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Jealous Much?

Yesterday we talked about how to draw the line on flirting and being too tempted. Today, I wanted to touch on how to handle being with someone who is extremely insecure. I’ve had a jealous boyfriend before and it’s not always an easy feat to reassure someone that you are just friendly and flirty by nature. What do you think about asking a person to change that part of their personality so that you can feel more secure about the relationship?

There is only so much jealousy a person can handle. Have you dated someone who was jealous? What were the signs that they were that way? Is there a way to spot this red flag before you are in a relationship with someone?

Have you ever struggled with jealous and insecurity personally? How did it impact your dating or your relationships? What can one do to let the jealousy and insecurity go?

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Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:56 pm

Proff, i eat collards everyweek and we cook them.

we dont murder them(as in cook) the way Paschals do tho! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

You can start by writing hand written apology letters for all the women you’ve had sex with

:lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

Ah no Professor it doesn’t. First because what need is there to jump if they agree with that person.

And why in sam’s hill is a grown woman worrying about cliques. Hell I ain’t in no clique. Everybody on here that I have disagreed with at some time or the other I have said. Even Ms. Moderator. I don’t think they take it personal and I don’t take any one not agreeing with me personal. It ain’t personal. Hell I don’t agree with me husband all the time and he and I are bedmates.

Really? You are really fretting over not being in a clique? Or a circle. Really? Girl how old are you?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
1:57 pm

W8,

“Taliq- You are just thinking with the wrong head…you will come out of your wilderness in a few years hopefully”

Yeah i think so too … there’s only so much this jealous player can take … then again i stuck around with bday ex for about 4 months after the incident … i broke it off only cuz i found out she was going for 2nd helpings with the same guy … i was ok with her cheating with other folks but not that dude, not that same guy that had her the night before my bday …

everytime i get jealous … i feel stupid … but i cant help it … y won’t these HOs love me like i’m prince charming … i mean i try to act like that around them

Chink

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

Jealousy rears its ugly head…I been there before. What was worse was we were both trying to find something on each other…just a bad relationship. Maybe I was just looking for a way out (him too).

Melo

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

MR. Unknown…3 marriages and counting….that wld be my alarm sign..peeeeee.

im on to my second myself.
if it dont work out,im stop…altho the prostate will go for service eve now and then. :lol:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
1:59 pm

Raqi you are not in my clique any more! lol @ sam’s hill. who is he?

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

@Taliq hopefully you can take a break and get your bearings right if nothing else. If you want to deal with women on the terms you are dealing with them on that is fine, but you need to be at peace with your decision. If you don’t want to deal with them on those terms I hope you figure out what works for you. Anyway sitting out a quarter helps gain clarity (at least for me it did).

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:00 pm

Dan,
“You can start by writing hand written apology letters for all the women you’ve had sex with and then…..”

usually when i try that … it’s my subconcious trying to get back with some good booty

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

@Taliq

YOU…are…killing…me…slowly…..

Why is you concern about who’s fugging yo chick (not the same dude), if it ain’t you, it ain’t yo concern.

Dag, dude, you like EXTRA sensitive….

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

Grrrrrrrrrr………………..

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:01 pm

Page you know he the devil. LOL

Chink

September 9th, 2009
2:04 pm

Hey Page

Pesonally I would want to be married once…but whats too many marriages? Hey some folks try till they get it right :)

Compelling

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Well, well, well, when the cat’s away the mice will play. LOL! :-) WD where you at? Hahahaha.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Raqi,
“Taliq you aren’t a playa, yousa horndog. LOL”

so very true …

Professor fill in the blank___

September 9th, 2009
2:05 pm

Raqi you really took that one wrong and ran with it…if that is the most you could grasp out of all that I said let us end the discussion. Esp when this discussion is not new, so if you don’t get it by now please sit behind the driver on the little yellow bus. Yes take the window seat.

Actually I really don’t feel like blasting you so I will overlook all of the extra you wrote, because again I don’t want to go there on you!!!!

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

Oddly enough, I like Taliq.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:07 pm

Taliq- I think you are just afraid to be alone….when i hated being alone the byproduce was me just slanging the wood left and right…my mouth could talk me into any puddy…but that was just a by product of a greater need of not being alone….once you get sick and tired of useless meaningless sex..you will find yourself and hold yourself to a hire standard….with only the occasional wood slanging episode..and dont fall in love just cuz some women can really freak you back…

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:08 pm

the next time we have a blog meet, im attending.

But i be wearing my BOMB diffusing suit and equipment,just in case.

Coz with u blog ladies,its pops off any minute…. :lol: :lol:

Firemaster: hold up! hoold up ! everybody out.the door…..2 women down..wigs and hair peaces flying all over.
Over ,Mr Bouncer!

Bouncer: Over.we be over there with the popo, Over!..

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:08 pm

higher standard..not hire…lol

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:09 pm

Melo – The crazy people are not invited.

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:10 pm

@Raqi, you’re absolutely right!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:11 pm

the party was the last blog gathering that i know about..unless..i wasnt invited..lmao

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:11 pm

Taliq- I think you are just afraid to be alone….

W8 – I’m only half reading his predicament cuz I don’t know much about the ho chronicles, but I think you’ve summed it up.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:12 pm

@W8

This needed to be repeated:

“….once you get sick and tired of useless meaningless sex..”

That’s true for any (wo)man, regardless of the reason for the start of that type of behavior

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:13 pm

the next time we have a blog meet, im attending.

:lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
2:14 pm

Taliq – Stop chasing babes and focus on what you want out of life.. Stop acting like yuou think the want you to act, they really like it when youre yourself.. There are so many actors out here these days. Dont be so thirsty and just relax.. Learn to be alone and love you then you will truly find that lady that is right for you..

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:16 pm

but whats too many marriages? Hey some folks try till they get it righ

Larry King is onto his sixth i believe…..and his back is really bent up and cracking..

wonder if hes proly getting some Hollywood assists…the wife is 40 years hiz junior!

:lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:17 pm

Esp when this discussion is not new

EXACTLY. I have read it before. Which leads me to ask why the hell grown folks still worrying about whether or not someone else agrees with them? This ain’t no damn high school. We all grown. If you have problem not being in the “crowd” (which only exist your mind and those who think like you) then you have problem.

And imma give you an example and maybe you can professorize on that,

Not every one is the same. Different circumstances can change general statements made by many. Something Melo says can mean something totally different if Dan says it. Why? One married the other isn’t.

Okay Tazzee my patience have worn out. And that’s like me. LOL

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:18 pm

Dan,

“Dag, dude, you like EXTRA sensitive…”
That’s the line of thinking that made me stay with bday ex. I figured yo I dip too so why get emotional.

“Why is you concern about who’s fugging yo chick (not the same dude), if it ain’t you, it ain’t yo concern.”
My pride kept getting in the way though. I kept snooping so i knew of most instances she dipped/tried dipping on me. So its like i was bottling all this resentment inside me. And when she ran into mr bday banger again and made plans to hookup i snitched on my snooping ways and gave her an ultimatum. she called me psycho stalker and said we better off, i concured but i still miss her. Still aint found a replacement main shawty that could hold the post for more than a couple of weeks. My snooping ways got me catching on to their lies real quick, got me losing trust for females real quick, but my black member keeps insisting we play the game. Aint this what sowing your oats is all about it argues.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:20 pm

Enter your comments here

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:20 pm

The infamous DK,
“Learn to be alone and love you then you will truly find that lady that is right for you..”

what’s the proposal … jerking off/porn doesn’t work … it only makes me feel foolish for passing up the real deal

Melo

September 9th, 2009
2:23 pm

Taliq, u tried craiglist or u know about it??

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:23 pm

SexyCool,
“Oddly enough, I like Taliq.”

lol thanks … i tell my friends, i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
2:24 pm

“My snooping ways got me catching on to their lies real quick, got me losing trust for females real quick, but my black member keeps insisting we play the game.” This is the second time you’ve stated this. It’s absolutely amazing that you got all bent out of shape with what she was doing, but you seem to be fine with your own lying, cheating ways. You know the old saying, “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.”

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:24 pm

but whats too many marriages?

Melo I read an article the other day that stated Americans marry too much. We have the highest divorce and remarrying rate than any others.

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

@Taliq

Why is you snooping about who she fugging!

Mayne, I done bout ran out of it for ya bruh.

You playing the game like a 21yo chick right now (checking messages, issuing ultimatums, being confused, acting one way and blaming that isht on yo “heart”)

Grown up, man up, and stop whinin!!!

igga, you is a 30 year old dude

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
2:25 pm

i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human

Taliq – Don’t fall back on that “it’s human” thing. You know you are making bad choices. It’s up to you to grow up and stop making them. You’re old enough to know better.

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:26 pm

Taliq- you still have some growing to do..its not all about busting a nut…that is not the move…you need to learn to treat yourself like a commodity and just not give it to every willing chick…don;t et the hoes think they are giving you something special..yall are giving each other the same thing…you are foolish by being controlled by the “real deal”..better be careful cuz some of these women are up on that game and will use and abuse you..leaving you more jacked up than you are now

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
2:27 pm

Melo- Yousa a DAMN fool! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dan

September 9th, 2009
2:27 pm

Some Americans marry for the same reason people get into debt, or join cults: because they don’t know no better.

Like this Taliq kid, people need to define (find) themselves before making major life choices {Clay Davis shiiiiieeedddd} somma y’all need that before leaving the house.

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Melo,

I seen a craigslist skit on some tv station … but finding HOs ain’t my problem … learning to be by myself and holding out for monogamy is the difficult part … I’m not even sure the point of monogamy anymore, if i want it and she wants it, y shudnt we get it on

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Taliq you better be careful before you do something or run up on something that you can’t get rid of.

Ms. Main

September 9th, 2009
2:28 pm

Raqi For and to me, it ain’t about cliques cause yeah, I’m grown and don’t do cliques. I say what I gotta, like lick or lump it. But you cannot deny there are days when folks will argue all daggone day long with the odd ball and as soon as someone that’s more accepted hopes on this mug and reiterates the side of the argument in which the masses are disagreeing and what….crickets…next thing we know, the masses have swayed. It’s all funny to me. But you can’t deny it. I stand corrected if I’m misstating the person but I believe Lioness stating (during dialog with Melo), some days she’s not up for being the odd ball out so she just agrees. Even so, Melo has stated on more than one occasion he’d like to see folks post their honest true feelings instead of going along with “our gang.” Hey, like I said, I say what I want, no matter how perceived (i.e. disagreeable, taken for starting an argument) and keep moving but ummmm, yeah it happens. I don’t do cliques so folks being aggrevated or what not does not apply to me. But yeah, okay.

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
2:30 pm

Taliq – “i tell my friends, i’m a good person making lots of bad choices … i think that’s being human.”

Um, actually, Taliq, knowing that you’re making bad choices and CONTINUING to make them is not “human”, it’s just plain CRAZY.

Stop it. Check ya’self before you wreck yourself or impregnate some CRAZY chick who you will be tied to for the rest of your life and who will definitaly be bringing you mad drama.

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W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

Taliq- maybe you should try and date someone older..cuz you say you only date younger than 25…is that because you know an older woman wont put up with your shyt?

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

Groupie love aint nothing new on the blog.. Ya’ll know this.. Just say what ya like and thats that..

W8©

September 9th, 2009
2:32 pm

I dont agree with anybody unless I really agree with them