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A Guy Thing?

I will never forget the crazy night I had with a guy I was seeing. We were preparing to leave his house and head to a concert together. As we were backing out the driveway an ex-fling was on the front sidewalk looking a little upset (read: crazy). She wanted to know why he hadn’t called, or returned her calls/messages/emails.

In that kind of situation, a man really has two options: be upfront and give full disclosure on who the woman was, or drive off and pretend she wasn’t really standing there yelling. Which one do you think he chose?  Well, he thought he would just avoid her until the evening was over.

Obviously this didn’t work, and of course minutes later she began calling him.  Why do most guys avoid confrontation of breaking up? Is it just a guy thing, though? Is it hard for women to be the one that calls the time of death on the relationship?

I know a couple of guys that will act like a complete blockhead so that the woman will have no choice but to end things. They would rather do this then explain that she is not the right one for him. Ladies, have you ever experienced this before? Have you ever dated a man who avoided confrontation? Did you call him on it or cut your losses? Have you ever been the one to avoid confrontation in a relationship?

Guys, do you think that some men are like kids and think that men do what women let them do? Is that another way to let a man be a man? Do you think men push the limits to see what they can get away with when it comes to relationships? How would a woman handle a man who is doing that in a dating relationship? Should she stand her ground and let him know he crossed the line?

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Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:34 pm

Dan- Now, I don’t think there is anything wrong with THINKING your stuff is the BOMB but please keep it to yourself (male or female)! If a person just starts bragging about what they can do in bed TO ME is a HUGE turnoff!!!

Sexy- Your original post was a CLASSIC!! Hilarious!!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:35 pm

I have to agree ARed- I can’t take Zane anymore…it got old real fast.

Compelling – Glad you feel me! I read the S.ex Chronicles and all I kept thinking was it was the same lame sex story just changing a character’s name and location. :lol:

Kym

September 11th, 2009
12:37 pm

@Dreams of course women go nuts for dizzle too. It is the nature of the beast. See Jerry Springer and the other half of the news. The chick in Savannah that shot her exboyfriend..she was outside his door cause the diggity made her do it. He wasn’t at her house she was at his.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:41 pm

I’ll shoot a mofo if he gave me something.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: That is when I know for a FACT I would get in my feelings!!!

My doc told me that he has seen PLENTY of married women in his office that have contracted stuff from their husband.. TIL DEATH DO US PART :evil:

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:42 pm

Did I catch that before suffering the Wrathe of the Red?

~laughing so hard I can’t breathe~

SexyCool – I understood what you meant. Cuz even had you been talking about me, I don’t look like someone’s momma unless it’s one of those hot Hollywood mamas. :lol:

But yeah, it’s been a while since I’ve gotten my dander up on here and unleashed the wrath. :lol: We’ll see how long it lasts. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:44 pm

LOL @ ARed releasing her dander for all to see.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:45 pm

Elijah

September 11th, 2009
12:45 pm

@Page-1908 I was referring to you about the Page-90210! Since you are from Cali! Page I enjoy reading your post because youstay above the fray and you are positive! Plus you can cook So,I want to get on your good side!

@Kym you are speaking le truth today! I likes me some Kymmmmmm! :wink:

Will someone give Lioness some good dizzle! :smile: She good a need!

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:46 pm

*same lame sex story*

uh huh. i have a few of her books. the short stories i didn’t enjoy, but the novels are great love stories with a little kick. one pops in my mind with the word burn in the title. i couldn’t put it down. i cried at the end. i remember sitting in the DMV in ATL waiting for my number to be called.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:47 pm

@ SexyCool- Yeah some of the movies seem to be exactly the same…but what did you think of Why Did I Get Married? I think it was one of my favorite ones.

@ ARed- Yeah, someone recently asked me if I wanted to read a novel after they finished and I politely declined. I’ll pass.

Hey has anyone read Colin Channer’s Waiting In Vain? I absolutely LOVE that book. Any other good reads or recommendations? I read two to three books at a time.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
12:48 pm

Thanks, Eli.

Angie- LOL @ you reading Afterburn while waiting at the DMV.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:48 pm

Maybe we can get that One Dude to cast ARed as a MILF. ~more laughing~ I am SO silly today.

Seriously, though, Page – I totally support TP from the standpoint of his impact on the industry, the fact that he is making money hand over fist and the uplifting messages in his MOVIES.

I would just like to see his projects broaden their scope just a bit. But at the same time, dude knows what works and what his CORE audience wants to see and I ain’t mad at him for giving HIS people what they want to see. I’ve just realized that perhaps I am not a part of THAT core audience, but I still support.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
12:52 pm

@ Angie- I think it was Afterburn???? I liked that one. It was a welcome departure from her usual fare.

Melo

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

I would just like to see his projects broaden their scope just a bit

im with u there Scool even tho hes making a boatful of money!

where at Camp creek can u watch that new movie??
Im torn between a number of events today and tmrw..havent been out in a minute.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

I think Daddy’s Little Girls, Why Did I Get Married and The Family That Preys were his ‘different’ movies that could only be made with the funding of that ’same’ movie.

Lamman Rucker (definition of chocolatey goodness) made a good point at the EMF when talking about the coonery that goes on with TP’s tv shows. Similar to the movies, he’s laying the groundwork so that when he presents his drama, the studios will listen.

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:53 pm

Dan

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

@Dream_n

Personally, I don’t like dealing with the drama of the aftermath (post breakup), but as a man that’s my responsibility.

I’d rather take the “easy” way and let the female break up with me.

Raqi

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

The best movie T. Perry made was A Family That Preys.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

@Page
they were going to marry and she got murdered in the grocery store. member? he was so sad. i was happy that someone walked into his life to give him the feeling of hope and move on. great love story. would love to see it at the movies.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

The only Zane book I liked was the first one.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

Plus you can cook So,I want to get on your good side!

:lol: Page – I promise we love you for who you are!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
12:55 pm

Compelling – I rank Why Did I Get Married? #2 after Diary of a Mad Black Woman.

Melo – Camp Creek is Movies ATL.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

Dan- You PUNK!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Angie

September 11th, 2009
12:57 pm

morning Compelling! happy friday.

i’m a huge romantic and that one got me. she did a good job writing that one. that story stuck with me for awhile.

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
12:58 pm

Maybe we can get that One Dude to cast ARed as a MILF.

SexyCool – Maybe…after watching RHOA last night I realized ANYONE could be a model in Atlanta, so I might as well get my old azz on a runway since I can actually fit the clothes as intended!

So while I’m at it, might as well play the MILF as well. :lol:

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:00 pm

LOL ARed! yeah right!!

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

ARed – “after watching RHOA last night I realized ANYONE could be a model in Atlanta”

I am over here HOLLERING!!!!!!

Why are the folk I know making me laugh SO HARD TODAY??!?!?!?!?

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

Speaking of Real Trainwreck, I just do not get why Sheree thinks she is the hottest designer in Atlanta. seriously? and since when is NeNe a size 10? gtfoh.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:01 pm

i’ve been watchin’ ATL housewives and Sheree’ is my fav! lmao. that chick is so mf hood. i love it. i can’t stop tuning in, like its a car crash or sumtin.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

*and since when is NeNe a size 10? gtfoh.* lmfao.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

Is that show worth watching??

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

I haven’t seen all of TP’s movies. But I’ve liked the ones I’ve seen. I think Why Did I Get Married is my favorite too.

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:02 pm

SexyCool, you were Tardy for the Party last night on FB! Even after I warned you earlier in the evening!

AmazonRed™

September 11th, 2009
1:03 pm

SexyCool – Yup, even that little gnome Derek J can work a runway.

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:04 pm

*you were Tardy for the Party last night* i’m cryin’ over here. lol.

Compelling

September 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

Happy Friday to you too Angie. Yeah, it ended and I was sad. Like really sad. Couldn’t believe she killed her off at the end. Hopefully nobody was planning to read the book, lol.

I just finished The Time Traveler’s Wife (I have to read the book before the movie goes and messes everything up). It was sooooo good. Now I was bawling at the end of that book. I felt like such a sap. :-)

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:05 pm

Is that show worth watching??

UH NO!!

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:07 pm

Dream- Thx.. I could do the NY, NJ & Cali chicks.. Wasn’t sure about these bust downs when the Kim girl said she is 31 yrs old.. :shock:

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

I’m not a big TP fan.. but i too respect what he is doing…

His sitcom needs to go in the same bin we through *broad*, *chica* (for melo) in…

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:08 pm

my homie Mo from the A is something like Sheree’. she have me crackin’ up every. single. day! she’s the one i call when i’m having a bad day. she don’t play.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:10 pm

Like Ivy said, “Derek J’s shoe game is TIGHT!!!!”

And Sheree was just damn disrespectful……and sht.

The show is mindless entertainment. And every now and then, we should all lose our minds. Stop taking life so freakin’ seriously. We all know that people like them really exist. I know that before now it was our ‘dirty little secret’, but um, yeah…so what?

Dream_n

September 11th, 2009
1:11 pm

@ Dan

tsk tsk tsk :)

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:11 pm

Sexy- I was wondering if the show is REALLY funny.. If it is then I was going to watch some the episodes when I am bored @ work on fancast.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

This is a work in progress…Oddly enough with all my silliness today…I am still feeling poetic….

Are you the Barack to my Michelle?
Writing stories that we can tell
To the generations of our tree
As we make a family.
With vision, can you lead
To a place that we can’t see
Created by our need
To leave a legacy?
With me, can you find a love
Authored in heaven up above
Meant to last through the storm and rain
And will you give me your last name?

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:12 pm

*I just finished The Time Traveler’s Wife*

i must check it out! thanks for the suggestion. i enjoy any type of love story. i will be the first to stand up and say imma sap with my emotional azz. shiiiit. that’s who i am.

Lioness-

September 11th, 2009
1:14 pm

Sexy- Awwww… That is really nice!! I guess it is safe to assume you will be writing you wedding vows..

Page1908

September 11th, 2009
1:14 pm

I actually kinda believed Sheree about why she was late. I believed her because i don’t know why she would show up at all if that were the case.

Inhale Sexy. Exhale Cool.

September 11th, 2009
1:15 pm

Lioness – are you talking about RHOA or TP’s shows?

Angie

September 11th, 2009
1:15 pm

@SexyC
disrespectful how? we don’t know if the school function is true and if it was then how was she disrespectful? they’re not even real friends. they gives a phuck about each other.