Sweet Temptation
Have you ever heard of the saying, “Opportunity knocks but temptation leans on the doorbell” before? It kind of explains how hard it is to deal with temptation. If you are in a relationship and live in Atlanta, being tempted is a real issue for some people.
You can sport a wedding ring or stay out of bars, but eventually you will be presented with a serious temptation. How do you deal with it? Some people in this city are extremely bold and persistent. Even after you tell them that you are involved, married, or have a “situationship” it does not deter them from pursuing you.
What happens when you are approached by someone when you already exclusively dating someone else? Have you ever been tempted to actually find out if the person is a better fit for you? If you found someone you had a connection with or a serious connection, how do you handle the temptation of being with that person?
Happy Tuesday everyone! How was your extended weekend? Did you have any sweet temptations?
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Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
September 8th, 2009
1:03 pm
Simple comment…
Temptation is a given and happens, especially with the mystique that somehting new holds…but giving into that temptation, as stated above, is a choice.
One thing that I hear that absolutely makes me gag is when someone blames someone else for their indiscretion. YOU made the choice. Fidelity and infidelity is a choice. Staying or leaving is a choice. That is a stupid as that old line “the devil made me do it”. No, the devil did not make you do it…you did.
Page1908
September 8th, 2009
1:03 pm
Lioness I kiss everyone on the cheek when I greet them!
Raqi
September 8th, 2009
1:03 pm
Lioness no that’s not cheating. That can be a cultural gesture therefore should not be considered cheating.
Poppa Grande
September 8th, 2009
1:04 pm
W8
also sex between unmarried couples is also
That is not true anymore.
http://www.glapn.org/sodomylaws/usa/georgia/ganews27.htm
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:04 pm
@Lioness- Would you do that with your man right there?..the kiss on the cheek? If you would not do it with your man there why would you do it with him not there.
Grace
September 8th, 2009
1:05 pm
….I define it as anything you would not normally do if your Significant other was standing right there with you. – W8 I agree times 10!
W8 – It’s how I feel UNTIL I see differently. Again I’m speaking of my own experiences.
Dream_n
September 8th, 2009
1:05 pm
@ Lioness
no lol.. i do that with my daughter’s father’s family all the time.
Grace
September 8th, 2009
1:05 pm
W8 how you doing? (in my Wendy Williams voice)
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 8th, 2009
1:05 pm
Sup good blog peoples?!!!
I had a nice, low-key weekend. Relaxing!
Mr. Unknown – You’re speaking strictly from a man’s point of view. If you think all women cheat for is the physical, you have a lot to learn about women. Just my opinion though.
W8 & Taz – I can relate best to your posts. I think when one becomes engaged, MENTALLY they should be already married, they have just not gone thru the formalities.
Nicole – I’ve asked a few dudes about that “magic button”! Nobody has been able to give me a straight answer!LOL!
I do think you give off a certain aura when you are in a fulfilling relationship that attracts people to you. I’ve noticed though, with myself, that I am attracting a better quality of guys, at least they appear to be. When I let them know I am seeing someone seriously, they respectfully back off. I’m not getting the sleazy “Well you don’t know what you’re missing if you don’t try” type of mess that I’m used to getting when I responded that I had a man in the past. I don’t know what’s up with that, but a few might be nice for me to point in the direction of some of my single-and-looking friends!
And yes, like Raqi said, it is too easy to have polite, office chats be misconstrued into something else. That’s mess just waiting to happen.
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:06 pm
W8- Innocent conversation shouldn’t be considered cheating neither should a hug or a kiss on the cheek.. I would do all of that in the presence of my Man but it may not be received well…
Did yall know that Oral Sex is illegal in Georgia..also sex between unmarried couples is also<– I may have to move out of this crazy tail state asap!!
Grace- Interesting BUT why feel that way towards divorcees?? That could be the case with any individual that was in love with their ex..
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:06 pm
Thanks PG…and my comeback is…it’s still illegal in God’s eyes….and yes I am guilty..lmao
He is oral sex still illegal and certain postions or have they updated all of that too? I remember back in 1996 a soldier got caught with the General’s daughter off post and had pics and videos of it…and they thre the book at him and he got charged with all sorts of stuff….
i'm swiss (back from honeymoon, tanned & happily married)
September 8th, 2009
1:07 pm
Thanks, Leggs, SexyCool & Tazzee…
Tazzee — We went to Jamaica — stayed at a resort called Half Moon in Montego Bay. Here’s the web site. It was beautiful and it was very slow there, so we pretty much had the place to ourselves. We did meet some nice folks there, however — a very nice English couple, 2 sisters from ATL there running fitness bootcamps for the week (so, of course, Swiss Miss had my butt out running all over the grounds doing the bootcamp every morning). As a matter of fact, our neighbors in the villa next door were another swirled couple, there on their 17-year anniversary — one of my cousins and his very nice Jamaican wife.
Anyway, the place was awesome… I highly recommend it. 
Oh, and on a side note, I’d just like to point out that Swiss Miss got sunburned and I didn’t. 
Grace
September 8th, 2009
1:08 pm
Lioness I don’t see greeting a person with a kiss on the cheek as cheating, heck it’s a custom in most countries. I do it all the time. You’ll always a get a hug and a kiss on the cheek when you meet me and when I’m leaving.
Raqi
September 8th, 2009
1:08 pm
Temptation is a given and happens
Randy I agree. Sometimes we can’t control when I thought enters our mind but the things is you can’t enter the thought. Heck we were just talking the other day about admiring different entertainers on television. To look at someone a think they are cute or handsome is just a human reaction. But it should not go any further than that.
To see a guy walk by me in the store and to think he is handsome, to me is the same as seeing an actor or singer on television. Do not entertain the thought. Keep it moving. Something has to get your attention in order for temptation to even take place.
Compelling
September 8th, 2009
1:09 pm
@ W8- Yeah anything that your S/O would not approve of could be considered cheating.
Emotional cheating is the worst, and it can start out pretty harmless and just escalate.
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:10 pm
@Lioness- I am not talkoing about the act itself..I am more on the would a person act the same way if their significant other was there or not….and if you are doing said act..(whatever it is) would you get mad if your significant other did the same thing?
MR. Unknown
September 8th, 2009
1:10 pm
lol,, Describes it best,,, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uz55oJgOIc8&feature=related you got two BF…
kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!
September 8th, 2009
1:10 pm
Hey Swiss, she’s “Swiss MRS” now!LOL!!! “Swirled” couple – that’s cute!LOL!!
Poppa Grande
September 8th, 2009
1:12 pm
W8
I feel you on the being guilty in God’s eyes, and I too was guilty of that (along with other sins)
Some court changes after 1996 happened and the court seemed to believe that the gov’t had no place in the private bedrooms of Georgian citizens and struck down the law in 1998.
They kept it illegal to have sex with minors and/or animals.
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:13 pm
Some men have a problem with their woman’s interaction with another man no matter how innocent the interaction may be. I greeted a friend of mine w/ a kiss on the cheek when I was in a relationship & the dude I was seeing had a FIT once we were alone. What I may feel is OK to do in the presence of my man may NOT be received well .
Page1908
September 8th, 2009
1:14 pm
lol @ swirling. Swiss, ummmm black people do get sunburned. i get them all the time. heck, i still have my tan from when i was on the west coast like 2 weeks ago. i put tons of sunscreen, but it still happens. when i was in phoenix, i got sunburned on my back and nose. *sigh*
Lurking
September 8th, 2009
1:14 pm
Where is ARED? She usually speaks her bit first thing.
Dream_n
September 8th, 2009
1:16 pm
@ Compelling:
Yeah anything that your S/O would not approve of could be considered cheating.
Now that’s a bit vague.. if you ask me lol… What if your guy doesn’t want you out drinking with male co- workers even in a group… Is that cheating???
Kym
September 8th, 2009
1:16 pm
@W8 fornication..I just said that. It is not often enforced.
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:16 pm
Dream- I was about to address that.. Thanx
Lurked
September 8th, 2009
1:17 pm
Who gives a sh!T?
Tazzee - holding on until 12/30/09
September 8th, 2009
1:19 pm
Swiss – Thanks. We’ve been checking out Sandals resorts and Montego Bay is on the list. I take it Swiss Mrs didn’t apply any sunscreen… I learned the hard way that us chocolate folks need it too.
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:19 pm
@Mr Unknown..the last 3 minutes of that video is real talk
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:20 pm
Lurking & Lurked- Funny as HECK
Kym
September 8th, 2009
1:21 pm
Now if they would just get progressive on some other laws.
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:22 pm
Bump Sunscreen.. SUNBLOCK
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:23 pm
@Mr Unknown..that video..the last 3 minutes..awesome
@Lioness- Would you be upset if your man did the same thing..is my question?
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:24 pm
You should not hold your significant other to a standard that you yourself are not willing to follow. If you out giving hugs and kisses..then they should be able to no problem..if you are out kicking it with the opposite sex..then they should no problem…correct?
Compelling
September 8th, 2009
1:25 pm
@ Dream- Well, yeah, because it breaks the agreement that you guys have. If he’s already told you how he feels about it and you decide to do it anyway, you’re going against his wishes and the boundaries that have already been set.
Now, if you can’t get with that, or you don’t agree with his summation, then you might need to check outta that relationship. It’s all about a mutual respect, so if you can’t accept their feelings about something then do both of you a favor and check out.
Angie
September 8th, 2009
1:26 pm
i deal with temptation everyday. been good up to this point. my rule is still intacted. one day i may wake up and say phuck it and screw the next man that tries! but today i’m cool.
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:26 pm
W8- If you are referring to kissing his female friend on the cheek in my presence.. NO! If that is the way they greet one another..
i'm swiss (back from honeymoon, tanned & happily married)
September 8th, 2009
1:26 pm
“Swiss, ummmm black people do get sunburned.”
Oh yes, I know. And I tried to warn Mrs. Swiss (thanks kimmie), but she insisted, “I’m from Haiti, I don’t need sunscreen…”
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
September 8th, 2009
1:26 pm
@ Raqi
I guess I am tempted as much as anyone and more than most. Where choice comes in is action. We all have impulses, being adult means not always/ever acting on them.
Grace
September 8th, 2009
1:27 pm
Correct W8. what’s good for the goose is good for the gander!
Raqi
September 8th, 2009
1:28 pm
Correct W8. Just like I don’t go around making new guy friends and spending time with them, I will not accept my marido befriending random women and spending time with them. He feels the same as I do.
Kym
September 8th, 2009
1:28 pm
Congrats again Swiss. This is going to be one of those long weeks.
Dream_n
September 8th, 2009
1:30 pm
@ Compelling:
See that’s when womes start to loose themselves IMO… Oh i can’t do that cause “he” doesn’t like that….WTF… If I go out to a bar with friends from work and I know that I’m just hanging out after a long week of work… If he can’t TRUST me to go out w/out thinking I’m going to jump someone’s bones then that’s some trust issues on his end he needs to work out. Maybe its just me but I can deal with compromising on cleaning my hair out the sink or taking an hour off of my getting ready when we go out… but determining who I hang out with.. gets a big NO NO from me…. thats just me …
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:30 pm
W8- I am not with being out WITHOUT my Man but every once in a while! That is not the thing to do UNLESS that is the way he wants it.. Then that is when it starts getting complicated..
Do what you NORMALLY do.. Don’t start doing stuff cause your SO does it as a form of get back.. It won’t work BUT you may end up pissing your SO off cause she will notice that you are doing certain ish for spite.. Childish games.. Womp Womp
Leggs
September 8th, 2009
1:31 pm
Whoever asked about going out to drinks w/male co-workers in a group when your husband ask you not to go – doesn’t equate to cheating, but you dismissed his feelings. That hurts just as much!
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:31 pm
@Grace- cool..
@Raqi- just for conversations sake..what about old friends?(not singling you out)
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
September 8th, 2009
1:32 pm
@W8 Re: “You should not hold your significant other to a standard that you yourself are not willing to follow”.
That one statement, plus not wanting to lose my kids when I was married, has kept me out of so much trouble. I flew close to the flames many times when I was married, but before I acted on the impulses, I always thought about whether I would want to be cheated on also, and remembered what I had to lose. In the end, it was not worth the damage to my family nor the damage to the person I see in the mirror.
W8©(I was sneaky and took pics)
September 8th, 2009
1:33 pm
@Dream_n if thats how you and yours flow..thats cool..but are you the type to catch an attitude when he does the same thing?
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:34 pm
I only hug & kiss ppl I am close to & my man will have FULL knowledge who that person is whether he has met them or not!
Compell- Word? Can you pls give an example?
Lioness-Mentally Exhaused w/ a Tad of Carazy
September 8th, 2009
1:35 pm
Leggs- I agree w/ 1:31! I DEFINITELY don’t like my feelings dismissed & I damn sure won’t do that to my man!
Page1908
September 8th, 2009
1:35 pm
omg she said she was from haiti so she didn’t need sunscreen? wow. if you have pigment in your skin, ummmmm you need protection from the sun. i don’t get how where you are from has to do with it.