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A Guy Thing?

I will never forget the crazy night I had with a guy I was seeing. We were preparing to leave his house and head to a concert together. As we were backing out the driveway an ex-fling was on the front sidewalk looking a little upset (read: crazy). She wanted to know why he hadn’t called, or returned her calls/messages/emails.

In that kind of situation, a man really has two options: be upfront and give full disclosure on who the woman was, or drive off and pretend she wasn’t really standing there yelling. Which one do you think he chose?  Well, he thought he would just avoid her until the evening was over.

Obviously this didn’t work, and of course minutes later she began calling him.  Why do most guys avoid confrontation of breaking up? Is it just a guy thing, though? Is it hard for women to be the one that calls the time of death on the relationship?

I know a couple of guys that will act like a complete blockhead so that the woman will have no choice but to end things. They would rather do this then explain that she is not the right one for him. Ladies, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation? Did you call him on it or cut your losses? Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship?

Guys, do you think that some men are like kids and think that men do what women let them do? Is that another way to let a man be a man? Do you think men push the limits to see what they can get away with when it comes to relationships? How would a woman handle a man who is doing that in a dating relationship? Should she stand her ground and let him know he crossed the line?

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AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:17 pm

I actually kinda believed Sheree about why she was late. I believed her because i don’t know why she would show up at all if that were the case

Page – I believe her too. And I think that dude who was giving her static was wrong for continuing to press her. I would have told that mfer to give it a rest too. You ain’t my damn Daddy. :lol:

Now, I do think Sheree took her sweet time getting to the venue tho. :lol:

And I don’t think she should have been offended that Lisa didn’t get up and show the collection again. Get there on time heffa, I don’t work for you. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:18 pm

I agree with Angie at 1:15. For ole dude to confront SheMan like that was, to me, disrespectful. I didn’t care for his attack of SheMan one bit!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:19 pm

Uh, thanks SexyCool. I guess I can use that for free since you posted it publicly. I will have to change that last line though. But thanks any way.

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Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:20 pm

*You ain’t my damn Daddy.* i know right! lol. i liked how she handled herself.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:21 pm

Sexy- RHOA

Raqi- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: You are too funny!

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

The quotes that I get from that show are FUNNY! And I agree it is mindless entertainment. “Don’t be tardy for the party cause you know that would be really bad…” Kandi’s face was priceless. On another note…why doesn’t Kandi just stop singing on that show? No offense, but I CAN’T TAKE IT!!!

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

True, ARed. I mean look how SheMan was dressed? It was pretty casual, like nice enough to go to her son’s recital. You know she likes to be all dressed up, so if she was actually going to Lisa’s show, to me, i would have thought she would be all “decked out” since she is “the hottest designer in atl”. I probably would have done the same thing…like go to my son’s recital, then go to the show to show my face to let Lisa know in person why she missed it. i think that dude was just trying to get air time and cause drama.

Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:23 pm

*For ole dude to confront SheMan like that was, to me, disrespectful.* yep. he took it too personal. take her to the side next time! go Sheree’!!! lol.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:25 pm

Raqi – I will email you the completed version.

Sheree wasn’t trying to be at Lisa’s event. Period. and rather than stroll her butt up in there after it was damn near over, she should have given her regrets upfront. Didn’t we just talk about jealousy this week?

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

Raqi – I was thinking the same thing. Too bad she didn’t post that yesterday and I’d have to change the last line too, LOL.

Angie - Sheree' Biggest Fan! lol.

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

@Compelling
is it me, or does Kandi have the biggest smile on earth? lol.

happy friday blog fam! muah.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:26 pm

SheMan? Ain’t that Dan and nem be wanting. The face and body of a woman with the heart, mind and soul of a man.

Oh, that’s not the SheMan you all are talking is it?

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

LOL Compelling! OMG I busted like 2 guts when Kim’s daughter said “I don’t wanna look like something out of the 1990’s” when they were shopping! I took offense to that! lmao. classic! gotta love kids!!

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:27 pm

Cool, SexyCool. Thanks.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:28 pm

Raqi- YOUSA A DAMN FOOL :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:28 pm

BWWHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA RAQI! Yeah, that’s what dudes want!

SexyCool- if sheree didn’t want to go, then why did she show up (late) at all? what was the point of that?

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:30 pm

LOL Lioness and Page. Well it is.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:31 pm

I think Kandi has a really beautiful smile. Lisa looks tore up with no make up! ugh!

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Angie yes she does! I just know that Ne-Ne and Kandi are gonna get into it really soon. I’ll be right there with my glass of wine and some cheese, HAHA.

@ Page- Yeah my 1990’s fashions were great! Those kids just don’t know…haha!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Page- Most ppl look tow up when their face isn’t painted

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:33 pm

Raqi LOL. Don’t say that because Dan might get his dander all up. It’s funny how the dudes avoided my questions from earlier, but it’s Friday, so ok. lol

JtJ

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

Afternoon All,

Having had only 3 major BF’s in my life…..I still feel bad about dumping my 1st BF back in middle school. He was so heart broken and I felt so bad……all because I kissed another boy over the weekend and he came back to school telling everybody. I knew then that I was not cut out for ending relationships.

With my 1st marriage, my ex claimed he TRIED to end the marriage before he started cheating, but I just kept missing what he was saying.

His words: Baby, I don’t think we are going to work anymore, I mean I love you, but …I just don’t think it’s going to work”.
Now, me being a woman, I heard “ Baby, our marriage is not going to work if we don’t fix the problems we are having”.

Instead……… what he really wanted to say and was too coward to say was: Even though you work just as hard as I do, we got 3 kids that you take excellent care of, and you are in school finishing your undergraduate degree…….I met this girl and I want to end our 6 ½ year marriage to take a chance at a relationship with her.

If he had said that to begin with, I would heard that loud -n- clear!!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

So that she could have an all eyes on me moment. Sheree knows her schtick. She know what works for her.

Hell, in the end, I ain’t mad at her. I know what works for me and I roll with it almost everytime.

Grace

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

I loved it when Sheree said Lisa’s event was tacky…lol Derek J was WRONG for wearing those tight heels, his feet looked like it was screaming please release me :lol: and that black dress s/he had on at the fashion show…Unpriceless…

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:35 pm

Kandi is a really nice lady!

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Hello Elijah.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:36 pm

Lioness- I don’t. Someone once said to me, if someone notices a drastic difference when a woman is not wearing make up, then she is wearing too much make up. I agree with that!

Compelling- LOL you know those 1990’s fashions like the african medallion, cross colour and guess overalls were the bomb!

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Page

I’m skimming today, so would you mind repeating the question that I didn’t answer, as I thought I tried to answer them all.

@Raqi

That would be interesting to say the least

But dude’s have habits that I can get with like that, like that. So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man.

Leggs

September 11th, 2009
1:38 pm

Good post JtJ.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:39 pm

JtJ- He was a Punk!! Hey Lady :)

Page- True! That is why I said PAINTED! I’ve seen you & you didn’t have makeup caked on..

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:39 pm

Grace yeah dude’s toes look like vienna suasages with those heels on. I mean, what size does he wear in women’s heels?! seriously!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:41 pm

Dan- So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man<– That is BS.. Dudes don't really want that cause then they start getting in THEIR feelings.. Believe me, an emotional man is WAY WORSE than an emotional woman..

JtJ

September 11th, 2009
1:41 pm

@ Lioness. Hey Chica
….”My doc told me that he has seen PLENTY of married women in his office that have contracted stuff from their husband.. TIL DEATH DO US PART”.
I was just discussing that with my fiance after listening to a story about a woman catching Genital warts & herpes from her husband , who is now dying from cancer and she decided to stay with him cause he is sick…….those 6 mths he was given to live would’ve have been a gross miscalculation on the the Doc’s part!

……no, he didn’t suffer long….just went peacefully!!!!
Look like he just sleeping….

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:42 pm

Lisa is so gold digglish,u can tell she got no heart….

Sheree is ghetto and ingoramus..smebody give her a book and some tutorials!

Nene is str8 up and coy..plays this girl against that one,leaving herself above the fray…..she insecure tho….”so why u say Greg is broke”..weeeeell, coz he got no money girl,get a grip..!!.

Blow Me

September 11th, 2009
1:43 pm

PAGE1908- Girl what that is my dating guide now. Forget Steve Harvey…I love that book. I sooooo want to meet her. Another good book is “Getting To I do” by Dr Patricia Allen. They featured that book on V103 Frank and Wanda…It’s such a good picture

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:44 pm

Page- YES!!! Everyone hada pair of those guess or tommy hilfiger(sp?) overalls. Listenin to groups like Arrested Development, PM Dawn, oh the memories…

Grace

September 11th, 2009
1:45 pm

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:47 pm

OH! Thanks Lioness. lol

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:49 pm

@ guess overalls

OMg.. i remeber those lmao!!

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:50 pm

Blow Me, why is ‘Getting to I Do” a good book?

Melo

September 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

check ur email

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:51 pm

Dan the thing with that is you all think that’s what you want but I doubt that it really is or better yet I doubt that you all could leave with it.

Men and women were made to fit together like a puzzle. We all are able to deal with and tolerate what we do because we were given the proper mental mechanics to.

I know as a woman I sometimes wish my husband would understand and could see things more the way I do but heck he would have become emotional like me and I ain’t dealing with no whiney, pouty man. No siree.

But all in all we were both, men and women, given the capacity to truly love each other rightfully and fulfill those needs that we have for the other.

You no my girl friend, me no your potnah.

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:52 pm

@ Dan

I’m fairly new.. i’m getting to be familiar with everyones e-personality…

are u with the majority married???

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
1:53 pm

Melo you watch that show? I have tried to watch but have never seen a full episode.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:54 pm

@Raqi

But it is possible. I’ve experienced it. I miss it.

Gotta find/train another one

Dan

September 11th, 2009
1:55 pm

@Dream_n

“Not I” said the spoon

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:56 pm

Dan-So the better analogy would be: the body, mind, soul, spirit of a woman with the mentality about sex of a man<– Negative! An emotional man is just as bad as an emotional woman..

abc

September 11th, 2009
1:57 pm

In the past, I have found that it’s better to tell a chick to get lost rather than suffer repeated “confrontations”. I would regard such confrontation as a propensity for conflict by a crazy beeyotch.

If I wanted to talk to you, I’d call. If I wanted to be exclusive with you, I wouldn’t be out with her. Okay then, let me spell it out for you: get lost!

Now, that’s not that hard to deal with really, is it? It’s not as if it’s behavior that exclusive to either gender.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:58 pm

Blow Me- yeah I love her books big time. I still haven’t read Steve Harvey. Someone sent it to me in an email a while back, but I didn’t feel like printing out all of those pages lol.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
2:00 pm

But it is possible. I’ve experienced it. = JUMPOFF