My friend Vincent said that he recently had a young lady over and he is almost certain that she went on a little fishing expedition in his home office. He just bought a home so he was showing her around a little.
When he left to go answer his cell phone that he left in the next room, he says she turned into Nancy Drew! He could tell that she went through some papers and drawers. At lunch the other day, I asked him if that bothered him and he said absolutely. “We aren’t even in a serious relationship and she’s already snooping on me? I’m not calling her back. There’s a reason spies don’t get dates.”
Ok, first of all. Spies don’t get dates? I know he was making a funny and I can see his point. Would you date someone that could access private information about you? What if they were law enforcement or worked in your doctor’s office?
If you are involved with someone who can’t resist digging into your stuff before you’ve even been on two dates, it’s probably a red flag or it could be that the person is the “curious” (read: nosy) type.
Have you ever had someone snoop through your stuff while they were in your home? Is that worse than Googling, background checking, or screening people we want to date?
Why do you think we feel the need to investigate our dates? Safety precaution or a little bit of crazy on our part? Where do you draw the line on snooping? What’s appropriate and what is grounds for dismissal?