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Bad Habits

All of us has quirky little things about us that are part of who we are. For the most part, they are pretty harmless and aren’t such a big deal. However, I believe some of us have some bad habits that may actually run potential partners away. How honest are we about them, though?

I’m quick to say that I love me and if another person can’t recognize all my wonderful goodness (flaws and all) then forget about them! Every now and then, though I have had to stop and think to myself. Is this yet another reason why I’m still single?

What are you bad habits that need to be dropped? I had one that I had no choice but to drop: dating men who had no clue how to be supportive or meet my needs emotionally. They were my bad habit! They were great on paper, ambitious and driven, yada yada. When it came to checking on me and caring about what I thought or felt, I was invisibile. That’s not a good feeling: Being in a couple and feeling alone.

Do you have a bad habit you are drawn to? Maybe there is something about your behavior that is turning people off? Do you have a bad habit of talking down about love and romance? Are you constantly negative about the opposite sex and have a bad habit of complaining about them to everyone you meet?

If we were to take a real honest assessment of some of our bad habits, what do you think we could find to improve? How can we drop them like a…well bad habit!

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Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
1:30 pm

I correct peoples grammar…. “We finna go to the store”.. Finna wtf… or Yea… My family hates that lol… ” Man that show is ghetto” huh last time I talked with Webster Ghetto was a noun not an adjective lol… “Is this y I have so little friends” “shrugs”

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:30 pm

Lioness my therapist orderred me to stay away from creeper keepers LOL

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:30 pm

I flip channels & look at the t.v.’s guide a lot

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
1:31 pm

speaking of facebook/twitter/myspace…

ever since i opened my prof on facebk and put some pics on, i dont know what else is there to do other than log on and read sme of the childish crap….

i was on some atlanta celeb’s twitter page this morning. and :???: cmeon,sme of these things are so so so juvenile………

just cldnt help shaking mdh when i read sme of the person’s entires…..

my 15 yr old wld really luv that suff..

FADS?? juvenile shyyt, i tell ya…

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:31 pm

Grace- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dream- Yousa nosey person? :neutral:

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:32 pm

Dream_n I heard “finna” the first day I arrived in Atlanta, even the babies were saying “finna” lol

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
1:33 pm

” Ihave a habit (don’t know if its bad or not”, but if I go into someones washroom. I look in their medicine cabinet.” I have actually read that this is very common. I am curious since I do not, what is one looking for? I did notice a medicne bottle prescription for whatever that drug is for herpes once…turned out, after I got the wrong impression, that it is also prescibed for simple cold sores in the winter. I thought the lady had been “stepping out” with someone who had it. You know what they say about the word “assume”. That was me.

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
1:33 pm

I really dont understand twitter

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
1:34 pm

LOL Randy. Your idea sounds pretty good.

My son will be with his father this weekend until Tuesday and Mason’s good-mother asked to keep the baby for the weekend to give us a break to spend some quality time together.

Heck I just may try your “stay in bed” bad habit. Maybe I can get Mason to go fishing or something with his brother and I can spend this 3 day weekend laying around the house in my panties and maybe a tank eating nothing Honey Nut Cheerios and ice cream.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
1:36 pm

Dayum Raqi…another visual. You know how to get a guy to thinking gal.

M' (Casper)

September 3rd, 2009
1:36 pm

Hey peeps…jes checkin’ in…been busy relocating to the house manager position and doing my volunteer project…but me be cool…will be back in force next week…and I will be looking for my upcoming b-day kudos on 9/15…mark you calendar…hehehe.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
1:37 pm

I got a bad habit of calling out stuff.. I saw these two dudes kissing in the restaurant at lunch and I said out loud look at this BullSh– here.. And they looked at me and I just shook my head like Negro Please…

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
1:40 pm

@DK- I speak louder than I should at times…then again I really dont care if folks hear me

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:40 pm

I can see doing facebook/myspace but twitter is just nonsense

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
1:41 pm

Raqi – “I am an emotional shopper”…me too, oh lawd me too!

East Point's Own

September 3rd, 2009
1:41 pm

“WASH YOUR MEAT w/ VINEGAR!!!” So…… what is the vinegar supposed to to that the 200+ degrees of heat won’t do? I do rinse meat off with running water, but last I checked Vinegar is a very weak acid, which can be used to cut grease as a cleaning agent… but ummm I think the heat will kill anything faster than the Vinegar…

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:41 pm

LOL DK yucky yuck but :lol:

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
1:42 pm

LOL Randy I didn’t mean to do that. I’m glad I didn’t mention that one of my at home alone habits is to cover my entire body in baby oil immediately out of the shower and let it thoroughly saturate and moisturize my skin.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
1:42 pm

@ THE INFAMOUS DK : lmao.. i almost spit out my doughnut.. you can’t say that lol!!!

@ Lioness : lol not nosey….. well (maybe a lil bit)

@Grace: Mu cousins, aunts, and uncles say that.. ugh!!! it irritaes me so much!

@ Randyt I’m not looking for anything in particular.. just kinda curious…

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
1:42 pm

but if I go into someones washroom. I look in their medicine cabinet.

who said this???

jus as well :lol: i keep my viagra handy,not in the bathrm but on my side of the bed, on my nite stand! :lol: :lol:

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:43 pm

Melo- I AGREE!! IMO, Facebook, Myspace etc are for ppl that are bored.. No offense to ppl who get wiht it but I know I can’t

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
1:43 pm

@DK re: “I just shook my head like Negro Please” This morning as I was getting dressed, I noticed that one of my all time favorite movies was on Showtime or HBO….”In the Heat of the Night” with Sidney Poitier and Rod Steiger. I was hearing the word “Negro” and realizing that it has been decases since I have heard that term just in general conversation. I was late coming in becasue that movie just sucks you right in. I plan to tell my daughter to check it out from Netflix…absolutely one of the best movies on all levels, ie. acting, plot, subplot…ever.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:43 pm

EPO when I wash my chicken in vinegar somehow it cooks/fry/tastes better…something I learned from Granny…also I soak my pork in it too.

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:46 pm

DK- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: You wld be a BALL to hang out with!!! I LOVE it!

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:46 pm

I did the trial FB, took it down after a few weeks, although it was benefical in keepin up with family memebers…..some of the entries was down right disgusting, profanity laced and lewd behavior was untolerable. I’d rather call and chat, much more personal.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
1:47 pm

Okay Raqi, now I think you are playing me a little ;-) You know I really like soft skin. If a lady reminds me of a rodeo hand or something, she gets drop kicked quickly. I like SOFT. Love soft skin, pretty feet, beautiful smile… (RT slaps self to come out of the temporary trance).

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:47 pm

EPO- Cool! I clean my meat with vinegar & water.. If I could wash ground beef I would :)

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
1:48 pm

one of my bad habits is to tune out a woman quickly….,VISUALLY……

thing is, i hate seeing a phine, nicely rounded,tallish nicely dressed lady in a smoking dress or jeans/pants,sister is just looking, ohhhhhh,so so so fly and all BUT..

she messes it up by having this visible, Wicked tattoo on a not-so-good spot!

SHYYTTT…where is ur sense woman…

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:49 pm

I have a habit of popping my chewing gum when I chew. I like that pop pop sound…remind me of my bb gun shooting days.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
1:49 pm

@ Melo …. I’m not looking for anything.. its juss funny to see what people have in there lol..creams.. teeth whitner… etc

@ Lioness I have to disagree… I found a lot of old friends from wehn i lived in mileaukee and from highschool… If they live in different states it really nice to keep in touch and be able to c pics of them or possibly children if they had any…..

Now tweeter: I don’t know what that’s for..

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
1:49 pm

@Page, sweating out my eyebrows is the furthest thing from my mind when I’m trying to get the both of us to ride the “O” waves.

@Raqi, laughing at all of your habits @12:13, but especially poking a hole in the plastic.

@Lioness, I too am obsesses with washing the meat. A co-worker invited me and lil leggs over for dinner. Got there early so our children could play together. Sat with her in the kitchen while she prepared dinner. Took the chicken directly from the packet and placed in cooking pan to be seasoned. I couldn’t let her do that and informed her to wash her meat going forward…just nasty!

@Tazzee, I don’t know how to leisurely stroll. I have to practice.

@Infamous, if I was at a table within hearing distance when you said that (1:37), I would have fallen out of my chair.

When I get emotional, I get quiet!

Angie

September 3rd, 2009
1:49 pm

the bad habit i wish i can break is the “crazy within me”. i can have a man question why he wit me and love me at the same time. lol.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
1:50 pm

I mean I dont even like to see a dude and a chick makin out like that.. I always say get a room.. All that excessive PDA is a bit much.. It aint no reason Im gonna be tongue kissing no babe out in public.. A smoove peck ok but full on tongue-n playing tonsil hockey… No dice.. And to see two grown A$$ men doing it was way toooo much..

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:51 pm

5^ Angie….it’s just the crazy in me!

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:51 pm

Grace- I don’t have those types of friends on my page BUT I am not with sharing photos of myself.. Maybe because I was stalked before & I KNOW the internet isn’t safe for all of that but to each its own.. I’d rather a phonecall too! Even text messages are impersonal to me UNLESS it is short msg..

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
1:54 pm

Raqi – the world’s best skin secret! Baby oil after a shower! I do that as well

Infamous – co-signing on the PDA, keep it simple. I saw two dudes kissing on a MARTA train years ago and dayum near threw up. UGH

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:54 pm

Lioness they were cousins acting that way…I allowed only 2 friends on my page. I discovered that even though I deactivated my fb account all I had to do was log on and it was activated again. Is there any way to compeltely deactivate that account? anybody know about this?

Angie

September 3rd, 2009
1:55 pm

@Grace
hey chick! he said the other day *i don’t get you! i thought i had you all figured out.*

but this morning he said *waiting to see u and touch u has been like waiting for winter*.

lol.

he confused. poo baby.

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:56 pm

Melo- I agree! Tattoos on a womans arms are hideous!! Funqueesha tatted on the arm.. Whomp Whomp

Dream- I have NEVER been a picture person.. EVER! Why not just email the pics to me instead posting them for the world to see/find.

Leggs- HA! Did you eat the meal?

DK- I agree! I don’t like to kiss(tongue) in public either..

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
1:56 pm

Dream_n , i agree,the old school mates thing is kinda cool just to find them and have email adds etc….
BUT the fascination with other pples pics/profile etc and being hooked on it eve day…i dont get it…

i got over facebook after a week or 2…..be4 that,it was a lil of a novelty thing i guess…

this social media thing,unless u use that for proff reasons,like linkedIn,for me,its just highs chool/college stuff i wld have luved to do…not now…..

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
1:57 pm

Speaking of moisturizing,

One day a couple of ladies here all went out to lunch together and the topic of beauty regimens came up and I was surprised to hear how many women just don’t have one. One of the ladies was fairly young and raised by her father so she no woman in her upbringing to teach her about moisturizing and all that so some of us gave her some tips and suggestions on how to take care of her skin and complexion. But some of these older women 30+ are on a lotion only when and where as needed bases. Meaning only those areas that show when going out in public. Their skin must feel like sandpaper.

My grandmother was really big on moisturizing and keeping a nice clear complexion. She used baking soda to clean her face. You talk about a beautiful complexion? She had it.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
1:59 pm

@ DK re: “I dont even like to see a dude and a chick makin out like that.. I always say get a room” …Were you at Stone Mtn. two summers ago? I may resemble one of the guilty parties, and someone suggested that to me, lol. Sorry.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
1:59 pm

Angie that’s good keep being unpredictable….most of em like that.

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
1:59 pm

Grace- Girl I have NO idea.. Everytime I log on, somebody is on there talkig about they can’t sleep or they are going to sleep now etc.. I am like this CAN’T be what this thing is for.. Me, I play video games on Facebook.. That’s all! I may comment on someones poetry thingy but that is IT!!!

QC - I'm so ready 4 the weekend!

September 3rd, 2009
2:00 pm

Hope you all are having a good day; have a great/safe weekend :)

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
2:00 pm

Raqi – My Grandmother uses Vasaline on her skin everyday and her she has some of the prettiest skin you wanna see.. Very little wrinkles for 86 years old..

kimmie-livin my life like it's golden!

September 3rd, 2009
2:02 pm

Raqi – A play aunt of mine told me about using baking soda on the face, it’s an excellent exfolliant. And if you have spots, wiping over your face with peroxide after washing it with baking soda will help.

Grown and SexyCool

September 3rd, 2009
2:02 pm

Raqi – I wished more men had some sort of total body care regimen. Head to toe.

THE INFAMOUS DK

September 3rd, 2009
2:02 pm

Randy AKA Big T Randy.. Look at you out there in the park actin all Randy.. Dang!

Lioness- Tick Tock Tick Tock

September 3rd, 2009
2:03 pm

Melo- I agree!! If I was in my late teens, early twenties, I probably wuld be more receptive t it but NOW??? LMAO!!

I am a VERY private person & it is funny, all of the ppl I kick it with are not into none of those sites.. Except for linkedin or plaxico.

Raqi- My skin is soft as butter and I have been using Palmers cocoa butter since I was a baby :)