post and that you were responding. ;-)

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
3:54 pm

Tailgating could be another word for jumpoff. Depends on how you like it.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
3:56 pm

@Compelling, thanks. You’re right, I didn’t see Melo’s post. Disregard, Dream_n!

@Melo, go sit in the corner!

Kym

September 11th, 2009
3:57 pm

@Tazee they messed up and sent me a catalog. I already have a Fathead picked out for my new home. You think a Steeler sports den would be to much? LMAO

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
3:59 pm

@ Raqi : Hilarious!!

@Leggs/ Compelling : oh okay… thans for the clarification :)

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
3:59 pm

LOL @ Dream. YUUUUP!

Grace

September 11th, 2009
3:59 pm

Tailgating @Raqi :lol:

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:00 pm

Raqi- Let’s just call him by his name then RICHARD.<– LMAO!!

Melo

September 11th, 2009
4:00 pm

im out in a few

if u gon be out,i think wll bump into each other coz i feee like getting a visa tonite and drank some liqor……

if Queen aint coming wit me,i gon pinch ur tail when we meet on the dance floor…i do that often…

have a blessed weekend everybody .
.if u aint got a man.wont kill u if u get the richard or the dan jus 4 a nite,same diff…Peace

mwa mwa mwa!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
4:02 pm

Kym – you’re asking the wrong one about that. I was planning to have a Falcons den before I moved to Houston. The house I have now doesn’t have room for one.

Raqi – why you trynna pollute such a wonderful, innocent even such as tailgating :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
4:04 pm

lol hilarious! funny how dudes swear it’s impossible to be a woman’s jump off.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
4:07 pm

even = event

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:10 pm

Raqi- Yess MA’AM It sure could be ;)

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:11 pm

Lol…we knew you lost the “t”

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
4:18 pm

Damn, I hate that I missed the 2 – 3 pm hour of the exchange live. Damn shame what they did to that dog! :lol:

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:19 pm

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
4:24 pm

Lioness – When Raqi and Leggs started to give other names for “jump off” I almost wet myself. :lol: HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!

W8©(da numba 7 cross town)

September 11th, 2009
4:30 pm

Happy Birthday Mo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello–bye everyone else

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:32 pm

Ared- Yes ma’am.. You were the ONLY one missing!!

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
4:34 pm

Lioness – Y’all handled that tho.

It was surprising that Dan even posted such regard for the young lady. Sounds like she was girl material and “The D” :| doesn’t do 2nd string… so he said. :lol:

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:35 pm

@ARed / “wet blanket”

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:36 pm

Ared- Homie was ALL confused talking about his gangsta boo :lol: :lol: :lol: He LOVED the fact that she was going to fight a fan @ a Falcons game :neutral: He likes to be the jumpoff to HOOD CHICKS!

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:37 pm

Leggs- WTH??

Poppa Grande

September 11th, 2009
4:41 pm

Happy B-day Mo

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:41 pm

@Lioness, bad attempt at connecting the dots…she said she almost wet herself, talking about jumpoffs, I thought of the blanket getting wet due to the moisture. It’s hard to tie my train of thinking so it now makes sense. It made sense when I thought of it (LOL)!

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
4:42 pm

*hollers* @ gansta boo. :lol: :lol: :lol:

She was the ryde or die chick…til her ride came and picked her up. :lol:

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:44 pm

Leggs- Got ya ;)

Ared- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: EXACTLY!!!!!

Ms Main

September 11th, 2009
4:44 pm

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
4:45 pm

yeah it seems as though Dan was ole girl’s “bust down” as they call it. lmao.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
4:46 pm

LMAO!!!! Yall are hilarious…the work day is almost done. Have a good weekend fellow bloggers!

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:47 pm

Dan- It ain’t tricking if you got it!!

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
4:48 pm

She was the ryde or die chick…til her ride came and picked her up.

I can’t take it… lmao!!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
4:51 pm

Happy Birthday Mo – didn’t know it was your day.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:52 pm

I Believe…
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. How you handle/mingle with others truly defines who you are! Anybody can go to school and come out whacked. Look at Bernie Madoff!!!

Enjoy the weekend….<strongHappy B-day Mo!

Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits

September 11th, 2009
4:54 pm

Bernie Madoff was paid but got greedy.. Greed was his problem

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
4:56 pm

LOL @ her ride came and picked her up! omg!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:56 pm

Lack of character was another one of his problems.

AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor

September 11th, 2009
4:57 pm

*wheezing from laughter* Y’all crazy! :lol:

Everybody say Mo(esha!) Happy birthday Mo!

And have a great weekend all. :)

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
4:59 pm

Lack of good character, that is. We all have “character.”

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