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Bad Habits

All of us has quirky little things about us that are part of who we are. For the most part, they are pretty harmless and aren’t such a big deal. However, I believe some of us have some bad habits that may actually run potential partners away. How honest are we about them, though?

I’m quick to say that I love me and if another person can’t recognize all my wonderful goodness (flaws and all) then forget about them! Every now and then, though I have had to stop and think to myself. Is this yet another reason why I’m still single?

What are you bad habits that need to be dropped? I had one that I had no choice but to drop: dating men who had no clue how to be supportive or meet my needs emotionally. They were my bad habit! They were great on paper, ambitious and driven, yada yada. When it came to checking on me and caring about what I thought or felt, I was invisibile. That’s not a good feeling: Being in a couple and feeling alone.

Do you have a bad habit you are drawn to? Maybe there is something about your behavior that is turning people off? Do you have a bad habit of talking down about love and romance? Are you constantly negative about the opposite sex and have a bad habit of complaining about them to everyone you meet?

If we were to take a real honest assessment of some of our bad habits, what do you think we could find to improve? How can we drop them like a…well bad habit!

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Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:47 am

LOL Melo I guess it’s just something we like to do. The other thing I like to wear is his t-shirts but that’s only to bed. Or one of his dress shirts when he is away and I am really missing him. I will put on his shirt and snuggle with his pillow.

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
11:47 am

@Page, I don’t sweat like that. What’s a girl to do, I wasn’t born with any hair there.

@Infamous, I have to admit, I’ve received a voicemail similar to that in the past from her.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:48 am

Mo- you know W8 always talks crazy! lmao

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:49 am

LOL Leggs! Bwhahhaaaaaaaaaaa omg yeah see you know first hand about my voice mails. I’m working on trying to cut them down. OK!

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:50 am

the worst thing is calling a phone and their message is a song.. not just a snippett but the whole song.. WTF

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
11:51 am

@Rell_- I used to have a real bad porn habit and would masterbate about 3 to 4 times a week….welll I got rid of the porn habit ( I have never watched a porn movie in full though)…lmao…but I really been doing a self check and in my own thoughts as of late..and was like dang I used to be happy..what has changed with me…and that prompted my list…

@Melo- It is what it is…lol

@Kimmie- Gear is in full effect..you know I have the Blazers, Polo- Shirts..classy watches etc…all with the University of Georgia logo on it

@Grace- Hello :)

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:51 am

Page I’m right here with you when it comes to work related VM’s buuuuut when it comes to personal, a simple – call me when you get this msg – will be suffice.

oh an another thing the looonnnggg winded greetings….lol

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:51 am

lol Dream_n yeah i don’t like that at all. that will cause me to not leave a message! lol

mytw♥cents...NY State of Mind

September 3rd, 2009
11:51 am

MR. MELO The Matchmaker? Kinda catchy. I think you’re actually a good judge of character and would be prosperous with that gig. Cuz you may hear what you wanna hear sometimes, but you also know how to listen to what ain’t being said. One Mandingo Warrior King, please! P.S. the saying what seems like common sense and not knowing why they’re lookin atcha crazy and sitting like a lady… that’s why u luv me!

DEEVA Your 10:30 re BS & dismissiveness- was it typed with my hands?

PAGE Those sandals were supercute. I wonder if East Coast chicks are more into boots/sexy heels & West Coast chicks into flip flop variations. Or are most chicks just shoeaholics… :razz:

LIONESSSSSSSSSS whatchu up to over there, mama?

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:51 am

or talking sex over a song on your voicemail.. or leaving quotes an stuff.. lol… my aunts and ucles do this… its quite hilarious

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:52 am

When it comes to voicemails I don’t mind leaving or answering them. But the one thing that I truly truly hate is when the marido continues to call but will not leave a message. He will let the phone ring until it goes to voicemail and then hang up and call back again. He will do this like 5 times in a row trying to get in touch with me. I will look at my phone and there will be 5 voice mails waiting. And they all will be empty. I’ve learned to view my missed called before bothering to check my voicemails. If the missed calls are Mason 3:23, Mason 3:23, Mason 3:23, Mason 3:34, Mason 3:25, I know the voicemail alerts are all him calling.

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
11:52 am

Page1908 – you are funny! I delete msgs before I hear the phone number or name! I cant do it! I’ll just see what call I missed and hit you back! And LMAO at “drawed on eye brows leggs! i would be scared that they might get sweated off in the club or something. lmao”

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:52 am

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
11:53 am

Hello All,

In the years I was married, my ex (to the best of my knowledge) never once said “I’m sorry”. She would say “I’m sorry, but…” and proceed to tell me why it was really my fault she did the bad. I am getting that same impression here a little. I expected something more like Leggs said in her list.

Where are things like:

I scratch my ballz in public sometimes
I don’t always floss.
I say I have a headache when I really just want an easy out.
I leave my toenail clippings on the floor.
I put the toilet roll on backwards and don’t put the seat down.

What I am saying is that this should illustrate teh things that WE fugg up, not what we perceive the other person CAUSES us to do.

After every single relationship I’ve ended or was kicked to the curb, I did not waste my time trying to figure out what was wrong with the other person…I analyzed what I could have done different.

One thing I did not do was try to understand why I chose so and so. Poor choices are poor choices, not bad habits. Instead, I tried to determine what I was projecting that either brought the types I was not looking for, or what I screwed up with the ones that were what I was looking for. My $.02.

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
11:53 am

@Mo- Never that…I might type something that is misunderstood by the masses…lol

@Page- Be quiet…lol

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:53 am

LOL Grace! I am trying to do better.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:55 am

*GROSS* toenail clipping on the floor, Randy! omg.

W8- LOL good morning sunshine! glad you could join us! *besitos*

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
11:56 am

Sometimes I let my Vmail box fill up so that people cant leave me voicemails..and I just let it ride until the vmails start to fall off themselves

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
11:57 am

now Page, I didn’t say I did that, I offered that as an example (okay might have left them to vacuum the next day a few times if not expecting company, lol).

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:57 am

I leave my toenail clippings on the floor.
I put the toilet roll on backwards and don’t put the seat down.

Come on now… by the age of 18… We should all know that those things are a big NO NO NO… (unless you live alone i guess)

M. (pronounced M dot)

September 3rd, 2009
11:58 am

Oh yeah and I am really bad at communicating if I am mad. I would rather you just not talk….so I can gather my thoughts. Some people like to address things right there, I would rather let things calm down before I say something wrong…

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
11:58 am

@ Randyt

just saw your post… nevermind

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
11:59 am

Dream_n I think it’s a man thang. Men are just big boys.

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
11:59 am

I say I have a headache when I really just want an easy out – Randy I thought that was reserved for ladies only :)

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
11:59 am

MyTwo- Thanks, mija! I got a lot of compliments on my Chinese Sandals. I love them forever!

Mo- LOL. girl, i would be scared that i would sweat off my eyebrows like working out or something. plus, Leggs, what about when doing the horizontal mambo? what if ole dude wiped them off on accident?! omg.

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
12:00 pm

@RandyT, I’m with you. Come on ladies, put your real bad habits out there. Hell, if I put 2 crazy ones of mine out there you can too…give it a twirl! :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
12:00 pm

THOSE WERE EXAMPLES, NOT WHAT I DO. I abstained from putting my bad habits out there, LOL.

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
12:01 pm

W8- LOL, those messages may be important messages from me! *mean muggin*

Randy- oh ok. lol

Leggs

September 3rd, 2009
12:04 pm

“plus, Leggs, what about when doing the horizontal mambo? what if ole dude wiped them off on accident?! omg.”

I have nothing to worry about there (unfortunately). And to quell your curiousity, when I was married, it was a given that they would come off and we kept it moving….

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

September 3rd, 2009
12:05 pm

Okay, maybe a few times but not a habit. Hellz, I get lazy sometimes.

Dream_n

September 3rd, 2009
12:07 pm

@ M.

I don’t think that’s a bad thing. i think I need to adopt that… Calm down before talking… *noted*

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
12:07 pm

W8 – LOL! You know my comment to that! Just like a (fill in the blank) … :smile:

Page1908 – STOP IT!! LOL! And I am calling my new niece ‘mija’ its so cute!!

Randyt – eeewww on the toenails clippins!!

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
12:09 pm

Leggs- ok so if they do get sweated off in the act, then it’s no biggie? ok cool. the last thing i wanna worry about while getting my swerve on is my eyebrows! lol

Tazzee - RIP iPhone

September 3rd, 2009
12:11 pm

Morning folks!

My bad habits:

– cracking my knuckles
– facial expressions
– correcting grammar
– eating off of others’ plates
– clicking or tapping my ink pen when I’m in deep thought

That’s all I can think of for now. As far as my ‘flaws’ that can negatively affect dating – that would be my impatience and selfishness.

If I leave someone a message and they call back without listening to it – I’ll tell them to listen to the message and call me back if I’m in a mood. Also if I’m in that mood – I don’t call folks back that don’t leave messages. I’m in ‘that’ mood about 50% of the time.

Oh another bad habit – starting something and not finishing (I started this post about an hour ago when it was still morning…)

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
12:12 pm

Dream_n- LOL guess what? I am hyper and and loud talker. Once, Magnum and W8 got irritated because i was talking way loud to one of my friends who was sitting like 4 feet away from me. LOL. I didn’t realize I talk loud!

Mo- You can borrow mija and mijo. I always say that.

Deeva4Life

September 3rd, 2009
12:13 pm

MyTwo…maybe not your hands but you know the saying goes “Great Minds Think Alike” ;) LOL

Mrs. Mason...He put a ring on it.

September 3rd, 2009
12:13 pm

Bad Habits???

I eat out of the Ice Cream box. I used to hate when my husband would drink out of the juice bottles and there were other people in the house besides he and I, but then one day I realized that my bad habit was eating from the ice cream container and putting it back in the freezer.

I flip people the bird when they cut me off in traffic.

I’ll taste a grape or cherry before I buy a full bag at the grocers.

I’ll put something in the wrong place at the grocers instead of taking it back to the aisle I got it from.

If the chicken doesn’t look too fresh at the market I will poke a hole in the plastic so I can smell it.

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
12:13 pm

I’ll tell them to listen to the message and call me back if I’m in a mood.

now thats a biaatch azz mood Tazzee…..(i luv u tho,but wrk on it) :lol:

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
12:14 pm

@Page- you know how to reach me..always…and I think you just text me in Spanish

@Mo- I think I may change my Blog name to what you call me…or would that be to vain

@Tazzee- You forgot to add to your list.”Inviting W8 to my fantasy football league”

Page1908- Who Gon Check Me, Boo?

September 3rd, 2009
12:16 pm

Well, Raqi that is not that bad. I always double-dip my chips or anything that can be dipped. a lot of people don’t like that. LOL oh well. like i always double-dip my guacamole with chips.

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
12:16 pm

lol@flippin the bird…that always makes me laugh….does that really do any damage to the other person….when folks flip me the bird..I look at them and laugh…uh ohhhhhhhh you showed me your middle finger…lmao

Tazzee - RIP iPhone

September 3rd, 2009
12:16 pm

Leggs – I walk fast too.

Page – I leave long messages too, that’s why I tell folks to listen to the message. I don’t feel like saying all that twice, LOL

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
12:17 pm

I remember this guy captured my vm greetings and somehow placed it on his phone. Check this: I called his phone one evening, it went straight to vm, well to my surprise my own voice greeted me. I was looking like what the???? so I called again, and again my voice greeted me. I’m lookin ground like I was being punked so I called again, again my voice greets me. I finally was able to reach him asked how it the beep beep beep did he capture my voice for his greeting and what the beep beep beep was he thinking, he gave me some lame technical story of how he did it, and how he liked my greeting blah blah….I told him to erase my voice and never call me again creep.

Tazzee - RIP iPhone

September 3rd, 2009
12:18 pm

Melo – that’s not a biatch mood, honestly, that’s what vmail is for.

I really hate when I call someone late and tell them ‘don’t call me back, I’m going to sleep’ and they don’t listen to the msg and call back anyway…

well, I’ve learned to turn my ringer off at night – but why should I have to change the way I operate because people don’t listen?

Melo

September 3rd, 2009
12:20 pm

my bad habit was eating from the ice cream container and putting it back in the freezer.

im kinda strict on hygiene and as far as food goes…

my bad habit is to not eat ur stuff if u cooking and i observe u arent as clean to my expectations..

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
12:22 pm

ohh bad habit…I call people early in the morning cuz I usually get up early in the morning and i think everyone else is up also…lmao…i get cussed out alot when i do that…but I am glad folks love me enough to answer when i call

Mo (aka Moeisha - oh so tired)

September 3rd, 2009
12:23 pm

W8 – LOL! Nah homie you cant share that w err’body, then I would have to come up with something else!! But they know…..

Page1908 – Mija just sounds so cute so yes, Im borrowing til she’s old enough to say ‘Auntie Mo could you PUHLEEZE stop callin me that’. And I double dip too so I have no problem getting my own guac/salsa/dip

The Real Rell - angry a zz f today

September 3rd, 2009
12:24 pm

lol@cracking your knuckles…do you crack your toe knuckles as well…lol

Grace

September 3rd, 2009
12:25 pm

W8 I’ve always wanted a human alarm clock.

W8©

September 3rd, 2009
12:27 pm

@Grace I wake up at 0530 normally…lol