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Jealous Much?

Yesterday we talked about how to draw the line on flirting and being too tempted. Today, I wanted to touch on how to handle being with someone who is extremely insecure. I’ve had a jealous boyfriend before and it’s not always an easy feat to reassure someone that you are just friendly and flirty by nature. What do you think about asking a person to change that part of their personality so that you can feel more secure about the relationship?

There is only so much jealousy a person can handle. Have you dated someone who was jealous? What were the signs that they were that way? Is there a way to spot this red flag before you are in a relationship with someone?

Have you ever struggled with jealous and insecurity personally? How did it impact your dating or your relationships? What can one do to let the jealousy and insecurity go?

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Dan

September 9th, 2009
8:19 am

Good morning,

Jealousy to me is a wasted emotion. You can’t control the actions of another person, and making yourself upset about it is self-destructive.

As alluded to in the post, it’s insecurity sprinkled with that need to control. Some people have it bad.

Ms. Moni

September 9th, 2009
8:38 am

recently out of a relationship with a very jealous man it has caused so many problems in the relationship that we are no longer getting married. It was one incident after another with this guy. He would accuse me of co workers if I was at work, friends if I was at party, what ever the venture was at the time surely I was sleeping with at least have the people there. I could not make any more excuses for him or his behavior I had to leave the relationship. It became work for me I found myself walking easy around him and hiding my own personality to make him feel secure. Just to keep the peace in the realtionship. Can you say more than a million times to one person “EVERYONE DOESN’T CHEAT” GOSH!

Joan

September 9th, 2009
8:41 am

Dan, that is probably the best “comment” i’ve ever seen on jealousy and it’s destructiveness. Ditto here! You actually create what you fear. I’ve never been a jealous person. There’s no need. And yes, for those who say I don’t understand, I’ve been in a marriage where I was cheated on and we are divorced but I remarried and have been married almost 15 years and haven’t had the first jealousy issue. Bottom line….jealousy is destructive in any situation.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
8:44 am

Good Morning.

Jealous Much? The much is where the problem arises. Too much jealousy is when a person accuses or makes unwarranted assumptions about their mate or those in his or her company.

What I may call just giving a damn some may call jealousy. But hey that’s fine. It’s my party. I don’t get all bent out of shape when I see my husband conversing with another woman. It’s innocent and it’s a waste of time and energy worrying about and assuming situations that just aren’t real. But I do care enough to notice when a woman is flirting with him and to notice how he responds. And he cares.

I have said before if he didn’t care to an extent I would start to wonder why. There are lines that need not get crossed. But just mere conversation with the opposite sex I have no problem with.

I just have one rule, Do Not Touch My Man. Don’t touch his arm in admiration. Don’t get so caught up in laughter and fall all over his chest. Don’t bump into his leg. There is such a thing as person space. Stay out of his. And I keep those that don’t belong out of mine.

The closest I have come to being with someone that was too jealous was with the nature guy. But I think most of his problem was he was just too needy.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
8:51 am

Ms. Moni I agree. The false accusations based on nothing is sure to kill any relationship.

Sometimes you wonder if the jealousy based on that person lack satisfactory input into the relationship. Like when a person knows they are giving all that should be given they can become afraid that their mate will go out looking elsewhere.

Jennifer Hudson says:

Are you a man who loves and cherishes and cares for me?

Are you a guard in a prison, maximum security?

Do we stay home all the time cuz you want me to yourself?

Or am I locked away, out of fear that I’d find someone else

Well, I don’t like living under your spotlight

Just because you think I might find somebody worthy

mytw♥cents...For You

September 9th, 2009
8:53 am

Never say never, but I doubt I could deal with this very long. For lots of us, flirting is often for sport. So if you have any kind of self control it, shouldn’t be something you’d have to alter about yourself to be with someone else. I’m not gonna. Unwarranted or Extreme Jealousy SCREAMS INSECURITY! I am a person, not a possession, and that would scare the shiii outta me.

Conversely, I do know a few who get a bit irked when their love interest doesn’t show hints of jealousy. Foolishness. If you’re confident in your own product and packaging, just rock it. People allow their own insecurities to be much more threatening to their relationship han outside forces.

DAN Do the women you deal with find you to be too passive or blase’ (always forget to check if this is a real word) about them?

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
8:58 am

Let me redo this entire statement:

Sometimes you wonder if the jealousy is based on that person’s lack of satisfactory input into the relationship. Like when a person knows they are NOT giving all that should be given they can become afraid that their mate will go out looking elsewhere.

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
9:06 am

Jealousy… WTF is that, other than a headache waiting to happen? I can understand some concern, but I don’t even waste energy on a jealous broad.

I personally am the opposite of jealous. I let a grown woman be grown – do you, just respect me and give me mine. The problem is, that I’m so cool, that I’m often accused of being “too nonchalant”, “cold”, “not givin’ a damn”, blah blah… What’s up with that?

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
9:07 am

Jealousy. Interesting topic, the first thing comes to mind when I think of jealousy, jealousy is a natural human emotion, however it was like salt on your food a little enhances the flavor, but too much kills the taste makes the food not edible and may lead to bigger problems including toxic poisoning.

mytw♥cents...For You

September 9th, 2009
9:07 am

Maybe ‘hints’ is too subtle. More like doesn’t grill them about who else you ran into or met at the (mall, party, lounge, bar). Or “so there wasn’t anybody you were attracted to there? Hmmph. <<< that kinda stuff, as oppposed to milder, more playful commentary. I think this also has to do with mates not trusting their mates’ friends… Which reminds me to email you, Wisey.

MS. MONI I find those kinds of blanket accusations to be more a projection of that person’s actions than a detection of yours. Good for you for having the courage to not walk down the aisle.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
9:08 am

@My2

Some do, some don’t.

When I’m interested, I show my interest. The problems that I have had are in being non-responsive to what [she] may perceive to be a problem.

For instance: a woman flirting with me in the prescence of my SO does not bother me becuase it’s a non-event, as in nothing going to come of it. Likewise, her flirting without someone else (or receiving attention from someone else) doesn’t bother me for the same reason.

As for passivity, I’ll fight for mine, but as stated I can’t control the actions of another person.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
9:12 am

just respect me

BlueK I agree. That’s the thing right there, don’t disrespect your mate. And you know while it’s okay to not be concerned for many, we have to be realistic in knowing that not every person that is approaching your mate is doing so innocently. We live among the trifling. There has to be some kind of care there.

I have read several men on here say that they don’t even realize all the time when a woman is flirting with them. See it’s not a jealousy move for your woman to point it out to you. She is just putting you in the need to know.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
9:16 am

TwoLincolns that is just sheer overloaded jealousy questioning your mate about what they did, who they spoke with and all that crap.

That does show trust issues.

mytw♥cents...For You

September 9th, 2009
9:18 am

DAN Thanks. Your response is exactly why I asked ~ your answers sometimes tend toward ambiguity. I can see how that may be frustrating for someone trying to gauge your interest level, in general. I also understand the flipside, which you & BK seem to be referencing. Cuz I’m fairly unfazed by the person’s goings on and won’t perceive someone having a life or certain personality traits as a threat to whatever I may be to him.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
9:19 am

Dan IMO to not put up the barrier when someone blatantly flirts with someone in the presence of their mate is boarding on disrespect. No we can’t control what other people do but what does it hurt to walk away from the disrespectful situation?

Dan

September 9th, 2009
9:21 am

@Raqi

A question for a female perspective: why does a random chick flirting with me matter? Whether I recognize it or not?

side note: this whole “respect” issue has really lost some of it’s meaning as the idea of what is respectable has been beaten to death by overusage. not directed at you R, just a general statement

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
9:21 am

ProfessorJealousy. Interesting topic, the first thing comes to mind when I think of jealousy, jealousy is a natural human emotion, however it was like salt on your food a little enhances the flavor, but too much kills the taste makes the food not edible and may lead to bigger problems including toxic poisoning.

That’s about how I’d sum it up.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
9:24 am

@My2

I’m not intentionally being ambiguous. It’s just that, in most cases, I try not to get upset about little stuff. Especially stuff beyond my control. I.E.: if she cheats, she cheats; and the chick flirting with me is either trying to get a tip or a taste, neither of which is she getting based on anything other than MY decision.

M' (Casper)

September 9th, 2009
9:30 am

Jealousy…truly an indication of insecurity issues…the moment anything rears its head to indicate that personality type…I am like Casper…I get ghost…I WILL NOT be CONTROLLED by another person’s insecurity issues…NOT!

There are red flags…I remember this one dude…every time another man spoke to me…he would ask “Who is he?”…”How well do you know him?”…”Why is he staring at you?”…and also any behaviors (verbal or physical) that indicate a NEED to mark his territory.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
9:31 am

@Ms. Main thanks. I just feel that there are pros and cons to each situation for the most part. I think too often we go all off on the deep end and only look at the negative. I have been in situations where my than SO would make a comment (not often) and there was a hint of jealousy in the comment and I laughed gave him a peck on the lips and that was it. Cute…funny…the end. However I do understand the deadly form of jealousy that kills relationships, but I do not claim that nor have I stayed around to see how the story would unfold.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
9:33 am

Dan It matters when it’s an obvious disregard for your mate’s presence. Like you said we cannot control the actions of others but I will not have mine disrespected. If he is standing right there and a man is flirting with me he is disrespecting my husband. Some people are just bold like that but it’s my duty to my relationship to move away from the disrespectful situation.

Let me ask you a question. Would you just stand there while a man continually flirts with your woman? Would you not feel disrespected and wonder why she is just accepting it? And further more would not eventually say or do something about it? Or would you feel that it would make you seem jealous to block a dude’s flirting, which are often subtle advances, at your woman?

And it’s not all the time so much as you trusting your mate to be faithful and loyal to you, but it is a matter of respect.

Respect. Would you allow someone, a man, to come in your house, walk all out thru it, lay on your personal bed, take his shoes off and put them on your couch and table? Or would you see that for what it is as disrespect for your space?

mytw♥cents...For You

September 9th, 2009
9:34 am

I KNOW you’re not, DAN. Hence my taking a moment to point it out, buddy. And again, I understand it to a degreee.

“We live among the trifling.” LUVS it! For awhile, thought I was the only one who had noticed that phenomena, RAQI.

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 9th, 2009
9:35 am

@Have you dated someone who was jealous? What were the signs that they were that way?

What’s funny is all the reg flags we ignore in a potential relationship. I think we do not want to jeoparadize our potential happiness so we just roll with it and lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that its not that big a deal or that bad.

My ex was real jealous because every coworker or any contact with a female, she would give me 21 questions and always assume something was going on. I knew she was jealous when I had some friends come from out of town and we only had known each other for like 6 weeks and she put me on trial with all the questions.

The worst part about dealing with a jealous person is that jealousy to me is a huge sign of lack of trust so they will never trust you and it will always feel like work trying to get them to rest easy regarding you and to essentially believe you!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
9:36 am

Morning Folks!

My guy is a hugger. He hugs my friends more than I do – but they are always church hugs. I’m with Raqi on the flirtatious touching. I know my intent when I laugh and touch arm, thigh, etc. I’ve never seen it with my guy, but if I did I would first see how he handles it. I would never make a scene though – perhaps tell him after.

I’ve never been involved with an overly jealous man. Some insecurities I can deal with but if a man is overly jealous we would have a problem.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
9:39 am

Three Words Daily – God, then you.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
9:39 am

Morning all –

Haven’t really dated a jealous person. More likely they’ve had moments of insecurity, like we all can.

When I went off to college, the boyfriend I left behind became very jealous. He was upset that I had this whole new life that he wasn’t a part of – me being away from home, living in a dorm, partying when I want…etc. He barely got out of high school and I think he realized that it was his own choices that kept him stuck in L.A. In any case, he begun to show his azz and I realized there were a whole new world of guys that I was now exposed to. Needless to say, I went into the next semester single! :lol:

Since then, jealousy hasn’t been much of a problem with any guy I date. Perhaps because I tend to date guys who are more like me than different. I can’t deal with overly emotional people.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
9:40 am

I just feel that there are pros and cons to each situation for the most part.

I truly believe that a lack of genuine care or concern can lead to insensitivity in relationships. It can get cold and become quite detached.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
9:42 am

Like Raqi – if I am not a tad bit jealous, it means that I really don’t give a sht.

In my relationship with Shthead, he accused me of being insecure. My response to him, “Any level of insecurity that I may display in this relationship is directly proportional to the amount of bullsht that you attempt to tell me is cotton candy.”

I should have walked away at the moment I felt the first twinges of anything that felt like insecurity. (Yes, I am honest enough with myself to recognize it when it appears.) However, it was not time wasted because it was a lesson learned.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
9:52 am

That is exactly what I meant with that statement it keeps you from becoming “detached” at a healthy dosage anything more or extreme will be identified as crazy.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:02 am

he accused me of being insecure

SexyCool yeah, that’s where it can get tricky. And like you said you have to call crap what it is, merely BS.

When are person is accusing you of being insecure just because you have a genuine concern usually means they are crapping all over the place. It’s like if my husband asks me where I am going and I jump on the defense or accuses him of being insecure, well let’s just say I am the guilty one.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:02 am

@Raqi

A man walking through my home, lying in my bed, etc. is disrespecting my property (as in I own it).

Conversely, a man flirting with my girl (and her acceptance of that flirting) is only disrespectful to me in its outcome. Does she give him her number? Cool, let him take you home. Does he buy her a drink? Cool, but acknowledge that you are here with your man so he has to buy him one too (that usually runs the lames off)?

Those two scenario’s are different, one is disrespecting my property, the other is my woman making a conscious decision to disrespect me. I won’t stand for it in either case.

But in the former, me and old dude are going to have a conversation that will get physical. In the latter, her choices have consequences, the least of which is me leaving her with ole dude – respecting the choice she has made.

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
10:02 am

Good Morning All,

Dated a jealous dude? Hmmm I think two. One guy called me what seemed like every hour on the hour, wanted to make sure I was where I said I was. The other well he actually thought something was going on with one of my guy friends so he made drive bys his workplace(to check him out). Neither of those went over well with me. I always think if you looking for something most likely you will find it. Now I can relate to Dan and Blue I am not about to spend time shaking a dude down to see where he is going, wonder why he spent 2mins and 14secs talking to Becky. At 18 maybe at 37 damn that..if he going to cheat he will cheat. Can’t control it.

Off Topic but not really-What’s that new show coming out or is it a movie. The Good Wife? I think that’s right about the political bigwig who slept with the hooker, and the wife is standing by her man.

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
10:04 am

Jealously is ugly and it can definitely get the best of you. I’ve let jealous feelings totally rule my every waking thought and and for a time I thought it was perfectly normal to behave that way. Jealously had me hacking into email acounts, checking text meesages, and listening to saved voicemails. I thankful for close friends and family who told me that my jealousy and antics were extreme.

What all of that taught me is that in order to be in a healthy relationship trust and respect must dwell there. I wasn’t giving the guy I was dating at the time any respect by going through his personal things and I definitely wasn’t trusting our relationship. Jealousy is a cancer and if it goes unchecked it can kill anything that’s thriving. Hey you live and you learn….

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
10:08 am

Like Raqi – if I am not a tad bit jealous, it means that I really don’t give a sht.

….and I cosign this one too. Just a hint is indicative that you care.

This is sexy—->I have been in situations where my than SO would make a comment (not often) and there was a hint of jealousy in the comment and I laughed gave him a peck on the lips and that was it. Cute…funny…the end.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
10:09 am

I guess this somewhat hits a nerve for me because sometimes jealousy is warranted. I can get somewhat jealous sometimes, Scorpios are by nature somewhat jealous. As was mentioned above, jealousy is a function of degree. The question comes from whether the jealousy is warranted or unwarranted, and is it enough to cause issues, etc. It can be a function of being jealous of a person or persons, or it can be jealous of the time being spent that could be spent with one’s significant other. My point is that one size does not fit all.

I have seen times where an SO of mine could not see the motives of another guy, (read ex-husband or ex-boyfriend), get POed at me for getting mildly irritated, then a week or a month later find out that the ex had motives for his “just being friendly”. Sometimes those “innocent” advances aren’t so innocent. I suppose one could say that things must not have been good to begin with if this causes problems and maybe that is so, but who needs more drama entering into a relationship…if you aren’t interested show you are not interested and then point out to your SO that you cut the guy/gal off at the pass.

An aside, my first relationship after my divorce had had a few “encounters” with a co-worker who was obviously your typical “uses people” type. Every time he and I were in a social setting together, the hair on both of our necks would stand up just like two male alpha dogs. He pi$$ed me off and I pi$$ed him off. Even though I got far more than he ever did, I just did not like the guy around because I did not need or want the competition, real or imagined.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:11 am

Dan your relationship is yours to own. No we don’t own our mate’s beings, but the relationship we do. That guy would be disrespecting your relationship.

Let me ask you another this which is a bit off topic, while we truly have no rightful possession, outside of a marriage :wink: , to our mate’s being, would you not defend your mate should a man disrespects her, her body. Or do you look the other way because you know, it ain’t yours, you don’t own it.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:12 am

@Raqi

Your scenario reminded me of another thing.

2 women, 1 man. Dude gets caught cheating and will usually end up with (at least) one of the women. Why? Jealousy, insecurity, and possessiveness. Because the females (usually) are mad at EACH OTHER giving no rational credence the man’s decision until well after the fact.

Grace

September 9th, 2009
10:12 am

that green eyed monster :evil:

good morning!

SeanM

September 9th, 2009
10:15 am

The problem with jealousy is it is a Self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are worried that the person you are with is going to cheat/leave you, and you show out and start doing actions that are detrimental to the relationship, then yes, that person will leave you.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:15 am

Conversely, I do know a few who get a bit irked when their love interest doesn’t show hints of jealousy.

I was with the ex at one his founder day celebrations one year. He was running late for whatever reason and some dudes were talking to me at the bar. They were grabbing dinner and asked if I wanted to join them.

We’ll the ex called and I told him what was going on, he got to the spot real fast after that. :lol: He then proceded to mark his territory when he got there.

He never was a jealous person, and I was grateful for that, but I can’t lie and say that incident wasn’t a little flattering to the ego. I would never set up a situation to intentionally make my guy jealous, but sometimes it’s nice to know that he cares in that way.

Cemeeli

September 9th, 2009
10:16 am

…hey…

…let me comment really quick here…

…my old man giving another female svrl overt “friendly” gestures, NO! I don’t play like that… Yea, try me ‘n get cha wig split!….If me “handlin’ it” is in the same family as “insecure”…then, Your Honor – GUILTY!

By nature we (me) are protectors…so maybe it’s the female tiger gene, where the female tiger protects the pack from ‘predators’…….it’s relative to me…

lol…”i’m an artist and i’m sensitive about my s…”

The flip side of that is, take care of what’s yours, ‘n there shouldn’t be any real “jealousy” issues with a person saying something or tempting to your significant other.

If my old man is easily swayed by flirtatious gestures, and disrespects the relationship because some chic said she likes his cologne <- That’s a compliment to you too!…,especially if it’s the one you bought! Keep it all in perspective…

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
10:17 am

Randyt – “I did not need or want the competition, real or imagined.”

Funny that you mention this, one of my gf’s was telling a friend of hers about some attention that she had received over the weekend. The friend responds with “Oh, if I would have been there, he would have been all over me.”

I was freaking flabbergasted. Seriously, we still doing that sht at damn near 40?!?!? GTFOH…

Melo

September 9th, 2009
10:17 am

hacking into email acounts, checking text meesages, and listening to saved voicemails

Now thats not Jealous,thats S U F F O C A T I O N :lol: :lol:

morning….if u not a tad jealous,u dont care,proly dont luv the person that much….u need jealous,in healthy doses,like the good Proff said……

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
10:18 am

2 women, 1 man. Dude gets caught cheating and will usually end up with (at least) one of the women. Why? Jealousy, insecurity, and possessiveness. Because the females (usually) are mad at EACH OTHER giving no rational credence the man’s decision until well after the fact.<<<<<<<This just needed to be retyped. Ohh and apply it to a dude too. Fellows tend to be more angry with boyfriend #2 until as you say well after the fact. Then he goes oh wait this chica right here..got me.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:23 am

@Raqi

If the relationship is between me and her, only the two of us can choose to disrespect it – not the outside person.

As for her body (and I’d say her feelings too), of course I’mma defend it. Not because I “own” it, but because she’s my gal.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
10:25 am

Cemeeli, welcome!

i really missed u…..

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:25 am

@Melo

Naw bruh, that’s a privacy/security violation. A potentially litigous position.

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
10:30 am

LOL @ Melo! Yeah it was suffocation, jealously, psychotic tendencies, I’d say at the time I was a complete basket case. I chalk it up to being 18 and away at college with a HS sweetheart. That time period was rough….I’m really happy that I went through it though. I learned so many valuable lessons during that time in my life.

In my current relationship people flirt with me and people flirt with him but neither of us give it the time of day. I have to admit that it feels good when I’m in the restaurant alone making a reservation while he parks the car and some guy attempts to make a pass at me. He usually strolls in, casually puts his arm around my waist and kisses my cheek. So smooth… :-)

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:33 am

I don’t give a rat’s azz what anyone thinks of me inviting myself into a conversation where I clearly note a woman becoming too friendly and flirty with my man. Call it what you want but I am a woman myself and I know what have done in the past to get a man’s attention or let him know that I have an interest in him, so I recognize game when I see it. And I will walk up and grab his hand or put my hand on his lower back or subtly touch his butt or inner thigh from behind when see a woman moving in too close.

Reality is there are some in the outside world that will try to move in on yours. Like Cemeeli stated it is what it is.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
10:34 am

If the relationship is between me and her, only the two of us can choose to disrespect it – not the outside person

NAW brah..u WRONG……. a dude that chaffs up my lady when in fact he knows iam the man is dissing me and our relationship,regardless of what my woman does.If he does that while me and lady are tgether and my lady fends him off or lets him know but he insists,trust me,i will talk to him,ready for combat!

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
10:35 am

I have a good friend that was notorious for hacking emails, doing pop ups, driving through guys complex etc. Well we all called her crazy stalker etc., and the one time she listened to us she found herself pregnant by a married man. Hell it took me a minute to stop blaming myself. Part of me felt I should have just let her be and she would not have found out the hard way. That was about seven years ago and all is well, but I felt bad though.

Looking back I would not say she was jealous, just nosey or something.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
10:38 am

Hey Cemeeli!!! Good to see you peeking in.

Raqi – you are a very patient woman.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
10:39 am

@Compelling ~ when people do what your 10:04 states, I’m blown away. For all who said jealously is a wasted emotion I agree. However, for those who say a little in a relationship is warranted or else you don’t care about the person I also agree with. At that point, it’s really just “concern/care” for the person you’re with. Jealousy is an emotion that somehow destroys common sense and usually has you looking like a complete fool. You can’t force someone to love/like/care about you and making a scene and always accusing someone of doing something is not going to make that happen. Jealousy will have you seeing and hearing things that aren’t there!

@SeanM, you’re absolutely correct!

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:41 am

Naw, bruh. You WRONG.

First, you’re assuming the dude knows she has a man;

Second, you’re assuming he knows that is you;

Lastly, you’re assuming that he’s going to persist.

If all your assumptions are true, yeah, he’s disrespecting YOU. If not, he’s disrespecting (or attempting to) your relationship – in which case it’s on your wife or girl.

See, getting mad about stuff like this out of context is how people get the grasses handed to ‘em over little isht

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:42 am

Looking back I would not say she was jealous, just nosey or something.

Professor – Any time I’ve gone “looking” is because I was suspecting he was disrespecting the relationship – being dishonesty, cheating, etc. It was more about confirming suspicions than being jealous.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
10:42 am

I’ve never gone searching for anything (checking emails, voicemails, etc) but one time I did look in a guy’s wallet. Not because I suspected anything but because he left me in the car and I was bored. So I opened his wallet to look at his drivers license – out falls a medical card with his name and a woman’s name (same last name) – the woman that he told me was just the mother of his child.

Glad I was being nosy that day, LOL. I was 19 at the time. Although I found out that bit of information, I never was nosy like that again.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:43 am

Raqi – you are a very patient woman

Tazzee why do you say that?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:46 am

I don’t give a rat’s azz what anyone thinks of me inviting myself into a conversation where I clearly note a woman becoming too friendly and flirty with my man

Raqi – I feel you on that. Especially since your man wears a wedding ring (I assume). Yes, Mason doesn’t have to take the bait, but there are women who will try something just cuz they can and think get away with it.

Their azzes need to be checked.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
10:48 am

@Dan, If the relationship is between me and her, only the two of us can choose to disrespect it – not the outside person. You’re wrong here. 3rd parties disrespect the relationship all the time. If you ignore the disrespect in front on you, you’re the fool. If you wait for her to handle it, you’re still perceived as the fool cuz she’s probably waiting on you to handle it. People disrespect each other daily. A real man and a real woman recognizes it and handles it immediately.

Grace

September 9th, 2009
10:48 am

Jealousy was a mere key component in my past relationship. It was distributed from both ends, when jealousy reared it’s ugly head as hard as it was, I try not lose my cool. I think jealousy is embedded in each of us at a certain extent but how we control it sets us apart. My ex was jealous of everything from phone calls, to the way my passenger seat was set in my car, if it was leaned back he just knew a man was in that seat, he was also jealous of my relationship with my sister. Me on the other hand I was jealous of his relationship with his certain family members and my family. they flocked to him like glue and he always showed his butt off in the process. Non of this type of jealousy resulted in anything harsh, we both recognized it and made changes that would settle things before it got out of control.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
10:49 am

Raqi – your exchange with Dan. You and Foots are very patient when you get into these types of exchanges with the fellas, I would have let it go a while ago.

But then again, I’ve always said impatience is one of my flaws.

Hooksykid

September 9th, 2009
10:49 am

I have to respond to this one. I will say that I am not jealous until I am promted to be so. Women tend not to realize that it is in their nature to be flirtatous because that is there way of building their self esteem. What they fail to realize is that when you are in a relationship you do have to make adjustments and concessions to cater to your mates insecurities if you choose to be involved with that person. I have been in situations where I have brought certain things to my partners attention and her response is that I shouldnt be upset. However, I think that there is a level of respect that you have to afford your partner if you care about their feelings. I am the type of person who will bring it up when it is apparent that they dont realize how there actions can be precieved by another individual. I feel that sometimes women, in their flirtatous moods, are not realizing that they are inviting potential drama into their lives by not realizing how a man is interpreting your actions, innocent or not. They don’t acknowledge that a man is in a better position to realize how another man thinks or interprets a women’s actions. They always tend to believe that they are in total control as long as they can shut it down when they want. However when they invite things into their lives by this behavior and sh-t goes wrong who do they look to for protection. It really trips me out when a woman tells you that you are being jealous when she flirts and tells you that you are wrong for your attitude or reaction, however when you play by her rules and you act like her when you are around women she will react the same way and get mad at you for letting a girl touch you on the shoulder or rub your arm when she is doing the same thing. There is s double standard when it comes to women and jealousy.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:51 am

First, you’re assuming the dude knows she has a man

Dan, Melo is right. What we were initially talking about is when someone openly flirts with your woman and you are standing right there. That is disrespect. If you are standing there while a man is coming at your woman and you nor she not let it be known that she is your woman then yeah that’s you two allowing your relationship to be disrespected. Or relationship don’t really mean that much to either anyway.

Heck how does it have to get before one of you speak up?

Would you let a man walk up and put his hand in your plate of fries and you not say “hey man these are mine”?

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
10:51 am

Also Dan, I may have read wrong, but I thought you were asked if someone flirted or disrespected you in the presence of your woman.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
10:52 am

@Leggs

We’ll have to agree to disagree.

I could give a fugg about the 3rd person (their intent, their attempt, etc), my only concern is with my SO’s reaction to it. All else is perception and this extended sense of “respect”.

And to me that’s being “real” as opposed to territorial.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:52 am

Looking back I would not say she was jealous, just nosey or something.

Professor – I agree. Anytime I’ve gone looking is because I already suspected he was disrespecting me – lying, being dishonest, cheating. And my heightened attention was for me to find proof of my suspicions.

Nothing to do with jealousy.

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
10:52 am

@ Leggs- Trust me, that behavior blew me away. I totally agree with you though, I felt out of control and I know I looked crazy on occasion. Now I realize that it’s just not worth it. I didn’t gain one thing from doing all that I did, except a valuable lesson learned. I look back on it now and laugh because I was doing some crazy ish.

@ Tazzee- Did you leave that guy? Or confront him about it?

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:53 am

LOL Tazzee. Sometimes I don’t bother, but I like to state my views at other times.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
10:54 am

What’s wrong with being territorial?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:55 am

Raqi – your exchange with Dan. You and Foots are very patient when you get into these types of exchanges with the fellas, I would have let it go a while ago.

:lol: :idea:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:56 am

but there are women who will try something just cuz they can and think get away with it.

Amazon and a lot of those outsiders have succeeded in there efforts with other attached. So a wedding band means nothing to them.

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
10:56 am

Jealous people usually come in two varieties – those who don’t think that they can get another mate, whether it be for physical, financial, or emotional reasons; and those that know in their own hearts that they can’t be trusted.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
10:58 am

I may have read wrong, but I thought you were asked if someone flirted or disrespected you in the presence of your woman

Leggs,neva mind! :lol:

hes gonna wait and watch his woman’s reaction…..

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
10:59 am

What’s wrong with being territorial?

Not a damn thang. I will cut a bytch. LOL

But seriously SexyCool you know what really matter is whether it is or not one sided. There is no way I will as I am with a man who don’t give a you-know-what on his end.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
10:59 am

Amazon and a lot of those outsiders have succeeded in there efforts with other attached. So a wedding band means nothing to them.

Raqi – Exactly. I was talking to a newly married friend the other day, who claimed the ring was like a magnet.

For me it’s always been a repellant. :lol:

So these women are out there trying folks just because they can get away with it. There need to be more women willing to step up and let them know such behavior is not acceptable.

“Close your legs to married men!” :lol: – NeNe.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:00 am

@Raqi

You’re right, I’ll just lift my leg and pee in a circle around her….not being entirely facetious, but that’s what this sounds like to me.

But again, the analogy don’t hold. My possession vs. a person choosing to be with me. My gal ain’t chattel. She’s free to come and go as she pleases.

Now, the ring, the vows, and the potential losses in a divorce changes all that. ‘Member: “I’m single til I’m married”, that’s how I apply that statement.

Cemeeli

September 9th, 2009
11:01 am

Lol @ Melo – Missed you too. How’s the Queen, your lil princesses/prince zulu doing?

@ Tazzee Mae – Hey Miss Lady!

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
11:03 am

LOL @ Amazon! Nene is such a clown sometimes! I forgot who had a tagline on here last week that said “who gon check me boo?” I was laughin’ so hard at my desk.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
11:03 am

Raqi – You know you my folk, right? LOL.

I just asked the question about territorial because, well, hell, the United States protects it borders. Shouldn’t you give some attention to the boundaries in your relationship as well?

That’s all I’m saying.

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
11:04 am

But maybe I am reading this wrong but if a woman succeeds in getting a man to respond to her advances.(married, dating or whateva) Is the woman at fault for making the advance, or is the guy at fault for following it? If a dude pushes up on a woman and he gets her number, is it the dudes fault for asking for the number or the woman’s fault for giving it?

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:05 am

See, Mytwocents,girl,u got a helluva of a psycho talent..i hadnt even seen that about Dan.

Time for u to sit his azz down 4 that psycho class on “feelings and perceptions in relatiosnhips” coz he be single 4 long time if he dont pass. :lol: :lol:

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
11:06 am

@Blue I like your last post. Makes sense to me.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:06 am

I’m not being argumentative, I just don’t get it.

To me the proposition of defending her from other men approaching her is on the same scale of jealousy that leads to the “don’t look at another dude”.

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:08 am

Jealousy is a lack of trust! Never been the one to check voicemail, email, text messages etc ,but if my man wanted to check mine, I would be all for it cause I am secure in mine & if he feels the need to satisfy his curiosity, who am I to make an issue out of something so trivial? My man has to be the type of man that RESPECTS me, my feelings & trust me & the decisions I make in order for us to work. Having a relationship with a person who is jealous is an energy drainer..

Some people flirt with other people to get a reaction out of their mate.. CHILDISH!! Starting unnecessary drama for ????

Kolla- I agree!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:09 am

I think Dan is the kinda guy who lets robbers try their luck breaking his house while hes there watching them coz Brinks pple have told him his alarm system is off da chain! :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:10 am

@Raqi

My question to you: if I’m being approached by a woman isn’t ultimately MY choice to act (read: cheat/disrespect our relationship)?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:10 am

I forgot who had a tagline on here last week that said “who gon check me boo?” I was laughin’ so hard at my desk.

:lol: @ Compelling. I know that was a tagline of mine a couple of weeks ago.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
11:10 am

Morning beautiful blog people!

I have not had much experience with overly jealous dudes, but whenever I sensed it coming, I got ghost. One in particular comes to mind – he got very jealous a few times when we went out for a nice evening and were dressed up. I got many compliments (polite, not disrespectful) from men. He could not take it. A few months after we started dating I began work on my MBA. He would comment all the time about my “future earning potential” and how soon I would be making more money than him AND that I would be coming in contact with THOSE kind of people – you know, successful guys! He was doing well in his career and I told him he had nothing to feel insecure about, BUT – all this whining turned me off! Confidence is sexy as H to me! Yes, I agree with others that a little jealousy (or concern) is warranted in a loving relationship! Absent of any can be VERY COLD and I have been there too.

I’ve actually been accused of being a little TOO confident. It just takes quite a lot for me to be jealous. Before I become jealous, I usually feel DISRESPECTED and then you get kicked to the curb. But I just don’t waste time with jealousy. I want what is meant for ME. There is always going to be somebody prettier, richer, smarter, got a finer man, etc. I can’t waste time coveting what is not meant for me! Plus, everything that glitters is not gold! If dude wants some other chick, more power to him – please go. Not saying I would not be hurt, but what good is being jealous going to do for me?

Now please don’t try to MAKE me jealous. You will only make me MAD. You will be wasting your time!

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
11:10 am

Compelling – I didn’t need to really. When he got back in the car, I asked him about it and he went off about me snooping and other stuff. And how he couldn’t be with me if I didn’t trust him :lol: I was laughing the entire time because I really wasn’t looking for anything.

SCool – Nothing wrong with being territorial. It may not be obvious, but we all have ways of letting others know what’s up.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
11:11 am

SexyCool my son’s father gave him a dog a few years back and it was a Shih Tzu. Those dogs are very territorial. They are well known for marking their territory. I remember the first week we had her she peed around the entire border of the house. If a dog knows to mark its territory to ward off intruding bytches then what is wrong with us two leggers doing the same.

And Dan once a person chooses and commits to be with you they are yours and you theirs. Your mate. Your partner. Your boo. Yours exclusively for none others to strum.

But hey that’s just me.

Okay Tazzee I am leaving it alone now. LOL

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:11 am

@Melo

Hahahahaha

Dan is the type to let them try their luck with my aim and my .45. But again, those are my possessions.

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:12 am

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
11:13 am

If a dude/chick falls prey to advances, it’s because they wanted to. We all know a dude/chick is wrong for going after someone’s else mate/spouse but it’s the already the taken person’s job to stand tall and say no. They got gotten because they allowed it to happen.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:13 am

is it the dudes fault for asking for the number or the woman’s fault for giving it?

nobody is at fault coz these are 2 consenting adults……

if the woman is married,she at “fault” unless if she is checking out of it.
if the guy knows the woman is married,hes biaatch and shes a Queen biaatch!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:13 am

To me the proposition of defending her from other men approaching her

:| reading is fundamental.

Tazzee, please keep me from falling down the rabbit hole today. :lol:

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
11:16 am

Kimmie “Confidence is sexy as H to me!”

Double co-signs, ^5’s all around AND 3 snaps up (in recognition of this past weekend’s Pride activities…LOL)

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
11:16 am

The discussion was not on whether or not the attached one takes the bait or not, that’s a whole other Oprah. But on the disrespect from the outsiders. Hell just because my husband denies another woman’s advances does not make her actions less disrespectful knowing he is married. And even worse trying to do so in my presence.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:18 am

it’s the already the taken person’s job to stand tall and say no

Ms. Main – That has been established.

The question is what happens when it becomes clear your mate is taken, yet the person continues to flirt like he/she is available. Do you always lean on your mate to do the dirty work while you watch from across the room? Or do you go up and make your presence known?

Heck, even wingmen exist for a reason. :lol:

There is jealousy, but there is disrespect too. I can handle telling a man I’m not interested or available. I can even get ignorant with it, but I have no problem with my man stepping in and letting the person know that I’m with him.

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
11:18 am

@ Tazzee- HAHA! Classic…tried to flip it on you. :-)

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
11:19 am

nobody is at fault coz these are 2 consenting adults……

Melo – You’re right, they each will just have to deal with the consequences of their actions, whatever they may be!LOL!!

Amred – NeNe’s “close” statement is priceless!!LOL!!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:19 am

Raqi summed it up in her 11:16 before I could!

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:20 am

Sexy- (in recognition of this past weekend’s Pride activities…LOL) :lol: :lol: :lol: Heard Lenox Mall was off the HOOK :???:

Raqi- I AGREE!! There are a TON of chicks that LOVE to date unavailable men.. Turns my tummy

abc

September 9th, 2009
11:20 am

In my experience, if you feel little or no jealousy at all, you probably don’t care that much about the other person. It’s a matter of degree. If you care about them, there’s going to be a line that you won’t allow crossing. For some it’s “friendly and flirty”. For others, it’d have to be carrying on affairs.

I’ve felt no jealousy in past relationships, and I attribute it to not caring that much — maybe I didn’t care enough. I would be a lot more jealous now, but I have a very large amount of trust in her. Trust is a critical ingredient for temperance of jealousy.

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
11:21 am

Perhaps this back and forth is all one big misunderstanding…

Example – I told this guy that I was in a relationship. After knowing this – he sent me a text early one morning that said “Good Morning Beautiful” – that was disrespectful and I let him know that. I shut that down on impact and my guy never even knew about it. To ignore it would be to let dude know that was OK and I’m sure he would have done it again…unacceptable if you ask me.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
11:21 am

@Dan, ok, let’s agree to disagree. What’s sad is you’re more concern about her reaction, hell, what about yours???? Again, you’re wrong, because although you want to look at this as being one dimensional, best believe it’s not!

@Melo, I know!!!

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:25 am

Jealousy- the opposite side of the Pride coin.

But hey, y’all rock wit it!

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
11:25 am

Tazzee your 11:21, EXACTLY.

Cemeeli

September 9th, 2009
11:26 am

…”if you feel little or no jealousy at all, you probably don’t care that much about the other person. It’s a matter of degree.”

Ok!

@ abc – still the same. lol …waving

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:29 am

Ill tell u this ladies,if u check a guy about some lady that hes flirting with or vice versa and he says ‘naw,u insecure”,hes running game.

U dont douse a potential problem by attacking the other person or highlight perceived “insecurities”. That is a classic playa tactic,to make her look vulnerable and weak.
U explain the situation to her satisfaction,wrong or right….

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
11:30 am

Dan how about we try it this way:

Example 1 you are at a dance or club or whateva, and you are dancing with your lady and a guy comes up behind her and grabs her bottom..she screams..Your reaction?

Example 2..Same club or dance..guy comes up behind your woman whispers something in her ear and she giggles..Your reaction?

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:31 am

Melo- I AGREE!!!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:32 am

“Good Morning Beautiful”

thats what we guys do Tazzee,we press a lil harder,just in case she fronting but she want some.

But u right,in that case,its on u to put out the “not welcome” sign.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:33 am

Ill tell u this ladies,if u check a guy about some lady that hes flirting with or vice versa and he says ‘naw,u insecure”,hes running game.

melo – Agreed. Just another Jedi Mind trick.

Any guy who brings up the insecure word in my presence is gonna get the side eye. I’m not emotionally needed or a cling bot, so he’ll have a lot of rope to begin with.

Hooksykid

September 9th, 2009
11:33 am

A women will justify checking another women for how she interprets another womens intentions in regards to her man. However, some women feel that men are just being jealous and crazy. In most cases we are simply trying to get them to realize that we are not trying to subdue their personalities, but to let you know that if the shoe was on the other foot you would probably trip. I have found out that the women who say that they wouldn’t get jealous or trip out if the roles of flirting were reversed are the one’s that have men smart enough to know that they would. The men are just protecting their feelings, by not flirting, because they do care enough about their women not to subject them to things they know they really can’t handle. In closing, instead of looking at your man like he is crazy why not learn some humility. If he means something to you ask him what makes him that way and really listen. Look at yourself objectively and figure out if there is any truth to it. Dont be the one that loses something good becasue you can’t make compromises with yourself for the greater good

Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09

September 9th, 2009
11:33 am

Kym

Example 1 – he’s getting his skull cracked
Example 2 – she’s getting her skulk cracked

:lol:

But I think the back and forth is more about if, in Example 2, she doesn’t giggle. I still think she should do something in that instance. If a chick whispered in my guy’s ear and it’s apparent we are together, Imma need him to do something to let her know that act was unacceptable.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:34 am

@Kym

Example 1 (answer): right cross to the left eye, followed by left jab, followed by right uppercut to start;

Example 2 (answer): to remove myself and let them talk to start, and then, potentially, to let her get a ride home from ole dude.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
11:37 am

ARed If we’re out and about and it gets ugly or my man just wants to flex his I’m your man muscles, I’m flattered and glad to have him there but ultimately if you’re the receiver of said advances, who can make them go away better than you? Additionally, you’re talking the scenario of advances happening in the presence of the both of you….more often than not, it’s not going to go down like that all the time. Frankly, I have yet to have someone be overtly flirtatious in the presence of my SO. I’ve had eyes thrown my way, looks, sly nods, hand waves over the are…all while they’re with their SO and I simply look away, making it clear that I’m not with that.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:37 am

Example 1 – he’s getting his skull cracked
Example 2 – she’s getting her skull cracked

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Tazzee’s got a little fire in her!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:39 am

who can make them go away better than you?

Ms Main…honestly I think it depends. Some times my man will say it better than I ever could.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
11:39 am

right cross to the left eye, followed by left jab, followed by right uppercut to start;

Dan would that be because he put his in hand in your plate of fries? LOL

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:40 am

@Ms. Main

Is that responsibility for your (re)actions I read there?

The crowd goes wild!!!! {applause}

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
11:41 am

I agree with abc on this issue. The times I feel no jealousy when lady gets hit on tells me I am not feeling what I should be feeling. On the other hand, wild jealousy and inventing problems/scenarios is something else entirely. As abc and I said earlier, it is all in the degree. Some jealousy is self protection. It is what it is.

I remember the lines of a song that said:

“I see the way men look at you when they think I don’t see,
and it hurts to have them think that you’re that kind,
but its knowing that you’re looking back that’s really killing me
Woman, Woman, have you got cheating on your mind, on your mind?”

Insecure, maybe sometimes.

Kym -Wooosahhhhhh!!! in your face!

September 9th, 2009
11:41 am

I gave those examples because I witnessed both at a club in Vegas. Dude in 1 got tossed out the club..Ladies boyfriend did defend her honor. Dude in 2 looked at his girl or date like “Who was that and she just shrugged her shoulders and kept dancing.” Dude was looking at her like WTH?? Not sure what happen with that.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:42 am

@Raqi

Nope, her reaction. Any unwanted physical touch to a female is not something I stand for, least of all in my presence. With me or not.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
11:43 am

Dan I think it just depends. If it gets ugly and out of hand, then yeah, thank God my SO is there. For subtle, just checking to see how you roll kinds of advances can be easily squashed.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
11:43 am

@ Hooksykid

Good post.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
11:44 am

@Raqi, I thought the same thing, because he “touched” her he responded. Example 2 she’s fending for herself cuz she giggled. Different degrees of disrespect. She didn’t do anything to warrant the first one, and the fact that she liked the second one has him thinking, chick just laughed in my face. I’m bouncing!

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
11:46 am

I ain’t touching the “getting touched” issue….we all know that a major foul. Whatever goes down from that is probably deserved. Whether he checked or she giggled and got checked.

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:46 am

Raqi & Leggs- That is what it reads like to me.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:46 am

@Raqi, I thought the same thing, because he “touched” her he responded.

A guy tried to touch me one night when the guy and I took some of his friends from out of town out to a club. He saw the guy grab for me before I even saw it. He almost got his azz tossed out the way he jumped up on dude.

Definitely an issue of respect over jealousy.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:47 am

:lol: :lol: :lol: @ plate of fries.

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
11:49 am

Kym, Lioness I keeps it plain and simple; and that and more valuable info can be found in my book.

Kym, those were some helluva examples. I agree with Tazzee on the verdicts, but only on the punishment for Example #1. But since Blue don’t get physical with chicks, there will be no “crackin’” some broads head… but she will be hit with the mental beatdown – meanin’, I’m gon’ keep gettin’ the booty and other favors, while not telling her that the position of “Main” is now open to new applicants.

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
11:49 am

Nothing is funny when a man touches a woman in a disrespectful manner.. I don’t even like my man or anyone I am dating to put their hand on or in my azz while we are out!..

Dan- If the chick slapped the dude instead of giggled, what would you have done then?

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
11:52 am

Probably high fived her. (J/K).

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
11:54 am

I googled “controll issues in relationships” on google news and found this thread …

I am the jealous type, the type that hacks into email accounts etc. When I do hack into an account though, you’d be amazed what one finds. Such as wow the eve of my bday night when she came back in the morning and said she just slipped out to the pharmacy she’d actually left hours earlier whilst I was asleep and chose to go get it on at some dude’s hotel room.

Where there’s smoke there’s probably fire. Does it mean it’s cool to hack into other peoples account etc, hell nah. Cuz trust me when u go looking for dirt and you find it, you only feel worse.

I think most hit the nail on the head by saying you can’t CONTROL others, free will sucks yo. I guess what I’m trying to say with all this rambling is that sometimes jealousy is just an indication that your parameters for choosing a partner isn’t working well for you. Maybe you’re the type that goes for the prettiest girl in the room, or hooks up with the girl most likely to give u nookie on your first date. Maybe u would be happier and more secure if you’d stuck with the nerdy looking chic at the drug store that adores you. Bottom line if you find yourself always feeling jealous/insecure around your partner, perharps it’s time to exercise your own free will and walk away from the situation.

I walked away but continue to struggle with trust issues ( i still cant resist going for the prettiest girl in the room even if we have nothing in common ). My ex hooked up with boy friend number 2 and based on information i gleaned from hacked accounts, they seem happy despite cheating on each other. Both just seem mature and secure in themselves to allow the other person to dip every now and then. I wish I could be like them, I wish I could accept monogamy ain’t natural.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:54 am

@Ms. Main

Your scenario is what happens most often. Unless the 3rd party has sized up and decided that ole boy ain’t isht, cats rarely approach a female within 5ft of a dude. Let alone when they are obviously together.

@Raqi (too)

My thought is that I have to trust her to be on her issue about us, because we’re not going to always be in the same place, at the same time; and as stated, there are a hardly (maybe 1%) of dudes that would approach a woman that is obviously with me.

Just don’t happen like that

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
11:56 am

Leggs Right. It’s a no-brainer that if a person in a relationship welcomes or receives advances from an outsider they obviously don’t give a care about that relationship. But Dan seems to view disrespect from outsiders based on the reaction of his woman. It’s like if she doesn’t care then he doesn’t either.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
11:56 am

Her: “i’m just touchy feely when I talk to people”

Me: “well don’t touch me anymore” (while thinking to myself”you think im buying this crap”)

Melo

September 9th, 2009
11:57 am

I don’t even like my man or anyone I am dating to put their hand on or in my azz while we are out!..

Lioness,whaaaat???…..actually thats what i do, classic me…

when i know my Queen is rocking those jeans that bring out her azz and we out stepping on the town, i know men’s eyes when they see azz like that,so,in their presence and seemingly like i aint seeing them, i pinch and squeeze her azz with my right hand,pulling her my way like that…..

not jealous reallly but kinda like,
“yeah, im smashing this azz right here u eyeing, everyday!” :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:57 am

@Lioness

Stood between him and her to affect ole dude’s response.

And trust, few want it with the D.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
11:58 am

Some women want you to think that if they dont care about a mans advances you shouldnt either..I am totally onboard with hooksyde’s posts today

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
11:58 am

Blue_Kolla,

[But since Blue don’t get physical with chicks, there will be no “crackin’” some broads head… but she will be hit with the mental beatdown - meanin’, I’m gon’ keep gettin’ the booty and other favors, while not telling her that the position of “Main” is now open to new applicants.]

I tried that … only no matter how many new applicants you entertain, if you’re the jealous type you’ll still wonder where you rank on her list … also what happens when she asks for a favor, like pick up my laundry, won’t we do dinner tonight … a part of you wants to scream, why not go ask some other dude on your list to go do that for you

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
11:58 am

Lioness I don’t even like my man or anyone I am dating to put their hand on or in my azz while we are out!..

That’s in my book as well, courtesy of my Pops. But I’ll admit, if no one can see, I’ve been known to place a quick, playful tap on an azz from time to time.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
11:59 am

Her: “i’m just touchy feely when I talk to people”

W8 – I can be that way too, down to playful hits on the shoulder or legs. I’m trying to stop that! :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
11:59 am

@Raqi (11:56)

Exactly.

And her reaction tells me that she doesn’t care, giving me license to do the same. Why protect someone (thing) that doesn’t want to be protected?

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:00 pm

Melo- :neutral: Do you Boo!

Dan- :lol: :lol: :lol:

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:02 pm

Kolla- Exactly!! I am fine with that! I view it as a form of disrespect.. Ownership, just like what Melo said

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:02 pm

@Taliq

Picking up laundry is a boyfriend responsibility. If she’s shown that that’s not what I am to her, then I don’t do it.

“..gotta be willing to walk away from [it], when the heat is on” <– DeNiro’s character in Heat

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:03 pm

Ared- Are you like that ONLY like that with the people you date or with any dude?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:03 pm

I guess what I’m trying to say with all this rambling is that sometimes jealousy is just an indication that your parameters for choosing a partner isn’t working well for you.

Hmm…interesting perspective, Taliq

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:05 pm

Ared- Are you like that ONLY like that with the people you date or with any dude?

Lioness – Not with trolls, and not solely with the folks I date. I guess within “flirt mode.”

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:06 pm

Long story short…after my post yesterday and reading the responses and today’s post. I see I am not the only one who thinks the way that I do. It’s not a jealousy thing but it’s a respect thing..I am who I am and I am not trying to change a grown person. A woman can do what she wants…it’s my choice if I decide to hang around and deal with or find someone who has the same value of respect that I do for them.

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:06 pm

Ared- :lol: :lol: @ trolls!
Were you that way with your girlfriend’s BF that hit on you?

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:08 pm

One last question Dan. If you found out one of your boys was trying to get with your woman, will you only feel like he is disrespecting your relationship if she refuses him?

Or do you dismiss his disrespectfullness to you if she in facts accepts his advance.

Yes she is wrong also but that’s not what I’ve been asking you all morning. Can you not gage disrespect from others outside of the reaction from your girl?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:08 pm

Were you that way with your girlfriend’s BF that hit on you?Were you that way with your girlfriend’s BF that hit on you?

No. Like I said married/unavailable men are repellants to me. The women who openly flirt with unavailable dudes look silly azz hell. And you know I’ve got an ego. :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:08 pm

@W8

Not just has [value of respect], but demostrates it.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:09 pm

as wow the eve of my bday night when she came back in the morning and said she just slipped out to the pharmacy she’d actually left hours earlier whilst I was asleep and chose to go get it on at some dude’s hotel room

i almost thoght u are a woman!

:lol: :lol: on ur birthday?????? yeah,it maybe that u choose those types like u said.

or,u aint putting it down like that…..how did u perform,BIRTHDAY NITE????
or u date nephos,too much sexual apetite 4 u…….poor guy

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:09 pm

Dan,

“..gotta be willing to walk away from [it], when the heat is on”

I concur but sometimes it ain’t easy to accept that the other person doesn’t value u as much as u do them … it took several attempts for me to walk away from my ex, and every now and then i find my mind wondering whilst having sex with another chic whether someone is making my ex moan too

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:10 pm

Taliq I tried that … only no matter how many new applicants you entertain, if you’re the jealous type you’ll still wonder where you rank on her list … also what happens when she asks for a favor, like pick up my laundry, won’t we do dinner tonight … a part of you wants to scream, why not go ask some other dude on your list to go do that for you

Ha?! First off, you shouldn’t be jealous anyway. Either the broad wants you or not, and if not the why do you really give a dizzam. You don’t put all your energy into some broad, pickin’ up laundry, worrying about dinner, blah blah… when you ain’t the solo star in her movie.

And what’s this idea of “where you rank on her list?” Dude you’re already dead-n-stankin’ 2 seconds after you succumb to that line of reasoning. You might as well throw dirt on yourself.

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
12:10 pm

I dont get why women dont want they dude to touch on them. its not making you look like a hoe, its making you look LOVED! Accept that public rub down ladies

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:12 pm

LOL ARed that was me with that tagline “who gon check me, boo?”. lmao. after i watch the show tomorrow night i may have yet another witty tagline but the “who gon check me, boo?” is a classic. a few of my friends are thinking of being the atl housewives for halloween! lol

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

I’m gon’ keep gettin’ the booty and other favors, while not telling her that the position of “Main” is now open to new applicants.

B_K – Thank you for your honesty. However, wouldn’t it be more productive to just break up with her? Sounds like your method is only going to lead to more drama down the line.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

I dont get why women dont want they dude to touch on them.

LOL aggwit you know we are not talking about that.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

@Taliq

“Who’s making love to yo [ex] old lady” shouldn’t really concern you bruh.

Truthfully, she prolly knows you still got feelings and may drain you dry of them (and money/time/etc.) just because.

Gotta let go her homie. Got to

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:13 pm

@Dan- True it has to be demonstrated also

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:14 pm

Ared- Cool Beans :)

TAliq- I concur but sometimes it ain’t easy to accept that the other person doesn’t value u as much as u do them … it took several attempts for me to walk away from my ex, and every now and then i find my mind wondering whilst having sex with another chic whether someone is making my ex moan too<– Glad you are being honest BUT that sounds a bit Coo Coo!!
Did you cheat on her or do her worng to make you feel the way you do?

Kolla- LMAO!!!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:15 pm

Page – Being the housewives for halloween would be funny. :lol:

I’m back in town for a week or so, we need to go get that Mexican food (unless you went without me! :evil: )

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:15 pm

LOL aggwit you know we are not talking about that

Raqi,thats what Lioness said.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
12:16 pm

Which one of you male friends will be Ne Ne?

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:16 pm

Aag- its not making you look like a hoe, its making you look LOVED<– Really?? Fine line maybe but I rather BE loved than look loved ;)

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:17 pm

If a woman puts you in a position to be jealous to the point of anger and acting out…she was never really “your” woman in the first place….she just exposed herself…

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:17 pm

No Melo Lioness I think said while doing to do but aggwit ended his statement with “Accept that public rub down ladies”.

Two totally different things going on there.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:17 pm

I dont get why women dont want they dude to touch on them

aggwitt,if a chic does or expresses that to u while u out and about,she is dble or triple dating,she not urs….. shes a playa

Lioness-

September 9th, 2009
12:18 pm

Correction: FEEL loved than look loved

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:18 pm

I am sorry Melo I misread. They are talking about the same thing.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:19 pm

Melo- You go left field with stuff sometimes.. My man will KNOW that is NOT the case..

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:20 pm

Melo,
“how did u perform,BIRTHDAY NITE????”
Terribly … I knew what went down on the eve of my bday … had sex numerous times with her on my bday despite her complaints of being tired … told her i knew about her indescretions the next day and broke it off … a week later i went crawling back to her cuz i couldnt stop thinking bout her and she accepted me with open arms

“or u date nephos,too much sexual apetite 4 u…….poor guy”

lol, she wasn’t a nepho and if I’m being honest I think I cheated way more than she did. Though I started amping up my numbers after i suspected she was dipping too. I went into I’m dipping every chance I get mode once i found out about the bday incident. I stuck it out for a while mostly cuz the sex was great and i figured the next chic was just as likely to cheat. In the end I broke it off cuz I realised we were just hurting each other.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:20 pm

Accept that public rub down ladies

aggwit – Sometimes it becomes old and loses meaning. When I’m out solo or with my girls, a lot of guys try to cop a feel. Not like I mind if my man does it, but it has definitely lost meaning. Besides, I think that public groping looks kind of tacky.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:21 pm

Leggs, i’ll have to find a dude to be NeNe. I think i’m gonna be DeShawn, even though she is not on the show anymore lol. I’m too short to be Lisa and i don’t wanna be sheree or kandi lol.

ARed- i may hook up a little something next weekend. when do u leave again?

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:21 pm

Lioness,where is it aceptable to u, for ur man to touch u in public???

i appreciate ur answer .

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:22 pm

halloween…I will be at “The World’s largest Cocktail Party”..that’s right the UGA vs UF game…and getting niccce at the Jacksonville Landing afterwards……”I don’t wear tight jeans like the white boys…but I get wasted like the white boys……”

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:22 pm

Taliq and every now and then i find my mind wondering whilst having sex with another chic whether someone is making my ex moan too

You’ve got it bad dude. This must be the only woman that you’ve made mad passionate love to… read, fugged good.

1. Why are you worrying about some other dude knockin’ your ex’s back out, when you should be concentrating on giving your present the Multi-O vitamin?

2. Let’s be conservative and say that you’ve got 5 ex’s that since you each have slept with 2 dudes. That’s potentially 10 headaches that you now have to worry about, each of which you have zero control over.

Conclusion: Your ex has the best P that you’ve ever had, and you don’t think that you’ll ever get any more Grade A CatBox, so you trip out on the daily, calling her by the minute asking if you can be Steak Dinner Daddy tonight, in hopes of standing in line before Blue, DuWayne, Paul, and any other random dude on her “He Can Git It” List.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:23 pm

Dan,

“Gotta let go her homie. Got to”

I did … it was hard and truth be told if she made a serious effort to get back together i’d probably yield … but just like i walked away cuz i realized i couldn’t be with a HO even if i am one … she said she couldnt stand being with a hypocritical control freak …

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:23 pm

Great sex will sometimes keep you in a bad relationship…..it clouds your vision at times

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:24 pm

@Lioness

That’s about the only “territory” marking that I’m likely to do (the public booty rub).

But then, it’s not my fault. Y’all like to wear them jeans sometimes that {Homer Simpson drool}

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:24 pm

ARed- i may hook up a little something next weekend. when do u leave again?

Page – Shucks. This weekend is the only weekend that I’m in town in September.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:25 pm

halloween…I will be at “The World’s largest C*cktail Party”..that’s right the UGA vs UF game…and getting niccce at the Jacksonville Landing afterwards……”I don’t wear tight jeans like the white boys…but I get waisted like the white boys……”

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:26 pm

i realized i couldn’t be with a HO even if i am one … she said she couldnt stand being with a hypocritical control freak …

:lol:

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:26 pm

Melo- If he wants to have his hands on me, my waist is fine or hold my hand.. Never been into hands on my tail in public.. I feel the same about tongue kissing in public too

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:27 pm

Taliq,thanx but ummmmm,

ur situation dont really apply to what we discussing coz for u 2,its just a case of 2 hoes phlucking each other!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:28 pm

Lioness arent you short?..it will be kinda hard for a guy to put his hands on your waist…he should just rest his elbow on your shoulder or something..lol..thats what i do when I am around short women

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
12:29 pm

Lioness, feel loved. Thats what we trying to do. make you FEEL loved. a lil booty rub here a thigh touch there. Not no obvoius insane high school groping, just a lil touch to let you know “hey baby, I got you, and later tonight, Ima get you” hahaha

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:29 pm

@Melo- you gotta let a hoe be a hoe…but who says hoes are immune to love…hoes gotta eat too

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:30 pm

Ared Thank you for your honesty. However, wouldn’t it be more productive to just break up with her? Sounds like your method is only going to lead to more drama down the line.

Here’s some more honesty for you – While a dude ain’t got a problem with being single and mateless, he does have a problem with being sexless. Where a woman can go without a man or sex for 1, 2, even 3 years… a dude just ain’t tryin’ to roll like that.

Don’t hold it against us, we just ain’t built like yoll…

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:30 pm

I have asked one guys here what was the most extreme instance of jealousy that he has ever experienced and he said when his live-in girlfriend found out he had purchased a gift for a female friend birthday. He said she felt like it should have been a joint decision because she was an associate friend of the woman by way of him. I asked him how do they normally go about buying and giving gifts and he said they decide and she actually does the buying.

hmmm Tricky one.

Now I waiting to ask the next female that walks into my office what is her most memorable instance.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:30 pm

Kolla- Grade A CatBox<– :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Good sex will MAKE a person think you are cheating too.. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:30 pm

Blue_Kolla,
[Conclusion: Your ex has the best P that you’ve ever had, and you don’t think that you’ll ever get any more Grade A CatBox, so you trip out on the daily, calling her by the minute asking if you can be Steak Dinner Daddy tonight, in hopes of standing in line before Blue, DuWayne, Paul, and any other random dude on her “He Can Git It” List.]

Nah I got issues but not that one. I ended a serious “she’s the one imma marry” type relationship after my pops died (hey someone had to pay the price). Afterwards I decided not to get into any serious relationships, hence i tend to go for the pretty girls that’ll kick it just for the fun of it and ain’t looking 4 a prize to take home to mama/poppa. Mistake I made with bday ex is the sex was so good/convenient and she was mostly nice person (except when trust issues got in the way) that i ended up sticking around for almost a year and caught feelings. Or put another way, i tried turning a HO into a house wife.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:31 pm

@Taliq

If she was that good, set up the “benefit” portion of FWB and see if she’ll roll with it.

If not, train another chick

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:31 pm

Ok, ARed, then let me know when you are back next month in October.

W8- LOL i thought you were gonna do Licorice Stick for halloween?

Lioness! LOL @ using the word “tail” instead of butt! lmao

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:32 pm

Never been into hands on my tail in public

waist or hand is really safe,ur male friend is proly allowed to touch u there too….(playas kill me,”oh,hes just my friend and he was ushering me in, thats why he held my waist like that”)…in case another suitor sees u 2! LMAOF

poor catholic girl :lol: :lol: :lol: u need some real luving girl!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:32 pm

While a dude ain’t got a problem with being single and mateless, he does have a problem with being sexless.

B_K – Okay. I just assumed you’d be getting the booty from the new applicants.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:33 pm

Kolla- Where a woman can go without a man or sex for 1, 2, even 3 years<– Who the heck said THIS???

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:33 pm

hoes are immune to love

W8, a hoe getting jealous??? get outa here!

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
12:33 pm

Dan – TRAIN another chick? Seriously?

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:34 pm

some women haven’t had their cobwebs dusted in years.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:34 pm

Melo- Kiss my TAIL :evil: My male friends don’t touch me PERIOD!!

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:34 pm

@BK

Co-sign that (12:30)

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:35 pm

Blue_Kolla,
Where a woman can go without a man or sex for 1, 2, even 3 years… a dude just ain’t tryin’ to roll like that.

And therein lies my problem. My brain keeps screaming dude u need to take a break from sex/dating and either go after the one that got away or let go and look for a serious type relationship cuz despite ya best efforts u obviously want wifey material. My black member keeps telling me dude stop being emotional yo, u single making a good living and get good sex whenever you want. Love can wait, keep messing with these HOs yo.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:36 pm

Taliq- Stop putting your heart between your legs!

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:38 pm

Love can wait, keep messing with these HOs yo.

WOW!!!

Taliq love won’t wait forever.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:38 pm

lol at everyone!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:38 pm

Dan,

“If she was that good, set up the “benefit” portion of FWB and see if she’ll roll with it.”

Yup we tried that … except I had already caught emotions for her … so i kept steady snooping … and in the end i gave up the good nookie for my sanity … it didn’t matter if i cheated 2ce a week and she did it 1ce a month … that 1 time i’d take it worse than she did

it’s like i wanna bone every girl in d world and i want to be the best they ever had … my ego is out of control

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:38 pm

BK and Dan are you married or in a relationship?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:39 pm

Ok, ARed, then let me know when you are back next month in October.

Aw…you’re a sweetie Page!

I was just talking about dinner at that Mexican spot on Old National, tho. I gotta find a way to eat during the week too! :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:39 pm

Any u know of, on the blog Page??

bye for now,

Cobweb duster.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:39 pm

lol @ boning. one dude i know likes to phone bone. No, No!

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

Taliq- Since you are coming clean.. All that you originally posted happed to you Huh??

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

Animals I tell you. Just animals.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

some women haven’t had their cobwebs dusted in years.

:lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

@SC

Yes. Train another chick.

If I like X,Y, and Z (or have gotten that from another lady); it’s incumbent on me to train the next young lady of my sexual likes and dislikes.

Likewise, I expect the same from a woman. I’m not above being trained.

Isn’t this the forum that proudly proclaims “all women aren’t the same?, what you do for one doesn’t work of the other?, etc”. That same logic is applied to my happiness, sexual and otherwise.

Ex: that last dude might’ve been a fan of GS, try that with me and we going to the hospital for what will be a “misunderstanding”.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:40 pm

melo, yes, there are some on the blog, but i don’t think they would be interested in you.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:41 pm

Taliq how old are you?

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:41 pm

@Melo- If one hoe is serving the other hoe…very well..some feelings are going to come up once one hoe sees the other hoe…spending time with a non-hoe…cuz the hoe knows that they could never be a hoe to the other…hoe

@blue- that is right a man can go without a relationship..but he aint trying to go to long without sex

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:41 pm

Ohhh I keep forgetting about the Mexican spot on Old Nat ARed! ok, let me tie a string around my finger as a reminder! lol

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:42 pm

Raqi … I’m 30 and i rarely date anyone over 25 otherwise i end up breaking it off cuz it got serious real quick …

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:43 pm

Ared Okay. I just assumed you’d be getting the booty from the new applicants.

I don’t want to rush the new-Main, so I’m gon’ need anywhere from 90 hours to 90 days from the ex-Main. LOL

Lioness Kolla- Where a woman can go without a man or sex for 1, 2, even 3 years<– Who the heck said THIS???

Some of these blog chicks right here, said THAT. I figured they were lying too, but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. :?

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:43 pm

Lioness, it sounds like i have heard ole dude’s story somewhere before…maybe in a book or something.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:44 pm

I think the longest self imposed sex ban for me was almost two years….i just didnt feel like being bothered

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:44 pm

Lioness,
“Taliq- Since you are coming clean.. All that you originally posted happed to you Huh??”

Not sure what exactly you’re referring to but if you mean cheated on bday eve, yup that happened to me.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:45 pm

@Taliq

Mayne. I feel you on wanting “the One”, but you have to make those decisions according to the female. If she ain’t “One” material, can’t make her be.

@Raqi

Yepper. But somma of us freely admit it. Others hide theirs

@Page

No comment

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
12:45 pm

I forgot to mention this, but I think I shared this one before. As a thirty something woman it amazed the hell out of me when this woman “pretended” that she wanted to hang out with me. Well long story short she spent the entire evening telling me about her “man” (we both knew him), and questioning my relationship as well as others with him. She should have asked him all those questions instead of wasting my time. I could not believe that a grown woman could be so stupid and jealous. It almost got her head cracked because we don’t do that we I come from…I wrote it off as a NY thingy.

Lioness I have been out for a while so I am just reading you today. I am happy to see that you slithered out of the den.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:46 pm

cmeon Page1908,dont say that…

why cut block……hook a brother up,unless if u have personal feelings invested.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:46 pm

@Taliq- you are 30 and you like dating under 25? Them hoes don’t even know they hoes yet…you cant complain about what happens with them..lol

Jamdun Queen

September 9th, 2009
12:47 pm

Need some advice – what if you are married 1 yr and your SO does not want to attend family gatherings but gets jealous if/when you hang out/lean on/ hug your biological brothers

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:47 pm

No comment? ummmmmmmm mkay

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:47 pm

Taliq- it’s like i wanna bone every girl in d world and i want to be the best they ever had … my ego is out of control <– I damn near CHOKED reading THIS nonsense :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: TRUST you WON’T be the best that chick has had UNLESS she is a virgin.. Your ego is gonna get your feelings hurt!

Kolla- :lol: :lol:

Page- ;)

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
12:48 pm

Am I the only one who thought that prfoessor’s 12:45 post was going in an ENTIRELY different direction?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:48 pm

Dan,

[If I like X,Y, and Z (or have gotten that from another lady); it’s incumbent on me to train the next young lady of my sexual likes and dislikes.]

lol so very true

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:49 pm

I don’t want to rush the new-Main, so I’m gon’ need anywhere from 90 hours to 90 days from the ex-Main. LOL

B_K – That’s fair. There is one dude on here talking that he moves on if he doesn’t get the azz in 3 days. :arrow:

And yes, I’m a girl than can go a year or two without having sex. The key is, it’s always available for me when I want it. :lol: So if I go that long, it’s clearly by choice.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
12:52 pm

@Agg

You’re weren’t (I was disappointed too)

@Taliq

W8 is right. at 25 she may just have those ho3ish tendencies and wanna work them out, she may be a ho3 in general. But at 25 they bout don’t know

W8©

September 9th, 2009
12:52 pm

@Jamdun- what problem does he have with you lovin on your brothers…thats different..I never heard of that before

Melo

September 9th, 2009
12:53 pm

what if you are married 1 yr and your SO does not want to attend family gatherings but gets jealous if/when you hang out/lean on/ hug your biological brothers

what are ur ages Jamdun Queen ??

Jamdun Queen

September 9th, 2009
12:54 pm

He is 37 and I am 28

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
12:54 pm

Jamdun, you from West Virginia? If so then your SO probably has reason to be jealous. If not, then what the hell is wrong with your SO

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
12:55 pm

@aggwitt ….stepping back in for a quick moment.

Hmmm I would have thought you were talking about me until I noticed the typo “prfoessor’s”
BTW the conversations on this blog twist, turn, and reverse so anything I write can take on whatever definition or meaning. Would you kindly introduce yourself because I am wondering why you give a F— about what I write?

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:55 pm

Jam what if you are married 1 yr and your SO does not want to attend family gatherings but gets jealous if/when you hang out/lean on/ hug your biological brothers

Your husband has fugged his sister or his cousin. Why else would a dude get his mind blowed out, by his wife hugging her brother, unless he already had some twisted sh!t up in his head?

This is a good time for you to start up your detective agency and dig up some peeps from his childhood so that you can get the facts.

Lioness- Trust is KEY!!

September 9th, 2009
12:55 pm

Lioness I have been out for a while so I am just reading you today. I am happy to see that you slithered out of the den <– Here I am ;)

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
12:57 pm

Jamdun, you from West Virginia?

:lol:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
12:58 pm

Lioness,

“TRUST you WON’T be the best that chick has had UNLESS she is a virgin.. Your ego is gonna get your feelings hurt!”

Yeah I’ve come to accept that getting my feelings hurt is an occupational hazard. If and when I’m ready for a serious relationship again then I should be able to live with the idea that “i might not be the best sex she ever had, and vice versa but we the best fit for each other when u look at all our traits/values” …

Really I just posted cuz I wanted to point out some of us are aware we’re the jealous type, we are aware we’re in unhappy relationships, but still choose to stick it out cuz we getting other things such as sex that cloud our judgement. Personally I believe everyone should be free to bone whomever they want, i believe for some folks monogamy ain’t natural, and i wish i could just see sex as jus being physical and not get too emotional about it. E.g. if someday i got married and the chick’s been perfect for say 10 years, i’d hate to break it up cuz she cheated once and have our kids deal with a broken home. i’d love to think i could be mature about it and go sh*t happens, lets try and make this work. Now if it happens say 5 times in a year then maybe it’s time to call it quits. But 1ce a year? if she does everything else right why not just stick with it. idk.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
12:58 pm

you from West Virginia

I was thinking Tennessee maybe.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
12:59 pm

lmao at typo

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
12:59 pm

Ared B_K – That’s fair. There is one dude on here talking that he moves on if he doesn’t get the azz in 3 days.

Now I might get a little ego jolt if I’m hitting in 3 days, but after that I’m pretty sure that she won’t be the new-Main, but just another sideline.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:00 pm

Jamdun Queen ,hes got a big problem…

could be control issues,seeing u are a young 28 and proly sexxy etc and hes 37…

but that jealous at u hugging bio relatives is a sign of some waaay deeper issues…..
anybody that says they luv u but want/express that luv to be exclusive of ur other extended family must have deep control issues…potentially dangerous to u too.

keep watching that to see if he tempars it down..if not,maybe its not the perfect union ui thoght it wld be.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:00 pm

aggwit I don’t think Professor knows you from way back when… LOL

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
1:01 pm

Professor that got your dander up rather quickly. If you take more than 3 minutes to think about things this would have become clear. My statement regarding your post was not a dig, just an observation. The joint started like a penthouse forum letter. Calm down broad, this is the innanets

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:02 pm

Jamdun is your real name Angelina Jolie?

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:02 pm

lol @ aggwitt and professor.

raqi- yeah aggwitt is an old head blogger lol. hey aggwitt!!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
1:03 pm

I thought it was Kentucky where you married your sister/cousin

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:03 pm

lmao @ aggwitt and “that got your dander up rather quickly”. lmao @ dander.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:03 pm

Yeah Page and she totally took his statement the wrong way.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:04 pm

W8,
[@Taliq- you are 30 and you like dating under 25? Them hoes don’t even know they hoes yet…you cant complain about what happens with them..lol]

I aint complaining … I’m just standing up and going yo I get jealous … I think it’z cuz of my choice in women … I get insecure but around the right chic I don’t think it be an issue cuz they wouldnt give me that many reasons to feel that way … but umm i aint willing to look for the right chic cuz d sex is so good … and oh no matter how good the sex is … i won’t say no to something that could potentially be better and umm despite the fact i’m open to cheating, i get hella jealous when i think d same is happening to me … i try to stick it out for as long as my black member can win d argument of holding unto the cheating chic but eventually i move onto the next cheating chic (usually by promoting one of my sideline hos to my main shawty).

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
1:04 pm

“some women haven’t had their cobwebs dusted in years?” Cobwebs??? What cobwebs need dusting. What’s up???

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:06 pm

Taliq are you from SoCal?

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:06 pm

that got your dander up rather quickly

aggwit that has become quite the norm for some around here since you’ve been gone.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:06 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:06 pm

Jamdun,

are you sure u aint done more than just hugging your relatives? personally i think i’m out there on the jealousy scale … but if the dude knows that’s your brother and freaks out when u hug your own brother … then umm u might be in pyscho terittory

Cobweb duster

September 9th, 2009
1:07 pm

ohhh,sorry,just checking my equiment! :lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:07 pm

An insecure out of control horndog. Can that be considered an oxymoron?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:07 pm

page1908 …

nah ain’t from SoCal though I’m a huge lakers fan.

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
1:08 pm

Raqi I don’t think Professor knows you from way back when… LOL

That, and e’rybody’s gotten a lot more patience. Otherwise they’d be brawlin’ right about now. LOL

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:09 pm

Professor that was interesting.

MR. Unknown

September 9th, 2009
1:09 pm

What up, yall… I see why are not talking about Jealousy no more.. @ Jamdun,, Why are you now just asking for advise? Thats Special Ed type of behavior.. Not good at all.. Thats the type that would kill your whole, because you gave the big piece of chicken to your brother. I don’t know what to tell you on that one… You should have seen them signs alonnng time ago..

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:09 pm

We don’t know each other and I don’t read or write penthouse. As with most people on this blog I just state life exp when I feel a need. So the jealous thingy made me think of that…just how far someone will go as it relates to hanging out with someone she did not know just to get tabs on her man. I actually found it deplorable, because it is not done where I come from. However you sound more familiar with the practice so maybe they do it where you are from…

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:10 pm

ok Taliq because you used the word “hella”. go Lakers!!

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:11 pm

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:11 pm

leggs any cobwebs that haven’t been dusted in years.

Cobweb duster

September 9th, 2009
1:13 pm

Taliq,is a playa and jealousy too…i dont get that….

a playa is about sexx and shld know that sexx is everywhere,so why be jealous?

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
1:13 pm

Are you asking me something, Page, if so, spit it out cuz don’t know what you’re saying?

Jamdun Queen

September 9th, 2009
1:14 pm

This is his third marriage ( my first) so I kinda was letting his previous signs of jealousy slide – truthfully, I thought it was love until he started to say he did not like to associate with folks and then if the boys(my brothers) came over he would go upstairs.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:15 pm

leggs, no bc someone said earlier that women can go 3 years without having sex, so i said….nevermind!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:16 pm

cobweb duster,
“a playa is about sexx and shld know that sexx is everywhere,so why be jealous?”

Cuz I ain’t a playa. I tried to b one mostly out tryna deal with my old mans death … by the time i got over that though i found it hard to let go of my new found love of clubs, liquor n sex … it’s short term happiness at the expense of long term …

guess i just wanna have my cake and eat it too … aint like i’m telling these HOs i’m cheating so why should they cheat on me … ain’t like i dont show em a good time when we together so why shouldn’t they want just me

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
1:17 pm

Professor I understand why you wrote it, I understood what you wrote my response was a JOKE. Dan got it, so did others I am sure. Stop being so obtuse.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
1:17 pm

though I’m a huge lakers fan.

:D

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:18 pm

BlueK I have actually noticed more fights and less patience up in here the past year more than from a couple of years ago.

We used to could debate the issues more back then without the quick “dander” raising. It seems like more now bait to get crap started and some immediately take offense to the simpliest comments.

Maybe it’s just my lingering baby hormones that has me thinking this way. LOL

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:18 pm

then if the boys(my brothers) came over he would go upstairs.

Jamdun Queen,yeah,thats not a good look. I wld neva advise smeone to quit their marriage but u are in a bad spot,considering hes into his third marriage.
Its called ” a man and his ways”

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
1:19 pm

I know what you said, just asked you to define what has cobwebs that needed dusting. Don’t people dust at least weekly? Your sentence stood alone, there was no sexual reference there.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:20 pm

lmao Raqi stop saying “dander” raising, please!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
1:21 pm

People get jealous… Its a fact of life. if youve loved someone youve been jealous of something because you truly cared. Im not big on jealousy but I am big on respect.. I read someone saying dudes complementing her while they were out.. I wouldnt deal with that either cause dudes and suspect chicks can be very disrespectful.. Dude I dont mind you looking but not to much and talking to is a no no.. Why because we’re on our time and all that nonsense youre on will get your face slapped. Dont even come to me with that “Man your girl is looking good tonight” bull because I already know that. And if youre my girl and you cant see where when we’re in a relationship a certain level of respect has to be maintained then your not for me. Honestly if we together I expect all that extra to be shut down and you shouldnt be flirting with anyone.. Being cordial and nice is one thing but flirting.. Nah youre not the girl for me.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
1:21 pm

Jamdun – your dude sounds rather controlling.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:22 pm

Don’t people dust at least weekly?

Leggs well as for me and mine we dust as needed. More like 3 times a week. LOL

Let me stop.

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
1:23 pm

Page – we are >>>here<<< – cause I’m like, “Wow, Really?” ~lmao~

W8©

September 9th, 2009
1:23 pm

@Jamdun- yeah that is kinda odd…even more odd that someone can come into a mans house and he is the one to go upstairs…

Dan

September 9th, 2009
1:23 pm

@Jamdun

I, personally, have a problem with any man that can’t be around other men or look them in their eyes.

Have you checked your husband for the switch? I mean, he might be kinda

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
1:24 pm

Who in dahell says that women can go years without sex? LMAO!!!

Now THAT is funny to ME!!!!

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:24 pm

lmao SexyCool.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:24 pm

The Infamous DK,
Being cordial and nice is one thing but flirting.. Nah youre not the girl for me.

why can’t she flirt … why can’t u rest easy knowing u’re the better choice and if she happens to run into a better fit then bid her good bye … why must u insist that she not shop around unless u’re convinced she’d be quick to find a better deal

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:25 pm

new found love of clubs, liquor n sex ……ain’t like i dont show em a good time when we together so why shouldn’t they want just me

most playas like most of those things u mentioned esp sexx so i dont understand why u think u differnt.

they dont want just u coz u not good at keeping them…u good at attracting them with good times in clubs and all…..
cld be ur ways,ur wang gets tired,the liqor gets stale and the clubs get boring…time for another fixx and out they go! :lol: :lol:

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:25 pm

@aggwitt…maybe you should find someone else to play with I am professor not Mattel. Plus I don’t play with strangers…

@Raqi (if applicable) I do not mind a debate, but I do mind the different standards that are set and broken on this blog. I might be a little irritated post surgery but the “dander” raising and being petty…nada.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:25 pm

Taliq are you serious?

My Sexy is my Cool.

September 9th, 2009
1:26 pm

Page – DANDER!!!

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:27 pm

Now I am positive Professor that you do not know AGGRESIVELY WITTY.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
1:27 pm

@Taliq

Co-sign that 1:24

“If you you got it, git her” <– Dolemite

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:28 pm

LOL SexyCool. To Page “dander” is like saying Mufasa.

SexyCool - It's funny. THIS week, I'm patient.

September 9th, 2009
1:28 pm

AAAAaaaannndddd one more time just because….. DANDER!!!!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:29 pm

Mufasa???

what that mean Raqi??

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:29 pm

Professor which standards are you speaking of?

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:30 pm

@Page it was interesting to see a woman “stoop” that low to check on a man. It made me think, where are we as women in Atlanta? I just thought it was an all time low. Maybe I used the wrong adj for the situation…maybe it was not jealousy…maybe it was stalker, crazy, foolishness…I don’t know. I guess I was thinking w/o SPELLING out all the small points…what would make someone jealous and how low will they go? Is there an off/on valve?

W8©

September 9th, 2009
1:31 pm

@Dan- i did not even think that her husband may be gay…and jealous….jerry springerish…but yet a good point…

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
1:31 pm

Leggs, just in case, the cobwebs that are being referred to are a result of the lack of production of vaginal juices; in other words, female abstinence.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:32 pm

Melo,
[they dont want just u coz u not good at keeping them…u good at attracting them with good times in clubs and all…..
cld be ur ways,ur wang gets tired,the liqor gets stale and the clubs get boring…time for another fixx and out they go!]

true but i can’t change my ways for them HOs, that’d be silly on my part. And I can’t leave the HOs for now cuz I dont wanna let go of all these sexy bodies. And I mean it aint all about sex, i like cuddling, movies etc blah blah too so long as sex is somewhere on the agenda. so i blog about being hurt by these HOs, but tonight imma still holla at shawty and ask if we can touch each other. Tomorrow though imma wonder how many other dudes she’ll let touch her. I’ll wish i could be the only one, but i won’t make an effort to make that happen. I dont think she’s worth it. Someday though she’ll do something that pisses me off, like get to my apartment at 1am even though we said 7pm. I’ll forget i’m supposed to be a playa and i’ll put her out and call her a HO. The next day imma wonder y i let go of that nice piece of booty. Why did i get unnecessarily emotional?

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:34 pm

im looking at a pic of Steve Jobs and dude looks real sick…

im buying another iphone coz u know….

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
1:34 pm

Taliq – First of all youre 30 right.. So you can lose the Yo’s and B’s and converse like a man..

Secondly – I date Grown A$$ women who first off all understand discretion and decency and would never disrespect their relationship in that manner. Theyve seen a little more in life and understand that its not about being flirty for some dude she doesnt know when she has a Man already. Yeah Man I dont deal with boppers or chicks that need to be seen.. I deal with Ladies that already know their worth and dont have to cheapen themselves by smiling in every Tom, Dick and Harry’s face.

Now this is my Lady Im speaking of.. Not a jumpoff.. Yo.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
1:36 pm

@Taliq- You are really keeping it real…atleast you are an Honest Hoe…lmao

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback.

September 9th, 2009
1:37 pm

Cobwebs. Y’all killing me. WOW!!!

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Raqi I am speaking of the blog standards…oops lack of standards. I know I have mentioned this before it is amazing how when certain people say things it is a big deal, and others say similar things or tell outlandish exp., and the blog plays bobble head shaking in agreement with their friends. That is what I meant. I do recognize the fact that I do not write out long posts spelling out all the details which may cause some to wonder, or have questions but that is neither here or there (judgment is always passed , instead of questions being asked).

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
1:38 pm

feeeelinnngggssss someone’s catching feeeeellliinnngggssss

Jamdun Queen

September 9th, 2009
1:39 pm

I forgot to mention that the house we live in was purchased as a gift for me by my family. I am wondering if because of that he feels less of a man – although after we were married i told him we should get one together and he states that was not necessary – just trying to make this work

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:40 pm

Infamous you stated a very good point. When out with your mate that’s you all’s time together. Respect.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:40 pm

@Taliq…interesting, but no comment from me at this time.

Are you Serious

September 9th, 2009
1:41 pm

If you were really up on your game you would just come out and ask her what you want to know. Of course, everyone knows what you’re asking. What’s amusing is you being a stat major and using old data to put out a report without so much as an update in your figures! You get an F for that report!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:41 pm

Raqi,
“Taliq are you serious?”

Yup I speaks the truth. Guess I’m just in search of online therapy. I wish someone would have told me being a playa would hurt so much. I used to beleive in love, these days it’s like a culture practiced in some foreign land.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
1:42 pm

@Taliq

What part of the game is that: “wonder who else she let…”?

I’ve never been the one to care, on top of limiting the one’s to whom that thought would even enter my mind.

I’m not antagonizing, just asking

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
1:42 pm

Sexy- AAAAaaaannndddd one more time just because….. DANDER!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Melo- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Aagg- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:43 pm

the house we live in was purchased as a gift for me by my family

well, there is a whole lot we dont know,right!

i think u got the answer!
hes living in ur family house and proly ur bio relatives show/say it when they visit.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:43 pm

Professor you lost me. I still see how you are talking about standards. People have a right to agree with whomever they agree with. A lot times those that agree pretty have the same line of thinking when it comes to relationships so no matter what the topic they may tend to pretty much agree.

If a person talks the same way that I don’t agree with, in the same direction with every topic then I will probably disagree with them on most topics. How would that be a lack of standards? I don’t get it.

MR. Unknown

September 9th, 2009
1:44 pm

@ Jamdun Queen ,, Seems like you are answering all of your own questions… @ the rest of the blog ya’ll are funny..

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:44 pm

W8,
“@Taliq- You are really keeping it real…atleast you are an Honest Hoe…lmao”

I don’t think there’s any such thing as a honest ho … i’m keeping it real cuz y’all strangers … if i run into one of these females though, best believe imma shed a tear when she tells me how her man cheated on her

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:45 pm

“the house we live in was purchased as a gift for me by my family”

Haha … a 37yr old dude living off his 28yr old wifey … and u wonder y he’s acting all grumpy … that’d definately put me in therapy

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:45 pm

lmao SexyCool. stop! *side eye*

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:45 pm

being a playa would hurt so much

Taliq you aren’t a playa, yousa horndog. LOL

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
1:45 pm

@BlueK ~ thank you, I knew that. I was teasing when I asked about dusting once a week. Raqi knew what I was playing with and answered she dusts at least 3x a week. Slow, I’m not!

Dan

September 9th, 2009
1:46 pm

Ladies:

I present to you “Taliq”.

The actual representation of the “broken hearted nice guy turned dog”.

@Taliq

Unless you “took something” from someone, no woman that has lain with you has done so for any reason other than choice.

We are each responsible for our action (thanks President Obama!) and similar to you choosing to lay with them, they choose to lay with you at the end of the day.

Why be hurt about something you can’t control (read: another person’s choices)?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
1:47 pm

Guess I’m just in search of online therapy

Boo hiss.

Welcome to the asylum.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:47 pm

@Taliq- Wow, I hope everything works out for you. Have you considered taking a break from dating?

A HIT DOG WILL HOLLER…OOPS I MEANT BYTCH WILL HOLLA.

Well gang I am stepping out at 2pm and hopefully I will get back in to read ya’ll this week.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:48 pm

What part of the game is that: “wonder who else she let…”?

Dan Exactly. W(h)ores are who he admits to wanting and chasing, how can he not except what it is a (w) does. She randomly, frequently lets.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:49 pm

Dan,
[What part of the game is that: “wonder who else she let…”?]

That’s the part of me that grew up in a household where 2 people stayed married and seemed to live happily ever after. My values don’t matchup with those of a player, but my black member feels liberated by my player ways. It wants to shoot at the opposite sex, it cares not that my heart gets caught in the crossfire.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:49 pm

some of the things some of uall post here,i wish i cld get a pass to live with uall for jus2 days..just to get up close and personal with the crawwwzy!

i be missing my home cooked collards tho,if i did, dont know if i cld pull it off! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:49 pm

ACCEPT!!!! not except.

Dang I should have not been agreeing with Dan. I done lowered my standards.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
1:51 pm

Taliq- You are just thinking with the wrong head…you will come out of your wilderness in a few years hopefully

aggwitt

September 9th, 2009
1:51 pm

thanks for the update. let us know how the moronlectomy goes

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:51 pm

@Raqi I agree with your posts probably 85% or more, and the one you just wrote 100%. In fact my problem is when people jump down one person’s throat for making a statement and fail to show that same reaction when their friend or member of their clique says the same thing. Does that help? I hope so…

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:52 pm

And I forget to ask, Jealous Much?

I knew I could work the title into the conversation. LOL

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:52 pm

Filthy- lol @ lose the ho’s and b’s. man betwen that and broad, jump offs, etc, i’m smdh.

lmao SexyCool! omg omg.

lol Lioness!

leggs- ok yeah that’s what i was saying i was joking.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
1:54 pm

Melo what do you know about collards? LOL

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:54 pm

Professor,
“Have you considered taking a break from dating?”

My brain tells me that’s the best course of action. I keep procrastinating, currently it’s on my 2010 resolution list. It’s like kanye west said … why’s it that everything that’s bad for me feels so good … weed,liqour,sex … if only each of those would feel like sticking your hand in fire, i’d be doing so much more with my life.

MR. Unknown

September 9th, 2009
1:54 pm

@ Melo “hes living in ur family house and proly ur bio relatives show/say it when they visit” ehhh buddy still needs to man up… Sound like buddy doesn’t how to let his voice and choices be known… REmember when you use to date a chick and their brothers and/or father tried to punk you.. but you were like im not that dude to be F”D with.. He seems like he gets punked out everyday… lol how can you be 38 and still be getting punked out

Dan

September 9th, 2009
1:54 pm

@Taliq

Values, smalues.

At a certain point, we all revert to self behavior. Some people eat, some people fugg without recourse, and some participate in other activities.

It’s all self-destructive and it’s all natural. As for the head/heart deal, my boy, you have to reconcile that.

You can start by writing hand written apology letters for all the women you’ve had sex with and then…..

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:54 pm

leggs- ok yeah that’s what i was saying i was joking

Leggs,u think the cobwebs remark by Page was directed at u?

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:55 pm

Raqi! EXCEPT the dander that SexyCool is talking about! lol

Professor- yes, i agree that the scenario you mentioned is kinda scandalous totally for sure.

SexyCool - Don't lick the humpback.

September 9th, 2009
1:56 pm

Hey diddle diddle.
The cat had a fiddle
and the teacher jumped up way too soon.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:56 pm

Proff, i eat collards everyweek and we cook them.

we dont murder them(as in cook) the way Paschals do tho! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

You can start by writing hand written apology letters for all the women you’ve had sex with

:lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

Ah no Professor it doesn’t. First because what need is there to jump if they agree with that person.

And why in sam’s hill is a grown woman worrying about cliques. Hell I ain’t in no clique. Everybody on here that I have disagreed with at some time or the other I have said. Even Ms. Moderator. I don’t think they take it personal and I don’t take any one not agreeing with me personal. It ain’t personal. Hell I don’t agree with me husband all the time and he and I are bedmates.

Really? You are really fretting over not being in a clique? Or a circle. Really? Girl how old are you?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

W8,

“Taliq- You are just thinking with the wrong head…you will come out of your wilderness in a few years hopefully”

Yeah i think so too … there’s only so much this jealous player can take … then again i stuck around with bday ex for about 4 months after the incident … i broke it off only cuz i found out she was going for 2nd helpings with the same guy … i was ok with her cheating with other folks but not that dude, not that same guy that had her the night before my bday …

everytime i get jealous … i feel stupid … but i cant help it … y won’t these HOs love me like i’m prince charming … i mean i try to act like that around them

Chink

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

Jealousy rears its ugly head…I been there before. What was worse was we were both trying to find something on each other…just a bad relationship. Maybe I was just looking for a way out (him too).

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

MR. Unknown…3 marriages and counting….that wld be my alarm sign..peeeeee.

im on to my second myself.
if it dont work out,im stop…altho the prostate will go for service eve now and then. :lol:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

Raqi you are not in my clique any more! lol @ sam’s hill. who is he?

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

@Taliq hopefully you can take a break and get your bearings right if nothing else. If you want to deal with women on the terms you are dealing with them on that is fine, but you need to be at peace with your decision. If you don’t want to deal with them on those terms I hope you figure out what works for you. Anyway sitting out a quarter helps gain clarity (at least for me it did).

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

Dan,
“You can start by writing hand written apology letters for all the women you’ve had sex with and then…..”

usually when i try that … it’s my subconcious trying to get back with some good booty

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

@Taliq

YOU…are…killing…me…slowly…..

Why is you concern about who’s fugging yo chick (not the same dude), if it ain’t you, it ain’t yo concern.

Dag, dude, you like EXTRA sensitive….

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

Grrrrrrrrrr………………..

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

Page you know he the devil. LOL

Chink

September 9th, 2009
2:04 pm

Hey Page

Pesonally I would want to be married once…but whats too many marriages? Hey some folks try till they get it right :)

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Well, well, well, when the cat’s away the mice will play. LOL! :-) WD where you at? Hahahaha.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Raqi,
“Taliq you aren’t a playa, yousa horndog. LOL”

so very true …

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Raqi you really took that one wrong and ran with it…if that is the most you could grasp out of all that I said let us end the discussion. Esp when this discussion is not new, so if you don’t get it by now please sit behind the driver on the little yellow bus. Yes take the window seat.

Actually I really don’t feel like blasting you so I will overlook all of the extra you wrote, because again I don’t want to go there on you!!!!

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

Oddly enough, I like Taliq.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

Taliq- I think you are just afraid to be alone….when i hated being alone the byproduce was me just slanging the wood left and right…my mouth could talk me into any puddy…but that was just a by product of a greater need of not being alone….once you get sick and tired of useless meaningless sex..you will find yourself and hold yourself to a hire standard….with only the occasional wood slanging episode..and dont fall in love just cuz some women can really freak you back…

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:08 pm

the next time we have a blog meet, im attending.

But i be wearing my BOMB diffusing suit and equipment,just in case.

Coz with u blog ladies,its pops off any minute…. :lol: :lol:

Firemaster: hold up! hoold up ! everybody out.the door…..2 women down..wigs and hair peaces flying all over.
Over ,Mr Bouncer!

Bouncer: Over.we be over there with the popo, Over!..

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:08 pm

higher standard..not hire…lol

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:09 pm

Melo – The crazy people are not invited.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Raqi, you’re absolutely right!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:11 pm

the party was the last blog gathering that i know about..unless..i wasnt invited..lmao

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:11 pm

Taliq- I think you are just afraid to be alone….

W8 – I’m only half reading his predicament cuz I don’t know much about the ho chronicles, but I think you’ve summed it up.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:12 pm

@W8

This needed to be repeated:

“….once you get sick and tired of useless meaningless sex..”

That’s true for any (wo)man, regardless of the reason for the start of that type of behavior

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:13 pm

the next time we have a blog meet, im attending.

:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
2:14 pm

Taliq – Stop chasing babes and focus on what you want out of life.. Stop acting like yuou think the want you to act, they really like it when youre yourself.. There are so many actors out here these days. Dont be so thirsty and just relax.. Learn to be alone and love you then you will truly find that lady that is right for you..

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:16 pm

but whats too many marriages? Hey some folks try till they get it righ

Larry King is onto his sixth i believe…..and his back is really bent up and cracking..

wonder if hes proly getting some Hollywood assists…the wife is 40 years hiz junior!

:lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:17 pm

Esp when this discussion is not new

EXACTLY. I have read it before. Which leads me to ask why the hell grown folks still worrying about whether or not someone else agrees with them? This ain’t no damn high school. We all grown. If you have problem not being in the “crowd” (which only exist your mind and those who think like you) then you have problem.

And imma give you an example and maybe you can professorize on that,

Not every one is the same. Different circumstances can change general statements made by many. Something Melo says can mean something totally different if Dan says it. Why? One married the other isn’t.

Okay Tazzee my patience have worn out. And that’s like me. LOL

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:18 pm

Dan,

“Dag, dude, you like EXTRA sensitive…”
That’s the line of thinking that made me stay with bday ex. I figured yo I dip too so why get emotional.

“Why is you concern about who’s fugging yo chick (not the same dude), if it ain’t you, it ain’t yo concern.”
My pride kept getting in the way though. I kept snooping so i knew of most instances she dipped/tried dipping on me. So its like i was bottling all this resentment inside me. And when she ran into mr bday banger again and made plans to hookup i snitched on my snooping ways and gave her an ultimatum. she called me psycho stalker and said we better off, i concured but i still miss her. Still aint found a replacement main shawty that could hold the post for more than a couple of weeks. My snooping ways got me catching on to their lies real quick, got me losing trust for females real quick, but my black member keeps insisting we play the game. Aint this what sowing your oats is all about it argues.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:20 pm

Enter your comments here

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:20 pm

The infamous DK,
“Learn to be alone and love you then you will truly find that lady that is right for you..”

what’s the proposal … jerking off/porn doesn’t work … it only makes me feel foolish for passing up the real deal

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:23 pm

Taliq, u tried craiglist or u know about it??

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:23 pm

SexyCool,
“Oddly enough, I like Taliq.”

lol thanks … i tell my friends, i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:24 pm

“My snooping ways got me catching on to their lies real quick, got me losing trust for females real quick, but my black member keeps insisting we play the game.” This is the second time you’ve stated this. It’s absolutely amazing that you got all bent out of shape with what she was doing, but you seem to be fine with your own lying, cheating ways. You know the old saying, “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.”

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:24 pm

but whats too many marriages?

Melo I read an article the other day that stated Americans marry too much. We have the highest divorce and remarrying rate than any others.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

@Taliq

Why is you snooping about who she fugging!

Mayne, I done bout ran out of it for ya bruh.

You playing the game like a 21yo chick right now (checking messages, issuing ultimatums, being confused, acting one way and blaming that isht on yo “heart”)

Grown up, man up, and stop whinin!!!

igga, you is a 30 year old dude

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human

Taliq – Don’t fall back on that “it’s human” thing. You know you are making bad choices. It’s up to you to grow up and stop making them. You’re old enough to know better.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:26 pm

Taliq- you still have some growing to do..its not all about busting a nut…that is not the move…you need to learn to treat yourself like a commodity and just not give it to every willing chick…don;t et the hoes think they are giving you something special..yall are giving each other the same thing…you are foolish by being controlled by the “real deal”..better be careful cuz some of these women are up on that game and will use and abuse you..leaving you more jacked up than you are now

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:27 pm

Melo- Yousa a DAMN fool! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:27 pm

Some Americans marry for the same reason people get into debt, or join cults: because they don’t know no better.

Like this Taliq kid, people need to define (find) themselves before making major life choices {Clay Davis shiiiiieeedddd} somma y’all need that before leaving the house.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Melo,

I seen a craigslist skit on some tv station … but finding HOs ain’t my problem … learning to be by myself and holding out for monogamy is the difficult part … I’m not even sure the point of monogamy anymore, if i want it and she wants it, y shudnt we get it on

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Taliq you better be careful before you do something or run up on something that you can’t get rid of.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Raqi For and to me, it ain’t about cliques cause yeah, I’m grown and don’t do cliques. I say what I gotta, like lick or lump it. But you cannot deny there are days when folks will argue all daggone day long with the odd ball and as soon as someone that’s more accepted hopes on this mug and reiterates the side of the argument in which the masses are disagreeing and what….crickets…next thing we know, the masses have swayed. It’s all funny to me. But you can’t deny it. I stand corrected if I’m misstating the person but I believe Lioness stating (during dialog with Melo), some days she’s not up for being the odd ball out so she just agrees. Even so, Melo has stated on more than one occasion he’d like to see folks post their honest true feelings instead of going along with “our gang.” Hey, like I said, I say what I want, no matter how perceived (i.e. disagreeable, taken for starting an argument) and keep moving but ummmm, yeah it happens. I don’t do cliques so folks being aggrevated or what not does not apply to me. But yeah, okay.

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:30 pm

Taliq – “i tell my friends, i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human.”

Um, actually, Taliq, knowing that you’re making bad choices and CONTINUING to make them is not “human”, it’s just plain CRAZY.

Stop it. Check ya’self before you wreck yourself or impregnate some CRAZY chick who you will be tied to for the rest of your life and who will definitaly be bringing you mad drama.

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W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

Taliq- maybe you should try and date someone older..cuz you say you only date younger than 25…is that because you know an older woman wont put up with your shyt?

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

Groupie love aint nothing new on the blog.. Ya’ll know this.. Just say what ya like and thats that..

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

I dont agree with anybody unless I really agree with them

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:33 pm

DK- I agree!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:33 pm

@Taliq, yes your honesty is refreshing, but you stupidity is blinding (sorry). What will make you realize you’re harming yourself….a incurable disease. It’s time for you to man up and learn to be with yourself. You don’t have to go after everything wearing a skirt. No only, “members only” jackets, cards, kango caps died a long time ago. You’re acting like you still have milk behind your ears!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:33 pm

Taliq- so you mess with the under 25 girls cuz you know older ones wont deal with you?

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:34 pm

Just say what ya like and thats that…..igg zackly Now that’s being grown.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:35 pm

@Taliq…hopefully the story changes as you get older without too many victims along the way.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:35 pm

Sexy- Um, actually, Taliq, knowing that you’re making bad choices and CONTINUING to make them is not “human”, it’s just plain CRAZY.<– I AGREE!!

W8- What it reads like to me..

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:36 pm

Ok Raqi I said let it GO. I will tell you this, this grown azz woman is NOT worried I just bring things to light. You mentioned the agreement thing. Well I don’t expect for anyone to sit and agree with me, nor was that the point I was making that was your conclusion. Next I have seen folks on this blog get in an Amen corner and you would have thought we were at a Baptist revival w/ all the cheering.
Next, I will say this I come on here as a break. I have friends that I hang with so I am not worried about a dam.n clique but I will call a spade a spade. No I don’t need to professorize on anything. In fact it took me a minute to take you seriously because it was hard to imagine why a grown married woman would continue to talk about her past and three different baby daddies on a dam.n blog????? To me that some shyt you take to a therapist.
Have some tea and get your patience back….

Anyone else before I go ????

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:37 pm

Sorry for the really bad typing in my last post.

@Ms. Main, I have to agree with you too. It’s absolutely amazing how certain statements are just ignored, but someone else can come on and say the exact same thing, and confetti drops out the sky!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:37 pm

Taliq- so you mess with the under 25 girls cuz you know older ones wont deal with you?

MESSAGE!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:38 pm

W8,

“better be careful cuz some of these women are up on that game and will use and abuse you.”

i think it’s more like we all using each other … like honestly i’ve done so much crap it’d be beyond hypocritical to judge the next man … so yeah I’m calling em HOs but dawgy i do worse …

i dont want to say i’m addicted to sex cuz i think it’s just a side effect of some deeper issue … my money’s on the never got over the “ex i wanted 2 marry” and thus not willing/able to engage in habbits that’d lead to the next serious relationship … i’m content chasing these HOs but keep mistaking them for wifey material once i’ve been kicking with them on the regular for a minute … then get mad upset when some HO incident pops off and i see myself in a light i dnt like … e.g. she came over at 1am last night, she must gone 2 knock boots with someone else first, i mean we aint serious but y sho up at my crib if u had some oda dude 2 c … oh the HO hurt me … I feel so hurt, how could she do that … i wouldn’t have done that, i do my cheating with class/respect … blah blah blah

I continue to amaze myself at how much i play the victim despite all d crap i do

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Leggs – but someone else can come on and say the exact same thing, and confetti drops out the sky!

LOL

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:39 pm

Taliq-Didn’t you leave her??

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:40 pm

But Ms.Main and Leggs although that has proven true, so what.

Wait for me to get upset because someone did not agree with me but agreed when someone else said it. I don’t even make mental notes of that stuff. So what, folks have cliques.

Maybe it’s just me. But yeah we all are grown up in here. I hope.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:40 pm

Ok Raqi I said let it GO. I will tell you this, this grown azz woman is NOT worried I just bring things to light. You mentioned the agreement thing. Well I don’t expect for anyone to sit and agree with me, nor was that the point I was making that was your conclusion. Next I have seen folks on this blog get in an Amen corner and you would have thought we were at a Baptist revival w/ all the cheering.
Next, I will say this I come on here as a break. I have friends that I hang with so I am not worried about a dam.n clique but I will call a spade a spade. No I don’t need to professorize on anything. In fact it took me a minute to take you seriously because it was hard to imagine why a grown married woman would continue to talk about her past and three different baby daddies on a dam.n blog????? To me that some ish you take to a therapist.
Have some tea and get your patience back.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:41 pm

I know I ignore some folks because they just try to get people riled or or are just bringing drama…or I just dont like them…and just like in real life i will scan right over their post and not even notice whatever it is they posted….if someone is always on some bull(in my mind) nothing they could ever post would garner my interest…and some folks are just brash and not cordial or they like to kick folks when they are down…never speaking life into anyone…they just like drama and negativity..so yeah if they even have a good day I still am not paying any real attention to them

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:41 pm

Ok I said let it GO. I will tell you this, this grown woman is NOT worried I just bring things to light. You mentioned the agreement thing. Well I don’t expect for anyone to sit and agree with me, nor was that the point I was making that was your conclusion. Next I have seen folks on this blog get in an Amen corner and you would have thought we were at a Baptist revival w/ all the cheering.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:43 pm

LOL Squashed

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:44 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:44 pm

“Taliq- so you mess with the under 25 girls cuz you know older ones wont deal with you?”

lol i guess u could say that … then again i doubt i’m the first man to wanna date people at least 5 yrs younger than him … i stopped tryna figure out y i couldn’t get along with an older chic a while back

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:45 pm

@Taliq- Either you are hurt deep down or you are grooming yourself to be the next R.Kelly/Michael jackson without the music career…..lmao..you keep getting older and they keep getting younger

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:46 pm

I am not even the arguing type so yeah imma leave this alone. And sweetie whether or not you take me serious I don’t care. That’s the problem folks worrying about how others take them.

As Dan said tell you story and let it be. Folks will frown and some will agree.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:48 pm

Amazon LOL. Girl I have been hanging around you too long. You know I am not the one to argue. I just like to discuss the many topics at hand.

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:48 pm

Leave it alone, because you squashed it three minutes ago, remember. So don’t come back every three minutes…let it be.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:49 pm

Lioness,
“Taliq-Didn’t you leave her??”

if you’re referring to bday ex, we kinda left each other. I left cause i couldn’t stand being with a chic that wouldn’t back down when i confronted her about her promiscuity. She left cuz she couldn’t stand a dude that snooped especially given that he does dirt too. Too clingy was the final verdict.

If you’re referring to “ex i shoulda married”. Yes I left her cuz she couldn’t bring my pops back to life. When I got back to my senses about 2 years later she’d moved on. She happens to be single again, a part of me thinks I should holla at her. But I dont trust that I’m worthy of being in a serious relationship. I dare not step up to the plate unless i’ve cleaned up my act.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:50 pm

@Raqi ~ not complaining just agreeing with an observation.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:51 pm

I just had a moment Raqi/Proff/Leggs/Ms Main etc

thats why be4 i come on the blog, i knda read thru other entries to see where eveone is going..

its from my prior playa training…

eve time i had a girl,we kissing,rubbing,and kinda feeling each other, i neva made a point of phluckking unless i fingered her down there,just to see if it was wet and kinda cop a feel at the shape of that nana…..just make sure my wang aint going to the deep end of some strange like, :mrgreen: u know??

that has lessons for real lyfe too! :lol: :lol: :lol:

did i miss u with that :lol: :lol:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:51 pm

Lioness,
[Sexy- Um, actually, Taliq, knowing that you’re making bad choices and CONTINUING to make them is not “human”, it’s just plain CRAZY.<– I AGREE!!]

Tell that to all the alcholics, cigarette smokers, gamblers etc out there. I never imagined i’d grow into a label of say womanizer. Yet here I am.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:52 pm

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:53 pm

Leggs I got that.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:53 pm

W8,
“@Taliq- Either you are hurt deep down or you are grooming yourself to be the next R.Kelly/Michael jackson without the music career…..lmao..you keep getting older and they keep getting younger”

guess i’d better make that 2010 resolution legit then … i’m opting for hurt deep down … but whose to say that aint just another excuse for my lame ways

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
2:54 pm

I can’t believe you all are really taking this Taliq character seriously!LOL!! He LOOKS LIKE calling somebody a garden tool! How is ANYONE he has professed to mess with any bigger ho than he is. Has he ever thought that maybe they sniffed out he was not about jack early on and decided to play him the same way? Like attracts like! He comes on here presenting himself as GHETTO with a capital G but yet claims to be looking for wifey. All along getting older by the minute! News flash, he’s ALREADY WASHED UP!

This ish is hillarious!!!LOL!!!

I’m just having fun, but I got my stylish blog vest on!LOL!!!

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:54 pm

Melo you never let me down. LOL
You are a nut.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:55 pm

Taliq- I have NO idea about the bday girl.. I was referring to the girl that you think about when you are with other females..
Your 2:51 makes sense but I still think it is CRAZY

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:56 pm

but whose to say that aint just another excuse for my lame ways<– Honesty is the BEST policy!!!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:57 pm

Amazon LOL. Girl I have been hanging around you too long. You know I am not the one to argue. I just like to discuss the many topics at hand.

Raqi – Yeah, I can sit back and just watch you handle things now. I can’t remember the last time I had a showdown with someone, and I’m good for at least two a week. :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:59 pm

@Kimmie- Did you wear that shirt?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:00 pm

I can’t believe you all are really taking this Taliq character seriously!LOL!!

kimmie – I’m not. Clearly it’s slow today though!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:00 pm

Raqi,
“Taliq you better be careful before you do something or run up on something that you can’t get rid of.”

I know right. I keep praying the good lord watches over me until i get my act together.

Anywho enough said … I just wanted to share my effed up state of mind with some random strangers … seems conclusion is i need some time to learn 2 b alone … i’ll try n put myself into such a situation sooner rather than later (e.g. moving into my mama crib, surely i ain’t crazy enuff 2 bring all em HOs around her) … easier said than done though, but hopefully this will be nothing but an interesting chapter of my life

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:00 pm

Slaps the jesus out of Ared!!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
3:02 pm

Taliq – Honestly little Bro you dont read as a womanizer.. It doesnt seem to me that youre doing the playing. You read like the playee instead of the player.. You falling in love with hookers and thats rule #1.. You cant turn a w-hore into a housewife. #2.. Dont tell these babes that you dont want a relationship then turn around and be snooping on them.. #3.. Stand up because its “Principalities in this here”

I suggest you chill for a while get ya mind right and go from there.. You are gonna crash and burn reall soon going down this path..

Or you can enroll.. I got classes starting right away.. The first lesson is free..

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:03 pm

ARed- Clearly :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:03 pm

kimmie,

“Has he ever thought that maybe they sniffed out he was not about jack early on and decided to play him the same way?”

that’s really the point of my post … i find it interesting that i like sex so much … i do more than my fair share of cheating … but get all upset when someone i expect will cheat (based on not trusting them) actually does cheat …

i just wanted to put myself on exhibit on here … to see if i’m really as messed up as i think i am

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:04 pm

Amazon, nah not me. I don’t do the arguing. And I definitely don’t do the name calling and attempts of low jabs. Imma let you have it back. LOL

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:05 pm

Slaps the jesus out of Ared!!!!!

And Jesus comes down and smites W8. :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:06 pm

kimmie I already told him love will not wait forever on him. Ain’t no woman going to want him after he is all used up and exhausted with a fused out richard.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
3:08 pm

@DK

Sad thing is, I’m not much older than him and for the life of me none this isht reads “playa” in any way.

Guilt, snooping, wifing a freak….I smell exaggeration (in the least)

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:08 pm

Amazon, nah not me. I don’t do the arguing. And I definitely don’t do the name calling and attempts of low jabs. Imma let you have it back. LOL

Raqi – I don’t know how low it is when it’s simply a stated fact. But naw, you can keep that baton. Besides, I don’t need you on that “you need to get laid” nonsense. :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:08 pm

I can’t believe you all are really taking this Taliq character seriously

KIMMIE, not untill i realized he was 30.

at 30, i expect most men to know all they need to know about themselves and women,for the most part.
Unless they have spent the greater part of their life in the pen.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:09 pm

@Ared- and I still rise…lol…how you doing girl?

@Raqi- some woman is going to always want him…

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:09 pm

to see if i’m really as messed up as i think i am

Well, acceptance is the first step. But yeah, it’s clear you aren’t ready to change.

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:10 pm

Have any of you ladies visited Sweet Samba?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:11 pm

how you doing girl?

:lol: W8 – I’m doing fine boy!

My tan is starting to peel, so I’m not happy about that. Other than that, everything is peachy. How are you?

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:13 pm

Raqi- What is that?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

Infamous DK
“I suggest you chill for a while get ya mind right and go from there.. You are gonna crash and burn reall soon going down this path..

Or you can enroll.. I got classes starting right away.. The first lesson is free..”

Ok teacher, what would you do in this scenario. You home from work at 6pm, catch a nap and wakeup around 10. You’re chanell surfing and shawty you haven’t heard from in a month sends u text message. She say 22, great body, nice personality (the type that’ll cook u a meal and help u clean up). She says she home bored and wants to come over?

I’d smash it, cuddle with her afterwards. A week later i get a similar text i smash again. 4 days later i get horny and send a text but she dont respond. A couple of days later she sends me a text and i get all pissy n ignore her message cuz she aint respond 2 mine, she musta been with some other dude my jealous side fumes. A month later i get another text from her, eff it, i smash again.

I just dont know how to avoid a nice piece of booty that’s available … even when i dont want it, i feel like it’s passing up on a great steak … so i smash

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

I am doing..not complaining…had a great weekend that started on last thursday…

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:16 pm

I don’t need you on that “you need to get laid”

LOL Amazon. Can you imagine how I felt when my mother said it to me?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

I am doing..not complaining…had a great weekend that started on last thursday…

:lol: Yeah…I saw the pics. I’ma have to holla at the birthday boy about that debauchery! :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Taliq- you just dont have any self respect…case closed…lmao..atleast you are getting a cooked meal and a cleaning…I’m a sucker for a cooked meal…lmao…that is some excellent foreplay…mm mm mmm

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

LOL Amazon. Can you imagine how I felt when my mother said it to me?

Raqi – No one in real life says that ish to me, cuz that’s not the problem. :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

Have any of you ladies visited Sweet Samba

thats a trick qstion Raqi… ???

i always think my Queen’s samba is the real deal! :lol: :lol:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

omg lawd help everyone on this blog!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

I think he and I both untagged ourselves in some photos…

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

I think he and I both untagged ourselves in some photos…

:lol: That was probably wise. :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

lol@Ared- NO comment

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

Melo,
“at 30, i expect most men to know all they need to know about themselves and women,for the most part.”
yeah that’s the tragedy. though in my humble opinion i’m better off than half my friends who got married already and are constantly lying to their wives about their whereabouts. At least I know I aint fit for that situation.

“Unless they have spent the greater part of their life in the pen.”
My best friend claims that’s my problem actually. He says I’m a spoilt brat that hasn’t run into any real difficulties in life ( i got the type of family that’s madd supportive ) … claims if i couldn’t pay my rent and was hungry for a week, i’d stop whining about HOs and start whining about making money

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

W8 – I’m saving it to rock this Friday in the office! Got 2 more HOT UGA shirts yesterday at Champs too. Updating my Bulldog wardrobe!

Unless they have spent the greater part of their life in the pen.
Melo – LOL!!!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Page- DAMN Everyone???

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Lioness it’s a spa. I have gift certificate and I was considering getting a wax done.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Taliq- Yousa a mamas boy???

Dan

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

“…cuddle with her afterwards…”

Are you serious?

Woooooooooowwwwww

I’m done

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

ARed did u see my totally cute shirt i had on in the pics? i *heart* it.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Wandering back in for a moment. Some of the “new stuff” seems a little too hard to swallow…kinda like when in my teenage years everyone was pretending to be hopping everything while carrying around the same condom until it kind of dissolved. Some things don’t add up and the talk adn teh walk don’t seem to jive. My $.02

East Point's Own

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Ahh Hemmmm… all you folks going back and forth with Taliq it was once said “…never argue with a fool because its hard(impossible)for onlookers to tel lthe difference…”
My money is on this is a regular blogger just taking ya’ll on a ride. But that’s just http:hispointofview.com

And I hope I am not wrong, because if I am then this dude needs more help than we can give.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Taliq- @ 30 you STILL allow them to do stuff for you??

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

lol@Ared- NO comment

:oops: :lol: :arrow:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Melo LOL I should have known you would respond that.
Imma have to scratch this statement now.

I was considering getting a wax done.

I am considering getting my nails done.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Sorry about the typos. I need tos tart foing my typing in Word and copying it to the blog so I can run a spell check. Can spell just lousy typist.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Lioness- yeah because it always gets outta hand. blog cliques, people befriending others to get information on someone else, jabs back and forth, people going off on others.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

omg lawd help everyone on this blog!

Page1908 , ima need u to be a lil more lucid on the blog,u think some white wine cld do that for u…

go head and drink some and do a toast to WD and the blog!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

W8,
[Taliq- you just dont have any self respect…case closed…lmao..]
sadly i concur, i wouldn’t say any otherwise i’d never break up with a HO. but it ranks low on d scale.

“atleast you are getting a cooked meal and a cleaning…I’m a sucker for a cooked meal…lmao…that is some excellent foreplay…mm mm mmm”

pointless fun is still fun … which is why i keep listening to my black member

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

LOL @ Page. Yes I saw it. Takes a whole lot of paint to make them letters! :P

(just me hatin…) ;)

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

randy i think it’s a regular too. someone who really does these things, but is adding extras on. it seems like i have read this in a book.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:26 pm

lmao ARed! omg shuttup. leave the “girls” out of it! *side eye*

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:26 pm

OK Melo, shut your eyes….now Melo tell me about this “wax” wait I mean “nails”, sorry ;-) . You know I live my life vicariously through you when I am in a dry spell.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Ignore my previous posts, jeez I am in another world today…meant Raqi tell me about “nails”.

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

all this talk about HO’s made me think of a post of my from http://www.verysmartbrothas.com from last week. Here goes:

Everybody wanna talk about turning a ho into a housewife.
What I wanna know is
Can you stand a dog @ss playa upright?
Trying to put every chick he meet in rotation.
Trying to be like Wayne and Drake
and hit every chick in creation.
Thinking he got so much game.
Not even remembering every chick’s name.
Never realizing that his @ss is lame.
Instead of improving on his rotation management skills,
He needs to be focusing on a better way to pay his bills.
He should be coming up with a plan for his life.
But naw, he trying to keep Shaneeka from wanting to be his wife.
He want her to be his girl on the side
or that chick that he hit.
Thinking he “DaMan” when he really ain’t sh!t.
And when his dyck get tired or he done lost his edge,
THEN he wants to find a wife to lay in his bed.
Wanting her to believe that she’s found a prize.
When all that really happened is that he got tired of telling lies.
Or got scared that he would grow old alone.
And have no place to call his home.
Now you want to bring her what’s left of you.
Asking her to give her best to you.
Don’t you realize that she now thinks less of you?
But I digress,
Y’all wudn’t even talkin’ bout this mess.
The subject was turning a ho into a housewife, no less.
But my question remains unchanged.
Can you take a playa out the game?
Or will he just be a dog on a chain?

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:31 pm

Page- Don’t believe everything you read..

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

people befriending others to get information on someone else

OMG,now which chics are doing a background check on me?? i aint phluck everybody,just one or two.
Certainly not in Taliq’s clique!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:33 pm

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

Page- got yall fooled she is not worrying about this crap

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Taliq, what the hell is wrong with you. First of all, stop taking naps when you get home at 6 p.m. Who takes naps?? Anyway, she texts you and you respond. You guys kick it. She texts you again and again you kick it. A week or so later you text her and she doesn’t respond and you automatically think she’s kicking it with some other dude. Why not your first thought being when she first text you YOU were nothing but a booty call for her. Now, she may be with someone else and then again she may not be. She may just not be in the mood that you’re in so she’s ignoring your texts. You guys aren’t dating so she can dismiss you anytime she wants. Isn’t that what you guys do. You sound retarded with that scenario. Sorry, but you do. You might be 30 years of age but you act, talk and think like a 22 year old!

Pick up on Aisle 69 MAN DOWN!

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

The blog monster is eating my posts.

MR. Unknown

September 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

Lol,, the BLOG has gangs up in here.. The eastside knowitalls vs northside eyeskeepitreal.. too funny..

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

East Point’s Own,
“And I hope I am not wrong, because if I am then this dude needs more help than we can give.”

lol nah i ain’t a regular blogger on here … thnx to all 4 their comments … none of it was like omg, that is news to me, i do that and imma b good … it’s all stuff i kinda know already but 2 stuck in my ways to change

sooner rather than later though, this fool must learn … otherwise imma never really b happy

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:39 pm

Now did ur kids,nieces and nephews talk to u about the Obama’s speech??

my kids did..my 11 yr old dghter actually reminded me;

“daddy,we lisstened to Prez obama today”.

Melo: oh good chica,what did he say?
dghter: oh,he said we must stay in school,yada yada and if u wanna be a doc u must do ur homewrk and do science classes yada yada…

melo oh nice, i neva had a prez talk to me like that,aint u lucky girl?

dghter: yeah,i am

melo everythng i ve told u,now u hearing it from the prez…see….

dghter: i know
melo : im so proud of u sweetie

(my daughter was really chaffed)

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:41 pm

lol leggs! you are not supposed to say “retarded”. it’s “mentally challenged”! lol. someone said something about someone riding in the short yellow bus in the window seat! omg. lmao

SexyCool- DANDER!!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

And for the record, Taliq is certainly helping this day go by!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

Page Professor put me on the short yellow bus earlier. I am in the seat right behind the driver. LOL

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

people befriending others to get information on someone else

Page – Amen. I really wish these idiots will plug out of the matrix. :???:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

lmao @ code 10 man down!

random quote: “people are always intimidated by my success”. *shrugs*

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

Dan- “…cuddle with her afterwards…”

Are you serious?

Woooooooooowwwwww

I’m done
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

@Page, snap, I forgot…Taliq, go get on the short yellow bus, but no window seat for you!

For Real

September 9th, 2009
3:44 pm

For Real: Hey lil mamma have you been to Sweet Samba?

Lil Mamma: Sweet Samba what’s that?

For Real: Zipppppppppp!!! Sweet Samba!!

Lil Mamma: Ohhhhhhhhh MY!!!

For Real: Yeah and if you rub it the right way you can get a hot wax too!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

Leggs be sure to give him his helmet. I got on a pretty pink one.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

Leggs,
“You sound retarded with that scenario. Sorry, but you do. You might be 30 years of age but you act, talk and think like a 22 year old!
Pick up on Aisle 69 MAN DOWN!”
LoL, I just wanted 2 point out even when u expect it, even when you think u fully aware of the situation, jealousy is an emotion that can creep up on u. That one was a madeup scenario, below happened for real though

Shawty hits me up and says we should meetup at 7pm … eventually at 1am she shows up … I get upset cuz I’m like even if we just fuk buddies that dont give u d right to disrespect me by showing up afta u jus probably left from some dude’s crib … so i tossed her out soon as she came up … did she actually just come from some dude crib? idk … but knowing the type of chic she is there’s a good chance she did … so itz unto d next ho … one dat’ll use more common sense and not flaunt their dirt so blatantly … lol idk … i got issues …. i kno

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

LOL oh it’s you Raqi riding the short yellow bus behind the driver? lmao. *passing Raqi and the driver two helmets…one pink, the other green”. lmao

LOL ARed- I am going to befriend you. Who you got information on first before I decide to befriend you or not? lmao

East Point's Own

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

Taliq… If you don’t want to change and you don’t need advice then, why spaek on it at all??? Just do what you do and let us blog about other random nonsense and get back to the men vs. women battles???

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:45 pm

cuddling is nice when you are boo’d up. the fall season starts sept 21, so it’s countdown to “boo-up time”!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:46 pm

LOL ARed- I am going to befriend you. Who you got information on first before I decide to befriend you or not? lmao

Page – We are already BFFs! :lol:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:47 pm

LOL no ARed! I must befriend you first! *looking around to see who i can befriend*

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:48 pm

ForReal I got news that those pants with the special zipper was shipped out yesterday.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:48 pm

Raqi don’t let ole dude wear your helmet with all that dander that’s in it. *gross*. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so love OutKast)

September 9th, 2009
3:48 pm

What it is Party People!

Page1908 – LMAO @ “Boo-up” time!!

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:49 pm

I think For Real should switch to velcro pants instead of zippers. or maybe even some Levi button downs. omg i haven’t worn Levi’s in like a million years!

SexyCool - Next Attempt

September 9th, 2009
3:49 pm

Everybody wanna talk about turning a ho into a housewife.
What I wanna know is
Can you stand a dog @ss playa upright?
Trying to put every chick he meet in rotation.
Trying to be like Wayne and Drake
and hit every chick in creation.
Thinking he got so much game.
Not even remembering every chick’s name.
Never realizing that his @ss is lame.
Instead of improving on his rotation management skills,
He needs to be focusing on a better way to pay his bills.
He should be coming up with a plan for his life.
But naw, he trying to keep Shaneeka from wanting to be his wife.
He want her to be his girl on the side
or that chick that he hit.
Thinking he “DaMan” when he really ain’t sh!t.
And when his dyck get tired or he done lost his edge,
THEN he wants to find a wife to lay in his bed.
Wanting her to believe that she’s found a prize.
When all that really happened is that he got tired of telling lies.
Or got scared that he would grow old alone.
And have no place to call his home.
Now you want to bring her what’s left of you.
Asking her to give her best to you.
Don’t you realize that she now thinks less of you?
But I digress,
Y’all wudn’t even talkin’ bout this mess.
The subject was turning a ho into a housewife, no less.
But my question remains unchanged.
Can you take a playa out the game?
Or will he just be a dog on a chain?

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:50 pm

Sexy- :lol: :lol: :lol: I am EVER so mad @ YOU!!!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:51 pm

Page on the short bus we aren’t allowed chemical products so they took my head and shoulders. I gotz me a hair net on.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:51 pm

cuddling is nice when you are boo’d up. the fall season starts sept 21, so it’s countdown to “boo-up time”!

:twisted: Yes, I’m looking forward to it.

Don’t forget Page, you are getting engaged this year too. :lol:

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
3:51 pm

Lioness @ 30 you STILL allow them to do stuff for you??

She can come over and cook all she wants, but I don’t dig a chick trying clean up and put clothes away.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:52 pm

DEAD @ hair net :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

@Page

Cuddling is nice – period.

You just don’t do it with a jumpoff, it sends the wrong signals

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

Velcros are too easy. That special zipper comes with a catch. :twisted:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

East Point’s Own,
“If you don’t want to change and you don’t need advice then, why spaek on it at all???”
I want to change, I just dont think this blog will spark that change. Stuff like a change of scenery might work better, etc etc. Anywho that’s for me to figure out.

“Just do what you do and let us blog about other random nonsense and get back to the men vs. women battles???”
I thought a horny bloke dat gets jealous when he finds out someone is cheating (never mind that he tries to keep his relationships casual) would fall under “random nonsense”.

Anywho enough said … let me try n get some work done, i got just 2 more hours before i clock out … sigh not doing my work, that’s yet another one of my immature tendencies … someday i might get fired, but for now i’m getting by

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:53 pm

LOL Mo- I *heart* boo’ing up. You know I am trying to boo up with Latino persuasion! lol *wink*

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:54 pm

Kolla- :lol: :lol: I was asking the dude why he still allows his family to do things for him

Page- Congrats Mamsita :razz:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:54 pm

I don’t dig a chick trying clean up and put clothes away.

YEAH,those used condoms in the waste basket, ha? :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:54 pm

Curiosity gets the best of me…does the blog have an age limit? I’m thinking that some of the blogers today may not be actually old enough to be admitted.

East Point's Own

September 9th, 2009
3:54 pm

SexyCool - Next Attempt

September 9th, 2009
3:55 pm

Page – Scratch it, Sista! Scratch it!

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:55 pm

LOL Raqi yeah u need some head and shoulders for that dander, ok!

ARed- LOL oh yeah i forgot FB said i was getting engaged! Yes…let the boo-up begin! lol

lmao at old greasy hair net.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:55 pm

Dan- I AGREE!! Why the heck would the jumpoff WANT to spend the night??

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:55 pm

Page latino? You gon get beat.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so love OutKast)

September 9th, 2009
3:56 pm

Page1908 – alright then chica, handle yo business!! Sept 21st isnt far away! :smile:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:57 pm

LOL Raqi.

LOL Mo- omg yeah i only have a couple of more weeks to boo up! omg. brb gotta check my FB emails. lmao

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:58 pm

Dan,

“Cuddling is nice – period.

You just don’t do it with a jumpoff, it sends the wrong signals”

I cuddle with all my jumpoffs … unless they in a rush n only got time for a quickie

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:58 pm

“A change of scenery” may help. The path you’re skidding down will lead you right in the front door of the emergency room. Your scenery will definitely change then!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:58 pm

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:59 pm

I cuddle with all my jumpoffs … unless they in a rush n only got time for a quickie<– :neutral: DONE!

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
4:00 pm

HA! i just noticed that leggs spells legs with 2 gg’s. LOL *ok where is my helmet*!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

Page sit here beside me.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

Cuddling…women stiil do that?

lol@boo’d up?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

Yes Maam?…

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
4:01 pm

well, jump offs want to cuddle too, i would think. taliq did u ever think to yourself that maybe those jump offs consider you a jump off and they are just cuddling with you until they leave for the next chorizo? ugh!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:02 pm

W8 you don’t cuddle lay closely with your special woman?

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:02 pm

Y’all sure you are not being “punked”?

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
4:03 pm

*sitting next to Raqi now* lmao

W8- there is a line around the block to boo up with you, mister! lol

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:03 pm

Chorizo. LOL

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:04 pm

lol randy!

sexycool! lol

Dan

September 9th, 2009
4:04 pm

@Taliq

I refuse to acknowledge that (3:58)statement on the grounds of improper pimping.

I further move that any reference to you being “a playa” be stricken from the record. I motion for a complete dismissal of all related posted to the aforementioned point therein.

@Lioness

Very few know that they are jumpoff’s, unless you’ve had that conversation. But any call/text/page/smoke signal about an invitation after 10pm is grounds for implicit jumpoff treatment.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:04 pm

Y’all sure you are not being “punked”?

right bout that!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

me gusta chorizo con los webos.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

Thanks Raqi, cuz it’s been like that for 4 years now and she’s just noticing…you special. Give her the helmet with the polka dots, please! It’s the only extra large presently in stock!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

Page1908,
“taliq did u ever think to yourself that maybe those jump offs consider you a jump off and they are just cuddling with you until they leave for the next chorizo?”

That’s exactly how i think it is. I guess i just aint got it in me 2 act like itz jus sex, like i could care less what else is going on in d persons life. So whilst we together, i’ll be nice, i’ll ask about work, fam etc, i’ll do chill stuff like movies etc, dont really matter, so long as sex is on d agenda, my black member will b happy.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
4:05 pm

@Randy

I’m beginning to wonder. This person sounds confused.

Like “need medication” confused

SexyCool - Next Attempt

September 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

Do HO’s know they is HO’s?

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

yeah i only have a couple of more weeks to boo up!

u having a wedding Page1908?

W8©

September 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:06 pm

Dan! LOL at paging someone. omg i wish i had my olde pager and bag phone. oh and my pull out cassette player.

Taliq- hit me up on my pager. (619) 777-9311.

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

Everytime you say chorizo I keep waiting to hear that zipper.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

Yeah ho’s know they are ho’s…they just dont let to many others know

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

Taliq are you MELO??!!!

lol leggs sorry! 4 years!! wow

For Real

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

For Real: Hello is this the Southeast Division of PETA?

PETA: Yes sir it is, how can we help you?

For Real: I would like to report the UnEthical Treatment of an Animal.

PETA: OMG!! Who and where is the scumbag that’s treating an animal unethically.

For Real: Her name is Raqi a.k.a Quirky!!

PETA: Okay and what type of animal is being abused?

For Real: A Dolphin!

PETA: OMG!! What an evil soul she must be. Who would want to harm a sweet dolphin. What species is this particular dolphin?

For Real: African American!

PETA: HUH?

For Real: It’s an African American Dolphin!

PETA: Sir there is no such thing as an African American Dolphin

For Real: Zippppppppppp! Check your email!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

@ Dan, here we go again :arrow: “Very few know that they are jumpoff’s, unless you’ve had that conversation.” It’s amazing how dense you guys think women are….Just about all really, truly know! And, no conversation stating such is necessary!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:08 pm

Dan,
“I further move that any reference to you being “a playa” be stricken from the record. ”

Someone already concluded I aint a playa, just horny. I’m not even sure the horniness comes first, girls are just how i kill dead time. Its my sport i guess.

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

W8 not even laying in bed watching television?

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

LOL chorizooooooooooooo.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:09 pm

Cuddling…women stiil do that?

W8! Men do it too, hell, I don’t cuddle by myself.

But get off me when it’s time to go to sleep tho. :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

@ For Real …are you suggesting that someone is “flogging the dolphin”?

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

naw,he aint melo Page…

i wld have known!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

Dan you may be some woman’s jump off. do you seriously think that women don’t have jump off dudes?

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:10 pm

LMAO ForReal.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:11 pm

HO’s know they is HO’s

i like that ebonegro talk Sexxy!

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so love OutKast)

September 9th, 2009
4:11 pm

Page1908 – please stop chica, lol!! your 4pm & ‘Jumpoffs want to cuddle too’….LMBAO!!

Raqi – lol

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:12 pm

I imagine the number of men that don’t know they are some woman’s jumpoff is astronomical.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:12 pm

lmao Raqi, exactly. i mean DUH!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:13 pm

ForReal you surprised me.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
4:13 pm

@Leggs

If a jumpoff knows she’s a jumpoff, she wouldn’t stay to cuddle. If the cat suggested it the first time, she ain’t coming back (if the sex is all she’s after).

All this “women know” be real brazen on off days. Becuase somma the ladies here state that sex “confuses emotions”.

Can’t have it both ways. If she in it to be on it, that’s what it is. But she can’t be in it and then want to be the other way.

“You want it to be one way, but it’s the other way” <– Marlo

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
4:13 pm

Taliq – Ok teacher, what would you do in this scenario. shawty you haven’t heard from in a month sends u text message. She say 22, great body, nice personality (the type that’ll cook u a meal and help u clean up). She says she home bored and wants to come over?

I wouldnt have even answered that night and then I would have called the next day like whats up… If she didnt answer so what. If she did and asked why I didnt answer, i was busy and actually I still am so…. You are too available and she knows it. I would have told her to call me tomorrow and if she didnt then you aint lost nothing because you havent spoken in a month anyway.. Now if she did call.. Depending on how I felt I might smash or I might not but I would make her pay a pennance to get back in rotation she would mos def jump thru hoops.

Now if I were you I would walk away for good because you have already fallen weak for her and she knows it.. She knows she can do whatever she wants and you’ll deal with it.. She doesnt respect you.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:14 pm

omg lol @ “somma”. lol @ blog lingo.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

@ Page & Dan re: “do you seriously think that women don’t have jump off dudes?” I know this is the case too…thus a few of the t-shirts before I got wise and finally figured out that not every lady that slept with me necessarily loved me. Definitely was an epiphany. I guess I was married too long. Actually flying into a city Monday where one of these aforementioned ladies lives…I wonder if “just for old times sake”?

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

well, one blogger said they met another blogger and the person looked like a rcovering drug addict. that was messed up.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

I imagine the number of men that don’t know they are some woman’s jumpoff is astronomical.

ok,say exactly what u mean. Raqi….u women??

we dont even know when “our babies” aint “our babies”

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

Leggs,
“It’s amazing how dense you guys think women are….Just about all really, truly know! And, no conversation stating such is necessary”

Yup I’m constantly amazed how my friends think their girlfriends/wives aren’t cheating even though they’re doing the same. 1 was brave enough to allow me to install pandora pc on his computer, what he found ended our friendship – she was banging a coworker. He stayed with his wifey though – sucker said she ended it and she did it only cuz she knew he was dipping too – i might suck at the relationship thing/being a playa … but i know enough about cheating to say its a selfish act … never about what your partner is doing/isn’t doing … it’s about what you want at that moment … i.e. a good bang

W8©

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Raqi/Ared- I dont mind cuddling…it’s just not being done..close proximity is only during sex…then back to your respective corner…lmao

Dan

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

@Page

Of course I know women that have “maintenance [men]” in their lives. But respect due to it, they don’t go around cuddling. Shoot, the texts be monosyllabic “come over now”. <-str8 bidness

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:15 pm

Since most of us are 30+ on here, I’m not buying the whole “I didnt know I was a jump off” or “I don’t know I’m a ho” argument.

You know…you may just not accept.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:16 pm

@Dan, I don’t even think you listen to yourself at times. Even jumpoffs cuddle for a minute. They have to make sure the buckling of their knees stop before getting out the bed. They just mask it w/cuddling…

And btw, you are so off base it’s not funny! Women know A LOT. Some know more than YOU!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
4:16 pm

OMG I JUST REALIZED I AM SOMEONE”S JUMPOFF

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:16 pm

I am so hurt right now

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:17 pm

Randy you are right. Some of these clucks thinking they are hitting it and bouncing don’t know they are doing exactly what she wants them to do, get to stepping…your job is done.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

Leggs – Preach! Loving your 4:16! Tell it!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

And why would you put that out there Page?

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

I cuddle with my jump-off. But that’s only so I can give him time to stand it up again.

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:18 pm

sniff sniff…she treating me like street booty

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:19 pm

@Raqi/Ared- I dont mind cuddling…it’s just not being done..close proximity is only during sex…then back to your respective corner…lmao

W8 – Boo hiss!

Well, if a guy wants to get close to me, he’ll have to be okay with cuddling. Or he aint getting any. :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:19 pm

W8 – It’ll be okay! Being a JO is not so bad!LOL!!!LMAO!!!

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:19 pm

they passing me around like a cheap ho

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:19 pm

W8 that’s part of the physical intimacy outside of sex that creates bonds. Intimacy and “O”s don’t feel the same. But that’s a topic for another day.

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:20 pm

@Ared- i am the one who wants to cuddle..not her…so why are you boo hissing at me?

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:20 pm

well, Dan exactly, it works both ways. you try to make it seem like women are so dumb like they don’t know they are a jump off or whatever. both men and women jump offs cuddle. like ared said we all (should) know this.

Leggs! i agree!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

@ W8 and Raqi …I knew I was a “ho” professionally, but to realize I was just a “ho” sexually…it wounds me so deeply too!!! I guess all I can hope for is that they still respected me the next day.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:21 pm

Leggs because the person who likes them said that they would only be a jump off based on the other persons looks. that is messed up.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:22 pm

Ask for the Peen! F it! If they get all emotional, tell them you will have to call them back when they have less feelings involved..

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:22 pm

i am the one who wants to cuddle..not her

Yep, youz a jumpoff. LOL j/k

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
4:22 pm

I’m going home and confess all of my “hoing” ways right now…maybe light a candle and visit a priest. I am such trash. Night all.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

lmao @ Sybil!

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

She loves my penis more than she loves me :( that tends to happen a lot…maybe i need to change my pesronality

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:23 pm

Sybil- :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I don’t like to get my hair sweated out with all that extra body heat.. Womp

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

lmao at W8- you are not a jump off, you are a boo!

Dan

September 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

Y’all are killin me

I never said that women don’t know. I just said, more often than not, they don’t. In part because of that cuddling mess, in part cause dude’s play the role.

But cuddling? Naw.

That’s that “I thought (s)he loved” me type stuff right there.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

@Raqi ~ your 4:17 = BULLSEYE!

They think they’re the only ones who can scratch, sniff, bang and quickly move her out the front door.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

But that’s only so I can give him time to stand it up again.

Sybil,u rolling with a real tired horse…..like me now. :lol:

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:24 pm

@Ared- i am the one who wants to cuddle..not her…so why are you boo hissing at me?

W8 – I’m sorry. It read like that was your mentality, not the woman’s. Some women do have intimacy issues. For me, I can’t get into the physical without the intamacy.

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

W8 buy her one for Christmas and tell her to get off your chorizo. He has feelings.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

Dan, how do you know what women know and don’t know?

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so love OutKast)

September 9th, 2009
4:25 pm

Ya’ll are hilarious!! The whole cuddling w jumpoffs thing is too freakin funny!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:26 pm

@Dan, I like you and reading you but some days you are completely off the mark. We’re not saying you said women “don’t know”. The operative words you’re missing that we aren’t are “more often than not!” This just isn’t true. Give me a week or two, and I’ll take a gallop poll and get back with you.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
4:26 pm

Men Jumpoffs are called Maint. Men..

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:26 pm

And btw, you are so off base it’s not funny!

Leggs – It’s clear that he just deals with a different brand of woman. They just don’t post on here. :lol:

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:27 pm

@Page- lol..i accept my fate

@Ared- I hug my pillows at night

@Raqi- Nope I am just going to call Taliq to service her….then I will come on here to blog about it…lol

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:28 pm

women like cuddling more than most guys.

we like squirting the juices out,most times….

my lady was scracthing my back the other day,wanting a cuddle,i think she was feeling it….in the wee hours..

told her to leave me alone.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:28 pm

Dan- Cuddling means folks have feelings?

Raqi- Yousa a DAMN fool!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Infamous DK,
[Now if I were you I would walk away for good because you have already fallen weak for her and she knows it.. She knows she can do whatever she wants and you’ll deal with it.. She doesnt respect you.]

does a HO need to respect you or does she just have to drop d panties?

2 b honest most my HOs get treated like HOs. i.e. its mostly quickies none of the cuddle crap … but a select few, no more than 2 at any given time have main shawty status … they usually come up d ranks, i.e. u gotta b a sideline ho before u can displace a main shawty … but if ya looks right and ya sex game tight, u’ll get the nodd very quickly … with main shawty i’ll do all d stuff a bf does but without the guilt of cheating cuz i kno she d type to cheat too … with bday ex i forgot the game and caught serious feelings for her … other chics d jealousy is brief and is no more than ego like damn i’m d sucker dat took her to dinner n movies yet dis oda nigga skips all d niceties … truth be told though i wasn’t a sucker, for that night i just wanted 2 do more than sex, i wanted 2 pretend to b in a serious relationship so i could feel good emotionally, i coulda smashed without the niceties but i chose not to … basically i b forgetting my HOs are just that, HOs cuz deep down i want more … but i hate venturing deep down, scared of what i’ll find down there :(

For Real

September 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Just completed a 19 second marathon sex session….

Chick: Wow For Real you are AMAZING!

For Real: 1:00

Chick: Huh?

For Real: 1:00

Chick: What are you talking about?

For Real: You asked me what time the Falcons game come on.

Chick: No I didn’t!! I said the sex was great!

For Real: Oh yeah mayo and spicy mustard on mines! Oh and can I get some pickle slices on the side.

Chick: WTF!!!

For Real: You asked me if I wanted a sammich to eat while I watched the game.

Chick: No I didn’t!!! What the hell is wrong with you? Anyway, I just want to cuddle and watch the game with you.

NFL Referee: (Blows whistle) ENCROACHMENT on Chick!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

lol @ Maintenance Man.

lol @ W8 huggin his pillow at night con su chorizo.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:29 pm

Melo- women like cuddling more than most guys<–That is BULLISH!!

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
4:30 pm

Alrighty then, sense a little hostility today, ok then :)

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:31 pm

“2 b honest most my HOs get treated like HOs.”

I am sorry but this is the funniest thing i have read all dat…lmao

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:31 pm

Dan – I guess if you say it to yourself enough times, you’ll believe it. Just cause some folks try to BEHAVE like they are a deer caught in headlights don’t make it so. Some folks (men & women) are desperate and will try to make something out of nothing. But don’t kid yourself into thinking you really got her so spellbound that she does not know the real reason yall hooked up! Not likely.

W8©( I am a jumpoff)

September 9th, 2009
4:31 pm

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
4:31 pm

Men Jumpoffs are called Maint. Men.. <– bwahaha! By who? Is that to make your ego feel better? I have heard waaay crazier terms than that for dudes who are only there to serve up some O’s. Jus sayin’

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:31 pm

lmao 30 year old male ho calling the ho’s he deals with ho’s?! omg who uses the word “shawty”? Taliq, have you noticed you started off early on decently articulate, now it’s all “dis” slang talk? 30 years old? smdh.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

Dude is called a maintenance man if he is ACTUALLY fixing stuff around my house, if NOT then his tail is a JUMPOFF!!! take that, take that, take that

Professor

September 9th, 2009
4:32 pm

…stepping in.

BTW, Melo I cannot take your advice on reading back all of these pages I missed…

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:33 pm

Lioness, u dont read like u the soft, cuddling type.

Coz its been a while since i last heard of a woman that dont want her man to rub her tail,in public.

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September 9th, 2009
4:33 pm

Melo you need jesus! do you talk that way around “queen”? UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
4:33 pm

LOL @ Lioness!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:33 pm

Proff, we talking about cuddling and rubbing ur tail?

where u stand?

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September 9th, 2009
4:34 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:34 pm

AmazonRed,
“Well, if a guy wants to get close to me, he’ll have to be okay with cuddling. Or he aint getting any.”

not if i been pumping u with shots … or u was dumb enough to hit that kush with me … good bud will have a good broad on her back real quick … and she’s guranteed to come back for a 2nd helping

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:34 pm

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

But don’t kid yourself into thinking you really got her so spellbound that she does not know the real reason yall hooked up! Not likely.

Right. I don’t get treated like a ho cuz I won’t allow for it. However, if I was thristy enough to need a man just to get my rocks off, I’d certainly know which category I would fall into.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

Page, i got that side from reading this blog….

im a better luver for it,ever since,trust me.

neva shy in front of my steak! :lol: :lol:

Professor

September 9th, 2009
4:35 pm

@Taliq I see you are still holding court…I need to make myself read your prior posts.

~wishing all the jealous insecure women find something to hold on to…even if they are crazy~

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

ugh taliq. wow. no wonder u r the way u r. *sad*

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

not if i been pumping u with shots … or u was dumb enough to hit that kush with me … good bud will have a good broad on her back real quick … and she’s guranteed to come back for a 2nd helping

Tariq – If the intimacy ain’t there to start with, there is no way you are “pumping me with shots.” I don’t put out early. You’ve gotta show me what you’re made of first. And intimacy is one aspect of it.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

Page1908,

“lmao 30 year old male ho calling the ho’s he deals with ho’s?! omg who uses the word “shawty”? Taliq, have you noticed you started off early on decently articulate, now it’s all “dis” slang talk? 30 years old? smdh.”

lol i get that a lot on lakersblog. my language degenerates really quickly after a couple of blogs or texts. maybe it’s all d chronic i b puffing … idk

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so love OutKast)

September 9th, 2009
4:36 pm

Wise Diva – I agree with you, I can think of several other names but maintenance man aint one of them! :smile:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:37 pm

Page – He’s getting more ghetto by the minute! I really think he’s a joke, but okay, we’ll play along!

Professor

September 9th, 2009
4:37 pm

Melo thanks for the Cliff note edition I like both! It just depends on the man because I will reject a dude that is lacking.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:38 pm

Professor

September 9th, 2009
4:38 pm

Not the cronic is it still call that I heard Drake say a 1/4 of that ___ it’s still a public forum

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

Taliq – Peep game youngsta.. Freak these chicks minds first.. They know you want sex, it shows in your eyes and reeks in your conversation.. Dude you should always act as if her stuff is the most unimportant piece of her body. Even HO’s as you call them got a little sense.. All im saying is soften the approach you get more bees with oney instead of vinegar. And yes even a HO has to respect you to get in the bed with you at some point.. Now does she have to keep respecting you after the deed is done.. No because just like we have ctaegories they do too. You know you can be the Friend, The Liar, The Chump, The Sponsor or The Mayne.. And how you start it out is how its gonna end. Really it aint but three types of Dudes.. Bustas, Suckas and Real MF’s now what category do you think you fall into right now.

Dogg you cant pretend that trick is for kids.. Youre grown.. You are 30 now ish done changed you just havent realized it yet.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:39 pm

LOL Kimmie- exactly. it’s very entertaining, though! omg who says the word “chronic”? LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BAWHWHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA OMG

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

Page- Who pumps chicks up with shots?? Didn’t know WHAT the heck he was referring to.. :???:

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:40 pm

“…good bud will have a good broad on her back real quick” You are definitely young and dumb. That’s your problem. You deal with ho’s and broads, you’ll never get a lady because you lack the training. At 30, a leopard can’t change its spots. Keep pounching. I’m pituring you more like Tigga in Winnie the Poo than an actual leopard!

For Real

September 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

Come on lines by Taliq:

1. Hi my name is drink this and smoke that

2. Ho-sa-fying since 78′

3. Grape kool and gin

4. It ain’t lying if I tell you first

5. Potted meat

6. Smell my finger

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:41 pm

LOL Lioness!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:42 pm

DK- That is why he dates young girls..

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:42 pm

@Infamous, you said too much to him!!!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:43 pm

Page- Who pumps chicks up with shots?? Didn’t know WHAT the heck he was referring to..

It took me a second. :lol:

Yes, it’s clear he deals with the young chicks. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
4:43 pm

Hey I was being polite with the Maint Men comment. I actually prefer the term Gigalo myself.. Ha!!!!!!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:44 pm

LOL Lioness and ARed- omg exactly. “pumps ‘em with shots”? ole dude is probably…opps, i mean “prolly” raw doggin’ it too! smmfdh.

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:44 pm

lmao Im just plain ol’ CLD

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
4:44 pm

I hope you guys welcomed Taliq, at some point today, LOL. Welcome Taliq! I think SexyCool showed you some love, the resident cool fly girl

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

Ared- He dates chicks that can’t say no to free drinks.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

ahh Gigalo, how retro

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

And yes even a HO has to respect you to get in the bed with you at some point..

Hmmm…I don’t know about that one. :lol:

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:45 pm

lol@pumpin ya full of shots….lmao@Rawdog Rex

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

Oh, where are my manners….!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

lmao at CLD!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:46 pm

Page- That was what I thought he was talking about until I read chronic.. Womp

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

Amazon,
“I don’t put out early. You’ve gotta show me what you’re made of first. And intimacy is one aspect of it.”

depends what early is. if you’ve got some sort of 1 month rule before nookie then yup you’ll be impervous to my charms.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:47 pm

lol@pumpin ya full of shots….lmao@Rawdog Rex

W8 – I think he actually means shots of liquor. :lol:

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:48 pm

raw doggin the chorizo! LOL Lioness!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:48 pm

if you’ve got some sort of 1 month rule before nookie then yup you’ll be impervous to my charms

Taliq – Well…what do you know… ;)

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:48 pm

@Ared–oops my bad….lmao…ummm so how’s the weather?

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
4:48 pm

He aint nothing but 22 himself but he messing with them 18 yr olds hopefully.. But W8 did say he was pulling a RKelly or Micheal Jackson..

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

Page- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: @ chorizo! Spicy sausage

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

DK Dude you should always act as if her stuff is the most unimportant piece of her body.

That’s called a “Transfer Of Power”.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:49 pm

LOL @ W8’s tag line. I’m gonna (imma) get u sap sucka!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:50 pm

Hmmm…I don’t know about that one

and u wldnt,unless u had be hoed be4! :lol: :lol:

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
4:51 pm

My money is on this is a regular blogger just taking ya’ll on a ride

yep

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:51 pm

i agree ms main!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:51 pm

Diva- WE can’t say s*usage in this joint??

Page- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: @ Chorizo

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:51 pm

and u wldnt,unless u had be hoed be4!

melo – And I haven’t, but it doesn’t seem like respect is high on the list of hoes to begin with.

Superhead has a relationship book out about how to keep a man. I found that humorous.

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:51 pm

honestly I think Taliq is a female regular blogger..not even a dude

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:52 pm

So Tariq dont like the spring chickens,like in this blog mostly??
and neva the cougar……

boy hasnt even been handled yet! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:52 pm

My money is on this is a regular blogger just taking ya’ll on a ride

That wouldn’t surprise me. There are some folks on here lame enough to do that.

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:52 pm

haha taliq is one of the bloggettes? i think i know who now!

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:53 pm

Superhead couldnt keep me as her man..but she sure could try as long as i had on 3 condoms and there was no kissing…lmao

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:53 pm

W8- I thought that from his/her first post..

Blue_Kolla

September 9th, 2009
4:53 pm

My money is on this is a regular blogger just taking ya’ll on a ride

And a female at that.

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:53 pm

@Ared–oops my bad….lmao…ummm so how’s the weather?

W8 – I thought he was talking about “cum shots” first as well. Then I reread. :lol:

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:54 pm

lol @ ARed and Lioness!

Melo

September 9th, 2009
4:54 pm

but it doesn’t seem like respect is high on the list of hoes to begin with.

its a diff type of respect…

u know how drug dealers will kill another for dissing them and their territory.

strange to us,law abides,a diff kind of respect for them.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:54 pm

I guess the LAMES decided to come out in FULL effect today :arrow:

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:54 pm

@Page, kicking you off the bus. You always spell my name with 2g’s! Acting dumb ain’t cute. :lol:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:55 pm

Amred – I’ve actually read the book. Interesting perspective and pictures/diagrams too!LOL!! She’s a married woman now, did you know? I think she married that Eddie Winslow dude!

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:55 pm

Superhead couldnt keep me as her man..but she sure could try as long as i had on 3 condoms and there was no kissing…lmao

:lol: :lol: :lol:

That’s what I thought. But I guess some dudes actually don’t care about a girls past (isn’t that what you dudes preach on here? :lol: )

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:56 pm

lol leggs, i didn’t realize i was spelling it with 2 g’s.

lol @ eddie winslow.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
4:56 pm

I Believe… (dedicated to Taliq, sex addict)
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had, and what you’ve learned from them and how you act upon them…..and less to do with how many snatches you snatched!!!

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:57 pm

@Ared- you so nasty thinking like me….shots to tha dome..fiyah…fiyah..fiyah

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
4:57 pm

lol @ “snatch”!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
4:57 pm

SMDH @ Ared & W8.. I thought ol boy was getting RAW with Ared too til he typed Kush :???:

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
4:58 pm

Leggs – Profound!

W8©(CLD)

September 9th, 2009
4:59 pm

shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid….I want a seasoned woman..not a sour expired woman…..besides how you gone marry superhead…then she tells you no to giving you head….lmao…..thats not a good look….lmao

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
4:59 pm

Kimmie – Why did you read her book? :lol:

And yeah, I head she was engaged to Eddie Winslow, but I also heard they broke up before the wedding. Wonder who her hubby is? (and why she keeps THAT under wraps when she tells everything else!)

W8©(da numba 7 cross town)

September 9th, 2009
5:00 pm

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
5:00 pm

thinking like me

W8 – Stop saying that! :evil: :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
5:00 pm

haha taliq is one of the bloggettes? i think i know who now!

ANGIE

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
5:00 pm

W8- If she denies you then tell her to take that, take that, take that

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
5:01 pm

For Real,
lol I cant remember ever using a pickup line, there are HOs everyehere. If not why do so many marriages etc relationships fail. I think being a HO is man’s natural state. A lot of us just learn to become good liars etc about it. Again almost all of my buddies seem to cheat on their wives. And I can’t count how many peoples girl friends i’ve boned. I don’t do wives or anyone that’s got kids, i want no part in breaking a happy home.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
5:01 pm

Melo- Don’t think so

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
5:02 pm

LMAO @ Lioness……WHEW this day flew by while I was reading this blog today. HAHAHAHA. Goodnite yall. :-)

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
5:02 pm

Amred – I’ve actually read the book. Interesting perspective and pictures/diagrams too!LOL!! She’s a married woman now, did you know? I think she married that Eddie Winslow dude!

….and that was probably comeuppance for him…lol

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
5:02 pm

“haha taliq is one of the bloggettes? i think i know who now!”

lol … i am me … not angie or melanie etc … and how come i gotta be a broad, y not call me Dan … he seem col

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
5:03 pm

ha, either angie or 2 other blogettes that have been mia for a while.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
5:03 pm

Remember Everyone, tomorrow is TAKE YOUR MEDS THURSDAY!!!

Chow ;)

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
5:03 pm

Y’all got my dander all up. ;)

Night y’all.

W8©(da numba 7 cross town)

September 9th, 2009
5:03 pm

@lioness- I was trying to play the simp roll. I am very BOLD…take that take that take that…it;s the remix baybayyyyyyyy….it weezy f baby…dont forget the f baby….lol

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:04 pm

I m not sure if Taliq is a regular, but these clowns change monikers and say crap all the time so I would not be surprised with all of that foolishness and being a coward. I know I am not a man but I have nig balls so I don’t understand that hiding crap.

Melo- I hope that is not Angie, but I don’t thinks so…LMAO because I thought of that pic of Angie that was on here.

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
5:05 pm

Amred – I read it out of curiosity and to see a different perspective. Actually some of her stuff is kind of practical. I have biographies on all different types of people. I like to see how others different from myself think. If you did not know “who” she was and have that preconcieved notion about her, she comes off rather intelligent in the book. Maybe she’s had some type of epiphany!LOL!!

Page1908- Boo'd up

September 9th, 2009
5:05 pm

lol @ ARed’s dander flaring up.

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:06 pm

…stepping out and wishing all the insecure cowards a courage pill hell I am paying the copayment for a lifetime supply. No games or gimmicks stop pretending you need the pill.

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
5:07 pm

wait, did Professor say she had nig balls!? I’m dying LOL!! I just can’t, you guys were outrageous today *whew*

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
5:07 pm

Actually some of her stuff is kind of practical.

kimmie – Which is why I can’t completely hate. Heck, Steve Harvey is not a model husband, but has some sage advice in his book.

Wise Diva

September 9th, 2009
5:08 pm

Have a great evening everyone

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:08 pm

Yeah WD they are like big ballons!!!!

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:09 pm

I meant to say BIG typo but I will take the other too, though

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
5:09 pm

[I Believe… (dedicated to Taliq, sex addict)
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had, and what you’ve learned from them and how you act upon them…..and less to do with how many snatches you snatched!!!]

I agree … I consider myself very immature and look for the same in my partners

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:10 pm

You got NIG Balls?? – B9tch, you stoopid.

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:11 pm

And, B9tch you you should have read the correction!!!

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:12 pm

And you’re still stoopid.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
5:14 pm

No I am not a regular blogger … and i seriously hope i dont become a regular on here … i sure as hell know i dont wanna be talking relationship issues on d regular … my blog addiction is reserved strictly for the lakers

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:14 pm

And, your mama! So go sit down and mind your own business

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:18 pm

Sybil, I will handle your split personality azz tomorrow, because your dumb Azz missed the point heifer.

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:19 pm

That was mature.

You really don’t realize how entertaining your posturing and mini-tantrums are.

Girl, stop!

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:22 pm

Now WE (me and my personalities) are REALLY laughing at your ass. How you gone “handle” somebody on a blog?

Are you fckg kidding me?

OUR sides are splitting.

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:23 pm

You were mature to respond in the first place so again go sit down!!!! I will handle you later if I feel up to it, so if you cannot grasp the concept behind what I said well you are just dam.n dumb.

Professor

September 9th, 2009
5:25 pm

Well bytch I have a life you can stay on this blog and argue with your many personalities, but I am gone. So find you something to play with and don’t comment on everything dummy

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:27 pm

And she will be back in five, four, three, two………..

Sybil

September 9th, 2009
5:28 pm

Takes a bow….

And trembles with fear cause I’m gone git dealt wit’ tomorrow…..on a blog, no less.

Hi-fckg-larry-us!