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Sweet Temptation

Have you ever heard of the saying, “Opportunity knocks but temptation leans on the doorbell” before? It kind of explains how hard it is to deal with temptation. If you are in a relationship and live in Atlanta, being tempted is a real issue for some people.

You can sport a wedding ring or stay out of bars, but eventually you will be presented with a serious temptation. How do you deal with it? Some people in this city are extremely bold and persistent. Even after you tell them that you are involved, married, or have a “situationship” it does not deter them from pursuing you.

What happens when you are approached by someone when you already exclusively dating someone else? Have you ever been tempted to actually find out if the person is a better fit for you? If you found someone you had a connection with or a serious connection, how do you handle the temptation of being with that person?

Happy Tuesday everyone! How was your extended weekend? Did you have any sweet temptations?

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Wings() (I Fly Above)

September 8th, 2009
8:40 am

Good Morning Bloggers!

Good Topic WD

I moved on from a relationship like that(or so I thought)…..and to this day my biggest fear is that we will both end up with other people because we never gave “us” a real chance. Is this temptation or fate?

That is the precise reason that we date……..if someone is still on your mind or in your heart to the point that you would even consider them or are tempted, when you supposed to be are with someone else…………newsflash…………..you are not ready to be with one person (continue dating). Unfortunately, the person who should be put on notice is the one who thinks you are being exclusive.

Have A Great Day!

Raqi

September 8th, 2009
9:30 am

Temptation is very much preeminent when you find yourself in a good relationship. And we find that it’s not that we aren’t being satisfied emotionally and physically in our relationship but it’s just that we are human. The choice to be together, stay together and remain loyal and faithful is just that, a choice.

Being married or attached means nothing to some people. However those men that would blatantly step to me knowing I am married and unavailable are not so much of a temptation. Temptation for me tried to rear its ugly head in a situation where a guy was merely a co-worker that I talked to everyday. It’s those situations that you have to stay mindful of. Don’t get too close or friendly.

However it truly does amaze me at how folks will throw themselves at you knowing you are in a relationship. Some people just don’t care. I am not about to fight off a woman that my husband himself is not fighting off. She can have him. But if a trick is trying to throw her stuff all up on his richard and he is rejecting her advances, I will cut that heifer.

Sexy~Cool

September 8th, 2009
9:53 am

Three Words Daily – Handle ya’ business.

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
10:06 am

Good Morning All,
I am only tempted when I am not being tended to..

Reality

September 8th, 2009
10:11 am

Why are married people on a dating blog? Opps! I forgot temptation and they lookin for it.

Raqi

September 8th, 2009
10:16 am

And I rattled whose chains last week. LOL

So predictable. Children.

Grace

September 8th, 2009
10:25 am

What happens when you are approached by someone when you already exclusively dating someone else? I fall back on these words – The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Leggs

September 8th, 2009
10:28 am

Good morning! Truer words have never been spoken (10:06).

What happens when you are approached by someone when you already exclusively dating someone else? If you’re truly approachable and carry on a conversation exclusively around the two of you and the possibilities, then you’re not “exclusively” dating. If that was in deed th truth, you wouldn’t be having that conversation, not even teasingly. If you’re truly committed to the person you’re with, then only that person will get your attention.

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THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
10:29 am

Heck I just give in.. Ize aint gots nobody.. ;-)

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
10:32 am

Im like Too $hort.. I dont fight the feeling.

Grace

September 8th, 2009
10:35 am

Even though he may look appealing, tickle my ear with words and it can be tempting esp when things are on the frits, or even if it’s just the extra attention is tempting enough to start my mind to wonder, but I have to keep it in prespective and see it for what it is, if he’s aware that I’m not available and still insists on pursuing it shows a lack of integrity and respect on his part.

Dream_n

September 8th, 2009
10:40 am

Good Morning All,

Hope everyone enjoyed their extended weekend :)

SOmetime it seems like women/men wait until you get in relationship to become attracted to you…. If you’re in a committed relationship and genuinely care for the other person I don’t think temptation should effect you as much (i know we’re human. When I’m in a committed relationship, happy ,and want things to work.. nothing can tempt me. I may think a guy is good looking, but that’s about it…..

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
10:42 am

Being tempted & giving into temptatin are two totally different things… I was tempted in my last relatinship & ALMOST gave into temptation, had second thoughts & went home. Even though my relationship wasn’t the best, I would have lost all of the respect I had for myself had I given in.

Dream_n

September 8th, 2009
10:44 am

@ Grace

I agree whole heartedly with your post.

I makes you wonder about his perspective on “relationships”. Does he value being committed or not? It makes you wonder..

Sexy~Cool

September 8th, 2009
10:45 am

Lead me not into temptation.

It’s not just in Atlanta that there is temptation. There are beautiful, interesting people everywhere.

About temptation this I know, when I am in a relationship, the better things are going, the less I can be tempted.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
10:45 am

http://iniquitous1.blogspot.com/ Indigo Trail of my thoughts..

Hey ya’ll do me a favor and check out a dear friend of mine and her blog. She passed recently but her writing was beautiful.. Her last post was right before she lost all strength to write anymore. She died a few weeks later..

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
10:50 am

Thats what temptation is.. Temptation is when you have that relationship smell on you and everyone finds you attractive, because youre content and happy. Temptation can also tell when your vulnerable and seeks you out that way. Its only a hinderance because froma dudes prospective.. (Disclaimer – I dont mess with married women or dudes girlfriends). If you cheat with me while youre married. I cant respect you. If you cheat with me while you have a boyfriend.. I cant respect you..

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
10:52 am

DK- If you cheat with me while youre married. I cant respect you. If you cheat with me while you have a boyfriend.. I cant respect you..<– I agree!

I will check out your friend’s site shortly.. My condolences!

Sexy~Cool

September 8th, 2009
10:53 am

I will also add that when I am in a committed relationship, I do not allow myself to be tempted past fairly harmless flirtations.

Leggs

September 8th, 2009
10:55 am

@DK ~ My condolescenes on the lost of a dear friend of yours. Nice read. Like her writing style. Would love to read more.

MR. Unknown

September 8th, 2009
10:56 am

If I approach you and I know,,,, Sorry, If someone approaches you and they know that your taken.. Trust me they ain’t trying to get to know everything about you,, just enough to get what they want. Thats what the “Good listener” you have at home is for.. What is a “situationship” Wise D??… How many times have I asked a woman that is in a current relationship, whats her status single or taken.. The response is usally “well ummm its complicated” meaning stick around, I may have an opening soon.. To me thats just inviting trouble.. Oh good morning,,

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
10:59 am

Yeah that its complicated ish is a mess.. It means he’s in the relationship but youre not.. Ladies thats a good way to get your head busted to the white meat. Im not saying its right but I understand..

Ms. Main

September 8th, 2009
10:59 am

Temptation don’t always come aknocking at those that are already attached. Plenty of dudes go aseeking that are married. Relentless at that.

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
10:59 am

Unknown- How many times have I asked a woman that is in a current relationship, whats her status single or taken.. The response is usally “well ummm its complicated” <–that is a situationship

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:01 am

DK-It means he’s in the relationship but youre not<– Not necessarily.. Could be the other way around..

Married men or women on the prowl disgust me!!

Dream_n

September 8th, 2009
11:04 am

I have to respectfully disagree with the “it’s complicated” response… Sometimes it is just that…… “complicated”…

I’m not saying it s right or wrong.. but some women stay in relationships for numerous factors without being in love or happy with the person, and vice versa…. I’ve heard a lot of people stay because they dont believe in divorce, stay for the children, stay for finacial stability, or for other reasons… I’m not saying its right or wrong I’m just saying….

Sexy~Cool

September 8th, 2009
11:04 am

Um. Yeah. I don’t do “complicated.”

East Point's Own

September 8th, 2009
11:05 am

If you are tempetd (beyond a passing curiosity)to find out if the person is a better match for you then you need to end your relationship… and see what happens. There is no need to deprive yourself of a better future, but at the same time you must be grown enough to accept the fact that you might be making a mistake and ther is likely no turning back.
http://hispointofview.com

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
11:05 am

PSA – The Safe Auto Ad is a lie. If you drive something other than a Kia or Tercel they are outrageously high. I called around to get a quote to change my car insurance cause Allstate has been the worst since I moved.. And Safe Auto told me my Ins would be 524 a month. I promptly hung up and changed everything to State Farm..

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 8th, 2009
11:06 am

Complicated is another one of those hlf truths..

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:08 am

Dream- Never understood ppl who make those EXCUSES & actually think that is a valid reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship..

Chink

September 8th, 2009
11:08 am

I can’t be temtpted …I just don’t have a cheating bone in my body. I just leave when the feeling is gone.

Yeah that complicated status just doesnt make sense to me …either yall together or not.

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:09 am

DK- I LOVE Geico

East Point's Own

September 8th, 2009
11:09 am

Well on the flip side of this topic is the response I have gotten from several women when asked if they are single… ” I am single until I am married” This to me seems to be the response that women in a relationship have when they are still dating and shopping for a better offer. I wonder if the women who say things like that think they will attract a quality man by making such statements????

Chink

September 8th, 2009
11:11 am

I wonder if the women who say things like that think they will attract a quality man by making such statements????

I agree …

Sexy~Cool

September 8th, 2009
11:11 am

WISE – I have a situation. Get at me.

Dan

September 8th, 2009
11:15 am

@EPO

That (11:09) is a frightening statement on many levels.

i'm swiss (back from honeymoon, tanned & happily married)

September 8th, 2009
11:16 am

Greetings everyone… And thanks for the pre-nuptial well wishes. :-)

On topic: I’ve always been pretty good at resisting temptation, though in some past relationships it was hard — and I do mean hard — to do. Since I’ve been w/ Swiss Miss, however, I can honestly say I haven’t been really tempted at all. I haven’t run across anyone who even comes close to flipping my on switch the way she does. And just in case I forget, I have some nice pics of her sweet little booty in her sexy little lingerie on my phone to remind me of what I’ve already got waiting for me at home… :-D

Although, having said that, there were some hoochies who tried to get my attention even on the honeymoon. Swiss Miss & I were lounging by the swim-up bar, and there were these 2 Russian chics there, clearly looking for anything with a wang — both in thongs, tramp stamps, giggling, bouncing around, the whole bit. Swiss Miss stepped away to used the restroom, and as soon as she was out of sight, the iron curtain lifted & the ho’s swooped in — asking if I could rub some sunscreen on their backs. I politely declined & moved my married behind to the other end of the pool… :lol:

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:17 am

EPO- I am single until I am married<– That is the BS that men AND women are kicking now-a-days.. Sounds lame as heck to ME!

MR. Unknown

September 8th, 2009
11:17 am

Lioness- thanks for the explanation on situationship..

Nicolej

September 8th, 2009
11:18 am

I have actually heard that 11:09 post from a man. He actually thought I was supposed to be ok with it. LOL

Sexy~Cool - You got the RIGHT one now.

September 8th, 2009
11:19 am

Leggs

September 8th, 2009
11:21 am

Welcome back Mr. Swiss! Glad you had a fabulous wedding and honeymoon. You got your head on right.

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:21 am

Nicole- Sad thing about it is there are a TON of women who are ok with that statement.. :neutral:

Dream_n

September 8th, 2009
11:23 am

It’s easy for people to say what they will or will not stand for when they are not in the situation… Your trails may not be someone else’s trail… you may be an alcoholic, while someone else may have another hurdle they need to cross. While you may not understand or would “never” put yourself in that situation you may be dealing with somethimg else that someone else would say is not hard too get out of or deal with. I try to understand and look at everyone’s situation….

I never really understood why my mom stayed in an abusive relationship for so many years…. She didnt know how to get out at that time. She had 3 young children in a different state without any family… Am I saying it was a great decision to stay… I don’t know. She’s still with him.. (no longer abusive) and my sis and my bro and myself turned out pretty well.

Nicolej

September 8th, 2009
11:24 am

Exactly because he must have used it before and it worked.

East Point's Own

September 8th, 2009
11:25 am

The even more frightening part about my 11:09 statement is that it was justified by saying that they heard it from a T.D. Jakes Sermon. I did not hear this sermon, but I am 99.5% sure that’s not the context in which the statement was made.

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:27 am

Dream- To each its own.. I could ONLY speak of what I wouldn’t do & what I don’t understand..

Lioness

September 8th, 2009
11:29 am

EPO- You should have asked her to explain what she meant by that cause it doesn’t make any sense TO ME.. :lol: