A Guy Thing?
I will never forget the crazy night I had with a guy I was seeing. We were preparing to leave his house and head to a concert together. As we were backing out the driveway an ex-fling was on the front sidewalk looking a little upset (read: crazy). She wanted to know why he hadn’t called, or returned her calls/messages/emails.
In that kind of situation, a man really has two options: be upfront and give full disclosure on who the woman was, or drive off and pretend she wasn’t really standing there yelling. Which one do you think he chose? Well, he thought he would just avoid her until the evening was over.
Obviously this didn’t work, and of course minutes later she began calling him. Why do most guys avoid confrontation of breaking up? Is it just a guy thing, though? Is it hard for women to be the one that calls the time of death on the relationship?
I know a couple of guys that will act like a complete blockhead so that the woman will have no choice but to end things. They would rather do this then explain that she is not the right one for him. Ladies, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation? Did you call him on it or cut your losses? Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship?
Guys, do you think that some men are like kids and think that men do what women let them do? Is that another way to let a man be a man? Do you think men push the limits to see what they can get away with when it comes to relationships? How would a woman handle a man who is doing that in a dating relationship? Should she stand her ground and let him know he crossed the line?
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Kym
September 11th, 2009
2:55 pm
Poppa G dont you dare bring up that curse. Troy P has a sprained MCL..(big butt Crumpler fell on him) so he maybe out for 3-6 weeks. You are right about the run game. I was ready to shake Willie P. But I think the little fellow..Moore is working out well. I may have to take a road trip to Baltimore for that Ravens game.(Although Ravens fan scare me..I may have to go with some nation members.)
Melo
September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm
I had no problem with her going to her boyfriend..Sybil,i think he agrees.
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm
LEAVE DAN’S CONFUSED TAIL ALONE!!!!
Dan- I got ya back SON
Blow Me
September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm
I dont’ think guys really care about being a jumpoff..lol
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
2:56 pm
Its takes alot to remain keeping emotions completely out of relationships.
And the only I know it works is having another on the side.
AmazonRed™ - not majoring the minor
September 11th, 2009
2:57 pm
his feet looked like it was screaming please release me
*hollers!!!*
Dan
September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm
@Raqi/Sybil
HAHAHAHAHA
Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09
September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm
Kym – that was the first time I really saw Crumpler this season (I was watching from afar during the HOF game). What are they feeding him in Nashville?!?! I missed the play when Troy P got hurt – did Crumpler really fall on him?
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm
BlowMe I agree they don’t. But he or any other man needs not try to tell us that a woman was handing it out to him like a dude over time and not getting caught without having HER DUDE on the real side.
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
2:59 pm
Blow- I dont’ think guys really care about being a jumpoff<– Some would if they really knew they were one
Raqi- And the only I know it works is having another on the side<– I agree!
Leggs
September 11th, 2009
3:00 pm
@Raqi, you sound like you’re forming a sexual awareness “intervention.”
Melo
September 11th, 2009
3:00 pm
Sybil he ain’t getting it. Raqi,dont use the wrd JUMPOFF…use some other euphamism
i think Grace or MsMain or is it Mo who said u guys have other names u use for those lame guys,too lazy to get their own gfs, they go behind the tails of other guys…
whats the vocab ladies??
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:01 pm
Oh, or not getting paid to do it.
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:02 pm
Some would if they really knew they were one
Yeah that’s why he denied it at first.
Dan
September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm
@Sybil
It wasn’t my first time in that role.
Melo
September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm
Raqi/Sybil,usually a guy is a jump off coz the female is getting some sort of favors…..cld be financial etc and the guy is getting the sexx… or the guy is just a charmer and she greedy.
i dont think Mr Dan wants to go there but no# 1 is a possinbility..
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:04 pm
JUMPOFFA Temp
Extracurricular Activity
Elective
Sidepiece
Fill-In
Maintenance Man
Dan
September 11th, 2009
3:06 pm
@Raqi
I deny nothing. You asked was she my jumpoff (ie one night stand), thus to “jump off”. I admit my failure in applying the proper title (FWB).
But I deny nothing. My past (good, bad and ugly) is me.
Grace
September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm
casual sex=bootycall=cut buddy=jump off
prostitution=lady of the night=hooker=preforming artist
pimp=pimp
too many darn names to keep up with
Leggs
September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm
Scratching That Itch
Bed Warmer
Placebo
Interim Piece
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm
Dan- Do you feel used when in that position?
Blow Me
September 11th, 2009
3:07 pm
Lioness- You are saying what I am saying. There is obviously something up with that guy.
There are few women who can do that…normally they are loose. Because if you have numerous penis in you …you CAN NOT create a bond. lol
Sybil
September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm
And I’m sure it won’t be your last.
Dream_n
September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm
Extracurricular Activity
i likes
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:08 pm
Piece of TAIL!!!
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:11 pm
Nothing like KNOWING you have a piece of tail’s house to go to after a night out when you have that sauce in you & don’t have to hear that meow meow mess about how late you were out!
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:11 pm
LOL Leggs.
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:12 pm
Because if you have numerous penis in you …you CAN NOT create a bond
BlowMe, now drop the mic and walk of stage George Jefferson style.
Wise Diva
September 11th, 2009
3:13 pm
I’m starting to think that Lioness is my long lost twin, LOL.
What do you guys have planned for the weekend? Anything exciting?
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:14 pm
Dan- My 3:11 comment was what your homegirl probably used to tell her friends about you..
PIMP 
Melo
September 11th, 2009
3:15 pm
Single Ladies/Guys:
Is it not hard for guys to date in Atlanta unless if they have a decent regular job and they carry some reasonable change in their pocket and drive a decent car?
females on the blog will say there are some date locales that dont need lots of money but is that really possible to pull it off if he broke,unless he got mad ryhme skills…
what u say ladies??
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm
Piece of meat
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm
Diva- Maaayyyybbbeeee
Gotta shoot you an email 
Sybil
September 11th, 2009
3:16 pm
George Jefferson style – PERFECT!
Bwahahahahahaha!
Blow Me
September 11th, 2009
3:18 pm
Raqi- LMAOOOOOOOOOO @ GEORGE JEFFERSON style…omgosh that was funny
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm
Melo- Broke dudes just need to say they are broke from the beginning! They made be surprised by the outcome
Melo
September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm
Dan=placebo/bed warmer
Now! thats deregatory
Raqi
September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm
Good block WiseDiva.
This weekend? Wash the windows, inside and out. I hope it don’t rain.
Grace
September 11th, 2009
3:19 pm
Melo I’ve been noticing alot of ladies are paying for dates, matter of fact I was having lunch with a male co worker yesterday and the waitress handed me the check.
Sybil
September 11th, 2009
3:21 pm
For a broke dude, ain’t no place like home.
Dream_n
September 11th, 2009
3:21 pm
@ Melo :
The younger (lol) me would prolly say no, I don’t care if a guy is broke I’ll love him no matter…. the maturing me would prolly run away as fast as I could… When I become officially single, the next guy I date has to have his things together… point blank
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:22 pm
Grace- THAT BIYATCH!! I look @ a waiter/waitress SIDEWAYS if they pass me the bill
WTF you think is going on HITHER???
mytw♥cents...Good Life
September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm
Simmerdown, ladies and be mindful of .02’s lesson earlier in the week… Dan and Ambiguous respones go hand in hand! Hi DAN. ( No thanks to the Deez with pepperjack cheez, please.)
Where’s my MELO? Somewhere misbehaving?
Have a lovely weekend, all.
Oh, on the topic – Man Up.
Wise Diva
September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm
LOL @ drop the mic George Jefferson style
Lioness- I Only like Ripe Fruits
September 11th, 2009
3:23 pm
Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll pay for a meal or two BUT that is when I want to!
Dream_n
September 11th, 2009
3:24 pm
@ WD: I loved the topic today! I’m officially hooked lol…
Taking my mom to great america fro her b-day on Sunday…. then catering her a dinner after we return!!! taking my CHICA to the park as i promised and washing/cleaning….. ahhh
Kym
September 11th, 2009
3:24 pm
@Tazee Yes he did..Troy was picking up a fumble and Alge fell on him. His leg was turn at a funny angle..and big butt smash him. Thank God its only a sprain(dont say a word..PoppaG) I am hoping he recovers closer to 3 than 6 weeks.
Grace
September 11th, 2009
3:25 pm
LOL I don’t know….Lioness, I was surprised, she gave a lame excuse.
Melo
September 11th, 2009
3:25 pm
Grace/Lioness..i wld think it takes way more time for the guy to get the date.
if i walk outside now and want a female,in 15 minutes i may have a number or 2 and possibly sme action this weekend(movie date etc) based on the confidence emanating from my pocket….
a broke dude aint got that mula confidence….dont u think?
Dream_n
September 11th, 2009
3:28 pm
Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll pay for a meal or two BUT that is when I want to!
Say it!!