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Jealous Much?

Yesterday we talked about how to draw the line on flirting and being too tempted. Today, I wanted to touch on how to handle being with someone who is extremely insecure. I’ve had a jealous boyfriend before and it’s not always an easy feat to reassure someone that you are just friendly and flirty by nature. What do you think about asking a person to change that part of their personality so that you can feel more secure about the relationship?

There is only so much jealousy a person can handle. Have you dated someone who was jealous? What were the signs that they were that way? Is there a way to spot this red flag before you are in a relationship with someone?

Have you ever struggled with jealous and insecurity personally? How did it impact your dating or your relationships? What can one do to let the jealousy and insecurity go?

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Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:10 pm

Have any of you ladies visited Sweet Samba?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:11 pm

how you doing girl?

:lol: W8 – I’m doing fine boy!

My tan is starting to peel, so I’m not happy about that. Other than that, everything is peachy. How are you?

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:13 pm

Raqi- What is that?

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

Infamous DK
“I suggest you chill for a while get ya mind right and go from there.. You are gonna crash and burn reall soon going down this path..

Or you can enroll.. I got classes starting right away.. The first lesson is free..”

Ok teacher, what would you do in this scenario. You home from work at 6pm, catch a nap and wakeup around 10. You’re chanell surfing and shawty you haven’t heard from in a month sends u text message. She say 22, great body, nice personality (the type that’ll cook u a meal and help u clean up). She says she home bored and wants to come over?

I’d smash it, cuddle with her afterwards. A week later i get a similar text i smash again. 4 days later i get horny and send a text but she dont respond. A couple of days later she sends me a text and i get all pissy n ignore her message cuz she aint respond 2 mine, she musta been with some other dude my jealous side fumes. A month later i get another text from her, eff it, i smash again.

I just dont know how to avoid a nice piece of booty that’s available … even when i dont want it, i feel like it’s passing up on a great steak … so i smash

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:15 pm

I am doing..not complaining…had a great weekend that started on last thursday…

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:16 pm

I don’t need you on that “you need to get laid”

LOL Amazon. Can you imagine how I felt when my mother said it to me?

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

I am doing..not complaining…had a great weekend that started on last thursday…

:lol: Yeah…I saw the pics. I’ma have to holla at the birthday boy about that debauchery! :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:17 pm

Taliq- you just dont have any self respect…case closed…lmao..atleast you are getting a cooked meal and a cleaning…I’m a sucker for a cooked meal…lmao…that is some excellent foreplay…mm mm mmm

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

LOL Amazon. Can you imagine how I felt when my mother said it to me?

Raqi – No one in real life says that ish to me, cuz that’s not the problem. :lol:

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:18 pm

Have any of you ladies visited Sweet Samba

thats a trick qstion Raqi… ???

i always think my Queen’s samba is the real deal! :lol: :lol:

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

omg lawd help everyone on this blog!

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

I think he and I both untagged ourselves in some photos…

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:19 pm

I think he and I both untagged ourselves in some photos…

:lol: That was probably wise. :lol:

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

lol@Ared- NO comment

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

Melo,
“at 30, i expect most men to know all they need to know about themselves and women,for the most part.”
yeah that’s the tragedy. though in my humble opinion i’m better off than half my friends who got married already and are constantly lying to their wives about their whereabouts. At least I know I aint fit for that situation.

“Unless they have spent the greater part of their life in the pen.”
My best friend claims that’s my problem actually. He says I’m a spoilt brat that hasn’t run into any real difficulties in life ( i got the type of family that’s madd supportive ) … claims if i couldn’t pay my rent and was hungry for a week, i’d stop whining about HOs and start whining about making money

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 9th, 2009
3:20 pm

W8 – I’m saving it to rock this Friday in the office! Got 2 more HOT UGA shirts yesterday at Champs too. Updating my Bulldog wardrobe!

Unless they have spent the greater part of their life in the pen.
Melo – LOL!!!

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Page- DAMN Everyone???

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Lioness it’s a spa. I have gift certificate and I was considering getting a wax done.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

Taliq- Yousa a mamas boy???

Dan

September 9th, 2009
3:21 pm

“…cuddle with her afterwards…”

Are you serious?

Woooooooooowwwwww

I’m done

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

ARed did u see my totally cute shirt i had on in the pics? i *heart* it.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Wandering back in for a moment. Some of the “new stuff” seems a little too hard to swallow…kinda like when in my teenage years everyone was pretending to be hopping everything while carrying around the same condom until it kind of dissolved. Some things don’t add up and the talk adn teh walk don’t seem to jive. My $.02

East Point's Own

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Ahh Hemmmm… all you folks going back and forth with Taliq it was once said “…never argue with a fool because its hard(impossible)for onlookers to tel lthe difference…”
My money is on this is a regular blogger just taking ya’ll on a ride. But that’s just http:hispointofview.com

And I hope I am not wrong, because if I am then this dude needs more help than we can give.

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:22 pm

Taliq- @ 30 you STILL allow them to do stuff for you??

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

lol@Ared- NO comment

:oops: :lol: :arrow:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Melo LOL I should have known you would respond that.
Imma have to scratch this statement now.

I was considering getting a wax done.

I am considering getting my nails done.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Sorry about the typos. I need tos tart foing my typing in Word and copying it to the blog so I can run a spell check. Can spell just lousy typist.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:23 pm

Lioness- yeah because it always gets outta hand. blog cliques, people befriending others to get information on someone else, jabs back and forth, people going off on others.

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

omg lawd help everyone on this blog!

Page1908 , ima need u to be a lil more lucid on the blog,u think some white wine cld do that for u…

go head and drink some and do a toast to WD and the blog!

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:24 pm

W8,
[Taliq- you just dont have any self respect…case closed…lmao..]
sadly i concur, i wouldn’t say any otherwise i’d never break up with a HO. but it ranks low on d scale.

“atleast you are getting a cooked meal and a cleaning…I’m a sucker for a cooked meal…lmao…that is some excellent foreplay…mm mm mmm”

pointless fun is still fun … which is why i keep listening to my black member

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

LOL @ Page. Yes I saw it. Takes a whole lot of paint to make them letters! :P

(just me hatin…) ;)

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:25 pm

randy i think it’s a regular too. someone who really does these things, but is adding extras on. it seems like i have read this in a book.

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:26 pm

lmao ARed! omg shuttup. leave the “girls” out of it! *side eye*

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:26 pm

OK Melo, shut your eyes….now Melo tell me about this “wax” wait I mean “nails”, sorry ;-) . You know I live my life vicariously through you when I am in a dry spell.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

Ignore my previous posts, jeez I am in another world today…meant Raqi tell me about “nails”.

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
3:27 pm

all this talk about HO’s made me think of a post of my from http://www.verysmartbrothas.com from last week. Here goes:

Everybody wanna talk about turning a ho into a housewife.
What I wanna know is
Can you stand a dog @ss playa upright?
Trying to put every chick he meet in rotation.
Trying to be like Wayne and Drake
and hit every chick in creation.
Thinking he got so much game.
Not even remembering every chick’s name.
Never realizing that his @ss is lame.
Instead of improving on his rotation management skills,
He needs to be focusing on a better way to pay his bills.
He should be coming up with a plan for his life.
But naw, he trying to keep Shaneeka from wanting to be his wife.
He want her to be his girl on the side
or that chick that he hit.
Thinking he “DaMan” when he really ain’t sh!t.
And when his dyck get tired or he done lost his edge,
THEN he wants to find a wife to lay in his bed.
Wanting her to believe that she’s found a prize.
When all that really happened is that he got tired of telling lies.
Or got scared that he would grow old alone.
And have no place to call his home.
Now you want to bring her what’s left of you.
Asking her to give her best to you.
Don’t you realize that she now thinks less of you?
But I digress,
Y’all wudn’t even talkin’ bout this mess.
The subject was turning a ho into a housewife, no less.
But my question remains unchanged.
Can you take a playa out the game?
Or will he just be a dog on a chain?

Lioness- Envy is a BIYATCH!!!

September 9th, 2009
3:31 pm

Page- Don’t believe everything you read..

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:32 pm

people befriending others to get information on someone else

OMG,now which chics are doing a background check on me?? i aint phluck everybody,just one or two.
Certainly not in Taliq’s clique!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Raqi...Not if he's my man...

September 9th, 2009
3:33 pm

W8©

September 9th, 2009
3:35 pm

Page- got yall fooled she is not worrying about this crap

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Taliq, what the hell is wrong with you. First of all, stop taking naps when you get home at 6 p.m. Who takes naps?? Anyway, she texts you and you respond. You guys kick it. She texts you again and again you kick it. A week or so later you text her and she doesn’t respond and you automatically think she’s kicking it with some other dude. Why not your first thought being when she first text you YOU were nothing but a booty call for her. Now, she may be with someone else and then again she may not be. She may just not be in the mood that you’re in so she’s ignoring your texts. You guys aren’t dating so she can dismiss you anytime she wants. Isn’t that what you guys do. You sound retarded with that scenario. Sorry, but you do. You might be 30 years of age but you act, talk and think like a 22 year old!

Pick up on Aisle 69 MAN DOWN!

SexyCool - The humpback is angry.

September 9th, 2009
3:37 pm

The blog monster is eating my posts.

MR. Unknown

September 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

Lol,, the BLOG has gangs up in here.. The eastside knowitalls vs northside eyeskeepitreal.. too funny..

Taliq

September 9th, 2009
3:38 pm

East Point’s Own,
“And I hope I am not wrong, because if I am then this dude needs more help than we can give.”

lol nah i ain’t a regular blogger on here … thnx to all 4 their comments … none of it was like omg, that is news to me, i do that and imma b good … it’s all stuff i kinda know already but 2 stuck in my ways to change

sooner rather than later though, this fool must learn … otherwise imma never really b happy

Melo

September 9th, 2009
3:39 pm

Now did ur kids,nieces and nephews talk to u about the Obama’s speech??

my kids did..my 11 yr old dghter actually reminded me;

“daddy,we lisstened to Prez obama today”.

Melo: oh good chica,what did he say?
dghter: oh,he said we must stay in school,yada yada and if u wanna be a doc u must do ur homewrk and do science classes yada yada…

melo oh nice, i neva had a prez talk to me like that,aint u lucky girl?

dghter: yeah,i am

melo everythng i ve told u,now u hearing it from the prez…see….

dghter: i know
melo : im so proud of u sweetie

(my daughter was really chaffed)

Page1908

September 9th, 2009
3:41 pm

lol leggs! you are not supposed to say “retarded”. it’s “mentally challenged”! lol. someone said something about someone riding in the short yellow bus in the window seat! omg. lmao

SexyCool- DANDER!!

Leggs

September 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

And for the record, Taliq is certainly helping this day go by!

Raqi

September 9th, 2009
3:42 pm

Page Professor put me on the short yellow bus earlier. I am in the seat right behind the driver. LOL

AmazonRed™ - tanned to a nice toasted almond brown

September 9th, 2009
3:43 pm

people befriending others to get information on someone else

Page – Amen. I really wish these idiots will plug out of the matrix. :???: